JustPearlyThings - August 05, 2023


Modern Society CAN’T Handle This Truth Bomb


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

203.08298

Word Count

1,963

Sentence Count

170

Misogynist Sentences

31

Hate Speech Sentences

19


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the differences between male and female leadership, and how men lack the energy to take the reins and lead. We also discuss the difference between being a man and a woman and how to balance the two.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Yes, because I feel like when it comes to men,
00:00:02.740 I'm going to keep it nice and short because I can blab on.
00:00:05.780 So we expect a lot from a guy.
00:00:10.100 Obviously, when it comes to women being independent,
00:00:12.940 which again, I like inequality to some extent.
00:00:17.020 We don't really give that sense of power to,
00:00:21.620 like, what means being a man, you know?
00:00:24.480 So, like, responsibility and...
00:00:30.000 Yeah, I know what you mean.
00:00:31.920 I'm not sure if that makes sense.
00:00:33.020 No, no, no.
00:00:33.620 We don't give them that respect that we should give them in a way.
00:00:36.980 We don't let them lead.
00:00:38.060 Or that sense of power because he is a man, you know,
00:00:40.620 and he has certain duties that a woman can't do,
00:00:43.640 if that makes sense.
00:00:45.040 Yeah, it's like we want these...
00:00:46.400 We'll complain about male leadership,
00:00:48.040 but then when they're like, oh, let me lead,
00:00:49.540 we're like, oh, no, no, no, not like that.
00:00:51.100 We're like, sit down.
00:00:52.420 No, no, no, do it.
00:00:53.320 As I said, we are never happy.
00:00:55.920 That's not attractive to me.
00:00:56.960 That's true.
00:00:57.600 That's not attractive to me.
00:00:59.180 What?
00:01:00.080 Leadership?
00:01:00.760 No, a guy being a pushover.
00:01:02.360 Yeah.
00:01:02.940 I don't think that's attractive.
00:01:04.040 But that's the problem because guys are hit with this dual narrative,
00:01:06.600 aren't they?
00:01:06.900 Because on the one hand, it's like, no, we want, you know,
00:01:09.680 equality 100%, but, you know,
00:01:12.360 we don't want the guy to be sort of manipulative, coercive,
00:01:15.900 to be like trying to, you know, push it in any sort of...
00:01:17.880 But then on the other hand, of course,
00:01:19.340 what women seem to be attracted to most viscerally
00:01:21.420 is due to, you know, who leads and due to come in
00:01:24.880 and, you know, lay down the law.
00:01:26.620 So it's sort of like guys, I think,
00:01:28.280 are beset with this, you know,
00:01:30.280 two sort of opposing dialogues coming through, you know?
00:01:33.440 I feel like it's energy as well, though,
00:01:35.160 because if you don't have that energy,
00:01:36.520 I'm not listening to you.
00:01:37.640 Simple as that.
00:01:38.440 You have to count this.
00:01:39.640 There is a certain type of energy you have to have
00:01:44.460 and there's some guys that naturally do not have it,
00:01:47.200 but then they're like trying to tell you what to do.
00:01:48.760 And it's like, it's given the truth.
00:01:49.800 How do you describe the energy?
00:01:52.580 It's exactly, it's just energy.
00:01:54.600 I don't know, when you get it, you feel it.
00:01:56.300 Like when there is a guy who's telling you what to do
00:01:58.740 and he has that energy, you're like, oh, wow, okay.
00:02:02.160 But then another guy can try and do that
00:02:04.420 and put on that act, but you feel like it's forced.
00:02:06.700 And you're like, this isn't you.
00:02:09.200 You're just following the narrative,
00:02:10.860 but you're not actually that guy.
00:02:12.360 Yeah, you're not that guy.
00:02:13.020 You're not that guy.
00:02:13.760 You haven't got it in you.
00:02:15.840 Sorry.
00:02:16.580 We went hard.
00:02:18.500 I feel like in those situations,
00:02:20.060 you have to be unapologetically you.
00:02:22.460 Whether you're a man or a woman,
00:02:24.060 you always have to be unapologetically you.
00:02:26.280 Whether you want to take the reins or not,
00:02:28.760 you always have to be there and stand your own ground.
00:02:31.120 If you're happy to back down and be like,
00:02:33.280 do you know what?
00:02:34.460 We might both disagree,
00:02:35.360 but I think maybe what you're saying makes sense.
00:02:38.940 But I feel like there's a lot.
00:02:39.800 And that person's willing to go,
00:02:41.340 I know I make sense.
00:02:42.460 I'm happy to take the lead here.
00:02:44.040 But I also feel like.
00:02:45.400 That's cool.
00:02:46.220 I think it works both ways.
00:02:47.780 Yeah.
00:02:48.100 I think in,
00:02:49.180 I don't think over an emotional standpoint
00:02:51.960 that a man overtakes a woman in that.
00:02:54.500 But I agree with you,
00:02:55.600 but I also feel like what we're talking about,
00:02:57.240 the energy thing.
00:02:58.260 The problem is with some guys that do it
00:03:00.780 and we think that they don't have the energy.
00:03:02.400 It's because they're inconsistent.
00:03:04.280 They're inconsistent.
00:03:05.320 For example,
00:03:06.160 it's like,
00:03:06.700 say that again.
00:03:08.200 Say that again.
00:03:08.580 They're inconsistent with the energy.
00:03:10.500 Yeah.
00:03:11.080 So like sometimes they're masculine
00:03:12.820 and sometimes they're not.
00:03:13.760 Yeah.
00:03:14.000 Sometimes they're really tapping into that feminine role
00:03:16.240 and you're like,
00:03:16.880 you're turned off
00:03:17.980 because biologically you're just like,
00:03:20.040 as a woman,
00:03:20.540 you're going to look for that guy
00:03:21.740 who has that energy.
00:03:23.280 Could it be based on how you feel though that day?
00:03:26.880 Because we feel differently every day.
00:03:28.640 You can perceive things differently as well.
00:03:30.400 I agree, yeah.
00:03:31.080 So when you went,
00:03:32.100 for example,
00:03:32.500 what we talked about earlier,
00:03:33.220 the birth control pills,
00:03:34.060 when the woman's on the birth control pill,
00:03:35.620 maybe she's more open to the dude
00:03:37.160 who's less dominating,
00:03:40.140 you know,
00:03:40.560 and then.
00:03:42.200 More maternal giving.
00:03:43.860 Is that,
00:03:44.420 yeah.
00:03:44.680 Could that be correct?
00:03:45.560 I would say so, yeah.
00:03:48.220 It's hard being a guy, isn't it?
00:03:50.160 I'll tell you what.
00:03:51.440 I do feel sorry for you guys.
00:03:53.120 It's hard being a human.
00:03:55.160 You said it's hard being a woman.
00:03:57.580 I said that.
00:03:58.180 You said that?
00:03:58.860 Yeah.
00:03:59.340 Do you genuinely think it's harder
00:04:00.600 being a woman and dating than men?
00:04:02.240 It's so hard.
00:04:03.160 I think it's so hard.
00:04:04.360 But one thing I would say,
00:04:06.340 I feel like men
00:04:07.760 and like their experiences
00:04:08.980 or their voices,
00:04:09.880 it's definitely like,
00:04:11.440 it's so sad,
00:04:12.180 but they're not really shown.
00:04:13.580 And I feel like they should be shown a bit more.
00:04:16.060 I'm going to go back
00:04:16.880 to the first statement.
00:04:17.740 Women have harder time dating than men.
00:04:19.900 Yes or no?
00:04:20.360 Oh, wait.
00:04:20.760 That, no, no, no.
00:04:21.700 Sorry, no offense to the guys.
00:04:22.840 I know you guys are struggling.
00:04:23.920 No offense,
00:04:24.760 but yeah,
00:04:25.500 I feel like they struggle more.
00:04:27.620 You know,
00:04:28.460 there was a woman
00:04:30.440 who decided to pretend
00:04:32.360 to be a man for a while.
00:04:33.920 Can't remember her name,
00:04:35.320 but she ended up killing herself.
00:04:37.980 Because she,
00:04:38.700 she did,
00:04:40.820 she turned around and said,
00:04:42.500 I don't know what I was thinking.
00:04:44.620 Being a man is horrible.
00:04:46.740 And she said that
00:04:47.720 women completely ignored
00:04:49.600 everything she said,
00:04:50.840 looked down on her,
00:04:51.940 judged her on the way she looked,
00:04:53.680 judged her on everything that she said,
00:04:55.900 and she ended up killing herself.
00:04:58.180 I feel like because
00:04:58.680 men's mental health
00:04:59.920 and everything is so overlooked.
00:05:01.980 But then how,
00:05:03.240 is it fair to say
00:05:04.380 that it's easier to be a woman,
00:05:06.360 but we say that
00:05:07.220 we can't be equal
00:05:08.480 because we're both
00:05:09.060 so biologically different.
00:05:10.700 Is it fair to compare
00:05:11.980 whether it's easier
00:05:13.180 to be a man and a woman?
00:05:14.300 You can't compare.
00:05:14.600 Or is it,
00:05:15.340 exactly,
00:05:16.080 but that is the first statement
00:05:17.600 that came up.
00:05:18.220 No offense,
00:05:19.020 it's the first statement
00:05:19.800 that came up
00:05:20.260 and it's the first thing
00:05:20.780 that pops in your head.
00:05:22.040 So sometimes you just need
00:05:23.120 to take a back thought
00:05:23.940 and go,
00:05:24.880 actually,
00:05:25.760 is that right to say?
00:05:28.060 Or do I need to look
00:05:29.080 at it comparatively?
00:05:29.640 I've heard that story before,
00:05:30.960 but do you think,
00:05:31.940 do you know much about it?
00:05:33.240 I mean,
00:05:33.360 is there any evidence
00:05:34.180 to show that it was specifically,
00:05:35.940 you know,
00:05:36.260 or did she maybe have
00:05:36.920 some other issues going on?
00:05:38.180 Or do you know what I mean?
00:05:39.360 Well,
00:05:39.640 in any scientific study,
00:05:43.440 you cannot take away
00:05:45.440 external controllables.
00:05:47.920 Like,
00:05:48.040 you can't.
00:05:49.000 But in that situation,
00:05:50.900 from what she stated initially
00:05:53.620 was that it was really difficult
00:05:55.380 to act as a man
00:05:56.840 and to be treated
00:05:58.580 as the way men are.
00:05:59.920 It's just an interesting,
00:06:00.940 look,
00:06:01.160 it is not an end all
00:06:02.220 and be all
00:06:02.720 of the evidence
00:06:04.260 that supports it,
00:06:05.240 but it's an interesting turn on it.
00:06:07.240 Yeah.
00:06:07.900 But again,
00:06:08.480 I wouldn't use that
00:06:09.200 as a core element
00:06:10.440 of evidence
00:06:10.960 because it's definitely not.
00:06:12.000 The whole thing about men
00:06:13.120 get what they get
00:06:14.600 and then,
00:06:15.920 as in like,
00:06:16.800 men get what they get,
00:06:18.700 but then women
00:06:19.220 can choose.
00:06:20.960 I'm not sure,
00:06:22.040 like,
00:06:22.340 the whole phrase.
00:06:23.120 Yeah,
00:06:23.300 but I do feel like,
00:06:24.280 I know we always speak about
00:06:25.300 like how,
00:06:26.060 you know,
00:06:26.400 we're all saying how like,
00:06:27.660 men,
00:06:28.020 it's really hard for them
00:06:28.860 and everything
00:06:29.220 and yes,
00:06:29.800 it is
00:06:30.300 and nobody's disputing that.
00:06:31.900 But I do feel like
00:06:33.500 when it comes to women,
00:06:35.160 and I don't know
00:06:35.960 if anyone would agree with me,
00:06:37.040 but this is how I feel personally,
00:06:39.080 I do feel like
00:06:40.080 the women are more willing
00:06:42.280 to improve themselves
00:06:44.240 and to do the work
00:06:45.840 and to try and get better
00:06:47.360 and to become
00:06:48.040 the best versions of themselves.
00:06:49.380 Whereas men,
00:06:50.480 I'm just going to cut you,
00:06:51.560 can you tell me how?
00:06:53.160 How do women improve themselves?
00:06:54.140 So many ways,
00:06:54.900 different ways.
00:06:55.780 Women are literally
00:06:57.300 trying to work
00:06:59.300 on themselves mentally.
00:07:00.420 Like women,
00:07:01.560 women are more open
00:07:02.460 to therapy than men are.
00:07:03.940 They're open to getting help.
00:07:06.120 Do women need therapy
00:07:07.060 more than men do?
00:07:08.580 I think everyone does.
00:07:09.360 I don't think it's the other way.
00:07:11.100 I think it's the other way around actually
00:07:13.520 because I feel like
00:07:15.140 if a lot of men
00:07:16.860 actually went
00:07:17.620 and worked on themselves,
00:07:19.380 they would be able
00:07:21.140 to get the women
00:07:22.180 that they wanted
00:07:23.160 because a lot of these men
00:07:24.580 are walking around
00:07:25.560 with unresolved trauma
00:07:27.180 and a lot of issues
00:07:28.720 that they project
00:07:29.920 women don't speak
00:07:30.940 about their emotions.
00:07:31.540 Okay, so I just want
00:07:32.880 to go through.
00:07:33.460 So women go to therapy.
00:07:35.100 Yeah.
00:07:35.520 What else do we do?
00:07:36.400 They do all kinds of stuff.
00:07:37.760 They're into wellness.
00:07:39.480 You know,
00:07:39.660 a woman will actually
00:07:40.600 do anything.
00:07:41.680 False.
00:07:42.340 Wrong.
00:07:43.080 60% of women here,
00:07:44.380 no,
00:07:44.700 74% of women here
00:07:46.840 are overweight.
00:07:47.520 False.
00:07:49.480 You can't be into wellness
00:07:50.540 if most of us are fat.
00:07:52.180 Okay, next.
00:07:53.660 Oh, wow.
00:07:53.960 Also,
00:07:54.380 also women are...
00:07:55.800 I'm talking about mentally
00:07:57.000 they're trying to fix themselves.
00:07:58.180 They're trying to be
00:07:59.300 mentally healthy.
00:08:01.560 There's more women
00:08:02.420 on antidepressants
00:08:03.280 now than ever.
00:08:04.080 Wrong.
00:08:04.640 We're not mentally
00:08:05.200 more healthy.
00:08:06.160 Well, men are doing
00:08:06.720 absolutely nothing.
00:08:07.700 Nothing.
00:08:08.240 They're not doing anything
00:08:09.020 to help themselves.
00:08:09.840 Do you not think
00:08:10.020 that's a societal issue?
00:08:11.460 Apart from going to the gym.
00:08:12.520 Okay, okay.
00:08:13.080 What's next?
00:08:13.540 But they get looked down upon
00:08:15.360 for feeling that way,
00:08:16.760 so they never want
00:08:17.640 to go to anyone about it.
00:08:18.320 No, but that's a narrative
00:08:19.320 that they created
00:08:20.220 for themselves
00:08:20.920 because they've told themselves
00:08:22.240 that they have to be
00:08:23.140 really masculine,
00:08:24.480 but no woman
00:08:25.300 has ever sat there
00:08:26.300 and laughed at her husband
00:08:27.980 for crying.
00:08:29.000 Well, we talked about this.
00:08:30.760 Women actually want men
00:08:32.020 to open up.
00:08:32.300 I want you to back up
00:08:33.560 what you're saying.
00:08:34.000 You're saying women,
00:08:34.980 women,
00:08:35.880 they're into self-improvement.
00:08:37.200 So first one was wrong,
00:08:38.160 second one's wrong.
00:08:38.840 What's next?
00:08:39.880 Wellness is not wrong.
00:08:40.800 Women are going
00:08:42.020 to yoga classes.
00:08:43.880 They are...
00:08:44.280 How is it right
00:08:45.240 if we're fat?
00:08:46.540 Come on.
00:08:47.560 Okay, weight takes long
00:08:48.840 to get rid of.
00:08:50.620 Okay, okay, okay.
00:08:51.200 So then we could look
00:08:51.880 at a trend.
00:08:52.360 At least they're trying.
00:08:52.880 So we could look
00:08:53.800 at a trend of women
00:08:54.680 over time
00:08:55.280 and we're getting fatter,
00:08:56.320 we're not getting thinner.
00:08:57.380 So it's not correct.
00:08:58.740 You could think
00:08:59.360 what you think,
00:08:59.920 but it's not right.
00:09:00.580 Well, I don't know.
00:09:01.280 We can look at
00:09:01.960 what kind of food
00:09:03.220 people are eating,
00:09:04.140 but I'm talking...
00:09:04.680 The ones that make us fat.
00:09:05.720 Generally, women,
00:09:07.200 if you go on social media
00:09:08.560 and you see
00:09:09.120 what everyone's talking about,
00:09:10.220 women are always asking,
00:09:11.920 how do we do this?
00:09:12.860 How do we do that?
00:09:13.740 They are trying
00:09:14.420 to fix themselves
00:09:15.100 because they want
00:09:15.840 to meet that dream man.
00:09:17.620 That's why they're
00:09:18.080 on these dating apps.
00:09:18.960 That's why they go
00:09:19.700 to these dating agencies.
00:09:21.140 But I'm not getting
00:09:22.180 anything of substance.
00:09:24.200 Like nothing...
00:09:25.060 Okay, they fix themselves.
00:09:26.320 So they go to therapy.
00:09:27.720 They're trying
00:09:28.260 to help themselves mentally.
00:09:29.660 But they're on
00:09:30.860 more antidepressants
00:09:31.900 than ever.
00:09:32.740 So they might try
00:09:34.040 to do something,
00:09:34.760 but the result...
00:09:35.420 Like we have to look
00:09:35.960 at results here.
00:09:37.280 We can feel how we feel,
00:09:38.560 but we have to look
00:09:39.060 at results.