JustPearlyThings - March 22, 2023


Men Are NOT Afforded this Luxury


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

210.3624

Word Count

1,666

Sentence Count

268

Misogynist Sentences

13

Hate Speech Sentences

9


Summary

In this episode, I sit down with my Aunt Jenny and talk about her life and how she deals with men. She talks about her experience with men, how she has dealt with men in her life, and how to deal with them.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Can I just say where my frustrations come from?
00:00:02.380 Like you're going about going back to history.
00:00:04.940 I was 12 years old and I come to England.
00:00:07.100 I was English born, went to Barbados, come back and I was told, go back to the jungle.
00:00:11.440 You know, so it all happened.
00:00:12.940 I was 12 years old.
00:00:14.580 And what I don't, what I feel, Pearl can say, Pearl knows.
00:00:19.340 Some of the women that come on this show and I blast them, I give them my personal number.
00:00:25.140 To say, well, you know, if you want to change, help me.
00:00:28.220 And then I've got the men on Instagram.
00:00:30.680 That I mentor on Instagram.
00:00:32.940 Who do you think calls me up regular?
00:00:34.620 The men.
00:00:35.060 I have never had a woman.
00:00:36.800 I have never had a 18 year old girl.
00:00:39.860 My therapy practice is men.
00:00:41.080 With four men.
00:00:42.180 I gave them my number.
00:00:43.180 I've had numerous people on this show, women, young girls, under 21, that I've tried to help.
00:00:49.540 And do they take it now?
00:00:50.540 Because she's old school.
00:00:51.680 But yet the men, the men that I talk to, or the men that hear me, they'll phone me up.
00:00:56.500 Oh, Archie Jenny, can you give me some help?
00:00:58.680 Can you advise me?
00:00:59.600 I have had the men phone up the show.
00:01:02.100 And then I've said, no, you're fat.
00:01:04.040 Just like that.
00:01:05.060 You're fat.
00:01:05.660 You need to get to the gym.
00:01:07.300 And the guys will come back and they'll show me.
00:01:09.560 One guy came back and I looked at him and I thought, do I recognize you?
00:01:12.820 Well, guess what?
00:01:14.040 The men will lose weight.
00:01:14.220 The men will lose weight.
00:01:14.280 He lost weight.
00:01:15.780 The men.
00:01:15.960 Yes, me too.
00:01:17.040 He got himself a girlfriend.
00:01:18.380 He was doing great.
00:01:19.660 She's right.
00:01:20.000 But the girls.
00:01:20.560 She's right.
00:01:21.000 The men don't listen.
00:01:22.780 But see, men can't be forever victims.
00:01:25.600 Because nobody cares about them.
00:01:26.640 Nobody cares about their problems.
00:01:28.440 Men are abusive.
00:01:29.280 Look at Johnny Depp.
00:01:30.060 But they talk to me about their problems and they change.
00:01:32.580 Well, it's because.
00:01:33.080 They take the advice from me.
00:01:34.780 But the women don't.
00:01:35.940 Well, it's because the hardest thing to do is change yourself.
00:01:38.440 You have to live with yourself every day.
00:01:40.780 And men actually look to solve problems.
00:01:42.780 Women just look to feel better most of the time.
00:01:45.820 Yeah.
00:01:46.040 I mean, yeah.
00:01:49.480 Yeah.
00:01:50.520 Sorry, go ahead.
00:01:51.160 Go ahead.
00:01:51.280 No, because there's even a guy.
00:01:53.000 I think his tag is fling fuck on it.
00:01:55.320 But he's.
00:01:55.960 That's the way it's spelled.
00:01:57.160 But he's.
00:01:57.680 He's not.
00:01:58.120 No.
00:01:58.680 I have the men phoning me up on my Instagram.
00:02:01.400 But the women never phone up.
00:02:03.540 You sit here and you say the same things over and over again.
00:02:07.160 You try and give them help.
00:02:08.380 And then they walk out of there.
00:02:09.380 It's like.
00:02:10.160 Oh.
00:02:10.820 She doesn't know nothing.
00:02:11.540 But can I say this to you?
00:02:13.980 If you hit me up.
00:02:15.040 My Instagram.
00:02:15.780 I'll give it to you.
00:02:17.060 Okay.
00:02:17.520 If you want to talk.
00:02:18.440 Sure.
00:02:19.140 I promise you.
00:02:20.280 No, it's my responsibility.
00:02:21.840 It's not.
00:02:22.380 And no, no.
00:02:23.640 Don't feel like you're bothering me.
00:02:25.820 It's my job.
00:02:27.300 God has put me on this earth just to.
00:02:30.180 You know, for myself.
00:02:31.340 Why do you think that though?
00:02:32.940 What makes you think that?
00:02:35.260 Because.
00:02:35.480 I don't know.
00:02:36.000 I just.
00:02:37.260 I don't know.
00:02:37.980 The way my mother raised me.
00:02:39.540 My father raised me.
00:02:41.560 I don't want you to feel alone.
00:02:43.520 You know.
00:02:43.740 And a lot of young women don't have someone to say something directly to them.
00:02:47.720 But this is the thing I'm going to tell you.
00:02:49.020 Just like Aunt Jenny just said.
00:02:50.900 If you are.
00:02:52.280 I can listen to another opinion.
00:02:54.560 I can listen to if you feel something different.
00:02:56.960 But if I feel like you're bucking.
00:02:58.680 And you're like going to be rebellious.
00:03:00.580 And you're still making choices with the same men.
00:03:02.400 If I tell you.
00:03:03.080 Listen.
00:03:03.560 These are red flags.
00:03:04.460 You got to stop.
00:03:05.380 I do this now.
00:03:06.780 My father's my best friend.
00:03:08.120 My sister.
00:03:08.740 They will tell me automatically.
00:03:09.980 MTR will tell you.
00:03:11.840 I'm scared of my sister.
00:03:13.760 Okay.
00:03:14.200 Like I'm terrified of her.
00:03:16.380 Because she loves me so much.
00:03:18.040 She wants the best for me.
00:03:19.040 She's doing so much improving.
00:03:20.300 But I know.
00:03:21.480 If she's giving me instruction.
00:03:23.200 And I've stepped out.
00:03:25.000 I'm going to get it.
00:03:26.440 She is going to read me.
00:03:28.440 And I'm like terrified of it.
00:03:29.860 But it's a good terrified.
00:03:31.300 Because I know she loves me.
00:03:32.280 She wants the best for me.
00:03:33.840 And she can see me being.
00:03:34.880 If I'm being hard headed.
00:03:36.240 Same thing with my father.
00:03:37.380 So you have to understand.
00:03:38.900 If you reach out for help.
00:03:40.740 Be prepared to receive that help.
00:03:43.360 In the way that it comes.
00:03:44.560 It's not going to come.
00:03:45.440 Always in a pretty package.
00:03:46.820 And it's not going to be.
00:03:47.860 What you want to hear.
00:03:49.000 But if you have a soft heart.
00:03:50.740 And a willing.
00:03:51.620 You have a willing.
00:03:52.660 Your ears are willing to listen.
00:03:54.780 To digest.
00:03:56.080 Doesn't mean you have to be perfect.
00:03:57.860 But if you're going to.
00:03:58.660 You know.
00:03:58.920 So many women.
00:04:00.160 They rebel against older women.
00:04:02.760 They think.
00:04:03.120 Well I'm young.
00:04:03.840 She's old.
00:04:04.320 She don't know any better.
00:04:05.480 And we don't know anything.
00:04:06.600 And we just want you to.
00:04:08.600 Times have changed.
00:04:09.320 It's different.
00:04:10.220 You're right.
00:04:10.700 And it's like.
00:04:11.780 Times have not changed.
00:04:13.000 People are still people.
00:04:14.480 And we can see things from a different perspective.
00:04:16.700 And like.
00:04:17.420 You think she wants you to fail.
00:04:19.820 Even with all her passion and things.
00:04:21.780 Even with that.
00:04:22.360 Do you think she's feeling this fiery.
00:04:24.120 Because she doesn't care.
00:04:25.180 No.
00:04:25.500 Of course not.
00:04:26.280 She's frustrated.
00:04:27.340 Because it's tough love.
00:04:28.820 It is.
00:04:29.380 Tough love is good.
00:04:30.560 I think sometimes sensitive love is also good.
00:04:33.580 I think our society right now at the moment.
00:04:37.240 We're on the topic of modern women.
00:04:39.480 I think modern women need a bit more sensitive.
00:04:42.080 Because I feel like with your last generation.
00:04:46.480 Your parents were really tough on you.
00:04:48.780 And I think a lot of our parents.
00:04:50.840 For example.
00:04:51.600 Like my mum and dad was quite tough on me.
00:04:54.620 But I think our generation is starting to learn more about like psychology.
00:04:58.220 And more about how people actually feel.
00:05:00.580 And how people should be treated.
00:05:01.740 So we've got a bit more sensitive.
00:05:04.020 I actually.
00:05:04.740 I have a very strong feeling on psychology.
00:05:07.200 I think the more we learn about psychology.
00:05:09.340 The more crazy you become.
00:05:10.400 I think yeah.
00:05:11.360 Do you think?
00:05:11.960 Yeah.
00:05:12.300 I say this.
00:05:12.880 I'm getting my master's in psychology.
00:05:15.020 Yeah.
00:05:15.520 Not because I want it.
00:05:16.560 But because I needed a visa.
00:05:18.360 Is that it?
00:05:19.180 And I thought it would be easy.
00:05:20.420 To be honest.
00:05:21.260 Kind of is.
00:05:23.480 And.
00:05:24.820 Yeah.
00:05:25.240 Everyone in the program is crazy.
00:05:26.600 I'm not saying there are exceptions.
00:05:27.700 But literally they're all nuts.
00:05:28.900 Literally insane.
00:05:29.480 Yeah.
00:05:31.320 I think.
00:05:31.980 But I don't.
00:05:32.960 I actually disagree with you.
00:05:34.460 I think that we need more tough love.
00:05:36.160 I don't think anyone.
00:05:37.040 I don't think.
00:05:37.800 Everyone lies to women.
00:05:39.120 Whenever men tell us what they want.
00:05:40.880 Society lies to us.
00:05:42.200 I was going to say that.
00:05:42.800 She didn't say that.
00:05:43.800 What?
00:05:44.260 She said.
00:05:44.660 Didn't she say you need to be more sensitive to modern women?
00:05:46.880 I was a.
00:05:47.200 Yeah.
00:05:47.400 She said.
00:05:47.880 No.
00:05:48.060 I did say that.
00:05:49.120 I did say that.
00:05:49.800 No.
00:05:50.000 She said you need to be more sensitive.
00:05:51.160 You need the opposite.
00:05:51.860 You need the absolute opposite.
00:05:53.320 That's what I said.
00:05:53.860 I said we need to be tougher.
00:05:55.380 Yeah.
00:05:55.520 No but she said she wants you to be more sensitive.
00:05:59.940 Yeah.
00:06:00.540 Can I ask you a question?
00:06:02.040 So this happened at 17 years old.
00:06:03.520 Yeah.
00:06:03.800 And how old are you right now?
00:06:04.900 I'm 21.
00:06:06.000 Okay.
00:06:06.200 This happened three, four years ago.
00:06:07.520 Three, four years ago.
00:06:08.280 Yeah.
00:06:08.920 Do you still consider yourself a victim of that?
00:06:11.320 No.
00:06:12.160 I consider myself as someone who survived it and somebody that like I feel like I could
00:06:19.340 have done a lot of things better.
00:06:20.440 I could have left a lot of times when I didn't leave but I felt like I was just sort of sucked
00:06:26.840 into like a cycle where I felt like I couldn't get out.
00:06:32.420 Can I just say something young lady right?
00:06:33.920 What you need to do right is say to yourself I'm a survivor.
00:06:38.300 I'm not a victim.
00:06:39.300 Yeah.
00:06:39.520 That's the first thing.
00:06:40.220 No, I'm serious.
00:06:41.800 You see what I mean?
00:06:42.760 You see what I mean?
00:06:43.400 Yeah, it's not a game.
00:06:44.540 I'm not joking.
00:06:45.580 No, but I'm not joking.
00:06:46.680 I mean to be four years outside of the situation happening and it's still drawing tears out
00:06:50.560 of you.
00:06:51.080 No, I mean like it ended recently as in like it started about 16, 17.
00:06:55.980 Why were you in it?
00:06:56.880 You were in it for four years as an adult and you didn't remove yourself from the situation?
00:07:01.540 Yes.
00:07:02.100 And again, like I said, it's a mistake that I made.
00:07:04.440 That's why you need more tough love because you've gotten pandered to.
00:07:07.800 You've gotten coddled to.
00:07:08.920 But I didn't.
00:07:09.480 That's why you stayed in that situation.
00:07:10.080 I didn't necessarily get coddled because again, the only people that I was seeking advice
00:07:14.960 You needed a father to step into the situation and say, what are you doing?
00:07:17.800 He's obviously, he's obviously not into you.
00:07:20.260 He's obviously doing, he's obviously, right.
00:07:22.640 But that's tough love.
00:07:23.700 So you don't need more of bit this.
00:07:26.340 You don't need more babying.
00:07:27.660 You need someone to step in and say, this is, this is what a man is.
00:07:30.660 This is how a man should act.
00:07:32.260 And if he is not that version, then you need to step, you need to go somewhere else.
00:07:38.840 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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