Modern Woman STATES The UNTHINKABLE
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the benefits and drawbacks of being in a marriage. What does a man get out of a marriage and what does a woman get from a marriage? We also discuss what a man should and shouldn t get from marriage.
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or he would not likely get children from a woman that's over the age of 35.
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But I'm saying by that logic, then the older woman couldn't offer that, right?
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Like, somebody to lay down with at night, you know?
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That's just yours, that you're not sharing with anybody else on the streets.
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Like, something that you're not going to get from being out with your boys at the poker game.
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What do you think a man should get out of marriage?
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Um, I'm not sure, because I don't think a man can really gain anything from a marriage.
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Yeah, I just, I don't think, yeah, they, they don't actually benefit,
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because anything they can get in a marriage, they can get without being married.
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What do you think a man, what do you think a man can get out of marriage?
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I think they get a woman that is, no, if they choose right, they get a loyal woman.
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Because, you know, our choices are down to us, and vice versa with men.
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It depends, it depends, is the man, is the man divorced, or did he have a previous where
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he had children as well, and now he's looking for something different?
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Well, but, but the reason, the reason I'm saying is we know the body count stats.
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If a girl slept with two people, it's like 50-50 on if she, if it will be a successful marriage.
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If she slept with four people, it's like you maybe have a 20% chance of having a happy marriage.
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So, so my question is, what does the right woman look like with these numbers?
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So the right woman is someone who's peaceful, who's got, got like, who's there for her man
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You know, because men need help emotionally as well.
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And I know a lot of men would say they don't, but I've been in long-term relationships.
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They definitely confide in their woman and need that.
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So all I can say is when I was in a long-term relationship, I would be running around making
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sure that when he gets in from work, that the house is peaceful.
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So that would look like running a bath for him, making sure his food was done when he got
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But that's the question is, like, what can a guy get out of marriage that he couldn't
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So when I was younger and obviously would have had the opportunity to get married, I didn't
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I believed in, you know, I'm here and I'm not going anywhere.
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But what I'm saying is, it's hard to speak sometimes without basing it on yourself.
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It's more of a, no, I'm saying it's much more of a, it's much more, no, it's much more
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Well, where the second question is more general.
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Women tend to interpret information more individually.
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Where men will answer questions more, like logically, typically.
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Yeah, because we have, there's benefits to each, there's benefits to each sex, that's
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That's what, I'm just, you're kind of arguing with me about it.
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But my question more is, like, what does a guy get out of marriage?
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I think those were good answers, though, the house peaceful.
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Well, I think nothing then, because, you know, when the.
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Yeah, because the girlfriend's messing up the game.
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Yeah, I did have something, but I'll come back to it.
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Leading on from what you said as well, peaceful home.
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The promise, ultimately, with the marriage, which is different from the long-term relationship
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I would say they get as well, right, okay, so they get the contract, right?
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Yeah, because it comes with punishment, doesn't it?
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Yeah, absolutely what's in the contract, but that's what it is.
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Who typically gets child support, men or women?
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It depends on what family you're growing up in, but most women probably get it, right?
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So couldn't we argue that women actually get a reward for leaving?
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Because it's most women that will bring up the children, so the women are having to bring
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That's a catch-22, though, because they're punishing traditional men.
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If the man does what he's supposed to do, which is protect and provide for the family, then
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they say, oh, gotcha, now you don't get the kids because you didn't spend enough time
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But if he was at home with the children, they would say, why don't you have a job?
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So you think that men would prefer to bring the children up?
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I think that most men would prefer to bring the kids up.
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I think most men would prefer to have the authority on the decision because men tend to be better
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Single father homes turn out significantly better than single mother homes.
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And if you believe in patriarchy, if you believe in men having authority in the household,
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why would they not have authority over their children?
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Can I just say, everyone said they wanted the leader and stuff.
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Wouldn't the father be a better person to raise the kid if he's a leader?
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Yeah, but does he have the time to raise him if he's the leader?
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The point is men will still give the kid to the mother.
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They're the ones that keep the kid away from the dad.
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Where do they learn to keep the kids from the dad?
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All you have to say is, he abused you, and then you get the kids.
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Didn't you say to call your friend if you're having an argument?
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No, I did not say call your friend if you have an argument.
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You don't tell people outside of your relationship about arguments.
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I said if you have something that you're nagging about, when I hear nagging, I think that that's
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So for example, she gave the example of dishes.
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If it's something like the dishes, ultimately, that's her problem.
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So you could go and call your mom or tell your friend, he didn't do the dishes and it
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An argument is an issue within the relationship.
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I would never, ever tell anyone to take issues that are within a relationship, outside of
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a relationship, because that's wrong on all levels.