JustPearlyThings - Modern Woman Says THIS Is A Turn Off

00:00:00.000 you get it at this point the only thing i can do is you know cry when you broke up with him is that

00:00:05.040 what it no no no no this was before i broke up with him due to the fact that i just feel like

00:00:08.720 where you're trying to go and where i'm going are two different angles now before we was on the same

00:00:11.460 train you jumped off and hanged out the window like we didn't like you're doing your own thing

00:00:15.060 but he cried based on him trying to be emotional and kind of like f'd up kind of thing and he

00:00:20.380 couldn't control his emotion so his you know i'm saying i think and how long after did you know it

00:00:25.500 was yes like we were i would say that he cried within the first year or two of us being together

00:00:29.560 and we spent another four years if not five together do you get it but he was doing up other

00:00:34.000 things so that's that's the reason i don't know i just don't think it's a coincidence but it depends

00:00:39.340 on how you cry though that's how i'm trying to say that but i think a lot of times like women we don't

00:00:42.780 know what we want because it's like it's kind of like how many times can a guy cry till you like

00:00:47.740 you know you didn't cry that sometimes you're gonna at some point no we'll give you once but if you but

00:00:54.820 wait wait but if you wait come on that's cap if he's crying every day you're leaving

00:00:59.180 that's what i'm saying like that every person's different and so you know at some level like

00:01:06.620 you're going to leave at some point no for me i feel like if a guy cries it shows me that you have

00:01:11.100 a level or consciousness consciousness of emotion i mean i can't be with someone that's heartless

00:01:15.720 just cold roofless night you'll just be like i don't cry just what is that i think it's just

00:01:20.520 human how would you guys feel how would you guys feel if your boss started crying has that ever

00:01:25.340 happened to you female boss male boss yeah yeah nope no yeah i didn't feel sorry for you 0.99

00:01:34.760 because you done fucked up and you being spending too much people damn business in this place and 0.99

00:01:42.320 yeah what goes around comes around and i looked at you and threw you a very small napkin because i 0.99

00:01:47.400 wanted to see you fold it up and let you be no no that's not what we're about to do victim nope

00:01:53.620 i've never i've never seen it i've just heard that's like a phenomenon like i've just heard like

00:01:57.640 girls and high stress yeah yeah that's what i've heard yeah yeah yeah it is from stress 0.73

00:02:02.220 so my managers break down i feel like we get emotionally like what's the word overwhelmed

00:02:05.460 women get overwhelmed whereas men get angry i feel like men cry from a part of their body 0.88

00:02:10.260 which they're not used to hitting do you know i mean that emotion comes from a part of their

00:02:13.440 body they've never hit before like no one's ever hit you there so you're like what what feeling

00:02:16.460 is this what feeling is this bugging out it's like you start bugging out inside no men can cry

00:02:22.360 like men men bug out inside before they cry before your body before your body creates those tears 0.50

00:02:27.220 you're bugging up internally like trying to understand what am i feeling and then your body's put it

00:02:31.020 it's a perspective no but if someone died and he's crying then that's an expressing an emotion 1.00

00:02:35.260 but like if he's crying because you won't let him hit it then he's a pussy 0.99

00:02:39.120 it's kind of like how many times can he cry like i mean i think women i think at some point you get 0.99

00:02:48.580 one a year

00:02:49.280 that's a lie

00:02:52.640 no but you know what

00:02:53.420 no but perl for the first time you've been honest for the first time we've got a woman that said

00:02:58.600 exactly what you can do you can get one a year

00:03:00.620 it's like what tends to happen is women say you can cry 1.00

00:03:03.380 i'll give you one every other year

00:03:04.580 i'd like

00:03:05.180 no realistically though it depends on the topic like it's like if if he like if he's going through

00:03:11.880 like a lot and like he is like going through that emotion and if he's crying i don't

00:03:17.620 i think vulnerability can be attractive in a way realistically but then if he doesn't fix his

00:03:21.860 problems then he's still crying over it then he hasn't gone to the therapist that's what i was

00:03:24.780 gonna ask you i was gonna ask you so if he's crying like he's like oh the first time he's going

00:03:28.320 he's crying every month to um february's crying wednesday's um you know what i mean

00:03:32.560 watch is crying at the same time i've offered him counseling i'm gonna i'm gonna i'm gonna let

00:03:39.060 you haven't talked go ahead well i was just gonna say yeah like obviously if they're crying a lot

00:03:43.280 over like something small like tracy was being horrible to me it weren't fair enough you know

00:03:47.160 it's like ridiculous like all right i'm done with this but in reality if it's a traumatic experience

00:03:51.920 someone's going through or like something's happening and it's a constant and sometimes their

00:03:57.280 reaction is to cry i don't think that is a sign of weakness and it's sometimes vulnerability

00:04:02.180 is strength i have a question i have a question so let's say he he has whatever the situation is

00:04:08.520 how how long can he cry about it so he cries monday can he cry tuesday well can he cry wednesday yeah

00:04:14.440 honestly yeah if it's something like it's like if you're just crying about it and if you can do

00:04:19.740 something to change it it's like yeah no let's say he's stuff up let's say he's depressed

00:04:23.720 yeah monday how how many days in a row can he cry well this is the thing though i think if it

00:04:29.420 was anybody if they were relying on me and they were constantly crying to me for something that

00:04:34.420 they're going through internally i'm happy to be someone's shoulders crying however if you are

00:04:40.540 constantly crying and it's like they yeah it's just it's like we can do these things to help you

00:04:48.640 this is a different way of going through it it's just if it's only crying nothing's happening then

00:04:54.260 it can be difficult on the other person who's having to help them and support them so objection

00:04:59.520 listen where's the camera

00:05:03.520 this is for men

00:05:08.220 a loss

00:05:11.220 a loss

00:05:11.240 in your family loved one friends cool

00:05:15.280 a movie that hit you deep and your eyes will are okay that's it

00:05:23.920 that's a lot of pressure on men listen listen listen listen listen this is real life yeah

00:05:35.040 you have to be a rock you must you must don't ever ever ever all due respect all due respect your

00:05:46.840 lovely girl we spoke before men do not listen to that okay listen to me yeah one second one second

00:05:56.440 one second one second this is for the men i'm gonna hand it back i'm not gonna talk too much this is for

00:06:01.620 the men real talk i'm not trying to make people laugh life is real you most of you know that

00:06:08.800 already you know the struggles you know what's going on you know what you gotta do you don't have

00:06:14.340 that time you can't be doing that stay focused stay on your purpose a loss cool a sad movie that hit

00:06:23.700 you somewhere cool get back on job that's it so i'm gonna just as a man let me just add on to

00:06:31.220 what another man said so yeah guys like this is to the men out there um do not cry to you don't

00:06:36.420 cry bro because women as they find it very hard to explain to you what it's okay to cry about so 1.00

00:06:42.520 the best thing to do is not to cry so she said you can cry once a year pearl said once every two

00:06:48.340 years and she basically said you can cry for about three or four days but by the fifth day if you're

00:06:52.820 still crying i'm not too sure so this is a lot of mixed signals for men so the best thing to do

00:06:58.100 is like what alex says it's just to be a rock and i i'll be honest with you i ain't gonna cry no

00:07:02.960 movies because because no no and but he can give that to you family i pray that we don't have to go

00:07:09.300 through that stuff but at that point you know men can show emotion but i just think it's a lot safer

00:07:13.580 for men just don't cry bro i think i say something okay um i i personally think as a man if you go to

00:07:20.500 a woman and you're crying me i'll lose respect for you it depends what you're crying about like um 0.76

00:07:26.420 if it's a loss or something really bad like of someone dying then yeah but as a man i feel like

00:07:32.420 it takes you off of your purpose when you spend too much time crying about things that you're just

00:07:37.340 wasting time and energy and i think men really value respect and if my man's crying often i'm

00:07:44.300 gonna lose respect for him i don't feel like that's a real man i don't cry to me about it all the time

00:07:49.520 that's but that that goes towards both genders realistically don't sit and cry about everything 1.00

00:07:54.100 all the time as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis

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JustPearlyThings - December 24, 2022

Modern Woman Says THIS Is A Turn Off

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