JustPearlyThings - July 11, 2023


Modern Woman Makes This Confession Live On The Show


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In this episode, we discuss the difference between a bad boy and a good boy when it comes to a woman s needs and wants in a relationship. We also talk about the value of a woman who is willing to wait a long amount of time for a man to give her a chance.

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00:00:00.000 So a sense of maturity if the woman actually knows what she wants 1.00
00:00:04.460 and she's matured in her mind.
00:00:07.600 A lot of us girls are delusional and immature
00:00:09.540 and we like to go for bad boys because we're in our immature state.
00:00:15.000 That's a fact.
00:00:16.440 As once you've matured and you know what you like
00:00:19.760 and you value within yourself.
00:00:24.400 I don't know if I'm explaining this correctly.
00:00:26.240 You're doing good.
00:00:27.100 Yeah.
00:00:27.860 You're good.
00:00:28.240 I personally don't like bad boys anymore
00:00:32.520 and I think I was in an immature era.
00:00:35.480 Yes, you did.
00:00:37.520 You're telling me right now, yeah?
00:00:39.840 You have a go for a guy that's not a bad boy.
00:00:41.900 Right now, a guy with ambition and drive
00:00:47.400 and knows himself and knows how he looks after a woman
00:00:50.740 is so attractive than a bad boy that doesn't know himself
00:00:54.840 and only disrespect a woman. 0.91
00:00:57.600 Who do you sleep with faster? 1.00
00:01:02.320 What do you mean?
00:01:03.080 Who do you sleep with faster? 1.00
00:01:04.320 That's a good point.
00:01:05.160 That's a very good point.
00:01:06.260 The bad boy or the good guy?
00:01:08.500 Courtney's very different though.
00:01:09.920 She holds herself back a lot and I have huge respect for this girl.
00:01:13.480 Okay, but could you answer the quote?
00:01:17.960 Because you said you've dated cheaters in the past, right?
00:01:21.800 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:22.820 And so the way men will see it is the younger you are,
00:01:26.000 the higher value you have as a woman, right? 1.00
00:01:29.760 You know the sense of love.
00:01:31.300 If you're 50 and you're 20, you're more valuable to men at 20, right?
00:01:34.320 When it comes to looks, like what they're attracted to.
00:01:36.360 So it's like when you have the most to give
00:01:39.180 and you have the lowest body count, you choose the bad boys.
00:01:41.940 You're kind of seen as like leftover to the nice guys.
00:01:45.100 And it's kind of like, okay, imagine if you found out,
00:01:49.180 if you're dating a guy and you found out for their anniversary,
00:01:52.480 his ex-girlfriend, he spent a ton of money on it,
00:01:54.820 took her on trips, did all this stuff.
00:01:56.600 And the most he's ever done for you is taking you to Taco Bell.
00:01:59.760 You'd be pissed, right?
00:02:00.640 A hundred percent.
00:02:01.380 But that's how men feel when they find out you slept with Tom, Dick,
00:02:05.180 and Harry after one night, but you made him wait a month or a week.
00:02:08.880 That just shows that you're different, right?
00:02:10.600 No.
00:02:11.180 Okay, but what if he said that to you?
00:02:14.780 Like, oh, it shows you're different.
00:02:15.980 I took you to Taco Bell. 1.00
00:02:18.480 You're a prick. 1.00
00:02:19.860 But that's how guys see it. 1.00
00:02:22.480 So they see it as, oh, when you were younger, fitter, like hotter,
00:02:26.320 you gave your best years to the bad boys.
00:02:28.920 And now it's like to them now, and like they, and it seems like,
00:02:33.420 and I genuinely believe those are the guys that women really want.
00:02:36.180 But once you realize you can't tame them, then you go to the nice guys.
00:02:39.000 I don't know how to feel about that analogy, you know?
00:02:41.400 What do you, what do you not feel about it?
00:02:44.100 I don't know.
00:02:45.100 Like the Taco Bell thing.
00:02:47.920 No, what she's basically saying is, all right, imagine I'm dating her.
00:02:53.880 Layla.
00:02:54.460 Layla.
00:02:55.320 And I take it to a five-star hotel, five-star dining.
00:03:02.240 And you've seen this.
00:03:03.220 You've seen this on my stories.
00:03:04.300 I post it.
00:03:04.820 We break up, whatever.
00:03:05.860 And then when I take you to Taco Bell, what would you think you're worth
00:03:10.360 when you've seen me take a woman and treat her right? 1.00
00:03:13.780 You understand?
00:03:14.560 Are you dating?
00:03:16.240 We're just, we're just.
00:03:17.300 Maybe, maybe not.
00:03:17.720 It doesn't matter what you've seen.
00:03:19.580 Okay.
00:03:19.980 But you've seen me take women, whether you don't know who we're dating or not. 0.95
00:03:23.260 Yeah, I'd be pissed.
00:03:24.420 Exactly.
00:03:24.880 So how do you think a man would feel when he knows that you've given up in a day or two
00:03:29.060 and then you're sitting here demanding like, oh, you got to do all this.
00:03:31.180 You got to jump through this loophole.
00:03:32.540 You got to take me on this amount of dates.
00:03:34.380 You got to wait this amount of months.
00:03:36.160 What are you talking about?
00:03:37.200 The sad reality is, yeah, the girls that will give it to a guy in an instant,
00:03:41.620 it's not the same thing as like if they'll give it to a guy that waits for like three months,
00:03:46.980 four months, you know what I'm saying?
00:03:48.640 It depends on his value.
00:03:49.280 A guy's not going to wait three, four months.
00:03:50.520 It depends on his value, bro.
00:03:51.500 Listen, it depends on his value.
00:03:53.180 Let's say he's a proper valuable guy.
00:03:55.120 Yeah?
00:03:55.480 She'll give it to him quicker than a low value guy.
00:03:57.840 Do you understand?
00:03:58.660 Because in her instinct, it makes more sense to give it to him quicker.
00:04:02.360 Do you understand?
00:04:03.400 For a low value or high value?
00:04:05.020 Huh?
00:04:05.560 You said for a low value or high value?
00:04:07.300 That's true.
00:04:07.880 I agree with you.
00:04:09.220 Like women sleep with the men like we like more quicker. 1.00
00:04:11.880 But that's the whole point we're making.
00:04:13.760 It's like when for the bad guy, you sleep with him quick and you make the nice guy wait.
00:04:18.840 Attractive and arousal.
00:04:19.640 But the issue, and that's why I'm like, I don't know if I would encourage women to go 1.00
00:04:22.780 for bad boys because it's like, what are your odds of actually getting one?
00:04:27.440 At the end of the day, they're more protective.
00:04:29.280 They'll protect them more.
00:04:30.760 They'll look after them more.
00:04:31.860 They tend to have money because they're aggressive.
00:04:33.620 They're aggressive in life.
00:04:34.740 They know what they want, so they get money.
00:04:36.800 You know what I'm saying? 0.99
00:04:37.140 That comes with getting bitches easier. 1.00
00:04:39.580 There's nothing to do about it. 0.99
00:04:41.040 You know what I'm saying?
00:04:42.060 Cool. 1.00
00:04:42.400 Except the fact that they're as bitches. 1.00
00:04:43.660 He's going to love you for the rest of his life. 1.00
00:04:45.500 He's going to have kids with you.
00:04:46.380 You know what I'm saying?
00:04:46.780 It's a beautiful thing.
00:04:47.860 It makes me smile.
00:04:49.080 When, like, let's say I'm imagining myself having kids with my girl.
00:04:51.960 Oh, it's very cute.
00:04:53.140 That's so good. 0.80
00:04:53.840 So what if I just fucking scared, like, just, like, whatever? 0.89
00:04:56.720 You know what I'm saying? 0.64
00:04:57.420 Could you guys deal with that?
00:04:59.320 A guy that you're having kids with, a family with.
00:05:02.640 You're his wife, but he has girls from time to time.
00:05:05.620 I think men cheating is the new norm.
00:05:09.860 As sad as it is.
00:05:10.880 Yeah.
00:05:11.380 I really do, like, dislike.
00:05:14.220 I don't agree with it at all.
00:05:16.820 But I think all men do it, to be honest.
00:05:20.400 Whether it's physically or mentally, it could be, like.
00:05:22.640 All men? 0.95
00:05:24.020 To be honest, we've got too much choice in the world. 1.00
00:05:26.520 All men or just the men that you fuck with? 1.00
00:05:29.580 I've got too much choice, bro. 1.00
00:05:31.400 Majority of the men.
00:05:32.780 I have not spoken to one.
00:05:35.060 You've got to understand.
00:05:36.080 The privilege is invisible to those that have it.
00:05:38.480 So you've got to understand.
00:05:39.280 Your beauty is extremely valuable.
00:05:42.140 Yes.
00:05:42.320 So let's say you're.
00:05:43.680 I'm not judging you.
00:05:44.500 I'm just saying.
00:05:45.040 Just exaggerating.
00:05:46.480 Say you're eight or a nine.
00:05:47.780 You're a beautiful woman.
00:05:48.700 Yeah.
00:05:48.900 You've got to understand that your value is extremely more than a girl that's six or seven.
00:05:53.580 Yeah, yeah.
00:05:54.920 So the type of men that you're going to entertain is going to be a different type of level.
00:06:00.240 You're going to get a lot more attention.
00:06:01.800 You're going to get a lot more interest.
00:06:03.080 You're going to get a lot more, like, chasing than the average man.
00:06:05.860 All right, guys.
00:06:06.360 Think about this, yeah.
00:06:07.000 Think about this.
00:06:07.900 Cool.
00:06:08.600 Think about the time he was most in love with a guy.
00:06:10.700 The most, yeah?
00:06:11.800 The most.
00:06:12.640 Do you think he had, like, he was higher value than the guys that he didn't fall in love with?
00:06:16.200 Like, more money, more protection, more respect from other people, higher status.
00:06:21.640 Did you feel like that?
00:06:22.360 Like, you was in love with him more than the other guys that you was in love with?
00:06:25.800 No, you don't think about the money or anything.
00:06:28.320 If you're fully in love with that guy, that's all that matters.
00:06:31.700 Yeah, but what makes you, like, in love with him? 0.98
00:06:33.660 Do you find that a guy that's more high value, you love him more than a guy that's some dickhead, 0.99
00:06:39.780 broke boy, puss-yo? 0.99
00:06:41.640 Someone who's got stability.
00:06:43.560 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:06:44.140 Yeah.
00:06:44.340 Do you think you love that guy more or the guy that's some broke boy that doesn't offer anything to your life?
00:06:48.080 I think it depends how they treat you.
00:06:49.420 I think women fall in love with, like, words and how you're treated. 1.00
00:06:52.440 All right, cool.
00:06:52.700 So let's say, let's say, let's say, let's say some homeless guy, peasant, yeah, who charmed you with his words, yeah?
00:06:59.400 He's like, oh, my baby, you're so beautiful.
00:07:00.940 But you've got to be physically attracted to him as well.
00:07:03.120 Cool, he had muscles. 0.99
00:07:03.920 He had these push-ups in his fucking street. 0.99
00:07:05.560 Okay. 1.00
00:07:06.540 Yeah?
00:07:06.860 Let's say, let's say, let's say he spoke his words to you, yeah?
00:07:09.740 Yeah.
00:07:09.920 He's like, my baby, Ashton, you're so beautiful. 1.00
00:07:12.660 Why the fuck you look beautiful? 1.00
00:07:13.940 Do you know what I'm saying? 1.00
00:07:14.920 Like, oh, my days, I can't stand you.
00:07:17.420 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:18.220 Yeah. 1.00
00:07:18.740 Would that fucking make you fall in love with him? 1.00
00:07:21.100 Well, no. 1.00
00:07:21.900 I wouldn't fall in love with just one conversation anyway.
00:07:25.300 It's the consistency of it.
00:07:28.560 Consistency.
00:07:28.960 Because any guy at the start, they'll tell you what you want to hear, they'll pick themselves
00:07:33.640 up, they'll do all of this.
00:07:34.620 So you're telling me.
00:07:35.280 Or the game here.
00:07:36.060 You're telling me, cool.
00:07:36.760 Exactly.
00:07:37.280 They'll love on you.
00:07:38.400 You're telling me, so a homeless guy that stays consistent in telling you, my baby, I love
00:07:43.680 you.
00:07:44.540 And if he's consistent, you're going to fall for it.
00:07:46.900 But he's homeless.
00:07:47.220 But he's homeless.
00:07:47.820 Be realistic, girls.
00:07:48.840 But he's homeless.
00:07:49.680 Build with him.
00:07:50.840 Oh, my days, bro.
00:07:51.980 Oh, girl, come on. 1.00
00:07:53.640 Where are you going to build with him?
00:07:54.700 I need to know homeless, man.
00:07:56.240 I'll be like, get out.
00:07:57.460 And there's some crackheads down the street I can introduce.
00:08:02.060 No, I'm serious.
00:08:03.380 I was like, there's a homeless something.
00:08:04.180 I'll give you a bit of money.
00:08:05.280 You can do what you want with it.
00:08:06.420 You can have Romeo spitting the most beautiful poetry you've ever heard to you every single
00:08:10.520 day, showing up on time to dates, giving you gifts.
00:08:14.420 Right, yeah.
00:08:14.900 If that man doesn't have something outside of words, you will not give him the time of
00:08:18.800 day.
00:08:19.540 You will dry up.
00:08:20.740 And let's just be honest.
00:08:21.920 I hope you don't.
00:08:24.500 Like, come on.
00:08:25.080 We should not be dating broke, man.
00:08:26.620 Like, that is, if you had a daughter, you would not tell her to date a guy that's completely
00:08:30.860 broke.
00:08:31.400 I think this whole ambition, but what is the ambition?
00:08:35.680 It's money later.
00:08:36.640 Like, that's what you mean, because he only has so much time.
00:08:39.120 Like, when we say ambition, that's all it means.
00:08:40.560 You have to make money eventually.
00:08:41.840 You're going to do something eventually. 0.99
00:08:42.980 Now, I'm not saying that women, like, we all need to date a guy that makes like a shit ton
00:08:47.220 of money, but like, it's like, to say we can't gold dig a little bit.
00:08:51.780 It's just like, we don't want to get this broke.
00:08:53.420 If a rich man wants to take me out and love me and marry me, yeah.
00:08:58.040 Baby, I'm here.
00:08:59.180 You know?
00:08:59.760 And the thing is, I don't even think it's about this money, bro.
00:09:01.780 I don't think it's about money.
00:09:03.580 You know what I'm saying?
00:09:03.940 Listen.
00:09:04.380 Go on.
00:09:04.760 Go on.
00:09:05.060 This is what I'm saying.
00:09:06.020 Like, I like a man with ambition.
00:09:08.560 Whether, like, you obviously got to have some sort of money.
00:09:11.100 Do you know what I mean?
00:09:11.540 Like, because you can't just be broke and have ambitions and you just don't, you know
00:09:16.200 what I mean?
00:09:16.500 You're just a bit lost and you don't know yourself clearly.
00:09:18.940 But, like, if you have drive, I will be ambitious with you and I'll make sure you get to that
00:09:24.920 place.
00:09:25.500 But how long does that last?
00:09:27.400 Because a man can have ambition and do nothing.
00:09:29.620 That's what I'm saying.
00:09:30.440 If you do nothing, then you're just giving me words. 0.99
00:09:33.380 You're not actually showing me shit. 0.99
00:09:35.660 As like, let's just say, oh, I want to do this and that. 0.99
00:09:38.680 And I'm making action and I'm trying to make it happen.
00:09:42.840 So the man still has to perform.
00:09:44.700 So ambition is sort of a temporary acceptance for you.
00:09:49.900 I'll accept ambition as long as it leads somewhere.
00:09:53.100 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:09:53.460 But if I'm in with you for six months to a year and you haven't transformed this into
00:09:58.100 something else, then I'm going to leave you.
00:09:59.640 So, again, men...
00:10:00.280 Just not working hard enough.
00:10:01.600 That's not about working hard enough.
00:10:02.600 Some men just aren't destined to do anything with their lives.
00:10:05.100 That's the average man.
00:10:07.900 And that's what this podcast talks about.
00:10:10.280 The acceptance of the average man.
00:10:12.240 And I ask for the question of the respect, the lack of respect for a man.
00:10:16.680 If you want something bad enough, you'll go get it.