JustPearlyThings - Modern Feminist Got SCHOOLED For Saying THIS

00:00:00.000 don't recognize when you go out and you dress and you speak who do you represent when you go out as

00:00:05.440 a woman in the relationship your husband right so when you're at school and you're in uniform you

00:00:10.400 represent the school yeah when you go out as a child you represent your parents if you have a

00:00:14.720 man you represent your man you're a couple so people gonna know that if he sees you on a on a

00:00:20.960 podcast and you're doing god knows what you're gonna represent him people gonna know that's so

00:00:26.160 and so's woman so you have to listen to him you don't don't he doesn't tell me what to do but i

00:00:31.760 have to take his feelings into account do you flip that do you flip that and to say does he represent

00:00:38.000 you as well when he's doing stuff yeah well then do you do you have authority over him to give him

00:00:41.840 permission to do stuff or not yes he won't do anything we discuss everything it works both

00:00:46.800 ways but he has the final decision he has the final decision if he's going to do something and

00:00:57.520 he says i'm going to do that and i'm like do you know what i don't agree with that because it's

00:01:02.000 been so long 32 years and counting because it's been so long he he will know that there must be a

00:01:08.400 reason behind it that i don't agree with him now he will even listen to me as i would do him because i

00:01:14.240 don't have to take everything he says as gospel it's up to me whether to take it or not i will

00:01:21.680 listen to him rather than listen to my friends because women will finally listen to their friends 1.00

00:01:26.240 what about most of us that haven't had 32 years and so are you saying that i've been with my man

00:01:30.480 two years and i must what he says goes this is what my struggle is what i'm trying to say you've been

00:01:35.280 able to build that trust you've been able to know that he's got your best interest at heart yeah you've

00:01:39.040 been able to know that he has your right your right intentions but most of us haven't had 32

00:01:45.040 years to practice all that you know so i can't adopt your position can i say something do you know

00:01:49.040 something right you as a woman would know within the first six months whether that man is for you 1.00

00:01:55.760 i can't say that because i would know didn't end up wherever me personally i would know i was a single

00:02:00.800 parent just like you i was a single parent and we split up but when i met him back he was a single

00:02:05.040 parent so i know that anything he says if it jars in my heart i have to think to myself you know what

00:02:11.840 that don't feel right let me discuss it but if i think to myself i am not going to be a detriment

00:02:18.960 then i'll go with it because it's not harming me so if he if i think in my head as a woman that what

00:02:25.520 he's saying doesn't benefit me or harms me i will discuss it and then because it's not the fact that

00:02:32.960 oh what he says goes i will discuss it with him and i want to hear where he's coming from because all

00:02:38.800 right then for instance you've got a man and you both of you have a favorite artist

00:02:44.720 and the favorite artist gives you two free tickets to go and then your man looks at a ticket and says

00:02:50.400 you know what you're not going what would you do like this conversation couldn't happen with my man

00:02:55.360 anyway honestly i think that i think the modern relationship is way too uh it what no let me say

00:03:02.800 the modern relationship i'm looking for is way too equal in terms of opinion and position there's

00:03:07.840 there's a conversation it's about what's making me happy and if it's taking my best friend to that

00:03:12.160 concert he wants to see me smile and he wants to see me happy that's what's going to happen in that

00:03:16.240 concert but you didn't answer the question so the question was i asked you what would you do like

00:03:20.560 when he asks you to do something that you don't want to do or to not to not go somewhere that you

00:03:25.600 want to go to i will consider his feelings but if it's in my best interest i cannot put myself the

00:03:29.360 only man or the only being is god that can tell me by speech by prayer okay sorry whatever by message

00:03:37.840 god says obey your man the man's the head he's my man he's my man he didn't put a ring on it

00:03:43.360 but then you should be with him until you put the ring on it right but what i'm trying to say is

00:03:47.920 if i'm a feminist what does it mean for me as a single woman that's what i'm trying to understand

00:03:51.680 from this conversation okay so can i try to add a little bit of context on it because it's like a

00:03:55.760 okay so basically what what what they're saying is okay so yes working taking out the rubbish doing

00:04:02.400 all of these things are seen as as masculinity right however i don't think we're speaking in that

00:04:07.600 regard because obviously these are things that have to be done you have to take out the rubbish you have

00:04:12.240 to work you have to do these things but i think we're especially as a single person however we're

00:04:18.160 basically saying but you're still a feminine that doesn't make you masculine what makes you masculine

00:04:23.040 is when you're like so let's put everything in context now so i said i made the same statement as

00:04:28.240 auntie right so i'm going to put things into context if i wanted to go shopping in tesco's for

00:04:33.200 example i don't need his permission right because i'm going tesco's and i'm doing food shopping

00:04:38.240 if somebody invites me to a club or some kind of event then i need to sit down and speak to him and

00:04:45.440 explain to him where i'm going what type of event is what kind of people are there all right let's

00:04:49.120 so let's say for example i'll put an outfit on and i put on a short dress and and my breasts are 0.99

00:04:54.880 revealing okay now if he says to me you look nice babe go out and have a good time as soon as he's

00:05:03.520 finished that sentence me and him are done because me i can't be the guy like that to me that's a simp

00:05:08.640 okay so if my my man or my husband says to me you need to go back and you need to change because what

00:05:15.200 you're wearing is inappropriate now look a lot of people will be like no why why i can wear what i

00:05:21.360 want if i want to wear but you're not you're not thinking because if you if you're going out with your

00:05:25.360 husband right and you go to a club or a place and you're wearing a short skirt and your breasts are out 1.00

00:05:30.720 you're there's a huge possibility that you're going to put your husband in a situation no but

00:05:34.640 he's next to me okay wait let me land let me land okay so for example my fiance right if me and him

00:05:43.520 went out to a place and he wouldn't let me wear that anyway in the first place but let's say he did

00:05:48.080 and we went out to a place right and a guy comes and and taps my bum why would he do that because they

00:05:53.680 do that well because i'm wearing a short skirt yes yes i've seen that many times but you can also do that

00:05:58.720 in jeans too right yeah but still if you it's less likely right and if he does do that if i had a bbl 0.95

00:06:04.880 you will tap my ass not necessarily but look look look we we have to go by intentions if i come to a 0.94

00:06:10.800 place and i'm properly covered up jeans and a guy does that he's getting smoked right there's no if 0.99

00:06:16.800 so but about it because this girl is respecting herself she's dressed up nice and you've come out of 0.96

00:06:21.200 your way yeah and you've you've slapped her ass now my fiance if he was with me right and somebody did that 0.99

00:06:28.720 there's a huge possibility he's going to jail for life but then you're wearing tight jeans why not 0.99

00:06:32.400 wear this one long skirt in it if we're going if you're going to do if you're going to do what

00:06:36.320 you can wear a long skirt yeah you want no curves no nothing you can you that's what you should do 0.98

00:06:40.720 then because you're calling for it also with the little tightness and no okay wait get it getting

00:06:44.720 away from the clothes get hold on getting away from the clothes i you guys this is what i'm so confused

00:06:47.840 about it auntie you kind of did it and then walked to a more agreeable area you guys talk about things

00:06:52.000 that are basic relationship norms but you like frame them in the most toxic way possible i don't understand so you

00:06:56.960 talk about like if i'm gonna wear something and go out to a club my boy my my boyfriend my husband

00:07:01.280 whatever is going to approve of it which to some extent like can make sense in a relationship context

00:07:06.960 but if you flip that around if your boyfriend or husband says i'm gonna go out to party you know and

00:07:12.160 there's like you know 10 girls there and like two guys i imagine you have to okay that right you'd have

00:07:16.720 to tell him whether or not you give him permission to do that no yes okay so you guys frame these things

00:07:21.280 like my my husband is the ultimate authority and blah blah blah but that's not true for all you guys

00:07:24.960 it's a back and forth like you're going to be okay what he does he's going to be okay what you do

00:07:28.880 that has nothing to do with masculinity or femininity or anything like that that's just like two adults

00:07:33.200 having a relationship figure out what the boundaries are thank you yeah so so what do you mean by your

00:07:37.520 place when you say auntie because what does he saying that it is an equal exchange of um looking out for

00:07:44.480 each other no i think when i when i with me i'm different because if i'm gonna wear a short skirt and

00:07:51.520 something sexy i'm always gonna wear it with my man mostly i wear it at home but if i want to go

00:07:58.400 out and i say to him what do you think about this and do you know what what um destiny said

00:08:05.840 what we've been saying is just normal normal respect for each other and i respect him and his decisions

00:08:14.720 and his opinions and he will respect mine so it's not like i'm blindly following where he wants to go

00:08:21.680 because if he wanted to go somewhere or talk to certain people i've said in the past you know what

00:08:26.960 i don't like your friends and as a man i will say you know i'm not gonna say don't go out of them i'm

00:08:31.440 saying this watch out for this this is what i spotted this this this and this and i let him go ahead

00:08:36.880 and eventually he would not you know what you were right so it's just about respect but i find that

00:08:41.840 these modern people now they don't have the basic respect for each other as many of you know i was

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JustPearlyThings - June 05, 2023

Modern Feminist Got SCHOOLED For Saying THIS

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