JustPearlyThings - May 21, 2023


Modern Woman Compares Bus Drivers To PR0NSTARS


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Length

10 minutes

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204.30211

Word count

2,118

Sentence count

150

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Misogyny

6

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Toxicity

5

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Hate speech

3

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In this episode, we talk about what it's like to be in a relationship with someone of a different gender. We talk about our expectations for our partners and the expectations we set for ourselves and how we treat our partners. We also discuss what we would do if we were in a situation where we had to pay our partners the same amount of money as we do for our female partners.

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00:00:00.000 Yeah, no, I would. I used to, before I went out with my now partner, who's a man, I went out with two females. And if I said that, obviously when I was with a woman, obviously, you know, like we was 50-50 in and things like that.
00:00:16.340 So if I would do that with a woman, then kind of, sort of, not I'm saying like I don't like being treated by a man, but for me personally, as someone who's been out with both females and males, how can I hold a man to a higher standard of having to look after me when my previous partner, who was a female, didn't have to earn as much?
00:00:33.400 It would be, for me personally, stupid to say, well, yeah, my man's got to earn X amount because I never asked that of my female partner. So what, I'd have to ask that of my male partner?
00:00:43.120 Are your standards exactly the same when you look at men and women?
00:00:45.840 Yeah, I think so. I think so. I think so. I never saw myself with a man. So, um, so I think it took me by surprise. So I think it's, it's, it's not.
00:00:54.740 You never, so you were always like a lesbian before and then you found this guy and he was an exception? 0.91
00:00:59.640 Yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't think it was an exception because now I, like, obviously, apart from, I'm so sorry, babe, you are the only man I find attractive.
00:01:06.400 But like, obviously, I'm like, it's, I wouldn't rule out, like, just be, like, he's the only man ever. Do you know what I mean? If that makes sense.
00:01:14.360 Um, but, um, yeah, but I can't hold one in a certain respect without holding the other in the same respect.
00:01:20.880 So if I said to my female partner, like, you know, yeah, it's fine for you to earn the same as me and put 50-50 in, then how can I not be like that with my mom?
00:01:29.520 But that's just, that's just, I think, a personal thing of going through that experience.
00:01:33.140 You know, it's interesting because I've, I've had other girls that were bi on the show and they actually said they had, like, higher standards for the guys than they do for the women.
00:01:40.140 I, I just, I'm just realistic. Like, I'm just logical. Like, I think it's just logic that, you know, if you're going to go out with both, then you can't have different standards, can you?
00:01:48.040 Because at the end of the day, you're asking for the same thing, which is love in, in the same capacity that I would ask love from a woman is the same capacity that I would ask love from a man.
00:01:56.640 So how can I ask for different materialistic things if what I'm asking for is the same?
00:02:02.480 Is the relationship dynamic the same when you go for men and women?
00:02:06.180 For me personally, like, the, the females I went out with were, were kind of tomboyish. 1.00
00:02:11.800 So, um, I'd say that the dynamics were more similar than I expected.
00:02:17.360 Okay.
00:02:17.900 Um, I, I've always just been attracted to kind of like the leader of the group, whoever that is, whatever, colour, ethnicity, religion, sex, do you know what I mean?
00:02:27.920 I've always just been attracted to someone, but not a leader as in makes the most money, more as in character, you know, the, the, the kind of brightest, the brightest star in the room.
00:02:36.180 So for me, that's, that's the most important thing rather than job.
00:02:41.680 Okay.
00:02:42.240 Uh, would you date a bus driver?
00:02:43.720 Yeah, I'd date a bus driver.
00:02:47.160 Is there any profession you wouldn't date?
00:02:49.880 Um, like adult stuff, you know, like OF stuff.
00:02:54.380 Oh, OF, no.
00:02:55.580 No, or any, any of that type of stuff and anything that's like when they have to dress promiscuously or anything like this.
00:03:01.860 Okay.
00:03:02.260 So no, like, uh, do you guys have Hooters here?
00:03:06.180 No.
00:03:06.680 No, okay.
00:03:07.680 Hooters is like a booty shorts chain in the U.S. where it's like, it's like a wait, like they're waitresses, but they dress. 0.65
00:03:14.040 They wear like the orange stuff.
00:03:15.280 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:16.500 That's Hooters.
00:03:17.380 Bring it to the UK.
00:03:20.360 Not a degeneracy.
00:03:21.400 Haram.
00:03:21.720 Haram.
00:03:24.220 Um, okay.
00:03:24.960 Um, do you, so outside of, um, just like promiscuous, is there any other industry you wouldn't date?
00:03:31.180 Um, do you know what?
00:03:33.600 Like, you know, if someone like worked in a zoo as well, cause I don't, I don't like the thought of like some animals in captivity against their will and stuff, I think that's a bit mad.
00:03:40.500 Okay.
00:03:40.760 And if they were like pro that, I'll be like, okay, morally, I might say a bit bad.
00:03:44.440 Wow.
00:03:44.560 That's like a very random.
00:03:45.840 I know.
00:03:46.100 I just, I just, I didn't really think about answering that question.
00:03:48.660 Yeah.
00:03:49.020 Um, okay.
00:03:49.780 Uh, what about you?
00:03:50.500 Would you date a bus driver?
00:03:51.480 I would, as she said, if he's passionate and he's a family man and he respects his mom.
00:03:55.720 Absolutely.
00:03:56.460 I, it's fine.
00:03:57.700 Cause I think the goal is to find a respectful man that can treat you well, um, other than a job.
00:04:03.420 We could fix that later on.
00:04:04.560 It's fine.
00:04:05.220 If you haven't, no, no, no, no, no, no fixing it.
00:04:07.320 It's like, he's a bus driver.
00:04:08.360 The rest of his life, that's fine.
00:04:10.260 That's fine.
00:04:10.840 Are you, does that switch your answer?
00:04:12.980 Bus driver the rest of his life?
00:04:14.280 No, it doesn't, no.
00:04:15.120 No, you slow date him.
00:04:16.400 Yeah.
00:04:16.540 You slow date him.
00:04:17.620 Okay.
00:04:18.140 Uh, what about you?
00:04:19.100 Um, if he had plans to leave the bus driver job, then I would date him.
00:04:22.900 Um, but if he's planning to stay there for the rest of his life, unfortunately, I couldn't
00:04:26.680 date him cause I feel like 15 pounds an hour for the rest of your life isn't really good.
00:04:31.860 Plus the long hours.
00:04:33.640 And, um, I'm going to be completely honest with you. 0.97
00:04:35.860 Like ask me if I would date a bus driver, like ask him a man, would you date like a porn star? 0.86
00:04:41.260 Like in society, it's a little bit like, you know, the equivalent of a porn star.
00:04:46.820 I mean, obviously like is a more, like we need bus drivers in society.
00:04:50.420 It's actually a very needed role in society.
00:04:53.280 Yeah, but like to, to equate a bus driver to the like to bottom, like 10% of females. 1.00
00:04:59.680 Yeah, but we need porn as well. 0.99
00:05:01.300 Men need porn. 1.00
00:05:02.460 So that's how I say it. 1.00
00:05:04.040 You might have survived for most of history without corn.
00:05:07.080 Say corn. 0.77
00:05:07.600 Sorry, corn.
00:05:08.180 Yeah, for me personally, I'm not going to sit here and lie and be like, oh my gosh, I would.
00:05:12.360 Personally, I just feel like if he had plans to leave it then yeah, because it's just like
00:05:16.420 15 pounds an hour for the rest of your life isn't really it.
00:05:19.520 I'm not going to lie.
00:05:22.780 Would you rather date a musician or a bus driver?
00:05:30.200 Well, my boyfriend's a rapper, so I'll say a musician.
00:05:34.820 How successful is the musician there?
00:05:37.480 They're both average bus driver, average musician.
00:05:41.020 So however successful, I could look up the average salary.
00:05:43.700 I'd say musician.
00:05:44.480 I feel like musician would be more fun.
00:05:46.880 I feel like bus drivers, like I might get in the music video.
00:05:50.360 I might have like a say, but with a bus driver, it's like you're just taking the same route all the time.
00:05:54.280 I can't really come with you either.
00:05:57.220 But if it's an average musician, then yeah.
00:06:00.260 If it's like a big musician, then I don't really know because they're a bit here and there, you know.
00:06:06.960 What about you?
00:06:08.800 I'm guessing we're talking about people at the start of their music career that are like, you know,
00:06:12.560 the guys are like, yeah, I want to be an aspiring rapper.
00:06:15.840 And they're like starting out.
00:06:17.200 And it's like they're going to stay that way.
00:06:18.780 Could be a country singer.
00:06:20.020 I don't know.
00:06:20.460 Okay, but they're going to stay at average, right?
00:06:23.060 That's the question forever.
00:06:27.980 I think in this case, I think I'd actually rather the bus driver because at least nobody's
00:06:31.960 seeing him all the time all over the place.
00:06:35.660 Yeah, probably.
00:06:37.480 I think I'm going to say bus driver because I understand the industry and I'm just, yeah,
00:06:42.840 I'm way too jealous of a person to even get with someone who does music, is around women 1.00
00:06:48.780 all the time, et cetera.
00:06:50.040 It's a lot to take on.
00:06:51.540 So, yeah, bus driver.
00:06:53.300 I'm going to have to say musician, otherwise I'm going to get some really bad texts after
00:06:57.140 this show.
00:07:00.080 I'll say a musician, you know, if it's like an average musician, there's like, I'm not
00:07:04.000 saying that people that do wedding ones are like average, but do you know what I mean?
00:07:07.360 It gives you more freedom because I want to just do mad stuff and go on holidays and this
00:07:11.060 and that.
00:07:11.320 If they're a bus driver, they go ask a boss.
00:07:12.560 How are you going to fund the holidays?
00:07:14.060 Me?
00:07:14.240 Oh, yeah, you, yeah, I'm sorry.
00:07:16.140 I'm forgetting that you're a guy answering it.
00:07:20.980 Dependent, are they making the same, by the way, the average musician and the average
00:07:24.560 bus driver, is it the same income?
00:07:26.560 Salary.
00:07:27.080 Salary.
00:07:27.820 Average salary of a musician, let's see, London, I got you.
00:07:38.240 I just feel like with musicians, you don't even make money in the beginning for ages.
00:07:41.540 £4,000 a year.
00:07:43.160 Oh, that's not bad.
00:07:45.620 I don't, I feel like this is off.
00:07:47.560 Yeah, that's the thing.
00:07:49.300 Yeah, I feel like this is a bit off, but if it's like kind of the same salary, then I think.
00:07:53.480 This one says £29,000, that sounds more right.
00:07:56.160 Yeah, I think if it's the same salary, I wouldn't mind.
00:07:59.160 I think with a musician, I would have more quality time than the bus driver, but I don't
00:08:04.500 mind a bus driver either.
00:08:05.880 Just at least with the musician, I think I would have more quality time.
00:08:08.600 In this case, I would actually date the bus driver only because I like peace and I feel
00:08:15.340 like musicians, let's be real, we know what they're about, they're out with gyal, you know,
00:08:19.520 they cheat him all the time.
00:08:21.840 The more money a man makes, the more likely he is to cheat.
00:08:24.380 And me, I'm too emotional for all of that.
00:08:26.940 Like, I like my mental health to be steady.
00:08:30.500 So, yeah, it would have to be the bus driver, but I still wouldn't date the bus driver.
00:08:34.380 Okay, do you guys think you are above average?
00:08:40.100 And why do you think you deserve an above average man?
00:08:43.840 If so.
00:08:45.840 Above average in like what sense?
00:08:48.480 Like.
00:08:49.720 The things that men want.
00:08:52.760 Um.
00:08:55.440 Oh my gosh.
00:08:56.480 I don't know, honestly, like, I couldn't really say, I don't think I'm like average.
00:09:02.300 I don't think I'm above, I think I'm like in between, but like, I don't really.
00:09:07.140 So you think you're average or you don't think you're average?
00:09:10.400 No, I don't think I'm average.
00:09:11.820 But I feel like seeing above average, I don't really know if I am above average though,
00:09:15.340 because it just depends on different stuff.
00:09:18.040 Okay.
00:09:18.340 But like, I don't try to go for a guy that's like above average, realistically.
00:09:23.140 Um, for me, like, I'm not too picky when it comes to, um, materialistic things and stuff
00:09:28.960 like that and your job title and this, this, this.
00:09:31.300 But what I've like learned from like going for guys who have like average jobs and stuff
00:09:36.260 like that, which is like the only thing I've been used to is that like, I would rather
00:09:41.480 just now, like, I'd rather have fun with it and go for a musician.
00:09:44.720 If he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat because imagine getting cheated on by a guy
00:09:47.720 who drives the 332, like, you drive a red bus.
00:09:51.120 That's the issue that I have with men is that it doesn't actually matter their title.
00:09:55.880 Like if they want to play you, they'll play you.
00:09:57.900 So like I said, I don't usually go for above average guys, but I might try.
00:10:02.080 I don't know, but it's still the, personally for me, I feel like it's still the same angle.
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