JustPearlyThings - August 03, 2023


Modern Woman DISGRACES Herself With This Statement

Topics
moving to goalpost thing
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Eddie Murphy Tucker King
The TRUTH On Why Men End RELATIONSHIPS Pearl Puts EVERYBODY On The Spot With This Question

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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

225.48

Word count

2,139

Sentence count

204

Harmful content

Misogyny

29

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Toxicity

23

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Hate speech

23

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the difference between being a feminine woman and a masculine woman, how to be a good woman, and how a good man should be good enough for modern women. We also discuss how to deal with being a bad woman in a relationship.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 You want this, you remember you said earlier, you want this in a woman, right? 0.99
00:00:03.080 You need to be fit, blah, blah, blah.
00:00:04.580 What do you bring?
00:00:05.520 You fit?
00:00:06.260 You go to the gym?
00:00:06.980 Yeah, I do go to the gym, actually.
00:00:08.040 I do go to the gym.
00:00:08.700 I provide.
00:00:09.220 I'm a protector.
00:00:10.020 I'm a leader of my household.
00:00:11.760 And the woman that I want is definitely not an alpha woman. 0.99
00:00:14.700 I want a feminine woman. 1.00
00:00:15.580 We don't talk about feminine women no more because women want to be men. 1.00
00:00:19.380 When's the last time we had a conversation about femininity? 0.97
00:00:21.320 No, because y'all want to be so masculine.
00:00:23.220 I got to be masculine because of this.
00:00:24.740 I got to be masculine because of this.
00:00:26.220 I'm an alpha woman because of this.
00:00:27.520 When are we going to get back to talking about femininity? 0.65
00:00:29.740 Where is y'all stemmed from?
00:00:31.100 Who's y'all?
00:00:31.440 Women. 0.81
00:00:31.780 When are women going to get back to talk about femininity? 1.00
00:00:33.580 Where has that stemmed from?
00:00:34.640 I don't care.
00:00:36.200 This is the thing.
00:00:37.220 Women will always blame our shortcomings on men. 1.00
00:00:41.200 Where does it stem from?
00:00:42.200 Our own decisions.
00:00:43.180 Look at guys.
00:00:43.960 I'm a tomboy.
00:00:44.780 I've always been a tomboy.
00:00:46.340 And I'll say it was because of my decision to play sports from a young age.
00:00:49.860 That was what I cared about.
00:00:51.540 And, you know, I could whine and be like, oh, boo-hoo.
00:00:54.640 But it's like, all right, pick your battles in life.
00:00:57.820 Pick your choices.
00:00:58.560 It is what it is.
00:00:59.940 But, you know, you can always improve.
00:01:02.360 And this is the thing we don't talk about.
00:01:04.020 As women, you cannot help where you start. 1.00
00:01:06.360 You always start in a certain place in life.
00:01:08.120 But we can always improve.
00:01:09.380 And what I cannot stand is women blaming the men instead of just looking at ourselves and 0.99
00:01:14.060 wanting to improve.
00:01:15.240 From, I worked hard in my life to make a living and support for my family.
00:01:20.180 And so do women. 1.00
00:01:20.700 I don't give a f*** about what you had to go do in your life. 0.99
00:01:23.020 I need a feminine woman. 1.00
00:01:23.920 If you can't be that, then you got to kick rocks. 0.99
00:01:25.740 Sometimes a woman can talk her f*** out of a relationship. 1.00
00:01:32.580 You can talk.
00:01:33.340 We do that.
00:01:34.360 Yes.
00:01:34.800 We will talk. 0.98
00:01:35.800 I f***ed out. 0.98
00:01:36.900 I'm going to say something. 0.97
00:01:38.600 And this might ruffle little feathers.
00:01:40.280 I don't think just being a good man is enough to be, to stay in a relationship with them.
00:01:47.580 Oh, that was the best edit.
00:01:49.740 Oh, that was, he was gone too soon, actually.
00:01:53.040 When I say a good man, I mean, like, he's good all, that means all around.
00:01:56.760 That means himself, spiritually, mentally, physically.
00:02:00.680 That's great.
00:02:01.280 Like, he's a good man.
00:02:02.980 That doesn't mean that he's the man for you.
00:02:05.760 Right.
00:02:06.020 And maybe when you're going through these.
00:02:08.420 These are the same women that will cry about being a good woman and not being treated right. 1.00
00:02:13.240 That's the funny thing.
00:02:14.760 It's the same women that will say, oh, being a good man isn't enough. 0.95
00:02:18.940 It's the same women that will say, I can't be a good woman or I can't be too feminine 0.99
00:02:22.480 because I give him all the power and he might abuse me.
00:02:26.620 Motions of getting to know him, you're realizing, okay, he's a great person, but honestly, he 0.94
00:02:32.520 don't, he, I don't f*** with his humor.
00:02:35.340 Like, he could be funny, but he's not funny to me. 0.96
00:02:36.880 And that's why a lot of modern women are getting 40 with, with, with four cats and no f***ing 1.00
00:02:42.100 man, because he's a good, he's a good man, but because he not funny, you gotta, you gotta 0.70
00:02:48.320 throw that out.
00:02:49.580 So, getting to the first topic, is being a good man good enough for modern women today?
00:02:55.340 I think.
00:02:55.620 It depends on what's good enough.
00:02:58.040 Like, what are your terms?
00:02:59.600 What are your expectations?
00:03:00.840 Everybody's standard is different.
00:03:02.160 So, I mean, it's like contextual, what good is in a man, what certain female might want
00:03:06.920 out of a man.
00:03:07.800 I personally think, um, I think, I think you're right.
00:03:10.680 It does depend on the person, but when it comes to her, I think she was shy.
00:03:13.440 I really don't.
00:03:14.660 I, I, I get where she's coming from, where it's like, you know, there's, there's more
00:03:19.300 to it, but it's like, what more should there be?
00:03:21.320 You know, if he's a good person, he takes care of you, he provides, like, what else do you
00:03:24.660 want?
00:03:25.280 You know?
00:03:25.600 I think everyone has different needs.
00:03:26.820 So then, but being, what, I feel like she has to figure out what's a good man for her.
00:03:31.440 Like, what, like she says a good man is not enough.
00:03:33.880 And it's like.
00:03:34.460 This, I think this is another big problem we have in society today.
00:03:37.300 Everyone wants to figure out what a, a word means for them when words have general meanings.
00:03:44.020 You have, you have good thought.
00:03:45.460 You have very insightful, King.
00:03:47.520 That's so true.
00:03:48.860 Yeah.
00:03:49.180 Because it's like, what does that mean to you?
00:03:50.760 But it's not like, what does it mean?
00:03:52.460 Because they literally just said is, is having a good man good enough?
00:03:56.300 Really and truly, if you understand English, there's, what is subjective about that?
00:04:01.280 Oh my gosh.
00:04:02.100 Do you know what I just realized?
00:04:03.240 That's what women do when they don't like the answer they have to give. 1.00
00:04:06.260 When the answer makes them look bad, they say, well, it depends.
00:04:10.220 Because really she, she wanted to say, well, no, if having a good man is not good enough,
00:04:15.200 but then she might have thought, that might sound weird.
00:04:17.620 Yeah.
00:04:17.920 That might sound bad, might make me look somehow.
00:04:20.100 So let's give the long winded answer.
00:04:22.880 What is the, what is enough?
00:04:24.140 Yeah.
00:04:24.400 What is enough for you?
00:04:25.560 Like, what is like, what is he doing that's not enough?
00:04:27.740 If you want something, if you don't want a genuine, like, and I'm not saying that you can't
00:04:32.000 get something genuine out of, you know, another type of relationship, but if you don't 0.93
00:04:35.740 want a genuine, be straightforward, you want fucking money, you want this, you want that, 0.98
00:04:39.140 like, let's keep it a buck fifth for me. 0.98
00:04:40.460 Don't, I don't, I don't know.
00:04:41.960 I feel like personally, she was just rambling on from saying what she really wanted.
00:04:45.340 Yeah.
00:04:45.520 Because she mentioned his humor, but, um, do you feel like, you know, women move the 1.00
00:04:49.400 goalposts when, uh, when it comes to, you know, potentially having a successful relationship
00:04:54.040 as far as wanting more, like, uh, like she, she mentioned, he's a good man.
00:04:58.000 He does everything, but his humor was the only thing that was lacking. 0.99
00:05:01.580 You don't fuck with his humor. 0.95
00:05:02.960 And that just, and that's so super, like, okay. 0.99
00:05:05.160 Even I've dated, I've dated a funny guy before.
00:05:08.720 There's only so long.
00:05:09.780 They'll be funny.
00:05:10.440 You've heard all the jokes after a while.
00:05:12.500 You know what I mean?
00:05:12.900 Like, is that going to be a make or break in a marriage?
00:05:15.560 Funny.
00:05:15.960 I don't know.
00:05:16.740 You know, it's like, you can only be funny for so long.
00:05:19.900 They're all from him.
00:05:20.740 If that's a big thing for her, then she will move the goalpost. 1.00
00:05:24.540 If it's like, whatever, then, you know, she's going to override it.
00:05:27.240 Okay.
00:05:27.360 But then the answer is no, it's not enough.
00:05:29.200 I want a guy that's funny or no, it's not enough.
00:05:31.180 I want a guy that's this.
00:05:32.420 Again, it depends on like, it depends on what she's looking for.
00:05:35.440 Now he got to be Eddie Murphy. 1.00
00:05:37.660 She's not going to shit. 0.99
00:05:38.660 I just want to, I want to stay with Ju, Tucker. 0.99
00:05:41.140 Ju there make a good point, um, about women moving the goalposts, right? 1.00
00:05:44.960 Because oftentimes on the show, we will hear women say, 0.97
00:05:47.740 where are all the good men?
00:05:49.160 Like, there is no good men.
00:05:50.740 So now that y'all found that good man, now it's like,
00:05:53.120 well, he has all of these, he has 98% of what I want.
00:05:56.260 But because he doesn't have that 2%, man, he's just not for me.
00:06:00.200 So you were willing to risk that 2% in hopes to find a man,
00:06:04.220 this 100% man.
00:06:05.480 And realistically, I don't think men,
00:06:07.760 anybody's going to find that 100% person that's compatible with you,
00:06:11.660 you know, men or women, like, you know what I mean?
00:06:13.260 So for you to try to keep holding out to find that,
00:06:16.540 and that's what, that's what I'm finding what's happening a lot with women 1.00
00:06:19.240 is the thing about, I'm not going to settle.
00:06:21.180 Like, you know what I mean?
00:06:21.720 Like, oh, um, I'm going to keep looking for that unicorn
00:06:24.400 or that guy that's ultra compatible with me.
00:06:26.760 And you're going to keep getting older and older.
00:06:28.640 Now your options are not even there no more.
00:06:30.600 Like, you know, now that guy that you did find,
00:06:32.900 he may not even want you like that.
00:06:34.780 You get what I'm saying?
00:06:35.320 And because of, obviously, biology and all these other factors
00:06:38.980 that, you know, these guys that have made enough of themselves
00:06:42.480 as far as, you know, if they are successful and productive in society,
00:06:46.800 they do, they have the options now.
00:06:48.220 Like, you get what I'm saying?
00:06:48.900 So now they have the bulk of options.
00:06:51.180 Now do you fit in their options?
00:06:52.580 Probably not at that point.
00:06:53.740 Like, you know what I mean?
00:06:54.360 So I just, that moving to goalpost thing that Jew was talking about. 1.00
00:06:57.020 I just feel like everyone thinks they have options.
00:06:58.560 That's the problem.
00:06:59.080 Yeah, she's right.
00:06:59.960 That is the problem.
00:07:01.060 But who do you think is more of,
00:07:02.960 who do you think realizes that more, men or women?
00:07:05.120 Both.
00:07:05.720 Hell no.
00:07:06.660 Men are realistic.
00:07:07.860 You get what I'm saying?
00:07:08.720 Of course we want something in return,
00:07:10.760 but we're willing to compromise.
00:07:12.500 And I don't even want to use-
00:07:13.280 That's not true.
00:07:13.920 If you don't find her attractive, are you going to compromise?
00:07:16.660 No, but that's like-
00:07:18.460 Yeah, but the bar for, it's not the same
00:07:20.080 because the bar for men, like, okay,
00:07:22.640 women need to compromise on attraction more than men. 0.99
00:07:25.320 Because men find, it's actually crazy. 0.96
00:07:27.720 If you start asking guys, like, would you,
00:07:30.640 how low they'll go.
00:07:32.140 Now, it might not be on their best day.
00:07:34.560 You know what I mean?
00:07:35.580 But it's actually, I started asking guys this.
00:07:38.240 And it's also kind of crazy.
00:07:40.200 If a girl has, like, one good body part, 1.00
00:07:42.640 guys can overlook so much.
00:07:44.480 Like, there was this girl on the show. 0.52
00:07:45.760 This is, like, a year ago now.
00:07:47.360 This is with my old producer.
00:07:48.880 But I kind of thought this girl was fat. 1.00
00:07:51.660 And he's like, oh, I didn't even notice
00:07:52.900 because she had, like, you know, the goods.
00:07:55.440 You know what I mean?
00:07:55.920 And, and, but what I realized is, like,
00:08:00.740 guys kind of have, like, goggles
00:08:02.260 where it's, like, they can kind of get over
00:08:04.520 certain flaws if they have one thing.
00:08:07.560 Women, it's just not the same. 1.00
00:08:09.200 It's, like, we kind of look for a reason
00:08:11.340 to disqualify a guy.
00:08:13.000 So a guy could have, like, five things
00:08:15.160 that we want, but if he doesn't have the sixth thing,
00:08:17.980 then we disqualify them.
00:08:19.420 So women need to compromise more on looks 1.00
00:08:21.780 because we find 80% of men is ugly,
00:08:24.400 where men find, like, half of women attractive. 0.92
00:08:26.860 And honestly, I think it'd be even higher 0.72
00:08:28.420 if we weren't so fat.
00:08:30.000 Like, imagine, men find half of women attractive 0.92
00:08:32.440 and we're fat.
00:08:33.940 Imagine if we were in shape, okay?
00:08:36.340 So it's, like, we have to compromise
00:08:38.420 more on attraction because we're the pickier sex.
00:08:41.220 We have higher beauty standards,
00:08:42.400 whether we like it or not.
00:08:43.780 So I don't, the reason why I think men compromise 0.99
00:08:46.060 a lot when it comes to looks is because
00:08:48.260 I think a lot of men understand the fact
00:08:49.840 that once you get with a woman,
00:08:51.440 a lot of the time, the looks is gonna change anyways.
00:08:55.500 Because once she's gonna get comfortable,
00:08:57.500 she's probably gonna have kids. 0.99
00:08:59.100 So, like, the look thing, I guess, yeah,
00:09:01.520 it helps to get in the door,
00:09:02.760 but men are more able to compromise
00:09:04.580 because we understand the realities of life.
00:09:06.400 You know what?
00:09:07.020 I actually think one thing that men,
00:09:09.280 see, men aren't, like, attracted to work ethic,
00:09:11.540 but I think, like, even when my brothers were dating,
00:09:14.380 like, one thing I like about the girl 0.50
00:09:16.460 that my older brother's dating
00:09:18.000 is she works really hard
00:09:19.280 because when you think about it,
00:09:20.400 it's, like, if she's gonna stay in shape
00:09:21.780 for a lifetime, that's hard work.
00:09:23.440 So sometimes, like, it's hard, though,
00:09:25.400 because men aren't, like, attracted to that
00:09:26.880 the way women are, but it's, like, a good quality. 1.00