JustPearlyThings - May 07, 2023


Modern Woman Admits That She is Average


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Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

205.40898

Word Count

1,757

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1


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 everything you said was like results oriented so you said you're above
00:00:03.300 average in looks but if you model your top 20% in looks roughly because you
00:00:08.100 wouldn't get a modeling contract if you weren't yeah I think that's like a um is
00:00:11.980 it subjective and it's what society dictates as well what's like no no like
00:00:17.400 if you look at dating app data people tend to find the same types of people
00:00:20.580 attractive but there's some people that would like hate tattoos or some people
00:00:23.680 don't hate I mean there's like a little bit of subjectivity to it but not really
00:00:28.080 like a lot no okay yeah the innocence and then when you say like I had this in
00:00:34.060 my career like you listed the accomplished yeah yeah no it's just
00:00:37.180 interesting because when men answer they usually answer more like results where
00:00:40.200 it's like girls it's more like feelings yeah yeah I thought I thought that okay
00:00:46.560 you didn't like that okay do you think you're above average and what do you
00:00:52.760 bring to an above-average guy I think I have an average girl she said sorry it's
00:00:56.720 it's a bit silly if we if we don't grow there's always time to grow there's
00:01:00.360 always space for knowledge um I grew up in a very religious household so for me it
00:01:07.120 is quite naturally to submit once you understand how things go it's not a bad
00:01:11.640 thing like it's not negative it's not toxic if anything I feel like in this
00:01:17.000 society this this modern world do you know how powerful you are as a woman to
00:01:21.400 submit you in this world you can be an animal if you want to you have the
00:01:25.680 freedom to say I'm a I'm a slug and yet you choose to submit for your man I find
00:01:30.740 that very powerful and there's nothing wrong with that I feel like it makes
00:01:33.720 sense there's balance in the house he knows what to do you know what to do and
00:01:37.140 it just brings nurture as well when you taught me that as well thank you I did
00:01:42.540 grow up in a kind of house okay so you have a model of like oh that's that's
00:01:48.280 that's something guys look for your family background for sure with my family I'm not
00:01:52.320 allowed to move out until I get married really yeah I there's a line that I can't
00:01:57.380 I've heard I've heard guys say that's like a green flag where it's like yeah if she
00:02:00.880 still lives with her parents that's good I've heard guys say like if she like they
00:02:04.580 look at your family background to see if your mom submitted to your dad yeah I'm
00:02:08.540 actually 25 if it gets like late I'll have a phone call like where are you what
00:02:13.560 time you come me too when I was young I didn't like it at all but now I'm 25 I
00:02:20.120 appreciate it so much because I've avoided so much I've avoided so much it's
00:02:24.220 amazing yeah so thank you my brother thank you mom thank you everyone honestly
00:02:28.140 okay I do have anything else you want to add to it you live at home you know you've
00:02:32.840 seen a successful relationship but what else um you know to cook I I've got
00:02:38.860 forced to learn how to cook I got forced to learn how to kind of hated it but now I'm
00:02:42.940 so thankful honestly what types of food do you like to cook so I love Arab food so for
00:02:48.400 me it's all about the rice and the chicken and the sauce so I would say that yeah but
00:02:55.240 I don't mind learning other other other culture as well I don't really mind could
00:02:59.180 you date a man outside your culture um if you're God-fearing yes for me you need God
00:03:03.960 in your life otherwise there is there is just I don't think anything can be
00:03:07.940 successful but that's my opinion because if you don't and and a family
00:03:11.320 family man because for me if you don't respect your mom you're not going to
00:03:14.920 respect a stranger I have a wait so what religion are you so I grew up dad was
00:03:20.180 Christian mom was Muslim so I did have both sides and loved them both and I'm I'm so
00:03:25.560 happy that I had both because it opened my mind as well um yeah which one do you
00:03:31.320 um they're so similar really so yeah I think so interesting yeah they're so
00:03:40.160 similar I used to actually go church churches a lot um uh again I don't
00:03:45.140 please it's just my opinion uh for me no one's gonna yell at you yeah my problem was I just
00:03:51.940 didn't I couldn't understand how like um Jesus was God okay so now when then when I
00:03:58.040 done my research in Islam it was like he's a prophet but so for me that made
00:04:01.700 sense and I thought okay like it answered my question but they're the same we need
00:04:05.440 to do good there's tradition there is respect for me the end result is the
00:04:10.920 same I'm curious because I've noticed in Christian churches they're kind of
00:04:15.320 driving men out where there's not a lot of young men in Christian churches
00:04:18.640 anymore it's like if you look at them like if you go into a church under like I
00:04:23.040 don't know 35 ish it's mostly women um and I'm curious is are there more young
00:04:28.280 men in like Muslim religions um from what I'm seeing now there's a lot of
00:04:32.540 converts I feel like um there's there is more happening now so um yeah I think
00:04:38.860 there's there's loads of men in the mosques and yeah I think it's one of the few
00:04:43.300 religions that that keeps traditional masculinity where the Christians are
00:04:47.580 kind of they're kind of gone yeah because back in the days it was it was so
00:04:52.280 similar but now people are trying to make it so modern it's like you can't pick and
00:04:56.100 choose yeah yeah and they just like pander because most of the women are the ones
00:05:00.320 like paying into churches so the problem is they just pander to women yeah and I've
00:05:04.540 heard like some churches like you can have gay marriages and stuff and it's like
00:05:08.380 you can't pick and choose and the other thing is they always have like what do they
00:05:12.340 call it um corn addiction groups for the men um but they never have social media
00:05:16.680 addiction groups for the women and it's like they always like put out women on a
00:05:20.460 pedestal even if she's like ran through and had two kids you should still wait
00:05:23.680 till you're married with her it's like what are you what
00:05:26.200 it's like simping um okay I was just curious uh what about you
00:05:34.400 um I know I'm average um reason being is because I'm not a wife yet
00:05:38.340 I think the best way to measure if someone is above average
00:05:42.120 is to look at their relationship status and I feel like if a man hasn't signed
00:05:47.200 some papers and made a promise in front of God to be with me forever and have
00:05:50.700 kids with me then that definitely means I am an average woman um it's like going
00:05:55.680 into a singing competition and then you know the judge is Whitney Houston if
00:05:59.380 Whitney Houston tells me I am not good and that means I'm definitely
00:06:02.320 you know not above average when it comes to singing
00:06:04.900 so um yeah in terms of my relationship status I'm still single I haven't found
00:06:09.180 anyone who is you know ready to commit to me so that means there's some
00:06:13.380 things that I need to improve on so yeah I'm average and I'm happy about it it
00:06:17.400 just goes to show that I'm a work in progress and so what you're gonna leave
00:06:20.740 the value of yourself in the hands of somebody else not the hands of someone
00:06:24.660 else but it's just you sure not really the hand she's right for me personally I
00:06:29.760 feel like for me personally I feel like a person's ability to maintain a
00:06:33.820 relationship goes to show just how good of a person that they are it shows
00:06:38.020 their compatibility it shows their patience and it also mirrors how a
00:06:42.580 person can value them as well so for me I think relationship is the best way to
00:06:47.040 measure so for example if I saw a woman and she was 50 with six cats I would
00:06:51.360 think there's something really wrong with that woman if I saw a woman who was
00:06:54.600 like 20 and married that let's be real the best way to measure how a person is
00:06:58.760 like when you see a female and she has like no friends you would know there's
00:07:02.260 something wrong with that those extreme examples are valid so I definitely feel
00:07:06.340 like the best way to see how a person is you know a good person is to see how they
00:07:11.300 are with their relationships and I feel like with me marriage is that epitome of
00:07:14.660 like okay this person is good person so yeah I would say until I'm married I
00:07:18.360 definitely think I'm above average I think I think I think you're right because it's
00:07:23.300 like you have to judge based on your results it's like say like saying I got married to
00:07:27.640 the wrong person yeah but I think like you as a woman the type of guy you can maintain says
00:07:44.760 something about you so it's gonna be a quality husband I definitely I definitely agree with you
00:07:50.100 in the sense that like if you marry the wrong person and that definitely means you're average
00:07:53.580 because how could you be so silly to not realize what's best for you so in that case but let's be
00:07:58.220 real there's a lot of marriages that have worked out and for those that I have worked that I definitely
00:08:02.460 think they are above average because your ability to keep someone happy to be patient to be compatible
00:08:08.060 to provide for them like for me when I think of above average I think of someone who's nurturing
00:08:12.780 someone that can cook someone that and when you package that that's basically wifey material
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