JustPearlyThings - June 23, 2023


Modern woman Learns This GRIM Reality About Men


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

197.5516

Word Count

1,646

Sentence Count

9

Misogynist Sentences

3

Hate Speech Sentences

6


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the impact of society's emphasis on men being more emotional, and why it's not okay to cry. We also discuss the science behind why crying is a bad thing for men and why we should stop pushing men to be more emotional.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Savannah let me ask you something so okay you say guys need to be more balanced and have logic and
00:00:06.440 emotion right but looking at the history of the west and society as it is right now those men
00:00:12.700 have been typically more logical and less emotional what's wrong with society right now
00:00:18.420 because it seems right now as we're making this shift to men being more emotional everybody's
00:00:22.660 unhappy the men are unhappy the women are unhappy you know it's not working out I think I think
00:00:28.320 where it comes from is is maybe balance might have been the correct word but what I'm saying is is
00:00:34.120 it's okay if a man needs to feel upset and he needs to cry I think my point is is that we are constantly
00:00:40.120 telling people well actually no deny that part of yourself that human nature that that part of
00:00:45.240 yourself that needs to do that and I don't think that's okay I think as I said it puts so much
00:00:49.300 pressure on young men to constantly be strong yes you may I don't think we are I don't I don't think
00:00:54.580 we're telling men not to cry and I mean I would say I would say wait wait I would say I would say
00:00:59.420 in my my show maybe we do but in general and in the media no they tell men to be more emotional
00:01:05.160 again like even even even but even now in this show you're telling men to be more emotional than
00:01:10.820 they were in the past you're saying it's okay to cry so that that that equates to you can be more
00:01:16.240 emotional than they previously were so again it's pushing men to emote more like women
00:01:21.380 I don't know we have a different way of processing things to men we're completely different in that
00:01:27.160 way um and what works is what works for us is crying and then taking time out and then you know
00:01:34.440 processing things however we do um for men that actually brings him further down if you're like
00:01:41.620 I I know this from experience from talking to people to men um they if if they allow themselves to
00:01:49.460 become too emotional or more emotional than usual it makes them even more depressed it makes them even
00:01:54.620 more depressed and it makes them not be able to find that solution which they would be able to if
00:02:00.180 they had that stoicism to sort of carry on pushing and then that takes them out of the sadness in the
00:02:05.920 first place because the thing which makes them sad they found a solution for by not wasting time
00:02:10.300 laying around crying so I think actually it's more damaging to push the be more sensitive and cry more
00:02:17.080 because that actually is causing them to not be able to find solutions for themselves I think
00:02:21.260 I understand I had a comment it said the highest personality traits required to be successful is
00:02:27.040 conscientiousness and disagreeableness men possess that and that leads to less emotional outputs and
00:02:32.580 the more emotional you tell men to be the less of a chance that man has to be a successful leader
00:02:36.900 making them more feminine we don't process emotions the same very true yeah true reality is men have
00:02:44.780 testosterone right and what does testosterone do like at the very basis of it the biological nature
00:02:50.840 of testosterone is it helps to build muscle it helps to build denser bones and these are all things you
00:02:56.480 need to do very strenuous physical activities so that being said when a man feels like he's down or he
00:03:03.020 feels like he's sad or depressed the best possible way for him to let that out is through physical
00:03:08.420 exercise through physical activity not through crying yeah I'm not by the way I think this is
00:03:14.440 slightly been misconstrued a little bit because I've not said that a man has to cry I never once
00:03:20.820 said that what I said is it's okay to do that that is what I've said I've not said that every person
00:03:26.960 and I don't understand where this misconstrued has come from either so it's either you're hearing what
00:03:31.500 you want to hear or you're just not trying to understand what I'm saying here but what I am saying is
00:03:36.340 that it is okay to do that if we tell somebody no you shouldn't cry if that's what you're naturally
00:03:40.960 trying to do that's where that pressure comes from 100% agree men have testosterone that is the way
00:03:46.740 you know you release your your anger your emotions whatever women have a way of crying some women also
00:03:52.320 work out because actually women also have testosterone too not the same levels but I think that's what I'm
00:03:57.940 trying to get at and actually I'm I'm actually being an advocate for men here by having that empathy
00:04:02.980 there because I think it's fair that we put so much responsibility on men all the time so that's
00:04:08.960 where I'm coming from with that whatever your catharsis is your way of releasing that is your
00:04:13.480 way of doing it as I said it's subjective I would say crying is natural natural and if that if that has
00:04:19.540 to happen it will happen that's my point men don't need to be told to do it because if it is a natural
00:04:25.520 reaction it will happen regardless of whether he tries to stop it or not I think what the girls were
00:04:29.820 saying is that right now mainstream society is telling men's to prioritize being emotional
00:04:36.120 I'm not saying that I know I know and I know that you know I think that's where we're having a
00:04:41.580 miscommunication here so you have these social media companies I was like be vulnerable do this cry to
00:04:48.200 your girlfriend you can cry to your girlfriend she's gonna leave you she's she's not gonna no but
00:04:53.380 that's not true really tell me a guy that cried to you and you stayed with him my ex-boyfriend
00:04:58.780 ex-boyfriend thanks so much he's an ex because he cheated on me he's not an ex because he cried to
00:05:07.740 me like I would want my partner to be comfortable enough to come and speak to me when he feels down
00:05:14.220 how old is he we was how old was we I was 17 I was living for two years
00:05:19.520 he's a child still no and also that's if he didn't cry to you you would have forgiven him for cheating
00:05:25.240 yeah
00:05:26.140 and that's and also that's that's fine like I used to think that you know men being emotional is
00:05:36.100 really attractive and you know it's them being vulnerable and that means that they trust you
00:05:39.800 enough no I don't want a man that is an emotional wreck don't get twisted I can't have a man that's
00:05:46.860 always crying to me this this and that no no no no no how much crying is too much crying but when
00:05:52.360 shit really does hit the fan I don't want you to just like how much answer his question how much
00:05:58.760 crying is too much crying how much crying like every week every other day okay so how many how much
00:06:05.120 crying can he do once a year once a year I think just cry over things that I don't know like that
00:06:16.220 should be cried over maybe like if a parent died or something here's the here's the issue you said
00:06:21.700 should be cried over yeah and so then it's subjective and every woman a guy is gonna deal
00:06:27.860 with is gonna have a different bar for what what is too much and what is it so instead of you know
00:06:34.300 testing the waters it's just easier for them to avoid the headache yeah you know because because
00:06:39.880 because too emotional is gonna be different for each girl on the couch right yeah yeah yeah and if
00:06:46.120 they can prioritize for for example if the message was when a man gets angry go and work out like
00:06:51.460 imagine if the mainstream media was uh advertising this rather than when you were upset just go and
00:06:56.740 everybody would jacked they'd be super jacked well let me ask you this what about Morocco are they're
00:07:01.060 like go out there and cry never I mean this is not how I was raised that's why for example when
00:07:08.500 the message of Andrew Tate is here it's completely normal to me because this is something my brother
00:07:14.260 would say my father would say my my cousin it's not something new or something very well shocking to the
00:07:20.640 to the to me you know what's interesting
00:07:23.940 the main people would freak out if someone just said serve your husband you're supposed to serve your husband
00:07:30.860 that's how but it's so normal from like actual traditional households
00:07:35.040 but then they'll be like you know to her they'll be like oh you're just you're a dumb Moroccan girl this is how we do it here in the most fucked up society in the west
00:07:44.760 You know what realization I had I was like when I hear girls come on the show and say
00:07:50.820 Oh, I just gave him I did so much for him like all this
00:07:53.760 I realized I was like it's actually the biggest red flag for the girl because that means she's keeping score
00:07:58.580 Oh, yeah, it shouldn't be like that. Yeah
00:08:00.980 When you're like as a lady as a female when you're in a relationship
00:08:05.060 You're supposed to do these things. You shouldn't be tapping it. Oh, we're so loyal to him
00:08:10.500 I've done this for him. I cook for him
00:08:12.420 I think it's normal. I love it as well. They'll be like I flew her here. I did that. You wouldn't be here without me
00:08:17.920 You're keeping score right now