JustPearlyThings - December 25, 2022


Misandrist Will Hate Andrew Tate For This


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19 minutes

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4,500

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401

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Misogyny

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Tate Trammel is back with a new episode of his new show, and the boys are here to talk about it. They talk about how women have all the power in the sexual marketplace, and how women are the gatekeepers.

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00:00:00.000 Men, no, but the women, they're the ones that are delusional. 1.00
00:00:03.400 There's regular men out there.
00:00:04.600 Shooting a shot at Chris Hemsworth.
00:00:07.000 Chris Hemsworth.
00:00:08.500 There's regular men out there that will have you down. 1.00
00:00:11.000 She's a two, a two. 1.00
00:00:12.000 Yeah, but can I just say, people are watching Tate,
00:00:14.000 not understanding that Tate is part of that 1% of successful men,
00:00:19.000 and they think that they can demand the same thing.
00:00:21.500 No, no, they-
00:00:22.500 They can demand purity.
00:00:23.500 One second, one second, sorry, sorry.
00:00:25.000 I understand the point you're all making,
00:00:26.000 but let's understand something.
00:00:28.000 To the sexual marketplace, females have always been, 1.00
00:00:31.000 and still to a degree, are the gatekeepers.
00:00:34.000 It's men will- 0.93
00:00:35.000 You can think about it in a very simplistic way.
00:00:37.000 This is not the case, but let's simplify it for the sake of argument.
00:00:40.000 Imagine men will run around and fuck anything, 0.99
00:00:42.000 and women are the ones who say yes or no. 1.00
00:00:44.000 You are the gatekeepers that have all the power.
00:00:47.000 And this is what's actually truly interesting about the sexual marketplace,
00:00:50.000 because whenever women go, there's not enough good men, 0.99
00:00:52.000 then why are you fucking- 0.99
00:00:53.000 Of course, why would they be good if you don't make them be good?
00:00:55.000 You're a fucking loser.
00:00:57.000 That's a good point.
00:00:58.000 So women, so you're talking about, I'm saying that, you know, 1.00
00:01:01.000 the man at a certain level can't do certain things, da-da-da.
00:01:03.000 If you were with Joe Schmo, and he wasn't treating you the way you believe Joe Schmo should treat you,
00:01:08.000 then why are you with him?
00:01:09.000 Leave. 0.99
00:01:10.000 Sis, leave. 1.00
00:01:11.000 Women have the gatekeeping. 1.00
00:01:12.000 So if you get Joe Schmo, and he treats you like you're his queen,
00:01:14.000 he treats you perfect, good.
00:01:16.000 If you get a fucking guy at the absolute upper echelons of value, and you still aren't happy with what he's giving you, then leave.
00:01:22.000 Women are the gatekeepers. 1.00
00:01:23.000 You women actually have all of the power. 1.00
00:01:25.000 This is what's beautiful about the whole thing.
00:01:27.000 Women are constantly complaining. 1.00
00:01:29.000 You have all the power.
00:01:30.000 You're the ones who get to choose.
00:01:32.000 Do you know who you should be mad at for all this shit?
00:01:35.000 I'll tell you who you should be mad at.
00:01:36.000 Do you know who threw away all the female power in the sexual marketplace? 1.00
00:01:40.000 Promiscuous females. 1.00
00:01:41.000 Because now you got chicks who will bang anybody without trying. 1.00
00:01:44.000 So why should a dude get up and try?
00:01:46.000 No.
00:01:47.000 Do you have any idea how hard it is to actually be?
00:01:50.000 Let me make this clear.
00:01:51.000 Go on, Seth.
00:01:52.000 Do you have any idea how hard it is to actually be, no bullshit, a man?
00:01:56.000 And I say this and women go, oh yeah, dude, dada. 1.00
00:01:59.000 As soon as most women encounter any kind of problem, the first thing you do is turn to a man. 1.00
00:02:04.000 Their man, their dad, the mechanic, the police, a man.
00:02:07.000 If you actually put a woman in front of a problem and go, no men, they're like, oh, shh, whoa, fuck. 0.98
00:02:11.000 It's a mental breakdown.
00:02:12.000 Men, day after day, especially if you're a high level man, let me make something clear from my life.
00:02:17.000 I'll talk from personal experience.
00:02:19.000 I'm not just looking after me.
00:02:20.000 I'm not just looking after my chick.
00:02:22.000 I'm the guy in about 300 people's phone books that they call when anything big goes wrong.
00:02:28.000 You get arrested in Russia.
00:02:29.000 You need extraction from Ukraine. 0.98
00:02:30.000 You need a million dollars.
00:02:32.000 Whatever it is.
00:02:33.000 Kazakhstan, abduction.
00:02:34.000 They call me.
00:02:35.000 I'm the first phone call.
00:02:36.000 I'm fixing 400 different lives.
00:02:38.000 I'm a problem solver.
00:02:39.000 Chicks can't fix fucking any of this shit. 1.00
00:02:41.000 Right?
00:02:42.000 This is how hard it is to be a man.
00:02:44.000 And it's amazing because society expects it of you.
00:02:47.000 But so do women. 1.00
00:02:48.000 If you had a man, be honest.
00:02:50.000 You had a man and you went to your man and said, oh, I've got this problem.
00:02:53.000 It's I can't fix this.
00:02:54.000 It's broken.
00:02:55.000 The car tires broken.
00:02:56.000 And he went, I don't know.
00:02:57.000 You would dry up like you'd be like, well, fuck it.
00:03:00.000 What the fucking point are you?
00:03:01.000 That's the truth.
00:03:02.000 You could see her and go, oh, we call a mechanic. 0.99
00:03:04.000 No, you wouldn't.
00:03:05.000 You'd look at your man and go, what do you mean you can't fix it?
00:03:06.000 I'll do it myself.
00:03:07.000 Waste, man.
00:03:08.000 And this is what she's saying about your man will get up and go.
00:03:10.000 And you know what's beautiful about masculinity?
00:03:12.000 A bunch of times a man will go up and he doesn't have a clue how to fix it himself.
00:03:15.000 But he'll go, don't worry, baby.
00:03:16.000 Okay.
00:03:17.000 And he'll stand up with no money and no clue.
00:03:19.000 And he'll go out there and fucking try and find a way because as a man you need to be useful.
00:03:22.000 It is so difficult to be a man.
00:03:24.000 You have no idea the amount of pressure that we're under from society and from the women 1.00
00:03:28.000 we even want to associate with on a whole.
00:03:30.000 It's difficult.
00:03:31.000 You have to keep all these things in mind.
00:03:33.000 It's hard.
00:03:34.000 You see what you just said about, yeah, the top G that if they had money, you can fly planes
00:03:39.000 and fly that.
00:03:41.000 Drop it down to if you were earning like say 50,000 a year.
00:03:45.000 Couldn't you be that same person amongst your peers?
00:03:48.000 100% you could.
00:03:49.000 That's what I'm trying to say.
00:03:50.000 100% you could.
00:03:51.000 And also, also you have to.
00:03:52.000 Money doesn't make you a top G.
00:03:54.000 No, no.
00:03:55.000 Money is an amplifier.
00:03:56.000 So that's the first thing about money.
00:03:57.000 Money amplifies.
00:03:58.000 Men can make money.
00:03:59.000 Money does not make men.
00:04:00.000 If you're a dork and you get rich, you're a rich dork.
00:04:02.000 If you're a G and you get rich, you're a top G.
00:04:04.000 Right?
00:04:05.000 So that's the first thing about money.
00:04:06.000 And I agree with you.
00:04:07.000 But traditionally, and this is the baseline.
00:04:09.000 And once again, when I say these things, I'm not looking to be attacked for being misogynist.
00:04:13.000 It's commenting on how I view the world and how I see things.
00:04:16.000 Traditionally, a man primarily gives his attention to a female to get sex and she gives him sex back to get the attention.
00:04:24.000 That's the swap.
00:04:25.000 Right?
00:04:26.000 So if I'm a dude and I want sex from a girl, I give her attention. 0.98
00:04:29.000 I talk to her.
00:04:30.000 I hang out with her.
00:04:31.000 I spend time with her.
00:04:32.000 Eventually I get the sex. 0.82
00:04:33.000 That's how it works.
00:04:34.000 But the higher value you are as a man, the more valuable your attention is, the more valuable your time is, the less you have to give.
00:04:39.000 It's like potency.
00:04:40.000 Right?
00:04:41.000 Five minutes to a chick. 1.00
00:04:43.000 And that's worth two weeks of some other dude's time.
00:04:45.000 But that's the reality.
00:04:46.000 So where you are on the scale is just basically how much of your time you have to give.
00:04:50.000 Now, you can still give all your time to a woman, treat her like a queen, be respected by your peers.
00:04:53.000 She can be happy with you.
00:04:54.000 I'm not saying she will be any.
00:04:56.000 In fact, I'll argue she'll be happier with that man than she'll be with a fucking guy like me. 1.00
00:05:00.000 I'm not even out here saying I'll make chicks happy. 0.98
00:05:02.000 I'm not even saying that.
00:05:03.000 I'm saying that she'll get the amount of time that she's going to want from that man.
00:05:06.000 The amount of attention is linked to his status.
00:05:08.000 But at a true high level status of man, it's two DMs.
00:05:12.000 Boom, boom.
00:05:13.000 10 seconds.
00:05:14.000 10 seconds.
00:05:15.000 10 seconds.
00:05:16.000 Done.
00:05:17.000 This kind of leads into my next question.
00:05:18.000 Do women prefer to be monogamous with a low value man or share a high value man? 1.00
00:05:22.000 Well, look at society and you tell me.
00:05:24.000 Ask me.
00:05:25.000 Wait, so let's ask the single ladies. 1.00
00:05:28.000 What would you prefer?
00:05:29.000 I would prefer someone who's monogamous. 1.00
00:05:31.000 I left a situation where I got the Bentley, I had all that, I had the kids, I had that.
00:05:35.000 That was great.
00:05:36.000 I want a companion.
00:05:37.000 I want real love.
00:05:39.000 And to me, what monogamy means to me is someone who's committed to themselves.
00:05:44.000 That's like, the answer is within you.
00:05:46.000 And to be honest, I feel like, again, sex has been lost in translation and what it means.
00:05:51.000 I don't care man or female. 1.00
00:05:53.000 It's been lost.
00:05:54.000 It's so sacred.
00:05:55.000 So for me, I have kind of taken those blinders off where I'm like, okay, he has to be here.
00:06:00.000 I'm okay with dating the trainer in Austin, Texas.
00:06:03.000 That's just where I'm at.
00:06:04.000 Like, I don't need a certain thing because I know what I'm wanting.
00:06:07.000 Most guys in that percentage are not going to give me.
00:06:10.000 So I would rather have a monogamous man than someone who can do whatever.
00:06:15.000 Wait, so you think the personal trainer is going to be monogamous? 0.99
00:06:19.000 They're like known for cheating, no?
00:06:21.000 Well, I mean, here's my thing.
00:06:23.000 Like, I get it.
00:06:24.000 Like, I don't generalize people because I'm one of the most misunderstood people online as
00:06:29.000 well.
00:06:30.000 And I feel like there's a lot more to me.
00:06:32.000 And I don't like to just put everyone in a box.
00:06:34.000 I'd like to get to know people.
00:06:35.000 So no, I'm not going to just say, oh, of course he's going to cheat on me.
00:06:37.000 Like, no.
00:06:38.000 Okay.
00:06:39.000 Would you take a guy that makes $35,000 a year and had a dad bond?
00:06:42.000 Monogamous?
00:06:43.000 Had a dad bond?
00:06:44.000 Yeah, dad bond.
00:06:45.000 I feel like for me, I would want someone who...
00:06:47.000 Sorry.
00:06:48.000 Go ahead.
00:06:49.000 Okay.
00:06:50.000 I pour into myself and I'm accountable for my shit.
00:06:53.000 I'm aware of what I got going on.
00:06:55.000 I'm not going to have a mom bod.
00:06:57.000 I'm in the gym.
00:06:58.000 I had a baby a year and a half ago.
00:07:00.000 I'm in the gym four to five times a week.
00:07:01.000 So I would want someone who can match at least the work ethic.
00:07:05.000 Now, when it comes to money, I know for me, I want to be able to...
00:07:09.000 I do not want to rely on a man. 1.00
00:07:10.000 I have literally done that before.
00:07:12.000 It didn't pan out in my favor.
00:07:13.000 Okay?
00:07:14.000 Because what happens is you get the rug ripped from under you and then now you fucking get out,
00:07:17.000 bitch. 1.00
00:07:18.000 Give me the motherfucking keys.
00:07:19.000 It isn't that.
00:07:20.000 So for me, the lifestyle I want, I am responsible for.
00:07:23.000 So I don't look for a man to make X amount of dollars because anything that I want, I'm going
00:07:27.000 to get myself.
00:07:28.000 Well, because in my head, I feel like a guy's just as likely to cheat if he's in the top 20% of looks.
00:07:35.000 Just as likely as money.
00:07:37.000 Okay.
00:07:38.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:39.000 Let me ask a quick question just so I can clarify something.
00:07:41.000 Because I understand your points.
00:07:43.000 You're saying you want a partner, a life partner.
00:07:45.000 Are you sure, and I'm not accusing, I'm genuinely asking.
00:07:49.000 Are you sure you're not confusing the amount of time the man spends with you with his monogamy?
00:07:54.000 Because there are different things.
00:07:55.000 Because what happens a lot of the time if a man's out here chasing chicks, he's barely home.
00:07:58.000 But imagine you had a man who was home seven nights a week.
00:08:01.000 He was always home.
00:08:02.000 I'm talking about like an hour.
00:08:03.000 Like during his work lunch, you don't even notice.
00:08:06.000 Then would you even give a shit about monogamy if you had all of his time effectively?
00:08:10.000 Would you really care?
00:08:11.000 I still would care because I feel like it's still just an hour a day.
00:08:15.000 And we're not, it's not really quality time.
00:08:17.000 I feel I really have been in so many different situations.
00:08:19.000 Again, the trainer in Austin to the NBA player, baby daddy.
00:08:22.000 Like I have seen all of that stuff.
00:08:24.000 And it's just my personal experience and perspective to where I want someone that sees the value in the Grand Canyon.
00:08:30.000 I want somebody who.
00:08:31.000 I understand.
00:08:32.000 Okay.
00:08:33.000 So that's a good point.
00:08:34.000 And that's just ask the first question.
00:08:35.000 I'm gonna ask the second question.
00:08:36.000 The realization you've come to is an interesting one.
00:08:39.000 It is something that happens, especially to females as they mature. 1.00
00:08:43.000 Don't you think it's strange or why do you think that zero women on earth choose those kind of men who they perhaps have slightly lower status, but are more likely to be loyal to them and be monogamous, etc.
00:08:55.000 In the modern world, because like I said, the world's changed.
00:08:57.000 Why do you think zero women choose them when they're at the peak of their choices? 1.00
00:09:01.000 So when a woman is 19 and she can go anywhere she wants, every man wants her. 0.98
00:09:06.000 She's going any y'all in Miami.
00:09:08.000 She can get flown out to Dubai, which has all the choices in the world.
00:09:11.000 Why is she completely uninterested in those kind of men?
00:09:14.000 And then when she gets to a certain age of maturity and all, there's a whole new generation of girls who have all the choices.
00:09:19.000 Then they sit there and go, you know what?
00:09:21.000 I deserve monogamy and data.
00:09:24.000 And they all of a sudden want to grow up and mature.
00:09:26.000 Why don't does why does no woman decide that when she actually is at her most valuable? 0.99
00:09:29.000 I feel like for like I said, I don't like to speak for all women.
00:09:32.000 I just speak for myself.
00:09:33.000 But I know for me that I was looking for a man for a lifestyle, something that I was not able to do individually by myself.
00:09:39.000 So that's why it's like, well, yeah, I want to be able to do this, do that.
00:09:42.000 I want to go for the football player that was just on GQ.
00:09:44.000 And in reality, now I realize, well, OK, there's a lot that comes with that.
00:09:48.000 I can make my own money.
00:09:49.000 I don't necessarily need that type of guy for the happiness that I'm looking for.
00:09:53.000 Again, seeing value in the Grand Canyon is a lot different than like, OK, here's money for this.
00:09:58.000 Here's money for this.
00:09:59.000 Here's allowance for that.
00:10:00.000 And there's an hour of my time.
00:10:01.000 You're asking why a man that is 20, 21, 23 is not a top G like a 30, 40 year old man.
00:10:06.000 The point.
00:10:07.000 Your age actually dictates your sort of maturity to a large extent.
00:10:10.000 Well, I'm arguing the point.
00:10:11.000 The point I'm trying to make is that what I actually think happens, especially in the modern world, because the modern world's all fucked up and nothing's the way it's supposed to be.
00:10:19.000 The traditional life path of a female is she's 17. 1.00
00:10:23.000 She's 18.
00:10:24.000 She's 19.
00:10:25.000 And her value is massively inflated.
00:10:26.000 And I don't blame her.
00:10:27.000 Of course, it's massively inflated.
00:10:29.000 Imagine being 19 years old, have achieved exactly fucking zero in your life, knowing nothing.
00:10:34.000 You put makeup on and and sports stars, billionaires, actors, the most important, famous people on the planet, the richest man on the planet are begging for your attention.
00:10:44.000 The ego you're going to develop, let's all be honest, right?
00:10:47.000 The ego you're going to develop is gonna be monumental.
00:10:49.000 I'm special.
00:10:50.000 I'm so gorgeous.
00:10:51.000 All this bullshit, right?
00:10:52.000 And then what happens as they grow older, as new generations come along, because the truth is most women are at their peak attraction, let's say in their early 20s. 0.99
00:11:00.000 As they grow older, what they what women become is far more fearful of competition. 1.00
00:11:05.000 This is why you'll see a woman who's a bit older go, oh, you know, I really want monogamy. 1.00
00:11:08.000 What she's scared of is her dude getting a 21 year old.
00:11:11.000 That's what she's fucking scared of.
00:11:12.000 She may not know it.
00:11:13.000 She may not say it.
00:11:14.000 But basically, that's what the truth is, because she knows a 21 year old is gonna be more desirable, higher status, more fertile.
00:11:19.000 That's what she's scared of.
00:11:21.000 Cheating is bad when you're 30 or 27.
00:11:23.000 No, but it's not about that.
00:11:25.000 I'm telling you the shift in the female mentality, because when a female is 20, she doesn't give a fuck about any of this. 1.00
00:11:31.000 She doesn't want to find a nice man.
00:11:33.000 Now she's trying to, like you're saying, chasing a lifestyle, chasing Mr. Promiscuous, chasing Mr. Famous. 1.00
00:11:37.000 Doesn't give a shit until she starts getting scared.
00:11:40.000 Oh, shit.
00:11:41.000 My age begins with three now.
00:11:43.000 And then they change.
00:11:44.000 Their mentality changes.
00:11:45.000 It's a fear element.
00:11:46.000 That's the reality.
00:11:47.000 And it's a biological fear element.
00:11:48.000 I'll give you an example of it.
00:11:49.000 You know what's amazing about humans?
00:11:51.000 We are still very primal.
00:11:53.000 When men like these two and me, when we walk through the mall, people just move.
00:11:58.000 It's like you can sense when you can sense when the big animals turn up, right?
00:12:03.000 It's something amazing about humans.
00:12:05.000 If you have a very attractive 45 year old woman, she's gorgeous. 0.99
00:12:08.000 But a gorgeous 19 year old walks in.
00:12:10.000 Look at that 45 year old woman's face. 1.00
00:12:12.000 She's furious.
00:12:13.000 She fucking hates her. 1.00
00:12:14.000 She just doesn't like her for no reason. 0.51
00:12:16.000 Yeah.
00:12:17.000 Because women understand, unfortunately, but you're innately, your age is a massive indicator 1.00
00:12:21.000 in your value.
00:12:22.000 In an inverse way to men, men are more valuable as we get older.
00:12:26.000 Every man, every woman knows that.
00:12:27.000 Every woman will sit here and go, yeah, I know a man who's older than me. 1.00
00:12:29.000 Of course.
00:12:30.000 But if I sit the other way around, I'm misogynistic.
00:12:32.000 It's just the reality of the world.
00:12:33.000 So, so then we have to go into the other point.
00:12:35.000 The point is this.
00:12:36.000 When you were at your peak value, you had zero interest in monogamy.
00:12:41.000 But then you find a man who's 35 at his peak value.
00:12:44.000 He's finally struggled and worked because when he was 19, no girl spoke to him.
00:12:48.000 When he was 23, he was broke.
00:12:50.000 When he was 24, he had no life experience.
00:12:52.000 When he was 25, he couldn't fuck.
00:12:53.000 When he was 20, whatever.
00:12:54.000 He finally gets to the point where he's now at his peak value.
00:12:57.000 He met 35 is you when you were 19.
00:13:00.000 And then you're sitting there saying to him, no, you should be a monogamy. 0.99
00:13:03.000 It's like, well, you fucking weren't.
00:13:05.000 You did whatever you wanted in your peak.
00:13:07.000 Now I'm finally got there.
00:13:09.000 And I had to work for my shit.
00:13:10.000 God gave you, God and L'Oreal gave you you.
00:13:13.000 I had to fucking struggle.
00:13:14.000 I had to go through hell to get on this yacht.
00:13:16.000 You got on the yacht with an Instagram DM.
00:13:18.000 I had to buy it.
00:13:19.000 And now you're telling me I need to fucking settle down and behave and grow up.
00:13:23.000 Fuck you.
00:13:24.000 It's bullshit.
00:13:25.000 You're assuming that the journey is a man that starts with nothing to something.
00:13:28.000 Because there's a lot of men.
00:13:29.000 That is exactly the journey of every man on earth.
00:13:31.000 We are born without value.
00:13:32.000 Do you?
00:13:33.000 Ah, so there's specificity in that.
00:13:36.000 Can I do something else?
00:13:37.000 Because that's not how it should be for everybody.
00:13:38.000 And that's not how it is for everybody.
00:13:40.000 And not for every woman either as well, may I just say.
00:13:42.000 Can I ask Brittany something, please?
00:13:44.000 You know, like, you've learned in the past, and now you want to find someone to settle down.
00:13:50.000 With hindsight now, would you have reversed it and started young looking for someone to settle down with?
00:13:56.000 Looking for those values that now you know.
00:13:58.000 I'm talking that with hindsight.
00:13:59.000 Okay.
00:14:00.000 Well, I actually, from 18 to 22, I was in a relationship.
00:14:04.000 I've always actually been a lover girl despite what I put out online for, you know, views.
00:14:09.000 I've never seen you online.
00:14:10.000 Yeah, that's fine.
00:14:11.000 That's even better.
00:14:12.000 I have always wanted one person.
00:14:15.000 And I feel like I was so delusional in thinking that, oh, I'm, like you said, like, I have value.
00:14:21.000 I'm beautiful.
00:14:22.000 I'm this.
00:14:23.000 I'm at my peak.
00:14:24.000 Like, why wouldn't you want to be with me?
00:14:25.000 Like, when I was talking to these relationships or just, like, I'm sorry, just people, my goal was always to get commitment.
00:14:30.000 Like, I'm giving you my time.
00:14:31.000 I'm pouring into you because I want commitment.
00:14:33.000 And the reality is I'd never had, I'd never really understood my value.
00:14:38.000 So I was going through guys, giving up sex, doing this, and it didn't make sense.
00:14:42.000 So I believe in, like, I stay on everything I do.
00:14:44.000 Like, I don't do apology tours.
00:14:46.000 It is what it is.
00:14:47.000 And I think that's where I feel like when they talk about women being delusional and all these other things, it is true. 1.00
00:14:53.000 Because what you have to understand is that there are repercussions to your decisions, which is fine.
00:14:56.000 So then you're talking about, okay, well, I want this type of guy.
00:14:59.000 I want this, that, and that.
00:15:00.000 You're talking about maybe monogamy.
00:15:01.000 That's 3% to 5% of animals are monogamous.
00:15:03.000 I think that's what it is, right?
00:15:04.000 So your window is really, really small for what you're looking for.
00:15:08.000 And even to go on to the point you said where you were talking about it's like a subconscious fear.
00:15:12.000 I think it's, like, for me, I feel like if it was more of a fear, I would have just stayed in my situation.
00:15:16.000 Like, it wouldn't have made sense.
00:15:17.000 Like, I mean, that was my first kid.
00:15:18.000 I thought I waited and did it right.
00:15:20.000 I left because I believe that there's something else on my heart when it comes to love, and I'm just going to have to trust that.
00:15:25.000 And if that means being alone, having a dog, I have to take that chance because the Bentley, the ring, the house, and still getting, again, deceived, right?
00:15:35.000 Disrespected because deceit is disrespect, right?
00:15:38.000 So I just, I cannot settle for that.
00:15:40.000 I can't suck a dick and shut up.
00:15:42.000 And that is where a lot of people don't like my views and what I represent because it is something new.
00:15:48.000 I don't know how it's going to fucking end.
00:15:50.000 I don't know what's going to happen.
00:15:51.000 So what would you tell your 17, if you had to, like, what would you tell your 17-year-old self, knowing what you know now?
00:15:57.000 Looking back and you had to meet yourself at 17, what would you tell your, what would you tell yourself?
00:16:03.000 Like, lock it down and wait for the right man, don't have sex. 1.00
00:16:06.000 What would you tell your 17-year-old self?
00:16:09.000 That the answers aren't outside of you because I feel like I'd always look for men to answer all of my questions that I've ever had.
00:16:18.000 I thought when I had a man, it would complete me.
00:16:20.000 And I feel like, too, especially with, like, my dad not being in my life, you look for somebody to guide me.
00:16:25.000 Like, so that's where, for me, I put too much value in someone else having the answers for me.
00:16:32.000 So that's why I'm really big on accountability.
00:16:34.000 So I would just tell myself, like, to be patient, to take your time, because I was always quick.
00:16:38.000 Oh, let's try to get in a relationship.
00:16:40.000 Like, we weren't even compatible.
00:16:42.000 There's a lot of just not compatible factors.
00:16:44.000 So I feel like, for me, it would be to slow down and to really get to know people,
00:16:49.000 instead of just blindly banking on potential that most likely would ever be tapped into,
00:16:53.000 or selling myself short because there's a fear of, well, I don't know, this could be the best that I could get.
00:16:57.000 I might as well just shut up and suck a dick. 1.00
00:16:59.000 And that's what I meant about women nowadays, because exactly what you'd be telling your 17-year-old self is what happened back in the day.
00:17:08.000 So when I'm repeating these things, I'm going, oh, you're old-fashioned.
00:17:12.000 But it seems like women do what they like, and then they hit a certain age and say, oh, well, I've got to settle. 1.00
00:17:17.000 But it's not settling, you're just getting whatever you can, or whatever you deserve.
00:17:22.000 You know what?
00:17:23.000 Because if you think back now, you'd be telling people now, rather than say that auntie's old-fashioned,
00:17:27.000 or auntie don't know what she's talking about, look what she'd be telling her 17-year-old self, 0.99
00:17:31.000 which ain't nothing that I already said.
00:17:33.000 Yeah, that's fine.
00:17:34.000 Because really and truly, really and truly, let me finish, let me finish, because what I've always said,
00:17:38.000 and you can check, I'm an older version of you.
00:17:41.000 So where you've been, I've already been an upper comeback.
00:17:45.000 So that's why I asked you, what would you tell your 17-year-old self?
00:17:48.000 Because me telling you is, I'm telling my 30-year-old self.
00:17:52.000 Do you understand where I'm coming from?
00:17:54.000 So it's not that I'm old-fashioned.
00:17:55.000 It's just that women hit a certain age and then realize, oh my God, it wasn't that old-fashioned. 0.99
00:18:01.000 You know, it works, because it does.
00:18:04.000 But there's no point in waiting until you're a certain age to start thinking about it.
00:18:09.000 You know, even if you hold your own accountability.
00:18:12.000 So it's like if you meet somebody and they were like 17, 18, and you saw the match in a certain way,
00:18:16.000 they asked you for advice, you wouldn't say do as I do.
00:18:18.000 You would say, listen, this is what happened to me, and this is what I thought,
00:18:21.000 and what I recommend you do is blah, blah, blah.
00:18:23.000 Am I right or am I wrong?
00:18:24.000 If they ask you for your advice.
00:18:26.000 No, I totally get what you're saying.
00:18:27.000 I totally agree with that.
00:18:28.000 I think that no matter what you decide to do, you have to accept whatever repercussions come behind that.
00:18:32.000 So any advice that I give to anybody is do what you want, but just know there are repercussions,
00:18:36.000 good, bad, or indifferent, that are going to come behind it.
00:18:38.000 So, I mean, and I think that's just where I'm at.
00:18:40.000 I don't even think it's like an age thing.
00:18:42.000 I think it's like, in reality, I have a son, and you really start asking yourself questions.
00:18:47.000 And again, I hate that it took having a child to really look into my life and call myself out on my bullshit.
00:18:54.000 If you got pregnant earlier, if you got pregnant at 18, 19, would it? 0.50
00:18:58.000 I was always on birth control.
00:19:00.000 I was on birth control for a decade.
00:19:01.000 I got off birth control.
00:19:02.000 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:19:05.000 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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