Men's Biggest Frustration in the Dating Market Today
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the perils of nightlife, the benefits of not going out as much, and the age at which you should stop going out at all. We also discuss the benefits and downsides of going out when you re in your 30s, 40s, and beyond.
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what are you guys's biggest frustrations in the dating market i would say how common degeneracy
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is in a cultural setting you know like i was saying vaping is so normal clubbing i hate vaping
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for me that's the the biggest red flag that's one thing i see and there's there's nothing
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more to talk about but yeah vaping uh clubbing just these type of behaviors that are so normalized but
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uh unfortunately i i don't see them as conducive to high quality relationships romantic or otherwise
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what about you guys um for me yeah going out all the time partying drugs um at surgery like i'm
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yeah i'm not really good on yeah i'm not on any of that at all i'm so far from me from
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that kind of lifestyle now so yeah what about you someone with no morals no drive yeah no ambition
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just wants to do party and don't want to go festivals and do this but the other doesn't think about like
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their future there's a fly by night i would say well and it's a really selfish point of view too
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because it's like you're going into a situation where guys are trying to sleep with you constantly
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so it kind of shows you don't think about anyone else but yourself especially if you're doing that
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like in a relationship pleasure seeking yeah and like that's the thing about the culture and
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especially like women today i just think we've been so coddled by like simps that nobody ever tells
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us the truth about anything and that we've just been developed into like these me me me archetypes
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where it's like we really just don't think about anyone else i do what i want what makes me happy what i
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feel like that's one of the biggest things what i feel like i don't want to lose myself oh my and it's like
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you're supposed to lose parts of yourself in a relationship like you're not supposed to move
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the same at 22 as at 32. but the men know this like the men will do some wild in their like
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teens and they'll be like i had to grow up but it's like it's so weird because you'll see grown women
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acting the same way they did when they were like 21. like even when you're saying aunties like what are
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aunties doing in the club go home go to your husband you're not supposed to be here like you're
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supposed to have left 10 years ago do we want clubs for people over 40. no like those sound kind
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of like the cool aunties right yeah yeah my aunties uh yeah around to be in between 35 to 40. i mean
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what are they doing at 35 to 40. you should have been married like like 10 years but they are married
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yeah i know maybe still still living the the younger life a little bit yeah but that's that's the point
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they're still moving so what age do you think is the age that you should stop part like you should
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forget that life like forget partying like you know in a hole i'm the wrong person to ask because
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i would say past teenage years how old are you by the way how old are you how old are you i'm 25.
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i was still when i was 25 i still partying all the time but now i'm 35 i don't really like going
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to party anymore i don't think you put an age on it yeah it's doesn't i just think it's well
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what i think i think my cutoff when you become a mom yeah yeah yeah i think i think that should be
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cut off number one it's time to not live like a teenager when you become a mom i don't think it's
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so much about you not going out full stop neither it's not about not having a social life which is
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about just knowing the boundaries at the end of the day like you still got
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go out have a good time but it can't be every every other day every weekend that's just too much
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especially if you're in a in a committed relationship with with child well there's a difference between
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like going out to dinner with your like girlfriend so like going to a club where everyone's twerking
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and like yeah i was just about to say that the structure of the socializing really matters like
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yeah dinner versus like a degenerate uh nightclub environment i mean i just think like if you look
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at the trends for like it's really interesting like when i get to see stuff in real life because
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if you look at the trends for like divorce and like the lack of people getting married and the increase in
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divorce it really just kind of lines up with the generation of women our grandmothers didn't do this
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shit it really started with like our moms maybe a young grandma but like mostly the mothers they
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really didn't teach us anything about being a wife like to me to me it's like it's crazy how many girls
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come on the show and like don't realize they have to stop going out when they get married
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the reality is it's not so much about the fun aspect yeah everyone needs to be able to have fun
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at whatever age but it's funny how when we say people should stop going to club at a certain age
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people automatically think towards the fun it's more about the fact that going to a club is a high
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risk activity the older you get you should become smarter you should you should stop putting yourselves
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in situations where you could get killed where you could get robbed like the club is literally
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a place where you can't defend yourself if things go wrong like why would you intentionally put
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yourself in that position and then add alcohol into the mix where you are you are now inhibited you
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can't make right decisions like that's crazy for an adult who has lived life and seen experiences unless
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you're just coasting through life and not caring about your future i think like these are these are
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things that should be left to like your younger years at the end of the day um i'm gonna read super chat um
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guys make sure you like the video um also subscribe to the channel okay dr david baker if women said i
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just want to be a wife and a mother i'd view it as a green flag if she was otherwise an attractive
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caring woman but my head would immediately explode with figuring out the economics of pulling it off
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vain match or let me translate modern womanese masculine resolute unflinching moral man equals a
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narcissist okay and then let me refresh it really quick
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um okay i think we're going to close out the show so um we're going to do final thoughts and
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then you guys can plug any social media you have so starting here and then go around
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final thoughts what's the first time i've ever done something like this it's quite exciting yeah
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it's on the show we're good oh thank you i'll definitely do it again okay um it's nice to be
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able to actually dip and dive into conversations that would probably be a bit taboo in normal day-to-day
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conversation and it's nice to hear everyone's so opinionated nowadays and like you said people follow
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along with different opinions and it's nice to hear it from different perspectives and
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and you're not wrong women do lie about everything new enough but we try and hide it we try our best
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to hide it we lie to ourselves oh yeah we do try and justify things but it doesn't make it any better
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but um yeah and if anyone wants to follow me my at for instagram is hannah easton h-a-n-n-a-h-e-a-s-t-o-m
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so yeah thank you yeah it's the same what hannah said really it's nice to hear different
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aspects of like i just feel like my mindset i may maybe i still might have a young mentality
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so it's nice to hear older mentality and the older mindset and a more mature mindset um on how
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you view relationships and what the do's and don'ts in marriage um yeah oh and my instagrams tia.t
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i would say final thoughts i think it's a good thing that we're challenging a little bit the
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the mainstream beliefs the mainstream culture because if it's not done on a platform like this
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uh it's uh it's shy in in daily society so it needs to have some discourse some challenge to
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really kind of figure out what is the correct way to go about things especially as a society on a
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societal level i think the way we're going is clearly not working 100 so things important
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conversations we're having social media instagram anoush vafi a-n-o-o-s-h-v-a-f-a-e-i
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