JustPearlyThings - December 29, 2022


Men And Women Should work as a team


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10 minutes

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In this episode, we have a special guest on the show, my Auntie Esther. We talk about what it means to be a woman in the 21st century and why it s so important to have options.

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00:00:00.000 Hang on a minute, hang on a minute, hang on a minute.
00:00:01.800 You said, unlike you, I have options.
00:00:04.000 We have options, yeah.
00:00:05.280 You're out here looking for a man.
00:00:06.880 You're out here saying that you're looking for a man.
00:00:08.320 Where did I say I was looking for a man?
00:00:09.840 Oh my gosh, you was at the advertising
00:00:12.280 when we done the introductions.
00:00:14.120 That's what you said.
00:00:15.040 I said I was doing interviews.
00:00:15.840 That is what you said.
00:00:16.840 I didn't say I was going out looking for a man.
00:00:18.840 I said I'm doing interviews.
00:00:20.240 You come to me, I'm going to decide if I want you.
00:00:22.840 Mr. Tate, listen to this insult, right?
00:00:25.680 Listen to the insult.
00:00:26.520 I'm not insulting you.
00:00:27.680 Hang on.
00:00:28.080 Listen, then what do you call it, sign language.
00:00:30.720 I'm learning, sign language, right?
00:00:32.880 Listen to what she just said to me.
00:00:34.400 Unlike you, I have options. 0.99
00:00:36.400 Fucking 32 years, you think I want options? 0.99
00:00:38.720 I'm happy with my man. 0.99
00:00:39.560 It's giving, you don't really have much options though.
00:00:41.880 Because the way you're like, I don't want to have a page.
00:00:43.920 Auntie, auntie, she meant clout.
00:00:46.680 Wait, wait, she meant, she meant, Esther,
00:00:49.880 I'm sure you didn't mean pick me, you meant clout chaser.
00:00:52.880 Is that what it is?
00:00:53.640 We could go with that, we could go with that too.
00:00:55.640 I'm sorry, I was just trying to clarify your problem.
00:00:57.760 There was no problem.
00:00:58.400 I was just saying.
00:00:59.120 Wait, wait, wait, so.
00:01:00.400 I've told you we lost it.
00:01:01.680 Why would I want to have options when I've been in a happy relationship for 32 years?
00:01:05.280 No, clout chases his fans.
00:01:06.560 It don't make no sense.
00:01:07.600 I just, I just.
00:01:08.320 You can monetize on YouTube with clout.
00:01:10.160 Why are you calling her a pick me when you were the one advertising at the beginning of the show?
00:01:13.520 I said I'm doing interviews.
00:01:15.040 I wasn't advertising nothing.
00:01:16.560 It's banter.
00:01:17.680 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:01:18.800 Do you guys understand what an interview means?
00:01:20.720 Okay, all right, all right.
00:01:22.000 She's being spicy, guys, stop it. 1.00
00:01:23.840 So Auntie had a question for Andrew.
00:01:25.680 Oh, yeah.
00:01:26.240 What was your question?
00:01:26.800 Oh, she asked already.
00:01:27.680 He didn't answer because everybody's too busy jumping.
00:01:29.280 Don't ask your question.
00:01:29.680 Everybody's too busy jumping in, I already asked,
00:01:31.680 but you're not too busy jumping in and being women. 1.00
00:01:34.400 He's patient.
00:01:35.280 To be listening. 0.95
00:01:35.680 So now you can all shut up and let him answer, innit? 0.63
00:01:38.400 I'll answer, yeah.
00:01:39.600 So to go back to one of my earlier points, firstly, to make it clear in the disagreement,
00:01:44.960 I agree with, of course, I think everyone knows who I agree with.
00:01:47.360 But I do, because you know what it is, though?
00:01:49.840 You know what's actually funny?
00:01:51.600 The things that she's saying are common knowledge 20, 30 years ago.
00:01:56.560 This is how the world functioned.
00:01:58.240 This is how the whole world functioned.
00:01:59.920 The things I say that somehow people believe are controversial
00:02:03.360 are exactly the way the world functioned in like the 90s, the 80s, the 70s.
00:02:07.680 All of the entire period of human history, men had a role of masculinity.
00:02:12.160 Women had a role of femininity. 1.00
00:02:13.520 We worked as a team.
00:02:14.880 Now the world's come along and they've destroyed and broken everything.
00:02:17.920 And there's this new progressive think and this new generation of women who seem to believe
00:02:22.560 that if we completely fuck it all up, it's going to end up better.
00:02:25.360 And my argument to that is, listen, we went from walking around in fields and small nomadic groups
00:02:30.400 to building cities, to building the pyramids, to going to the moon.
00:02:33.040 We managed to go from a few thousand to billions of people, populate the entire planet,
00:02:36.880 build canals, build skyscrapers, cities.
00:02:39.440 All of this was done based on the back of man being a man,
00:02:42.400 woman being a woman, working together as a family. 0.96
00:02:45.360 And now it's destroyed. 1.00
00:02:46.480 Now they're going to come along and fuck it up. 0.99
00:02:48.800 If it's not broke, don't forget it. 0.99
00:02:49.760 It's destroyed.
00:02:50.560 It's been destroyed.
00:02:51.440 Man has destroyed earth.
00:02:52.720 What are you talking about?
00:02:53.440 It's been bad decisions from powerful men
00:02:55.360 that got men to go to wars and from women to lose husbands. 0.80
00:02:59.200 Men built earth.
00:03:00.640 Men make decisions for war. 0.96
00:03:02.240 Listen, please. 0.99
00:03:02.800 Men kill men. 0.67
00:03:03.680 Please listen to me.
00:03:04.800 Men built the earth.
00:03:06.480 I'm not saying men are perfect, but the entire world that you're existing under was built
00:03:11.040 by men.
00:03:11.440 Yeah, it's true.
00:03:12.000 All of it.
00:03:13.120 And the point I'm making is now we're entering a world of new think.
00:03:16.080 And the problem with new think is it's not tested. 0.98
00:03:18.240 I don't give a shit what anyone's opinion is. 0.95
00:03:20.320 What I can state as a matter of fact is we had 5,000 years of history that tells us how 0.99
00:03:25.360 the world works with X and Y together.
00:03:27.680 We're now entering a new paradigm.
00:03:29.360 There's no 5,000 years of history.
00:03:30.960 So whatever you believe about how it's going to work or it's going to be better or worse,
00:03:34.080 whatever, that's just you guessing.
00:03:35.920 Everyone is guessing, right? 0.98
00:03:37.440 So we're entering a brand new paradigm and everything's completely fucked up. 0.96
00:03:40.800 The point you were making earlier, which is a fantastic one about if I pick a woman 0.99
00:03:44.400 who's advertising, et cetera, et cetera.
00:03:46.400 Men always, please keep this in mind, especially if you're a female. 0.95
00:03:49.520 People always say, you know, the number of emails I get from girls will say you don't
00:03:52.080 give enough girl game. 1.00
00:03:52.800 I'll give you girl game right now.
00:03:54.480 Your man wants status.
00:03:56.240 That's what he wants.
00:03:57.440 You need to find a way to make him look good to the world and to his friends.
00:04:01.280 So how do you do that?
00:04:02.880 I'll tell you.
00:04:03.520 One of the ways a man can get status is to get the girl that no one can get.
00:04:06.720 That's a very simple way, right?
00:04:08.480 So I said, not ready to mingle.
00:04:09.680 I did right.
00:04:10.320 Okay.
00:04:10.560 No, no, but this is the truth, right?
00:04:11.920 If you, if I date a girl and she's perfect in every way, head to toe, and then I'd say,
00:04:17.600 I've met this girl.
00:04:18.400 Yeah.
00:04:18.640 She's this.
00:04:18.960 She's this.
00:04:19.360 Oh yeah.
00:04:19.600 I took her for a date. 1.00
00:04:20.560 Even if he didn't fuck her, do you fuck her? 1.00
00:04:21.920 No, no. 1.00
00:04:22.240 I just went for date.
00:04:22.880 So you went, the attraction goes from this to zero done.
00:04:27.840 And it may not for some men, cause some men haven't got choices, but men like me who genuinely
00:04:31.520 have unlimited options.
00:04:33.120 We want complete exclusivity.
00:04:35.360 That's what we're looking for because that gives status.
00:04:38.240 That's what you're looking for.
00:04:39.040 So you have to be very careful as a female with all of your actions, all of your interactions
00:04:42.880 with your boyfriend, or when you're looking for a boyfriend, et cetera, and say,
00:04:45.520 am I going to make my man look better by doing X or look worse?
00:04:49.120 Simple things.
00:04:49.840 I've had endless arguments about girls nights out, right?
00:04:52.640 Oh, you're insecure.
00:04:54.000 It's nothing about insecure. 1.00
00:04:55.040 I don't give a fuck if no man talks to you all night long. 0.99
00:04:58.640 I don't care if you're going out and you're going to an all girl club. 1.00
00:05:01.200 I don't care.
00:05:01.840 I know that when my boys say, oh, all the girls are going out.
00:05:05.040 And I say, not my girl, she stays home.
00:05:07.680 I look good.
00:05:08.960 That's it.
00:05:09.680 She stays home.
00:05:10.400 She doesn't go out.
00:05:11.040 She doesn't want to go out without me.
00:05:14.000 That's status.
00:05:14.800 It's not about the night out.
00:05:15.840 It's about the status of being the man in the house.
00:05:18.640 That's what a man wants.
00:05:19.600 He wants respect.
00:05:20.240 He wants to be the man of the house.
00:05:21.440 I say, she stays home.
00:05:22.560 She stays home.
00:05:23.360 Big G, boom, boom. 0.96
00:05:24.320 That's what we want.
00:05:24.960 Can I ask you something?
00:05:25.760 What about, what does the woman want in your eyes? 1.00
00:05:28.480 What do you think?
00:05:29.040 And what's the gaming gift for the boys?
00:05:30.560 I'm going to tell you, but before that, I need another clementine. 1.00
00:05:32.800 And I need to give half to our friend here, because she just rolled her eyes at me. 1.00
00:05:35.600 And I'm perspicacious.
00:05:36.560 I notice everything.
00:05:37.200 She doesn't realize that I'm a ninja.
00:05:38.560 I detect these things.
00:05:39.440 Even when I'm looking directly ahead, I can detect it.
00:05:41.440 So I'm going to give her some of my clementine, and she's going to feel better.
00:05:45.040 So I'm going to get a clementine for you. 1.00
00:05:46.320 Would you like some clementine, my dear?
00:05:47.520 I'm sure.
00:05:47.920 Do you want some clementine? 1.00
00:05:48.880 I just, I think for me, it's like this.
00:05:50.480 I'll ask you a question.
00:05:51.120 Would you like some clementine? 0.99
00:05:51.440 Yeah, I would love some.
00:05:52.160 You want some clementine? 1.00
00:05:52.960 Yeah.
00:05:53.280 We're going to hook it up.
00:05:54.000 Okay.
00:05:54.320 Clementine's coming.
00:05:55.360 All right.
00:05:55.760 Go on.
00:05:56.080 Continue.
00:05:56.800 Okay.
00:05:57.280 What?
00:05:58.160 No, I mean, I just feel like this is definitely a different conversation for me, because I'm very open-minded.
00:06:04.800 I love hearing different perspective, and I do feel like this is a newer idea.
00:06:10.320 Like you said, within the last 30, 40 years, this is a new concept.
00:06:13.280 We don't know how it's going to end.
00:06:15.040 I just know from my experience, other women that I've met as well, it's like the reason for even 1.00
00:06:22.080 relationships, why they're not lasting is because people don't want to put up with the disrespect.
00:06:26.640 And even when you were talking about, oh, it's okay for me to cheat, but not for you,
00:06:30.720 my thing is, is like, why not have transparency and have it be polygamous, polyamorous, whatever
00:06:35.920 works for you.
00:06:36.640 That's like, to me, where it loses me with the traditional stuff.
00:06:39.840 I get it.
00:06:40.160 It's like, why can't we have transparency if I sign up for that?
00:06:42.560 Cool.
00:06:43.040 So how does it, no, okay.
00:06:44.320 No, no, no, no man in a million years.
00:06:45.840 Let's all be realistic, right?
00:06:46.800 No man in a million years is going to meet a girl he likes and go, I want to be polyamorous. 0.97
00:06:50.080 Like, come on, that's gay. 1.00
00:06:50.960 Let's cut this bullshit. 1.00
00:06:52.080 So let's, let's be realistic. 1.00
00:06:53.280 How does a man show love to a woman? 0.96
00:06:55.440 Tell me.
00:06:55.680 Exclusivity.
00:06:56.800 Wrong.
00:06:58.000 Time, resources, and something else.
00:06:59.680 Time, resources, so that's a good, that's a good way to start.
00:07:02.320 So sexual exclusivity is how a female shows primarily, primarily that she's interested 1.00
00:07:07.120 in a man.
00:07:07.520 He's the only man who has sexual access to me because I can get pregnant and I, 0.99
00:07:10.320 this man is the only man who can do it. 0.90
00:07:11.680 That's how it's done.
00:07:12.880 A man.
00:07:13.760 Yes.
00:07:14.080 I'm not saying all men can cheat.
00:07:15.280 I'm not saying all men should cheat.
00:07:16.320 I'm not saying that.
00:07:16.880 I'm saying that if I truly love a woman, she won't sit there and go, he shows me his love 0.99
00:07:21.280 because he doesn't fuck anyone else. 0.98
00:07:22.720 She'll sit there and go, he shows me his love because my bills are paid. 0.99
00:07:25.600 I'm in a Bentley.
00:07:26.480 I drive, I fly private.
00:07:27.920 I go to Dubai anytime I want.
00:07:29.440 I have a Chanel bag.
00:07:30.400 And I'm not talking about just money.
00:07:31.840 I'm talking about resource and a lifestyle as a whole.
00:07:34.080 This is not just me.
00:07:34.960 This is the world and most of the world today.
00:07:36.720 If you go to Moscow and you find a big G, a rich guy, right?
00:07:39.920 He has his wife.
00:07:40.880 She's pushing a Bentley. 0.97
00:07:41.840 She has the kids.
00:07:42.400 She's living in a mansion, whatever. 0.98
00:07:43.360 When he goes to the club with his boys, you think he ain't with 19 year old strippers? 1.00
00:07:45.760 Of course he fucking is. 1.00
00:07:46.560 Can I ask you? 1.00
00:07:46.880 But she's just like, whatever.
00:07:48.240 Don't care.
00:07:48.880 I'm the one who has the money. 1.00
00:07:49.840 Don't give a shit. 1.00
00:07:50.560 So you have to sit there and to a point, you have to sit and analyze the difference. 1.00
00:07:54.880 When you're saying disrespect, if you're going to go through life as a woman and say, I only 0.69
00:07:59.440 care about the sexual exclusivity of my man, then what you're going to end up doing is having 1.00
00:08:03.200 a bunch of failed relationships and fucking loads of dudes. 0.99
00:08:05.200 There has to get a point where you go, you know what? 0.98
00:08:06.960 This guy ticks so many boxes once a year, twice a year. 1.00
00:08:10.800 He's out with his boys, does some dumb shit. 0.99
00:08:12.400 I'm just going to pretend I didn't notice because my bills are paid. 1.00
00:08:14.640 I'm looked after.
00:08:15.920 I can tell he cares about me.
00:08:17.440 If I have a problem, he's going to fix it.
00:08:19.200 He's ticked so many.
00:08:20.080 That's the smart female move as opposed to go, I don't care how good he is to me. 1.00
00:08:24.080 He fucked that bitch once. 1.00
00:08:25.120 So I'm going to leave and I'm going to get another man who I don't love. 1.00
00:08:27.280 We'll fuck another bitch anyway. 1.00
00:08:28.400 And then I'll get another man who I don't love. 1.00
00:08:29.680 We'll fuck another bitch. 1.00
00:08:30.400 This is end of cycle of dumb shit. 1.00
00:08:31.680 I have a question. 1.00
00:08:36.800 Is there ever cheating that's too far?
00:08:39.360 Like, so if a guy cheats on a girl, is there ever a point where she-
00:08:42.480 Yeah, there's a lot of cheating.
00:08:43.520 There's completely a lot of cheating that's too far.
00:08:44.640 Like, if he knocks up another girl, would you say that's too far?
00:08:47.120 All right.
00:08:47.600 All right.
00:08:47.680 So first things first, I'm a man of my word.
00:08:49.440 I don't want anyone to think I'm a liar.
00:08:51.200 So here's your Clementine. 1.00
00:08:53.680 Thank you.
00:08:54.160 And you peeled it.
00:08:54.960 I'm a gentleman.
00:08:55.840 I'm a gentleman.
00:08:57.120 Right.
00:08:57.520 So obviously, I'm not saying blatantly disrespect your woman, right?
00:09:01.520 She's your woman.
00:09:02.240 She's your queen.
00:09:02.800 She's the most important thing in the world to you.
00:09:04.720 She needs to be treated in a way that she feels that, right?
00:09:08.880 But it's unfortunate, because I keep tying back to this baseline point.
00:09:12.720 But the reason I keep going back to this baseline point is to try and
00:09:15.040 explain to everybody at home how simple the world can be if you go back to the baselines of it.
00:09:18.960 Why do men cheat?
00:09:20.480 Most women don't know. 1.00
00:09:21.520 You'll see them all the time.
00:09:22.640 Why do men cheat? 1.00
00:09:23.280 Oh, because men are just stupid. 1.00
00:09:24.880 And why do men fuck girls uglier than their main chick? 1.00
00:09:27.280 Why do men do all this stuff? 1.00
00:09:28.240 They had a moment.
00:09:28.800 Do you know why?
00:09:29.360 I'll tell you why.
00:09:30.160 Let's go back to the first thing I've been saying this whole time.
00:09:32.240 Status.
00:09:33.360 Yeah, that's my chick. 0.82
00:09:34.320 She's home.
00:09:35.280 Took this one home.
00:09:36.240 Yeah, I got that one.
00:09:37.040 She's chasing me.
00:09:37.840 Status.
00:09:38.400 Status.
00:09:38.960 Status. 1.00
00:09:39.360 But it's stupid to females. 1.00
00:09:41.360 I get it. 1.00
00:09:42.080 But that's the male world, because sexual access is an easy indicator of status.
00:09:46.800 So that's one of the reasons they do it, right?
00:09:48.560 So you have to go back into the baseline of why men even cheat in the first place.
00:09:51.040 I'm telling you, if you're a woman, the smartest thing you can do is look after your man, 1.00
00:09:54.480 make him not want to cheat, be perfect.
00:09:56.560 But there's going to be a time across a 20-year marriage you might just need to be a little
00:10:00.400 bit blind.
00:10:01.440 A little bit.
00:10:02.320 Just a tiny bit.
00:10:03.120 Just don't look at his phone.
00:10:04.480 And you'll be cool.
00:10:05.440 You'll be cool.
00:10:06.160 Just make sure the bills are paid.
00:10:07.440 He does his job as a man.
00:10:08.320 What if you can pay your own bills, though?
00:10:10.480 But this is it.
00:10:10.960 We'll talk about that in a second. 0.98
00:10:11.840 But I'm not saying allow this for some fucking Joe Schmoe. 1.00
00:10:14.080 I'm not saying let some fucking loser pick you up, lock you down, and go cheat on you. 1.00
00:10:17.200 I'm not saying that. 1.00
00:10:17.760 I'm saying if he's a G and he's doing enough of his other jobs.
00:10:20.000 As for you saying what if you can pay your own bills, then what's the reality you face?
00:10:23.600 Just like I described earlier.
00:10:25.040 I'm going to decide that the thing that I prioritize above everything, above his resource,
00:10:29.200 above the amount he cares for me, you'll see men cheat on a woman and then cry his eyes out
00:10:32.800 trying to get that woman back. 0.74
00:10:33.680 He still loves you.
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00:10:41.600 platform.
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