Modern Woman Who is Attracted to Liars
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Who wins after a high profile break up? Tom Brady and Giselle Boonshans officially divorced on October 28th, 2022. Gerard Peek and Shakira were in a relationship from 2011 to 2022, having two children during that time. After breaking up in 2022, Gerard Peeks has been confirmed to be in a new relationship with 23-year-old Clara Chia Marti. Shakira has moved from Spain to her family s home in Miami, Florida, and has been linked to her 24-year old surfing instructor.
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where I'm always seen to be the side bitch.
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Yeah, I just don't seem to find someone that just wants...
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But do you know he's in a relationship when you meet him?
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I don't come across like I want to have something serious.
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which has made me feel like I don't want no one to live with me,
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and I would want that intimacy and that love from the right person.
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Well, I guess you're a pretty girl, you have a million options.
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I just feel like they, as you said, make more funny thoughts.
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It's like the liars, the lies make you want them.
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Boonshin officially divorced on October 28th, 2022.
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Legal teams from both say that an ironclad prenup agreement was put in place before they were married in 2009,
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making the financial aspects of the divorce relatively smooth.
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What has happened since then and why are they both in the new sense?
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Giselle has been linked with her children's jujitsu instructor, Jomaine Valentine, a 42-year-old Brazilian man,
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with some speculating that they have had something going on before the official divorce.
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He started appearing on Giselle's social media around February, showing Giselle basic techniques on Instagram.
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He has also been seen traveling with Giselle and the children since the beginning of the year.
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Tom Brady, 45, officially confirmed that he is dating Veronica Rezak, a 26-year-old Slovakian model with over 3.2 million Instagram followers.
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She has attended a few of his games and has taken photographs wearing his jersey.
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Gerard Peek and Shakira were in a relationship from 2011 to 2022,
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having two children during that time. After breaking up in 2022,
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Gerard Peek, 36 years old, has been confirmed to be in a relationship with 23-year-old Clara Chia Marti.
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Shakira has moved from Spain to her family's home in Miami, Florida,
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and has been linked to her 24-year-old surfing instructor.
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This begs the question, who normally wins after high-profile breakups, men or women?
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Men or women? Actually, I think I managed to hear what other people got to say first.
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Okay, who wants anyone opinionated and want to start?
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It just depends on how, like, what the situation is.
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So if there's obviously kids involved, if obviously the prenup.
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If you had to pick one, who typically wins in high-profile breakups?
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Because it's like, no matter what, the publicity just sort of, like, dies down on them,
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No, they get publicity, but it's not as much as, like, it wouldn't go as long as what the
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woman's publicity would go on for, if that makes sense.
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So, like, there would be more paparazzi watching the woman, her every move, who she's dealt
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with, and then sort of, like, you'd hear, once in a blue moon, if the man decides to
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leave and show off that he's got a new woman, then they would catch him.
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But it's, like, a one-off story, and then that's it.
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So you would dictate who wins and loses after the breakup by who has less publicity?
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Yeah, because all publicities can be good, but it comes with bad as well, a lot of negative.
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I think after a high-profile breakup, right, the women, the outlook from the society that
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I think they get told that they're not good for moving on and finding someone else.
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So, and also, it's mostly men in high-profile breakups that money is associated with as
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So, as soon as the female goes and finds another partner, it's always, like, she didn't bother
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If a woman's moving from relationship to relationship to relationship, then maybe she isn't the best
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I think a woman that moves from relationship to relationship knows what she wants in a
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relationship, because I'm going to tell you, not a lot of people out there, like, are going
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So, move, I would say personally, move around as much as you want until you find the right
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But couldn't you figure that out before a relationship, like, by asking certain questions?
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Some things you have to live to actually know, because certain people, they know stuff,
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but in order how they apply it practically is completely different.
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You can know so much, but once you get into a relationship, it's way more sacrifices, way
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more compromisation that gets involved that I think is important.
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And if you need to move around as much relationship as you need to, to get that security to finally
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understand that these situations won't work for you, then that's what you might need to
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And I think that women do get looked weirdly for that, but it's what you've got to do.
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Do you think a guy is a good candidate for a relationship if he's constantly having failed
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Like, if he's maybe in a two-year span dated, like, 20 girls, do you think it's likely he's
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I mean, if I know a man has dated 20 women and wanted to come date me, I'd kind of be
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But then, it kind of contradicts what I just said.
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But at the same time, as a man, if a woman has gone through 30 men and came up to me and
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said, I want to have a relationship with you, I'd kind of be like, what's up?
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And also, as much as I said, compromisation is required.
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There are stuff you have to learn and go through.
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Sometimes you have to stick in a relationship for you to actually make stuff work.
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It doesn't necessarily mean moving on to other ones.
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But just because you moved on from relationship to relationship, it doesn't mean you're crazy.
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So, is this question reserved specifically for high-profile relationships or just relationships
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Why don't you tell me your opinion on both high-profile and regular?
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So, high-profile, I think, is a little bit worse.
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Because, say with, also can't pronounce her name, Giselle Bundchen, I think that's how
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Tom Brady, he's probably going to be one of the most wealthy, top 10% type of men that
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And because women, we're high pergamous by nature, we typically can't date down.
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And she would struggle to find someone, especially at her age now that she has children, unfortunately,
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that would give her what she wants, which would probably be marriage.
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So, I think that applies to most high-profile relationships because they have some form of
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Therefore, their partners will probably be a notch ahead of them.
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Whereas for normal people like us, I think women generally, unfortunately, still do lose
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In the short term, they're winning because they can find a simp to buy them a bag and
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They can find men to fit different roles of a partner.
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But in the long term, they would lose because they'll struggle to actually find someone
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And they'll probably get to, say, 35, no children because they've been playing in the
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Whereas if they stayed in the relationship, providing it's not abusive, you know, the
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exceptions to the rule, and they tried to make it work, it probably could have been
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I don't necessarily think that a break-up means that you're going to start sleeping
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I find men do move on pretty quick and they seem to not be as picky.
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I'm unsure of my opinion because there's so many different variables.
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I'm just saying if there's 100 high-profile break-ups, who typically wins?
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Because, as I said, the man moves on very quick and he's not as picky.
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And he can seem to get a lot younger partner than a woman would if a woman's had
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Yeah, it seems like you're saying the man could get like a younger.
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Maybe they want a relationship after that breakup and it's harder for them because they
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Even though the man has children as well, when they move on, that doesn't seem to hinder
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They can still date and move on and do what they want.
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So it's just based on what you said, it sounds like you're saying that the women lose and
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I thought I said, no, I thought I said that the women lose.
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I think if you're looking at high profile celebrity status and breakups, I think generally depending
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on how they break up, I think it depicts on how it would end up, but probably women would
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lose in terms of emotionally, I think, especially if there's children as well, pretty much in
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terms of men, I don't think they're emotionally attached as much as women.
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I think women tend to be more emotionally attached than men.
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So in a breakup, I think when women break up, they break up way before they actually physically
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Whereas a man, I think they're quite flippant and they will do it spur of the moment.
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So I think in terms of who generally wins, I would probably say men in that aspect, because
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I feel like they're mentally there way before women are probably there.
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I feel like a woman knows in her head that she's going to break up with a guy before she's
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Um, so yeah, I feel like when it comes to actually breaking up, I feel like women are more prepared
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for that actually happening that I don't think men think to, especially if they're comfortable
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They're not really thinking about it too tough.
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So I would say maybe men lose more because I just think they're going to, they don't see
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But you think men are more hurt after breakups and women, like women move on quicker.
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Because by the time the woman does it, she's been thinking about it for six months.
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Do you think, who do you think typically is more dating options after a relationship, men
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So in high profile cases, um, again, I think it depends on the, if you had to pick one,
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Cause I think for a high profile man, you'll have more women wanting to do whatever for you
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At first I was going to say, before you brought the sexism into it, I was going to say the
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person with the most money wins initially cause they're out of it.
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Then if it's the man and he's got most money and they split up, then the woman might think
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she's winning because she gets like money and the kids and whatever.
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But then I think the men in the end win, cause they can get any woman out there.
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They're the one younger that looks a whole lot better than the old bag that they've left.
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So, you know, all the stretch marks and everything is gone.
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Cause when you look at all of those, whoever had the most money got someone younger.
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And even though their partner's gone and thought, well, yeah, like, um, what do you call it?
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The, the guy, the perfume, the aftershave guy, what's his name?
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They're an aftershave name like that or something.
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I know it's something to do with sports, but he split up and she's gone and she's got this guy.
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So when they said about women, I find that in the public eye, sometimes the women move on faster.
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Cause the men are less cautious cause they've lost a lot of money.
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So they're not moving on fast, but afterwards they can get a younger person.
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So the women would go out there and they would say, oh, we're going to get married again.
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And the men, they just go out there and get a young lady and play the field because they can.
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So the women might lose out, you know, the men lose out more financially, but in the long run, of course, they got lucky.
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They can go and get any young bird that they want.
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Cause when you're a mature man and you've got money, you're attractive.
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Unlike the women out there that got money because they don't look all that, all the plastic surgery and stuff that they need to keep up their looks.
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But men just work out and they still look good.
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So if you've specified it's a high profile breakup, then I'm guessing we're talking about money here most of the time.
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Cause I was going to say, cause as an athlete, Tom Brady's spotlight, the reason why he's in spotlight is always going to constantly change.
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Like when he, when he said he was going to retire, the spotlight was on just retiring.
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So I think my main part, so what I'm trying to say here is that the spotlight as an athlete for Tom Brady is going to change constantly.
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So people are going to eventually forget that he's been divorced if he moves on with another person.
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So I think for the female, it's more so like she's the one that broke up with Tom Brady.
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And I think the hate that's going to come for the women is more than it is for the men.
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Just considering the fact that he's such a high profile athlete.
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Would you say in society, men are valued more for what they build, where women are more valued for the relationships they can keep?
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Cause Tom Brady can now do something crazy and invest in this many stuff.
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That's what he's going to be in the spotlight for.
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But if the roles were reversed and it was a woman and she had the same company, but she had like three, I don't know how many he has, but like three, four baby fathers.
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People would still look at her funny, no matter how successful she is.
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Have any of you ever looked at an ex's Instagram or Facebook to see how they're doing after a breakup?
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Cause nobody I've been out of the done Facebook.
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I was like, why are you half raising your hand?
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Do you guys get mad if the girl you feel like is prettier than you or better looking?
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I feel like for me personally, it depends on how soon after.
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So how, how soon would, would piss you off versus how soon would make you happy for them?
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Or you can, just not someone better looking than me.
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Like how much you liked the ex, whether you're happy for them or mad?
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So for me not to be with someone, I mean, it's taken me a while to get here to be fair,
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It wasn't previously, possibly maybe before, but I think everyone, there's a reason behind
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And I think if we're not meant to be together, then we're not meant to be together.
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It's taken me a long while to get here, but yeah, I just think, yeah.
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I think if it's a bad breakup, you think, you see him with somebody else, you think,
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But then if it was a good breakup, you know, you just spit, you just spit to yourself.
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Because she ain't going to be as good as me, but well done.
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Because women are bitches and they're always going to say things like that anyway.
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You're not going to say you're going to be happy for someone you just spit out with them.
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Like, if I, if I was to break up with someone, there's either two ways that I can break up.
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One, we have like the most craziest fight and I say, fuck you.
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Or it could be, right, we're going to sit down and talk.
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But at the end of the day, I just don't want to be with you.
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Like, in which circumstance am I going to be like, yeah, you know what?
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If you moved on to another girl, I'll be like, yeah, good for you.
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Because either way, if, if we end up in a fight and you left, I'll be like, good for you.
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I don't know, sometimes if it's a bad breakup, it's just like, it makes you get over it faster.
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That's why I'd prefer the bad ones, because it's just like, done and out of the way.
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I mean, it's like, you don't, because you don't want to deal with the drama of it.
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But at the same time, then you're just over it.
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Can I hear what everybody's, what's your worst breakup ever been like?
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Because it sounds like you's out there doing something.
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My ex broke into my flat after I ended it, I think two months after I ended it, he broke
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I ended it with him, but he had nowhere to go, and I said, oh, I will support you.
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Okay, okay, so, you break up with him, then what happened?
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So, I supported him through the breakup, obviously, so he could get his own place,
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because I knew if I kicked him out, he'd turn back up on my doorstep.
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I was even praying to God, like, please, just let this go nicely.
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A month later, I'm hearing my name outside my house.
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I'm thinking, what the hell, calling my family?
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Everyone's saying, are you sure you're not having a mental breakdown?
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And then, on my birthday, which was like a month after that,
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Like, he didn't come out, but I could smell him in my house.
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No, seriously, because he was outside, and I took my heels off and run up four flights
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of stairs, and then I've gone in, shut the door behind me, and everyone's trying to get
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And I was just like, when I find you, it's over.
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I could just smell him in my flat, and I couldn't find him.
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And then I left, and then I left, and he broke out afterwards.
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I've heard of a woman breaking into a man's house.
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I've heard of a woman breaking into a man's, but it's the first time I've heard of a man
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T, what are you doing if someone stands out of your house like that, and comes inside into
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Is it worst breakup, or is it worse the person, if the person is bad?
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Yeah, so way back in my past, I'm not going to go to my recent.
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Way back in my past, I had someone that was a bit obsessive, actually.
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And then he thought he could go away for the weekend, mess around a bit and come back.
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And then he was finding me in the streets on his hands and knees, crying, begging.
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And he would try and break in, but he didn't ever succeed.
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Yeah, he put a ladder up to the window and also, there was a lot.
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So he put a ladder onto your door and tried to, or up to your window?
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I think I just got out of the way of the window.
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Wow, I can't believe there's two people in here.
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Yeah, he didn't succeed though, and he didn't hide in a wardrobe.
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I mean, he did do some weird things over the years, but I'm not going to go into stuff.
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Is dating a younger, more attractive man than your ex considered a win?
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Doesn't it depend on how he treats you and what person he is, how he carries himself,
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whether he's holding doors open for you, whether all those nice things that you like from
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a man to be treated like a woman, is he doing those things?
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Can I just say, if I was to date a younger guy than I was dating or I'm dating, whatever
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the situation may be, I'd probably catch a case.
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Sorry, the question's based on the Tom Brady and Giselle.
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I mean, I don't know if I'd want to date a man that's that much younger, because it
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They have to get some things out of their system before they settle down.
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No, but then you've got to look at it as, are you actually looking to have a, are you,
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for the younger person, you're actually looking to have a relationship?
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I don't get involved with anyone unless I see a relationship potential.
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Sorry, one thing that I would point out is women typically don't want younger men, and
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I think for men, if they had a, you know, a younger, more attractive new person than
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their ex, then it would be a win for them, because that is kind of their dating metric.
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Whereas with women, I would typically look for someone that's older.
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Like my partner's a little older than me, um, and attraction, you know, a lot of times
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women can replace that with, for example, you know, status or money.
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Whereas with men, if you're not attractive, they won't even give you the time of day.
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It wouldn't be, you know, a win for women, but definitely for men.
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I think, I think that it'd be a win for women if the younger person, younger person, if the
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younger person was, um, more mature, because sometimes you get a younger man, he's more
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No, sometimes, no, there's a lot of good young men out there.
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No, but then if you're actively going out seeking a younger guy saying, oh yeah, this
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is going to make my husband feel shit, like, I'm going to go with that, he's going to be
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like, oh, he's probably more sexually active, probably more good looking, probably has better
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I think that's kind of, that's kind of low key tapped, like, high key.
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In fact, like, if you're thinking about getting with someone to degrade someone that you've
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been with before, it kind of just shows your character.
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And I don't think that's how we should be approaching it, especially right now.
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And as women, I don't think that's how we should approach it before we get labelled on stuff
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I think that's getting with someone for a different reason.
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If it's like a 40-year-old woman and a 25-year-old man, what future could there be, no matter how
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She'll get good sex for about 10 years before he leaves her.
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So would you say that's a win then for her?
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He's out there with an older woman who's got a bit of dosh.
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And I don't know whether it's mummy issues, but I feel like they like to be mothered.
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And I think older women tend to wrap them up and look after them.
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No, I just think that older women knows how to look after a man rather than young people nowadays.
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So what you might see as mothering might be just a traditional woman looking after a man.
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Because if you get an older woman there and she decides to go and give her man dinner,
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go and cook dinner and put it on the tray, you'd be like, what?
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Well, and younger guys, like the guys that I know that will go for older women,
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And they just think it's easier to get it from them.
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Would you guys ever date someone for a long period of time knowing there's no long-term future?
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Don't you think you may be passing past, like someone who's right for you,
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maybe you may miss them whilst wasting your time on someone else.
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Yeah, because, I'm sorry, but if you're with someone and you just think, you know what?
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I mean, just thinking realistically, you either don't have anyone and let time fast you by
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and then, or use all your roses and your lips and whatever,
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or you find a young man and you just think, you know what?
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I've got you for five years or I've got a man for five years and you just enjoy yourself.
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You might be a busy businesswoman that don't want a relationship
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and you might have come to an agreement with someone.
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We're just going to see each other, but we've got five, ten years to waste.
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I personally think that only works for a short period of time.
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You can only be so uncertain for a short period of time
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You'll probably start liking them and being like, yeah, I want to get into a relationship.
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But then they're going to use the fact that you went into a relationship
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without no intention of getting together in the future
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to basically go, yeah, nah, I'm not really getting into one.
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That's one of the main mistakes that women make.
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So, I think that only works for a short period of time.
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You can only be uncertain for a very short period of time.
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Sooner or later, you will end up liking the person, believe it or not.
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How soon will you guys have that conversation of where something is going?
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Is that something you guys do on the first date, third date, a month in?
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Does it not depend on before you even get to that point,
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knowing where you're actually at in terms of wanting a relationship or not?
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Well, I'm saying if you want to be in something long term
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For me, personally, it would be before we become intimate
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Can I just say something before you become intimate?
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So, how many dates are you going to go on before you become intimate?
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I'm just thinking about the guy could be taking you out, like, four or five times
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and then you're going to turn around and say, no, I'd be vexed if I was a man.
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I'm taking you out on five dates and you're going to turn me out getting that and four in.
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Because you've got, all right, then, think about it from a man's point of view.
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You're going to take her out on these dates.
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And then after the fifth date, she's going to be like, you know what,
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From the time you started talking, like, yeah, what's your name?
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But to go on dates and then turn around and say,
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he should keep all the receipts and answer his money back,
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But for someone to say that you really must not have liked the dates like that,
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No, the question was, how long would it be before, like,
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Now, I remember I said to someone, like, when you meet someone,
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I'm dating with the intention before you even go out on a date.
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From the time you said, yes, I'm going to go on a date,
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I think that's what I was trying to say before.
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I think it's before knowing, before you get to that point,
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what you want, going into whether you're going to have a date
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You can tell by the first date that you don't like him.
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I think you get that connection and it is about that energy.
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And I think we do feel that and we do know prior to going forth
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So I do think those that say, I just want to see and wait
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They just say, you know what, I'm going to go on dates with him
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But sometimes you can know someone's not right,
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but you're highly attracted to them, so you keep going back.
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Like, and there were those that are called toxic nowadays.
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You know, some people, well, there's a lot of people
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They know that it's not going to go on purpose.
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I feel like if you get into a situation where you're basically
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you're friends of benefits, you've kind of already established
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But I feel like if you're, before you even go on a date,
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Probably like, give it like a week, give it like a week or two.
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But for you to go on five dates and be like, yeah, I'm not,
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If I'm being honest, a man has to make my fanny flower.
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Like there has to be that sexual chemistry as well as that energy
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And then it's like, you get there and then you're like,
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Because the man would still be going in there that year,
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And then you're just going to build up how to dump him.
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but I have to have that fanny flutter with somebody
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as well as being able to have that intellectual conversation
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And then everything else can't be in my basket.
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where I need consistency to feel safe and secure.
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And obviously that physical attraction, have fun.
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Abusive, whichever way, shape or form that may look.
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I need someone to communicate just as well as me.
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But you realise that communication comes in different forms
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and it's always not going to be compatible with you.
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I'm just telling you so that you don't get upset
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How many men have told you to shut up and be quiet?
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That's probably why they're not honest with us.
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someone that's been in a previous relationship,
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Maybe something I'm not allowed to say on camera.