JustPearlyThings - April 08, 2023


Modern Woman Could Not Handle These Truth Bombs

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Demetri
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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

191.07

Word count

1,975

Sentence count

248

Harmful content

Misogyny

18

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Toxicity

2

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Hate speech

13

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In this episode, we talk about fertility problems in women, IVF failure rates, and why women are drinking more than ever before. We also talk about how women are becoming more like men and why this is a problem.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 When a single woman reaches the age of 30, the statistical probability of her successfully finding a long-term relationship and having just one child falls below 50%, it then declines rapidly by 3.5% to 5% each year.
00:00:15.080 This is based on the average fertility rates in developed countries, of course, but it's also based on the average amount of time it would take a single 30-year-old woman to find a good mate and progress their relationship to the point of pregnancy.
00:00:24.640 A little messed up is what you consider the average age of first child is 29 for women. 1.00
00:00:30.540 It varies slightly by country, and most women start taking the idea of a family seriously in their late 20s and 30s.
00:00:40.200 Let's talk about IVF, too.
00:00:42.140 The failure rates of IVF is 61.1% in women under 34.
00:00:48.560 So out of 100 women that go and get IVF, 61% fail. 0.73
00:00:53.180 In women that are between the ages of 35 to 38, it's 73.7%.
00:00:57.540 86.2% in women ages 39 to 42, and 94% in women over the ages of 43.
00:01:03.920 That's the IVF failure rate.
00:01:05.700 Wow.
00:01:05.960 Isn't it now that there's more female binge drinkers than male for the first time ever? 1.00
00:01:09.680 Yeah, that's true.
00:01:10.520 That's crazy.
00:01:11.600 Yeah.
00:01:12.220 That's mad.
00:01:13.400 That's crazy.
00:01:14.180 Which part?
00:01:15.600 There's more female. 0.96
00:01:16.800 Yeah, there's more.
00:01:17.440 You can go ahead.
00:01:17.880 Yeah, it was something that came out earlier this year that there are now more female binge drinkers than males, and it's the first time in history this has happened. 0.94
00:01:27.060 Wow.
00:01:27.660 That's crazy.
00:01:29.140 I'm really going to get you to that.
00:01:30.480 I think the men are smoking more green.
00:01:33.780 So they're smoking more.
00:01:36.520 So men smoke more and women drink more. 0.98
00:01:38.620 Yeah, but that's the first time in history that women are drinking more. 1.00
00:01:41.200 But why is that?
00:01:41.920 It's evolving, because we're an evolving race.
00:01:45.220 Because women are becoming men. 1.00
00:01:47.500 But I'm hurt.
00:01:48.480 I'm hurt.
00:01:49.260 But men are becoming women.
00:01:50.800 Yeah.
00:01:52.320 That's what's going on.
00:01:53.340 I'm going to read one more thing to you guys.
00:01:55.040 According to the average span of committed relationships, of committed dating relationships,
00:01:59.600 the average and the average interval of time women take between relationships,
00:02:05.380 an average woman has a maximum of, guess how many serious relationships? 1.00
00:02:09.380 Three.
00:02:09.980 How many?
00:02:10.660 Four.
00:02:11.460 Three.
00:02:11.660 Two.
00:02:12.260 Five.
00:02:12.780 Five.
00:02:13.060 Five.
00:02:13.200 Yeah.
00:02:14.220 I think a woman cannot need. 1.00
00:02:15.880 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, guys, guys, wait, let me finish.
00:02:20.400 A maximum of five serious relationships, five swings at a bat, before her chance of starting a family drops to zero.
00:02:26.920 So that means if you've had five boyfriends, your chance of a family has dropped to zero.
00:02:30.660 Wait, wait, wait, wait, please.
00:02:32.140 Can you explain that again?
00:02:33.520 Guys, what is it?
00:02:34.220 Isn't it good tasting the most?
00:02:35.920 According to the average span of committed dating relationships, the average and the average interval of time women take between relationships,
00:02:43.700 the average woman has a maximum of five serious relationships, five swings at the bat, 0.99
00:02:48.640 before her chances of starting a family drops to zero.
00:02:53.320 They need to change locations.
00:02:57.260 But see, this is like, and that sounds depressing.
00:03:02.120 It's according to numbers.
00:03:04.040 Like, so they, they, they, how many people?
00:03:06.240 Wait, what if they, what if the new generation, what if these people are just willing to love easily?
00:03:12.080 More easily?
00:03:12.960 More easily than the previous ones.
00:03:14.660 But this is, but this is like, we always do a roundabout way to make the numbers not sound like what they are.
00:03:18.720 Yeah, but numbers were only numbers when people started creating numbers.
00:03:23.240 Okay.
00:03:23.360 Numbers weren't there before.
00:03:24.240 Numbers, wait, numbers were only numbers when people started creating numbers.
00:03:28.020 How did you count a rock?
00:03:33.420 Like, how did you count how many rocks before they were even?
00:03:35.540 Okay, this is, this doesn't make any sense.
00:03:38.620 I'm just saying, what really makes sense nowadays is the stats, like, who are these people that put out these reports?
00:03:44.260 They do, they do, they do, they do, they do surveys, it's self-reported in different countries around the world, and they all have similar numbers.
00:03:51.560 So, so they, they start to have a similar conclusion and a similar trend.
00:03:55.180 So, when we, when we tell women, oh, it's going to be okay, it's like, my DMs are full, this, this, this.
00:04:00.320 For a lot of women, for a lot of women, it's not going to be okay.
00:04:03.160 And out of women that don't have kids, 80% of them wish they had them. 0.87
00:04:07.400 A hundred percent.
00:04:08.120 It's going to be okay to record this, though, like, at the end of the, that's what I'm saying, sometimes these conversations could also go to the other side of this spectrum.
00:04:16.680 Wait, explain that.
00:04:18.000 So, what do you mean?
00:04:18.680 I think that these sort of conversations we have, they can sometimes be very strategic and stats have stated and these people, yeah, but there's a whole group, community of people who don't do surveys and just love their life and love people and talk to people and are real and they don't give their reports back.
00:04:37.000 Yes.
00:04:37.180 Okay, okay, so, okay, okay, some, some, some, some people, you're right, some people don't take surveys, but if we're doing surveys in different places and they're all concluding the same thing, it's like, if you don't want to believe numbers, you don't have to.
00:04:51.940 You can just live in the, in the land of feelings, but, but it's, you're right, you're right, you're right, you're good.
00:04:59.500 And I think, and it's quite hard, it's quite hard to do that when you're living in the land of logic.
00:05:04.760 Should we, should we do an episode that's just like statistics and just teaching people statistics, we can say you're, you're, what you're talking about is self-selection bias, but once you get over about 1,400 people, you kind of have a pretty standard distribution, which is statistically significant.
00:05:18.760 These numbers are pretty damn tight.
00:05:19.960 So we'll do one episode pro for wife school statistics. 1.00
00:05:22.220 What do you think?
00:05:22.780 Yeah, we can do that.
00:05:23.840 I would love, I would love to teach that.
00:05:24.500 No, actually, to be honest with you, to be honest with you, Demetrius, I feel like.
00:05:29.120 Demetri.
00:05:29.820 Demetri, sorry.
00:05:31.700 My apologies.
00:05:33.580 Demetri, as you said, Demetri.
00:05:35.580 I know, I know.
00:05:36.200 Not Demetrius, the one that was going to take his suit before he got you.
00:05:40.200 Ah, ha, ha, you remember that?
00:05:41.740 We stopped, we stopped him.
00:05:43.080 Off camera.
00:05:43.860 Yeah, you put your jacket on.
00:05:45.160 We got him.
00:05:47.180 Basically, what I'm saying is that, yes, you know, not all of us were taught to be wives.
00:05:53.440 Yeah, true.
00:05:54.200 And maybe that's because our mothers saw what happened to wives. 1.00
00:05:57.680 Bruh, not all of us were taught to suckers. 0.84
00:05:59.080 Whoa.
00:05:59.700 Stop.
00:06:00.360 Wait, wait, wait.
00:06:01.200 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:06:01.860 Did you hear what I said?
00:06:02.480 Okay, okay.
00:06:03.660 Can I ask a question?
00:06:06.300 Did you hear what I said first?
00:06:08.140 So, say that again.
00:06:10.020 Yeah, so.
00:06:10.580 Just the one part.
00:06:12.200 Just the part about they were not taught wives.
00:06:13.960 Yeah, let me not get in my feelings, you're right.
00:06:16.060 What I'm saying is that.
00:06:17.380 Don't worry, girl.
00:06:18.580 Women that raise certain women in this world, they never taught their children or their daughters 1.00
00:06:24.120 obviously should be wives because they had experienced what happens to wives and they 1.00
00:06:29.920 were like, I'm not going to be a wife because that means I have to stand up with a guy and 1.00
00:06:34.400 that's due to relationship trauma.
00:06:36.120 But what outcomes are better?
00:06:39.560 No, but at the point, it doesn't matter.
00:06:41.460 This is the thing.
00:06:42.440 Because they are real people living on this earth.
00:06:44.700 Single childless women are not happy by and large.
00:06:48.000 They're not.
00:06:48.760 I don't think life is about only happiness though.
00:06:51.760 I mean, okay, what do you want your life to look like?
00:06:53.660 Okay, no, no, listen, listen.
00:06:55.520 Two seconds, just listen.
00:06:56.940 What do you want your life to look like at 60, 65?
00:07:00.320 What do you want Christmas to look like?
00:07:02.200 Your family's are...
00:07:03.140 Whole.
00:07:03.700 I just want it to look whole.
00:07:05.200 Okay, okay, not...
00:07:06.260 Listen, listen.
00:07:07.440 Okay.
00:07:07.960 What do you...
00:07:09.380 Do you want to spend it alone at 65?
00:07:12.400 Your parents are probably passed away then on 70, 65.
00:07:15.480 For myself, definitely not.
00:07:17.320 Okay.
00:07:17.700 For me, personally.
00:07:19.160 Right.
00:07:19.940 So what are you arguing about here?
00:07:21.780 I'm arguing that community and having family and being a single woman doesn't come with 0.62
00:07:28.760 a lonely life.
00:07:30.780 The stats disagree.
00:07:32.420 No.
00:07:32.780 Women that don't have children are on antidepressants. 0.93
00:07:35.920 And the stats can disagree.
00:07:37.640 That's okay.
00:07:38.640 That's okay.
00:07:39.440 Because those people are probably on antidepressants and they drink tap water and they do certain
00:07:47.680 things that...
00:07:48.440 It's not fun.
00:07:49.700 No, no.
00:07:50.240 And then, you know, they're desensitized.
00:07:51.780 Okay.
00:07:52.320 Are the single childless women that you know typically happy? 1.00
00:07:56.420 Are they happy they're in that position?
00:07:57.840 Typically, like majority of the time.
00:07:59.640 Okay.
00:08:00.120 They're all happy.
00:08:01.180 Yes.
00:08:01.640 They have children.
00:08:02.620 And if they had to pick, they would rather be by themselves than with a man, they respect,
00:08:07.220 love, and admire.
00:08:08.280 Yeah.
00:08:08.460 They would prefer...
00:08:09.400 No, no, no.
00:08:09.820 Pick one.
00:08:10.540 What would they prefer, typically?
00:08:12.200 Pick...
00:08:12.560 But how can I pick one if that's not an option?
00:08:15.720 If what's...
00:08:16.460 I'm giving you two options.
00:08:17.780 They'd rather be alone or with a man that they love, respect, and admire.
00:08:21.100 Which one would they pick?
00:08:22.600 They're all...
00:08:23.080 Always.
00:08:24.300 Always.
00:08:24.920 Yeah.
00:08:25.260 I think women are naturally... 1.00
00:08:26.420 Don't want companions.
00:08:27.460 But they would be...
00:08:28.040 But this is like a need to be right.
00:08:29.500 It's like...
00:08:30.220 Because you know what the answer is.
00:08:32.400 Obviously, obviously...
00:08:32.580 You just like to argue.
00:08:33.280 According to the stats...
00:08:34.760 I just feel like...
00:08:35.560 No, no.
00:08:36.160 Wait a minute.
00:08:36.440 Each to their own.
00:08:36.880 Wait a minute.
00:08:37.380 One thing.
00:08:37.760 Each to their own.
00:08:38.340 One more thing.
00:08:38.860 One more thing.
00:08:39.480 According to the stats, you're right and I'm wrong.
00:08:43.180 Mm-hmm.
00:08:43.700 But according to my world and my people and my community, we're good.
00:08:47.040 Each to their own.
00:08:47.960 We're good.
00:08:48.840 But...
00:08:49.320 Yeah.
00:08:49.780 We're good on this side.
00:08:50.420 But it's true what you said.
00:08:51.340 Not a lot of women have taught their girls to be wives. 1.00
00:08:54.040 No, that's what I'm saying.
00:08:54.640 Because they haven't come from that background.
00:08:57.100 No, but no, no, no.
00:08:58.240 Let me rephrase that.
00:08:59.220 They've seen the painful reality of those.
00:08:59.520 No, they've been through it because...
00:09:01.680 But why is that your answer?
00:09:03.740 It's a painful reality.
00:09:05.880 Why?
00:09:06.280 Because when I'm saying the women that were not raised to be wives, it's because their 0.97
00:09:12.420 mothers had experienced something else as children.
00:09:16.080 Sorry.
00:09:16.720 And that might be the majority.
00:09:18.340 That's why there's so many women who aren't wives who have to go to wife school. 1.00
00:09:23.480 I think she means that it's a knock-on effect.
00:09:25.880 To say someone's great-grandma went through some sort of trauma, as you mentioned earlier,
00:09:31.340 they're going to pass it down to their daughter.
00:09:33.060 Yeah.
00:09:33.620 They ain't going to teach them how to...
00:09:34.780 Then it goes down to...
00:09:35.680 It's a knock-on effect.
00:09:36.700 What they're saying is generational.
00:09:38.180 You tried to make the...
00:09:39.180 But the difference is people used to go through trauma together.
00:09:45.640 Yeah.
00:09:45.920 Like, I mean, I know a couple that had the...
00:09:48.400 They lost a child.
00:09:50.340 And that's real trauma.
00:09:52.160 That's bad.
00:09:52.460 They lost a child and they stuck it out and they figured out a way to make it work and
00:09:56.380 they ended up having more kids.
00:09:57.640 But that ruins most relationships.
00:09:59.020 That's real trauma.
00:10:00.140 Nowadays, women's trauma is just not being happy, having to listen to their husband.
00:10:04.080 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on
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