JustPearlyThings - August 22, 2023


MLD Says THIS About Body Positivity


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

183.65091

Word Count

1,828

Sentence Count

196

Misogynist Sentences

16

Hate Speech Sentences

5


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 And it's interesting, too, that you guys, like, weren't hand-selected for this body positivity thing.
00:00:07.140 No, I know. I have no idea.
00:00:08.820 That's like the universe is coming together. That's pretty cool.
00:00:11.400 The thing is, there's a perception when it comes to people that choose to have elective surgery.
00:00:18.360 And that is what I try in my day-to-day life, try to allow people to see that it's not about just wanting to have surgery to get rid.
00:00:26.240 But some people are not best gym candidates.
00:00:29.260 I wasn't. I mean, I'd spent thousands of pounds on personal trainers, on diet plans.
00:00:35.260 I was doing all sorts. However, what happens is, yes, you might lose the weight.
00:00:40.240 The weight will go down. And in my case, I had a hernia.
00:00:44.100 I'd had three C-sections. My stomach was protruding.
00:00:47.500 That's the recti muscle in the middle had opened. I needed to have muscle repair.
00:00:51.860 And that cannot be fixed in the gym.
00:00:54.540 So when I was losing the weight, in fact, I actually looked better when I was bigger
00:00:58.200 because I could hold my own.
00:01:00.380 When I lost the weight, everything dropped and went down south.
00:01:03.600 And it looked worse, to be fair.
00:01:05.420 So when I saw that happened after I'd lost all the weight, well, what do I do now?
00:01:10.420 Because the gym is not going to help this.
00:01:13.100 I need to have a tummy tuck.
00:01:15.380 I need to have muscle repair.
00:01:17.260 So knowing that I needed to have that done, there is a number of people out there who go,
00:01:23.380 why don't you go to the gym?
00:01:24.240 Well, I did.
00:01:25.140 Yeah.
00:01:25.580 For many years.
00:01:26.460 And my biggest thing is, too, if we're supposed to enthusiastically support people chopping off
00:01:32.260 their wieners and becoming women, like, you've got to shut up about this other stuff, too.
00:01:36.960 Like, God, can I say something?
00:01:38.040 You've got to choose one.
00:01:39.180 You've got to choose one.
00:01:40.140 Can I say something, please?
00:01:42.120 Can I just remind you all that body positivity isn't only, like, people with big black relationships.
00:01:48.940 It's about unable people as well.
00:01:51.320 And people are born deformed.
00:01:54.040 Some people are born with disabilities.
00:01:56.260 And I think body positivity is also linked with that.
00:01:59.280 But the main marketing component of body positivity is towards women to say you can be obese and
00:02:05.840 you're still beautiful.
00:02:06.800 I just don't think we should celebrate something that's a choice.
00:02:11.920 You're celebrating it when you're putting on the cover of magazines.
00:02:15.240 That's a reward.
00:02:16.300 That's, like, a positive thing when you're specifically giving people parts because they're plus size,
00:02:21.440 when you're specifically trying to put it out there, make that the representation in the media.
00:02:26.240 And it's interesting, too, because earlier you said, like, that you seem to say, like, you couldn't lose the weight.
00:02:34.740 Was that what you were saying earlier?
00:02:36.260 Yes, I couldn't.
00:02:37.780 But it's like before the podcast starts, you drink a coat.
00:02:41.540 I'm not trying to call you out, but it's like...
00:02:42.920 No, no, no.
00:02:43.500 It's like...
00:02:44.140 No, don't get me wrong.
00:02:45.400 Yeah.
00:02:46.180 Hello, I'm on your podcast.
00:02:47.800 I want to have a good time, you know.
00:02:49.240 I'm not at home.
00:02:50.000 I don't need to be drinking all healthy stuff.
00:02:53.260 But what I'm saying...
00:02:53.940 But the reason I say that is just because I'll hear people say that, but then I, like, watch what they eat.
00:02:59.060 And I'm like, it doesn't seem to add up.
00:03:00.820 Do you know, it's just about representation.
00:03:03.580 It's basically the little things from, like, there's...
00:03:08.820 For example, you can go to a store.
00:03:11.540 You can't get certain things.
00:03:14.600 You can order something from online.
00:03:16.880 You can't see.
00:03:17.960 You can't actually...
00:03:18.960 Because there's not the person wearing it.
00:03:20.600 You can't see it.
00:03:23.640 I was actually going to say something.
00:03:26.000 What I wanted to say is...
00:03:27.780 It's actually just...
00:03:29.100 Go on.
00:03:29.300 Go on.
00:03:29.660 Take it away.
00:03:30.420 I think...
00:03:31.100 The mind thought has just escaped.
00:03:33.120 That's fine.
00:03:33.820 I think it all starts as well from a young age and how you're brought up.
00:03:40.420 Yes.
00:03:40.580 And the way that your parents feed you and what they do for you being brought up.
00:03:46.840 Well, and that's why I think it's so important to, like, get in control of your eating habits if you want to have children.
00:03:52.320 Because it's not fair to the next generation to be brought up with eating habits that will give you an early grave.
00:03:58.660 And I even think about that with myself because I have, like, a horrible sugar addiction.
00:04:02.800 I literally love sugar.
00:04:04.740 It's so bad.
00:04:05.540 So does everybody else.
00:04:06.700 It's addictive.
00:04:07.420 But we do have, like, health problems because, like, a lot of people in my family eat a lot of...
00:04:13.380 I forget what, the early onset something.
00:04:16.300 I'm not a medical person.
00:04:17.780 But, like, I think of this even for myself, you know.
00:04:20.640 Yeah.
00:04:20.920 So I think it's, like, important that we don't celebrate that sort of thing.
00:04:24.760 Yeah.
00:04:25.020 I agree with that.
00:04:25.900 Because growing up, for me, I used to see my mum forever doing different diets.
00:04:31.020 Yeah.
00:04:31.320 Going on the Cambridge diet.
00:04:32.480 You know when you just eat the shakes and you have those cardboard bars?
00:04:35.600 Yeah.
00:04:35.800 Do you know the keto diet as well?
00:04:36.940 Yeah.
00:04:37.300 All of this.
00:04:37.940 And I saw my mum do that.
00:04:39.000 And I remember being at school.
00:04:40.580 And my mum was happy to say, I'd be like, Mum, I want to go on a diet.
00:04:43.040 And she'd pack my Rye Vita with my fruit.
00:04:45.860 And I was at school at year eight, year nine.
00:04:48.380 So it was 12, 13.
00:04:50.320 And my mum was happy to do that.
00:04:51.860 Whereas, you know, it's created bad habits for me.
00:04:55.740 And unhealthy eating habits.
00:04:56.980 Yeah.
00:04:57.400 I think it's everything in moderation.
00:04:58.560 Do you know what I realized, too?
00:05:00.160 I think it's a problem that comes from moms not being in the home anymore.
00:05:04.960 Yeah.
00:05:05.380 Because when moms are in the home, they're watching, like, what everyone's eating.
00:05:08.800 It's like their full phone.
00:05:09.720 It's tough to do that, to watch what everyone's eating when you're working, like, 20, 30, 40 hours a week.
00:05:14.280 In addition to that, too.
00:05:15.380 In addition to that, a lot of these food companies are behind the body positivity movement
00:05:21.240 because they know that their food is not really food.
00:05:24.640 It's, like, legislated poison.
00:05:26.380 Yeah.
00:05:26.640 They have so much high fructose cornstern stuff.
00:05:29.020 Chemicals.
00:05:29.420 And then, in addition to that, too, the rates of home cooking is going down all across the globe.
00:05:36.640 Guilty.
00:05:37.220 Yeah.
00:05:37.580 And, you know, people want to order Uber Eats and this and all that crap.
00:05:41.240 And then you're just eating processed food.
00:05:44.260 And I personally, this is me, I'm not, well, I don't have a food degree or whatever.
00:05:48.800 My degree is in psychology.
00:05:49.700 But I do believe that the rise that we're seeing, we're ever seeing an increasing rate of cancer in people.
00:05:57.740 I think that's directly correlated to the amount of processed food that we're consuming.
00:06:02.100 This is what I wanted to say earlier.
00:06:05.000 Body positivity is important.
00:06:07.540 And the reason why it's important is because people have grown up watching different things.
00:06:15.360 They've watched a certain type of people.
00:06:17.640 They've watched a certain type of behaviour.
00:06:20.680 And people, there are some people that don't leave their house.
00:06:23.780 There are some people who travel.
00:06:25.740 There are some people who don't experience much.
00:06:28.840 And they don't know, they judge people.
00:06:33.560 They have certain behaviours, what's taught on telly.
00:06:36.680 And that's why it's important.
00:06:40.160 It's not because it's important, like big people should be promoted.
00:06:43.820 It's important because some people actually aren't nice.
00:06:48.520 And some people do judge.
00:06:50.160 And some people speak, use a certain language.
00:06:52.720 And if there was, while growing up, if there was a mixture of people, if there were a mixture of cultures,
00:06:58.940 a mixture of backgrounds, all these things, yeah, body positivity wouldn't be needed.
00:07:06.660 But unfortunately, we've been programmed to think, this is beautiful, that is beautiful.
00:07:12.360 I don't think so.
00:07:13.680 No, no, because if you look at, because they did a study on this, this is what I do for a living.
00:07:17.580 So let me just tell you.
00:07:18.740 So they did a study on female attractiveness across all cultures, over multiple different generations and time periods.
00:07:26.460 And what guys like is still the same.
00:07:29.400 Small hips, nice butt, big breasts.
00:07:32.780 Shall I tell you why?
00:07:34.740 I have something here, too.
00:07:36.140 It says obese women are 20% less likely to marry.
00:07:40.580 This is a survey of over 10,000 people, which is a huge sample size.
00:07:44.280 According to a large 2022 social survey on dating, 65% of men would assign a rejection score to 3 out of 5 women.
00:07:53.360 Meaning they would, they're more likely to reject them.
00:07:56.700 And 18% of men assign a 5 out of 5 rejection score, meaning they would definitely reject them.
00:08:01.840 So on that, I'd like to point out that we are talking about obese people because fatness is seen as the monolith of body positivity.
00:08:11.160 And fat people are an easy target.
00:08:12.960 We can have skinny people on the covers of magazines and no one will say anything.
00:08:17.800 You won't hear a peep.
00:08:18.780 But their health is still in danger.
00:08:20.320 People, people, no, they did in the early 2000s, they said the girls were too skinny.
00:08:25.020 I actually remember that.
00:08:25.960 Yeah, no, they definitely did.
00:08:27.940 And where's that nerf?
00:08:29.520 Anorexia was literally a thing.
00:08:31.140 Models were, yeah, they were demonizing it.
00:08:33.100 The casting directors were getting sued all sorts.
00:08:35.540 Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:08:36.340 People complained.
00:08:37.800 Where is that now?
00:08:38.400 The skinny girls aren't on the covers anymore.
00:08:40.820 They're replaced.
00:08:41.940 You think they're being replaced by fat people?
00:08:43.560 Yes.
00:08:43.960 No, no, no, that's not true, please.
00:08:46.760 No, Perl, that's not true.
00:08:48.080 I'm sorry.
00:08:48.700 Let's look at the Victoria's Secret fashion show.
00:08:51.800 That was like the epitome of modeling.
00:08:54.720 Yeah.
00:08:55.160 But that was one of the top, like the epitome.
00:08:59.300 You cannot tell me.
00:09:00.180 That was not one of the most competitive, like everyone wanted to be a Victoria's Secret model.
00:09:05.740 And then since they've switched to Victoria's Secret has been bleeding money.
00:09:09.400 They're losing money right now.
00:09:11.020 They're no longer a profitable business.
00:09:12.520 You need to think about how these brands are moving as well.
00:09:15.260 With Victoria's Secret, it was this tall woman.
00:09:19.440 There's this blonde hair.
00:09:21.420 Yeah, she's a certain looking type.
00:09:24.000 And you really see a difference in what Rihanna's doing.
00:09:28.360 She's involving a whole load of rage and she's getting the sales.
00:09:32.200 So Victoria's Secret didn't move with the time.
00:09:34.640 And now the event is taking over.
00:09:36.420 I don't think we should have to adjust because of people's choices.
00:09:40.780 Because if you make a choice to be overweight, why does society have to adjust to you?
00:09:45.880 Why does there have to be representation on the cover of magazines?
00:09:51.920 Why do they have to make specific stores for bigger people when really we should be focusing on losing the weight?