Modern Woman Says This About Men
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss hypergamy and how women use it in order to cheat on their husbands. Is it a problem? How do women cheat? What are the benefits of dating someone of a superior sociological or educational background? How can men learn to be better in the dating game? Are standards too high or are they too high? Is there a difference between being selective and having high standards?
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guys so today we are talking about hypergamy so i'm just curious um for the ladies on the panel
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have you guys heard of hypergamy yes yes i have now you have monkey watching not before today
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not before today i googled it just before coming home okay so hypergamy is the action of marrying
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or forming a sexual relationship with a person of a superior sociological or educational background
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so the idea is that when women date we want to date up in some way whether it's they make more
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money than us they're more educated than us or they're better looking than us and this is just
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when you survey women on what they want in a man and what researchers have come to find out is that
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100 of women want 20 of men and so the reason a lot of times girls say things like men are trash men are
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the problem that sort of thing men always cheat is because we're all dating the same ones
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that's 20 percent yeah and some people think it's even smaller some people say five percent but i
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just say 20 on like the high end wow yeah is that overall yeah well it's the way they find this out
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is through dating app data so there's only available the women that want to date up there's only 20
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of yeah available so i'll give you an example um how many of you guys want to date a guy over six foot
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no five ten what's your height requirement go ahead i don't think i have a height actually i don't
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want to date anyone five five so okay that's that's five eleven five eleven okay i'm barely five one so
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okay you got the hole you got the hole anything up here's a bonus i'm five six so i tend to want
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somebody around my height or taller okay yeah i mean i'm a fellow shorty so i've never really had to
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think about it so the reason i bring this up is because most girls when i ask them height wise
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they want to date their height or taller and so that's just a an example of how women use hypergamy
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so mike yeah yeah you see right interesting so my question is a common complaint that i hear from men
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is that women have too high of standards when are standards too high and i want to go around starting
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there um i don't agree with that statement okay go ahead i just think a lot a lot of dudes are weak
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and so instead of rising to the competition they'll rather tell women hey man you should just want less
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but from what i see in the dating game the characteristics or the qualities women want aren't
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are things you can develop you know some of the best seducers in history maybe neil strauss who wrote the
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game he's a bold 40 year old man and he got the most tell of anyone in new york so the idea that
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it's about being six foot and a millionaire is completely untrue and these guys know this because
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they complain about chad and tyrone and chad and tyrone is never like some rich guy is it you know so um
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yeah but those qualities of being kind being charismatic being sophisticated in some way being
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athletic you guys can hit the gym you could learn how to talk to women you could be more patient
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you know you could respect her more in certain ways so i don't agree that the standards are too high
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okay go ahead um the standards too high i think i think women have a lot of expectations
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when it comes to men and i think sometimes those expectations aren't always realistic
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um i do think that men obviously do think that women um think too highly of themselves sometimes
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but i think that's the them problem to be fair i think they need to i think they need to up their game
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in regards to being a lot more um understanding when it comes to women
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and yeah that's just that's my opinion okay go ahead um yeah i'd say the same um women's
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kind of lost words no yeah i don't think women's standards are too high i agree more or less with
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everything um you said that men have to kind of come to an understanding of what
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men have to be more i'd say it's more i'd say women's expectations are more on an emotional level
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than a money level uh for me anyway they want they want like a guy that's emotionally available
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is that yeah for me it's it's i'd rather someone that was emotionally available than someone that
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had a lot of money okay what about you i think it kind of depends if you're looking at the
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talk a little closer so it depends if you're looking at the real world or through dating apps
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because on dating apps it's easy to say yeah i want x y and z but actually when you meet people
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naturally you'll find that a lot of that kind of goes out the window and you're happy as long as
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you just have that connection or the basic fundamentals with that individual which comes
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down to like the emotional intelligence and things like that as opposed to saying okay what's
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your salary how tall are you what do you do okay go ahead i would say that there's a difference
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between being selective and having high standards i think that women and it's it's if you look at
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dating app data it's very well understood that that women are they will they will swipe less
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freely they'll be they'll think more about their swiping and they'll probably swipe right less
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often whereas men if you're going to stereotype will just you know they will play the numbers game
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um but i wouldn't say that's because women are looking for a man of a certain height and a certain
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income i think they're looking for someone who they click with more and there just seems to be a
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phenomenon where men seem to play the numbers game more okay what do you think i think a lot that was a lot
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no because it's like okay so all right the 80 of men that we're talking about
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you have to understand that they're completely invisible we're talking about ramroop from chicken
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cottage we're not you know i'm trying to say you know like so when when we're starting we're starting
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at a basis where you already are this is tyrone he's already six four i already know what he does
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you don't need to ask him what his career is you already know he's so i wanted someone that's nice
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it's because you want someone that's nice that already has the fits the narrative that the person
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of what you want you're not going to be attracted to someone that you're not attracted to or doesn't
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fit your criteria and women in the west criteria is very high and they all have to they all seem to
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have the same criteria they all want the same type of guy even though they would love to admit that
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they don't want the same type of guy maybe it doesn't work out with the right type of guy and
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now you move on to another guy that you you don't feel as happy that you are with that guy when really
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and truly you wish that guy that you really want was like the guy that you're with now is more what
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happens when you say like out on the road that you meet people no people women have to settle and
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they do settle when they hit the wall they settle when they've been through too much stress they settle
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when they need money problems they settle when when they when they like you know what this guy's
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just on my case so much let me just all right give me the chance yeah that's when they settle but
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they they're really trying to get that main guy and if that main guy came when they are in a
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relationship with that the guy that they settled hypergamy bro they're gone no i don't agree
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what do you class as that main guy out of curiosity you know the guy okay i'll give you i'll give you
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an example okay most girls that i know even there's one guy that they just like really deeply loved
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right and they loved more than all of their other exes and they could be dating the next guy or the
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next guy or the next guy but if that ex calls they're back
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i think i think i think that comes with age okay i think um obviously i'm 41 sorry i'm 41 and um
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i don't go back i go forward but in my younger gone back in my young i've gone back for sex
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that's it so i wouldn't ever look at that person as to have a relationship with if i haven't you
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know been seeing anyone and i want to have sex then i might go back to that person or i did go
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back to a person in the past but yeah do you think it's your choice of course it's my choice
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you think a man wanting to have a relationship with you is your choice
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yeah i do so what do you think would separate the man that just wants to sleep with you from the man
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that wants to have a relationship with you that's a very good question but i don't know it's the
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individual thing isn't it i mean i can probably count on one hand the amount of men who just
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wanted to sleep with me so yeah every girl wants to sleep with you no but i mean i mean i mean we all
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know that when a man meets a woman it's initially you know attraction isn't it like obviously
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women have the same thing as well it's not it's not just men by the way it's not the same um well
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i can look at a man and think oh i'd just love to sleep with him but he's not i wouldn't really
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want to be with him for the rest of my life so we do have that as well yeah but do you get attached
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when that happens i don't know so do you think that's because you've passed the stage where you
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can get attached no i've never been attached you've never been attached through sex no never never
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you've never been in a long-term relationship but it wasn't because of the sex and the sex are
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you meaning has the sex kept us there i've never been whipped so i'm saying i'm not saying whipped i'm
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saying you've never grown to love a man through sex ever no i don't think i have i've loved someone's
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sex yeah staying with someone because someone is good in bed no way i'm not saying you'll stay
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only because he's good in bed but that's typically how women bond we release a hormone during sex
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that men don't which is oxytocin so basically like women fall in love through orgasms as like as weird
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as weird as that is but like really yeah like because we release a hormone that they don't
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but as somebody that so when i think i've had a lot of long-term relationships i'm like a
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relationship person and i'll often wait for quite a while before i have sex with the guy so i want to
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date them first i want to get to know what's about see if there's a connection or anything like that
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and i can also go through phases of not sleeping with them because i think most of the intimacy
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doesn't come through sex it comes through spending time with that person building a connection with
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that person and making memories and things i'm not i'm not saying that's the only way you can bond
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with a guy i'm just saying women bond through sex in a way that men don't i think and and you could
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you could think it whatever but i'm saying like study after study will tell you women bond in a way
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that men don't maybe maybe i'm talking to four exceptions i don't know so is that is that why so
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men do not bond through sex we do they they do but not in the same way they they get they release a
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hormone that makes them territorial that's why like some guys you know they'll sleep with a girl and
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they'll move on and they'll still be mad when the next guy hits because they released a hormone
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that made them territorial yeah i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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