JustPearlyThings - November 02, 2023


Modern Woman Gets A TOUGH REALITY CHECK


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Length

8 minutes

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196.98045

Word count

1,757

Sentence count

177

Harmful content

Misogyny

31

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Toxicity

46

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Hate speech

26

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Summary

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On today's episode, we have a special guest on the show, Pearl Rose. Pearl is a standup comedian, writer, and all-around badass. She's been in the entertainment industry for a long time and has been around the block in her career. She has been married to her long-term partner, Troy, for almost 10 years and they have 2 kids together. We talk about monogamy, cheating, and why men are not naturally monogamous.

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00:00:00.000 If you were with a woman, would you say to her up front, 0.95
00:00:02.740 listen, I'm not always going to be a monogamous,
00:00:04.100 or would you get into a monogamous relationship? 0.71
00:00:06.060 I've never in my life, I've been in two long terms.
00:00:08.600 The easiest thing on earth is to not cheat.
00:00:11.760 You just play Xbox at home, bro.
00:00:14.180 The easiest thing on earth.
00:00:16.020 Bro, I don't know how people think cheating is like a thing. 0.99
00:00:19.120 If you're cheating on your girl, she's ugly. 1.00
00:00:22.380 That's the truth. 0.93
00:00:22.740 Zirka, Zirka, Zirka.
00:00:24.060 After two years, I'll stare at my girlfriend and be like,
00:00:27.060 yo, she's so hot. 1.00
00:00:27.940 But again, if she's ugly, maybe you cheat. 0.98
00:00:31.540 I don't know.
00:00:32.040 No, but there are dudes who come on these podcasts,
00:00:34.280 like I've heard even the Tates were talking about this stuff,
00:00:36.600 whereby they would say, well, look, men are not naturally monogamous.
00:00:39.980 So therefore-
00:00:40.220 Yeah, but look at it.
00:00:41.520 Some men, some men.
00:00:42.860 Let's go by the-
00:00:43.760 All right, you want to go by the natural argument, 0.99
00:00:45.760 Andrew Tate's dumbass argument? 1.00
00:00:47.280 It's natural to rape. 1.00
00:00:50.080 It's natural to kill. 1.00
00:00:51.360 It's natural for me to strangle her and bring her to my house. 0.99
00:00:54.120 If you go by a natural argument, 1.00
00:00:55.540 I can start killing all the handicapped wheelchair people 1.00
00:00:59.000 because they're not contributing. 1.00
00:01:00.520 Natural argument is horrible.
00:01:01.980 That's why we go back to the Bible.
00:01:03.240 Every time-
00:01:04.640 I would argue men are naturally benevolent towards women.
00:01:07.600 Yes.
00:01:08.060 I would argue because if they wanted to,
00:01:10.260 all of the men could get together 1.00
00:01:11.700 and put us in cages and make us sex slaves. 1.00
00:01:14.500 And instead of doing that, 0.94
00:01:15.720 they gave us all of the rights that we wanted.
00:01:18.180 They're just doing it to children instead.
00:01:20.720 Who?
00:01:21.380 The sex trafficking.
00:01:22.480 What are you talking about?
00:01:23.080 They are putting children and women into kingdom. 0.72
00:01:25.080 Is that-
00:01:25.380 Okay, is that the majority of men?
00:01:27.160 No, listen.
00:01:27.900 Majority of men is what you see in Walmart.
00:01:30.920 That's the majority of men.
00:01:31.920 And do you know why men are better than women? 1.00
00:01:34.320 The emotional ones are already in prison,
00:01:36.300 but emotional women don't get locked up. 1.00
00:01:38.480 So there's a lot of crazy bitches out there. 1.00
00:01:41.020 Like when you see a dude at Walmart, 0.99
00:01:42.780 he's just a stand-up dude, right?
00:01:44.740 I see like, respectfully,
00:01:46.940 a generational brainwashing. 1.00
00:01:49.280 Damn, yes, destroy her. 1.00
00:01:51.420 I was raised in a time- 1.00
00:01:53.120 She's going to make it easier for me to date you. 1.00
00:01:55.260 The program, CNN, fake news.
00:01:57.620 I was raised in a time where we were not taught to hate men.
00:02:01.120 Men were, you know, the patriarchy,
00:02:03.420 were our protectors, our providers,
00:02:05.660 our fathers, our brothers, our cousins, our friends.
00:02:08.600 Yes, young women today are taught that you can't get ahead 0.76
00:02:12.000 because men are holding you down.
00:02:14.800 Men are holding you back.
00:02:16.300 And everything you have just said,
00:02:18.520 I'm listening very, very intently,
00:02:21.440 and everything you have just said was,
00:02:24.460 everything was men's fault. 0.95
00:02:26.000 In the face of a hundred valid statistics from Pearl,
00:02:31.100 you still said, but the men.
00:02:34.180 And even here, we're talking about, you know,
00:02:37.360 just now you said, well, it's the men putting the women
00:02:40.080 and the children in the cages.
00:02:41.540 You're talking about deviance, like a small group.
00:02:44.700 It's this automatic indoctrination
00:02:48.560 that has happened to you
00:02:50.440 where you automatically jump to,
00:02:51.960 it's the man's fault. 0.98
00:02:53.020 And that is so fucking troubling. 0.98
00:02:55.740 Such an American statement. 0.99
00:02:57.280 No, I've been saying this whole time
00:02:58.920 that men should be leaders,
00:03:00.320 and I'm not blaming men at all.
00:03:02.060 I'm blaming both.
00:03:02.980 I'm blaming the family unit.
00:03:04.400 I'm blaming, this is not generational,
00:03:06.460 whatever you're saying, brainwashing.
00:03:08.000 This is me saying togetherness.
00:03:09.580 This is yin and yang, man and female work together. 0.69
00:03:12.160 I have a question, I have a question.
00:03:12.820 There's blame on both?
00:03:13.960 I have a question, I have a question.
00:03:15.900 Okay.
00:03:16.760 So me, I'm out here, me and Troy,
00:03:18.780 we get married, whatever.
00:03:20.240 And I say, now we're together 10 years,
00:03:22.820 and I say, two kids, and I say,
00:03:25.280 sorry, Troy, gotta go.
00:03:27.500 Yeah, yeah, okay.
00:03:28.500 Now I say, sorry.
00:03:30.280 Sorry, we're just, you're here today.
00:03:33.640 So now, now I say, I say, sorry, Troy, I gotta bounce.
00:03:39.360 What is he supposed to do?
00:03:41.120 No, no, no, no, but I'm asking you,
00:03:43.000 what did he do wrong leadership-wise?
00:03:45.840 If I say, Troy, sorry, I watched Eat, Pray, Love last week,
00:03:49.940 I gotta go.
00:03:50.660 I think that's not what's going on in household.
00:03:53.340 How could you lead this situation?
00:03:54.540 No, exactly.
00:03:55.640 People's stresses and struggles and problems
00:03:57.760 are not Eat, Pray, Love.
00:03:59.340 They're actual problems.
00:04:00.660 People are going through things.
00:04:01.720 Why do women divorce when they win the lottery? 1.00
00:04:06.260 Why do women divorce when they win the lottery? 1.00
00:04:08.880 Why do women divorce when they win the lottery? 1.00
00:04:13.140 No, I'm giving you, answer my question.
00:04:16.320 Why do women divorce when they win the lottery? 1.00
00:04:18.480 Why do women divorce when they get a promotion at work? 1.00
00:04:20.860 Why?
00:04:21.400 Because they clearly didn't want to be with him.
00:04:23.940 Exactly, and that's the point,
00:04:25.600 because women care more about what they want 1.00
00:04:27.700 than the actual family,
00:04:29.080 and there's nothing that a man-
00:04:30.900 If women are emotional, this is logic. 1.00
00:04:32.200 You're now saying women are acting with logic? 1.00
00:04:36.000 No, women are emotional. 1.00
00:04:38.160 That's not what I'm saying at all.
00:04:39.460 If they win the lottery and then they leave,
00:04:41.220 that's a logical move.
00:04:42.600 That's not an emotional-
00:04:43.880 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:04:45.700 No, how is it?
00:04:46.660 No, no, no, I want you to explain that.
00:04:47.600 Because you're just saying she doesn't need the man
00:04:49.380 because she has money and she doesn't need him.
00:04:50.820 So there's no emotional behind that.
00:04:52.240 Okay, so let me get this straight.
00:04:53.680 He clearly didn't love men.
00:04:54.620 Okay, okay, so it's logical to put your kid
00:04:58.620 in a situation where they're more likely
00:05:00.900 to be in a mental institution,
00:05:03.320 more likely to run away from home, 0.97
00:05:05.920 more likely to be a rapist,
00:05:07.940 and more likely to be a criminal. 0.99
00:05:09.700 That's logical.
00:05:10.700 I think that's now selfishness.
00:05:12.780 What, what?
00:05:14.200 That's now selfishness.
00:05:15.520 And that is the point. 1.00
00:05:17.680 Women are selfish. 1.00
00:05:18.080 Men cannot do any, 1.00
00:05:20.080 men cannot do anything
00:05:21.660 to lead selfish women 1.00
00:05:23.620 that do not want to be led.
00:05:25.280 But we're only talking about women leaving men.
00:05:27.480 Men leave women. 0.98
00:05:27.920 Because the majority of the time women leave. 1.00
00:05:31.020 Can I ask a question?
00:05:31.800 Do you think it's fair to say that women, 1.00
00:05:34.580 and also maybe men,
00:05:35.340 but women are less keen 1.00
00:05:37.280 to work through difficult times now
00:05:39.480 than perhaps they were in the past?
00:05:41.760 She's an American.
00:05:42.520 She doesn't know what keen means.
00:05:43.960 All right, they're not enthusiastic.
00:05:45.520 They're not willing to work through.
00:05:47.380 Because relationships have ups and downs, right?
00:05:49.260 So it's good at the beginning,
00:05:50.240 then it dips a bit,
00:05:51.200 then maybe it gets a bit better, whatever.
00:05:52.720 You go through tough times,
00:05:53.580 say he loses his job, whatever.
00:05:54.960 Do you think it's fair to say
00:05:56.140 that today women are less likely
00:05:57.920 to tolerate the low points?
00:05:59.540 She would divorce me over Ikea furniture, bro. 1.00
00:06:02.660 They can't do shit. 0.99
00:06:04.200 That's not true at all. 0.99
00:06:05.620 That's his point,
00:06:06.820 that women are more vulnerable.
00:06:08.600 He's right, you're wrong.
00:06:10.240 You have nothing to jump.
00:06:11.040 I would 100% stay in my marriage
00:06:12.960 and work through my marriage.
00:06:13.840 That's the whole point of building and growing.
00:06:15.520 But guess who else has said that?
00:06:16.960 Every woman on earth said what you said.
00:06:19.160 Oh, I'll stay.
00:06:19.940 I'll work through it.
00:06:20.740 But the studies are not on your side. 0.99
00:06:23.400 You're evil. 0.84
00:06:24.660 You're pure. 0.97
00:06:25.080 Well, I mean, I guess, yeah,
00:06:26.220 I haven't met these women. 1.00
00:06:27.240 I want to know.
00:06:28.280 I just, I want to,
00:06:29.180 I want to do a role-playing exercise.
00:06:30.680 I think the only reason
00:06:31.600 why a woman should ever leave 1.00
00:06:33.480 is if she's being physically abused. 0.88
00:06:35.680 Other than that,
00:06:36.440 be a woman and try to work through her. 0.99
00:06:37.600 I agree.
00:06:37.820 I'm really advocating for the family.
00:06:39.360 I want to, I know she's not.
00:06:41.280 I want to, I know she's not.
00:06:41.740 How many times have I said
00:06:42.960 I'm advocating for the family unit?
00:06:44.500 Anyways,
00:06:45.120 so I want to do an exercise
00:06:46.540 because she talked about
00:06:47.540 this amazing leadership
00:06:48.820 that we need to know about.
00:06:49.880 Would you leave
00:06:50.580 if your husband cheated?
00:06:52.940 Honestly, it really, no,
00:06:54.420 I wouldn't
00:06:54.920 because I've been cheated on that. 1.00
00:06:56.080 Bullshit. 1.00
00:06:56.860 What a lie. 1.00
00:06:57.960 You changed your team.
00:06:59.660 You can look in your eyes
00:07:01.040 and tell you're lying.
00:07:01.900 You're lying.
00:07:02.320 I've been cheated on that.
00:07:02.860 I've said,
00:07:03.220 would I struggle through it
00:07:04.520 and would I be sad?
00:07:05.400 Yeah, okay.
00:07:06.200 I want to move on to an exercise.
00:07:08.440 I really want to,
00:07:09.260 I want to wait.
00:07:10.060 What happened to that guy?
00:07:10.820 Why aren't you with that guy right now?
00:07:12.100 He was abusive.
00:07:13.080 Like physically?
00:07:13.820 Yeah.
00:07:14.600 Duck.
00:07:15.320 Yeah.
00:07:16.540 Did you hit him first?
00:07:17.720 No.
00:07:18.260 Here's the thing.
00:07:18.960 If he's cheating,
00:07:20.280 ask if he would share.
00:07:22.140 That's how it solved the problem.
00:07:23.560 Okay.
00:07:23.780 I want to do an exercise
00:07:25.700 with the guys.
00:07:26.980 Okay.
00:07:27.240 So I keep hearing from the women. 1.00
00:07:28.680 Never hit a woman in my life, bro.
00:07:29.940 What are you talking about?
00:07:30.640 No, wait.
00:07:31.120 Wait.
00:07:31.440 Okay.
00:07:31.780 I keep hearing.
00:07:32.860 Wait.
00:07:33.320 Wait.
00:07:34.540 I want to,
00:07:35.940 I want to,
00:07:36.580 I want to do an exercise
00:07:37.560 because I keep hearing
00:07:38.340 about this poor leadership, right?
00:07:40.500 So I want to do a role playing.
00:07:42.240 We're married.
00:07:43.140 Okay.
00:07:43.440 And I say,
00:07:44.840 I'm just,
00:07:45.320 I got to bounce.
00:07:46.680 And I'm taking the kids
00:07:47.640 and your money
00:07:48.280 and everything from you.
00:07:50.080 How do you respond?
00:07:52.300 You're taking the kids,
00:07:53.180 the money and everything.
00:07:54.080 Yeah.
00:07:54.440 Yeah.
00:07:54.680 I'm also going to get
00:07:55.760 a restraining order
00:07:56.860 and I'm going to,
00:07:58.220 I'm going to label you
00:07:59.060 as an abuser.
00:08:00.200 Well,
00:08:00.580 yeah,
00:08:00.740 I'm probably just moving
00:08:01.820 to like,
00:08:02.820 no,
00:08:04.540 no,
00:08:04.680 please lead,
00:08:05.540 lead me.
00:08:06.200 I would live up
00:08:07.180 to the title you give me.
00:08:11.060 Who's the abuser?
00:08:12.380 Yes.
00:08:12.860 Yes.
00:08:14.100 Anyway,
00:08:14.620 how would you,
00:08:15.180 could you please lead me?
00:08:16.320 I think I'd be,
00:08:18.220 I think I'd become a murderer. 0.82
00:08:19.880 You'd be,
00:08:20.400 that happens a lot.
00:08:22.180 Actually,
00:08:22.600 that's pretty common.
00:08:23.580 Troy,
00:08:23.940 lead me,
00:08:24.500 please lead me.
00:08:26.280 You know what?
00:08:26.940 It's an impossible,
00:08:27.460 it's an impossible question,
00:08:29.140 isn't it?
00:08:29.380 Because you can't,
00:08:29.900 because this happened
00:08:30.360 to my friend in London,
00:08:31.660 right?
00:08:32.040 And when that happens to you,
00:08:33.300 leader,
00:08:34.220 please just leave better.
00:08:35.900 Don't leave.
00:08:36.540 Leave better. 1.00
00:08:36.880 Don't leave you bitch. 1.00
00:08:39.080 No, 1.00
00:08:39.600 I'm going,
00:08:40.320 I'm going.
00:08:40.640 No,
00:08:40.900 don't.
00:08:42.420 But I want,
00:08:43.640 I want your cash,
00:08:45.340 please.
00:08:45.760 You are not getting my cash,
00:08:46.860 you are not leaving for.
00:08:47.780 No,
00:08:47.800 no,
00:08:47.880 no,
00:08:48.080 yes,
00:08:48.480 abuse,
00:08:49.300 abuse.
00:08:50.260 What about reverse psychology? 1.00
00:08:51.780 Leave bitch. 1.00
00:08:53.500 Now she's staying, 1.00
00:08:54.420 I know these women. 1.00