JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Admit This About Themselves

00:00:00.000 like now with Tommy are you are you in touch with him at all or do you just kind of I mean

00:00:06.520 text here and there you know nothing nothing too crazy I mean he's married and and happy and she's

00:00:12.820 good to him and I I totally support that and think and think that's great so I mean I hate to be

00:00:18.120 annoying and going through this again I'm pretty sure she's annoyed but um I respect their

00:00:22.960 relationship and just glad he's happy and he has somebody in his life do your boys like him or are

00:00:28.540 they estranged they do they like him no they they see him all the time they see him all the time and

00:00:33.600 I think that this movie too is kind of like a love letter to their parents they know they come from

00:00:39.600 true love they want people to see the real story and I thought that was kind of cute and kind of

00:00:43.780 charming and and and really you know Brandon um is very artistic and really wanted to show the story

00:00:50.340 from a real true authentic perspective it was really it was really well done and and I enjoyed it

00:00:56.740 sometimes I I found myself going I wonder if I said to Pam well do you have any regrets like do

00:01:01.740 you think there were certain things in life or would you just do it all over the same exact way

00:01:06.560 was it was it a fun ride or was there there was there was a tragic or miserable what how do you assess

00:01:11.940 it it was all of it but it was more good times than bad and um yeah I wouldn't do it any other way I

00:01:19.500 mean I just feel like it was just this wild wild ride and I made a home in one piece I came back to the

00:01:25.560 place I grew up in I bought the house of my grandmother and I'm living in it and I'm

00:01:28.880 looking at my life from the same place my feet touched the ground when I was a baby I mean I'm

00:01:34.040 right I look at it all like a movie

00:01:36.480 do you think women learn from their mistakes typically 1.00

00:01:42.440 maybe they have to be repeated again and again to learn I think I think they learn eventually yeah

00:01:50.960 it's difficult to learn things from the first time of making a mistake I think so

00:01:55.000 I think it depends on the woman sorry I didn't mean to cut you I think it depends on the woman and

00:01:59.060 where she is in a in her life probably not but there are some who do but in general you would say no

00:02:06.440 I mean I can only for me I learned but in general I probably think no no what do you think most women 1.00

00:02:12.680 are in a vicious cycle it just never ends yeah they're chasing something what do you guys think do you

00:02:19.400 think in general women learn from their mistakes or no like I said eventually but take it takes a 0.96

00:02:24.680 little it takes a while to get how many how many times I say on average maybe three three times for

00:02:32.900 how many years oh how many months I'd say three times with the person now I feel like yeah I feel

00:02:41.280 like in terms of learning your mistakes as well it comes into growing up and your age and stuff like

00:02:47.400 the same chances I would have given someone I don't know a few years ago I wouldn't give them

00:02:51.080 now like that would take me longer to learn I mean take me quicker to learn than it would have before

00:02:55.520 does that make sense what do you think um yeah I think it definitely depends on where you are in

00:03:01.640 your stage of growth and what you have experienced before and how you've um reflected on that do you

00:03:08.560 think men should date women that have dated bad boys in the past mentioned that do you think would 0.99

00:03:16.440 you do you think that men should date women that have dated bad boys in the past why not I think 1.00

00:03:21.700 they might have an attitude women who date bad boys in the past I don't have I think that there are pros and cons to it I think

00:03:30.280 from for a man who has dated for a man who dates a woman who has dated a bad boy in the past you would hope

00:03:37.240 Or you would think that she would learn from the mistakes of the bad boy and appreciate the good guy

00:03:42.100 Right, and then on the flip side of that

00:03:44.300 I guess there's a positive there is a negative because a guy who dates a woman who has dated a bad boy before

00:03:51.420 she will have this

00:03:53.420 Trauma this trauma or she may bleed on him when he didn't cut her if that makes sense

00:03:58.260 So I feel like there's pros and cons to it's like almost the men of the future have to pay for the mistakes of her past

00:04:03.660 I feel like everybody has to pay for the mistakes of people's past if you're not healing from it

00:04:08.200 And you're not learning from it for sure

00:04:09.540 I mean, I'm sure we've all at some point had a guy

00:04:11.640 That's like trying to go through your phone because some girl cheated on him before. Do you know what I mean? Yeah 0.99

00:04:16.220 Taking your thumb and unlocking your phone when you're sleeping. Yeah, I love that stuff experience though. Yeah, I think it's more high risk for a guy

00:04:24.300 Obviously to get involved woman that's had a bad past, but a lot of men do like to play the hero

00:04:29.620 Mm-hmm. You know what? I feel like I feel like even though. Sorry

00:04:35.220 So they say save a hoe 1.00

00:04:42.180 Funny enough even though men come across with the stronger personalities than us

00:04:47.520 I feel like when it comes to relationships and being emotional

00:04:50.280 I feel like they are kind of more fragile in the sense where you one woman will hurt a man and it will stay with him for his whole life 0.96

00:04:56.220 Whereas with a woman even though we do get hurt and it will take us a while to get over it 1.00

00:05:00.320 We're not gonna portray that in every single situation talks about our exes more men or women

00:05:06.460 Women the hurt party 1.00

00:05:09.000 We might talk about it

00:05:10.100 But their demeanor will change like the way they act and the way they actually carry themselves will change because of one relationship

00:05:15.560 That's what I've seen

00:05:16.560 So do you think that men are not as resilient as women or do you think that? 0.99

00:05:21.680 That men in certain situations allow themselves to be vulnerable allow themselves to trust a woman and she shits on it 0.99

00:05:30.480 And that's why it hits him just as hard because he that is not a man's default necessarily

00:05:34.960 Do you think maybe they just learn what works and what doesn't you know men are problem solvers?

00:05:39.760 Do you know what it is? 0.99

00:05:40.480 So if they treat a woman like a queen and she treats him like shit and then they realize oh if I if I treat her worse she treats me better 0.99

00:05:48.400 Do you know what I think I think when it comes to thinking I think men think with logic 1.00

00:05:55.680 Women obviously you think with emotion. I feel like emotionally it's easier to heal yourself 1.00

00:06:01.520 Than logically because I feel like logically you're gonna be thinking okay

00:06:04.320 So the past two women did this to me. I need to now watch out for this in the third one whereas where 1.00

00:06:09.760 Certain women are emotional. It's gonna be I don't know. They're gonna be more prone to forgive 1.00

00:06:14.560 If that makes sense, I find it and to move on if that also makes kind of sense. Yeah, no, it does make sense

00:06:20.080 I I totally I get where you're coming from and I definitely think that women wouldn't you know 1.00

00:06:24.960 It's biology women operate from you know, the emotional side and men tend to operate from the logical side, but I

00:06:31.440 Think that I don't know. I'm definitely an emotional woman. I feel everything very intently

00:06:37.280 But my experiences have led me to be very logical in my decision making right?

00:06:42.560 So it's like I can sit around and I can be upset that my relationship ended or let's let's say

00:06:47.040 Hypothetically a guy cheated on me, right? I can sit around and oh my god

00:06:50.720 But I just feel so worthless. What was it or I can okay cool. Look

00:06:55.600 Oh, all right

00:06:56.320 That's not really the best example to give but you can look at something logically and be accountable and

00:07:03.200 Forgive yourself and then you don't need to chase the whole emotion thing if that makes sense the whole

00:07:07.600 Yeah, I kind of know where I was going with but I don't know

00:07:10.480 I hear what you're saying, but at the same time

00:07:12.960 I feel like cool in the same situation where we would be on the emotional side of things like I said

00:07:17.760 A guy will now be logically thinking. Okay, so cool. This guy has done this to me

00:07:22.640 Now I'm gonna do this to prevent this from happening again

00:07:25.360 And now he's gonna start building up that kind of themselves that kind of wall you get it

00:07:29.360 So it's gonna be a thing where now maybe he didn't use to act like this before

00:07:32.640 But he acts like this now because of what he's been through, but it's not necessarily emotional

00:07:36.960 Not necessarily emotional. It's now kind of wired into his brain. It's like a problem solver. Yeah, it's a problem solver

00:07:41.920 So this was the problem and this is how i'm gonna solve the problem by not letting anyone else in 1.00

00:07:46.240 So I can get the youngest hottest women by treating them like shit 1.00

00:07:51.120 Because that's what they want or that's at least what they're alluding to what they 1.00

JustPearlyThings - May 29, 2023

Modern Women Admit This About Themselves

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