JustPearlyThings - August 16, 2023


Modern Men SUFFER This Grim Reality


Episode Stats

Length

6 minutes

Words per Minute

219.56868

Word Count

1,517

Sentence Count

150

Misogynist Sentences

14

Hate Speech Sentences

10


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 And we used to take L's and move on.
00:00:02.800 Like, you didn't go around.
00:00:04.380 Like, you used to just take your L, and you wouldn't want to tell everyone about it,
00:00:08.440 because it's a little embarrassing.
00:00:09.600 You just go home and eat ice cream and cry about it, watch a sad movie, and then move on.
00:00:13.140 Yeah, but now it's like we've got to tell everyone and start a cork.
00:00:17.780 Like, just take your L.
00:00:19.700 David, so you've been married the whole time, since day one,
00:00:23.420 when you first were with a woman, married the whole time.
00:00:25.960 So you haven't been exposed to the dating scene or outside?
00:00:28.440 Y'all are freaking wild.
00:00:30.000 I'm just going to say that right now.
00:00:31.100 Like, I look at this stuff from the outside.
00:00:33.420 So crazy story, awesome virginity to my wife.
00:00:37.060 We've been together since 2014.
00:00:39.820 We started dating July of 2014, proposed to her in January of 2015,
00:00:43.780 got married in August 2015, and we're about to come on eight years of marriage.
00:00:47.580 One woman my entire life.
00:00:49.780 How did you meet?
00:00:50.740 How did you meet?
00:00:51.280 At school or college?
00:00:52.480 So my mom actually introduced me to her.
00:00:54.420 They had a mutual friend at her birthday party.
00:00:56.460 So no, it wasn't even arranged.
00:00:57.260 I'm just playing.
00:00:57.640 It was more so, there was a mutual friend, and she was a gossiper.
00:01:01.800 And so that friend watched her grow up.
00:01:05.740 And so when they all met, my mom told me about her.
00:01:07.680 I was dating some girl at the time she didn't like.
00:01:09.980 And she showed me one picture of her.
00:01:11.540 If you ever look her up on Instagram, gorgeous.
00:01:13.520 It's just at Yana Fishchuck.
00:01:14.640 And she had these striped pants on.
00:01:16.780 And I was like, yo, those legs don't end.
00:01:19.060 And so I had followed her.
00:01:20.560 I was dating this girl.
00:01:21.340 I was in the process of breaking up with her.
00:01:23.420 And I asked this mutual friend about her.
00:01:26.980 And not one kind of thing, aside from just the fact that the parents were split,
00:01:30.540 and there was just some stuff going on there.
00:01:32.000 Now, was she in Monroe?
00:01:33.660 No, she was in Auburn, which is an hour away.
00:01:36.180 It's an hour away.
00:01:37.300 I know what that is.
00:01:37.760 There's a road trip every time we went to go date and see each other.
00:01:39.680 Yeah, in Seattle.
00:01:40.640 I mean, here you get there in 15 minutes.
00:01:42.140 There it takes you eight hours to drive.
00:01:43.400 Not literally, but it's traffic.
00:01:46.360 Right.
00:01:46.760 Forget it.
00:01:48.040 It's like going through London from one end to the other.
00:01:50.380 Yeah.
00:01:50.680 Right.
00:01:51.080 So.
00:01:51.480 Dude, I say like, I told my wife, I was like, there is no, like, we got into the relationship
00:01:55.600 knowing that we wanted to get married early and grow together.
00:01:58.420 Was she a virgin too?
00:01:59.740 Yeah.
00:02:00.300 Oh.
00:02:01.020 And I talk about rare.
00:02:01.900 That's why I'm like, yo, I never want to break up with her, lose her anything.
00:02:04.740 Because if I have to go back in the dating pool, I'm just going to stay single.
00:02:07.680 I'm done.
00:02:08.160 I'm done.
00:02:08.760 It's so much worse.
00:02:09.900 It's not even as fun as I, like, when I was.
00:02:13.140 Because you're what?
00:02:14.040 Mid-20s?
00:02:14.820 Yeah.
00:02:14.920 I'm 29.
00:02:15.760 Yeah.
00:02:16.220 Late 20s.
00:02:17.080 Mid to late 20s.
00:02:18.160 When I was in that phase, like, it was a little bit more fun and exciting.
00:02:23.780 Now it's just dreadful.
00:02:25.640 I mean, I'm terrified.
00:02:26.520 I'm like, yo, girl, you're bomb.
00:02:27.740 You go to a bedroom, you're like, yo, you got a little tally whacker down there, don't
00:02:30.700 you?
00:02:31.260 That terrifies me.
00:02:32.140 I'm like, you don't even know.
00:02:33.360 You don't even know.
00:02:34.240 So I'm like, I'm good.
00:02:34.940 Wait, wait, wait.
00:02:35.360 Did you say tally whacker?
00:02:36.300 What do you mean?
00:02:36.700 He's got the extra.
00:02:37.680 I've got Daniel Craig over here.
00:02:38.940 So it's like, you know.
00:02:39.740 You've got the extra equipment days.
00:02:41.300 Basically.
00:02:41.760 That's what I'm afraid of.
00:02:42.620 That's why I'm like, you come to Vegas and it's like, you don't know what you're going
00:02:45.280 to get.
00:02:46.920 Pearl, remember we were talking about on your podcast how there's no virgins out there or
00:02:51.620 it's hard to find a virgin or men don't want to.
00:02:54.020 What are your thoughts on men?
00:02:55.440 Should they have to be with a virgin to be successful in a marriage or what are your thoughts
00:03:00.020 on this?
00:03:00.400 Well, only nine, I think 96% of women aren't virgins on their wedding days.
00:03:05.840 96%.
00:03:06.600 Yeah, so good luck if you want one.
00:03:09.220 Like, they don't really exist.
00:03:10.380 It's so funny because it's like, all the women will come forward and like, you know, it's
00:03:14.940 like, we're all whores, all of us.
00:03:17.280 Because, yeah, no, 96% even.
00:03:19.640 No, no, seriously.
00:03:21.000 Because 96% of us will be thrown out 100 years ago.
00:03:25.180 Yeah.
00:03:25.580 96%.
00:03:25.980 I got a 1% wife.
00:03:27.020 I'm cool with it.
00:03:27.800 96%.
00:03:28.560 Y'all are like, oh, that's so cute.
00:03:30.480 How do we not know that part of that 96%, how do we not know that maybe they're not married,
00:03:36.740 like she's not a virgin on their wedding day, but maybe she only had sex with that guy and
00:03:40.740 they got married.
00:03:41.160 Double it.
00:03:42.340 90%.
00:03:43.100 Like, it's like, okay, okay, we'll give another, another five, but it's still nine out of
00:03:48.240 10 of us would be thrown out 100 years ago.
00:03:50.520 So, I mean, can men expect that in 2023?
00:03:53.680 I don't say this happily, you know, but not really.
00:03:56.660 Well, then when you have a social media life that is brought on to 20-something-year-old
00:04:05.140 women who are at the age of marriage and insecurities, they're going to veer themselves into a pond
00:04:15.540 that maybe they're not even into.
00:04:18.460 Like, all of these women who are going into selling their bodies for their money.
00:04:26.500 One out of 25 under the age of 35 sells their bodies.
00:04:29.820 Oh, I'm sure, I'm sure that it's even more than that.
00:04:32.380 I want to talk about that.
00:04:33.500 I want to talk about that.
00:04:34.080 I would think it's even more than that.
00:04:35.660 You're going to like this.
00:04:36.180 Well, yeah, that's just Cam and OnlyFans.
00:04:37.760 But my philosophy is men always pay for it.
00:04:40.620 Yep.
00:04:41.060 Yeah, and that's why when they're desperate.
00:04:43.020 So is one out of 25 selling or are all of them?
00:04:46.260 I think it's more than that.
00:04:48.240 I think it's one out of five.
00:04:49.240 Because if you're married, you're paying for it if you're married.
00:04:50.960 You have to have resources.
00:04:53.160 If you have a girlfriend, you have to have resources.
00:04:54.680 You just got a contracted hooker.
00:04:55.760 If you have a transactional relationship, you're paying for it.
00:04:59.360 So maybe one out of 25 has a transactional situation.
00:05:02.720 But I believe all men pay.
00:05:04.920 And the guys that don't, just like the guy says, I'd never pay for it.
00:05:07.820 Oh, she did it for free.
00:05:08.980 Well, I wouldn't want to be with a girl that's free because there's no value.
00:05:12.240 There's no value.
00:05:12.500 If she says, oh, come over and watch Netflix and we'll have sex, dude, that's easy.
00:05:16.760 Who wants to be with that?
00:05:18.080 So look at it from this perspective.
00:05:20.320 If for thousands of years, men or women always went for guys with the resources, right?
00:05:25.080 Yeah.
00:05:25.340 Dr. David Buss in his book, Evolution of Desire.
00:05:28.360 And if that's the case, we have to establish those resources.
00:05:31.540 That costs us money.
00:05:32.760 I think there's a distinction, though, between paying for it and just being a guy who's of,
00:05:38.900 you know, decent net worth.
00:05:41.080 And he can provide interesting experiences.
00:05:43.780 Like I've talked to the Tates about this.
00:05:44.900 There's no difference.
00:05:45.720 I talked to, no, there is.
00:05:46.640 I talked to Tristan about this and they have or had a lot of money, right?
00:05:51.480 And he would date women.
00:05:52.580 And he said, but it's not like, it's not like you say to the woman, right, come out and I'm
00:05:55.480 going to, you know, I'll give you five grand for the weekend.
00:05:57.300 No.
00:05:57.400 It's not that.
00:05:58.200 But it is, hey, I've got this cool car, we can take a trip, we can go down to Italy,
00:06:02.760 we'll be by the beach, we'll go to this cool restaurant, blah, blah, blah.
00:06:05.020 So they're providing, the money allows you to provide an interesting experience, but it's
00:06:10.660 not necessarily, but I agree, there are degrees of transactionality in all of this stuff.
00:06:14.700 But that, you don't have to be, you know, Tristan Tate-style multi-millionaire for that
00:06:18.100 to happen, though.
00:06:18.740 They're on a lower level.
00:06:20.380 There's a lot of girls who, they want to go on trips.
00:06:22.300 I think, I think the whole point is that, you know, just as women, we make kind of
00:06:27.340 dumb decisions.
00:06:28.300 So here, put that up again, please.
00:06:30.080 Put that up again, please.
00:06:37.240 You know, and that's what I was thinking about.
00:06:39.500 I'm like, you can't better, like, and I was thinking about, I was thinking about how
00:06:42.900 nowadays, like, under five is the new virgin, and I was thinking about how sad that is.
00:06:47.100 I'm like, as a group, I'm like, as a group, like, the best women in today's market, it's
00:06:52.720 like, under five men.
00:06:53.500 Well, the best women in...