JustPearlyThings - May 07, 2023


Modern Woman Chooses To Live In Denial

Topics
average ambition and personal growth
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Men On The Panel Schooled This Emotional Simp 46 Year Old Bimbo Got DESTROYED With Statistics

Episode Stats


Length

6 minutes

Words per minute

201.6

Word count

1,291

Sentence count

138

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Toxicity

5

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Hate speech

3

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Summary

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In this episode we talk about what it takes to be a good parent and how important it is to have a good relationship with your partner. We also talk about the benefits of being a good Dad and what it's like being a single parent.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I mean, the data honestly shows that half of us aren't going to have kids.
00:00:04.400 50% in here, single and childless.
00:00:06.480 If you hit 30 and you're still single,
00:00:08.600 if you hit 30 and you're still single,
00:00:10.760 your chance of having a kid drops below 50%,
00:00:12.960 so you're actually more likely to not have a kid than have one.
00:00:15.340 Is that just females? 1.00
00:00:16.300 Mm-hmm.
00:00:16.720 Yeah, women. 1.00
00:00:17.440 I rebuke these stats, and I...
00:00:19.660 No, it's not like rebuking.
00:00:22.260 I think it's good for women to know.
00:00:23.940 It is.
00:00:24.220 Because that's what's going to happen if, like, you know...
00:00:27.020 And it's a fact as well, like, your eggs just pop them.
00:00:29.840 Yeah, yeah, we know that, yeah, but...
00:00:32.400 90% of your eggs are gone by 30,
00:00:34.460 and then they sell you IVF as an option,
00:00:36.980 but the majority of IVF treatments don't work.
00:00:39.620 So the majority of women that go get, like, IVF, 1.00
00:00:41.920 they don't actually get a kid at all.
00:00:44.700 I'm just a firm believer.
00:00:45.980 I feel like the way my life is supposed to pan out,
00:00:48.840 it will pan out just perfectly.
00:00:50.840 And, yeah, the stats are important,
00:00:53.080 but I just feel like if I'm not ready now and I'm ready later
00:00:57.040 and it doesn't happen, maybe it just wasn't meant to be.
00:01:00.100 I'll just leave it to life.
00:01:02.400 Yeah, I think a lot of women feel like that, 1.00
00:01:04.080 but, you know, then they hit 45 and they're on antidepressants
00:01:07.140 and more depressed than any other group.
00:01:09.100 Like, women over the age of 45 are more depressed
00:01:11.840 than any other group, like, more anxious.
00:01:13.740 And the same thing, like, body count is associated
00:01:15.540 to all those things, like anxiety, depression.
00:01:18.340 Like, I can't remember the list off the top of my head,
00:01:21.040 but there's a bunch of, like, negative, like, things
00:01:23.880 that are associated, like negative mental health
00:01:25.840 with high body count.
00:01:27.200 And sometimes you don't really know when you're ready
00:01:29.300 until it happens.
00:01:30.220 So a lot of, like, my brother has a baby
00:01:32.160 and he thought he wasn't ready to be a dad
00:01:34.580 until baby happened and he's a great father.
00:01:37.440 Yeah, you become ready, right?
00:01:38.500 Yeah, sometimes you need the moment to understand
00:01:41.440 what you can and can't do, if that makes sense.
00:01:43.840 The women that are depressed, do they have children? 1.00
00:01:48.780 No.
00:01:49.220 No?
00:01:49.660 Yeah.
00:01:50.820 That's sorry.
00:01:51.440 I might not have said childless, single childless.
00:01:53.640 Yeah.
00:01:56.840 Do you think you're above average
00:01:58.280 and what would you bring to an above average man?
00:02:00.520 I would say I'm currently average
00:02:02.000 because I have a lot of improvement that needs to happen.
00:02:04.820 Um, my man is above average
00:02:07.860 and what I bring to the table, as a sense,
00:02:14.500 is, um, same thing you said, babe.
00:02:17.780 I am very nurturing.
00:02:19.480 The job that I have allows me to, you know,
00:02:23.400 I feel like I'm going to be a very good mum.
00:02:25.980 I feel like I'm very caring.
00:02:27.820 Um, money-wise, I'm able to take care
00:02:32.020 of certain things as well,
00:02:33.060 so the pressure isn't all on him.
00:02:35.180 I know a lot of people think,
00:02:36.340 oh, you know, it should be because he's the man.
00:02:38.380 Absolutely, I agree with that.
00:02:40.000 But I want to help.
00:02:41.180 I don't want to feel useless in the household.
00:02:44.560 Um, even if I'm just providing groceries,
00:02:46.620 do you know what I mean?
00:02:47.180 A little bit of something.
00:02:48.480 Um, very understanding.
00:02:50.260 I, I listen to a lot of things.
00:02:52.320 My ears are open.
00:02:54.320 Yeah, I think that is, it's important.
00:02:56.740 Um, I don't go clubbing a lot.
00:02:59.700 There's, you know,
00:03:00.520 I haven't been with a lot of people before him.
00:03:03.500 There's a lot of things that,
00:03:05.620 that would make me, uh, worthy, perhaps,
00:03:09.060 of being with someone like that.
00:03:10.860 If you're attracted in a above average man,
00:03:13.200 wouldn't you say you like you're above average?
00:03:15.120 Because you kind of are what you attract.
00:03:16.840 So, he's, he's older than me.
00:03:18.760 Um, and at the moment,
00:03:21.620 I think as humans,
00:03:24.460 we'd, we'd be silly to think
00:03:25.860 that we don't have a lot of growth.
00:03:28.040 There's always room for improvement.
00:03:29.620 I'm not going to sit here and be like,
00:03:30.840 oh yeah, I'm above average.
00:03:31.820 No, babe. 0.99
00:03:32.600 I've got shit to, 0.99
00:03:33.660 I've got shit to work on. 1.00
00:03:34.840 Do you know what I mean? 0.99
00:03:35.220 Average isn't a negative thing.
00:03:36.700 No, no, no, no.
00:03:37.720 And honestly, it shows humility
00:03:39.060 that you're like saying that,
00:03:40.420 to be honest,
00:03:41.040 which I think is something men look for.
00:03:44.540 Yeah, perhaps.
00:03:45.260 Um, but yeah, even for myself,
00:03:47.340 I know that I've got a lot of growth
00:03:48.660 that needs to happen.
00:03:50.220 So, yeah.
00:03:51.220 What are you looking to improve on?
00:03:54.080 Um, work-wise,
00:03:56.200 I can make a lot more money.
00:03:58.280 I can improve in that area.
00:04:00.040 My, my body can be a lot better.
00:04:02.780 My hair can be a lot longer.
00:04:04.100 Do you know men,
00:04:04.720 men don't care about money? 1.00
00:04:06.280 Uh, yeah, exactly.
00:04:07.760 Um, some do, but. 0.73
00:04:10.220 The bums.
00:04:11.400 Yeah.
00:04:11.600 Not men that make money.
00:04:13.620 But it's just, it's just nice
00:04:14.700 if the person that you're with
00:04:15.720 has got ambition, at least.
00:04:16.960 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:17.780 For women, no. 1.00
00:04:19.080 With, with the person that I'm with,
00:04:21.120 he doesn't really care about money,
00:04:22.320 but he cares,
00:04:23.060 what are you,
00:04:23.880 where are you going in life?
00:04:24.960 Yeah.
00:04:25.440 Otherwise, I can get with any woman. 1.00
00:04:26.760 What are you bringing?
00:04:27.700 What makes you different?
00:04:29.380 So, I've got ambition.
00:04:31.300 You know, what is that I do in life?
00:04:33.720 That's what intrigues him.
00:04:35.260 Mm-hmm.
00:04:36.320 Okay, what else?
00:04:38.040 Um, what do you mean?
00:04:38.760 Are you looking to improve on?
00:04:40.000 So you said money, fitness.
00:04:41.740 Yeah.
00:04:42.420 It's okay if it's just that.
00:04:43.320 I was just curious if there's more.
00:04:44.780 Yeah, money, fitness, mental health as well.
00:04:47.820 I think that's very important.
00:04:49.620 Um, I've still got a lot of,
00:04:50.780 a lot of growth to do in that area.
00:04:52.480 I think we all do.
00:04:53.200 I'm only 24.
00:04:54.000 So, I have a lot more work to do.
00:04:56.980 But, um, yeah, I think,
00:04:59.100 oh, and also being more, more calm.
00:05:01.460 Listening to him.
00:05:02.540 Because I've also been very dominant in the past.
00:05:05.300 He's told me that.
00:05:06.200 So I'm trying to be a bit more submissive.
00:05:08.640 Feminine.
00:05:09.140 Yeah, a bit more feminine.
00:05:10.360 That's it.
00:05:10.800 Where do you, like,
00:05:12.800 why do you think you've been more dominant in the past?
00:05:15.000 Like, where does that come from?
00:05:16.160 Is that something you saw modeled growing up?
00:05:18.020 Or is that just a trait about you?
00:05:19.520 So, I didn't really have a dad growing up.
00:05:22.200 So therefore, I've naturally had to be in,
00:05:24.400 had to be a bit more masculine.
00:05:26.360 I've had to fend for myself.
00:05:27.780 I also grew up in a bit of a hood area, you could say.
00:05:31.420 So, yeah, I came from a bit of a rough background in a sense.
00:05:35.300 But, um, I feel like I'm dragging myself out of it.
00:05:38.540 I'm bettering myself.
00:05:39.700 How do you, because I've always wondered,
00:05:41.660 how, if you didn't grow up in that environment,
00:05:44.360 how do you learn to be, like, a wife or more feminine? 1.00
00:05:46.960 Like, where do you go?
00:05:48.020 Um, he has taught me a lot.
00:05:51.380 What I've, what I've seen,
00:05:52.860 a lot of my family members and friends have also taught me.
00:05:55.980 And if you're not willing to learn and change,
00:05:57.680 you're never going to.
00:05:58.640 You have to be able to do that yourself.
00:06:00.840 It doesn't matter what background you've come from.
00:06:03.060 You have to be willing to learn and to change.
00:06:05.960 And then you're going to.
00:06:06.920 It's that simple.
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