Masculine Woman Wants Her Man To Compromise
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Summary
In this episode, we are joined by a very special guest, Nuria, who shares her story of how she broke up with her ex-boyfriend and how she dealt with the aftermath of the breakup. We talk about how she handled the situation and what she would do if she had to choose between being a stay-at-home wife or mother.
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started what questions do you guys have so i have a question for you uh sorry what's your name
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nuria nuria what is is that a d or an r nuria or nudia nuria is that an r r n n u r i a okay
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so nuria what is your favorite thing about your dad favorite thing about my dad that he um
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multitasking does a lot yeah once what does that mean he's quick thinking um he's always like
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creative he's very creative in the things he does he um adapts really adapts really well to the
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situations that he's put on is he put into a lot of compromising situations no he's uh he's in the
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um he's an artist uh back in my country really known artist and he's also a businessman and so
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he creates opportunity towards he uses music to get into business in a way so that's kind of creative
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thing it's a multitasking so is he still with your mom no not not not together anymore was he in your
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life growing up sorry was he in your life growing up yeah yeah of course he was present where are you
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from i'm from portugal and angola okay wow yeah um you guys have any questions no how old are you
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oh my god you don't ask a lady her age i just did wow okay i'm 28 okay yeah have you been in any
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relationship before yeah i have can you describe your of course you're single now but can you describe
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your most successful relationship how was it um i um there was a lot of communication
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i think it's key uh to understanding each other um patience as well was needed for us to understand
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each other i think i was more patient and more understanding um sorry you said you were more
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patient is that a relative term like you were more patient you became more patient you were more patient
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than him i became more patient to to understand because i feel like if two people don't agree in
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certain things um there won't be um how can i say a direction there's no direction so it i had to be
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kind of that person why did you break up because he didn't compromise can you be more specific um
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um he he will he was not ready to be the person that um i wanted him to be in a way so i mean more
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serious take take to another to the next level so you wanted to like get married or something and he
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didn't more officialize the relationship was it a relationship or a situationship it was a relationship
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but it turned into a situation because he wanted to be more like the single bachelor did he have a job
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what do you do for a job oh my god he um he thought he was a he was a producer yeah was he sketchy
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like did he have any sort of like sketchy stuff about him like any sort of he had a lot of trust issues
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trust issues yeah trust issues yeah because of his uh past relationships so it took him it was taking
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him a while to it took him a while it took him a while to to kind of like open be more open yeah how long
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ago did that end um two years ago when was the last time you guys talked or texted um that around the
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same time yeah so you're 28 when do you want to be married start a family have kids um i feel like i
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i want to do that whenever i am ready i don't think i am in a position in my life that i'm ready i just
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started like i just i'm just part of like this new corporate world so i um i'm getting opportunities
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and i feel like to have a child it's a big responsibility especially yeah so i i i need to
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be careful the partner that i choose yeah so what if you got to stay home though would you give that up
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because like obviously the guys here you wouldn't have to work i wouldn't even um if if he compromised
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and he he would not cheat and if he was loyal obviously i um there would be um there would be a
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middle ground can i say what's a middle ground what does that mean like as the question was very
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clear it was a binary question it was like would you give up your job and be a stay home wife or mom
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and you said there's a middle ground was that mean if if she has her needs met which is important
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right meaning that the guy takes care of right so everything right like the guy's got a mansion a couple
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fast cars and and access to the whole world like would you just stay home and not work it's like
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no i don't want you going to work i prefer that like if i'm a man i want to feel like a man i just
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want to obviously have a wife in the workplace and you're what you said there's a compromise to me
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that sounds like a dream like doesn't that sound like a dream it is it really do you feel fulfilled
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though like because you're just home like what about your needs as a woman what are your needs as a
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woman for example it's not just about money and cars and big houses obviously i have to take care
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of the kids but what about i'm a human before i'm a woman as well what does that mean like what like
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what are you what do you what would not be met like we're just asking questions about your opinion
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on this right like what needs do you feel if that was the only thing you had what needs would you think
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would still need to be met as a human or as a woman for example i'm a creative i would if if that
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wouldn't compromise if i could be creative and stay in a room here what does being creative mean what if i put a
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garden for you to be creative and just you know be creative growing our own food i don't know make
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a playground outside for the kids you have a lot of options to be created in the house so why not
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maybe can i can i ask what do you think is the role of a wife what does a wife do like if you if you
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land that guy that takes care of you and he fulfills all of your needs right then what is your role what
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do you give back to that guy to to keep the house in intact the children the husband making sure that
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you know you're i'm supposed to be your piece so whenever you come home and you i can you know i can
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take part of the things that you might need to feel in need when you're outside but i have not been a
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wife yet so i i can only say from what i see i i don't have that experience would your husband need
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to like help with the dishes and help clean around the house as well yeah you want to you want to you
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want to share the chores kind of thing he's not sure yeah he could help if i'm if if i'm tired or
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something he could definitely help why not even if he's paying for a hundred percent of everything
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you still got to do the dishes what if i'm pregnant and i'm tired i mean and i mean my mom ran a
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marathon nine months pregnant or no sorry eight months seven i i'm not nine sorry yeah but not
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everybody has the same strength so would you expect your husband to change the diapers
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why not he's all he's also the father he's the father he's not just you know do you believe in
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divorce i actually don't you don't believe in divorce i if i marry i won't if i marry i won't get
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divorced that's why that's my opinion sorry you had a question uh yeah uh assuming do you have an
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instagram you're on instagram at all yeah okay so assuming your husband does not want you on instagram
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would you take it down for him okay so we haven't really spoke about like the things that we do
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do i um i'm an artist i make music and i work um for dubai tourism as a business consultant and i
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represent angola so that takes a lot of social media and and and you know i have to be there networking
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if my husband before being my husband i'm pretty sure he knows what i am about so we have that discussion
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the question is about the personal account not a business account or even hypothetically if you're
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working you're working but if you don't need to work if somebody takes that responsibility away right
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yeah would you take it though if asked i don't know can i ask you a question dubai is a very wealthy
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city right so representing dubai tourism for angola you're probably uh representing to some pretty wealthy
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man right yeah you're networking with wealthy men yeah hey boys how do you feel about your wife
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professionally networking with as a profession professionally networking with wealthy men it's
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a it's a serious question guys what do you think like do you want your wives do you want your future
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wives networking with wealthy men professionally we're not with my wife simple no reason being is because
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i think um what men really look for in the wife is somebody that raises their status up in other
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people's eyes and i don't think that would look really good to other people maybe
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have you been to college yeah okay you graduate yeah what was your degree in music business okay business