JustPearlyThings - June 13, 2023


Modern Woman BLAMES Social Media for THIS!


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

214.32346

Word Count

2,028

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

18

Hate Speech Sentences

7


Summary

In this episode, we talk about the dating game and the dating culture in the modern dating world. We discuss what dating apps, social media, online dating, dating trends, and how to get a man to commit to a relationship.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 speaking to all of the women that i know who are currently single the issues that we always have
00:00:04.940 are you go on dates you put yourself into somebody you invest your time and they all seem to have
00:00:09.540 commitment issues so that's why because you're dating 20 percent i promise you the bottom 80
00:00:15.920 percent of guys they they have no commitment issues none they're less attractive the man has
00:00:23.160 commitment issues in my experience but that's what i'm saying to you because he's not going
00:00:28.080 to tell you listen darling this is your problem this is a b problem this is c problem this is d
00:00:32.940 problem i'm just gonna cut cut or i'm gonna stay there and not take you seriously if if he's not
00:00:38.960 committing to you it's because it's something you're not doing or you're not fulfilling for him
00:00:43.060 in terms of what he wants purely the woman's fault if a man's not committing if you're not if a girl
00:00:48.380 is asking for let's say she her asking price is this much and she says this is this is the product
00:00:54.280 this is what i'm selling can someone buy it and nobody buys something's wrong with the product
00:00:58.980 good to know or the price or the price yeah or the price or the buyer this is just so difficult
00:01:05.160 you're basically saying there's there's no issue with so with the fact that it's so easily accessible
00:01:11.540 to move on to the next person with having social media with having dating apps now that that hasn't
00:01:17.320 caused an issue in terms of individuals now committing to relationships what does social media have to do
00:01:22.140 with the conversation so i find that social media has a major thing to do with the conversation in
00:01:27.180 terms of dating because expectations are set so high i think it's i think people expect i think it raises
00:01:33.540 women's expectations more than i think it raises men's i think it raises because women's dms are flooded
00:01:40.780 they are that's true yeah and so it gasses women's up women up and think they're hotter than they are
00:01:47.200 because they can get you can be an average chicken i'm an nba player sliding into your dms it kills your
00:01:50.820 confidence it's like as a dude as a dude don't get me wrong i i don't think it's great either way
00:01:57.060 but i do think there's an issue in terms of it it sets expectations to be higher and then when you
00:02:03.400 have so much access to speaking to you know hundreds of women on a daily basis men also become more picky
00:02:11.700 it's a small it's a small percentage of men that are picky because again yeah yes and that's what i'm
00:02:23.920 saying you're right it is harder to get the small percentage of guys to commit because if you find this
00:02:29.560 guy attractive a lot of other women probably do too why would he commit when he can just bang a bunch
00:02:34.460 checks let's put all the 20 on an island somewhere and we'll all live happy ever after you'd go to the island
00:02:41.260 no but then why am i going to the island for no but in that 20 don't tell me where the island is
00:02:46.240 don't give me a boat where's the island sorry where's the boats what is the exact time and location
00:02:52.380 i'll swim i'm a good swimmer you want to go to the island and only that if you take away the 20 of the guys and put them on the island
00:03:00.400 then there'll be a new 20 of guys that you are now interested in let everyone get a chance man
00:03:04.740 yeah so you you always want the top you can't settle settle settle for what you like it's like
00:03:10.920 lower your expectations lower your expectations i don't think that's that's i don't think that's a hot
00:03:15.220 take but what go ahead i don't think it's the hot take to so so i guess my opinion on this is a bit
00:03:22.260 more nuanced than that yes everyone has you know expectations that can vary and sometimes they can be a bit
00:03:27.680 ridiculous so but i don't think that's a bad thing i actually actually enjoy the hustle i don't think
00:03:33.180 it's a hot take to tell women it's like hey you should you should settle for less you should settle
00:03:37.120 for the average xyz i think it's your job as a man to be that that top person you're either a baiter
00:03:42.580 or you're a successful man inside inside of this in the dating game because only a man that's winning
00:03:48.580 will say that i will tell you i'm not necessarily winning i could be doing better but you know and i think
00:03:57.260 i'm far from a beta i just that's just my my nature are you virgin no so you're so you're winning then
00:04:03.760 because you're you're in the higher percent you're in the smaller percentage of men that's actually
00:04:08.540 being sexually active i do quite well right there you go i do it doesn't it doesn't favor you to change
00:04:14.840 it maybe like it doesn't 50s i'm very picky though but i think it's it's it's more about like
00:04:19.920 the attitude though i think it's more like because when you went when i say i do quite well that but i probably
00:04:25.000 go out more than you i probably put in more time and energy into understanding the game than you
00:04:28.540 probably had more experiences that have affected my dating experience you know these people so people
00:04:33.360 act like you know it just happens it takes work and i'm gonna keep working on it you're right there
00:04:38.220 is a group there is a group of men that like are addicted to corn right they just play video games
00:04:43.080 they're not working on themselves and they have bad results and you don't really feel bad for them for
00:04:46.620 having bad results but on the other hand you have women that are super overweight asking for a guy
00:04:51.800 that makes six figures and like you don't see that type of male delusion wow well you actually do see
00:04:58.420 some of that because i know i know a lot of gamer boys with very poor social skills that think they're
00:05:02.480 entitled to you know top shelf women like but being real do you really feel like it's at the same rate
00:05:07.700 i mean it's processed differently that guy gets shut down it's embarrassing yeah that's that's what i'm
00:05:11.820 saying like like men are faced with reality quick yeah women aren't because we lie to each other
00:05:16.360 that guy's not happy yeah and then we and then we have movements like you know slut shaming right
00:05:20.860 fat phobic we have all these movements to like cushion us yeah and don't get it twisted i have
00:05:26.020 my frustrations with women as well like i think in the casual dating game there is definitely um
00:05:32.160 expectations are quite high and i think personally a lot of women don't understand how to have a healthy
00:05:36.720 casual relationship i think people mix it up with very sentimental sentimentality and that's why they
00:05:41.460 get played by the same guys because these guys know you want a connection you're saying you're a big
00:05:45.280 girl but you know when they mess with me they're like oh why aren't you texting me at night because
00:05:49.580 we're a casual relationship i'm not i'm not gonna kiss you goodnight you can have a healthy
00:05:53.180 casual relationship that's that's my view yeah and i've yeah absolutely definitely it just takes
00:05:59.400 maturity you just have to be transparent be transparent be mature um yeah you lot are playing
00:06:05.380 with fire i don't i don't think women are biologically predispositioned for it like statistically
00:06:12.080 they're not they're not and and i think as a guy you're like yeah you can have a healthy casual
00:06:17.040 relationship because that's a man's point of view and some and some girls can do it but like in my
00:06:21.760 experience typically like they've just had a bunch of sex to the point they don't care anymore
00:06:25.760 in my experience every time we orgasm we fall in love with this guy so the casual relationship
00:06:30.100 we're gonna not not every time i'm saying early on so so girls typically bond more with the first
00:06:36.840 couple of guys they slept with yeah okay and and so and they tend to do that through orgasm yeah
00:06:42.680 here's the problem in my experience though that the p the women who tend to be able to be able to do
00:06:49.160 this they tend to be older they tend to be like over 27 yeah they don't necessarily have a high body
00:06:54.020 count but they're normally very educated they have that they're independent they have their own lives
00:06:58.020 so my my ideal woman is actually what a lot of people would say is the woman that will give them
00:07:02.480 the most stress because these guys say oh well this woman thinks she won the show yeah you can
00:07:06.100 run the show i'll see you once every two weeks what am i fussing about or you know women who
00:07:11.220 are still in love with some other dude cool you can see him in the two weeks i'm not seeing you
00:07:16.040 you know and and if you think like that that's called frame though because i have nothing to prove
00:07:20.180 and when we want to escalate the relationship then there are a lot of ways that you can build
00:07:24.620 closeness but i'm just i'm just someone where i know what when what i'm doing is building a more
00:07:30.680 intimate relationship than our relationship is actually at so you're a side guy no i'm the main
00:07:36.260 guy actually no in terms of like if she's got a husband a partner and you see you see her in
00:07:42.500 between the relationships you're like the side guy no she this is not married women this is just
00:07:46.700 women who are around maybe they may be seeing multiple guys i don't ask because i don't care
00:07:50.800 because so you're winning in the game then casual relationship in the casual game but it's a
00:07:55.380 mindset though that's the thing no no i'm asking if it's i'm saying are you winning yes or no
00:07:59.540 i do all right so wouldn't it wouldn't it be like um bad for you if the game was to change
00:08:05.260 and women to stop having casual sex with you counterproductive wouldn't it be counterproductive
00:08:09.260 if women was to stop having casual sex yes i guess so right so you're not right so you're
00:08:14.560 not you're not advised to give advice the right advice because because you're telling girls to
00:08:19.940 sleep around benefits you exactly yeah but it can also benefit them as well
00:08:23.800 what is the what is the most conducive to building families a stable emotional relationship
00:08:31.400 yeah yeah and so like that's why you see 50 of women over 30 being single and childless and then
00:08:36.720 you have the least happy group of women are 45 that make over 50 000 per year that's the least
00:08:42.440 happy group of women so casual relationships leave women unhappy in the long term if they don't
00:08:47.600 have a family yeah but that also depends on the mentality of the people around them the men at the
00:08:51.960 time so a woman you can consider quite pious now you could go back 10 years and she's now someone
00:08:57.260 who's acting completely wiling out oh yeah part of it is like the the society you're in birth control
00:09:04.220 change dating forever yeah like that in a way you can't go back absolutely but yeah i personally i
00:09:10.660 don't think casual sex is is the worst thing of but it has to be approached with care it's not
00:09:14.960 something you do carelessly this idea that yeah just sleep around shack whoever you want
00:09:18.960 whatever is is is is the reason that a lot of these girls are out here getting played
00:09:23.020 and crossing two things casual and intimate and they don't even know but i know that