JustPearlyThings - August 05, 2023


Modern Society CAN’T Handle This Truth Bomb


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

203.08298

Word Count

1,963

Sentence Count

170

Misogynist Sentences

31

Hate Speech Sentences

19


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Yes, because I feel like when it comes to men,
00:00:02.740 I'm going to keep it nice and short because I can blab on.
00:00:05.780 So we expect a lot from a guy.
00:00:10.100 Obviously, when it comes to women being independent,
00:00:12.940 which again, I like inequality to some extent.
00:00:17.020 We don't really give that sense of power to,
00:00:21.620 like, what means being a man, you know?
00:00:24.480 So, like, responsibility and...
00:00:30.000 Yeah, I know what you mean.
00:00:31.920 I'm not sure if that makes sense.
00:00:33.020 No, no, no.
00:00:33.620 We don't give them that respect that we should give them in a way.
00:00:36.980 We don't let them lead.
00:00:38.060 Or that sense of power because he is a man, you know,
00:00:40.620 and he has certain duties that a woman can't do,
00:00:43.640 if that makes sense.
00:00:45.040 Yeah, it's like we want these...
00:00:46.400 We'll complain about male leadership,
00:00:48.040 but then when they're like, oh, let me lead,
00:00:49.540 we're like, oh, no, no, no, not like that.
00:00:51.100 We're like, sit down.
00:00:52.420 No, no, no, do it.
00:00:53.320 As I said, we are never happy.
00:00:55.920 That's not attractive to me.
00:00:56.960 That's true.
00:00:57.600 That's not attractive to me.
00:00:59.180 What?
00:01:00.080 Leadership?
00:01:00.760 No, a guy being a pushover.
00:01:02.360 Yeah.
00:01:02.940 I don't think that's attractive.
00:01:04.040 But that's the problem because guys are hit with this dual narrative,
00:01:06.600 aren't they?
00:01:06.900 Because on the one hand, it's like, no, we want, you know,
00:01:09.680 equality 100%, but, you know,
00:01:12.360 we don't want the guy to be sort of manipulative, coercive,
00:01:15.900 to be like trying to, you know, push it in any sort of...
00:01:17.880 But then on the other hand, of course,
00:01:19.340 what women seem to be attracted to most viscerally
00:01:21.420 is due to, you know, who leads and due to come in
00:01:24.880 and, you know, lay down the law.
00:01:26.620 So it's sort of like guys, I think,
00:01:28.280 are beset with this, you know,
00:01:30.280 two sort of opposing dialogues coming through, you know?
00:01:33.440 I feel like it's energy as well, though,
00:01:35.160 because if you don't have that energy,
00:01:36.520 I'm not listening to you.
00:01:37.640 Simple as that.
00:01:38.440 You have to count this.
00:01:39.640 There is a certain type of energy you have to have
00:01:44.460 and there's some guys that naturally do not have it,
00:01:47.200 but then they're like trying to tell you what to do.
00:01:48.760 And it's like, it's given the truth.
00:01:49.800 How do you describe the energy?
00:01:52.580 It's exactly, it's just energy.
00:01:54.600 I don't know, when you get it, you feel it.
00:01:56.300 Like when there is a guy who's telling you what to do
00:01:58.740 and he has that energy, you're like, oh, wow, okay.
00:02:02.160 But then another guy can try and do that
00:02:04.420 and put on that act, but you feel like it's forced.
00:02:06.700 And you're like, this isn't you.
00:02:09.200 You're just following the narrative,
00:02:10.860 but you're not actually that guy.
00:02:12.360 Yeah, you're not that guy.
00:02:13.020 You're not that guy.
00:02:13.760 You haven't got it in you.
00:02:15.840 Sorry.
00:02:16.580 We went hard.
00:02:18.500 I feel like in those situations,
00:02:20.060 you have to be unapologetically you.
00:02:22.460 Whether you're a man or a woman,
00:02:24.060 you always have to be unapologetically you.
00:02:26.280 Whether you want to take the reins or not,
00:02:28.760 you always have to be there and stand your own ground.
00:02:31.120 If you're happy to back down and be like,
00:02:33.280 do you know what?
00:02:34.460 We might both disagree,
00:02:35.360 but I think maybe what you're saying makes sense.
00:02:38.940 But I feel like there's a lot.
00:02:39.800 And that person's willing to go,
00:02:41.340 I know I make sense.
00:02:42.460 I'm happy to take the lead here.
00:02:44.040 But I also feel like.
00:02:45.400 That's cool.
00:02:46.220 I think it works both ways.
00:02:47.780 Yeah.
00:02:48.100 I think in,
00:02:49.180 I don't think over an emotional standpoint
00:02:51.960 that a man overtakes a woman in that.
00:02:54.500 But I agree with you,
00:02:55.600 but I also feel like what we're talking about,
00:02:57.240 the energy thing.
00:02:58.260 The problem is with some guys that do it
00:03:00.780 and we think that they don't have the energy.
00:03:02.400 It's because they're inconsistent.
00:03:04.280 They're inconsistent.
00:03:05.320 For example,
00:03:06.160 it's like,
00:03:06.700 say that again.
00:03:08.200 Say that again.
00:03:08.580 They're inconsistent with the energy.
00:03:10.500 Yeah.
00:03:11.080 So like sometimes they're masculine
00:03:12.820 and sometimes they're not.
00:03:13.760 Yeah.
00:03:14.000 Sometimes they're really tapping into that feminine role
00:03:16.240 and you're like,
00:03:16.880 you're turned off
00:03:17.980 because biologically you're just like,
00:03:20.040 as a woman,
00:03:20.540 you're going to look for that guy
00:03:21.740 who has that energy.
00:03:23.280 Could it be based on how you feel though that day?
00:03:26.880 Because we feel differently every day.
00:03:28.640 You can perceive things differently as well.
00:03:30.400 I agree, yeah.
00:03:31.080 So when you went,
00:03:32.100 for example,
00:03:32.500 what we talked about earlier,
00:03:33.220 the birth control pills,
00:03:34.060 when the woman's on the birth control pill,
00:03:35.620 maybe she's more open to the dude
00:03:37.160 who's less dominating,
00:03:40.140 you know,
00:03:40.560 and then.
00:03:42.200 More maternal giving.
00:03:43.860 Is that,
00:03:44.420 yeah.
00:03:44.680 Could that be correct?
00:03:45.560 I would say so, yeah.
00:03:48.220 It's hard being a guy, isn't it?
00:03:50.160 I'll tell you what.
00:03:51.440 I do feel sorry for you guys.
00:03:53.120 It's hard being a human.
00:03:55.160 You said it's hard being a woman.
00:03:57.580 I said that.
00:03:58.180 You said that?
00:03:58.860 Yeah.
00:03:59.340 Do you genuinely think it's harder
00:04:00.600 being a woman and dating than men?
00:04:02.240 It's so hard.
00:04:03.160 I think it's so hard.
00:04:04.360 But one thing I would say,
00:04:06.340 I feel like men
00:04:07.760 and like their experiences
00:04:08.980 or their voices,
00:04:09.880 it's definitely like,
00:04:11.440 it's so sad,
00:04:12.180 but they're not really shown.
00:04:13.580 And I feel like they should be shown a bit more.
00:04:16.060 I'm going to go back
00:04:16.880 to the first statement.
00:04:17.740 Women have harder time dating than men.
00:04:19.900 Yes or no?
00:04:20.360 Oh, wait.
00:04:20.760 That, no, no, no.
00:04:21.700 Sorry, no offense to the guys.
00:04:22.840 I know you guys are struggling.
00:04:23.920 No offense,
00:04:24.760 but yeah,
00:04:25.500 I feel like they struggle more.
00:04:27.620 You know,
00:04:28.460 there was a woman
00:04:30.440 who decided to pretend
00:04:32.360 to be a man for a while.
00:04:33.920 Can't remember her name,
00:04:35.320 but she ended up killing herself.
00:04:37.980 Because she,
00:04:38.700 she did,
00:04:40.820 she turned around and said,
00:04:42.500 I don't know what I was thinking.
00:04:44.620 Being a man is horrible.
00:04:46.740 And she said that
00:04:47.720 women completely ignored
00:04:49.600 everything she said,
00:04:50.840 looked down on her,
00:04:51.940 judged her on the way she looked,
00:04:53.680 judged her on everything that she said,
00:04:55.900 and she ended up killing herself.
00:04:58.180 I feel like because
00:04:58.680 men's mental health
00:04:59.920 and everything is so overlooked.
00:05:01.980 But then how,
00:05:03.240 is it fair to say
00:05:04.380 that it's easier to be a woman,
00:05:06.360 but we say that
00:05:07.220 we can't be equal
00:05:08.480 because we're both
00:05:09.060 so biologically different.
00:05:10.700 Is it fair to compare
00:05:11.980 whether it's easier
00:05:13.180 to be a man and a woman?
00:05:14.300 You can't compare.
00:05:14.600 Or is it,
00:05:15.340 exactly,
00:05:16.080 but that is the first statement
00:05:17.600 that came up.
00:05:18.220 No offense,
00:05:19.020 it's the first statement
00:05:19.800 that came up
00:05:20.260 and it's the first thing
00:05:20.780 that pops in your head.
00:05:22.040 So sometimes you just need
00:05:23.120 to take a back thought
00:05:23.940 and go,
00:05:24.880 actually,
00:05:25.760 is that right to say?
00:05:28.060 Or do I need to look
00:05:29.080 at it comparatively?
00:05:29.640 I've heard that story before,
00:05:30.960 but do you think,
00:05:31.940 do you know much about it?
00:05:33.240 I mean,
00:05:33.360 is there any evidence
00:05:34.180 to show that it was specifically,
00:05:35.940 you know,
00:05:36.260 or did she maybe have
00:05:36.920 some other issues going on?
00:05:38.180 Or do you know what I mean?
00:05:39.360 Well,
00:05:39.640 in any scientific study,
00:05:43.440 you cannot take away
00:05:45.440 external controllables.
00:05:47.920 Like,
00:05:48.040 you can't.
00:05:49.000 But in that situation,
00:05:50.900 from what she stated initially
00:05:53.620 was that it was really difficult
00:05:55.380 to act as a man
00:05:56.840 and to be treated
00:05:58.580 as the way men are.
00:05:59.920 It's just an interesting,
00:06:00.940 look,
00:06:01.160 it is not an end all
00:06:02.220 and be all
00:06:02.720 of the evidence
00:06:04.260 that supports it,
00:06:05.240 but it's an interesting turn on it.
00:06:07.240 Yeah.
00:06:07.900 But again,
00:06:08.480 I wouldn't use that
00:06:09.200 as a core element
00:06:10.440 of evidence
00:06:10.960 because it's definitely not.
00:06:12.000 The whole thing about men
00:06:13.120 get what they get
00:06:14.600 and then,
00:06:15.920 as in like,
00:06:16.800 men get what they get,
00:06:18.700 but then women
00:06:19.220 can choose.
00:06:20.960 I'm not sure,
00:06:22.040 like,
00:06:22.340 the whole phrase.
00:06:23.120 Yeah,
00:06:23.300 but I do feel like,
00:06:24.280 I know we always speak about
00:06:25.300 like how,
00:06:26.060 you know,
00:06:26.400 we're all saying how like,
00:06:27.660 men,
00:06:28.020 it's really hard for them
00:06:28.860 and everything
00:06:29.220 and yes,
00:06:29.800 it is
00:06:30.300 and nobody's disputing that.
00:06:31.900 But I do feel like
00:06:33.500 when it comes to women,
00:06:35.160 and I don't know
00:06:35.960 if anyone would agree with me,
00:06:37.040 but this is how I feel personally,
00:06:39.080 I do feel like
00:06:40.080 the women are more willing
00:06:42.280 to improve themselves
00:06:44.240 and to do the work
00:06:45.840 and to try and get better
00:06:47.360 and to become
00:06:48.040 the best versions of themselves.
00:06:49.380 Whereas men,
00:06:50.480 I'm just going to cut you,
00:06:51.560 can you tell me how?
00:06:53.160 How do women improve themselves?
00:06:54.140 So many ways,
00:06:54.900 different ways.
00:06:55.780 Women are literally
00:06:57.300 trying to work
00:06:59.300 on themselves mentally.
00:07:00.420 Like women,
00:07:01.560 women are more open
00:07:02.460 to therapy than men are.
00:07:03.940 They're open to getting help.
00:07:06.120 Do women need therapy
00:07:07.060 more than men do?
00:07:08.580 I think everyone does.
00:07:09.360 I don't think it's the other way.
00:07:11.100 I think it's the other way around actually
00:07:13.520 because I feel like
00:07:15.140 if a lot of men
00:07:16.860 actually went
00:07:17.620 and worked on themselves,
00:07:19.380 they would be able
00:07:21.140 to get the women
00:07:22.180 that they wanted
00:07:23.160 because a lot of these men
00:07:24.580 are walking around
00:07:25.560 with unresolved trauma
00:07:27.180 and a lot of issues
00:07:28.720 that they project
00:07:29.920 women don't speak
00:07:30.940 about their emotions.
00:07:31.540 Okay, so I just want
00:07:32.880 to go through.
00:07:33.460 So women go to therapy.
00:07:35.100 Yeah.
00:07:35.520 What else do we do?
00:07:36.400 They do all kinds of stuff.
00:07:37.760 They're into wellness.
00:07:39.480 You know,
00:07:39.660 a woman will actually
00:07:40.600 do anything.
00:07:41.680 False.
00:07:42.340 Wrong.
00:07:43.080 60% of women here,
00:07:44.380 no,
00:07:44.700 74% of women here
00:07:46.840 are overweight.
00:07:47.520 False.
00:07:49.480 You can't be into wellness
00:07:50.540 if most of us are fat.
00:07:52.180 Okay, next.
00:07:53.660 Oh, wow.
00:07:53.960 Also,
00:07:54.380 also women are...
00:07:55.800 I'm talking about mentally
00:07:57.000 they're trying to fix themselves.
00:07:58.180 They're trying to be
00:07:59.300 mentally healthy.
00:08:01.560 There's more women
00:08:02.420 on antidepressants
00:08:03.280 now than ever.
00:08:04.080 Wrong.
00:08:04.640 We're not mentally
00:08:05.200 more healthy.
00:08:06.160 Well, men are doing
00:08:06.720 absolutely nothing.
00:08:07.700 Nothing.
00:08:08.240 They're not doing anything
00:08:09.020 to help themselves.
00:08:09.840 Do you not think
00:08:10.020 that's a societal issue?
00:08:11.460 Apart from going to the gym.
00:08:12.520 Okay, okay.
00:08:13.080 What's next?
00:08:13.540 But they get looked down upon
00:08:15.360 for feeling that way,
00:08:16.760 so they never want
00:08:17.640 to go to anyone about it.
00:08:18.320 No, but that's a narrative
00:08:19.320 that they created
00:08:20.220 for themselves
00:08:20.920 because they've told themselves
00:08:22.240 that they have to be
00:08:23.140 really masculine,
00:08:24.480 but no woman
00:08:25.300 has ever sat there
00:08:26.300 and laughed at her husband
00:08:27.980 for crying.
00:08:29.000 Well, we talked about this.
00:08:30.760 Women actually want men
00:08:32.020 to open up.
00:08:32.300 I want you to back up
00:08:33.560 what you're saying.
00:08:34.000 You're saying women,
00:08:34.980 women,
00:08:35.880 they're into self-improvement.
00:08:37.200 So first one was wrong,
00:08:38.160 second one's wrong.
00:08:38.840 What's next?
00:08:39.880 Wellness is not wrong.
00:08:40.800 Women are going
00:08:42.020 to yoga classes.
00:08:43.880 They are...
00:08:44.280 How is it right
00:08:45.240 if we're fat?
00:08:46.540 Come on.
00:08:47.560 Okay, weight takes long
00:08:48.840 to get rid of.
00:08:50.620 Okay, okay, okay.
00:08:51.200 So then we could look
00:08:51.880 at a trend.
00:08:52.360 At least they're trying.
00:08:52.880 So we could look
00:08:53.800 at a trend of women
00:08:54.680 over time
00:08:55.280 and we're getting fatter,
00:08:56.320 we're not getting thinner.
00:08:57.380 So it's not correct.
00:08:58.740 You could think
00:08:59.360 what you think,
00:08:59.920 but it's not right.
00:09:00.580 Well, I don't know.
00:09:01.280 We can look at
00:09:01.960 what kind of food
00:09:03.220 people are eating,
00:09:04.140 but I'm talking...
00:09:04.680 The ones that make us fat.
00:09:05.720 Generally, women,
00:09:07.200 if you go on social media
00:09:08.560 and you see
00:09:09.120 what everyone's talking about,
00:09:10.220 women are always asking,
00:09:11.920 how do we do this?
00:09:12.860 How do we do that?
00:09:13.740 They are trying
00:09:14.420 to fix themselves
00:09:15.100 because they want
00:09:15.840 to meet that dream man.
00:09:17.620 That's why they're
00:09:18.080 on these dating apps.
00:09:18.960 That's why they go
00:09:19.700 to these dating agencies.
00:09:21.140 But I'm not getting
00:09:22.180 anything of substance.
00:09:24.200 Like nothing...
00:09:25.060 Okay, they fix themselves.
00:09:26.320 So they go to therapy.
00:09:27.720 They're trying
00:09:28.260 to help themselves mentally.
00:09:29.660 But they're on
00:09:30.860 more antidepressants
00:09:31.900 than ever.
00:09:32.740 So they might try
00:09:34.040 to do something,
00:09:34.760 but the result...
00:09:35.420 Like we have to look
00:09:35.960 at results here.
00:09:37.280 We can feel how we feel,
00:09:38.560 but we have to look
00:09:39.060 at results.