JustPearlyThings - Modern Woman GOT Hit With FACTS

00:00:00.000 But don't you think the women need to level up? 1.00

00:00:01.940 I mean, how many women? 1.00

00:00:02.540 The women are leveling up.

00:00:03.180 I'm leveled.

00:00:06.060 What percent of women have cookbooks? 1.00

00:00:07.860 What percent of women are homemakers? 1.00

00:00:09.200 What percent of women really work with kids and can be good mothers? 1.00

00:00:12.820 But there's percentage, but you just have to find your percentage.

00:00:16.840 Go ahead.

00:00:17.680 You just have to find your percentage.

00:00:19.800 You have to find your percentage?

00:00:21.140 You have to find it.

00:00:21.660 There's women out there. 1.00

00:00:22.660 You just have to find.

00:00:23.660 Yeah, but is it common?

00:00:25.320 But that's for a certain type of man.

00:00:26.620 There are some men that like boss babes who have businesses. 0.85

00:00:29.180 Who are grinding and stuff like that.

00:00:31.840 There are 100%.

00:00:33.080 Bones broke, man.

00:00:37.840 If that's who you did, that's who you did.

00:00:41.780 So you don't think men like women that are boss babes? 1.00

00:00:44.020 Men don't give a shit about our money. 1.00

00:00:45.980 They literally don't care. 0.99

00:00:47.280 It's like, okay, if this guy ever told you about a shoe collection and you're like,

00:00:50.500 oh, that's cool, but you don't really care.

00:00:52.040 That's how men view our money. 1.00

00:00:53.660 They don't care.

00:00:54.240 It's nothing to them.

00:00:55.440 But you proved the point of what you said just now, though,

00:00:57.400 because what you're saying is that you could walk out theoretically,

00:01:00.640 you know, hypothetically, you could walk out and get some guy,

00:01:02.720 maybe come and chat you up or whatever,

00:01:04.160 but you're looking for a certain percentile of guy.

00:01:06.520 Yeah.

00:01:06.860 So you're basically saying, oh, you know,

00:01:09.000 this group of guys who might hit on me randomly in West London,

00:01:13.360 I don't care about them because I want this top tier.

00:01:16.160 And that's the thing.

00:01:16.920 And I'm not saying that's a bad.

00:01:18.300 I mean, that's absolutely everyone's prerogative.

00:01:20.200 But at the same time, I think a lot of guys are finding it increasingly difficult

00:01:23.960 in this dating marketplace, you know,

00:01:26.300 because women are the gatekeepers, basically, you know. 1.00

00:01:28.620 Yes.

00:01:29.240 So I'm curious, because I hear this a lot.

00:01:31.880 Like, I'm not going to get a guy that's not on my level.

00:01:34.420 Or is that what you said?

00:01:35.300 I don't want to misquote you.

00:01:36.320 Yeah, I just don't want to be with a guy that's just not up to the standard that I want.

00:01:40.880 So when as women do we lower our standards and decide that they're too high? 1.00

00:01:44.720 If all the guys we're talking to don't live up to the standards that we want,

00:01:48.660 when do we lower them?

00:01:49.640 When you're getting old and there's no more time.

00:01:52.560 When your body clock is giving up and you can't have children,

00:01:55.060 then we just need to settle.

00:01:56.180 So 90% of your eggs are gone by 30.

00:01:58.920 So at what age would you say that women should start lowering their standards? 1.00

00:02:03.180 Because I'd be 30 then if that's the case.

00:02:05.600 Because I need children.

00:02:06.960 Do you know what I mean?

00:02:07.620 Because it's geriatric pregnancy starts at 35. 0.99

00:02:10.220 Wow.

00:02:10.800 So I think a lot of times, like women, 1.00

00:02:12.580 we think our biological clock is a lot longer than it really is.

00:02:16.300 You freeze your eggs.

00:02:17.500 That's also an option, yeah.

00:02:19.580 Yeah, but I can't remember the stat off the top of my head,

00:02:23.680 but it doesn't work out for a lot of women. 1.00

00:02:26.120 They kind of sell us that dream.

00:02:27.840 Yeah.

00:02:29.200 I wish I could remember what percent of women actually get pregnant, 1.00

00:02:32.300 but it's not as high as you think after geriatric pregnancy.

00:02:37.040 I think the other way around, it's only about 50%.

00:02:39.180 If a guy freezes his sperm, it's quite, it's, you know,

00:02:44.440 it's like a 50-50 shot basically, whether it's going to work or not.

00:02:48.940 I mean, yeah, it's a bit of a tricky one.

00:02:51.360 I mean, yeah, I don't know.

00:02:57.200 Under...

00:02:57.520 But no one can help who they're attracted to.

00:02:59.480 I mean, you can't say to somebody, well, well, you know,

00:03:03.800 it's very hard to say to somebody, look, you should lower your standards

00:03:06.300 because we are attracted to who we're attracted to,

00:03:09.920 and that's just the reality of it, isn't it?

00:03:11.820 I'm curious.

00:03:12.680 Would you guys rather be, like, so at 60, 65,

00:03:16.240 would you rather be by yourself or be with someone you're not attracted to?

00:03:19.980 Be by myself.

00:03:20.820 Be by myself, yeah.

00:03:22.500 Cats?

00:03:23.740 No, brother.

00:03:25.580 Really, no kids?

00:03:28.160 Because to me, it's like, I'd rather be with someone I'm not attracted to

00:03:30.660 than out of children.

00:03:31.600 Yeah, 100%.

00:03:31.940 I would feel like my life was, like, a failure if I didn't have kids.

00:03:35.140 No, I'm not looking for companionship.

00:03:36.340 No, I definitely want kids.

00:03:37.720 If it's real, it's not.

00:03:39.360 What?

00:03:39.860 If it's real, it's not.

00:03:42.700 What were you going to say?

00:03:43.720 You definitely want kids? 0.77

00:03:44.660 Yeah.

00:03:46.040 I know, so I'm asking if you had the two options

00:03:47.940 and you would still pick by yourself.

00:03:49.460 You said at 65.

00:03:51.860 I mean, you just told me the age of 35, so.

00:03:54.840 No, but I'm saying, so in one scenario, at 65,

00:03:57.360 you have a husband you're not attracted to and children and a family,

00:04:00.100 and at the other one, you're by yourself.

00:04:02.000 So I'm saying, like, as women, we keep saying we need our standards

00:04:04.340 to be on a certain level, right?

00:04:05.720 And I hear this is super common.

00:04:06.980 It's not just you.

00:04:08.080 So it's like, but when do we start lowering them

00:04:10.440 if the men aren't meeting them?

00:04:13.160 Because what's our other option?

00:04:15.180 Bye, dog.

00:04:17.500 That dog ain't giving you kids, I'll tell you that.

00:04:19.540 I think that's where it goes with the beauty beyond the eye.

00:04:25.600 You see?

00:04:26.100 You start, you know, you don't find him attractive first

00:04:28.920 and you really start liking him after.

00:04:30.620 But you see what I'm saying when I say that?

00:04:32.440 Like, I think that women, men have higher beauty standards 0.77

00:04:35.300 than women, like, that they have to live up to. 1.00

00:04:38.920 Because it's such a small percentage of men

00:04:40.620 that we're even attracted to.

00:04:41.660 Everyone in here said they're picky.

00:04:43.360 But don't you feel like it happened to us first as women?

00:04:46.720 I mean, we had to level ourselves up to be a certain way.

00:04:50.980 When do you think we had to level ourselves up?

00:04:56.000 I'd say about 20, 30 years ago.

00:04:58.980 I feel like we've gotten worse in the last 20 to 30 years.

00:05:02.040 See?

00:05:02.460 So about 20, 30 years?

00:05:03.320 No, but I don't think we've leveled up.

00:05:04.560 I think women have leveled down. 1.00

00:05:06.540 Yeah, but...

00:05:06.860 I don't agree with that.

00:05:08.040 No, I think you're right.

00:05:09.620 But I think probably, from my perspective,

00:05:11.780 I reckon what happened was that there was that pressure on women 1.00

00:05:14.440 to be, you know, you've got to look amazing all the time.

00:05:17.480 And blokes, like, back in the sort of the 80s and early 90s and stuff,

00:05:21.500 guys didn't really have to make an effort.

00:05:23.300 Do you know what I mean?

00:05:23.840 It was like, you could have a beer gun,

00:05:25.200 just like, whatever, football shirt on,

00:05:27.540 and just, oh, yeah, she's nice.

00:05:28.640 And, you know, it's very laddy kind of thing.

00:05:30.440 Really? I've seen pictures of guys from, like, the...

00:05:32.980 I saw beach pictures from, like, before the 60s.

00:05:36.880 Everyone was hot back then.

00:05:38.700 I thought they were so much more attractive.

00:05:41.160 The men and the women. 0.97

00:05:42.600 They were...

00:05:43.000 I feel like something switched in the food or something.

00:05:45.660 Well, maybe just in England then.

00:05:48.100 But, no, I know what you mean,

00:05:49.040 because I've seen pictures in, like, Brazilian stuff,

00:05:50.860 like, from the 70s.

00:05:51.500 No, I'm talking the U.S., like, California pictures.

00:05:53.740 Oh, really?

00:05:54.060 Yeah.

00:05:54.260 Okay.

00:05:54.760 Okay.

00:05:55.360 Okay.

00:05:56.980 I don't know.

00:05:57.480 Well, from my perspective, what I've seen,

00:06:00.280 I think that standards for men have got higher

00:06:04.540 in the last, sort of, 10, 15, 20 years.

00:06:06.140 That's just my sense of it.

00:06:07.820 And maybe women's had to have been higher in the past. 1.00

00:06:10.640 But, like, I don't know.

00:06:14.000 It doesn't really help anybody, does it?

00:06:15.260 Do you know what I mean?

00:06:15.840 Like, I think now, because of the thirstiness of guys

00:06:19.720 and the fact that, as we've said,

00:06:22.020 I mean, guys are less selected than women. 0.68

00:06:23.940 I think guys are now more, less picky than they were.

00:06:27.520 Do you know what I mean?

00:06:28.060 I think there are many guys who will take a woman 1.00

00:06:30.480 who's perhaps less attractive than he would have preferred

00:06:34.180 because he thinks that's his only option.

00:06:36.160 I think, ultimately, it's finding someone

00:06:39.000 you're compatible with.

00:06:40.280 So, all these standards, standards, standards.

00:06:42.860 It's like, what is a standard?

00:06:44.400 If he's a good guy, if he's a good girl,

00:06:46.220 and he's, like, you know, he's compatible to you.

00:06:48.020 He's got the same values, same, you know, principles,

00:06:50.580 and you get along well, and you have the same,

00:06:53.100 you know, goals in life.

00:06:54.200 I think that's what can be defined as a, you know.

00:06:56.980 Yeah, I'm curious, what are your standards?

00:07:00.220 Like, what do you guys look for in a guy?

00:07:03.100 I think I'm, maybe not the right person.

00:07:05.780 I think, like, lots of women, no, because it's like... 1.00

00:07:08.320 You don't look for anything?

00:07:09.400 No, because I...

00:07:12.320 You go, women? 1.00

00:07:13.820 Women, is that your thing? 1.00

00:07:15.740 No, because I know that lots of women, 1.00

00:07:18.160 they look at, you know, how much money my man is making,

00:07:21.260 how much, you know, good life you have.

00:07:23.560 Yeah, you don't have to say money.

00:07:24.720 It could be, like, whatever you look for.

00:07:26.360 For me, it's like having emotional support,

00:07:29.640 most of everything, and, you know,

00:07:31.520 having someone that, you know, understands my needs,

00:07:34.440 you know, on a mental level.

00:07:35.740 Obviously, you know, we need to, you know,

00:07:38.400 do life together and navigate, you know,

00:07:40.680 challenges and everything,

00:07:41.940 but ultimately, for me,

00:07:43.360 it's about finding that compatible person,

00:07:45.940 which is very difficult to do,

00:07:47.260 because, you know, you're going to have always something,

00:07:49.400 you know, there's some character traits

00:07:52.520 that are not really, you know,

00:07:54.220 men and women are just different, 0.99

00:07:55.740 and as much as we want to play this card,

00:07:57.580 oh, I want to be like a man,

00:07:58.740 I'm never going to be a man.

00:07:59.820 I wasn't born a man,

00:08:00.720 and I'm not going to understand what a man is.

00:08:03.140 So don't you think that asking him

00:08:04.820 to understand your emotional needs

00:08:06.520 is asking a man to be a woman 0.99

00:08:07.800 when he's not a woman?

00:08:09.560 A little bit, yes,

00:08:10.520 but not in a way, like, don't get me wrong,

00:08:12.960 yes, maybe, a little bit, yes,

00:08:14.620 but at the same time,

00:08:15.720 I don't want a cold person,

00:08:17.260 you know, in front of me,

00:08:18.220 no, you know,

00:08:18.940 I want to have someone

00:08:20.560 that is kind of empathic enough,

00:08:22.520 you know,

00:08:22.780 got a little bit of warmness.

00:08:24.080 That doesn't sound too hard

00:08:24.640 to find a warm, a nice guy?

00:08:27.040 You think that's hard?

00:08:29.620 Like, what else?

00:08:30.420 There has to be,

00:08:30.900 there has to be,

00:08:31.900 I was like, there has to be more,

00:08:34.760 it can't just be that, go ahead.

00:08:35.900 Yeah, I mean, there are,

00:08:37.700 but, um.

00:08:38.460 There's going to be loads of guys

00:08:39.200 in the chat now,

00:08:39.780 is, I'm a nice guy,

00:08:40.660 I can emotionally support you.

00:08:43.160 No, no, I mean,

00:08:45.740 I mean, I want to,

00:08:47.020 you know, I want to say this,

00:08:48.100 like, there are lots of great guys out there,

00:08:50.000 that want to be like,

00:08:50.720 oh, yeah, man,

00:08:51.820 it's just, I find that

00:08:53.140 this particular time

00:08:54.840 that we're living,

00:08:56.040 guys are, like,

00:08:57.200 finding very difficult

00:08:58.160 in committing on the long term,

00:09:00.000 because, you know,

00:09:00.440 a lot of pressure

00:09:01.160 there is in this society,

00:09:02.220 so it's like,

00:09:02.520 I can't provide to my woman, 1.00

00:09:04.260 because, you know,

00:09:05.000 the bills are going high,

00:09:06.280 you know,

00:09:06.480 the society is crazy at the moment,

00:09:08.000 you know,

00:09:08.320 and women want always more, 1.00

00:09:09.900 more, more,

00:09:10.400 the last clothes,

00:09:11.180 the last, you know,

00:09:12.260 trend that is,

00:09:13.160 there,

00:09:13.580 you know,

00:09:13.740 I need to satisfy that,

00:09:15.020 and I feel like that,

00:09:16.160 it's quite detrimental,

00:09:18.340 so I feel like,

00:09:19.580 yes, you're right,

00:09:20.400 maybe we can lower a little bit

00:09:22.180 our standards,

00:09:23.060 and try,

00:09:23.560 trying to be more realistic

00:09:24.740 with what we really,

00:09:26.580 you know,

00:09:26.920 how old would you date,

00:09:28.880 like,

00:09:29.040 is there an age range,

00:09:30.180 like,

00:09:30.400 you said you're 37,

00:09:31.880 right?

00:09:32.060 Eight.

00:09:32.560 38,

00:09:33.140 okay,

00:09:33.440 so would you date

00:09:34.000 a 21-year-old guy?

00:09:35.520 I don't think so,

00:09:36.940 no.

00:09:37.120 so there's age.

00:09:38.600 Yeah,

00:09:38.940 because it's just a question,

00:09:40.760 I mean,

00:09:41.260 yeah,

00:09:41.900 I don't think so,

00:09:42.640 it has to be like,

00:09:43.580 you know,

00:09:43.860 mature enough for me to,

00:09:45.360 you know,

00:09:45.620 for me to get deep conversations

00:09:47.580 without,

00:09:48.080 oh,

00:09:48.300 what are you talking about,

00:09:49.260 without scaring him,

00:09:50.360 and I think like,

00:09:51.620 when you're 21,

00:09:52.500 you still need to figure out

00:09:53.520 a lot of things,

00:09:54.480 I'm not saying that by 38,

00:09:56.260 you're gonna have everything,

00:09:57.220 no.

00:09:57.340 So you date a 55-year-old guy,

00:09:59.500 that's okay?

00:10:02.160 Nah,

00:10:02.680 I don't think so.

00:10:03.540 Okay,

00:10:04.000 so,

00:10:04.260 no,

00:10:04.500 it's like,

00:10:04.940 same age.

00:10:05.600 So,

00:10:06.020 you know,

00:10:06.340 maybe,

00:10:06.680 maybe up until you're 45,

00:10:09.060 45,

00:10:09.680 yeah,

00:10:10.140 okay,

00:10:10.440 or less,

00:10:10.940 yeah.

00:10:11.320 Anything else?

00:10:12.000 So he just has to be emotionally available

00:10:13.760 under the age of 45,

00:10:15.540 funny,

00:10:16.380 over 30,

00:10:17.180 maybe?

00:10:17.840 Over 30,

00:10:18.420 yeah,

00:10:18.980 but I'm not doing like,

00:10:20.360 I'm not doing an advert out there,

00:10:22.000 you know?

00:10:23.540 It used to be.

00:10:24.180 Me,

00:10:24.360 me,

00:10:24.700 me.

00:10:24.920 No,

00:10:25.300 no,

00:10:26.100 no,

00:10:26.380 no,

00:10:26.620 no,

00:10:27.200 no,

00:10:27.460 no,

00:10:27.480 that's not an advert.

00:10:30.300 Just,

00:10:31.420 as I said,

00:10:32.060 like,

00:10:32.420 for me,

00:10:32.960 the emotional support,

00:10:33.920 without being too much a woman,

00:10:35.880 is very important,

00:10:37.020 and to be able to,

00:10:39.140 you know,

00:10:39.620 understand,

00:10:40.640 like,

00:10:41.000 that,

00:10:41.780 trying to understand us,

00:10:43.260 because as we,

00:10:44.940 as women,

00:10:45.600 we're trying to understand men,

00:10:47.540 and we're trying to get into that

00:10:49.400 masculine energy,

00:10:50.420 which is quite difficult to do,

00:10:53.060 and at the same time,

00:10:54.040 I would love,

00:10:54.620 you know,

00:10:54.780 that the men trying to be a little bit more empathetic,

00:10:56.860 and trying to understand,

00:10:58.200 without becoming a woman,

00:10:59.560 I mean,

00:10:59.800 it has to be men.

00:11:00.880 It has to be men. 0.96

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JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023

Modern Woman GOT Hit With FACTS

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