JustPearlyThings - Married Man EXPOSES The Corrupt Marriage System

00:00:00.000 I set a limit. I'm 21 years in a relationship right now. But back then, I set a standard

00:00:07.560 that if a woman couldn't show up with her purse and contribute financially, I wouldn't be 0.86

00:00:12.220 interested. And lo and behold, when I drew that line in the sand, I met somebody who felt the

00:00:17.880 same way. I think that's what men need to do is they need to figure out what they want, 0.67

00:00:22.600 what they want a woman to show up with in a relationship. If all she has is a wish list 0.98

00:00:29.980 from Tiffany's and an occasional blowjob, that's not showing up with much. And men need to start 1.00

00:00:37.820 asking themselves, what do I want from women? Do I want a woman with a body count of 40 when I meet 1.00

00:00:45.620 her? Do I want a woman who ran off two fathers or both of her baby daddies? Is this the kind of 0.99

00:00:52.900 relationship that I want? Yeah, head to the topless bar and pick out a girl. 1.00

00:00:59.980 But the problem here is men's standards. They're they literally have very few other than will 0.90

00:01:08.060 she accept me and have sex with me? What do you what do you say to men that want more of a 1.00

00:01:14.040 traditional relationship? Do you think that's possible in 2023? I think it's foolish in 2023.

00:01:22.240 By traditional, you're saying a woman, you get married legally, and the woman stays at home and 1.00

00:01:29.960 raises kids and takes care of a home. If you can be the one in 100 guy or one in 1000 guy,

00:01:36.260 whatever it is that actually can make that happen and doesn't end up cleaned out seven, eight, nine

00:01:42.960 years down the road for your efforts, then fine. But marriage is no longer a safe institution for men

00:01:50.620 to inhabit. It just isn't legal marriage is a contract with the state. And the contract says

00:01:58.060 that she is temporary, eventually she will leave, but the state will remain and embedded in your behind

00:02:06.360 for quite some time after the marriage is over. Yeah, you can you can try it. But I challenge people

00:02:16.300 to tell me, is it is it a good investment? With today's women, you consider the the pool of women, 0.91

00:02:23.580 you consider the attitudes about marriage, you consider the corruption of family courts,

00:02:27.600 and the devastating consequences of things like parental alienation. Is it worth the risk? I'd argue

00:02:35.140 it's like going into a casino with your paycheck and hitting slot machines, you might get lucky.

00:02:40.500 Chances are you're going to leave broke. And so for men who want to pursue traditional relationships,

00:02:49.440 I just say do the math. So what about can you do it without the state? Because there's just a big like

00:02:57.700 debate right now going on between more of like the red pillars and the traditional conservatives.

00:03:02.360 And I guess they argue their argument is you're by walking away from marriage or like complaining

00:03:12.060 about women. It's like you're just part of the problem where like they're like, oh, why aren't 1.00

00:03:16.380 you giving us solutions? You know what I mean? I don't know. I'm sure you've heard that rhetoric

00:03:19.840 before. Yes, I did. Identifying the problem is part of the problem. Yeah, that's what I said.

00:03:25.500 That's what it sounds like. I don't really have much to say to those guys. I mean, people have

00:03:35.700 been telling men to shut up about their problems for a millennia. The moment a man opens his mouth 0.64

00:03:41.440 and says, I'm hurting, I've been screwed over, whatever, the world generally turns on him or at

00:03:48.000 the very least rejects his pleas for assistance. I get my email box filled all the time with

00:03:55.120 desperate guys who are looking for help. The same guys that when you talked about pursuing

00:04:00.760 a traditional relationship, a lot of those guys end up in my email box saying they're taking

00:04:05.920 everything I own. I'm sleeping in my car. What do I do? And there's nothing to tell them.

00:04:13.060 Yeah, no, that was what I realized too. When I started working on a divorce documentary

00:04:17.780 and I started realizing that a lot of these guys picked women with no red flags, I would

00:04:24.840 say on paper. I mean, some did. Some picked very red flagged women, but some like it was 1.00

00:04:29.500 like no kids. She wasn't, she was still in her twenties. She was from a more like Eastern

00:04:34.600 European background. And yet she still left, took his shit, took the kids. And I'm like, 1.00

00:04:40.760 and I'll interview these guys. And I'm just thinking, if I was in their shoes, I would walk away.

00:04:46.640 Like, I understand why guys don't want to get married today.

00:04:50.080 Yep. And the thing is, you know, I take exception to the idea that men somehow end up in a minefield

00:05:00.800 getting blown up by a mine when they had no way of knowing where they were walking.

00:05:05.840 Crazy doesn't hide to anybody looking for it. Men's problem fundamentally with women is that they

00:05:14.400 reject the red flags. They're there. Those guys had reason to believe that that was going to go south

00:05:23.940 and rejected it. I don't, I just don't think that just deceptive and crazy hides from anybody who's

00:05:32.120 looking for it. So I'm, I, I hate to say it. I don't have a lot of sympathy for that story for those

00:05:38.360 guys. It's like, they have to own their lives and keep their eyes open about who they're with,

00:05:44.280 judging her behavior, testing her, evaluating how she handles the word no, and a lot of other things

00:05:51.020 in a relationship. Just because she's not a single mother and doesn't have tattoos doesn't mean she's 0.75

00:05:57.960 not going to divorce rape you. Men need to be conscious fully and investigate who they're with. 0.58

00:06:05.020 Yeah. So I guess I would hear from a lot of guys, like the women would switch completely after they 1.00

00:06:12.800 got married. Do you think that's not true? I think that yes, the, the, the more real aspects

00:06:19.300 of their personality do come out after marriage. And there's even a school of thought in psychology

00:06:24.680 about the familial that, that once you're married, your family of origin issues surface and things

00:06:30.840 change there, but fundamentally can a person handle frustration or a no in a relationship or a guy

00:06:38.600 not doing like you want them to do? Um, that stuff is, is present and observable at all points. Uh, it,

00:06:48.220 yes, people change somewhat after they get married, but if you are so blind to who a person is that

00:06:54.780 you're just waylaid the, uh, uh, about their irrational behavior, you haven't tested them.

00:07:02.960 And I suggest to men all the time that they throw nose at women in their lives early on and to watch

00:07:09.600 very carefully how they react. If they become any hint of vindictiveness, but of course you won't see

00:07:17.380 vindictiveness during the honeymoon period of a relationship, unless you go looking for it.

00:07:22.780 What, how would a guy test a girl for vindictiveness? Telling her no. Oh, and just seeing how she 0.99

00:07:30.220 responds. Yes. And I'm, I'm not suggesting that, you know, if her dog dies, you're, you're, you're,

00:07:36.120 you're not going to say no to giving her support at that time, but something as innocuous as,

00:07:41.620 you know, where you're going to eat or what movie you're going to see or where you're going to go and

00:07:45.400 do something, telling her no, and then watching very carefully for any of this, you know, fine.

00:07:52.780 Sort of like there's going to be retribution, uh, for me getting this. No, that is to me

00:08:00.580 is an 86 moment for any woman, any hint of vindictiveness. Do you know what I realized

00:08:07.500 when girls on the show would say, I did everything for him. I did so much for him. It actually says

00:08:15.160 more about the girl because she's keeping score. And usually like, we're so self-centered that we

00:08:22.860 don't notice all the things guys do for us. And so if she's keeping score of everything she's done,

00:08:29.200 like he probably did so much for her too. He just didn't keep score.

00:08:32.820 Right. Or what he did wasn't even noticed by her, which is also part of the equation. But

00:08:41.200 you know, every time I've heard somebody say I did everything for him, I immediately, that's a red 0.78

00:08:48.120 flag for me, not just because they're keeping score, but because I don't believe that she did

00:08:53.860 everything for him. I think she did some things that you're maybe supposed to do in a relationship. 0.91

00:08:59.320 And now she wants, you know, an Oscar, uh, or a Nobel prize or something like that.

00:09:08.100 I'm not buying it. I did everything for him. No, you didn't.

00:09:13.180 That's why you're trashing him right now.

JustPearlyThings - July 31, 2023

Married Man EXPOSES The Corrupt Marriage System

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