MLD Says THIS About Body Positivity
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Summary
In this episode, I'm joined by the lovely and we talk all things Body Positivity. We talk about how important it is to be body positive, why it's so important to be positive about your body, and why we should all be body positivity about it.
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And it's interesting, too, that you guys, like, weren't hand-selected for this body positivity thing.
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That's like the universe is coming together. That's pretty cool.
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The thing is, there's a perception when it comes to people that choose to have elective surgery.
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And that is what I try in my day-to-day life, try to allow people to see that it's not about just wanting to have surgery to get rid.
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I wasn't. I mean, I'd spent thousands of pounds on personal trainers, on diet plans.
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I was doing all sorts. However, what happens is, yes, you might lose the weight.
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The weight will go down. And in my case, I had a hernia.
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I'd had three C-sections. My stomach was protruding.
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That's the recti muscle in the middle had opened. I needed to have muscle repair.
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So when I was losing the weight, in fact, I actually looked better when I was bigger
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When I lost the weight, everything dropped and went down south.
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So when I saw that happened after I'd lost all the weight, well, what do I do now?
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So knowing that I needed to have that done, there is a number of people out there who go,
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And my biggest thing is, too, if we're supposed to enthusiastically support people chopping off
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their wieners and becoming women, like, you've got to shut up about this other stuff, too.
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Can I just remind you all that body positivity isn't only, like, people with big black relationships.
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And I think body positivity is also linked with that.
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But the main marketing component of body positivity is towards women to say you can be obese and
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I just don't think we should celebrate something that's a choice.
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You're celebrating it when you're putting on the cover of magazines.
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That's, like, a positive thing when you're specifically giving people parts because they're plus size,
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when you're specifically trying to put it out there, make that the representation in the media.
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And it's interesting, too, because earlier you said, like, that you seem to say, like, you couldn't lose the weight.
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But it's like before the podcast starts, you drink a coat.
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I'm not trying to call you out, but it's like...
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But the reason I say that is just because I'll hear people say that, but then I, like, watch what they eat.
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It's basically the little things from, like, there's...
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I think it all starts as well from a young age and how you're brought up.
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And the way that your parents feed you and what they do for you being brought up.
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Well, and that's why I think it's so important to, like, get in control of your eating habits if you want to have children.
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Because it's not fair to the next generation to be brought up with eating habits that will give you an early grave.
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And I even think about that with myself because I have, like, a horrible sugar addiction.
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But we do have, like, health problems because, like, a lot of people in my family eat a lot of...
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But, like, I think of this even for myself, you know.
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So I think it's, like, important that we don't celebrate that sort of thing.
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Because growing up, for me, I used to see my mum forever doing different diets.
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You know when you just eat the shakes and you have those cardboard bars?
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And my mum was happy to say, I'd be like, Mum, I want to go on a diet.
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Whereas, you know, it's created bad habits for me.
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I think it's a problem that comes from moms not being in the home anymore.
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Because when moms are in the home, they're watching, like, what everyone's eating.
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It's tough to do that, to watch what everyone's eating when you're working, like, 20, 30, 40 hours a week.
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In addition to that, a lot of these food companies are behind the body positivity movement
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because they know that their food is not really food.
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They have so much high fructose cornstern stuff.
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And then, in addition to that, too, the rates of home cooking is going down all across the globe.
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And, you know, people want to order Uber Eats and this and all that crap.
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And I personally, this is me, I'm not, well, I don't have a food degree or whatever.
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But I do believe that the rise that we're seeing, we're ever seeing an increasing rate of cancer in people.
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I think that's directly correlated to the amount of processed food that we're consuming.
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And the reason why it's important is because people have grown up watching different things.
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And people, there are some people that don't leave their house.
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There are some people who don't experience much.
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They have certain behaviours, what's taught on telly.
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It's not because it's important, like big people should be promoted.
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It's important because some people actually aren't nice.
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And if there was, while growing up, if there was a mixture of people, if there were a mixture of cultures,
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a mixture of backgrounds, all these things, yeah, body positivity wouldn't be needed.
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But unfortunately, we've been programmed to think, this is beautiful, that is beautiful.
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No, no, because if you look at, because they did a study on this, this is what I do for a living.
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So they did a study on female attractiveness across all cultures, over multiple different generations and time periods.
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It says obese women are 20% less likely to marry.
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This is a survey of over 10,000 people, which is a huge sample size.
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According to a large 2022 social survey on dating, 65% of men would assign a rejection score to 3 out of 5 women.
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Meaning they would, they're more likely to reject them.
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And 18% of men assign a 5 out of 5 rejection score, meaning they would definitely reject them.
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So on that, I'd like to point out that we are talking about obese people because fatness is seen as the monolith of body positivity.
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We can have skinny people on the covers of magazines and no one will say anything.
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People, people, no, they did in the early 2000s, they said the girls were too skinny.
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The casting directors were getting sued all sorts.
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You think they're being replaced by fat people?
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Let's look at the Victoria's Secret fashion show.
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That was not one of the most competitive, like everyone wanted to be a Victoria's Secret model.
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And then since they've switched to Victoria's Secret has been bleeding money.
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You need to think about how these brands are moving as well.
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With Victoria's Secret, it was this tall woman.
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And you really see a difference in what Rihanna's doing.
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She's involving a whole load of rage and she's getting the sales.
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So Victoria's Secret didn't move with the time.
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I don't think we should have to adjust because of people's choices.
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Because if you make a choice to be overweight, why does society have to adjust to you?
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Why does there have to be representation on the cover of magazines?
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Why do they have to make specific stores for bigger people when really we should be focusing on losing the weight?