JustPearlyThings - Men REFUSED to Get Married Because of These

00:00:00.000 hmm

00:00:02.580 Okay, so what about you men marriage?

00:00:07.180 The traditional Western marriage. Yeah

00:00:10.060 They don't gain nothing as she said previously they can get everything without being married on a

00:00:16.300 Contracts okay, they need to sign a contract you can get it all okay. What about you Sterling?

00:00:22.280 What should a guy get out of marriage? Well, I mean cow milking 1.00

00:00:25.360 Chicken coop building and yes and maintenance. Yeah

00:00:31.520 What a guy can get is anyone there's any really one thing that a guy can actually get out of like a traditional like legal

00:00:39.680 Government marriage and that's immigration papers. Yeah 0.99

00:00:46.820 Passport and another passport

00:00:50.320 That's the only circumstance

00:00:52.320 I

00:00:54.320 Also, also, I think potential alibi

00:01:03.820 Actually, I like that they've mentioned it all that there's what there is like nuance depending on how complex your business is

00:01:10.720 You can put things in your wife's name that you couldn't put in a girlfriend's name documents

00:01:15.340 So there are

00:01:17.340 Paper for what paper?

00:01:19.340 Paper for paper

00:01:21.340 If there's no benefit in it, if there's no benefit for a man, why are you seeking that?

00:01:25.580 I don't want to get legally married. I would get religiously married 0.99

00:01:29.920 Okay, because that's like for me that's in your mind ideally

00:01:34.780 Well government has nothing to do with it

00:01:36.780 Yeah, yeah

00:01:38.780 Keeping the government is done in a church with a priest and then maybe a couple of family members, but it's it's under God

00:01:44.240 It's not state. There's no goddamn business in it. Like that's that's why yeah 0.98

00:01:48.280 Um, and probably probably because I I would primarily choose

00:01:54.360 Well, and he's marrying a below 25 0.99

00:02:01.160 Like there there's some benefit, you know, but loads of benefit

00:02:06.680 Yeah, he's not getting the old ladies, right? 1.00

00:02:09.320 Um, okay, uh, why okay, what do you think?

00:02:18.280 Yeah, I mean if we're thinking actual

00:02:21.800 Physical what can you gain? I think that you've said everything really. Um, I think if it's not a

00:02:29.240 Legal marriage and it's a say a religious marriage. Um, you know what what you should gain 0.82

00:02:34.120 If we say in an ideal world where women aren't incentivized to get divorced and take the kids in an ideal world 1.00

00:02:39.560 You should get what the vows are someone who is undoubtedly gonna follow your lead

00:02:44.440 Doesn't need to have everything ran by them 0.96

00:02:46.520 It's just gonna let you do whatever you want not do what you want

00:02:49.800 Like, you know, if you if you say i'm gonna

00:02:52.920 Go out and and do something that's gonna get you hurt, you know

00:02:55.960 You would you would try and say maybe don't do that

00:02:57.640 But if they do it at the end of the day

00:02:58.760 Like it's someone who's gonna stay with you in sickness and in health till death do us part

00:03:02.520 Till death do us part not when i'm no longer happy and I decide that I deserve something else at 55 or whatever

00:03:10.600 It may be it should be what the vows are but that we don't live in an ideal world

00:03:14.600 So yeah, you don't really get anything out of it

00:03:16.600 That was a good answer. Good answer. You guys are creative

00:03:20.920 What about you? What do you think men should get out of marriage?

00:03:24.040 Well, I mean what they should get is the vows like she said

00:03:27.000 What I believe that they should get

00:03:29.640 Is if i'm gonna marry you you should start building my credit score or something

00:03:34.040 because 0.74

00:03:36.040 You're cheeky

00:03:38.040 Oh that's something else actually um in rare cases, I think you could gain um status

00:03:47.800 Credit so like where you went you mentioned about credit scores. So for example

00:03:52.280 Um, you know when you get married

00:03:55.000 You go to get a mortgage if you're with someone who say the woman's got a better credit score 1.00

00:04:00.520 You know that way you guys might be able to get a house

00:04:03.080 Not her benefiting you

00:04:04.280 Or a guarantor

00:04:05.080 Yeah

00:04:05.880 Yeah

00:04:07.080 I mean that's the case

00:04:07.960 Yeah

00:04:08.520 But other than that

00:04:09.960 If you get Bill Gates' daughter

00:04:14.760 King had some strong thoughts on that relationship, huh King

00:04:18.760 My man smiled

00:04:23.480 Okay, what do you what do you think?

00:04:25.000 If we're talking on the basis of the terminology

00:04:27.960 marriage, I just believe nothing

00:04:30.280 I do agree with the vows and I do agree with what um Sterling said

00:04:34.520 So and just respect

00:04:36.120 And it should be the original vows

00:04:37.720 Yes

00:04:37.960 I want to clarify that because

00:04:39.240 Yeah

00:04:40.280 I have spoken to people I know

00:04:44.120 And asked them about the vow of uh

00:04:46.840 To

00:04:47.960 I think it's to submit and obey

00:04:50.120 And almost everyone says that they chose to have that taken out

00:04:53.000 But it's the main part of marriage

00:04:54.200 They do

00:04:54.600 And I think that's disgusting

00:04:55.800 Yeah

00:04:57.640 So I guess the summary of all of this is that

00:05:00.440 Marriage by the state is designed for women 0.98

00:05:03.240 Correct

00:05:03.800 Yeah

00:05:05.160 A thousand percent

00:05:06.120 Do you want to pull up the video King?

00:05:08.520 Do the song one first

00:05:15.480 So I was on Twitter

00:05:17.080 And I saw this amazing song

00:05:18.760 I actually I covered it

00:05:19.960 I covered it on Pearl Daily today

00:05:21.560 Mm-hmm

00:05:22.360 Um wanted to get you guys's take

00:05:25.480 Um

00:05:27.160 Oh my gosh

00:05:31.160 My bad

00:05:35.000 My grandma paid me by the pound

00:05:38.680 Said I should try to slim it down

00:05:43.080 Went to meetings with my mom

00:05:46.680 Less I ate the more they applauded

00:05:49.800 Being hungry made me feel so proud

00:05:57.880 Still not full yet ten years

00:06:00.680 I didn't know why to hate myself

00:06:08.680 Till I learned it from someone else

00:06:11.400 Didn't see what was wrong with me

00:06:13.400 Didn't see what was wrong with me

00:06:15.400 Just lived in my body

00:06:20.040 Did my best to lose the weight

00:06:23.720 Hoping the hurt would go away 0.99

00:06:27.480 But damn skinny feels just the same 0.99

00:06:30.600 I'll always carry it in my body 0.99

00:06:40.840 Um okay so Christine what'd you think of that

00:06:43.640 Is that a joke she's joking right

00:06:50.360 No no I think it's serious

00:06:53.320 Yeah

00:06:55.400 So I don't know I thought potential heart disease feels the same as not potential heart disease

00:06:59.800 Is that what she's saying

00:07:00.760 I guess I don't know I I was thinking that was such a good opportunity like money wise

00:07:07.320 I was like you can make like 200 bucks

00:07:08.840 She said she tried really I mean no doubt she can sing right

00:07:11.560 Oh

00:07:12.120 I can sing

00:07:12.680 Great pair of lungs

00:07:13.560 Yeah

00:07:15.400 But you I tried so hard

00:07:19.080 I mean if you tried that hard you wouldn't look like that

00:07:21.160 But she said that so she said being skinny and being big is the same so

00:07:26.360 Skinnier version of her now

00:07:28.360 Where's where's the skinny version

00:07:29.480 Yeah

00:07:29.720 Maybe she was bigger 1.00

00:07:30.360 I should have showed her

00:07:32.440 Yeah

00:07:32.600 They should have showed her

00:07:33.320 Show the comparison of

00:07:35.400 What do you what do you think of the song Sterling

00:07:37.720 That's an American accent right

00:07:39.160 Yeah

00:07:39.400 Yeah

00:07:39.640 I'm pretty sure that it sounds like an American

00:07:41.480 I think the thing that people get so wrong with like

00:07:44.920 Weight loss is like

00:07:46.760 They think it's a case of

00:07:48.600 Oh like

00:07:49.080 Endless like you need like endless discipline and you track every calorie and all this kind of stuff

00:07:55.640 It's it's a lot

00:07:57.960 It's a lot easier to lose weight if you just have a bit of an education about like

00:08:03.320 Hormones and how they affect your body like

00:08:06.040 Want it look at this lady over here 1.00

00:08:08.120 Yeah, it looks stunning for her age

00:08:12.120 Right the way you're the way you're eating

00:08:14.840 Is producing a certain result in your body right

00:08:17.480 It's and and

00:08:19.080 Being American like I guarantee that woman is eating food that is 1.00

00:08:22.840 Empty it's empty there's nothing in it

00:08:25.640 She's she's she's

00:08:26.680 But she's starving herself as well

00:08:28.200 Yeah, it's just that she's starving herself

00:08:29.320 She'll tell you what my breakfast was

00:08:31.560 But that woman 1.00

00:08:33.000 What I was gonna say was that woman 0.90

00:08:35.000 Even though she's like even when she's not starving herself, she's still starving herself

00:08:39.080 Yeah

00:08:39.400 Because there's not 0.99

00:08:40.520 American food is the biggest pile of trash 1.00

00:08:43.400 It's all poison 1.00

00:08:44.440 So everything she's eating even when she's trying to eat

00:08:46.840 Yes, that's why you're gonna grow your own chickens and grown cows and stuff

00:08:49.800 And then she can probably do it because American land is very cheap 1.00

00:08:51.720 But like even if she's trying to like

00:08:55.560 Eat healthy and stuff it's gonna be like low fat. It's gonna be packed full of sugar

00:08:58.920 It's just there's so much deception around like weight loss and how to do it correctly

00:09:03.320 This is me off honestly when I see a woman like get 1.00

00:09:06.440 That woman could be gorgeous. Yeah, she could be gorgeous. Why isn't she gorgeous? 1.00

00:09:11.480 She's because she's quite overweight 1.00

00:09:13.480 So weight equates equates to beauty

00:09:17.240 It doesn't make you prettier. That's it doesn't make you pretty

00:09:20.280 You will get prettier when you are at a healthy weight, but I think pretty is subjective

00:09:26.760 To your not not to men

00:09:29.640 No, it's not because who the men with the most option date the same types of chicks

00:09:34.840 So it like it's like saying like men that can't sleep with anyone else

00:09:38.760 Will sleep with ugly overweight chicks, but the men with the most options don't do it 1.00

00:09:43.320 If you look at leonardo dicaprio if you look at the hottest most successful men who they think 0.97

00:09:48.120 According to whoever is looking at

00:09:50.360 This is a question that has has pondered in human history for as long as we can remember

00:09:55.560 And I actually did a video on my channel go check it out guys is beauty subjective or objective

00:10:00.280 But the point is there has to be an objective standard for beauty

00:10:04.280 Otherwise, how have we?

00:10:07.320 Decided what we like all over history take it away from human beings, right?

00:10:11.240 We can all agree that certain architecture is more beautiful than other architecture

00:10:16.520 So there is an objective standard there that we are aware of at least most people are somewhat aware of

00:10:22.360 But I feel like people feed themselves this lie that because people have certain preferences to things that they might

00:10:29.240 Find attractive in someone that say someone else might that doesn't take away from the fact that there is such thing as objective beauty

00:10:36.120 They've done multiple studies on this that find for example people whose faces are more symmetrical

00:10:41.080 Most people will agree that those people are more attractive than people who have less symmetrical faces

00:10:46.360 There's actually something called the golden ratio, which is a number that appears in all of nature

00:10:50.680 I'm talking across cells to plants to human beings to buildings

00:10:56.360 I can't remember than that the number now for the life of me

00:10:58.280 It's like a really crazy number like 6.18 something that was something

00:11:02.360 But when you see this ratio reflected in a human beings face not only that in their body as well

00:11:08.040 Like how their body looks there is an objective standard that generally most people will find attractive

00:11:14.040 That's not to say like everything there is always exceptions to the rule

00:11:17.720 But there is an objective beauty standard that's not something created by society to make people feel bad about themselves

00:11:23.400 That's just human nature in the same way that peacocks they do that thing where they display themselves in a certain way

00:11:29.640 That's because the other peacocks will agree

00:11:31.640 We like that and we can't forget that we are animals too

00:11:34.440 And we do have something that we all like and can agree is mostly attractive

00:11:39.000 Okay, well said

00:11:41.800 Most men just like women 1.00

00:11:44.840 Women they like it. What did you think of the song?

00:11:48.600 Hey, she sounds hot 1.00

00:11:53.240 She seems sad. Yeah, she seems sad

00:11:56.280 Well, I my question is I don't understand why she took it as an insult

00:12:00.760 When like clearly you're gonna have more problem

00:12:02.760 You're gonna have more problems later on if you're heavier

00:12:06.120 And like you can either take it as an insult and be the victim or you can take it as your family trying to love and to help you

00:12:13.000 Try to incentivize you to save your own life. Yeah

00:12:15.240 Yeah, what do you find for people that want to lose weight?

00:12:19.640 What do you think the best way to do it is I think something more along the lines of like

00:12:23.960 Maybe not necessarily like extreme carnival but like just like I personally like the structure of the paleo diet

00:12:30.680 Because it's basically just it and people people misconstrue it as actually being like full-on carnival

00:12:34.840 But it's really all it really is is like eat meat and veg

00:12:39.240 It's no carbs, isn't it?

00:12:40.680 It ain't that complicated

00:12:41.640 Not necessarily you can eat like you can add you can add potatoes and sweet potatoes

00:12:44.760 Or is that keto?

00:12:45.720 Potatoes and sweet potatoes are fine. Keto is totally no-carb

00:12:48.120 That's the extreme

00:12:49.240 But like if you if you paleo you're basically eating like a colorful array of vegetables good meat

00:12:55.080 A few carbs here in there. It's it's but it's all it's real food. Yeah, it's actually food

00:12:59.720 You know, it came out of the ground, you know, it didn't come out of a factory

00:13:03.240 It's really it's not it's that ain't rocket science. That's actually really really simple to do

00:13:07.320 Yeah

00:13:07.720 And you can and if you just know like all you need is like two or three good recipes

00:13:12.040 You'll get shredded

00:13:13.320 But you know what before all of that you need to have the right mindset

00:13:16.280 You don't want to need to have to want it. Yeah, you need that one

00:13:18.600 You need to be in that right frame of mind

00:13:20.200 I've even get to that before you because all the food we eat nowadays is so addictive

00:13:25.720 It's so it's designed to like get you hooked

00:13:29.400 And if we're talking about the food that you said, yeah, sorry

00:13:32.360 You said the family is essentially incentivizing her to bear herself

00:13:35.800 You know a lot of I can hear in my head a lot of people saying

00:13:39.640 Oh, but you know, they could they could put it nicer and you know, we should we should case how she feels 0.99

00:13:45.160 This really bugs me this idea that how you deliver a message

00:13:51.000 If you put it nicer, it's gonna make a difference

00:13:53.560 Actually, the truth is the biggest change comes from the harshest delivery

00:13:58.360 If you are told something if someone really really insults you that automatically in your brain

00:14:03.800 Hopefully if you've got a healthy mind and not a victim mindset that says well, I'm gonna prove you wrong

00:14:08.760 Whereas if I go, you know

00:14:12.760 I've noticed that you maybe you're getting a bit bigger

00:14:15.480 How do you feel like that gives the person who's receiving that message every excuse under the sun to go?

00:14:20.680 Well, they're still being nice. So it can't be that bad

00:14:23.560 Whereas if you're straight up 0.99

00:14:25.880 You are gonna kill yourself. You're huge 1.00

00:14:28.680 They're gonna go shit right and get their act together. It's more abrupt. Yeah 0.99

00:14:32.360 As harsh as it sounds, but actually I think harshness can be the kindest policy because it just it gets it done

00:14:38.920 It's it's it's a sharp, you know, rip the plaster off

00:14:41.960 But it gets it done

00:14:43.000 Yeah, I mean you wouldn't you wouldn't mince words if like a family member of yours was shooting up heroin all the time

00:14:47.480 No, you're not gonna like sugarcoat that 0.99

00:14:51.080 You're gonna kill yourself 0.67

00:14:54.120 Well, and I was thinking I'm like, I mean, she's pretty big. She could have made a decent amount of money 0.98

00:14:58.440 She said five dollars per pound. That's like 50 bucks for 10 pounds. I mean like I think she's well

00:15:07.080 That's a terrible return on investment in terms of time spent no, but okay hear me out hear me out

00:15:11.960 Okay, she looks like like late 20s. Maybe okay back then when you were a kid like

00:15:21.240 That was a lot of money

00:15:23.240 I would have been excited

00:15:25.240 If anything, it was an opportunity for you know, you could get like cash

00:15:31.720 I was doing lemonade stands from a young age

00:15:36.760 I think the biggest problem I have with this weight issue thing is

00:15:41.080 We live in a society where people have kind of made it. Okay, and I understand that you can be

00:15:48.600 Comfortable in your body you can

00:15:50.680 Do all of that but the problem with that is that if you look at reality reality

00:15:55.160 Always tells the truth you can't escape reality

00:15:57.720 There's a reason why you don't see so many overweight old people 1.00

00:16:02.120 There's a reason for that. That's because they die before they get to that age

00:16:06.440 Most of most of the old people you see walking around are not overweight

00:16:10.280 So if if you can't look at reality and look at the truth that is waiting ahead of you that just means that you

00:16:16.040 You're essentially saying that

00:16:18.680 um

00:16:19.480 You don't care about your future you don't because I just find it weird like if I if I were to look out into the world

00:16:25.480 And see the face that men face

00:16:27.480 There's a reason why I don't do crime because I can look out into the world and see what happens to people that do crime

00:16:32.200 So it should be the same ideology we should take when when people are telling you oh

00:16:35.880 It's okay to be this you can actually look out in the world and see the facts of reality because reality

00:16:39.960 We always told the truth, so I just think that people need to get off this bandwagon of

00:16:44.520 That narrative

00:16:45.400 Yeah, that narrative I think is very destructive to people because reality doesn't agree with that

00:16:50.360 I mean the irony of

00:16:52.440 Calling it like body positivity the irony there is you're actually you actually don't respect and love your body at all

00:16:59.320 Because you're not giving it what it really needs and you're harming yourself

00:17:01.720 You're not you're harming yourself and you're actually giving it the nutritious food

00:17:04.680 It and the exercise that it actually needs to be its best and performance first

00:17:09.720 Did you know I applied to a body positive organization? I did a whole interview. I did

00:17:16.040 Yeah, and I I pitched in the interview that like the best way to be body positive

00:17:21.720 Um, and it was like a social media intern. I'm like I'm great at social media

00:17:27.960 And so I know I pitched it to him I said the best way to be body positive is to lose weight

00:17:32.120 Oh, so so on the social media. I would really like to do some like running campaigns

00:17:39.480 Like and I had all these ideas

00:17:41.560 They did not they um, yeah, they they actually ended the interview right there. I was

00:17:46.440 It's part of an agenda though, isn't it? 0.51

00:17:48.440 To keep us fat, sick, and easy to control

00:17:50.600 Yeah, well and it's the government

00:17:52.040 That's it and they want us all to believe body positive

00:17:54.760 Well, and then they can just sell us more stuff

00:17:56.760 So they can sell us the drugs

00:17:58.200 Yeah, the drugs

00:17:59.080 It's money for them, it's money

00:18:00.200 Because when you're overweight, you're um, actually at a higher risk of all-cause mortality

00:18:05.080 So it's not it's not a good outcome

00:18:06.920 Yeah, and you lost a bunch of weight didn't you?

00:18:09.000 I did

00:18:09.560 I would like to say I actually was only that weight for a few years

00:18:12.840 And it's because I got depressed and in a hole put on a bunch of weight and then lost it. Yeah about six stone

00:18:19.000 Wow

00:18:19.400 Well done

00:18:20.200 Well done

00:18:20.600 Congratulations

00:18:21.400 And that was like two years of my life the rest of my life have been in shape

00:18:24.680 I grew up with a bodybuilder father that

00:18:26.680 It's very strict and if I kind of went out of the realms of weight, he would be like

00:18:33.480 Army, army

00:18:34.280 He would call

00:18:34.840 Army

00:18:35.480 I mean, yeah, he would be saying that you can't eat that you can't do that right here's some chicken breast

00:18:41.480 I mean bad advice but back then everyone was like chicken breast

00:18:45.400 Is there something wrong with chicken breast?

00:18:47.080 Yeah, you don't want to eat chicken breast

00:18:48.360 Where's the fat?

00:18:49.000 You need the fat for your to support your hormones you need the fat

00:18:51.800 Yeah, oh bingo. Oh wow, I didn't even know chicken. I didn't know chicken was bad. I thought there's not

00:18:55.960 It's not bad

00:18:57.960 But there's better choices

00:18:59.560 Yeah, if you're gonna eat chicken breast really you want anything with skin on it. Okay, so wings are good. They're in. Oh, I love wings

00:19:06.600 I love wings

00:19:07.800 But not but not American wings covered in sugar

00:19:10.840 That's what you're probably referring to

00:19:14.040 So how did you find carnivore? How did I find it? Yeah, so I actually started with keto first

00:19:19.160 Okay, and I was keto for about six months and then I come across this doctor who I then became to you know started working for called dr. Sean Baker and

00:19:28.840 He was on joe rogan and I was listening to him and he was saying yeah vegetables this that and I was thinking this guy is absolutely insane and

00:19:37.480 But what it did is it planted a seed and when I was eating my asparagus because all I was eating is meat and veg because I was keto

00:19:44.440 So there was no sugar there was no junk. There was nothing and um, that did a lot of good for my health

00:19:49.720 But there was still some little things my body wasn't happy with my body composition things like that

00:19:55.320 Um, and then I started thinking oh hang on. I just ate some asparagus and now I'm bloated now

00:20:00.600 I feel this like I feel a bit lethargic, you know

00:20:03.080 There's all these downsides to eating the plants. I thought you know, I'm gonna try it. It's gonna go wrong

00:20:08.760 I'm gonna try it for two weeks

00:20:11.000 So I tried it for two weeks and I was like wow rush of energy clarity

00:20:15.160 You know all benefits and not only that first week. I lost seven pounds second week

00:20:19.640 I lost seven pounds and then after that I stopped weighing myself because I could start seeing my abs

00:20:23.640 I was feeling good about myself and this was from the what sorry what was this from carnivore diet?

00:20:27.800 Okay, okay, it's not a starvation. So going back to that song majorly talented woman 1.00

00:20:33.080 Um, unfortunately, she has been um

00:20:39.000 Given some information that's wrong. So her parents wanted to her to lose weight and her grandparents and you know

00:20:45.480 Whoever else in her family because they wanted her to be healthy. They were giving her really bad advice

00:20:50.200 That advice doesn't leave you to be an overweight because you're restricting yourself. I don't restrict myself

00:20:54.760 I eat about 5 000 calories a day is that for breakfast add 12 sausages

00:20:59.000 And that's your intake add 10 eggs, you know

00:21:03.800 You don't have to restrict if you're eating the human appropriate diet your body will do the rest

00:21:09.880 Did you go through a sugar withdrawal?

00:21:11.880 When you when you went on to the keto diet initially did you go through any kind of withdrawals?

00:21:16.760 I didn't which is really funny because before that I was in my hole and I was addicted to coffee and cakes

00:21:22.200 I haven't drunk coffee in about five years. I don't really drink alcohol

00:21:25.960 Occasionally for the first three years of the diet didn't drink any alcohol whatsoever

00:21:29.800 Um last couple of years every now and again. I'll drink a bit of alcohol

00:21:34.040 Um, but yeah, no some people get keto flu and that's because they're not keeping up with their electrolytes

00:21:39.560 When you go on to a diet that's low carb or zero carb

00:21:43.160 Your body becomes really efficient at dropping the water

00:21:46.280 With that you drop electrolytes. So you have to keep replenishing those to keep those

00:21:50.280 You know and is that through just drinking water?

00:21:53.320 So so so so basically what I do what I advise people that are starting out new is to take magnesium glycinate

00:22:00.280 To um take salt. I usually use pink himalayan salt

00:22:05.400 Um, and it's a lot of salt don't be scared of salt salt is like as important to us as oxygen

00:22:10.440 If you if your salt if your electrolyte balances out, which is

00:22:14.280 Um, you know your sodium your potassium and your magnesium you will have a heart attack

00:22:19.400 Right, so it's that important. You know all this scaremongering about salt is absolute rubbish 0.98

00:22:25.640 And so 0.78

00:22:27.000 What would you think of the song?

00:22:28.920 So

00:22:30.120 I think that yeah, okay

00:22:31.880 They had good intentions because they wanted their daughter granddaughter to get better

00:22:35.880 They wanted us to get healthy. They gave us some really bad advice. Yeah, and that bad advice leaves you to constantly thinking about food

00:22:42.760 So if you're replenished if you're if you're full of nutrients, you never think about food, right?

00:22:49.400 It's like you eat

00:22:50.840 You you're full up you go you don't have to keep thinking about it

00:22:54.280 I mean when I go out with people that are on high carb diets

00:22:57.240 Can you walk a little bit and they're like, maybe we need some crisps?

00:23:03.640 Maybe we need some sandwiches now

00:23:06.040 Maybe we need that. I'm like, yeah, I've got my 10 eggs in my bag. I'll eat them. I'm good to go. I'm good for the day

00:23:11.240 You know, it's it's it's nothing

00:23:14.520 It stops you from thinking about food. What do you eat in a day steak?

00:23:19.720 Okay, on my favorite days, I'll be in a lot of steaks

00:23:21.960 So sometimes I have two steaks for breakfast

00:23:23.960 Okay, and then what do you do for lunch?

00:23:26.600 10 eggs. Well, actually a lot of the time I start with 10 eggs for breakfast

00:23:30.280 It depends what I fancy. I think when you eat on your diet, you should be able to do it intuitively

00:23:35.480 So when I wake up, sometimes I need more fat

00:23:37.800 So I'll put some butter on there or I get their fattier types of meat 0.94

00:23:41.560 I might have a kilo of chicken wings for breakfast. I do that quite often

00:23:45.240 There's always going to be steak in there

00:23:48.120 Sometimes I make my own homemade burgers out of beef mince

00:23:51.080 It's always the high fat beef mince. It has to

00:23:54.040 You do cheese or no? You don't do cheese, right?

00:23:56.760 Cheese, sometimes

00:23:58.200 Okay

00:23:58.440 But cheese is addictive

00:24:00.680 Cheese is very addictive

00:24:01.800 So I can do it and I can get away with it

00:24:04.040 But if I have too much, then I start getting dry skin and things

00:24:06.840 And I don't like dry skin

00:24:08.520 So I just think when you're eating intuitively

00:24:11.960 And you can only eat intuitively when you're eating human specific foods 0.93

00:24:15.720 Because if you're eating all that junk crap, you're actually addicted 0.97

00:24:19.560 And your body will send cravings for some unnatural chemical laden nonsense 0.99

00:24:24.440 But when you get rid of that, you don't have those cravings anymore

00:24:27.480 You actually eat what your body needs

00:24:29.240 Like I wake up and I think okay today I'm I need a bit of fat

00:24:32.280 So I'll have more fat or another day

00:24:34.200 I don't need so much fat today

00:24:36.040 So I won't have so much fat

00:24:37.240 It's just very individual to each day

00:24:39.560 Slow in your body

00:24:40.680 Yeah, yeah, I'm in tune if I eat something at a restaurant

00:24:44.600 And then the next day I might wake up with like a little tiny headache

00:24:47.640 And I think oh something was on that meat

00:24:49.320 You know, maybe they put it in seed oils

00:24:51.320 Seed oils everyone should avoid by the way

00:24:53.240 Do you eat all meat?

00:24:54.360 So it went on the carnival diet

00:24:55.720 You eat pork, you eat lamb, you eat

00:24:57.480 I don't tend to eat too much pork

00:25:00.200 Okay

00:25:00.520 I enjoy pork

00:25:01.960 Because you said you had sausages

00:25:03.160 So I was like oh I wonder if those were pork sausages

00:25:05.720 That's because

00:25:07.560 I don't like to waste

00:25:08.520 And I could see that they needed eaten

00:25:10.680 I don't normally eat sausages

00:25:14.280 They're not normally part of my diet

00:25:15.960 Unless something like that happens

00:25:17.880 So I don't like waste

00:25:18.840 So but you don't cut out chicken or anything

00:25:23.000 For the first three years I didn't eat any chicken

00:25:25.880 I ate just beef

00:25:27.240 Right

00:25:27.880 And that will make you feel amazing

00:25:31.160 That will and it'll give you really good skin

00:25:33.720 I found that when I changed the diet

00:25:36.280 All my health issues went

00:25:37.480 Every single one of them

00:25:38.360 My body composition got really good

00:25:40.520 I had abs

00:25:41.480 You know I've got abs sorry

00:25:44.200 It's very easy to stay in shape

00:25:47.640 When you're eating what you're meant to eat

00:25:50.360 As a human

00:25:51.160 It's like you know when you go out

00:25:52.600 And you see all the animals

00:25:54.120 They're eating their species specific diet

00:25:56.680 And they are their body composition is exactly as it's meant to be

00:26:01.160 You know it's really not rocket science

00:26:02.760 If you eat something that you're not meant to eat

00:26:05.400 As a human you know we're animals

00:26:06.920 If you eat something as an animal that you're not meant to eat

00:26:09.400 Illness is there

00:26:10.840 Over you know body composition that we're never meant to reach

00:26:13.960 Is there you know all these things

00:26:15.960 And you know saying

00:26:17.560 When I'm looking at a man if a man's overweight

00:26:19.960 I would I wouldn't even consider him

00:26:22.680 Because to me that's laziness

00:26:24.600 That's he's not disciplined

00:26:26.360 He's not looking out for his health

00:26:28.040 You know there's so many things

00:26:30.040 That that then flags for me

00:26:32.600 So I could say that was an ick as well

00:26:34.680 There's way more icks

00:26:35.640 And I mentioned

00:26:39.240 What did you think of the song?

00:26:42.920 Yeah I didn't

00:26:44.760 I don't know

00:26:45.960 See I used to be big myself as well

00:26:47.720 So I went from size 16 18 to a size 8

00:26:51.880 And I've recently started to put the weight back on

00:26:54.280 But um I don't know

00:26:57.480 It wasn't the best

00:27:00.040 I thought she had a good voice

00:27:02.840 It wasn't appealing to me personally

00:27:04.680 I don't know

00:27:05.320 It just seemed like

00:27:06.520 She was just basically saying

00:27:07.640 She's still not happy

00:27:08.600 She's still not happy

00:27:09.640 Yeah she's tried for how long

00:27:11.160 She's still in the same position that she didn't

00:27:12.840 That's because she's doing low fat 1.00

00:27:14.200 She's starving herself 0.77

00:27:15.320 And she's spending all of her miserable existence 1.00

00:27:18.280 Speaking about food

00:27:19.160 What if a guy made a song about being broke?

00:27:22.440 My mom told me to get a job

00:27:25.560 It would be really not very masculine would it?

00:27:30.360 They've got another one

00:27:31.960 What?

00:27:32.440 Your worst one

00:27:33.320 What?

00:27:33.960 I was gonna

00:27:34.840 Then I'll go

00:27:37.080 I was gonna

00:27:37.800 Hi

00:27:38.280 Yeah

00:27:38.680 Come on

00:27:39.720 Oh yeah

00:27:40.440 I said that come on

00:27:41.880 Just thought I'd say

00:27:43.720 Can I just say what I thought about the song?

00:27:45.640 I just I feel like it was a really mixed um perception

00:27:49.720 Yeah

00:27:50.360 I didn't know what to take from it

00:27:51.880 In the beginning I was kind of confused

00:27:54.600 Then as it went in further I was thinking

00:27:57.480 Alright maybe this is to teach all the other little girls 0.69

00:28:00.280 that it's okay to be bigger

00:28:02.440 Maybe

00:28:02.840 Then as it went further it says she was unhappy

00:28:05.960 Then she was happy because she's in front of the camera in bra and knicker 0.99

00:28:10.680 I

00:28:12.680 Was very confused

00:28:14.360 So I wouldn't even be able to say whether I liked it or not

00:28:17.320 I did like the music side of it

00:28:19.160 But in terms of lyrically

00:28:21.160 Mixed signals

00:28:22.040 It was mixed signals all over yeah

00:28:24.120 But why do you women celebrate the wrong decisions? 1.00

00:28:27.800 Do you know what I mean?

00:28:28.440 Like okay a guy if he's a drug dealer or criminal

00:28:32.600 He doesn't celebrate it

00:28:34.680 They glamorize it a lot they do

00:28:38.440 Yeah they do

00:28:39.240 They do

00:28:39.800 You know what I'm gonna take that back

00:28:45.800 I forget about that

00:28:48.280 I don't listen to like it's like that's like rap music

00:28:50.760 Yeah yeah I don't really listen to that

00:28:52.360 But yeah but they glamorize it but it's still

00:28:56.920 Generally frowned upon by most men

00:28:59.720 That's the thing you're not going to see men just come around

00:29:02.120 Especially men that are doing things in life are not just going to come and say yeah

00:29:05.720 Yeah we want to be like that guy

00:29:07.080 Yeah that makes sense 0.99

00:29:08.040 Yeah he's a drug dealer

00:29:09.320 Yeah that's the life we should live

00:29:10.760 Or you typically the men that push that on young kids

00:29:14.840 Those are like you wouldn't see a responsible man

00:29:19.000 Even if he does drugs as a side hustle

00:29:21.720 You wouldn't see him come out on tv and try to tell young kids this is what you should do

00:29:25.640 Yeah

00:29:26.600 But that's what I meant

00:29:27.640 That lady was very confusing 1.00

00:29:30.360 Do you not think?

00:29:31.960 What did you take from that?

00:29:33.880 Eat more eat less

00:29:35.400 Well my thing is like I just don't know you know everyone's got struggles in life

00:29:39.960 So like that's that's her struggle fine

00:29:42.280 Yeah

00:29:42.440 But I just don't know why do we celebrate the wrong

00:29:45.880 Like it's clearly better to be in shape

00:29:47.720 It's clearly better to be healthy

00:29:49.240 That's clearly the better way to go

00:29:51.480 Why do women celebrate the wrong thing? 1.00

00:29:54.280 But I don't think it's just women like 1.00

00:29:56.200 Where did this whole thing about just women glorifying something? 0.95

00:29:59.480 Because I think if anything men do the same thing

00:30:03.720 Just going back to the reference that you just gave about drug dealers or whatever

00:30:08.120 That's the whole popular culture right now

00:30:10.760 Everybody loves rap music

00:30:11.880 Everybody is mimicking rappers

00:30:13.720 Talking about things they don't know what the rappers are talking about

00:30:17.160 That's literally the wave

00:30:18.440 So I'm not going to agree with you on the fact that only women glorify 0.73

00:30:22.120 I mean even this whole idea of threesomes and monogamy and whatever

00:30:25.880 Is glorified

00:30:26.840 It's like one of the reasons that people don't want to be in traditional relationships

00:30:30.680 Because it's in the music it's on tv it's and who's who's who's the decision makers behind

00:30:36.440 These things being put out et cetera et cetera it's men women 0.97

00:30:40.200 Women they do it for the audience 1.00

00:30:41.480 Well women women no no you're from atlanta 0.87

00:30:44.040 That's like especially like no women make 80 because there's a lot of high earning women in atlanta 1.00

00:30:48.440 No i understand yeah yeah so so

00:30:50.360 Women make 80 of consumer buying decisions so the stuff you see in the music the stuff you see on tv 1.00

00:30:55.160 It's catered to women i'm talking about the the people that are 1.00

00:30:58.920 Signing off on putting it out the people that are acknowledging or accepting that this is being glorified

00:31:04.360 This is what we're going to accept money in exchange for is

00:31:08.680 Men generally older white men who have nothing to do with whatever is being even being put out

00:31:14.200 But you just hit the nail on the head it's men making the smart decisions of how to make money

00:31:18.120 How do you make money well you pick the best

00:31:19.800 I'm sure that girl made money because we just sat here and watched her video 1.00

00:31:22.200 You just said about the general culture and who's putting the things out there

00:31:25.400 I think you're hinting towards the fact that the media and the music is all owned by the same people

00:31:29.240 And you just mentioned that the typical well you know that's all middle-aged white men fine

00:31:33.640 But the point is is that they must be smart men because they're making bloody money

00:31:37.560 Yeah, but that wasn't the question the question was why do women more so glorify doing bad things versus 1.00

00:31:43.320 But why do you think it is that though that stuff sells more?

00:31:46.920 Because women make up 95 of the consumer market 1.00

00:31:49.960 I think it's because we have a follower culture so men see these other men getting money looking flashy looking good

00:31:56.520 Taking care of their bodies building their bodies, etc. Whatever it is and they want to do the same thing

00:32:01.320 They want to flex they want to look a certain way right

00:32:03.800 They want to get a certain type of woman because of other men 1.00

00:32:06.120 But wait, but look do you see what you just said there all of those are good things

00:32:09.480 Minus the drug part minus the drug part you just said they want to get like they want to make money good thing

00:32:14.040 They want to be in shape good thing they want to attract women good thing

00:32:17.080 That's the women but the women that are celebrated tend to be like I think of who has gotten more of an audience than taylor swift

00:32:24.760 She's a 30 something year old spinster who makes an album about every single relationship that's gone wrong 1.00

00:32:31.720 Those are the women we celebrate, you know, and then I can think of like nikki minaj 1.00

00:32:35.720 Right, you know, I just saw a woman saying nothing positive or saying something good 1.00

00:32:40.120 Like even if we're going to go back to the fat conversation 1.00

00:32:43.320 Nikki minaj literally has lyrics that says you a stupid hoe, you a stupid hoe, you a stupid hoe 1.00

00:32:56.680 Okay, why do we have a slut walk? 1.00

00:32:58.680 Oh my god, what are the same reason that we have everything else? 0.99

00:33:01.720 I've seen something in london where it's a bunch of grown men riding around bicycle butt naked 0.99

00:33:09.160 Why do we have a slut walk? 1.00

00:33:12.040 Why do we have that?

00:33:12.760 So that women can take their power back and feel like okay, they can accept it 1.00

00:33:16.520 But that is just because I'm saying this doesn't mean that I'm necessarily agreeing

00:33:19.800 Why would women want to encourage that? 1.00

00:33:23.560 Um, because we have things like Roe v. Wade going on where women are not in control of their bodies 1.00

00:33:28.840 So I'm going to assume that you know is abortion generally a good thing. I don't know 1.00

00:33:36.280 Okay, okay, okay, why why do women encourage it because it should be your choice what you're going to do 1.00

00:33:42.760 Being in control of your body, right?

00:33:44.760 No, I did not. She asked me why is that you said that with regards to Roe v. Wade

00:33:48.760 That's an issue that's going on right now where women don't have control over their bodies 1.00

00:33:53.560 That if somebody can get pregnant physically that I have no choice in whether I have to carry this baby to term 0.99

00:34:00.600 And push it out and raise it

00:34:02.440 That's not control if somebody else has a decision

00:34:04.760 But if women if women want a human being 1.00

00:34:07.160 Okay, but I'm not giving you my opinion on abortion at all

00:34:10.200 The point is is that you said it's about women having control over their bodies 0.65

00:34:13.080 Do women not have the option to say maybe I'm not going to have sex with a man that I don't want to have children with 1.00

00:34:17.640 Some women get raped 1.00

00:34:19.640 The exception to the Roe 0.92

00:34:21.640 1% of abortions are because of

00:34:24.520 Okay, well, I'm not personally going to have the abortion argument because that was not my intention of bringing up Roe v. Wade

00:34:29.480 I'm just giving the example of the slut walk being a reason 1.00

00:34:33.720 But why do women fight so hard for the wrong decisions? 1.00

00:34:36.680 Because men have been in control of every decision for the existence of eternity 0.99

00:34:39.800 How have men been in control when men were the ones that typically had to fight in wars?

00:34:45.400 Women did not have to fight in wars 1.00

00:34:48.280 I don't understand that question

00:34:49.640 Okay, in order to live in order to survive as a species, right?

00:34:54.120 You need to protect society women have never had to do that 0.82

00:34:58.920 Never okay, so how were men in control?

00:35:02.600 The average man is in how is he in control when they're the ones that have to sacrifice their body

00:35:08.040 Their life for the country because they decided that we're the only people that strong enough who decided men 0.84

00:35:14.600 Who?

00:35:16.600 What?

00:35:18.600 What?

00:35:20.600 What?

00:35:22.600 No, no, so I just

00:35:24.600 Okay, so I wanna

00:35:26.600 I wanna

00:35:30.600 Guys, guys, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, so you're not you're just not correct

00:35:34.520 So when women wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, listen, listen, wait, and they really teach you history wrong 1.00

00:35:40.680 It's it's not correct if you actually read historical accounts at the time they they rewrite history

00:35:46.200 So one one thing people think is they think that men are the ones that started all these wars

00:35:51.720 When really they've taken wait wait, you you just did right?

00:35:55.400 No, but no you you did because you said men are starting all of these wars

00:35:59.000 No, that's why I bring up

00:36:00.280 But you said that's the reason they have to defend the country because the men were starting these wars and I know

00:36:05.800 No, that's not what I said I said they they started the decision that the only the men are going to go to war

00:36:10.360 Okay, okay, okay, but I okay, okay, okay, wait, wait, so I'm saying the last 500 years

00:36:15.080 They took the men that were in power and the women that were in power women are more likely to wage war than men 0.99

00:36:21.960 Women so so this wasn't just the men's decision there were women rulers and they were more 0.99

00:36:26.760 I understand that completely, but that was not so my my point

00:36:29.800 My point my point is in all of history. There was choices and trade-offs, right?

00:36:35.400 And it wasn't most men had very little power most people had very little power

00:36:40.280 So this idea that most men somehow oppressed women. It's just not true women had much more privilege in a lot of ways than men

00:36:48.760 Much more, you know even in all of in the last thousand years if a woman committed a crime 0.99

00:36:53.640 She was not likely to get the same punishment as a guy 1.00

00:36:56.280 There was um there there's been writings for like that are 200 years old of men complaining

00:37:01.960 About how unfair the court system is and how women just get off in the and the west in what in the west in the west 1.00

00:37:09.000 Oh, well in the in the west. Yes. Yes. We're in the west, right?

00:37:15.480 Well, the 500 years was actually in the world which kind of makes sense because I don't think women understand violence the same way men

00:37:22.040 understand violence but

00:37:24.040 um

00:37:25.240 Yeah, so this idea that like women were oppressed and like men had all this power most people did not have power

00:37:31.880 Okay

00:37:33.240 Okay, yeah, I well, I don't understand how that relates back to the original question was which was women 0.53

00:37:40.280 Glorify wrongdoings more so than men 0.99

00:37:43.240 But I agree to disagree on your word. Okay. Okay

00:37:48.200 But you don't see how women glorify wrong during doings when we have a slut walk 1.00

00:37:52.520 I 0.97

00:37:53.560 Mean, that's one example. There's so many other things that both

00:37:57.080 Okay, what about the body positive walk or the body positive movement?

00:38:02.360 And what's that's bad according to whoever is deciding that that's your opinion

00:38:06.680 Okay, but would you would you not agree that being more likely to die is bad?

00:38:11.320 I

00:38:12.360 Well, we all have to die for one

00:38:14.200 But I agree that you know making decisions that are going to shorten your life

00:38:18.280 Could be considered bad if that's what you value everybody has a range of things that they value

00:38:22.520 You shouldn't celebrate it, right?

00:38:25.000 Um, I think you should celebrate whatever you want to celebrate if you want to celebrate

00:38:28.920 Feeling confident in however whatever state you are in today. That's your business

00:38:33.560 Exactly and men would say you shouldn't celebrate whatever you want to celebrate

00:38:36.680 There are things that are worth celebrating that things that should never be celebrated

00:38:39.880 That's what most level-headed men would think but most women have this idea of 1.00

00:38:45.720 egalitarian fairy tale land where everything can be whatever I want

00:38:49.560 Where if you think something is good then it should be good if you think something is bad

00:38:52.920 They should but no their objective truths about life

00:38:56.440 That's the fact

00:38:58.120 Okay, another movement that we celebrate is the trans movement. That's 80% women

00:39:03.320 Most women are a part of that and support that 1.00

00:39:07.160 And people that do actually have actually interviewed people that do that surgery

00:39:11.960 They're more likely to commit suicide a lot of them have really bad complications after

00:39:16.920 And I personally don't think that's something that should be celebrated

00:39:20.200 Maybe women are naturally nurturers that we're taking that 1.00

00:39:24.200 Negative judgmental factor out of our maybe because me personally just speaking from my personal life experience

00:39:30.520 I'm not I don't I don't care about what you do because the same way you're having an opinion on something that I do the fact that

00:39:36.600 I'm overweight the fact that I'm this I'm that maybe you have something that's like you said everybody has a flaw something right

00:39:42.040 They're dealing with so who are we to judge and decide that just because somebody is

00:39:47.880 Accepting that this is what people are going to do with their lives anyway, and not you know casting another

00:39:53.960 Sin of judgment onto them

00:39:56.120 So I I don't disagree everybody's got struggles right everyone's got problems. I totally agree

00:40:02.280 But where I disagree is I don't agree with celebrating it. I don't agree with celebrating

00:40:07.560 I don't wait wait wait

00:40:08.520 I don't agree with celebrating the fact that taylor swift has 10 failed relationships

00:40:13.080 I don't think that's something we should yay hurrah

00:40:15.880 I don't think we should celebrate you know nikki minaj saying you ho you ho you ho 1.00

00:40:21.160 I don't I don't think we should celebrate cardi b having a song about wop

00:40:25.720 I don't think we should celebrate being overweight because I think those are all negative things

00:40:31.480 So that that's where I disagree. I don't disagree that everybody's got problems. Everybody's got struggles

00:40:36.920 Nobody's perfect. Obviously everyone in your circle is going to have problems and struggles

00:40:41.400 You know, I'm not going to not be friends with someone just because they're overweight, right

00:40:45.160 Um, but where I disagree is the celebrating that's where I disagree. So how do you feel about pub culture?

00:40:51.800 Because you know some people might look at that as alcoholism or like even just drinking culture in general. Oh, I'm not a fan

00:40:59.640 I'm not a big I'm not a big drinker. I wouldn't celebrate that either. I

00:41:04.760 Guess but when I walked in they told me to get a drink

00:41:06.920 So I'm just like trying to understand the balance of like, you know, it's the men and women thing for me

00:41:13.080 Yeah, everybody has a choice and it's like, okay, we can sit here and we can pay

00:41:30.200 That's the case if we're going to put some type of like you're bad because you sat here and you ate

00:41:34.920 It's not an issue

00:41:36.920 It's not an issue of your bad because it's not an issue of you're bad because you drink

00:41:41.880 It's not an issue of you're bad because you're overweight. You're bad. No, no, no, no. That's not it 0.99

00:41:46.200 It's this is bad for you

00:41:48.600 It actually comes from a nice place and you're hearing it as judgment and you're saying, you know

00:41:53.480 Like who are we to judge each other and I get where you're coming from you think that's coming from a nice place

00:41:57.640 But the truth is that's not nice at all because if you as many of you know

00:42:01.880 I was just banned on tick-tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform

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JustPearlyThings - October 28, 2023

Men REFUSED to Get Married Because of These

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