JustPearlyThings - March 26, 2023


Men DON'T Want A Woman With Kids


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10 minutes

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2,098

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250

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25

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10

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19

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In this episode, we talk about waiting 6 years for the woman you want and how to deal with it. We also talk about how to handle a situation where a guy you are in a relationship with has been with someone for 6 years and you are still waiting for them to come back to you.

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00:00:00.000 Guys, are you waiting six years?
00:00:02.860 Six years for the woman that you want. 0.99
00:00:04.660 He didn't wait.
00:00:05.820 Hang on, six years for the woman that you want. 1.00
00:00:08.540 And during those six years, you can see she's got with X, Y, and Z man.
00:00:12.360 And then you're like, yeah.
00:00:14.260 I've got her up in six years. 0.55
00:00:16.060 It depends.
00:00:17.300 Are you doing that?
00:00:18.400 Yeah, no, I'm not doing that.
00:00:19.760 Bro, I ain't doing that.
00:00:21.340 She's in the public either.
00:00:22.460 No, hang on, go on, go on to me, bro.
00:00:23.700 Yeah, there's no way I could do that.
00:00:24.840 For me, personally, even in the past,
00:00:26.940 when I think of people who have tried to do that,
00:00:28.800 where they want to come back and be like,
00:00:29.960 oh yeah, you know what, I actually like you.
00:00:32.180 It's like, wait, so you like me when you went out with him,
00:00:34.340 him, him, her, and him.
00:00:37.940 Do you know why?
00:00:39.520 It's different if it's Girlfriend Road,
00:00:41.300 because the guy she was with. 0.94
00:00:42.300 It's worse.
00:00:42.920 Now, when it's on a public platform,
00:00:45.020 and she probably got with famous rappers, etc, etc,
00:00:48.760 it's because they're already public.
00:00:51.160 So people are just going to know about it.
00:00:52.600 Because gossip is popular.
00:00:54.120 No, but she curbed him for six years.
00:00:58.340 And the thing is, remember,
00:00:59.300 That's a long time.
00:01:00.800 It's a long time.
00:01:01.760 And this is what I talk about.
00:01:02.620 He didn't wait for her, though.
00:01:04.000 He definitely had other tunes.
00:01:05.360 That's not the point.
00:01:06.380 He still tried.
00:01:07.080 Hang on, wait, wait.
00:01:07.580 In his song in 2016,
00:01:09.120 he mentioned her in one of his songs in 2016.
00:01:12.120 This gets worse.
00:01:12.580 Right?
00:01:13.000 Saying that he wanted her in 2016.
00:01:16.900 She was with her man.
00:01:18.320 Cool.
00:01:18.720 That's fine.
00:01:19.120 She was with her man.
00:01:19.580 Her man died in 2018.
00:01:21.580 Died in 2018.
00:01:24.580 She, in 2018, went to Lil' Romeo.
00:01:28.080 But maybe...
00:01:29.320 Hang on.
00:01:29.540 She didn't go to him.
00:01:30.500 Right?
00:01:31.300 And so, after Lil' Romeo,
00:01:33.200 then she went to Danny Jacobs.
00:01:34.600 And he's still expressing interest.
00:01:36.100 He was in next in line.
00:01:37.420 And then, after Danny Jacobs,
00:01:40.820 she's like,
00:01:41.560 I'll give you a chance now.
00:01:43.660 And he's like,
00:01:45.060 Yes!
00:01:46.320 It's like, 1.00
00:01:46.900 that's some simp shit. 0.99
00:01:48.400 I feel like it's... 1.00
00:01:49.220 That's when he's dickhead next in line. 0.99
00:01:51.480 He's third choice. 0.99
00:01:52.680 He's been waiting for his third.
00:01:53.920 I can't lie.
00:01:54.520 Even as a woman, 0.99
00:01:55.440 I would know, man.
00:01:57.140 Especially a man, 0.83
00:01:58.060 if you're doing that, 1.00
00:01:58.800 you're a dickhead. 0.99
00:01:59.900 I'm so sorry. 1.00
00:02:00.640 Really?
00:02:01.540 I feel like the pens go.
00:02:02.680 For what?
00:02:02.980 Me as a woman,
00:02:05.000 I'm not doing that.
00:02:05.780 If you curve me once,
00:02:07.180 I'm never shawing you again.
00:02:08.440 Right.
00:02:09.000 Best no.
00:02:09.740 And if a man does that,
00:02:11.120 if he keeps shouting me
00:02:12.080 and shouting me,
00:02:12.740 I'm just going to look at you
00:02:13.580 like a beg.
00:02:14.900 I'm not going to lie.
00:02:15.420 That's exactly what you're saying.
00:02:16.480 Have you guys never been
00:02:17.720 in a position yet
00:02:18.960 where a guy will try so hard
00:02:20.700 for quite a long time yet?
00:02:23.220 And then you give him that chance?
00:02:24.540 No.
00:02:25.040 After a while?
00:02:25.960 Yeah.
00:02:26.280 No.
00:02:26.580 Yeah.
00:02:26.800 I've been in that position.
00:02:27.620 I feel like you need to see
00:02:28.440 what the record's going to play.
00:02:30.020 Yes, I have.
00:02:30.580 I can't lie.
00:02:31.340 It's either I give you
00:02:32.060 the thingy chance
00:02:33.540 there and then
00:02:34.260 or I'm never giving you the chance.
00:02:35.560 When I can't,
00:02:36.240 I can't.
00:02:36.620 It depends how they do it.
00:02:38.420 I hear that.
00:02:39.500 That was more common.
00:02:40.960 I feel like if I ever
00:02:42.700 gave them a chance,
00:02:44.440 what I realized later
00:02:45.980 was if I really liked you,
00:02:46.920 I would have given you
00:02:47.400 a chance from the job.
00:02:48.200 From the job.
00:02:48.700 That's it.
00:02:48.980 And I think like sometimes
00:02:51.260 you know,
00:02:52.600 you could end up dating them
00:02:53.660 or whatever,
00:02:54.140 but they're still not
00:02:55.020 who you want to be with.
00:02:56.380 Nope.
00:02:56.940 That's it.
00:02:57.400 I guess seeing as we're all
00:02:58.880 kind of single here,
00:03:00.320 that's true.
00:03:01.360 But yeah,
00:03:02.600 it could work out.
00:03:03.760 I don't know.
00:03:04.420 Sorry, go on bro.
00:03:05.120 Yeah, I was thinking
00:03:06.100 it's definitely a case
00:03:07.580 for you single people,
00:03:08.560 but let me not say it like that.
00:03:12.440 Do you know,
00:03:13.020 I'm brought back to,
00:03:13.920 I've been to like three,
00:03:15.140 four weddings this year.
00:03:16.600 Oh, what?
00:03:16.940 One of them was my dad.
00:03:18.680 He got married in Cyprus.
00:03:20.000 Oh, that's nice.
00:03:21.060 Big up daddy.
00:03:22.160 One of them was my uncle Eric.
00:03:23.580 Now my uncle Eric,
00:03:24.440 sadly,
00:03:24.840 he's had some health issues,
00:03:26.740 but his partner,
00:03:29.940 despite his sickness,
00:03:31.760 always loved him.
00:03:33.300 So they were high school sweethearts.
00:03:34.180 That's the whole point
00:03:34.960 of it being in a relationship.
00:03:35.760 They ended up breaking up
00:03:37.340 in their 20s
00:03:38.280 and then they went there
00:03:39.500 for almost 30 years
00:03:41.420 not dating each other,
00:03:42.740 not seeing each other,
00:03:43.400 not speaking to each other.
00:03:44.320 She had a picture of him
00:03:46.260 on her dashboard.
00:03:47.620 She used to just say,
00:03:48.280 oh, that's my man,
00:03:49.100 but not tell people who it was,
00:03:50.580 you know?
00:03:51.440 And now they're married,
00:03:52.600 happily married,
00:03:53.940 beautiful couple,
00:03:55.020 and people wish they were together
00:03:56.580 for years,
00:03:57.600 you know?
00:03:58.420 So.
00:03:58.940 See, that's different though
00:03:59.960 because they were together
00:04:01.000 at some point
00:04:01.740 and they separated.
00:04:03.060 They had different views in life.
00:04:04.540 They wanted to do different things.
00:04:05.800 They didn't click,
00:04:06.800 but they came back years after.
00:04:08.300 That's different.
00:04:09.060 Why did they break up?
00:04:11.160 She wanted something different
00:04:12.860 at the time.
00:04:13.800 Yeah, see what I'm saying?
00:04:14.740 She probably wanted 1.00
00:04:15.440 something different.
00:04:16.060 He wanted something different,
00:04:17.120 but then they came back.
00:04:18.380 But as a woman,
00:04:19.460 if she curved him
00:04:21.140 and he tried for 30 years,
00:04:24.360 after 30 years,
00:04:25.440 and then she gave him
00:04:26.420 that chance,
00:04:27.180 then you know
00:04:28.160 it's not actually
00:04:28.840 because she likes him.
00:04:29.700 I don't know.
00:04:30.520 That sounds sketch to me.
00:04:32.240 I'm like the streets were calling.
00:04:34.860 If she broke up with him,
00:04:37.080 girls don't leave 1.00
00:04:38.340 and hope to do worse
00:04:39.800 or the same.
00:04:43.380 Let's not say anything
00:04:44.460 they're married.
00:04:45.140 I'm just saying.
00:04:46.040 They don't really try
00:04:46.840 to do better.
00:04:47.780 But Pearl, 0.50
00:04:48.540 bear in mind,
00:04:49.280 Angela Simmons
00:04:49.880 is now a widowed
00:04:51.260 single mom
00:04:52.840 and she's 35. 1.00
00:04:54.640 Yeah.
00:04:55.400 You can marry her. 0.98
00:04:56.000 So hang on,
00:04:56.500 but Yo Gotti
00:04:57.220 is a 41-year-old man
00:04:58.860 who's kind of doing well
00:05:00.280 for himself.
00:05:00.860 How many babies?
00:05:01.380 I don't know how many,
00:05:03.840 but what I'm saying is
00:05:04.820 as a 41-year-old man,
00:05:06.480 why is a 35-year-old
00:05:08.320 widowed baby mama
00:05:10.380 your first pick?
00:05:11.880 There's nothing wrong
00:05:12.600 with being a baby mama. 0.99
00:05:13.400 It's love, baby.
00:05:14.040 It's love, baby.
00:05:14.760 It's love, baby.
00:05:14.880 It's love, baby.
00:05:15.800 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:05:17.000 Shout out to the baby mamas. 1.00
00:05:18.920 Shout out to y'all.
00:05:20.020 Wait, wait, wait.
00:05:20.440 Who said there's nothing wrong
00:05:21.700 with being a baby mama? 0.99
00:05:21.920 There's nothing wrong
00:05:22.660 with being a baby mama. 0.99
00:05:23.340 I think you could be
00:05:24.180 a baby mama. 0.94
00:05:24.860 It's love, bro.
00:05:25.420 No, it's not long.
00:05:27.120 You don't understand men.
00:05:28.640 Well, I get that.
00:05:29.360 I don't have a kid,
00:05:30.400 so I can't really say.
00:05:31.720 Yeah, exactly.
00:05:31.740 But what I'm saying,
00:05:33.160 there's nothing wrong
00:05:34.100 because you could have a kid.
00:05:35.380 So you're telling me
00:05:36.220 a woman that has a child
00:05:38.100 shouldn't have a chance to...
00:05:39.580 No, a woman that has a child, 1.00
00:05:41.440 I'm not saying that
00:05:42.100 she doesn't get love. 0.96
00:05:44.400 She's less valued?
00:05:45.360 Yes.
00:05:45.720 She is less valued, of course.
00:05:47.540 I'll tell you why.
00:05:48.620 I'm a man, right?
00:05:49.640 I'm a man.
00:05:50.100 She comes with something else.
00:05:52.220 Men value purity,
00:05:54.220 yeah,
00:05:55.340 and they value youth.
00:05:56.980 This is what I want to say.
00:05:58.220 That's what men value, right?
00:06:00.280 Let's be real.
00:06:00.820 So you've come to me
00:06:02.280 with a man,
00:06:03.380 with a child
00:06:04.280 that is not mine, right?
00:06:06.260 Yeah.
00:06:06.500 When men want to get with a woman, 0.98
00:06:07.940 they want to create a child.
00:06:09.760 Okay.
00:06:10.280 Right?
00:06:10.700 That's generally what they want to do.
00:06:11.420 But then you're looking
00:06:12.080 at the wrong guy, though.
00:06:13.120 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:06:14.560 You don't understand
00:06:15.060 the mind of men.
00:06:15.840 That's what I'm trying to...
00:06:16.180 I'm trying to make...
00:06:16.680 No, I understand.
00:06:17.660 No, but I'm not.
00:06:17.920 Because there is men
00:06:18.600 that would be like,
00:06:19.700 cut it. 0.63
00:06:20.200 Wait, wait, wait.
00:06:21.760 Men want to create 1.00
00:06:23.160 their legacy with a woman, okay?
00:06:25.900 What you're bringing to me
00:06:27.160 is another man's legacy.
00:06:28.680 But guys have bare baby mums. 0.96
00:06:30.260 Yes.
00:06:30.460 And it's okay.
00:06:32.100 That would have been
00:06:32.700 their first intention.
00:06:33.620 That goes back to
00:06:35.620 it's the guys you deal with.
00:06:37.200 Because again,
00:06:37.880 even historically,
00:06:40.080 a good portion of men
00:06:41.580 didn't even reproduce.
00:06:42.460 40% of men
00:06:43.300 didn't even reproduce historically.
00:06:45.040 It's a very small percentage
00:06:46.080 of men
00:06:46.420 that have multiple baby mums. 0.90
00:06:48.060 That's not common.
00:06:49.160 It's common with the men 0.97
00:06:50.180 that you know.
00:06:51.320 No, it's common nowadays.
00:06:52.780 I think it's more common nowadays.
00:06:54.300 Back in the day,
00:06:55.120 it wasn't.
00:06:57.420 It's not common nowadays.
00:06:59.060 It's common with the men 0.97
00:06:59.900 that you guys deal with
00:07:00.800 because those are in the top
00:07:01.580 20% of men.
00:07:02.760 I'm not going to lie.
00:07:03.340 I'm not dealing with
00:07:04.000 no one's baby dad,
00:07:04.880 in it.
00:07:05.180 That's fine.
00:07:05.540 Okay, so.
00:07:06.500 Sorry, go on, go on, go on.
00:07:07.660 So, basically,
00:07:08.960 earlier you were saying
00:07:10.200 you were asking them about
00:07:11.700 them being with a virgin, right?
00:07:15.660 Like, most women don't want to be 1.00
00:07:18.360 with a virgin, right?
00:07:19.540 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 0.73
00:07:20.500 So, go on.
00:07:21.360 For us,
00:07:22.860 would you rather be
00:07:24.500 with someone who slept
00:07:25.540 with five guys
00:07:26.400 or would you be...
00:07:27.700 As a man.
00:07:28.440 Yeah, as a man.
00:07:29.080 As a man,
00:07:29.560 we prefer to teach a woman. 1.00
00:07:30.520 See, that is such an easy answer.
00:07:31.980 You see?
00:07:32.280 Hang on, wait, wait.
00:07:33.420 You're a woman.
00:07:34.120 We're talking about men.
00:07:34.940 I know, but it's easy.
00:07:35.940 Let the men speak.
00:07:36.560 I already know what you're going to say. 0.60
00:07:37.660 You're going to choose a virgin. 0.94
00:07:38.840 Let the men speak.
00:07:39.420 Let the men speak.
00:07:39.980 Come on, sir.
00:07:40.760 No, let the men speak first.
00:07:41.760 Let the men speak.
00:07:42.600 Okay.
00:07:42.760 As men,
00:07:43.280 we prefer to teach a woman 1.00
00:07:45.680 than a woman to be out there 1.00
00:07:47.760 in the streets
00:07:48.280 and she's come to you.
00:07:49.720 Exactly.
00:07:50.320 That's what we prefer generally.
00:07:52.300 Women prefer a man to know 1.00
00:07:54.120 what he's doing,
00:07:56.460 which means he's already
00:07:57.300 been in the streets, right?
00:07:59.040 And then he can teach you.
00:08:01.960 You see?
00:08:02.740 I have a question for the men.
00:08:04.120 How many...
00:08:04.680 Okay, if a girl's a 10, 1.00
00:08:05.740 how many points
00:08:06.560 does it subtract a kid?
00:08:08.340 So, if she's a 10 with no kids, 0.99
00:08:09.940 how many points
00:08:10.660 does a kid subtract?
00:08:11.800 What is she now? 0.97
00:08:12.740 Five.
00:08:13.040 So, she becomes a five? 0.99
00:08:14.560 Five is out.
00:08:15.100 Okay, Sarah, what about you?
00:08:16.900 A 10.
00:08:17.800 Listen, from experience...
00:08:19.420 For each kid,
00:08:20.140 how much does it subtract?
00:08:21.200 From experience,
00:08:22.400 I've been with a woman
00:08:23.220 who's had a child
00:08:24.100 and you could be a 10,
00:08:26.460 you go down to at least a six.
00:08:28.220 Okay, what about you?
00:08:29.100 So, four points.
00:08:29.780 What about you?
00:08:30.800 For me, it would depend on
00:08:32.400 whether she'd allow me
00:08:33.640 to parent as well
00:08:34.640 and it depends on like...
00:08:36.160 Okay, okay.
00:08:37.720 Bro, if you don't want
00:08:38.640 someone's son to tell you,
00:08:39.780 you're not my dad.
00:08:40.720 Yeah, exactly.
00:08:41.400 You don't want to deal with that, bro.
00:08:42.680 Okay, I'm just asking...
00:08:43.840 But who's baby mom wants you though, 0.98
00:08:45.300 please?
00:08:45.440 That's the name of the bear
00:08:46.340 in mind, my team.
00:08:48.520 I'm just asking
00:08:49.680 how many...
00:08:51.060 10 minus how much?
00:08:53.340 It would depend on the relationship.
00:08:55.660 I'd only say one point.
00:08:57.420 One point?
00:08:58.000 No, it's not one point.
00:08:58.740 See?
00:08:58.920 So everyone's different.
00:09:00.200 Everyone's different.
00:09:00.900 Hang on, wait, wait.
00:09:01.660 Do you know what you say at one point?
00:09:02.760 Because you haven't experienced it.
00:09:03.760 Yeah.
00:09:03.940 No, I will also say though,
00:09:05.400 the reason why both of you
00:09:06.740 are saying what you're saying
00:09:07.560 is because you are with women
00:09:09.160 who didn't make space for you.
00:09:10.360 I'm not with a woman. 1.00
00:09:11.280 I'm not with a woman. 1.00
00:09:11.700 But at the time,
00:09:12.540 you were with women
00:09:13.320 who didn't make the space for you
00:09:14.600 to be a parent
00:09:15.200 in that situation as well.
00:09:17.100 And because you weren't
00:09:18.380 in that situation,
00:09:19.160 it was terrible
00:09:20.060 because you had no respect,
00:09:22.100 which is what we've been speaking about.
00:09:23.240 You want to be in a relationship
00:09:24.120 with respect.
00:09:25.040 But can I say something?
00:09:25.940 You can't be a parent
00:09:27.060 to someone else's child.
00:09:28.680 I'm not going to lie.
00:09:29.540 You can't.
00:09:30.140 But bro,
00:09:31.040 let me tell you something.
00:09:31.660 Someone else's child.
00:09:32.320 A woman who has... 0.97
00:09:33.800 That's not true.
00:09:34.600 Calm down.
00:09:35.920 A woman who has a child 0.99
00:09:37.960 will let you know
00:09:39.320 it's their child.
00:09:40.720 Yeah.
00:09:41.140 That's my point.
00:09:42.040 They will not let you...
00:09:43.000 I'm saying
00:09:44.680 a woman who has a child
00:09:46.800 who is theirs
00:09:47.940 will,
00:09:49.300 whether consciously
00:09:50.020 or subconsciously,
00:09:51.200 let you know
00:09:51.740 that's not your child.
00:09:53.740 As many of you know,
00:09:54.820 I was just banned
00:09:55.960 on TikTok
00:09:56.880 and we are demonetized
00:09:58.600 on a daily basis
00:09:59.840 on this platform.
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