JustPearlyThings - November 04, 2023


Men Are Becoming Oppressed Every Single Day

Topics
society
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Rachel
Sean Strickland DEMOLISHES Salty Feminists Zherka ADMITS This To Pearl

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12 minutes

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2,400

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273

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45

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7

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In this episode, we discuss why men are no longer getting married in the modern era, why women are running rampant in society, and how to stop this trend. We also talk about the benefits and drawbacks of being a single parent.

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00:00:00.000 The problem with that is in the West, we live in a gynocentric society. 1.00
00:00:04.740 So even if you notice, women make most of the decisions. 1.00
00:00:08.740 Women are the ones that are raising these kids. 1.00
00:00:11.360 Most men, and this is what I noticed, I'm African, I came from Nigeria,
00:00:15.780 I only came to this country in 2019.
00:00:18.140 Back in my country, even though it's changing, but back in the day,
00:00:22.560 the men were the leaders of the family, what they said goes.
00:00:27.320 But that even started changing a couple of like...
00:00:30.000 Years ago, like...
00:00:31.440 But the reality is, women are the ones that make all the decisions. 1.00
00:00:34.560 If a man tries to stand his ground in the West, he is literally shut down.
00:00:39.800 He's literally kicked out of his home.
00:00:41.260 He's literally seen as the enemy.
00:00:43.600 He gets kicked out, he gets freed in order, he gets freed all the time.
00:00:46.000 Men can't even enforce their masculinity on their own families. 0.95
00:00:49.700 And this is the point we're saying of the whole thing of women. 1.00
00:00:51.860 So then you should vet your partner properly before choosing to create her a proud family with this person.
00:00:56.640 It's about the society.
00:00:57.720 No matter how much...
00:00:59.160 Do you think society can have an impact about what my husband is telling you about?
00:01:03.160 Yes, I'll tell you why.
00:01:04.620 Because there are many women who were raised in Nigeria, who were raised with traditional values.
00:01:09.400 The moment they stepped foot into this country, it went haywire.
00:01:12.380 Yeah, so therefore, vet your wife or your husband correctly before you choose.
00:01:15.640 No, the reality is that society creates the toxic environment for women to be able to run rampant and do whatever they want. 1.00
00:01:24.040 Okay.
00:01:24.660 So how do you combat that?
00:01:25.980 Do you now then go...
00:01:27.100 When you're fighting a war, do you go to war without equipment?
00:01:31.640 I mean, some men won't fight it.
00:01:33.360 The point is that that's the reason why men are no longer getting married. 1.00
00:01:37.820 Okay.
00:01:38.140 Because they see that they cannot have any sort of authority in their homes.
00:01:43.700 That's the reason why men run from commitments these days in the West.
00:01:46.480 Well, it used to take three months for a guy to marry you. 0.85
00:01:49.380 Now it takes three years on average.
00:01:51.940 So it's like that's what men are doing.
00:01:54.940 They're vetting harder.
00:01:55.900 But honestly, just doing this divorce documentary, I would say there's no way you could possibly know.
00:02:01.180 Women switch up very quickly after they get what they want. 1.00
00:02:05.460 I would say it's a roll of the dice.
00:02:07.660 There's high-risk women. 1.00
00:02:08.680 There's low-risk women. 1.00
00:02:09.620 But you're never going to know 100%.
00:02:11.480 What do women get out of marriage? 1.00
00:02:14.240 Protection and provisioning.
00:02:15.440 Most men out-earn women.
00:02:17.200 So the average man still, even if it's more of a 50-50, even the 50-50 relationships that I look at,
00:02:22.360 men still work longer hours and they contribute more financially.
00:02:26.880 You also get protection.
00:02:28.620 I mean, there's some sort of...
00:02:29.400 Where are they?
00:02:30.740 Well, I mean, most men earn enough for a wife and kids.
00:02:35.260 Do they?
00:02:35.840 Yeah.
00:02:36.180 I mean, it's just...
00:02:37.020 No, but the problem is...
00:02:38.080 But the problem is...
00:02:38.860 I'll tell you guys the problem.
00:02:40.480 You see, you have jewelry.
00:02:42.640 You have makeup on.
00:02:43.560 You have...
00:02:43.780 I know.
00:02:45.520 I know.
00:02:46.120 But I'm saying most women won't go down... 1.00
00:02:48.060 Wait, wait.
00:02:48.800 Most women won't go down in lifestyle for a family. 1.00
00:02:51.180 So I'll give you an example.
00:02:52.820 My friend Rachel, she is a homeschooled mom. 0.96
00:02:56.340 She had four kids.
00:02:57.760 And what she did, they never took vacation.
00:02:59.940 She never had any of the latest fashion trends.
00:03:02.120 She barely bought makeup. 0.72
00:03:03.600 She homeschooled her children.
00:03:05.720 She lived on...
00:03:07.340 They had chickens.
00:03:08.980 She did all of that stuff. 0.98
00:03:10.800 Most women aren't willing to do that for a family. 1.00
00:03:14.160 And what she explains...
00:03:15.920 She's from Midwest. 0.96
00:03:18.240 So Chicago...
00:03:19.380 In America.
00:03:20.040 Yeah, I'm from Chicago.
00:03:23.480 And so what she explained to me is kids really aren't as expensive as people want to believe.
00:03:28.240 It's just like the women want the vacations. 1.00
00:03:31.280 They won't do hand-me-downs with the kids.
00:03:34.080 Like they don't want to homeschool the kids.
00:03:36.320 They'd rather have a career too.
00:03:37.860 And the thing is when you start breaking down men's income, men's income peaks at about 55.
00:03:44.020 And typically over the age of 30, men are making enough for like to have a family, to have two to three kids.
00:03:52.880 Right.
00:03:53.060 But that doesn't mean that they actually share or give or actually provide.
00:03:57.300 Most men do.
00:03:58.980 Most men... 0.83
00:03:59.560 So if you look at the stats, there's only really about...
00:04:02.760 And this is why I don't really get the... 0.96
00:04:05.020 There's like this group that's like basically insinuating most guys are losers.
00:04:10.220 The stats don't really back that up. 0.60
00:04:11.740 The number one employer of men in the U.S. is truckers.
00:04:15.220 And there's only like 15%...
00:04:16.440 They make good money.
00:04:17.360 Yeah, they do.
00:04:17.900 They do.
00:04:18.240 They do.
00:04:18.780 There's only like 15% of men that are like the 20%, I think it is, that are the losers throughout their lifetime.
00:04:27.540 And the other thing is men are having a harder and harder time getting jobs in high-paying industries because they are discriminated against.
00:04:33.820 Like I've talked to recruiters in like tech, for example.
00:04:37.520 And there was even a tech conference for women.
00:04:40.600 And men were so desperate to get like into that field, they infiltrated it.
00:04:44.900 They literally like...
00:04:45.820 Pretend...
00:04:46.260 Yeah, they pretend...
00:04:47.040 No, but that tells you how much like they're being discriminated against for certain jobs.
00:04:53.680 So there's more traditional men... 0.84
00:04:55.940 Someone wanted to be equal.
00:04:57.480 Yeah.
00:04:58.600 Nobody said it was a good idea.
00:05:00.320 Yeah.
00:05:00.740 Well, I would say there's definitely a lack of masculinity.
00:05:03.960 Like I don't think most men were taught to be like masculine, but it's like, who are we?
00:05:08.660 Most women weren't taught to be feminine. 1.00
00:05:10.600 And we'll always say we want a leader, but like what percent of women know how to follow? 1.00
00:05:14.940 But those points you said about the benefits of a woman being married, she could still get those if she wasn't married. 0.98
00:05:20.560 Right.
00:05:21.140 That's where I was going to go.
00:05:22.080 It actually works the same way.
00:05:24.080 Well, but the difference for...
00:05:26.600 Financial support and being protected.
00:05:28.420 But the difference for...
00:05:29.420 No, not the same because you can have more...
00:05:32.600 Basically, you have more legal rights as a woman in marriage. 0.98
00:05:36.760 So...
00:05:37.760 Okay.
00:05:38.360 Quick question.
00:05:39.420 Do you mean in like when it becomes divorce?
00:05:42.580 Yeah.
00:05:43.120 Yeah.
00:05:43.260 You have more protections for a woman in marriage. 0.62
00:05:46.960 Is this a marriage that who... 0.95
00:05:48.520 And I would say men typically actually stay.
00:05:51.660 So women typically actually get the vows that are promised where men do not. 0.95
00:05:56.760 Like men don't typically file for a divorce.
00:05:58.720 And there are reasons, I can't remember them off the top of my head, but the reasons that men file for a divorce are like one is substance abuse.
00:06:06.620 Like they're typically more serious than the reasons that women file for a divorce in general.
00:06:11.800 Are these...
00:06:12.440 So quick question.
00:06:13.300 In terms of like marriage and divorces that are signed by...
00:06:15.900 A contract that you're going to...
00:06:18.360 Society has created a contract.
00:06:20.420 And in a contract, there's obviously rules that you cannot break.
00:06:23.600 And if you choose to then break this contract, we can all pass separate ways and somebody has to pay to come.
00:06:29.420 So you pay to get into a contract.
00:06:31.100 And now you have to pay to get out of this contract.
00:06:32.360 Are you talking about a prenup?
00:06:33.740 No, no, no, no, no.
00:06:34.360 Sorry.
00:06:34.840 Say that again. 0.71
00:06:35.500 So marriage in like when you go to the court and you legally do these documents, it's a contract.
00:06:40.320 Yeah.
00:06:40.620 Because you contract it.
00:06:42.100 Say we're together.
00:06:42.840 Now we bind together.
00:06:43.920 This is the contract.
00:06:44.580 So we paid to get into a contract that was created by a third party.
00:06:49.860 And then we have to pay this third party again when we decide that this contract no longer serves us.
00:06:55.400 Yeah.
00:06:55.700 Right?
00:06:56.040 It makes no sense.
00:06:56.820 So now, so the third party, the third party has collected money from you twice.
00:07:01.740 You need to get together.
00:07:03.340 Right?
00:07:04.200 And so now because something in this contract, you now decided to exercise this law, this contract that both of us have agreed that we're going to abide by this, whatever is in this contract.
00:07:15.780 But we also have the choice to create our own contracts as individuals.
00:07:18.720 We don't necessarily have to go to the law and sit down.
00:07:22.060 So I agree with you.
00:07:23.220 But the issue is in this country and in the U.S., when you have a child, you're automatically put into that system regardless.
00:07:31.300 You know, I've interviewed divorce attorneys about this.
00:07:33.860 And, you know, I asked one of them if he was afraid of marriage.
00:07:37.320 And he said, no, I'm not afraid of marriage.
00:07:39.360 I could get an ironclad prenup.
00:07:41.020 I'm not afraid of that.
00:07:41.800 But what I am afraid of is having a child because when you have a kid, that kid is not yours. 0.76
00:07:47.360 And you are always at the mercy of her and her family, if they start getting in her ear, her friends, if they start getting in her ear, if she starts watching the wrong stuff on TikTok.
00:07:58.160 And he said, every man thinks that they can prevent it somehow.
00:08:01.420 But you just never know for sure.
00:08:04.120 So, again, back to the decision makers.
00:08:07.500 Right.
00:08:08.060 Was it?
00:08:08.700 I don't know.
00:08:09.360 Because, again, it's a genuine question.
00:08:11.680 Was it a man or a woman that thought it was a good idea to put this contract together that benefits a woman?
00:08:17.840 Because that's what we're saying.
00:08:18.840 It only benefits a woman in the family because nobody wins when the family fights. 0.99
00:08:22.900 So I'll tell you why.
00:08:24.440 Because I had this question, like, why are these laws so hard to change?
00:08:28.120 And so I started interviewing men's rights activists who have been trying to get them changed for years.
00:08:33.400 And their overwhelming consensus is that we cannot get them changed because the politicians can't get their job.
00:08:41.220 They can't get elected unless they cater to the female voters. 1.00
00:08:45.040 And the female voters, unfortunately, for whatever reason, women are very selfish with our voting power. 1.00
00:08:51.820 And we have voted for policies that break down the family.
00:08:55.860 And in the 1920s, you know, we always hear about the suffragettes, so the women that, like, fought for the women to get the right to vote.
00:09:02.340 The terrorists.
00:09:03.160 Yeah.
00:09:03.900 Yeah.
00:09:04.260 But what they don't know is those women, yeah, they were actually, they were known as terrorists. 0.69
00:09:08.560 They planned assassinations.
00:09:09.880 They planned bombings.
00:09:11.140 They were women who couldn't get husbands. 1.00
00:09:12.700 Yeah.
00:09:12.900 Yeah.
00:09:13.140 And that's what they were known as.
00:09:14.780 Yeah.
00:09:14.980 They were known as that in the community.
00:09:16.580 The anti-suffragettes were a movement that were against the suffragettes. 0.94
00:09:19.840 And they said, no, no, no.
00:09:21.500 We cannot let women have the right to vote. 1.00
00:09:23.540 There will be increased spending, and you will see the breakdown of the family unit, and you will see an increase in regulations.
00:09:30.180 Now, it's quite, yeah, it's been 100 years.
00:09:32.740 Who passed the law?
00:09:33.960 No, but that's my point.
00:09:35.700 Women voted to get the laws passed, because those laws were not passed when women did not have voting power. 1.00
00:09:41.560 So, you could argue that a small percentage of men were involved in that decision, but more women are involved in voting than men are involved in politics.
00:09:52.300 So, it's a very small percentage of men where women have overwhelmingly voted to break down the family. 0.63
00:09:58.100 So, we're saying that women had a say in this contract that was put together for them to benefit if the family or when the family breaks.
00:10:06.200 Women, or am I saying women had a say? 1.00
00:10:08.840 Yeah.
00:10:09.140 And when the contract is drawn, is it we all sitting on this table together?
00:10:12.940 Is there a woman at this table that says yes?
00:10:15.080 Yeah.
00:10:15.400 So, someone wrote that contract.
00:10:16.600 Well, it depends, right?
00:10:18.220 So, one, it depends on the state you're in in the U.S., but when you have a child with a woman, you're automatically put, like, you're put into the state system. 0.88
00:10:26.700 So, then, basically, what a woman can do is she can be in a relationship in this country.
00:10:31.380 She can go to a woman's shelter. 1.00
00:10:33.240 And the overwhelming response that I've gotten is that these women's domestic abuse shelters, that they have stories that they tell you to say about your husband.
00:10:41.260 So, if he has, say, a Nigerian background, you say this story.
00:10:44.560 If he has a Muslim background, you say this story.
00:10:46.940 If he has a British background, you say this story.
00:10:49.140 So, they go there.
00:10:50.340 They get these stories.
00:10:51.920 And then, what they can do is they make one phone call, and the police can kick a guy out of his house because they accuse him of abuse.
00:11:00.740 And what women typically do, and you see women do this in conversation, is they change the definition of things. 1.00
00:11:06.100 So, if I say, she's fat. 1.00
00:11:07.980 They say, oh, no, she's not fat. 1.00
00:11:09.180 She's chubby. 1.00
00:11:09.920 They've done that legally, right?
00:11:11.720 So, when you say, oh, she was abused, it used to just be a man hitting a woman.
00:11:16.760 So, women come in, and they expand, and they change the definition. 1.00
00:11:19.720 So, what they did was they switched the definition of abuse.
00:11:22.440 They added emotional abuse.
00:11:23.780 That's very subjective.
00:11:25.620 They changed the definition of rape.
00:11:28.020 It used to be forced sex. 0.99
00:11:29.540 Okay, you know what that is. 0.65
00:11:30.540 Someone grabs you off the side of the road, right?
00:11:32.700 Now, it's sex without consent.
00:11:34.460 Subjective.
00:11:34.860 And they added the word sexual assault into the language.
00:11:38.640 What does that mean? 0.99
00:11:39.560 Most people don't even, you know, now they're saying someone hits your butt. 0.99
00:11:44.260 That's the same thing as an assault, you know. 0.98
00:11:47.620 I don't know.
00:11:48.780 Even in this country, you can get arrested for staring or whistling.
00:11:53.300 I don't know how long marriage has been.
00:11:56.600 It's on the train.
00:11:57.860 It's on the train.
00:11:58.560 There are posters on the train that say, if you see someone looking at you, sexually report to the police.
00:12:03.980 Wow.
00:12:04.860 And so, unfortunately, when women get power, we're just not good with it. 1.00
00:12:09.880 I don't know why we're like this.
00:12:11.880 But, you know, and the women... 1.00
00:12:13.140 Because we're more agreeable.
00:12:13.800 We're more neurotic.
00:12:14.700 It's all about personality.
00:12:15.640 Yeah.