JustPearlyThings - Modern woman Learns This GRIM Reality About Men

00:00:00.000 Savannah let me ask you something so okay you say guys need to be more balanced and have logic and

00:00:06.440 emotion right but looking at the history of the west and society as it is right now those men

00:00:12.700 have been typically more logical and less emotional what's wrong with society right now

00:00:18.420 because it seems right now as we're making this shift to men being more emotional everybody's

00:00:22.660 unhappy the men are unhappy the women are unhappy you know it's not working out I think I think

00:00:28.320 where it comes from is is maybe balance might have been the correct word but what I'm saying is is

00:00:34.120 it's okay if a man needs to feel upset and he needs to cry I think my point is is that we are constantly

00:00:40.120 telling people well actually no deny that part of yourself that human nature that that part of

00:00:45.240 yourself that needs to do that and I don't think that's okay I think as I said it puts so much

00:00:49.300 pressure on young men to constantly be strong yes you may I don't think we are I don't I don't think

00:00:54.580 we're telling men not to cry and I mean I would say I would say wait wait I would say I would say

00:00:59.420 in my my show maybe we do but in general and in the media no they tell men to be more emotional

00:01:05.160 again like even even even but even now in this show you're telling men to be more emotional than

00:01:10.820 they were in the past you're saying it's okay to cry so that that that equates to you can be more

00:01:16.240 emotional than they previously were so again it's pushing men to emote more like women

00:01:21.380 I don't know we have a different way of processing things to men we're completely different in that

00:01:27.160 way um and what works is what works for us is crying and then taking time out and then you know

00:01:34.440 processing things however we do um for men that actually brings him further down if you're like

00:01:41.620 I I know this from experience from talking to people to men um they if if they allow themselves to

00:01:49.460 become too emotional or more emotional than usual it makes them even more depressed it makes them even

00:01:54.620 more depressed and it makes them not be able to find that solution which they would be able to if

00:02:00.180 they had that stoicism to sort of carry on pushing and then that takes them out of the sadness in the

00:02:05.920 first place because the thing which makes them sad they found a solution for by not wasting time

00:02:10.300 laying around crying so I think actually it's more damaging to push the be more sensitive and cry more

00:02:17.080 because that actually is causing them to not be able to find solutions for themselves I think

00:02:21.260 I understand I had a comment it said the highest personality traits required to be successful is

00:02:27.040 conscientiousness and disagreeableness men possess that and that leads to less emotional outputs and

00:02:32.580 the more emotional you tell men to be the less of a chance that man has to be a successful leader

00:02:36.900 making them more feminine we don't process emotions the same very true yeah true reality is men have 0.93

00:02:44.780 testosterone right and what does testosterone do like at the very basis of it the biological nature

00:02:50.840 of testosterone is it helps to build muscle it helps to build denser bones and these are all things you

00:02:56.480 need to do very strenuous physical activities so that being said when a man feels like he's down or he

00:03:03.020 feels like he's sad or depressed the best possible way for him to let that out is through physical

00:03:08.420 exercise through physical activity not through crying yeah I'm not by the way I think this is

00:03:14.440 slightly been misconstrued a little bit because I've not said that a man has to cry I never once

00:03:20.820 said that what I said is it's okay to do that that is what I've said I've not said that every person

00:03:26.960 and I don't understand where this misconstrued has come from either so it's either you're hearing what

00:03:31.500 you want to hear or you're just not trying to understand what I'm saying here but what I am saying is

00:03:36.340 that it is okay to do that if we tell somebody no you shouldn't cry if that's what you're naturally

00:03:40.960 trying to do that's where that pressure comes from 100% agree men have testosterone that is the way 0.99

00:03:46.740 you know you release your your anger your emotions whatever women have a way of crying some women also 1.00

00:03:52.320 work out because actually women also have testosterone too not the same levels but I think that's what I'm

00:03:57.940 trying to get at and actually I'm I'm actually being an advocate for men here by having that empathy

00:04:02.980 there because I think it's fair that we put so much responsibility on men all the time so that's

00:04:08.960 where I'm coming from with that whatever your catharsis is your way of releasing that is your

00:04:13.480 way of doing it as I said it's subjective I would say crying is natural natural and if that if that has

00:04:19.540 to happen it will happen that's my point men don't need to be told to do it because if it is a natural

00:04:25.520 reaction it will happen regardless of whether he tries to stop it or not I think what the girls were 1.00

00:04:29.820 saying is that right now mainstream society is telling men's to prioritize being emotional

00:04:36.120 I'm not saying that I know I know and I know that you know I think that's where we're having a

00:04:41.580 miscommunication here so you have these social media companies I was like be vulnerable do this cry to

00:04:48.200 your girlfriend you can cry to your girlfriend she's gonna leave you she's she's not gonna no but 0.99

00:04:53.380 that's not true really tell me a guy that cried to you and you stayed with him my ex-boyfriend

00:04:58.780 ex-boyfriend thanks so much he's an ex because he cheated on me he's not an ex because he cried to

00:05:07.740 me like I would want my partner to be comfortable enough to come and speak to me when he feels down

00:05:14.220 how old is he we was how old was we I was 17 I was living for two years

00:05:19.520 he's a child still no and also that's if he didn't cry to you you would have forgiven him for cheating

00:05:25.240 yeah

00:05:26.140 and that's and also that's that's fine like I used to think that you know men being emotional is

00:05:36.100 really attractive and you know it's them being vulnerable and that means that they trust you

00:05:39.800 enough no I don't want a man that is an emotional wreck don't get twisted I can't have a man that's

00:05:46.860 always crying to me this this and that no no no no no how much crying is too much crying but when 0.98

00:05:52.360 shit really does hit the fan I don't want you to just like how much answer his question how much 0.90

00:05:58.760 crying is too much crying how much crying like every week every other day okay so how many how much 0.99

00:06:05.120 crying can he do once a year once a year I think just cry over things that I don't know like that

00:06:16.220 should be cried over maybe like if a parent died or something here's the here's the issue you said

00:06:21.700 should be cried over yeah and so then it's subjective and every woman a guy is gonna deal

00:06:27.860 with is gonna have a different bar for what what is too much and what is it so instead of you know

00:06:34.300 testing the waters it's just easier for them to avoid the headache yeah you know because because

00:06:39.880 because too emotional is gonna be different for each girl on the couch right yeah yeah yeah and if

00:06:46.120 they can prioritize for for example if the message was when a man gets angry go and work out like

00:06:51.460 imagine if the mainstream media was uh advertising this rather than when you were upset just go and

00:06:56.740 everybody would jacked they'd be super jacked well let me ask you this what about Morocco are they're 1.00

00:07:01.060 like go out there and cry never I mean this is not how I was raised that's why for example when

00:07:08.500 the message of Andrew Tate is here it's completely normal to me because this is something my brother

00:07:14.260 would say my father would say my my cousin it's not something new or something very well shocking to the

00:07:20.640 to the to me you know what's interesting

00:07:23.940 the main people would freak out if someone just said serve your husband you're supposed to serve your husband

00:07:30.860 that's how but it's so normal from like actual traditional households 0.99

00:07:35.040 but then they'll be like you know to her they'll be like oh you're just you're a dumb Moroccan girl this is how we do it here in the most fucked up society in the west 0.99

00:07:44.760 You know what realization I had I was like when I hear girls come on the show and say 1.00

00:07:50.820 Oh, I just gave him I did so much for him like all this

00:07:53.760 I realized I was like it's actually the biggest red flag for the girl because that means she's keeping score

00:07:58.580 Oh, yeah, it shouldn't be like that. Yeah

00:08:00.980 When you're like as a lady as a female when you're in a relationship 0.85

00:08:05.060 You're supposed to do these things. You shouldn't be tapping it. Oh, we're so loyal to him

00:08:10.500 I've done this for him. I cook for him

00:08:12.420 I think it's normal. I love it as well. They'll be like I flew her here. I did that. You wouldn't be here without me

00:08:17.920 You're keeping score right now

JustPearlyThings - June 23, 2023

Modern woman Learns This GRIM Reality About Men

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