JustPearlyThings - June 21, 2023


Masculine Woman Wants Her Man To Compromise


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

171.46017

Word Count

1,705

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

3


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 started what questions do you guys have so i have a question for you uh sorry what's your name
00:00:05.120 nuria nuria what is is that a d or an r nuria or nudia nuria is that an r r n n u r i a okay
00:00:13.520 so nuria what is your favorite thing about your dad favorite thing about my dad that he um
00:00:23.280 multitasking does a lot yeah once what does that mean he's quick thinking um he's always like
00:00:34.880 creative he's very creative in the things he does he um adapts really adapts really well to the
00:00:41.840 situations that he's put on is he put into a lot of compromising situations no he's uh he's in the
00:00:50.160 um he's an artist uh back in my country really known artist and he's also a businessman and so
00:00:58.960 he creates opportunity towards he uses music to get into business in a way so that's kind of creative
00:01:05.760 thing it's a multitasking so is he still with your mom no not not not together anymore was he in your
00:01:11.920 life growing up sorry was he in your life growing up yeah yeah of course he was present where are you
00:01:17.600 from i'm from portugal and angola okay wow yeah um you guys have any questions no how old are you
00:01:28.480 oh my god you don't ask a lady her age i just did wow okay i'm 28 okay yeah have you been in any
00:01:38.000 relationship before yeah i have can you describe your of course you're single now but can you describe
00:01:43.360 your most successful relationship how was it um i um there was a lot of communication
00:01:53.120 i think it's key uh to understanding each other um patience as well was needed for us to understand
00:02:01.360 each other i think i was more patient and more understanding um sorry you said you were more
00:02:07.040 patient is that a relative term like you were more patient you became more patient you were more patient
00:02:10.880 than him i became more patient to to understand because i feel like if two people don't agree in
00:02:18.480 certain things um there won't be um how can i say a direction there's no direction so it i had to be
00:02:28.240 kind of that person why did you break up because he didn't compromise can you be more specific um
00:02:35.840 um he he will he was not ready to be the person that um i wanted him to be in a way so i mean more
00:02:46.880 serious take take to another to the next level so you wanted to like get married or something and he
00:02:52.480 didn't more officialize the relationship was it a relationship or a situationship it was a relationship
00:02:58.960 but it turned into a situation because he wanted to be more like the single bachelor did he have a job
00:03:06.160 what do you do for a job oh my god he um he thought he was a he was a producer yeah was he sketchy
00:03:16.560 like did he have any sort of like sketchy stuff about him like any sort of he had a lot of trust issues
00:03:22.640 trust issues yeah trust issues yeah because of his uh past relationships so it took him it was taking
00:03:31.200 him a while to it took him a while it took him a while to to kind of like open be more open yeah how long
00:03:45.120 ago did that end um two years ago when was the last time you guys talked or texted um that around the
00:03:53.040 same time yeah so you're 28 when do you want to be married start a family have kids um i feel like i
00:04:01.840 i want to do that whenever i am ready i don't think i am in a position in my life that i'm ready i just
00:04:09.440 started like i just i'm just part of like this new corporate world so i um i'm getting opportunities
00:04:17.680 and i feel like to have a child it's a big responsibility especially yeah so i i i need to
00:04:26.400 be careful the partner that i choose yeah so what if you got to stay home though would you give that up
00:04:32.480 because like obviously the guys here you wouldn't have to work i wouldn't even um if if he compromised
00:04:39.440 and he he would not cheat and if he was loyal obviously i um there would be um there would be a
00:04:49.200 middle ground can i say what's a middle ground what does that mean like as the question was very
00:04:54.160 clear it was a binary question it was like would you give up your job and be a stay home wife or mom
00:04:58.960 and you said there's a middle ground was that mean if if she has her needs met which is important
00:05:02.880 right meaning that the guy takes care of right so everything right like the guy's got a mansion a couple
00:05:08.960 fast cars and and access to the whole world like would you just stay home and not work it's like
00:05:13.440 no i don't want you going to work i prefer that like if i'm a man i want to feel like a man i just
00:05:17.360 want to obviously have a wife in the workplace and you're what you said there's a compromise to me
00:05:21.760 that sounds like a dream like doesn't that sound like a dream it is it really do you feel fulfilled
00:05:26.960 though like because you're just home like what about your needs as a woman what are your needs as a
00:05:31.680 woman for example it's not just about money and cars and big houses obviously i have to take care
00:05:37.520 of the kids but what about i'm a human before i'm a woman as well what does that mean like what like
00:05:42.240 what are you what do you what would not be met like we're just asking questions about your opinion
00:05:45.760 on this right like what needs do you feel if that was the only thing you had what needs would you think
00:05:50.560 would still need to be met as a human or as a woman for example i'm a creative i would if if that
00:05:55.280 wouldn't compromise if i could be creative and stay in a room here what does being creative mean what if i put a
00:06:00.320 garden for you to be creative and just you know be creative growing our own food i don't know make
00:06:06.720 a playground outside for the kids you have a lot of options to be created in the house so why not
00:06:14.560 maybe can i can i ask what do you think is the role of a wife what does a wife do like if you if you
00:06:21.760 land that guy that takes care of you and he fulfills all of your needs right then what is your role what
00:06:28.480 do you give back to that guy to to keep the house in intact the children the husband making sure that
00:06:37.840 you know you're i'm supposed to be your piece so whenever you come home and you i can you know i can
00:06:47.440 take part of the things that you might need to feel in need when you're outside but i have not been a
00:06:56.240 wife yet so i i can only say from what i see i i don't have that experience would your husband need
00:07:02.480 to like help with the dishes and help clean around the house as well yeah you want to you want to you
00:07:06.880 want to share the chores kind of thing he's not sure yeah he could help if i'm if if i'm tired or
00:07:12.080 something he could definitely help why not even if he's paying for a hundred percent of everything
00:07:18.240 you still got to do the dishes what if i'm pregnant and i'm tired i mean and i mean my mom ran a
00:07:23.920 marathon nine months pregnant or no sorry eight months seven i i'm not nine sorry yeah but not
00:07:30.400 everybody has the same strength so would you expect your husband to change the diapers
00:07:37.840 why not he's all he's also the father he's the father he's not just you know do you believe in
00:07:43.600 divorce i actually don't you don't believe in divorce i if i marry i won't if i marry i won't get
00:07:50.080 divorced that's why that's my opinion sorry you had a question uh yeah uh assuming do you have an
00:07:57.120 instagram you're on instagram at all yeah okay so assuming your husband does not want you on instagram
00:08:01.760 would you take it down for him okay so we haven't really spoke about like the things that we do
00:08:08.400 do i um i'm an artist i make music and i work um for dubai tourism as a business consultant and i
00:08:18.080 represent angola so that takes a lot of social media and and and you know i have to be there networking
00:08:28.000 if my husband before being my husband i'm pretty sure he knows what i am about so we have that discussion
00:08:37.600 the question is about the personal account not a business account or even hypothetically if you're
00:08:42.480 working you're working but if you don't need to work if somebody takes that responsibility away right
00:08:48.400 yeah would you take it though if asked i don't know can i ask you a question dubai is a very wealthy
00:08:54.960 city right so representing dubai tourism for angola you're probably uh representing to some pretty wealthy
00:09:00.240 man right yeah you're networking with wealthy men yeah hey boys how do you feel about your wife
00:09:04.400 professionally networking with as a profession professionally networking with wealthy men it's
00:09:08.720 a it's a serious question guys what do you think like do you want your wives do you want your future
00:09:13.920 wives networking with wealthy men professionally we're not with my wife simple no reason being is because
00:09:23.520 i think um what men really look for in the wife is somebody that raises their status up in other
00:09:30.320 people's eyes and i don't think that would look really good to other people maybe
00:09:39.280 have you been to college yeah okay you graduate yeah what was your degree in music business okay business
00:09:46.640 administration