JustPearlyThings - August 25, 2023


Modern Woman Gets Confronted With This Fact


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12 minutes

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2,266

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2

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In this episode we discuss the topic of single women and happiness. Do women stay single for a lifetime? Is it possible for a woman to stay single and happy for the rest of her life, or is it more likely to move on once she gets married and have kids?

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00:00:00.000 do you think that women can be happy for a lifetime single no starting here and then go 1.00
00:00:09.160 around but we can all go ahead go ahead um to be honest i think it depends on how you
00:00:16.200 have a relationship whilst you're single are you single whilst dating are you single
00:00:21.680 and still seating seeking a companionship or are you just solely by yourself and i feel like if
00:00:27.260 you're solely by yourself i don't think you can actually 100 be happy on your own um i don't
00:00:33.980 think you have to be married to be happy in particular but i do feel like you would need
00:00:38.760 some kind of companionship whether that's a long lasting one or one that lasts two or three years
00:00:43.500 but i feel like everyone seeks to have that kind of someone that they can share part of their life
00:00:49.900 with okay yeah i think the main mission of women to be in love and when you're not in love you will 1.00
00:00:58.560 never happy you can have career you can be in forbes you can have millions but when you're not in love
00:01:04.800 you have one gap inside you and you will very looking for this because we're born to be in love
00:01:12.300 it's our main mission even not to be a mother to be in love okay um yeah sort of echo what everyone
00:01:20.860 is saying so i feel that being no one wants to be lonely really i don't think anyone wants to be lonely
00:01:27.740 um and i think even if you have everything in life materialistic ways you want to share it with someone
00:01:33.500 whether it's family a companion so yeah whether it's a husband or your life partner definitely something
00:01:40.540 that adds value to life because we want we want to share our happiness so um yeah i agree
00:01:49.260 um for me um there is millions answer for this question because there is a million
00:01:58.460 millions factors that indicate and bring happiness and um define and has a different definition for
00:02:07.180 being single but if the single um and your question means not being in a relationship with someone
00:02:15.340 and which sort of relationship marriage being a partner so yeah so when i say single i say not
00:02:21.100 in a long-term relationship or married i know some people do like the seven eight-year relationships i think
00:02:26.060 that's a little different but single for a lifetime or because constantly between relationships why not
00:02:32.540 of course there is no rules uh that anyone must marry to be happy i think uh there is no fixed rule
00:02:40.780 many people are single and happy and many people are not single and um you know are in a relationship
00:02:47.580 unhappy so um for me why not of course okay i i yeah i think it's possible but very unlikely
00:02:56.060 likely yeah like i don't i don't think women in general and i think you could see that because 1.00
00:03:00.460 women get on antidepressants when we're old and single over the age of 45 that's like the most 0.98
00:03:05.740 women you see on antidepressants but um for me as a healthcare professional i met many people many
00:03:12.700 patients uh many clients that are single and um they're happy but what is the definition of happy you
00:03:20.620 know is is uh is a very vague happiness very good point yeah yeah define as how if a scale of one to
00:03:29.260 ten how much you're happy you know what if you say happy it's just very vague yeah i think women can 0.99
00:03:35.420 be happy single till their looks fade i think that's typically when the happiness goes my opinion
00:03:40.860 yeah go ahead um this is a question for the for the women right no what do you think no no that's
00:03:49.260 a question for you i mean you're you're 40 41 42 42 okay and you've seen women that stayed single
00:03:56.380 right yeah so it's your opinion do you think women can stay single and happy for a lifetime 0.99
00:04:02.380 i would say for a man or a woman uh i mean happiness comes from within but i think it is i think
00:04:10.700 when you get older you start seeing your parents pass away your grandparents pass away and you get
00:04:15.580 lonely what happens when you get sick i know when i got sick my wife helped me when i was bleeding sick
00:04:24.860 you know she helped me she helped me when i couldn't stand up and when i got out the hospital my daughter
00:04:29.980 was there my wife was there i couldn't imagine someone going through something where they get sick
00:04:36.940 and uh they don't have a wife and daughter so i would say you might feel happy when you're single
00:04:44.540 and alone but what are you going to do when your wife you know your boys your girls they got married
00:04:50.140 they get married they get family and they got kids and you know they move on once once your friends
00:04:55.260 start getting married and having kids you're going to start seeing a little bit of distance i think
00:04:58.940 that's natural yeah uh literally following on from what um this gentleman's saying i agree um and
00:05:07.340 taking points of what everyone has said it's like what is happiness first and foremost and yes we're
00:05:12.940 you know centering this conversation around women but i think it applies equally to men a man and you
00:05:18.700 were saying as their looks fades beauty it doesn't mean one thing for women and one thing for men we're
00:05:25.100 all physical beings our beauty and our looks fade over time equally so no they do not women's looks
00:05:31.420 fade much quicker not necessarily but if you look even if they've done studies on facial elasticity so
00:05:36.860 it's how much men's like like the wrinkles in your skin come women versus men women wrinkle faster than 0.74
00:05:42.460 men fair point however i stand on the point that i'm saying that you know taking away the point you're
00:05:48.540 making about beauty even if you're not married and you choose to be a single person in terms of when you
00:05:54.460 tick the box you are single even if you take the box and you're cohabiting or you know you have a
00:05:59.420 partner right i think there's a longing within everybody everybody wants to know that they are
00:06:03.420 cared for by somebody that they are loved by somebody that somebody is going to take care of
00:06:07.020 them in their time of need so i don't think it applies to him i think men as well even if men are
00:06:12.620 alone you can you can earn all the money that you want you can buy all the big houses but you're
00:06:16.540 gonna buy a big house and live in alone is that gonna make you happy you can buy the big fast cars
00:06:20.780 and drive them alone are you going to be happy because i've thought about this right and i and
00:06:24.700 i kind of go i go both sides because sometimes i think of hugh hefner was that man unhappy
00:06:32.300 i've seen i've seen hugh hefner on a wednesday night at concord no way yeah nightclub in hollywood
00:06:38.700 around 2004 and i remember seeing hugh hefner but like on a tuesday night like five women
00:06:45.420 i don't know if he was deep down happy or not but he seemed like he was having a good time yeah
00:06:52.140 but i don't know well because it's like we have this idea that like men are if they don't get married
00:06:57.100 and have kids they'll be lonely too and i just don't see it the same for men and for women i think
00:07:02.140 women get much more lonely the older they get i don't think so because i feel like men when they lose
00:07:09.020 their spouses they tend to actually become more depressant and get entering depression actually
00:07:15.340 women losing their spouses so and even when it comes to family yeah i don't i don't think that's
00:07:20.620 the same though because that's like the loss of a partner that's not never getting a partner oh by oh
00:07:25.820 so your question is if a woman never gets a partner yeah if she ends up single oh okay i think my point
00:07:33.260 is um it depends on the community she has and the other relationships she has i get it um there is
00:07:40.860 this thing about but there are so many women who are married and not happy as well right like you know 1.00
00:07:46.540 so when we say about single woman being happy my question then arises is have you got those
00:07:53.500 relationships like i'm from a very big family and i i tell you from friends to my neighbors to everybody
00:08:01.660 like right now i'm single i've been married for 18 years i am much happier right now than i've ever
00:08:07.500 been and if you ask me would i rather be with the person with him i'm miserable or not because you
00:08:14.780 know um it also about compatibility and stuff like that but as a single woman right now i think it's
00:08:21.260 about compatibility uh with with the men as well because obviously a man or the other person can't make
00:08:27.900 keep you happy all the time either so when we are talking about our happiness then it comes from
00:08:33.580 within so if it comes from within yeah that's what i was yeah you i think the only thing i would say
00:08:39.260 then the order is okay that physical connection with somebody you can hug and say this is person is mine
00:08:45.580 but anything else you know if you want to go for a cup of coffee a man probably doesn't might not want
00:08:51.580 to do it at that time even sorry no go ahead so i was just saying you can go by yourself and have that
00:08:58.540 coffee do you translate that as single yourself although you are still in a relationship with
00:09:03.820 someone so my point is a woman can stay single and happy it's just um how you're interpreting it in
00:09:12.380 the sense of um like a woman cannot stay single if she has really good relationships around her her 0.99
00:09:21.900 girlfriends could be her closest friends like one of my single friends say if i don't find the right guy 1.00
00:09:27.820 i'll just when i'm old and i'm fragile i'll get all my single girlfriends and we live in the same house
00:09:34.220 and we live happily together like you know because at that time you need help have you ever seen sorority
00:09:39.260 houses they all fight like men exactly but i'm just saying who is it is it because because the man
00:09:47.180 is not there but yeah yeah i think it is i i can't even imagine like life at six like what does life
00:09:53.980 at 60 look like without a man um i'm basically i disagree with this statement that man brings happiness
00:10:03.340 it's a very old and classic statement and phrases that they said happiness should come truly within
00:10:10.380 of you may i and and it should come you have to be happy you know you find happiness definition of
00:10:18.300 happiness in your life and if there is a gentleman wants to come to your life they will add something to
00:10:25.260 that not because they bring the happiness they will add something well my my point is i don't think women 1.00
00:10:31.500 typically are happy over a certain age with no no man or kids i think women get happiness from 1.00
00:10:36.700 relationships and when women don't have relationships i just don't i don't think how many people are in 1.00
00:10:41.500 a relationship and unhappy is i don't i don't see any you know scientific logic behind this sentence that
00:10:49.980 we need a man a certain age well i'll say like what i would say what i would say to indicate that is that
00:10:55.500 women are in antidepressants at a higher rate when they don't get married and they don't have children 1.00
00:10:59.580 like that as the single most like most medicated this is what they choose you know this is why
00:11:05.740 they select they want to be why should everyone be a mother why should everyone yeah i'm not i'm not
00:11:11.820 saying every person has to be a mother but the majority of women wanted kids so the majority of women 0.99
00:11:17.100 that don't have kids like initially wanted kids um i you know in science or in my part you have to bring
00:11:27.980 the numbers and you have to bring them you know you have to bring some a very strong logic when you
00:11:35.980 said majority of women where well they surveyed they surveyed a couple thousand women i can't
00:11:42.700 remember the exact institution but it was a college in the u.s they surveyed i think three thousand to
00:11:47.180 five thousand women asking if they wanted that were single and did not have kids asking if they wanted
00:11:51.900 kids and and i want to say it was 80 85 i can't off the top of my head 85 so many countries uh the rate
00:11:58.300 of you know having the child is goes negative you know so that's right you're right well they are not
00:12:05.020 happy they are happy well i i do i do think i do think it has short-term happiness i absolutely do i
00:12:11.100 think there's what does it mean short short-term happiness that means they're happy now but they're
00:12:15.020 not happy in the long term because because again life life looks really different at at 60 than it
00:12:21.580 does at 25 at 35 go ahead