In this episode, we discuss why Black women have the lowest rates of marriage and children outside of marriage in the U.S. and the UK, and why this is a problem. We also discuss the role of Black women in society and why they are not as valued as their white counterparts.
00:00:13.360We're doing all types—we're doing the most.
00:00:15.080We dominate rap in the culture that is very sexual, especially in the U.S.
00:00:18.560So a lot of men see us as easy targets to, you know, to have sex with.
00:00:23.780And we have the highest rate of having children outside of marriage, wedlock.
00:00:30.000And so men see us as bed wenches, easy to have sex with, but they don't see us as valuable wives.
00:00:38.840Our culture, especially in the U.S., I don't know how it is in the U.K.
00:00:41.640I know it's a little different, but we—our family structure is so broken and so destroyed that we really—the majority of black women in the U.S.
00:00:52.460We've been put into a position of just being, you know, sexual—just for a man's sexual pleasure.
00:00:59.220But if they're going to take a woman serious, that's why you see a lot of black men, when they become successful, they're not marrying us.
00:01:17.200It's no—the culture that that woman may have been brought up in, her submissiveness, you know, in our culture, we're being rebellious, you know, dressing provocative.
00:01:32.800We want our butts to be the fattest—we pride ourselves on things of being bosses, having the fattest booty, you know, being able to twerk the best, but not intrinsic values that is a wife.
00:01:45.980And to speak to Maggie, like, we talk about, like, colorism in our culture, because I think race is not just race, but it's colorism within our own culture, where they prefer light skin, they prefer this, that, and the other.
00:01:59.920I tell you on God, an attitude like Maggie, a lot of men, like, regardless of anything, like, you know, to me, there's such a peace and an aura about her that a lot of women can learn from of every race, but particularly in the black community, we don't—that's not standard.
00:03:21.460Her attitude and what she is—in the world, the U.S. has the highest numbers of children born out of wedlock, and the people who dominate that are black women.
00:03:50.360But I think that's what you have to break down, because if we're going to then speak to black women and say these things, you have to then come with, one, reasonings, because there's so much—we already get the you are this, you are this, you are that.
00:04:02.280If we're then going to add to that ourselves, you have to be responsible to add a solution and a background.
00:04:07.200But the solution is you have to take accountability.
00:04:10.620We live in the most privileged society in the world, even though the worst circumstance of a black woman today is nothing what it was 100 years ago, especially if you want to talk about the U.S. slavery.
00:04:23.940But if one woman, black woman, made a choice that was—Maggie made a choice that was better than the next black woman, then you have a standard now that you need to live up to.
00:04:31.820And I think a lot of times we wanted to say, well, it's somebody's fault to the government.
00:06:41.660So if we're going to have this conversation, you come from a place of how can we help each other and bring each other up?
00:06:46.360Maggie kindly then spoke to this lady and said, can I just say, out of respect, next time, think like this.
00:06:54.560Next time, put the right things in order.
00:06:56.100And I think that was the most beneficial thing that she got from this conversation, rather than all the questions of how did this happen?
00:07:00.920How did this happen to—and be an accusatory come from a place that Maggie was saying, how do we help each other with building up our self-worth and kindness and stop with the constant, well, we're this, we're this, we're this, we're this, we're this.
00:07:15.100Because we are talking bad about ourselves.
00:07:18.540Black women want this soft tone, but we don't give what we want to receive.
00:07:22.560So we were talking about—but Maggie did.
00:07:24.240But look at most black women today, there's an aggression, there's a dominance, there is a thing.
00:07:29.440And I understand because most of us have been raised very masculine because we didn't have fathers in the home, our mothers relied on us, our mothers didn't teach us certain things.
00:07:36.980So we want what we're not giving out to the world.
00:07:39.540You want the tone of Maggie, then be Maggie.
00:07:42.280Like, no one's making us choose the things.