JustPearlyThings - Modern Woman BLAMES Social Media for THIS!

00:00:00.000 speaking to all of the women that i know who are currently single the issues that we always have

00:00:04.940 are you go on dates you put yourself into somebody you invest your time and they all seem to have

00:00:09.540 commitment issues so that's why because you're dating 20 percent i promise you the bottom 80

00:00:15.920 percent of guys they they have no commitment issues none they're less attractive the man has

00:00:23.160 commitment issues in my experience but that's what i'm saying to you because he's not going

00:00:28.080 to tell you listen darling this is your problem this is a b problem this is c problem this is d

00:00:32.940 problem i'm just gonna cut cut or i'm gonna stay there and not take you seriously if if he's not

00:00:38.960 committing to you it's because it's something you're not doing or you're not fulfilling for him

00:00:43.060 in terms of what he wants purely the woman's fault if a man's not committing if you're not if a girl

00:00:48.380 is asking for let's say she her asking price is this much and she says this is this is the product

00:00:54.280 this is what i'm selling can someone buy it and nobody buys something's wrong with the product

00:00:58.980 good to know or the price or the price yeah or the price or the buyer this is just so difficult

00:01:05.160 you're basically saying there's there's no issue with so with the fact that it's so easily accessible

00:01:11.540 to move on to the next person with having social media with having dating apps now that that hasn't

00:01:17.320 caused an issue in terms of individuals now committing to relationships what does social media have to do

00:01:22.140 with the conversation so i find that social media has a major thing to do with the conversation in

00:01:27.180 terms of dating because expectations are set so high i think it's i think people expect i think it raises

00:01:33.540 women's expectations more than i think it raises men's i think it raises because women's dms are flooded 0.98

00:01:40.780 they are that's true yeah and so it gasses women's up women up and think they're hotter than they are 1.00

00:01:47.200 because they can get you can be an average chicken i'm an nba player sliding into your dms it kills your

00:01:50.820 confidence it's like as a dude as a dude don't get me wrong i i don't think it's great either way

00:01:57.060 but i do think there's an issue in terms of it it sets expectations to be higher and then when you

00:02:03.400 have so much access to speaking to you know hundreds of women on a daily basis men also become more picky

00:02:11.700 it's a small it's a small percentage of men that are picky because again yeah yes and that's what i'm

00:02:23.920 saying you're right it is harder to get the small percentage of guys to commit because if you find this

00:02:29.560 guy attractive a lot of other women probably do too why would he commit when he can just bang a bunch 1.00

00:02:34.460 checks let's put all the 20 on an island somewhere and we'll all live happy ever after you'd go to the island

00:02:41.260 no but then why am i going to the island for no but in that 20 don't tell me where the island is

00:02:46.240 don't give me a boat where's the island sorry where's the boats what is the exact time and location

00:02:52.380 i'll swim i'm a good swimmer you want to go to the island and only that if you take away the 20 of the guys and put them on the island

00:03:00.400 then there'll be a new 20 of guys that you are now interested in let everyone get a chance man

00:03:04.740 yeah so you you always want the top you can't settle settle settle for what you like it's like

00:03:10.920 lower your expectations lower your expectations i don't think that's that's i don't think that's a hot

00:03:15.220 take but what go ahead i don't think it's the hot take to so so i guess my opinion on this is a bit

00:03:22.260 more nuanced than that yes everyone has you know expectations that can vary and sometimes they can be a bit

00:03:27.680 ridiculous so but i don't think that's a bad thing i actually actually enjoy the hustle i don't think

00:03:33.180 it's a hot take to tell women it's like hey you should you should settle for less you should settle 0.93

00:03:37.120 for the average xyz i think it's your job as a man to be that that top person you're either a baiter

00:03:42.580 or you're a successful man inside inside of this in the dating game because only a man that's winning

00:03:48.580 will say that i will tell you i'm not necessarily winning i could be doing better but you know and i think

00:03:57.260 i'm far from a beta i just that's just my my nature are you virgin no so you're so you're winning then

00:04:03.760 because you're you're in the higher percent you're in the smaller percentage of men that's actually

00:04:08.540 being sexually active i do quite well right there you go i do it doesn't it doesn't favor you to change

00:04:14.840 it maybe like it doesn't 50s i'm very picky though but i think it's it's it's more about like

00:04:19.920 the attitude though i think it's more like because when you went when i say i do quite well that but i probably

00:04:25.000 go out more than you i probably put in more time and energy into understanding the game than you

00:04:28.540 probably had more experiences that have affected my dating experience you know these people so people

00:04:33.360 act like you know it just happens it takes work and i'm gonna keep working on it you're right there

00:04:38.220 is a group there is a group of men that like are addicted to corn right they just play video games

00:04:43.080 they're not working on themselves and they have bad results and you don't really feel bad for them for

00:04:46.620 having bad results but on the other hand you have women that are super overweight asking for a guy 1.00

00:04:51.800 that makes six figures and like you don't see that type of male delusion wow well you actually do see

00:04:58.420 some of that because i know i know a lot of gamer boys with very poor social skills that think they're

00:05:02.480 entitled to you know top shelf women like but being real do you really feel like it's at the same rate

00:05:07.700 i mean it's processed differently that guy gets shut down it's embarrassing yeah that's that's what i'm

00:05:11.820 saying like like men are faced with reality quick yeah women aren't because we lie to each other 0.81

00:05:16.360 that guy's not happy yeah and then we and then we have movements like you know slut shaming right 1.00

00:05:20.860 fat phobic we have all these movements to like cushion us yeah and don't get it twisted i have

00:05:26.020 my frustrations with women as well like i think in the casual dating game there is definitely um

00:05:32.160 expectations are quite high and i think personally a lot of women don't understand how to have a healthy

00:05:36.720 casual relationship i think people mix it up with very sentimental sentimentality and that's why they

00:05:41.460 get played by the same guys because these guys know you want a connection you're saying you're a big

00:05:45.280 girl but you know when they mess with me they're like oh why aren't you texting me at night because

00:05:49.580 we're a casual relationship i'm not i'm not gonna kiss you goodnight you can have a healthy

00:05:53.180 casual relationship that's that's my view yeah and i've yeah absolutely definitely it just takes

00:05:59.400 maturity you just have to be transparent be transparent be mature um yeah you lot are playing

00:06:05.380 with fire i don't i don't think women are biologically predispositioned for it like statistically

00:06:12.080 they're not they're not and and i think as a guy you're like yeah you can have a healthy casual

00:06:17.040 relationship because that's a man's point of view and some and some girls can do it but like in my 1.00

00:06:21.760 experience typically like they've just had a bunch of sex to the point they don't care anymore

00:06:25.760 in my experience every time we orgasm we fall in love with this guy so the casual relationship

00:06:30.100 we're gonna not not every time i'm saying early on so so girls typically bond more with the first

00:06:36.840 couple of guys they slept with yeah okay and and so and they tend to do that through orgasm yeah 1.00

00:06:42.680 here's the problem in my experience though that the p the women who tend to be able to be able to do 1.00

00:06:49.160 this they tend to be older they tend to be like over 27 yeah they don't necessarily have a high body

00:06:54.020 count but they're normally very educated they have that they're independent they have their own lives

00:06:58.020 so my my ideal woman is actually what a lot of people would say is the woman that will give them

00:07:02.480 the most stress because these guys say oh well this woman thinks she won the show yeah you can

00:07:06.100 run the show i'll see you once every two weeks what am i fussing about or you know women who 1.00

00:07:11.220 are still in love with some other dude cool you can see him in the two weeks i'm not seeing you

00:07:16.040 you know and and if you think like that that's called frame though because i have nothing to prove

00:07:20.180 and when we want to escalate the relationship then there are a lot of ways that you can build

00:07:24.620 closeness but i'm just i'm just someone where i know what when what i'm doing is building a more

00:07:30.680 intimate relationship than our relationship is actually at so you're a side guy no i'm the main

00:07:36.260 guy actually no in terms of like if she's got a husband a partner and you see you see her in 0.88

00:07:42.500 between the relationships you're like the side guy no she this is not married women this is just 1.00

00:07:46.700 women who are around maybe they may be seeing multiple guys i don't ask because i don't care

00:07:50.800 because so you're winning in the game then casual relationship in the casual game but it's a

00:07:55.380 mindset though that's the thing no no i'm asking if it's i'm saying are you winning yes or no

00:07:59.540 i do all right so wouldn't it wouldn't it be like um bad for you if the game was to change

00:08:05.260 and women to stop having casual sex with you counterproductive wouldn't it be counterproductive 1.00

00:08:09.260 if women was to stop having casual sex yes i guess so right so you're not right so you're 1.00

00:08:14.560 not you're not advised to give advice the right advice because because you're telling girls to

00:08:19.940 sleep around benefits you exactly yeah but it can also benefit them as well

00:08:23.800 what is the what is the most conducive to building families a stable emotional relationship

00:08:31.400 yeah yeah and so like that's why you see 50 of women over 30 being single and childless and then 0.97

00:08:36.720 you have the least happy group of women are 45 that make over 50 000 per year that's the least 1.00

00:08:42.440 happy group of women so casual relationships leave women unhappy in the long term if they don't 1.00

00:08:47.600 have a family yeah but that also depends on the mentality of the people around them the men at the

00:08:51.960 time so a woman you can consider quite pious now you could go back 10 years and she's now someone

00:08:57.260 who's acting completely wiling out oh yeah part of it is like the the society you're in birth control

00:09:04.220 change dating forever yeah like that in a way you can't go back absolutely but yeah i personally i

00:09:10.660 don't think casual sex is is the worst thing of but it has to be approached with care it's not

00:09:14.960 something you do carelessly this idea that yeah just sleep around shack whoever you want

00:09:18.960 whatever is is is is the reason that a lot of these girls are out here getting played 1.00

00:09:23.020 and crossing two things casual and intimate and they don't even know but i know that

JustPearlyThings - June 13, 2023

Modern Woman BLAMES Social Media for THIS!

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