Masculine Woman Claims That She Is The Table
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Summary
In this episode of What's On The Table, I sit down with my lovely wife and we talk about our relationship and what it means to be a wife and a mother. We talk about how we met and fell in love with each other and how we became a couple. We also talk about the importance of a good marriage and how important it is to have a good relationship with your partner.
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I think that if I don't say I'm above average, then who else is going to say it?
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If I don't back myself first, then I don't think I'll ever become above average.
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I think, you know, your mind is the most powerful thing and you kind of are what you think,
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kind of the same as you are what you eat type vibes.
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So if I don't think I'm above average and not what I bring to the table,
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And I might not be your table, but he might like the oak table with a wonky leg
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and, you know, and a crochet doily on top, right?
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And he over there might want a marble table, but I will be somebody's table.
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So I tend to have, you know, a lot in common with, you know, I usually find more so, like, men that I've been around or now my now partner has been through a lot.
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And I think as a female, I've gone through quite a lot, you know, not always some females have been through just because, you know, I've been around a lot of boys and where I was gay, I was always hanging out with boys.
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So now when I sit with my man now is that we've got quite a lot in common, which is great.
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Like, he's probably laughing at me right now, but I can cook.
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Like, this week, how many times have you cooked?
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I just, you know, and, you know, if you don't like that I'm not cooking enough for him, I'm sorry.
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But, like, that's kind of, like, the vibe that I like, I'm not coming with what I'm bringing to the table.
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It's that I am the table in whatever shape or form.
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And, you know, and the table might get a lick of paint and it might get new legs or something like that.
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You mentioned how, like, you know, the mind is powerful and what you think of yourself.
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But do you also feel like there's a point where you can also be realistic about where you are presently?
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I think I've learned to be very determined because I've lost five stone, which was a massive thing.
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So for a long time, I didn't think I brought anything to the table, let alone being the table, let alone thinking I was above average.
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I spent a lot of my youth thinking I was well below average, especially being a big...
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When I was overweight, struggling with being gay.
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Well, you are below average if you're overweight.
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I mean, I'm sure you can see the level of attention you get now from when you're overweight.
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Like, when I show people pictures of what I used to look like, they go, wow, that can't be you.
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And I think that's what makes me essentially do it.
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Because I personally, I think, like, being a wife is like applying for a job.
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If you want to be married, I know not everyone does.
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But it's like when you come to a job interview and you just say, well, I am the job.
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If you're in this job, like, what can you do for me?
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And if you don't like that, then there's the door.
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But that is essentially the bare minimum that I bring to the table is that I think I'm a kind soul.
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And I think that's the biggest thing that me personally, I can bring to the table.
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There was so much more that I wanted to get to.
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If you found a guy tomorrow that you really liked, would you have kids?
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I mean, I would try and negotiate and try and get him to extend this.
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Because no guy's going to want him to, like, force you to have his child.
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The only part is the selfish aspect of me not wanting to have kids.
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It's because I feel like I just want to live my life.
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Do you feel like you're not ready to have children yet?
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But, like you said, I probably am if it happens.
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What do you think, like, will make you happier in the future?
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I think having kids and a family and a husband.
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And I want to be a housewife for a period of my life as well.
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Because women in my industry, the time is ticking.
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I got a lady that was 55, like, 50,000 subs in three months.
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And maybe it's society pushing its own standards on me, maybe.
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Being young and beautiful, there is an advantage.
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It's not like you can't have a media career when you're older.
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But I feel like I've still got a bit of time to play with currently for the kids thing.
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Well, isn't that something we can actively practice then?
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I know girls that got to, like, 28 and then they, like, they couldn't have kids.
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So this is why I'm going to do it, like I said.
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Especially, like, have you been on birth control at all?
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Yeah, that's one of the reasons why I came off birth control, because of the fertility situation.
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I just said, have you ever been on birth control and you said no?
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No, no, no, as in, I haven't been on it for a very long time.
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So that's one of the reasons, like, as in ages.
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And what do you bring to an above average woman?
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Oh, see, I think it's, like, super arrogant to say, but, you know, for, like, the average male in 2023, it's not hard to be above average.
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Like, if you break it to categories, like, physically, spiritually, career-wise, friendship, relationship with family,
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So, in that sense, I feel like I'm above average.
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You said the statistic earlier about being over six foot.
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Luckily, I'm 6'1", so that's another thing above average.
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In terms of career, like, I've had a mad career.
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I've got a degree for my mum, in case anything else failed.
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I've achieved all my goals I set out in the modelling world.
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So, I've achieved, it took me, like, six years to achieve all of them goals.
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So, like, for example, like, when I was 24, I used to stand in, like, Birmingham City Centre and look at a billboard,
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and before I ever did a photo shoot my whole life, and say, one day I'm going to be on there,
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then it'd be, like, international bookings, then it'll be stores in London,
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then it'll be certain brands I'd want to shoot for, this and that, and then, yeah, I did them all.
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And they were all very, like, clearly written out next to my bed.
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And then, um, showed so much gratitude along the way as well.
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So, it's just, like, because, you know, when you come from nothing, like, when you have something,
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So, yeah, in that sense, I feel like I do, in terms of, like, spiritually, I've been on my spiritual journey,
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found peace within myself, I've revisited old stuff, um, my communications, A1 in relationships, things like this.
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And the question you asked earlier about when I'm, like, when I speak to a female,
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I ask them questions, and I say, like, what do you bring to the table?
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But, yeah, now I'm, like, I've kind of, like, bulletproofed my philosophies in regards to what I want in a relationship.
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So, I very much know if this person's going to be the one for me.
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You know, it's funny, like, everything you said was, like, results-oriented.
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So, you said you're above average in looks, but if you model, you're top 20% in looks, roughly,
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because you wouldn't get a modeling contract if you weren't.
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And it's what society dictates as well, what's, like, popping at the time.
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Like, if you look at dating app data, people tend to find the same types of people attractive.
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But there's some people that would, like, hate tattoos, or some people that would hate...
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I mean, there's, like, a little bit of subjectivity to it, but not really, like...
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And then when you say, like, I had this in my career, like, you listed the accomplishment.
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No, it's just interesting, because when men answer, they usually answer more, like, results,
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where it's, like, girls, it's more, like, feelings.
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