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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the difference between money and looks in the dating world. Is money more important than looks in a relationship? Is it more important to have money or to have a good job? How much money does a guy need to have in order to be a good man?
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Money makes a guy more confident and more, like, he's worthy for...
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I was telling you before the show, a billionaire client.
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So they're like, I'm just going to pick her up in the Ferrari.
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A guy being in touch with his masculinity is what makes him attractive.
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But one thing also, when, first of all, money can just tell you more about his ambition.
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Fitness is more important than money, for sure.
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Because your body, your health will give you everything.
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You can have your money today, you lose it tomorrow.
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And you will be left alone with the girl that you picked.
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Would you guys agree that if your guy was unemployed,
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he only has so much time before you would leave?
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It depends on what he's doing in that unemployment.
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And if he doesn't hold that up, I just feel like, I couldn't stay with someone.
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Like, I couldn't be with a man that's just, that's no motivation.
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I think it depends, you know, because it depends if he's willing to work,
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Whereas if he's not motivated and he's fine, he's just chilling with no job,
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no money for five years, then it's a bit of a problem.
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But if he's motivated, he knows what he wants to do,
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he's just working towards his goals or he's willing to work towards his goals,
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You don't know what he, he might want to be a doctor out here.
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But like, obviously, everyone's different and we're all quite young as well.
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Would you say, would you say a side hustle, Pearl, is a job?
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Are you talking about like, does a guy need to be rich versus like, have just enough?
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My only point was at some point, if he's not making enough money, we're going to leave.
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But I'm saying like, if the guy has like, his basic needs met.
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Like, I've found it doesn't really make much of a difference if he has like, a ton of money.
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Okay, is it different in the Eastern European countries versus the West?
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I mean, yeah, because most people are poor, right?
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Like, like in, in Ukraine and Poland, even in Brazil, like people are making like a thousand
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So like, you know, it's like 10 grand a year or less than 10 grand a year after taxes.
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So, I mean, you know, it goes back to those as basic needs met, right?
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I haven't found that it makes much of a difference because I've had so many rich clients that
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Like they're all in their, they're like millionaire circles and like, Hey, we thought this would
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get us the girls and we got all the money and there's no girls.
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And then I have clients that have hardly any money that just crush once they're doing things
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And the girl doesn't even know they don't have money.
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But again, like we're talking about like unemployed, like completely broke for years versus at least
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Like a lot of guys, like even if they're not doing super well, what's the statistic?
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It's like 80% of people are living paycheck to paycheck in the U S I think is something
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So it's like if, if they don't get paid one week, they can't pay the bills, but that's
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So all this like focus on, Oh, you need to go make a lot of money.
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And there's a lot of creators that say like, forget dating, just go focus on making money
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If they ever do, most of them don't even get the money, but if they do, it's not like
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Do you guys think that sex is a need that men can't live without?
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I think, yeah, sex is a need that men can't live without.
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I mean, no, men clearly live without sex and they're just living on corn.
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I think if you said, what do you think would happen if there wasn't corn?
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I think, I think society would be very violent, wouldn't it?
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I think if you get a lot of men, he's in the animal kingdom, isn't it?
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You get, you know, one alpha male that's got all the females and the others are always fighting
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in for position, willing to fight to the death.
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I think you'd get quite a violent society and that's one of the reasons why monogamy came
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about what's to stop that because if you have men that are not having sex and they're not getting
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that frustration, I guess, out, they're going to take it out on society.
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I think if you took away corn away from men, I think men's mental health would suffer tremendously,
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I think it can be a negative because it creates, it creates like a false, like a fantasy.
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And so when, you know, you do go out with guys, they might be like, they might be more
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forward with sex or certain things because they've seen certain things, they might have
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So I feel like sometimes it can be quite pressuring and it can, I think sometimes as well that
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I don't know, like it's kind of, it doesn't, it doesn't make sex feel special.
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I don't think it makes it more, like you were saying earlier, like the intimacy just creates
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See, sometimes I could see where corn is a net negative for guys in an individual level,
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but I'm just going to play devil's advocate here.
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I also think it's helped a lot of guys stay faithful in sexless marriages.
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I think there's a place for it because imagine you're one of these guys and your wife has
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I believe if that can keep you going through that period, it's better to engage in that
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And I think corn from that point of view is good.
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But I think too much of it, like anything, is the issue.
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There's also an issue where guys don't want to go out and do anything because they're so
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And for some men, especially men that are more prone to that, it might make them even
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more violent because they go out and demand it of women.
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I mean, most sexual assault is men, are the perpetrators of it.
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And I think how much is corn to blame for that?
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And I think it's tapping into some ancient biological process of men.
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I don't see why it would not because if men are frustrated at home and all they know is
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just being online, at some point you might want the real thing.
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But I would think it would do the opposite because it gives them a release instead of
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But you've seen some issues where men have actually assaulted women where they've had this
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addiction and they want to play out in real life.
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You see that often, you know, it's a fantasy and they want to play it in real life and
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Wasn't that a policeman that actually got done for that, addicted to that?
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I think, yeah, he had a porn addiction, did he not?
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The one that actually dragged the woman off the streets in Clapham.
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I think he had an addiction with porn, if I'm not right.
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Sorry, with corn because, you know, and it's natural, isn't it?
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If that's all you know is the virtual version of something, at some point it's quite easy
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to spill over into wanting a real version of it.
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Do you think it's the same thing with video games?
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Like, men that play video games are going to be more violent?
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Because I'm pretty sure the evidence was the opposite with that.
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I agree with, I think that is true as well because, for example, I don't know about, not really
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in the UK, but I heard about a lot of school shootings with, like, young people in America,
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like, it's always to do with guns and always to do with, yeah, like, those kind of, like,
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So I think that definitely has an impact as well.
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But then that's, like, everything has an impact with social media and with technology
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because even what we see online might change the way that we move or we look.
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But I think it's only going to amplify what's already there.
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So if you're someone that's that way inclined, then, yeah, it might amplify.
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But I think for most people, playing video games is a way to safely indulge in your fantasies.
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With corn, like, you know, like that statistic you cited, it's almost one in three guys.
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And I think it's, like, still upward trending, right?
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But when a guy can just, you know, again, safely, like, go watch corn and deal with that desire
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and not have to put himself out there and not get his ego bruised or not face, you know,
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potential legal consequences or anything like that.
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Plus, most guys have no idea what to do anyways, right?
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And what I've noticed with so many of my clients is guys genuinely will put in time and effort,
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in some cases money with a lot of these companies that are supposed to help them,