JustPearlyThings - July 17, 2023


Modern Woman With Her CRAZY DOUBLE STANDARD


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Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

210.98534

Word count

1,516

Sentence count

157

Harmful content

Misogyny

3

sentences flagged

Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of communication and how important it is when it comes to a relationship. Do you find that communicating more with women solves problems or gives you more problems? Do you think communication is a red flag?

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 They totally have, because it's like women will, will call men creepy if they approach. Like I 1.00
00:00:05.440 know so many guys that have gotten, I don't want to say so many, but I've met guys that have like
00:00:09.060 gotten kicked out of gyms just for like looking at a girl too long. Like someone will go to the 1.00
00:00:13.700 manager. I know, I know more than one guy that's happened to, so it's like, but notice that they're
00:00:18.260 getting kicked out for not approaching. That's actually a big misconception. You think, Oh,
00:00:22.180 they're getting kicked out for approaching. No, they're getting kicked out. Like, it's like the
00:00:25.280 friend zone thing. Like you're not in the friend zone because, because you asked her out and made
00:00:28.520 your intent clear. You're in the friend zone because you didn't and you didn't. Right. So,
00:00:32.520 so that's actually a really important distinction. Like if you approach a chick in the gym, you're
00:00:37.160 like, Hey, you're really cute. I know it's the gym. This is crazy. Okay. Whatever, whatever you say,
00:00:40.360 I'm not, I'm not purporting to be a POA. You guys do your thing. Right. But getting that tension out
00:00:44.760 of the way gets that tension out of the way. Like you're being, you're being told you're creepy
00:00:49.620 because you are being damn creepy. What do you guys think is the biggest red flag
00:00:55.160 in the opposite gender? So in, in men, what is the biggest red flag? No communication, 1.00
00:01:01.500 lack of communication. So if they don't text you? No, not communication in that sort of way. Like
00:01:06.300 I can go all day without texting someone. It doesn't really bother me. But when I say communication,
00:01:09.720 when it comes down to things that matter. Okay. Like what? So feelings for one, maybe,
00:01:17.960 no, not maybe, definitely. Okay. So if they're not telling you, they like you. Not saying that
00:01:22.140 they like me. No, but like, for example, how can I put it? Just, just communication
00:01:27.700 in general, just knowing where people are at, if that makes sense. Or for example,
00:01:32.360 I believe relationships aren't 50, 50. They, I don't, I don't think that's a thing. And
00:01:36.340 I don't think it ever has been a thing. Some days relationships can be 80, 20, or it could
00:01:40.040 be 40, 60, but it's the fact that you, you, how can I explain it? Just in order, just,
00:01:48.960 just general basic communication. Like, how was your day? And not just saying, oh yeah,
00:01:54.380 I'm okay. Thanks. Like actually getting in debt with it.
00:01:57.440 Who do you think communicates better? Men or women?
00:02:01.300 Men, logically. Yeah. Men, men are very direct and forward. And to the point where women have 1.00
00:02:06.040 the tendency to just absolutely flap around like, and they end up going from, men go from
00:02:11.000 A to B. It's like a story, start, middle, finish. Whereas women go from here to here to here 1.00
00:02:15.020 to here to here to here to. And then, and then they finally get to the, just after the end
00:02:18.680 and then they got to go back to the middle one, then they finally get to the end. And
00:02:21.380 it's like, well, and I know it's women do it a lot. Women do do it a lot, but like men, 0.93
00:02:26.920 some men just find it, I think, find it difficult to communicate. Like I'm, I just want to know,
00:02:33.100 communicate what? Just how they, not even how they feel like about the relationship or anything
00:02:37.760 like that in general. Wouldn't, wouldn't that just mean he's not into you? Yeah. In a way. Yeah. I
00:02:42.320 get that. But not, I mean, just general communication. It doesn't matter whether it be
00:02:45.400 with a partner in that sort of way or whether it be. Do you find that communicating more with women
00:02:51.500 solves problems or gives you more problems? Depends on what you're communicating about.
00:02:57.500 That is the question. It depends on what you're communicating about, who's involved in the
00:03:01.020 conversation. And I need to, please don't, no, no, no, it depends. I need you to, I need you to give me
00:03:07.280 one way or the other. Wait, repeat the question again. Do you think communicating more with women
00:03:13.740 gives you more problems or less problems? Yeah, more. More, yes. More, because they make you
00:03:18.300 ever think everything. Right, I know. So then why, why do you think they stopped doing it? It's true.
00:03:22.520 It's true. The real joke is that she said communication is a red flag and literally you just
00:03:29.780 had a serious problem communicating your problems. No, I mean, as a red flag, like not, not being able to
00:03:34.420 communicate is a massive red flag. Like if you're upset, tell me why you're upset and we'll work
00:03:38.920 through it together. Like that's what, that's exactly what I'm just saying. Yeah. You're limiting
00:03:43.000 yours to just in a relationship and when it comes to sex and feelings and all that, but you can't
00:03:48.160 even communicate the point across now. So how would you even be able to communicate in a relationship?
00:03:52.620 Oh, sparingly, probably. No, but so I'm saying on a first date, red flag. First date, red flag. Oh, if they've
00:03:59.880 got a bad breath or if they've got like horrible teeth. Okay. Yeah. That's got to be a problem out
00:04:04.360 here. The teeth is like, what do you guys are known for? I haven't noticed it too bad out here,
00:04:10.460 but I've just heard you guys are known for the bad teeth. See, like crooked smiles I can deal with.
00:04:14.440 No dentists. No. Crooked teeth I can deal with, but like, see like, oh, if they're like dirty and
00:04:20.300 grimy and no, I couldn't do it. Red flag. Will you, will you ghost or will you text them that you're
00:04:27.080 done with? Oh, I'm too nice. I have to text them. You'll text. I'll just go along with it a little
00:04:30.780 bit. What will you say in the text? If you're, if you're done with the date, there's the crooked
00:04:34.760 teeth, you got to go. Oh, but it was really nice meeting you. Like, I'd see you again soon.
00:04:39.420 Probably not. No. And then after that, like, so, so, so you do ghost. Yeah. Yeah. That wasn't a ghost.
00:04:48.120 I don't, yeah, I do. I mean, I try not to, I try and make it a little bit better for myself. I'm trying to
00:04:52.660 justify it. It's all right. It's all right. Like, let's do it. We're, we're going to get
00:04:57.100 off our high more. Okay. I try and do it. I try and do it the nicest way, but yeah, I
00:05:00.620 do do it. I do do it. All right. Biggest red flag. Um, I would say touching back on the
00:05:06.140 communication in dating. If you haven't, like, if we're dating, I expect you to check up on
00:05:13.700 me. I would say every day. So if he's not checking up on you every day. Yeah. If you're not
00:05:19.260 checking up on me, um, you're airing my calls or you're not responding to messages, like
00:05:25.920 it just shows that you're not interested. And then you will come back and say, Oh, why
00:05:30.200 can't you come back and say, Oh, I'm working. I'm busy. Um, I'll get back to you. Just having
00:05:36.020 that communication there just shows two things. Either you're not interested or yeah, like
00:05:42.660 it's a bad point. So what if, what if he is interested and is there anything he could
00:05:47.920 do to make you not interested? Um, so like, it's going like he, he's showing that he's
00:05:52.980 interested in you, but this happened. Now you got a ghost or, or text. I mean, it
00:05:58.700 depends which way you go. Um, having multiple girlfriends, having multiple girls as
00:06:05.040 friends. Oh, female friends. Do you have male friends? Uh, not really, you know, not
00:06:10.460 really. So you do, or you don't. Um, I would say about, I would say I have, how, how about
00:06:18.220 four? You have four male friends. Yeah. I'm, I'm a girl's girl. Okay. I don't really have
00:06:22.740 male friends. Wait, so you have four male friends. Yeah. But, but okay. But, but he can't
00:06:28.300 have female friends. No, he can, but, um, no more than. So like a female best friend,
00:06:33.980 that's a red flag. Okay. But you can have your four male friends. It's all right. It's
00:06:38.920 all right. Just be honest. It's all right. It's all right. So you know, like with a female 1.00
00:06:42.860 best friend, I know that you'll go into your female best friend to confide in her and tell
00:06:47.660 her, oh, you confide in your male friends. Be honest. Um, for example, if say, okay, say
00:06:55.740 the guy's not communicating with me, say the guy's not communicating with me. Very
00:06:59.780 good question. I'm loving this. Say the guy's not communicating with me and he, I don't
00:07:03.780 know, he's not answering calls and he's not applying to messages. I might go to my male 0.86
00:07:07.400 friend and say, oh, is he interested in me? Oh boy. So you do. Okay.