JustPearlyThings - Modern Woman Got TRIGGERED By This

00:00:00.880 the reason the reason i thought of this the other day okay this girl's on my show

00:00:06.560 and she's talking about she was a side chick she's really cool shout out you know if she's

00:00:09.840 watching tonight but i was just thinking like you're already on the show saying proclaiming

00:00:15.840 you're a side chick you might as well compete and try to win because she was saying she wouldn't

00:00:19.120 date him after but why are you a side chick if you wouldn't you know i'm like i'm not saying to

00:00:24.400 do that i'm just saying if you're gonna do it anyways my point is do you think that women

00:00:28.480 should compete for a man absolutely we're definitely we're the prize we're the ones who

00:00:35.440 control marriage we control legacy like we do all the hard work essentially in terms of infrastructure

00:00:44.400 so why wouldn't you compete for us it doesn't make any sense even if he's got a girl even if

00:00:50.880 yeah of course that's that's the real company like you when you think about it to like a point where

00:00:55.360 you know our communities were married a lot more like you know i'm saying like the marriage rate

00:01:01.200 was a lot higher the competition was even more steep that's why they made songs like rolling stones and

00:01:07.920 this is what what he's basically saying which is true which is like modern women don't really have

00:01:12.400 game this is why they're struggling to keep a man because getting a man's attention is easy

00:01:16.560 a fast car could drive past and men would be like oh did you see that getting our attention is easy

00:01:23.040 but keeping our attention is where i feel you know people have lost that respect and that's why we don't

00:01:28.960 get treated like a prize because you feel like we're not the prize until you become a side chick and you

00:01:34.800 realize there is actually a prize what about you guys would you compete for a man no no absolutely

00:01:43.120 no no why why should i why shouldn't he compete for me why am i competing against another girl if i'm not

00:01:50.160 good enough then he doesn't deserve me if if he's comparing me against against another woman saying

00:01:57.520 oh you know her her qualities and traits might be better why like if i'm not good enough then you

00:02:04.720 don't deserve me you don't think that you compare him to other men yeah but then i'm not asking him to

00:02:10.880 compete as in if if the man is in the lineup he would be the that man that i would then go and see like

00:02:18.640 women don't have side men or whatever so no that's not true what did you say we definitely have what

00:02:27.200 did you just say we definitely do a long list a long list i would say wow you have go around the

00:02:34.800 corner guys as well like women don't have sidemen jesus so how does a five foot dude compete with a

00:02:41.520 six foot dude well they don't there's no competition as in if i was looking i wouldn't look at the

00:02:48.560 five foot dude i would look at the six foot dude what makes you think that the six foot dude is

00:02:52.800 looking at you well you just know how but you don't you don't think okay so so if it's a guy that

00:03:01.760 you're attracted to like how you don't meet guys that you're really into often right yes like it's

00:03:07.840 it's probably rare for you you find a guy that you're really really into yeah right yeah so you

00:03:12.400 find him and if you're really really into him other women are probably really really into him right

00:03:17.920 that's how it goes right yeah so it's like if he's talking to five girls and they're they're

00:03:25.280 let's say within a point pretty right they're all like within a point how does he pick

00:03:32.640 picks the best one okay so how would you show if you're applying for a job

00:03:37.520 like wouldn't you compete for that job and get the right skills for it i would i think compete is the

00:03:43.120 wrong word though i wouldn't relationships are not a job yeah it's not the same as don't you think

00:03:49.680 don't you think men are competing for the women that we want no no why no you're not we don't compete

00:03:56.320 from the what you've said you think that women just come to you and you've got they do and and

00:04:04.080 for me but i'm an exception to the rule okay because i already know that there's a

00:04:08.640 like like the dude just said there's a small percentage of men that are smashing everything

00:04:16.000 i know the 90 of dudes that not that are at work every day that are completely invisible

00:04:22.000 so when i hear people say certain things i'm like you've never heard of a nerd having more than one

00:04:28.800 baby mother it's the dude that's in jail serving 20 years that's got five baby moms why because women

00:04:36.400 like the same dude so that same six foot guy that's in the room that you're saying that you

00:04:42.000 wouldn't compete for maybe you might not compete with your friends but if it's random girls in there

00:04:47.200 you're gonna compete and you're gonna do what women do which is try and be in his line of sight you know

00:04:52.800 how to compete i think compete is the wrong word though you would you would just be yourself like and

00:04:59.040 and you know what you bring to the table like i know that when i meet a guy i know exactly what i'm

00:05:04.400 bringing to the table do you not think that i eyelashes eyebrows and and tan fake tan and hair

00:05:11.120 colors and hair lengths and all these things that you're not thinking and you're not all of these

00:05:14.320 things are competing these these are definitely competing no way so why do girls spend money on

00:05:18.880 their lips if they're not competing what's what's what's it for yourself because it's for what

00:05:24.080 fashion good yeah feel better feel better than dick

00:05:32.080 no all right so it's for us you don't try to look good for men

00:05:38.400 you don't try to like because if i if i'm going out somewhere and i know there's going to be attractive

00:05:43.760 guys there i'm going to try to look better but i guess other other i just like the same whether i'm

00:05:49.440 single or in a relationship so if i'm in a relationship i'll still dress up and do my hair

00:05:54.080 and that's because i want to be put together it's not for guys to move to me all right great i don't

00:06:00.320 i don't agree with that because as soon as you get in a relationship with a girl it goes from supermodel

00:06:05.280 to headscarf tracksuits not for me the first like when you meet me you um who i am i don't you guys

00:06:14.560 i don't do the extra things you've never tried to dress up for a date like you're going on a date

00:06:19.040 with guy and you want to impress him you want to look good of course i just dress but i dress how

00:06:23.200 i would dress i don't think extra outside of how i would think like if i was going out anywhere

00:06:30.960 yeah this is why i get up in the morning and i want to be presentable for work it's not i'm not

00:06:36.880 trying to attract guys when i go to work do you know what are you changing your appearance for

00:06:40.960 what why why tan to three four different shades darker for what are you trying to rank individual

00:06:48.240 thing isn't it no but i'm just asking what is if it's not a competition why are we trying to get up

00:06:55.360 in a in a ladder of something i'm just asking a general question i think i think compete is actually

00:07:01.120 the right word because you in order to get anywhere in life you need to you need to go like go up against

00:07:07.520 somebody to get what you want so if it's something that you actually want why would you not um

00:07:14.400 there's there's loads of things in your in your mind there's loads of things that you do

00:07:18.880 to go and go for what you want so whether that is from a woman's perspective whether that is

00:07:25.040 putting on uh the right even perfume or the right lipstick or the right because you know that right

00:07:30.720 listen i'm gonna do my best because this guy right here i want this guy do you know what i mean

00:07:36.080 so that is it's a competition because you're trying to beat all the other girls out there

00:07:39.840 because there's going to be loads of you're competing with the guys with the um with the

00:07:43.760 girls that are around the guy that you want i mean i just think like pretty is common and so i feel

00:07:48.720 like you have to have something that makes yourself stand out to a guy it's like fishing yeah and so it's

00:07:53.920 like if if i if i if i'm seeing a guy and i find out his favorite meal i'm going to learn how to cook

00:07:59.120 it because i i want him to talk to me and give me attention rather than the other girls that is competing

00:08:04.400 that's yeah that's what i'm saying that's game right there you don't do that that's not game

00:08:09.840 because this is what i was saying earlier modern women don't have a game why wouldn't you do that

00:08:14.640 like if you if you like someone you meet someone what i'm saying is if i'm with someone if i if

00:08:20.560 i'm cooking for someone i'm already with them i'm not competing with other girls that they're talking

00:08:24.800 to uh you see but that's where you go wrong because it's not where i go wrong because i've had

00:08:30.960 relationships so i don't have to compete for relationships someone if a guy comes to me and

00:08:37.280 wants to be with me then we're together i think i think i have not had experiences where i have to

00:08:42.800 going out and i'm seeing someone and i'm like he's good looking and there's loads of girls that like

00:08:47.920 him so i need to do extra things to get him yes i don't do that okay maybe maybe not you but i think

00:08:55.200 that that is exactly where a lot of women go wrong absolutely because they don't even when they jump

00:09:00.880 into a relationship they they stop competing like i don't know why they stop when when normally if it

00:09:07.360 if it's a if it's a guy if if they jump into a relationship um then they they're gonna they're

00:09:13.360 gonna try and um how they compete for you is to make themselves better follow their purpose you know

00:09:22.720 uh build up their status build up their money do you know i mean that's how they compete for for

00:09:28.480 you and maybe others whatever but if if a woman's not gonna do not not they don't need to do the

00:09:34.240 same but if they're not gonna try and compete even when in a relationship and that's what that's

00:09:38.320 that's where that's where it starts going compete with who everybody else compete with everyone else

00:09:43.200 that's around that's around when you guys when you guys but it's the word compete no i'm not saying

00:09:48.720 that i don't do things for my partner yeah or i didn't say that i'm just not company i'm not in

00:09:55.840 my head going i need to cook him dinner because someone else will i need to dress nice because

00:10:01.040 someone else is it's not about someone else it's just like you don't you don't you don't wait wait

00:10:11.920 you don't want a guy that's worth competing for that's like i don't want a guy that no one else

00:10:15.680 wants like there has to be other people involved but everyone every time you walk outside there is

00:10:23.120 there is at your at your man's job there's gonna be four or five girls that are like

00:10:29.440 they know full well he's in a relationship but they will take him and i'm aware of that

00:10:32.960 they'll take him that doesn't bother me all right but you check check check this though like

00:10:37.280 i'm just gonna do what i can do for my partner it's more nuanced than that though like you're

00:10:41.520 competing in a sense where you look after him and you make sure he's good but if you started to

00:10:45.440 neglect him and you didn't do all the things that you do then he might start looking elsewhere yeah

00:10:52.320 i think the word competes triggering you too much to actually like understand it's just yeah

00:10:57.680 when a man and woman get in a relationship and everyone's talking about what the woman should

00:11:02.080 do to do to keep the man but what is the what is the man gonna do it goes to do you guys usually

00:11:08.480 pay for dates uh equal split on the first day i would say the man should pay but after that we can

00:11:16.080 go halves or split the bill i'm i'm happy to do that do you expect a man if you were attacked and

00:11:21.600 you were with him do you expect him to protect you or would you just say how you deal with this on

00:11:25.680 your own you got it all right she got a black belt don't don't play it yeah if you were with

00:11:33.440 it with a guy and he's like you know you got a black belt you got it he's gonna be like you got

00:11:38.560 this you got this yeah yeah how would you respond would you want to stay with him

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JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023

Modern Woman Got TRIGGERED By This

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