Modern Men SUFFER This Grim Reality
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Summary
In this episode, we have a special guest on the show, David, who is a married man who has been with his wife for 8 years and has never been a VIRgins before. We talk about what it's like being a Virgins in the dating world, how to be a virgins in marriage, and how to find a good one.
Transcript
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Like, you used to just take your L, and you wouldn't want to tell everyone about it,
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You just go home and eat ice cream and cry about it, watch a sad movie, and then move on.
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Yeah, but now it's like we've got to tell everyone and start a cork.
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David, so you've been married the whole time, since day one,
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when you first were with a woman, married the whole time.
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So you haven't been exposed to the dating scene or outside?
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We started dating July of 2014, proposed to her in January of 2015,
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got married in August 2015, and we're about to come on eight years of marriage.
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They had a mutual friend at her birthday party.
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It was more so, there was a mutual friend, and she was a gossiper.
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And so when they all met, my mom told me about her.
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I was dating some girl at the time she didn't like.
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If you ever look her up on Instagram, gorgeous.
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And not one kind of thing, aside from just the fact that the parents were split,
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There's a road trip every time we went to go date and see each other.
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It's like going through London from one end to the other.
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Dude, I say like, I told my wife, I was like, there is no, like, we got into the relationship
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knowing that we wanted to get married early and grow together.
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That's why I'm like, yo, I never want to break up with her, lose her anything.
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Because if I have to go back in the dating pool, I'm just going to stay single.
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When I was in that phase, like, it was a little bit more fun and exciting.
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You go to a bedroom, you're like, yo, you got a little tally whacker down there, don't
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That's why I'm like, you come to Vegas and it's like, you don't know what you're going
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Pearl, remember we were talking about on your podcast how there's no virgins out there or
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it's hard to find a virgin or men don't want to.
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Should they have to be with a virgin to be successful in a marriage or what are your thoughts
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Well, only nine, I think 96% of women aren't virgins on their wedding days.
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It's so funny because it's like, all the women will come forward and like, you know, it's
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Because 96% of us will be thrown out 100 years ago.
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How do we not know that part of that 96%, how do we not know that maybe they're not married,
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like she's not a virgin on their wedding day, but maybe she only had sex with that guy and
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Like, it's like, okay, okay, we'll give another, another five, but it's still nine out of
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I don't say this happily, you know, but not really.
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Well, then when you have a social media life that is brought on to 20-something-year-old
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women who are at the age of marriage and insecurities, they're going to veer themselves into a pond
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Like, all of these women who are going into selling their bodies for their money.
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One out of 25 under the age of 35 sells their bodies.
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Oh, I'm sure, I'm sure that it's even more than that.
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So is one out of 25 selling or are all of them?
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Because if you're married, you're paying for it if you're married.
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If you have a girlfriend, you have to have resources.
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If you have a transactional relationship, you're paying for it.
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So maybe one out of 25 has a transactional situation.
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And the guys that don't, just like the guy says, I'd never pay for it.
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Well, I wouldn't want to be with a girl that's free because there's no value.
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If she says, oh, come over and watch Netflix and we'll have sex, dude, that's easy.
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If for thousands of years, men or women always went for guys with the resources, right?
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Dr. David Buss in his book, Evolution of Desire.
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And if that's the case, we have to establish those resources.
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I think there's a distinction, though, between paying for it and just being a guy who's of,
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I talked to Tristan about this and they have or had a lot of money, right?
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And he said, but it's not like, it's not like you say to the woman, right, come out and I'm
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going to, you know, I'll give you five grand for the weekend.
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But it is, hey, I've got this cool car, we can take a trip, we can go down to Italy,
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we'll be by the beach, we'll go to this cool restaurant, blah, blah, blah.
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So they're providing, the money allows you to provide an interesting experience, but it's
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not necessarily, but I agree, there are degrees of transactionality in all of this stuff.
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But that, you don't have to be, you know, Tristan Tate-style multi-millionaire for that
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There's a lot of girls who, they want to go on trips.
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I think, I think the whole point is that, you know, just as women, we make kind of
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You know, and that's what I was thinking about.
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I'm like, you can't better, like, and I was thinking about, I was thinking about how
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nowadays, like, under five is the new virgin, and I was thinking about how sad that is.
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I'm like, as a group, I'm like, as a group, like, the best women in today's market, it's