JustPearlyThings - August 03, 2023


Modern Woman DISGRACES Herself With This Statement


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

225.48227

Word Count

2,139

Sentence Count

162


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 You want this, you remember you said earlier, you want this in a woman, right?
00:00:03.080 You need to be fit, blah, blah, blah.
00:00:04.580 What do you bring?
00:00:05.520 You fit?
00:00:06.260 You go to the gym?
00:00:06.980 Yeah, I do go to the gym, actually.
00:00:08.040 I do go to the gym.
00:00:08.700 I provide.
00:00:09.220 I'm a protector.
00:00:10.020 I'm a leader of my household.
00:00:11.760 And the woman that I want is definitely not an alpha woman.
00:00:14.700 I want a feminine woman.
00:00:15.580 We don't talk about feminine women no more because women want to be men.
00:00:19.380 When's the last time we had a conversation about femininity?
00:00:21.320 No, because y'all want to be so masculine.
00:00:23.220 I got to be masculine because of this.
00:00:24.740 I got to be masculine because of this.
00:00:26.220 I'm an alpha woman because of this.
00:00:27.520 When are we going to get back to talking about femininity?
00:00:29.740 Where is y'all stemmed from?
00:00:31.100 Who's y'all?
00:00:31.440 Women.
00:00:31.780 When are women going to get back to talk about femininity?
00:00:33.580 Where has that stemmed from?
00:00:34.640 I don't care.
00:00:36.200 This is the thing.
00:00:37.220 Women will always blame our shortcomings on men.
00:00:41.200 Where does it stem from?
00:00:42.200 Our own decisions.
00:00:43.180 Look at guys.
00:00:43.960 I'm a tomboy.
00:00:44.780 I've always been a tomboy.
00:00:46.340 And I'll say it was because of my decision to play sports from a young age.
00:00:49.860 That was what I cared about.
00:00:51.540 And, you know, I could whine and be like, oh, boo-hoo.
00:00:54.640 But it's like, all right, pick your battles in life.
00:00:57.820 Pick your choices.
00:00:58.560 It is what it is.
00:00:59.940 But, you know, you can always improve.
00:01:02.360 And this is the thing we don't talk about.
00:01:04.020 As women, you cannot help where you start.
00:01:06.360 You always start in a certain place in life.
00:01:08.120 But we can always improve.
00:01:09.380 And what I cannot stand is women blaming the men instead of just looking at ourselves and
00:01:14.060 wanting to improve.
00:01:15.240 From, I worked hard in my life to make a living and support for my family.
00:01:20.180 And so do women.
00:01:20.700 I don't give a f*** about what you had to go do in your life.
00:01:23.020 I need a feminine woman.
00:01:23.920 If you can't be that, then you got to kick rocks.
00:01:25.740 Sometimes a woman can talk her f*** out of a relationship.
00:01:32.580 You can talk.
00:01:33.340 We do that.
00:01:34.360 Yes.
00:01:34.800 We will talk.
00:01:35.800 I f***ed out.
00:01:36.900 I'm going to say something.
00:01:38.600 And this might ruffle little feathers.
00:01:40.280 I don't think just being a good man is enough to be, to stay in a relationship with them.
00:01:47.580 Oh, that was the best edit.
00:01:49.740 Oh, that was, he was gone too soon, actually.
00:01:53.040 When I say a good man, I mean, like, he's good all, that means all around.
00:01:56.760 That means himself, spiritually, mentally, physically.
00:02:00.680 That's great.
00:02:01.280 Like, he's a good man.
00:02:02.980 That doesn't mean that he's the man for you.
00:02:05.760 Right.
00:02:06.020 And maybe when you're going through these.
00:02:08.420 These are the same women that will cry about being a good woman and not being treated right.
00:02:13.240 That's the funny thing.
00:02:14.760 It's the same women that will say, oh, being a good man isn't enough.
00:02:18.940 It's the same women that will say, I can't be a good woman or I can't be too feminine
00:02:22.480 because I give him all the power and he might abuse me.
00:02:26.620 Motions of getting to know him, you're realizing, okay, he's a great person, but honestly, he
00:02:32.520 don't, he, I don't f*** with his humor.
00:02:35.340 Like, he could be funny, but he's not funny to me.
00:02:36.880 And that's why a lot of modern women are getting 40 with, with, with four cats and no f***ing
00:02:42.100 man, because he's a good, he's a good man, but because he not funny, you gotta, you gotta
00:02:48.320 throw that out.
00:02:49.580 So, getting to the first topic, is being a good man good enough for modern women today?
00:02:55.340 I think.
00:02:55.620 It depends on what's good enough.
00:02:58.040 Like, what are your terms?
00:02:59.600 What are your expectations?
00:03:00.840 Everybody's standard is different.
00:03:02.160 So, I mean, it's like contextual, what good is in a man, what certain female might want
00:03:06.920 out of a man.
00:03:07.800 I personally think, um, I think, I think you're right.
00:03:10.680 It does depend on the person, but when it comes to her, I think she was shy.
00:03:13.440 I really don't.
00:03:14.660 I, I, I get where she's coming from, where it's like, you know, there's, there's more
00:03:19.300 to it, but it's like, what more should there be?
00:03:21.320 You know, if he's a good person, he takes care of you, he provides, like, what else do you
00:03:24.660 want?
00:03:25.280 You know?
00:03:25.600 I think everyone has different needs.
00:03:26.820 So then, but being, what, I feel like she has to figure out what's a good man for her.
00:03:31.440 Like, what, like she says a good man is not enough.
00:03:33.880 And it's like.
00:03:34.460 This, I think this is another big problem we have in society today.
00:03:37.300 Everyone wants to figure out what a, a word means for them when words have general meanings.
00:03:44.020 You have, you have good thought.
00:03:45.460 You have very insightful, King.
00:03:47.520 That's so true.
00:03:48.860 Yeah.
00:03:49.180 Because it's like, what does that mean to you?
00:03:50.760 But it's not like, what does it mean?
00:03:52.460 Because they literally just said is, is having a good man good enough?
00:03:56.300 Really and truly, if you understand English, there's, what is subjective about that?
00:04:01.280 Oh my gosh.
00:04:02.100 Do you know what I just realized?
00:04:03.240 That's what women do when they don't like the answer they have to give.
00:04:06.260 When the answer makes them look bad, they say, well, it depends.
00:04:10.220 Because really she, she wanted to say, well, no, if having a good man is not good enough,
00:04:15.200 but then she might have thought, that might sound weird.
00:04:17.620 Yeah.
00:04:17.920 That might sound bad, might make me look somehow.
00:04:20.100 So let's give the long winded answer.
00:04:22.880 What is the, what is enough?
00:04:24.140 Yeah.
00:04:24.400 What is enough for you?
00:04:25.560 Like, what is like, what is he doing that's not enough?
00:04:27.740 If you want something, if you don't want a genuine, like, and I'm not saying that you can't
00:04:32.000 get something genuine out of, you know, another type of relationship, but if you don't
00:04:35.740 want a genuine, be straightforward, you want fucking money, you want this, you want that,
00:04:39.140 like, let's keep it a buck fifth for me.
00:04:40.460 Don't, I don't, I don't know.
00:04:41.960 I feel like personally, she was just rambling on from saying what she really wanted.
00:04:45.340 Yeah.
00:04:45.520 Because she mentioned his humor, but, um, do you feel like, you know, women move the
00:04:49.400 goalposts when, uh, when it comes to, you know, potentially having a successful relationship
00:04:54.040 as far as wanting more, like, uh, like she, she mentioned, he's a good man.
00:04:58.000 He does everything, but his humor was the only thing that was lacking.
00:05:01.580 You don't fuck with his humor.
00:05:02.960 And that just, and that's so super, like, okay.
00:05:05.160 Even I've dated, I've dated a funny guy before.
00:05:08.720 There's only so long.
00:05:09.780 They'll be funny.
00:05:10.440 You've heard all the jokes after a while.
00:05:12.500 You know what I mean?
00:05:12.900 Like, is that going to be a make or break in a marriage?
00:05:15.560 Funny.
00:05:15.960 I don't know.
00:05:16.740 You know, it's like, you can only be funny for so long.
00:05:19.900 They're all from him.
00:05:20.740 If that's a big thing for her, then she will move the goalpost.
00:05:24.540 If it's like, whatever, then, you know, she's going to override it.
00:05:27.240 Okay.
00:05:27.360 But then the answer is no, it's not enough.
00:05:29.200 I want a guy that's funny or no, it's not enough.
00:05:31.180 I want a guy that's this.
00:05:32.420 Again, it depends on like, it depends on what she's looking for.
00:05:35.440 Now he got to be Eddie Murphy.
00:05:37.660 She's not going to shit.
00:05:38.660 I just want to, I want to stay with Ju, Tucker.
00:05:41.140 Ju there make a good point, um, about women moving the goalposts, right?
00:05:44.960 Because oftentimes on the show, we will hear women say,
00:05:47.740 where are all the good men?
00:05:49.160 Like, there is no good men.
00:05:50.740 So now that y'all found that good man, now it's like,
00:05:53.120 well, he has all of these, he has 98% of what I want.
00:05:56.260 But because he doesn't have that 2%, man, he's just not for me.
00:06:00.200 So you were willing to risk that 2% in hopes to find a man,
00:06:04.220 this 100% man.
00:06:05.480 And realistically, I don't think men,
00:06:07.760 anybody's going to find that 100% person that's compatible with you,
00:06:11.660 you know, men or women, like, you know what I mean?
00:06:13.260 So for you to try to keep holding out to find that,
00:06:16.540 and that's what, that's what I'm finding what's happening a lot with women
00:06:19.240 is the thing about, I'm not going to settle.
00:06:21.180 Like, you know what I mean?
00:06:21.720 Like, oh, um, I'm going to keep looking for that unicorn
00:06:24.400 or that guy that's ultra compatible with me.
00:06:26.760 And you're going to keep getting older and older.
00:06:28.640 Now your options are not even there no more.
00:06:30.600 Like, you know, now that guy that you did find,
00:06:32.900 he may not even want you like that.
00:06:34.780 You get what I'm saying?
00:06:35.320 And because of, obviously, biology and all these other factors
00:06:38.980 that, you know, these guys that have made enough of themselves
00:06:42.480 as far as, you know, if they are successful and productive in society,
00:06:46.800 they do, they have the options now.
00:06:48.220 Like, you get what I'm saying?
00:06:48.900 So now they have the bulk of options.
00:06:51.180 Now do you fit in their options?
00:06:52.580 Probably not at that point.
00:06:53.740 Like, you know what I mean?
00:06:54.360 So I just, that moving to goalpost thing that Jew was talking about.
00:06:57.020 I just feel like everyone thinks they have options.
00:06:58.560 That's the problem.
00:06:59.080 Yeah, she's right.
00:06:59.960 That is the problem.
00:07:01.060 But who do you think is more of,
00:07:02.960 who do you think realizes that more, men or women?
00:07:05.120 Both.
00:07:05.720 Hell no.
00:07:06.660 Men are realistic.
00:07:07.860 You get what I'm saying?
00:07:08.720 Of course we want something in return,
00:07:10.760 but we're willing to compromise.
00:07:12.500 And I don't even want to use-
00:07:13.280 That's not true.
00:07:13.920 If you don't find her attractive, are you going to compromise?
00:07:16.660 No, but that's like-
00:07:18.460 Yeah, but the bar for, it's not the same
00:07:20.080 because the bar for men, like, okay,
00:07:22.640 women need to compromise on attraction more than men.
00:07:25.320 Because men find, it's actually crazy.
00:07:27.720 If you start asking guys, like, would you,
00:07:30.640 how low they'll go.
00:07:32.140 Now, it might not be on their best day.
00:07:34.560 You know what I mean?
00:07:35.580 But it's actually, I started asking guys this.
00:07:38.240 And it's also kind of crazy.
00:07:40.200 If a girl has, like, one good body part,
00:07:42.640 guys can overlook so much.
00:07:44.480 Like, there was this girl on the show.
00:07:45.760 This is, like, a year ago now.
00:07:47.360 This is with my old producer.
00:07:48.880 But I kind of thought this girl was fat.
00:07:51.660 And he's like, oh, I didn't even notice
00:07:52.900 because she had, like, you know, the goods.
00:07:55.440 You know what I mean?
00:07:55.920 And, and, but what I realized is, like,
00:08:00.740 guys kind of have, like, goggles
00:08:02.260 where it's, like, they can kind of get over
00:08:04.520 certain flaws if they have one thing.
00:08:07.560 Women, it's just not the same.
00:08:09.200 It's, like, we kind of look for a reason
00:08:11.340 to disqualify a guy.
00:08:13.000 So a guy could have, like, five things
00:08:15.160 that we want, but if he doesn't have the sixth thing,
00:08:17.980 then we disqualify them.
00:08:19.420 So women need to compromise more on looks
00:08:21.780 because we find 80% of men is ugly,
00:08:24.400 where men find, like, half of women attractive.
00:08:26.860 And honestly, I think it'd be even higher
00:08:28.420 if we weren't so fat.
00:08:30.000 Like, imagine, men find half of women attractive
00:08:32.440 and we're fat.
00:08:33.940 Imagine if we were in shape, okay?
00:08:36.340 So it's, like, we have to compromise
00:08:38.420 more on attraction because we're the pickier sex.
00:08:41.220 We have higher beauty standards,
00:08:42.400 whether we like it or not.
00:08:43.780 So I don't, the reason why I think men compromise
00:08:46.060 a lot when it comes to looks is because
00:08:48.260 I think a lot of men understand the fact
00:08:49.840 that once you get with a woman,
00:08:51.440 a lot of the time, the looks is gonna change anyways.
00:08:55.500 Because once she's gonna get comfortable,
00:08:57.500 she's probably gonna have kids.
00:08:59.100 So, like, the look thing, I guess, yeah,
00:09:01.520 it helps to get in the door,
00:09:02.760 but men are more able to compromise
00:09:04.580 because we understand the realities of life.
00:09:06.400 You know what?
00:09:07.020 I actually think one thing that men,
00:09:09.280 see, men aren't, like, attracted to work ethic,
00:09:11.540 but I think, like, even when my brothers were dating,
00:09:14.380 like, one thing I like about the girl
00:09:16.460 that my older brother's dating
00:09:18.000 is she works really hard
00:09:19.280 because when you think about it,
00:09:20.400 it's, like, if she's gonna stay in shape
00:09:21.780 for a lifetime, that's hard work.
00:09:23.440 So sometimes, like, it's hard, though,
00:09:25.400 because men aren't, like, attracted to that
00:09:26.880 the way women are, but it's, like, a good quality.