Modern Women Admit This About Themselves
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the new movie, Tommy Boy Meek Mill, as well as how women should learn from their mistakes and the pros and cons of dating a woman who has dated a bad boy in the past.
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like now with Tommy are you are you in touch with him at all or do you just kind of I mean
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text here and there you know nothing nothing too crazy I mean he's married and and happy and she's
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good to him and I I totally support that and think and think that's great so I mean I hate to be
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annoying and going through this again I'm pretty sure she's annoyed but um I respect their
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relationship and just glad he's happy and he has somebody in his life do your boys like him or are
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they estranged they do they like him no they they see him all the time they see him all the time and
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I think that this movie too is kind of like a love letter to their parents they know they come from
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true love they want people to see the real story and I thought that was kind of cute and kind of
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charming and and and really you know Brandon um is very artistic and really wanted to show the story
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from a real true authentic perspective it was really it was really well done and and I enjoyed it
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sometimes I I found myself going I wonder if I said to Pam well do you have any regrets like do
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you think there were certain things in life or would you just do it all over the same exact way
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was it was it a fun ride or was there there was there was a tragic or miserable what how do you assess
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it it was all of it but it was more good times than bad and um yeah I wouldn't do it any other way I
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mean I just feel like it was just this wild wild ride and I made a home in one piece I came back to the
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place I grew up in I bought the house of my grandmother and I'm living in it and I'm
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looking at my life from the same place my feet touched the ground when I was a baby I mean I'm
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do you think women learn from their mistakes typically
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maybe they have to be repeated again and again to learn I think I think they learn eventually yeah
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it's difficult to learn things from the first time of making a mistake I think so
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I think it depends on the woman sorry I didn't mean to cut you I think it depends on the woman and
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where she is in a in her life probably not but there are some who do but in general you would say no
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I mean I can only for me I learned but in general I probably think no no what do you think most women
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are in a vicious cycle it just never ends yeah they're chasing something what do you guys think do you
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think in general women learn from their mistakes or no like I said eventually but take it takes a
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little it takes a while to get how many how many times I say on average maybe three three times for
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how many years oh how many months I'd say three times with the person now I feel like yeah I feel
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like in terms of learning your mistakes as well it comes into growing up and your age and stuff like
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the same chances I would have given someone I don't know a few years ago I wouldn't give them
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now like that would take me longer to learn I mean take me quicker to learn than it would have before
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does that make sense what do you think um yeah I think it definitely depends on where you are in
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your stage of growth and what you have experienced before and how you've um reflected on that do you
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think men should date women that have dated bad boys in the past mentioned that do you think would
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you do you think that men should date women that have dated bad boys in the past why not I think
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they might have an attitude women who date bad boys in the past I don't have I think that there are pros and cons to it I think
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from for a man who has dated for a man who dates a woman who has dated a bad boy in the past you would hope
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Or you would think that she would learn from the mistakes of the bad boy and appreciate the good guy
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I guess there's a positive there is a negative because a guy who dates a woman who has dated a bad boy before
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Trauma this trauma or she may bleed on him when he didn't cut her if that makes sense
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So I feel like there's pros and cons to it's like almost the men of the future have to pay for the mistakes of her past
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I feel like everybody has to pay for the mistakes of people's past if you're not healing from it
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I mean, I'm sure we've all at some point had a guy
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That's like trying to go through your phone because some girl cheated on him before. Do you know what I mean? Yeah
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Taking your thumb and unlocking your phone when you're sleeping. Yeah, I love that stuff experience though. Yeah, I think it's more high risk for a guy
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Obviously to get involved woman that's had a bad past, but a lot of men do like to play the hero
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Mm-hmm. You know what? I feel like I feel like even though. Sorry
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Funny enough even though men come across with the stronger personalities than us
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I feel like when it comes to relationships and being emotional
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I feel like they are kind of more fragile in the sense where you one woman will hurt a man and it will stay with him for his whole life
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Whereas with a woman even though we do get hurt and it will take us a while to get over it
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We're not gonna portray that in every single situation talks about our exes more men or women
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But their demeanor will change like the way they act and the way they actually carry themselves will change because of one relationship
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So do you think that men are not as resilient as women or do you think that?
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That men in certain situations allow themselves to be vulnerable allow themselves to trust a woman and she shits on it
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And that's why it hits him just as hard because he that is not a man's default necessarily
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Do you think maybe they just learn what works and what doesn't you know men are problem solvers?
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So if they treat a woman like a queen and she treats him like shit and then they realize oh if I if I treat her worse she treats me better
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Do you know what I think I think when it comes to thinking I think men think with logic
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Women obviously you think with emotion. I feel like emotionally it's easier to heal yourself
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Than logically because I feel like logically you're gonna be thinking okay
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So the past two women did this to me. I need to now watch out for this in the third one whereas where
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Certain women are emotional. It's gonna be I don't know. They're gonna be more prone to forgive
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If that makes sense, I find it and to move on if that also makes kind of sense. Yeah, no, it does make sense
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I I totally I get where you're coming from and I definitely think that women wouldn't you know
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It's biology women operate from you know, the emotional side and men tend to operate from the logical side, but I
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Think that I don't know. I'm definitely an emotional woman. I feel everything very intently
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But my experiences have led me to be very logical in my decision making right?
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So it's like I can sit around and I can be upset that my relationship ended or let's let's say
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Hypothetically a guy cheated on me, right? I can sit around and oh my god
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But I just feel so worthless. What was it or I can okay cool. Look
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That's not really the best example to give but you can look at something logically and be accountable and
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Forgive yourself and then you don't need to chase the whole emotion thing if that makes sense the whole
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Yeah, I kind of know where I was going with but I don't know
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I hear what you're saying, but at the same time
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I feel like cool in the same situation where we would be on the emotional side of things like I said
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A guy will now be logically thinking. Okay, so cool. This guy has done this to me
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Now I'm gonna do this to prevent this from happening again
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And now he's gonna start building up that kind of themselves that kind of wall you get it
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So it's gonna be a thing where now maybe he didn't use to act like this before
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But he acts like this now because of what he's been through, but it's not necessarily emotional
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Not necessarily emotional. It's now kind of wired into his brain. It's like a problem solver. Yeah, it's a problem solver
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So this was the problem and this is how i'm gonna solve the problem by not letting anyone else in
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So I can get the youngest hottest women by treating them like shit
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Because that's what they want or that's at least what they're alluding to what they