00:00:00.000I'm curious because you've lived like everywhere, right?
00:00:03.140What is your experience dating in different countries?
00:00:06.140So I lived in Poland and Ukraine, and I often talk on my channel that the women are just much more family oriented.
00:00:12.400It's almost like the U.S. like 50 years ago.
00:00:14.820So it's like they're more like feminine, elegant, kind of stronger moral system, looking for kind of family, stuff like that.
00:00:22.220On the flip side of the coin, they take longer to hook up with, which was annoying, right?
00:00:26.180Like in Ukraine, it would take like two to five dates to actually hook up with a girl.
00:00:29.440So I had situations where I'd be on a fourth date in public and they weren't ready to kiss yet, which I've never encountered anywhere else.
00:00:35.360But there's not a lot of this, you know, kind of me too stuff that's happening in the U.S. and happening in the U.K. and stuff like that.
00:00:43.140But again, these are very real problems that need to be addressed.
00:00:45.780But when they say that you can't speak about, you know, hooking up with a girl within earshot of another woman, or you can't brush up against someone, even if it was an accident or stuff like this,
00:00:55.340it starts to blur the line between, you know, guys just living their life versus potentially encountering trouble.
00:01:02.260And guys want to err on the side of caution in a lot of cases.
00:01:05.020And the things we've already discussed about how guys are already apprehensive, that adds to it.
00:01:09.620And they just figure, you know, I'm not going to even bother with that.
00:01:12.460I'm just going to watch corn, I guess, or stuff like this.
00:02:50.860And even though it doesn't happen to every guy, I'm like listening to these stories.
00:02:54.900I'm like, if I was a guy, I would be so.
00:02:57.460I've heard a lot of stories like that from clients where like, basically like, like women that cheat, for instance, if the husband finds out, like I've heard of a lot of situations where the guy gets screwed.
00:03:09.360Because the woman just says, you know, the guy that hooked up, the woman just says like it was non-consensual just so she can save the marriage.
00:03:15.420And there's no consequence on the woman.
00:03:16.960Again, I'm not saying like sexual assault doesn't happen and it's not a real problem.
00:03:20.960But it's like a nice little like roll of the dice in a bunch of cases where I know people specifically where, you know, it's like a real danger.
00:03:28.380Even in the U.S., like a guy, I had a client where he basically like had sex with a girl in Las Vegas in a hotel room.
00:03:35.880And she said, oh, I paid for the room, like stay the night.
00:03:39.120And she ran down and said, oh, you know, he, he graped me basically.
00:03:43.340And, you know, situations like that, or if they cheat and then the partner finds out, it's very easy to say it wasn't consensual so they can save the marriage.
00:03:51.140And they don't care what happens to the guy's life.
00:04:46.060Yeah, but then when we have laws like that, how can, because I'm just thinking if I was in their point of view, and you guys can tell me if you agree or disagree, but I would be really hesitant.
00:04:53.980And then also, we complain about men not wanting to get married, but if you look at the laws in here in the West, I won't get married.
00:05:04.200Why would I get married and like risk 50% of my income?
00:05:08.860Mainly, I make the most out of that income, and I don't think that's fair as well.
00:05:13.200There is, there is a privilege for women, and there is a man privilege as well.
00:05:27.900And what she did was she went to like a woman's shelter, and basically at the woman's shelter, they tell the girls like what to say about the guy based on his background.
00:05:40.340Yeah, and so for him, he was Muslim, and she basically said that everything she did the last 10 years, she didn't actually consent to doing because it was under his control.
00:05:50.500Like control, allegedly, even though she was fine with it while they were married.
00:06:10.320You know, I think the court and people and judges are kind of like looking for more evidence and then thinking, okay, maybe are there women are using these.
00:06:37.340Because I think there was a movement at one point where it was Believe All Women, which goes completely against the whole tenets of actual, you know, innocent unto proven guilty.
00:06:46.040It was just if a woman says it, then it's – and I get it where it's come from.
00:06:48.880Like you said earlier, I mean, you know, there's been a lot of historical wrongs against women, so there was a real natural need to, you know, redress that.
00:06:55.680But I think the pendulum has just swung so far to the other way where it's like everyone's suffering.
00:07:02.540Men are suffering, but now women are actually suffering because there are – like you say, a lot of your friends are single because men are terrified.
00:07:08.540And I get the cries from some quarters in society where people say it's a deliberate thing to actually completely dismantle relationships.
00:07:17.480Because that almost seems the only logical explanation.
00:07:20.060It's like there's almost like this real concerted effort to completely dismantle marriage.
00:07:24.360Because that's the only way you can explain it to a certain extent, isn't it?
00:07:27.680Because some of the laws are so crazy, so stupid.
00:07:31.400It's like that is not fostering proper relationships, proper marriage.
00:07:35.240And we can see the stats of, you know, especially boys from single-parent families.
00:07:38.640I mean, my God, from crime to health to life chances to every stat goes against them.
00:07:44.540So why are we as society pushing this real – almost like an agenda – to split people up?
00:07:49.500Have you ever thought about how it changes the dynamics of relationships?
00:07:52.920Because when you think about it, if you're – okay, if you're in a deal, right, with someone and one party gains everything by leaving and one party loses everything by leaving, the person that loses everything is always going to be trying to appease the one that gains everything.
00:08:05.620And so I feel like that's why we get phrases like she wears the pants in the relationship.
00:08:22.220Yeah, Pearl, just going back to what you said about, you know, like women that flee from men and will make up this story and stuff like that.
00:10:12.040And so, one – like, there's one guy who got one call, and it was – I forgot what exactly the words he said, but it was basically, like, get out of the house.
00:10:20.500And he still has to pay for the mortgage on the house, because it's in his name.
00:10:23.900And then he slapped with $1,500 in child support a month.
00:10:27.140And then he lost his job, because he was so – like, you know, I mean, he just lost his kids and everything he owned.
00:10:33.260I have one client that basically, he built the whole, you know, financial situation.
00:10:38.520The wife was staying home with the kids, and he came home one day early from work, and his wife was with another guy.
00:10:44.900And, you know, the guy was, like, running out the back door or whatever.
00:10:47.480But what's interesting is that she ended up getting the whole house, like, almost full custody of the kids, and, like, totally ruined his life.
00:10:54.200But he didn't do anything wrong, right?