JustPearlyThings - Modern Society CAN’T Handle This Truth Bomb

00:00:00.000 Yes, because I feel like when it comes to men,

00:00:02.740 I'm going to keep it nice and short because I can blab on.

00:00:05.780 So we expect a lot from a guy.

00:00:10.100 Obviously, when it comes to women being independent, 1.00

00:00:12.940 which again, I like inequality to some extent.

00:00:17.020 We don't really give that sense of power to,

00:00:21.620 like, what means being a man, you know?

00:00:24.480 So, like, responsibility and...

00:00:30.000 Yeah, I know what you mean.

00:00:31.920 I'm not sure if that makes sense.

00:00:33.020 No, no, no.

00:00:33.620 We don't give them that respect that we should give them in a way.

00:00:36.980 We don't let them lead.

00:00:38.060 Or that sense of power because he is a man, you know,

00:00:40.620 and he has certain duties that a woman can't do,

00:00:43.640 if that makes sense.

00:00:45.040 Yeah, it's like we want these...

00:00:46.400 We'll complain about male leadership, 0.96

00:00:48.040 but then when they're like, oh, let me lead,

00:00:49.540 we're like, oh, no, no, no, not like that.

00:00:51.100 We're like, sit down.

00:00:52.420 No, no, no, do it.

00:00:53.320 As I said, we are never happy.

00:00:55.920 That's not attractive to me.

00:00:56.960 That's true.

00:00:57.600 That's not attractive to me.

00:00:59.180 What?

00:01:00.080 Leadership?

00:01:00.760 No, a guy being a pushover.

00:01:02.360 Yeah.

00:01:02.940 I don't think that's attractive.

00:01:04.040 But that's the problem because guys are hit with this dual narrative,

00:01:06.600 aren't they?

00:01:06.900 Because on the one hand, it's like, no, we want, you know,

00:01:09.680 equality 100%, but, you know,

00:01:12.360 we don't want the guy to be sort of manipulative, coercive,

00:01:15.900 to be like trying to, you know, push it in any sort of...

00:01:17.880 But then on the other hand, of course,

00:01:19.340 what women seem to be attracted to most viscerally 0.98

00:01:21.420 is due to, you know, who leads and due to come in

00:01:24.880 and, you know, lay down the law.

00:01:26.620 So it's sort of like guys, I think,

00:01:28.280 are beset with this, you know,

00:01:30.280 two sort of opposing dialogues coming through, you know?

00:01:33.440 I feel like it's energy as well, though,

00:01:35.160 because if you don't have that energy,

00:01:36.520 I'm not listening to you.

00:01:37.640 Simple as that.

00:01:38.440 You have to count this.

00:01:39.640 There is a certain type of energy you have to have

00:01:44.460 and there's some guys that naturally do not have it,

00:01:47.200 but then they're like trying to tell you what to do.

00:01:48.760 And it's like, it's given the truth.

00:01:49.800 How do you describe the energy?

00:01:52.580 It's exactly, it's just energy.

00:01:54.600 I don't know, when you get it, you feel it.

00:01:56.300 Like when there is a guy who's telling you what to do

00:01:58.740 and he has that energy, you're like, oh, wow, okay.

00:02:02.160 But then another guy can try and do that

00:02:04.420 and put on that act, but you feel like it's forced.

00:02:06.700 And you're like, this isn't you.

00:02:09.200 You're just following the narrative,

00:02:10.860 but you're not actually that guy.

00:02:12.360 Yeah, you're not that guy.

00:02:13.020 You're not that guy.

00:02:13.760 You haven't got it in you.

00:02:15.840 Sorry.

00:02:16.580 We went hard.

00:02:18.500 I feel like in those situations,

00:02:20.060 you have to be unapologetically you.

00:02:22.460 Whether you're a man or a woman,

00:02:24.060 you always have to be unapologetically you.

00:02:26.280 Whether you want to take the reins or not,

00:02:28.760 you always have to be there and stand your own ground.

00:02:31.120 If you're happy to back down and be like,

00:02:33.280 do you know what?

00:02:34.460 We might both disagree,

00:02:35.360 but I think maybe what you're saying makes sense.

00:02:38.940 But I feel like there's a lot.

00:02:39.800 And that person's willing to go,

00:02:41.340 I know I make sense.

00:02:42.460 I'm happy to take the lead here.

00:02:44.040 But I also feel like.

00:02:45.400 That's cool.

00:02:46.220 I think it works both ways.

00:02:47.780 Yeah.

00:02:48.100 I think in,

00:02:49.180 I don't think over an emotional standpoint

00:02:51.960 that a man overtakes a woman in that.

00:02:54.500 But I agree with you,

00:02:55.600 but I also feel like what we're talking about,

00:02:57.240 the energy thing.

00:02:58.260 The problem is with some guys that do it

00:03:00.780 and we think that they don't have the energy.

00:03:02.400 It's because they're inconsistent.

00:03:04.280 They're inconsistent.

00:03:05.320 For example,

00:03:06.160 it's like,

00:03:06.700 say that again. 0.71

00:03:08.200 Say that again. 0.71

00:03:08.580 They're inconsistent with the energy.

00:03:10.500 Yeah.

00:03:11.080 So like sometimes they're masculine 0.51

00:03:12.820 and sometimes they're not.

00:03:13.760 Yeah.

00:03:14.000 Sometimes they're really tapping into that feminine role 1.00

00:03:16.240 and you're like,

00:03:16.880 you're turned off

00:03:17.980 because biologically you're just like,

00:03:20.040 as a woman,

00:03:20.540 you're going to look for that guy

00:03:21.740 who has that energy.

00:03:23.280 Could it be based on how you feel though that day?

00:03:26.880 Because we feel differently every day.

00:03:28.640 You can perceive things differently as well.

00:03:30.400 I agree, yeah.

00:03:31.080 So when you went,

00:03:32.100 for example,

00:03:32.500 what we talked about earlier,

00:03:33.220 the birth control pills,

00:03:34.060 when the woman's on the birth control pill,

00:03:35.620 maybe she's more open to the dude

00:03:37.160 who's less dominating,

00:03:40.140 you know,

00:03:40.560 and then.

00:03:42.200 More maternal giving.

00:03:43.860 Is that,

00:03:44.420 yeah.

00:03:44.680 Could that be correct?

00:03:45.560 I would say so, yeah.

00:03:48.220 It's hard being a guy, isn't it?

00:03:50.160 I'll tell you what.

00:03:51.440 I do feel sorry for you guys.

00:03:53.120 It's hard being a human.

00:03:55.160 You said it's hard being a woman.

00:03:57.580 I said that.

00:03:58.180 You said that?

00:03:58.860 Yeah.

00:03:59.340 Do you genuinely think it's harder

00:04:00.600 being a woman and dating than men?

00:04:02.240 It's so hard.

00:04:03.160 I think it's so hard.

00:04:04.360 But one thing I would say,

00:04:06.340 I feel like men 0.96

00:04:07.760 and like their experiences

00:04:08.980 or their voices,

00:04:09.880 it's definitely like,

00:04:11.440 it's so sad,

00:04:12.180 but they're not really shown.

00:04:13.580 And I feel like they should be shown a bit more.

00:04:16.060 I'm going to go back

00:04:16.880 to the first statement.

00:04:17.740 Women have harder time dating than men. 0.95

00:04:19.900 Yes or no?

00:04:20.360 Oh, wait.

00:04:20.760 That, no, no, no.

00:04:21.700 Sorry, no offense to the guys.

00:04:22.840 I know you guys are struggling.

00:04:23.920 No offense,

00:04:24.760 but yeah,

00:04:25.500 I feel like they struggle more.

00:04:27.620 You know,

00:04:28.460 there was a woman 0.88

00:04:30.440 who decided to pretend

00:04:32.360 to be a man for a while.

00:04:33.920 Can't remember her name,

00:04:35.320 but she ended up killing herself.

00:04:37.980 Because she,

00:04:38.700 she did,

00:04:40.820 she turned around and said, 1.00

00:04:42.500 I don't know what I was thinking.

00:04:44.620 Being a man is horrible.

00:04:46.740 And she said that

00:04:47.720 women completely ignored 1.00

00:04:49.600 everything she said,

00:04:50.840 looked down on her,

00:04:51.940 judged her on the way she looked,

00:04:53.680 judged her on everything that she said,

00:04:55.900 and she ended up killing herself.

00:04:58.180 I feel like because

00:04:58.680 men's mental health

00:04:59.920 and everything is so overlooked.

00:05:01.980 But then how,

00:05:03.240 is it fair to say

00:05:04.380 that it's easier to be a woman,

00:05:06.360 but we say that

00:05:07.220 we can't be equal

00:05:08.480 because we're both

00:05:09.060 so biologically different.

00:05:10.700 Is it fair to compare

00:05:11.980 whether it's easier

00:05:13.180 to be a man and a woman?

00:05:14.300 You can't compare.

00:05:14.600 Or is it,

00:05:15.340 exactly,

00:05:16.080 but that is the first statement

00:05:17.600 that came up.

00:05:18.220 No offense,

00:05:19.020 it's the first statement

00:05:19.800 that came up

00:05:20.260 and it's the first thing

00:05:20.780 that pops in your head.

00:05:22.040 So sometimes you just need

00:05:23.120 to take a back thought

00:05:23.940 and go,

00:05:24.880 actually,

00:05:25.760 is that right to say?

00:05:28.060 Or do I need to look

00:05:29.080 at it comparatively?

00:05:29.640 I've heard that story before,

00:05:30.960 but do you think,

00:05:31.940 do you know much about it?

00:05:33.240 I mean,

00:05:33.360 is there any evidence

00:05:34.180 to show that it was specifically,

00:05:35.940 you know,

00:05:36.260 or did she maybe have

00:05:36.920 some other issues going on?

00:05:38.180 Or do you know what I mean?

00:05:39.360 Well,

00:05:39.640 in any scientific study,

00:05:43.440 you cannot take away

00:05:45.440 external controllables.

00:05:47.920 Like,

00:05:48.040 you can't.

00:05:49.000 But in that situation,

00:05:50.900 from what she stated initially

00:05:53.620 was that it was really difficult

00:05:55.380 to act as a man

00:05:56.840 and to be treated

00:05:58.580 as the way men are.

00:05:59.920 It's just an interesting,

00:06:00.940 look,

00:06:01.160 it is not an end all

00:06:02.220 and be all

00:06:02.720 of the evidence

00:06:04.260 that supports it,

00:06:05.240 but it's an interesting turn on it.

00:06:07.240 Yeah.

00:06:07.900 But again,

00:06:08.480 I wouldn't use that

00:06:09.200 as a core element

00:06:10.440 of evidence

00:06:10.960 because it's definitely not.

00:06:12.000 The whole thing about men

00:06:13.120 get what they get

00:06:14.600 and then,

00:06:15.920 as in like,

00:06:16.800 men get what they get,

00:06:18.700 but then women 1.00

00:06:19.220 can choose.

00:06:20.960 I'm not sure,

00:06:22.040 like,

00:06:22.340 the whole phrase.

00:06:23.120 Yeah,

00:06:23.300 but I do feel like,

00:06:24.280 I know we always speak about

00:06:25.300 like how,

00:06:26.060 you know,

00:06:26.400 we're all saying how like,

00:06:27.660 men,

00:06:28.020 it's really hard for them

00:06:28.860 and everything

00:06:29.220 and yes,

00:06:29.800 it is

00:06:30.300 and nobody's disputing that.

00:06:31.900 But I do feel like

00:06:33.500 when it comes to women,

00:06:35.160 and I don't know

00:06:35.960 if anyone would agree with me,

00:06:37.040 but this is how I feel personally,

00:06:39.080 I do feel like

00:06:40.080 the women are more willing

00:06:42.280 to improve themselves

00:06:44.240 and to do the work

00:06:45.840 and to try and get better

00:06:47.360 and to become

00:06:48.040 the best versions of themselves.

00:06:49.380 Whereas men, 0.99

00:06:50.480 I'm just going to cut you,

00:06:51.560 can you tell me how?

00:06:53.160 How do women improve themselves? 1.00

00:06:54.140 So many ways,

00:06:54.900 different ways.

00:06:55.780 Women are literally 1.00

00:06:57.300 trying to work

00:06:59.300 on themselves mentally.

00:07:00.420 Like women, 0.97

00:07:01.560 women are more open 1.00

00:07:02.460 to therapy than men are. 0.56

00:07:03.940 They're open to getting help.

00:07:06.120 Do women need therapy 1.00

00:07:07.060 more than men do?

00:07:08.580 I think everyone does.

00:07:09.360 I don't think it's the other way.

00:07:11.100 I think it's the other way around actually

00:07:13.520 because I feel like

00:07:15.140 if a lot of men

00:07:16.860 actually went

00:07:17.620 and worked on themselves,

00:07:19.380 they would be able

00:07:21.140 to get the women 1.00

00:07:22.180 that they wanted

00:07:23.160 because a lot of these men

00:07:24.580 are walking around

00:07:25.560 with unresolved trauma

00:07:27.180 and a lot of issues

00:07:28.720 that they project

00:07:29.920 women don't speak 1.00

00:07:30.940 about their emotions.

00:07:31.540 Okay, so I just want

00:07:32.880 to go through.

00:07:33.460 So women go to therapy. 1.00

00:07:35.100 Yeah.

00:07:35.520 What else do we do?

00:07:36.400 They do all kinds of stuff.

00:07:37.760 They're into wellness.

00:07:39.480 You know,

00:07:39.660 a woman will actually 1.00

00:07:40.600 do anything.

00:07:41.680 False.

00:07:42.340 Wrong.

00:07:43.080 60% of women here, 1.00

00:07:44.380 no,

00:07:44.700 74% of women here 0.90

00:07:46.840 are overweight.

00:07:47.520 False.

00:07:49.480 You can't be into wellness

00:07:50.540 if most of us are fat.

00:07:52.180 Okay, next.

00:07:53.660 Oh, wow.

00:07:53.960 Also,

00:07:54.380 also women are... 1.00

00:07:55.800 I'm talking about mentally

00:07:57.000 they're trying to fix themselves.

00:07:58.180 They're trying to be

00:07:59.300 mentally healthy.

00:08:01.560 There's more women 1.00

00:08:02.420 on antidepressants

00:08:03.280 now than ever.

00:08:04.080 Wrong.

00:08:04.640 We're not mentally

00:08:05.200 more healthy.

00:08:06.160 Well, men are doing 0.95

00:08:06.720 absolutely nothing.

00:08:07.700 Nothing.

00:08:08.240 They're not doing anything

00:08:09.020 to help themselves.

00:08:09.840 Do you not think

00:08:10.020 that's a societal issue? 0.93

00:08:11.460 Apart from going to the gym.

00:08:12.520 Okay, okay.

00:08:13.080 What's next?

00:08:13.540 But they get looked down upon

00:08:15.360 for feeling that way,

00:08:16.760 so they never want

00:08:17.640 to go to anyone about it.

00:08:18.320 No, but that's a narrative

00:08:19.320 that they created

00:08:20.220 for themselves

00:08:20.920 because they've told themselves

00:08:22.240 that they have to be

00:08:23.140 really masculine,

00:08:24.480 but no woman 0.70

00:08:25.300 has ever sat there

00:08:26.300 and laughed at her husband 0.53

00:08:27.980 for crying.

00:08:29.000 Well, we talked about this.

00:08:30.760 Women actually want men 1.00

00:08:32.020 to open up.

00:08:32.300 I want you to back up

00:08:33.560 what you're saying.

00:08:34.000 You're saying women, 0.80

00:08:34.980 women, 1.00

00:08:35.880 they're into self-improvement.

00:08:37.200 So first one was wrong,

00:08:38.160 second one's wrong.

00:08:38.840 What's next?

00:08:39.880 Wellness is not wrong. 0.95

00:08:40.800 Women are going 1.00

00:08:42.020 to yoga classes.

00:08:43.880 They are...

00:08:44.280 How is it right

00:08:45.240 if we're fat?

00:08:46.540 Come on.

00:08:47.560 Okay, weight takes long

00:08:48.840 to get rid of.

00:08:50.620 Okay, okay, okay.

00:08:51.200 So then we could look

00:08:51.880 at a trend.

00:08:52.360 At least they're trying.

00:08:52.880 So we could look

00:08:53.800 at a trend of women 0.97

00:08:54.680 over time

00:08:55.280 and we're getting fatter,

00:08:56.320 we're not getting thinner.

00:08:57.380 So it's not correct.

00:08:58.740 You could think

00:08:59.360 what you think,

00:08:59.920 but it's not right.

00:09:00.580 Well, I don't know.

00:09:01.280 We can look at

00:09:01.960 what kind of food

00:09:03.220 people are eating,

00:09:04.140 but I'm talking...

00:09:04.680 The ones that make us fat.

00:09:05.720 Generally, women, 0.98

00:09:07.200 if you go on social media

00:09:08.560 and you see

00:09:09.120 what everyone's talking about,

00:09:10.220 women are always asking, 1.00

00:09:11.920 how do we do this?

00:09:12.860 How do we do that?

00:09:13.740 They are trying

00:09:14.420 to fix themselves

00:09:15.100 because they want

00:09:15.840 to meet that dream man.

00:09:17.620 That's why they're

00:09:18.080 on these dating apps.

00:09:18.960 That's why they go

00:09:19.700 to these dating agencies.

00:09:21.140 But I'm not getting

00:09:22.180 anything of substance.

00:09:24.200 Like nothing...

00:09:25.060 Okay, they fix themselves.

00:09:26.320 So they go to therapy.

00:09:27.720 They're trying

00:09:28.260 to help themselves mentally.

00:09:29.660 But they're on

00:09:30.860 more antidepressants

00:09:31.900 than ever.

00:09:32.740 So they might try

00:09:34.040 to do something,

00:09:34.760 but the result...

00:09:35.420 Like we have to look

00:09:35.960 at results here.

00:09:37.280 We can feel how we feel,

00:09:38.560 but we have to look

00:09:39.060 at results.

JustPearlyThings - August 05, 2023

Modern Society CAN’T Handle This Truth Bomb

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