JustPearlyThings - November 09, 2023


Modern Surprises Pearl After Saying This


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

218.35312

Word Count

2,109

Sentence Count

147

Misogynist Sentences

15

Hate Speech Sentences

11


Summary

Is it society s duty to have more kids? Is it society's duty to encourage women to have children? Should it be a cultural group's job to have kids? Or should it be up to individual women? In this episode, we talk about the declining fertility rates around the world, and how we can all work together to fix it.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 If I don't have a child, someone else will.
00:00:03.360 So there's always going to be somebody that does.
00:00:06.040 There's always going to be recreation.
00:00:07.680 Always.
00:00:08.780 Personally.
00:00:09.560 Because I'm single.
00:00:11.000 I don't have a child.
00:00:11.860 I genuinely thought at 28, I would have had a kid by now.
00:00:15.420 But my career is more important at the moment.
00:00:19.380 And I do want children, but not right now.
00:00:21.460 But while I'm still focusing on my career,
00:00:23.740 there's a lot of other women getting pregnant right now.
00:00:27.940 Literally.
00:00:28.340 Yeah, but I think it's actually,
00:00:30.360 we're having less kids than ever in history.
00:00:32.780 So I guess the question is,
00:00:34.460 if the population's collapsing because women aren't having kids,
00:00:38.220 does it become women's duty to have children?
00:00:41.220 Do we owe society, do we owe civilization children?
00:00:45.000 Handmaid's tale.
00:00:46.460 I didn't say handmaid's tale, but your answer is no.
00:00:51.060 I'll let you go next, but one second.
00:00:52.500 But your answer is no?
00:00:53.900 You don't think so?
00:00:54.760 No.
00:00:55.260 No? Okay, fair enough.
00:00:56.360 Go ahead.
00:00:56.580 If it turns out that the only way that a cultural group can motivate women to have children
00:01:02.320 is by forcing them, then the only cultural groups that exist in the future will be the
00:01:06.760 cultural groups that force women to have children.
00:01:09.040 And this is something we're increasingly seeing in places like China.
00:01:12.380 You know, if we see society today as alliance of disparate cultural groups,
00:01:16.420 and we're asking why do so few people have children today?
00:01:19.260 The dominant cultural group, we call that the urban monoculture.
00:01:21.860 It's the culture that's in London, New York, all over the world today.
00:01:24.660 It controls our media, it controls our centers of power.
00:01:26.980 It tells people do what you want, be who you want, search for your happiness and your purpose
00:01:32.300 in the world, but it doesn't tell people to sacrifice.
00:01:35.080 And children require sacrifice.
00:01:37.760 And so what we do with the Pronatalist Foundation, sometimes it makes it so clear by, you know,
00:01:42.460 I could never be a Noah, right?
00:01:44.800 Because I'm like, hey, we want to maintain and hopefully increase this beautiful diversity
00:01:49.940 that makes up our culture today.
00:01:52.040 And then, you know, like if I was Noah, like a unicorn comes up to me and it's like,
00:01:55.740 hey man, like this is some pretty hateful stuff you're saying that we need to get fertility rates up.
00:01:59.520 And I'm like, whoa, you don't need to get on the boat.
00:02:02.200 Like I'm just pointing out that in a world of collapsing fertility and to give an idea
00:02:06.300 of how quickly fertility is collapsing.
00:02:08.480 If, so I started caring about this when I was working in South Korea at South Korea's
00:02:12.460 current fertility rate.
00:02:13.580 If it doesn't continue to go down for every hundred Koreans, there's going to be six great
00:02:17.000 grandchildren.
00:02:17.760 If the U.S., if we assume that it continues to decline at the rate it did from 2010 to
00:02:21.940 2020 for every hundred Americans, this is assuming we have a generation every 30 years for
00:02:26.260 every hundred Americans, there's going to be 4.3 great grandchildren.
00:02:28.620 And so what's so cool about this period in history that we're in is anyone who can motivate
00:02:33.400 intergenerational fertility rates.
00:02:35.020 And when I say intergenerational, you can't just like spam sex and have a bunch of kids
00:02:38.140 or something.
00:02:38.900 You have to love those kids.
00:02:40.600 You have to make them want to continue your culture.
00:02:44.640 Anyone who's doing that gets to play a role in this future of humanity and gets to play
00:02:49.140 an outsized role due to collapsing fertility rates.
00:02:53.220 What are the ways that you best see we can motivate people to have more children?
00:02:57.400 The number one thing we need to do is protect any country you go to.
00:03:00.860 You go to the U.K., you go to the U.S., anywhere you go, there's going to be high fertility
00:03:04.220 cultural groups.
00:03:05.280 The problem is, from the perspective of the urban monoculture, is these groups are deplorable.
00:03:10.500 You know, they are conservative Catholics.
00:03:12.420 They're conservative evangelicals.
00:03:13.960 They're Orthodox Jews, you know, as he was talking about.
00:03:16.320 And so it sees its job because they're different.
00:03:18.760 You know, anyone who's different from an individual's culture says, we got to stamp them out.
00:03:22.500 And so it takes their kids and it stamps out their culture and it says, just do whatever
00:03:26.780 you want to be happy in the moment, which none of these older, disparate, you know, high
00:03:30.420 fertility traditions, Amish, et cetera, do, you know.
00:03:33.500 And so I think the number one thing we need to do is we need to protect the children of
00:03:37.220 high fertility cultures and any sort of deviant cultural group that says, look, I want to
00:03:41.600 do things differently than what society is telling me the way to do it.
00:03:44.120 Because I don't think society has things figured out right now.
00:03:45.860 You know, I look at mental health rates.
00:03:46.940 I look at suicide rates.
00:03:48.620 I look at, you know, I don't think that society has the right to say, this is the only way
00:03:54.240 to be.
00:03:55.340 And I really love the, you know, the diversity in this room and all of the different ways
00:03:59.460 that people see their ancestry and their obligation to the future.
00:04:03.020 Yeah.
00:04:03.760 I think we should stop birth control as well for young girls.
00:04:06.540 I think that's one of the biggest reasons why.
00:04:08.420 You're on the ban birth control.
00:04:10.540 I'm with it.
00:04:11.780 Because like that way they'll abstain from sex more because I feel like when you just,
00:04:15.480 oh yeah, take the pill, I'll do this.
00:04:16.920 It's for my periods, for the pain.
00:04:18.240 No, you're meant to learn.
00:04:19.260 You're meant to go through the pain.
00:04:20.400 That's the whole point of giving birth because that period is literally like a little.
00:04:25.260 Well, and they put them on.
00:04:26.540 It's so young now.
00:04:27.500 It's so young.
00:04:28.220 So young.
00:04:28.480 So when you hear loads of girls say, I have PCOS, I have this, I have that.
00:04:31.740 You just turned 30.
00:04:32.680 My mom's like, no, Shan, there's women that are like 45 having children in Jamaica, three
00:04:36.920 boys.
00:04:37.160 Yeah.
00:04:37.760 So what's going on there?
00:04:39.120 If you stop the birth control, girls will get more scared to get pregnant.
00:04:42.900 And so they are staying for more sex, it means that they'll have a better future to actually
00:04:47.240 have kids because everything down there is blessed.
00:04:50.080 Well, and a lot of, like you meet a lot of girls that like end up having fertility problems
00:04:55.680 later and they can't directly link it.
00:04:57.940 Like you don't know.
00:04:58.700 I mean, they don't know for sure, but I know at least one girl that like she was, she took
00:05:04.100 one of the shots that they gave her like for like a nest, like, like the preventative
00:05:08.320 ones or whatever.
00:05:09.800 And yeah, no, she can't have kids.
00:05:11.480 And she's like 40.
00:05:12.480 And she was actually, um, cause she was, she watched me when I was younger.
00:05:15.720 She was so like loving.
00:05:17.300 It's like the saddest thing that she couldn't have children.
00:05:19.440 Cause she would have been a great mom.
00:05:21.000 And it's like, you can't find which one to pinpoint it on because they're not, they
00:05:24.320 don't make it so clear.
00:05:25.340 But a lot of women feel like that is what it is.
00:05:27.440 Another lady told me yesterday, I was having this conversation in my broadcast list.
00:05:31.020 She goes that she went to the doctors and because she keeps taking the morning after
00:05:35.220 pill, he said that it was literally like a bomb waiting to explode inside of her.
00:05:40.060 Yeah.
00:05:40.320 The morning after pills.
00:05:41.360 How many did she take?
00:05:42.340 She took like five within a year, I think.
00:05:45.600 Um, or I don't know what it was like, but she was like, it's because it's like a bomb
00:05:49.780 cause she didn't want to take like the normal type of thing and she was in a long term
00:05:53.520 relationship.
00:05:54.280 So there's situations that cause that type of thing, but it's like, it was like a bomb.
00:05:58.420 Yeah.
00:05:58.780 It's not good for you.
00:05:59.660 It's even worse than the normal one.
00:06:01.580 So it's not even, oh, you should have taken that much.
00:06:03.600 It's just, oh crap.
00:06:05.600 Like this thing is really bad for us.
00:06:07.500 There was a girl on my show that was infertile because of plan B's.
00:06:10.900 Yeah.
00:06:11.080 She couldn't have kids.
00:06:12.400 I still think there should be a choice though with guys and females.
00:06:15.460 Like I feel like it sucks that we've got to go through everything and take contraceptive
00:06:19.740 when guys should have that option too.
00:06:22.580 I don't think it should be banned.
00:06:23.880 I think there should be choice always.
00:06:26.760 But I guess my question is at what cost?
00:06:30.260 If society is collapsing, right?
00:06:32.860 If, if we're not replacing the population and they predict we're going to have all these
00:06:37.180 issues in the future, it's like, at what cost do we allow people to choose whatever?
00:06:41.780 I'm not saying I have all the answers, but it's worth a conversation asking, do we allow
00:06:46.620 everything and anything?
00:06:47.740 Yeah.
00:06:48.040 Well, I, I, sorry.
00:06:49.260 I think in terms of going back to your question, um, do women owe society, uh, uh, babies,
00:06:57.340 children?
00:06:57.600 Yeah.
00:06:58.260 I think the word owe got, uh, a lot of people's backs up in there, you know?
00:07:02.700 Um, and I get it.
00:07:03.640 But my personal thing is, do we need to push something back into society for giving us what
00:07:09.820 we have in terms of our livelihoods, our everyday lives, our jobs and blah, blah, blah.
00:07:14.100 Absolutely.
00:07:14.560 Because we need to keep this generation going.
00:07:16.680 So I think the word owe, again, it was a bit of a, you know, just one of, one of those
00:07:22.060 all, I don't know, you know, basically where you, where you're coming from.
00:07:24.820 That's why a lot of people was a bit upset with it.
00:07:26.900 But again, um, I, look, I'm a father of two, you know, beautiful boys.
00:07:32.760 Absolutely.
00:07:33.640 And they teach me things every day.
00:07:35.840 And I also teach them things, you know?
00:07:37.840 Um, and I think having children, obviously it does fall more on the mom, especially when
00:07:43.420 a dad goes to work and everything.
00:07:44.700 So I understand the pressure of it.
00:07:46.500 Um, but again, I only see the beauty in it as, again, coming from a father's point of
00:07:50.720 view.
00:07:50.960 And even, even the word owe, when you think about it, like, I think you owe society, you
00:07:56.060 know, to be a decent, non-crime committing, tax paying citizen.
00:08:00.640 Yeah.
00:08:00.980 But we can say that freely.
00:08:02.800 No one would argue.
00:08:03.620 But when you ask about children, there's a, a gut, you know, it's, it's almost too much.
00:08:09.200 I wanted to add some color to like the plan B thing.
00:08:11.840 And, and, and there's so many things in our society now where we think that biologically
00:08:15.120 we're the same as like our grandparents were, but you know, sperm rates have dropped by something
00:08:19.240 like over 50% in the last 51 years.
00:08:22.420 Testosterone's dropped something like 30% in the last 20 years.
00:08:25.040 Um, you know, it's someone, if you want to talk about the TIDE studies.
00:08:28.380 Yeah.
00:08:28.800 I'm not really sure if you're familiar with them.
00:08:30.640 TIDES, basically a bunch of longitudinal researchers looked at the levels of endocrine
00:08:35.760 disruptors in, in women who are pregnant first trimester.
00:08:39.420 And then they measured a bunch of things with the children they had afterwards.
00:08:42.200 It turns out that the, especially when they were pregnant with boys, they were disproportionately
00:08:45.540 affected by endocrine disruptors, which are in everything from like receipts we're picking
00:08:49.320 up to our shampoo, to our lotion, plastic in our water bottles, et cetera.
00:08:53.980 And, um, in addition to boys being born with lower, what's called anal genital distance taint,
00:09:00.420 um, when they were age seven, eight, they had lower, we'll say gender dimorphic, lower boy
00:09:05.980 like play.
00:09:06.820 So they were actually acting less like boys when they were older.
00:09:09.380 So we're seeing a whole generation of young men who've been affected essentially by pollutants
00:09:13.960 in our environment, who, who knows how else this is showing up, probably infertility things
00:09:17.680 like Malcolm alluded to, but I, I, you know, I think that this should be reframed.
00:09:21.140 It's not about owing.
00:09:22.180 It's also, we have to look at who deserves the future because those who show up for the
00:09:26.120 future are those who inherit it.
00:09:27.340 That's, you know, society is built by those who show up and those women and men who choose
00:09:32.340 to have families and who choose to raise kids are those who deserve the future.
00:09:35.680 And we are here because people who deserved the future chose to represent themselves in it.