JustPearlyThings - August 26, 2023


Modern Woman Gets A Taste Of Male Life


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Length

6 minutes

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200.87637

Word count

1,360

Sentence count

12

Harmful content

Misogyny

7

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Hate speech

6

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In this episode, we talk about chasing men and how to get the attention of a man you like. We also discuss the dangers of chasing a guy in front of your friends and how we should have pursued a guy when we were younger.

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00:00:00.000 Now there was a video that came up. I did cover it on Pearl Daily this week that got me thinking about this
00:00:05.540 And I'm gonna get to that but first I want to know what is the furthest you ladies have gone 1.00
00:00:11.580 To get the attention of a guy
00:00:16.440 Yeah, have you ever like pursued a guy like really liked him?
00:00:20.160 I actually prefer a guy to pursue me, but if I have to see the guy
00:00:26.120 I've actually gone into a club and
00:00:28.120 Approach the guy
00:00:30.720 In front of my friends. Okay. Yeah, I mean that's kind of the furthest I think I've gone
00:00:35.320 In terms of pursuing a guy. Okay. I like to be pursued. Okay. Have you ever like gone somewhere because you knew a guy you liked was gonna be there?
00:00:43.240 Okay, okay, okay, so
00:00:45.240 No, we've all done that. Yeah, so that's what I'm wondering like it when you actually liked a guy maybe talked to him a bit
00:00:50.880 Was there did you ever like simp have you ever simped really hard for a guy?
00:00:54.400 Okay, of course
00:00:56.400 Yeah, I mean that's true
00:00:57.000 Women are gonna admit that though, are they? 1.00
00:00:59.000 I'm gonna admit I have yes
00:01:00.280 Yeah, I mean who has it?
00:01:01.320 Come on
00:01:01.720 Yeah, exactly
00:01:02.840 It's all right, it's all right
00:01:04.200 But we like to play it cool, right? We like to ladies like to even though half the time we'd be the ones chasing 1.00
00:01:09.720 We like to be chased, you know, okay
00:01:12.040 Do you do you think we actually like to be chased if we always seem to pick the ones that don't pick us?
00:01:17.240 Yeah, that's the thing. I feel like
00:01:18.680 We always just naturally go for the ones that are just hard to get like and we know that they're players and out of our league
00:01:27.160 What about that? But yeah, I mean if they were in our league they would like us, right?
00:01:32.920 And then you wouldn't and then you wouldn't like them
00:01:34.680 Yeah, exactly. It's yeah
00:01:36.680 It's a cruel world. It is
00:01:38.680 Terrible
00:01:41.480 But what did you do for the guy? Like how did you simp?
00:01:44.760 I mean, this was I mean, I'm talking years back
00:01:47.560 It's all right, it's okay
00:01:48.520 I was like
00:01:48.920 It was yesterday
00:01:49.560 I was in a club
00:01:50.280 I mean
00:01:51.240 No, no, this is years back
00:01:53.080 In a club and I actually ended up marrying the guy, believe it or not
00:01:56.360 Oh wow
00:01:56.840 So yeah, I was in the club and um
00:01:59.800 Those in those days it wasn't like
00:02:02.440 It wasn't normal for girls to really got to guys, but I was kind of like drunk and I was like
00:02:07.000 I'm going for this guy and I grabbed him like
00:02:09.640 Like how a guy grabs a girl
00:02:11.800 That is so brave
00:02:13.160 Yeah, and that was in front of his friends, my friends
00:02:16.200 And then you guys got married
00:02:17.400 Got married
00:02:18.040 Like years, years
00:02:18.760 How how how long were you married? Are you still married?
00:02:21.240 No
00:02:22.520 No, we're divorced
00:02:23.880 How how long were you together?
00:02:26.120 19 years
00:02:27.960 What happened?
00:02:29.160 What happened?
00:02:30.360 Life
00:02:31.560 What do you mean life?
00:02:32.520 I don't know
00:02:33.880 Um, we were young
00:02:35.560 Very young
00:02:36.120 I never okay
00:02:36.760 I never grew up
00:02:37.720 I never understand when women like say this like okay 1.00
00:02:40.840 Yeah
00:02:41.240 Because it's like you're young and then you're old
00:02:42.920 Like what what switched?
00:02:45.080 I think when you're young
00:02:46.680 You have different expectations
00:02:48.920 You view life different
00:02:51.240 You like different things
00:02:52.520 Then you grow older
00:02:53.880 You grow into yourself
00:02:54.840 You start to know yourself
00:02:56.280 Okay
00:02:56.600 Um
00:02:57.640 And so sometimes you realize that
00:03:00.600 It's more headache than what it's worth
00:03:02.840 Okay, so
00:03:04.440 See I still I still don't understand what this means
00:03:06.440 I don't get it
00:03:06.840 I mean
00:03:07.320 And it's not just you
00:03:08.280 I've had so many girls say the same thing to me on the show 1.00
00:03:11.720 And I just genuinely like like he got into different hobbies
00:03:14.680 You could say that
00:03:17.800 Because I know they're always like we got into different things
00:03:19.960 That could be a way of saying it
00:03:21.000 No, they're like we got into different
00:03:22.040 Different women 0.97
00:03:22.840 Different women 0.97
00:03:23.720 I'm like
00:03:24.200 I'm like you got into different things
00:03:25.800 Like what are the things?
00:03:29.000 Um
00:03:29.880 Like what you don't want to say are you nervous?
00:03:31.800 Yeah, I don't
00:03:32.360 You know what
00:03:32.760 It's all right
00:03:33.080 I'm gonna say
00:03:33.800 But I don't want to say because it's like
00:03:36.040 Yeah
00:03:36.520 You know
00:03:36.760 You don't want to
00:03:37.240 You don't want to embarrass him
00:03:38.200 I don't want to embarrass him
00:03:39.160 That's fair
00:03:40.120 You know
00:03:40.680 Yeah
00:03:41.000 You're still here
00:03:41.720 Are you a healer?
00:03:43.000 Are you healing?
00:03:43.720 Yeah, I'm healed
00:03:44.280 You're healed
00:03:44.920 I'm like
00:03:45.960 Okay, what steps did you take to heal?
00:03:49.640 I think I kind of just
00:03:51.880 Put myself first
00:03:53.320 And just went for my dreams
00:03:55.560 And done the things that I should have been doing when I was younger
00:03:58.040 Okay, I have a question
00:03:59.320 Because this doesn't compute to me
00:04:01.960 When it's like I put myself first
00:04:04.520 How does that help like build families?
00:04:07.160 Because isn't it in a family we should put the family first
00:04:09.640 Yeah, the family first
00:04:10.680 I mean when I say first
00:04:12.520 I do have two children
00:04:13.640 Right
00:04:14.120 They always come first 1.00
00:04:15.160 Okay
00:04:15.960 So you put yourself second
00:04:17.320 I know
00:04:17.640 Actually I put myself
00:04:18.600 God first 0.89
00:04:19.160 My children
00:04:20.200 Okay
00:04:20.600 And then yeah
00:04:21.720 So um
00:04:23.320 I think it's in terms of just
00:04:25.480 Knowing myself
00:04:26.360 Growing into myself
00:04:27.400 Knowing what I like
00:04:28.120 And what I don't like
00:04:29.160 And
00:04:30.840 Being confident
00:04:31.640 Because I wasn't confident when I was younger
00:04:33.080 Okay
00:04:33.640 Yes, I wasn't really confident
00:04:35.000 And I didn't really know myself much
00:04:37.480 Okay
00:04:37.880 And didn't have a lot of um
00:04:42.440 Uh what's the word
00:04:43.320 Focus
00:04:44.200 And
00:04:45.240 Didn't have a
00:04:46.040 Had ambition but didn't know what I wanted to do
00:04:48.680 Okay
00:04:49.000 You know
00:04:49.640 So I just thought
00:04:50.520 The way forward is to get married
00:04:51.880 Have kids
00:04:52.840 And that was it
00:04:53.480 And I was like
00:04:53.960 This can't be just life
00:04:55.400 Just getting married and having kids
00:04:56.600 This just can't be it
00:04:57.400 It just sounds like you had it made
00:04:59.160 You were
00:04:59.560 I mean I still have it made
00:05:01.960 Yeah
00:05:02.200 And I always will
00:05:02.840 It's living and learning
00:05:04.360 So
00:05:04.680 It's going through experiences
00:05:06.200 And learning yourself
00:05:07.160 Learning life
00:05:08.040 And I don't regret nothing
00:05:09.720 Like I don't regret having kids
00:05:11.000 I don't regret getting married
00:05:12.040 Okay
00:05:12.600 So
00:05:13.000 Yeah
00:05:13.440 I'll do it again
00:05:14.080 Okay
00:05:14.760 Good
00:05:15.560 Good
00:05:16.080 Glad
00:05:16.520 All right
00:05:17.240 Hardest you've simped for a guy
00:05:18.840 And did it
00:05:19.540 Did it end in marriage
00:05:20.720 She got
00:05:21.760 She got 19 years out of that
00:05:23.280 That's a lot on me
00:05:24.920 To be fair
00:05:25.600 Can you one up that or no
00:05:27.700 I can't
00:05:29.700 Now you can kind of guess my age now
00:05:31.180 Right
00:05:31.460 I think the most that I did
00:05:36.580 It's so embarrassing
00:05:38.540 But it's actually something
00:05:39.420 I actually need to speak about
00:05:40.620 So
00:05:41.300 I think the most that I did was
00:05:42.700 I really liked this guy
00:05:43.940 He was so sweet
00:05:44.980 I made a private Snapchat for him
00:05:46.980 Showing him the good sides of me
00:05:48.760 Because he wowed me
00:05:50.380 Like
00:05:50.640 We had a date
00:05:51.440 He really wowed me
00:05:52.700 Like
00:05:52.980 It was so nice
00:05:54.180 And then
00:05:55.180 I made him a private Snapchat
00:05:56.420 And he didn't view it
00:05:58.220 Or anything
00:05:58.600 So I just ended up
00:05:59.660 Self-sabotaging the whole thing
00:06:01.120 I just self-sabotaged
00:06:02.620 The whole thing
00:06:03.420 Because I was just like
00:06:04.460 There's just no point of me
00:06:06.340 Putting myself out there
00:06:07.560 Making a private Snapchat for you
00:06:09.880 And
00:06:10.880 Were you sending him like
00:06:12.740 Like
00:06:12.940 Like pictures like that
00:06:14.500 Oh yes
00:06:15.060 I was even sending him pictures
00:06:16.000 Of me and my cat
00:06:16.900 And everything
00:06:17.420 Because he said he liked my cat
00:06:18.840 So
00:06:19.240 Hold on
00:06:19.800 What type of cat
00:06:20.480 The pet cat
00:06:21.300 Okay okay
00:06:23.740 So
00:06:24.120 So you made him a Snapchat
00:06:25.860 To like
00:06:26.560 View your stories
00:06:27.820 But he didn't watch
00:06:28.880 He didn't watch any of it
00:06:30.260 And then
00:06:30.640 I kind of just clapped
00:06:31.660 That basically
00:06:32.400 He was just playing me
00:06:33.940 Like
00:06:34.360 It was kind of sad
00:06:35.380 To be fair
00:06:36.000 Okay
00:06:36.660 So
00:06:38.700 The hardest you've simped
00:06:39.860 Is made a Snapchat
00:06:40.940 For a guy
00:06:41.560 Yeah
00:06:41.580 Okay
00:06:42.600 So
00:06:43.040 We got
00:06:43.460 Approaching him in a club
00:06:44.900 And making a Snapchat
00:06:45.980 Yeah