Modern Woman Is UNAWARE Of Her Relationship Status
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Summary
In this episode, the ladies discuss their relationship status and what it means to be single. Do you have a boyfriend or are you single and ready to mingle? How do you know if you re single or not single?
Transcript
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So, why don't we go around, everyone say your name, your age, your relationship status, and a fun fact about yourself.
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Situationship, I just, I like to be in the know.
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Like, even when someone says, oh, are we dating?
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I feel like, okay, I'm going to clarify what I think.
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A situationship means you're hooking up with them.
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So, hooking up, we need to just find out what that means.
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I don't think you go on a date with situationships.
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So if any guy wants to slide, it's going to be seen.
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Yeah, you're going to sweep me off my feet type of thing.
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I'm going to open up a whole other topic about standards.
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So I used to do 100 metres, 200 metres in relay.
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So I don't know if that's a shocker or it looks like.
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A fun fact about me is that I've got mad energy.
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Someone that feels entitled to making decisions for you.
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Someone that feels entitled to your life, to your lifestyle.
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But that also determines on whether you give them that entitlement.
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But do you not like it when a guy has a bit of, like, control?
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Or, like, with me, even though I have a lot of control in my career and in my life, but
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So, I like when a man is like, oh, John Turner says, like, give it to me.
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John Turner says, I want to know you care about me.
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Because also, like, the whole controlling thing shows you that he cares as well.
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But she's saying the opposite of what you said.
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I agree because of the context that she means it in.
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She doesn't mean, like, toxic or, like, in an angry way.
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In a controlling way, as in, I would want you to show me that you care.
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You don't want him to feel entitled to making decisions.
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I do think that there's a huge difference between controlling and a bit of dominance.
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And I think that as a woman, I think in a relationship, you're like a man that has a little bit of dominance.
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I think controlling and, like, constantly checking where you are, I feel like it's a bit too much.
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In my opinion, anyway, I feel like there should be a level of trust in a relationship.
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If you're chasing, constantly asking where someone is.
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But no, when I say where are you, it's more of like, oh, are you safe?
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What's the difference between controlling and dominance?
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I think a dominant man is someone that can, like, make decisions.
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Like, say, for example, like, we're going on a date.
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Or, you know, checking up on you and making sure you're good.
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But, like, instead of being like, where are you?
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So you want him to be able to make the decisions, but not the decision of what to wear.
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That is attractive, though, when a man goes, when a man goes, oh, babe, I want you to wear
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Because many men, yeah, what you're saying is manipulation, not, I don't think you guys
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are really answering the question by what she said, what is a toxic relationship.
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You guys are just saying the guys being controlling and manipulative.
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I feel like a toxic relationship is when two people are going at each other, but in a way
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where you know that what one person's saying is not good, and what another person's saying
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is not good, but it's like, in your head, it's good to them, but in their head, it's
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So it's like, you guys are fighting and banning, like, okay, what's that?
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You might love each other to pieces, but if it doesn't work and you have that clash
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all the time, then it's going to be consistently toxic.
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Knowing that it's not good, but you're still doing it and you're still together.
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So knowing it's not good, but staying together.
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Because don't you argue all the time during a rough patch in a marriage, you wouldn't think?
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I agree, but what I would say is if you're married to someone, it's a lifelong commitment
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and I think those are things that you should be able to work through by communication.
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Like, there's even, like, couples therapy, even.
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Like, if you need to do it, if you're willing to, like, work through that, then you can get
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See, it's just, it's very broad, everything you guys are saying.
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I'm just trying to lock you down onto one thing.
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I feel like it depends on what the topic of conversation is and what you guys are arguing
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That then depends whether if it's toxic or a thing where I'm correcting you and what you're
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That all depends on what you guys are arguing about for you to know whether it is toxic
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or a thing where you're just correcting the person.
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So, what would be an example of something that's toxic and something that's not?
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Liking other girls' pictures on Instagram, following bad girls, that is toxic in itself.
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Don't you think it's toxic to be constantly looking who he's following and who he's liking?
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Yeah, if you really like one person and you like the person you're with, why do you need
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Yeah, but why do you got to get upset over an Instagram?
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Because you're double tapping it because you clearly like what you're seeing.
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If you like what you're seeing, go with them then.
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You don't think you're looking for drama in a way?
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But shouldn't you go into relationships in good faith?
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The reason why I'm saying everything she's saying is right.
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The way things were back then is totally different.
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But I mean, you guys, I mean, the people, you never had phones.
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So when you guys see people on the street and you're like, you'll go to them, you'll
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Because it says a lot about a man's sexual discipline as well.
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Okay, what about when girls post selfies while in a relationship?
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Yeah, chirping is double tapping and liking a girl's picture.
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That's showing that, yes, you're attracted to them.
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So would you say a toxic girl post selfies while she's in a relationship?
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If her intention is to get a reaction out of that from a certain audience, then yes.
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But what if his intention was just to like the picture?
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And if anything, let's have an open conversation about it.
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Yeah, because I don't like a single guy's picture.
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Because why would I give them the satisfaction of seeing me in their notifications?
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I mean, to be honest, I don't really think that liking a girl's Instagram picture is that deep.
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I think, obviously, if they go ahead and DM them and message them.
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Because you can appreciate someone's beauty, but without...
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But you can just go through your feet and appreciate someone's beauty.
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Couldn't you say the same thing about women that post suggestive Instagram pictures while in a relationship?
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Even if it's just a selfie, you know that men are going to...
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It's about female empowerment at the end of the day.
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Look, we've got all female panel, female empowerment.
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It really just sounds like you want to do whatever you want, but he can't do whatever he wants.
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Because at the end of the day, if you're in a relationship with a man, there should be a level of trust there.
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If he's liking another Instagram post, it's never that deep because he's not going to speak to that girl.
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But you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone you don't trust.
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The trust should be there before you get into something serious with them.
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But what do we think about that happening during a dating, like when you're dating, like the dating base?
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I mean, shouldn't you go into a relationship in good faith, like assuming the best?
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You're not in a relationship, but you're about to get into the relationship.
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I kind of think you're overthinking it way too much.
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Yeah, I think, I mean, if you guys are together and it's something serious,
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and then he starts to go and follow loads of girls and then he's moving like that,
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I'm talking in a dating phase where you're getting to know each other
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Well, you're both single, so you have the rights to do whatever you want, I think.
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If you're single, you're going to chat to whoever and they're going to chat to whoever.
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And then if you decide that it's something that is worth trying for,
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then you guys cut off your links or you do whatever.
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No, that's fair, because a relationship is more based off trust.
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And then dating is more for, I don't even know, man.
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Wait, wait, wait, wait, guys, guys, guys, finish your men or what?
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Men are just, some of you, some of you just need a pattern of.
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