Modern Women ADVICE To Men
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the importance of a good pickup line, how to pick up women, and how to deal with rejection in order to have the balls to get the girl you want. We also talk about how to get over a woman who doesn't want to be in a relationship, and what to do about it.
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what's your advice to men what's a pickup line that you like i don't have like a specific pickup
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line but i'd say be confident not arrogant and be just be straightforward what's the difference
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between confidence and arrogance well i feel like in the context how good looking he is
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no i feel like with the context that we're talking about you don't want to come off as
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i know i'm coming to get you and i'm getting you and i'm i've got you do you get one do you know
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i think confidence is i don't mind getting rejected but if you reject me i'll walk off
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like a man and i won't oh you're dead anyway or do you know oh that's the worst if a guy gets mad
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yeah that's a uk thing though yeah like for example no that's not just a uk and that happens in sales
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too right i don't know if you saw that in sales but like i did sales for a summer just see how it
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translates to game and there's like rookies that go up the door and the guy slams the door in their
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face and they're like yelling stuff at the guy whereas like a veteran is like okay that person's
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not interested and they don't take it personally yeah versus like trying to get even no in the uk
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guys take it personally they'll be like oh you're ugly anyway but that's young guys
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i don't find it that common i just like here and there yeah yeah yeah i don't know it depends
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um so did you have a line or no i don't have a line but i'd say me personally i like it when a guy
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starts off with a compliment but not an obvious compliment not anything to do with my face whether
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it be something about my style or the way i carry myself oh so if a guy compliments your style
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yeah something yeah what good or bad that's good yeah that's cool okay uh what about you
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yeah i usually like i start complimenting their style or something that because like if i'm
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approaching a person like uh for sure it's because there's something that i'm interested in that
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person oh they approach you oh yeah but i'm approaching approaching you what yeah so tell
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you why you approach me oh i think you're really cool yeah like you seem really cool what's your
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name oh can you talk oh let's change contacts oh that's a compliment still yeah what do you like
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that one yeah i mean as long as i got like the biggest problem i've seen is that like a lot of
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coaches say like come in and say oh you look like you like this or like you know just say really cheesy
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fancy gimmicky stuff where they're like using lines or like you know these these clever pickup lines or
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like different stuff like that and that just has like this air of like this is a little tactic that
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i'm trying to win you over with like all the common theme between all the responses is they want the
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guy to be like genuine and actually like showing that he's interested without hiding it right like
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guys that come up and ask you for directions like it's obvious that they don't want directions
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yeah but like you like lose maybe a little respect because he's not having the balls to be
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through for him and that's the iron if you think about it you only get good at that if you deal
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with rejection right because it's almost the emotional calibration you have to deal with the
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rejection to get that didn't work that didn't work or that didn't work with that type of woman so you
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have to do that in order to have the hey how's it going how you doing that's the beauty of rejection
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what's your line my line oh um yo what's happening
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i have to own that but also i want you approached him yeah okay how what line did you use
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it wasn't really a line it was an ultimatum a little bit if you don't want me there's lots of
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men doing she really played the kind of manipulation with it but we were good friends for a long time
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though to be honest i've seen him did you friends on him or did she friends on you no no one friends
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on each other when i first saw i was in a relationship so and then we just became friends
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we're doing a lot of the same coaching and self-development together and then when i got
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single she kind of did the ultimatum if look you better take me now because if you don't someone
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else will want me you know but for the minute i first saw it was just like love at first sight
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but i was in a relationship that's crazy i wasn't a relationship how long until you dumped the
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that's not i'm assuming you dumped her no i didn't dump the girl because of her it just didn't work
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out well how did you not dump her if it was i thought it was love right because there's some
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holes in the story where i met the context i met we were doing a lot of self-development training
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massive and self-development country um company and integrity was a very important thing in terms of
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the training we were doing and i had to learn that because i've come from a culture of just
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chatting up girls willy-nilly right but i still never really believe in cheating necessarily i've
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always because my parents have been married for 60 plus years i've always believed the monogamy and
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the rest of it but from an integrity point of view i was already in a relationship so straight away i'm
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not going to even go there i can acknowledge oh my god she's beautiful that's exactly the kind of
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woman i want to be with but because of my situation i was like i'm not going anywhere near there
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and when it naturally ended and i was single and we were friends for ages she then made the move and i was
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like hell yeah i'm up for it because for the minute i met you you were perfect you know
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yeah i don't know what i don't know what to feel about that i don't know whether to be like
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respect or be like no iris but what if it worked out with the girl you're in the relationship with
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yeah i would never have got into a relationship with her you'd have been in love she was an opportunist
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that's not a bad thing it's not a bad thing i own my action i've seen that guy and there's a lot of
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values that he have that i value now here's the thing right even though he was in a relationship
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i didn't really interfere at all we were friends we'd probably chat once every now and then now when
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he was uh not in that relationship i was not his type anymore because when he met me i was the perfect
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size you know i was the perfect look i lost it i had to work my you know self to be that person and
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that's something i own who i am you know i mean i know exactly what i want and if there is an
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opportunity of course i'm gonna go for it you know there's no shame about it yeah go for what you
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want yeah yeah and my advice for guys because i know that's the question is don't listen to women
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they're most of the time they don't know personally i don't know what i want from a man go and find
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someone that inspires you a man that really have that perfect relationship there's so many coaches
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out there coaching you about relationship but they're not in one go and find a relationship
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that inspires you and get his advice he will be able to open his heart and share his advice with
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you so question for the women have you ever approached a guy and have you ever been rejected
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no yes yes yeah oh cool okay tell me tell me no i've approached but not been rejected oh you've never
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been rejected you have you approached yeah have you been rejected yeah what happened um it's just
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when i open up and say what i want for my future and what i like for example that i want to be
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married and i want to have a family they tend to be like you said that immediately yeah oh yeah okay
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pretend i'm the guy well not at a bar not at a bar say oh i want to get married like on the first date
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or something like that yeah on the first date i'm talking about like approaching a guy like cold
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approach oh no no no no no never have you ever cold approached uh i think i have at a bar at a club
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yeah they're always into it yeah okay what about you have you ever cold approached no no no have you
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ever cold approached i don't think so no that's interesting right i would know i don't know i don't
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have been said yeah i have no never yeah you've never coded but but what about you have you ever
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approached a guy yeah were you ever rejected yes really yeah how what do you say um i remember like
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once i was like in the grocery there was this really hot guy like it was like john like exactly
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no it was like my type like this and then i was like oh my god but i was like you know it was like
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civil engineer working a site construction so well like almost like the majority of my time i wasn't
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like dressed up i wasn't like cute it was like with boots like jeans like you know and then like
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he came up to him and he said oh i'm sorry i'm married and i said okay oh but he's married that's
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good yeah but it happens and i think like when i was younger too like i i don't know i think getting
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rejected is like part of life yeah i'm curious from the guys is there a rejection that was like your
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worst rejection that you can think of well i've called the push like probably tens of thousands of
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times but you know every now and then there'll be a girl that just tells you to fuck off or like
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tries to insult you personally or something like that and that that can hurt sometimes right you get
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over that like you just you just learn that's gonna happen sometimes but especially for like
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clients that aren't used to approaching if they hear something that early on where the person says
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like oh no i don't like you because of this and this that sticks in their head and they think
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every girl thinks that and it can be like debilitating and i can take them out of the game
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um i think for me the first the worst approach um rejections i can remember is when they don't say
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anything they pretend they don't hear you no they look at you like how dare you even think you have
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what it takes to come up to me and they don't say it's just everything in the eyes is saying that
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and you feel like some girls when they don't hear you too like they just stand there but they'd be nice
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if they're pretending they don't think they're the ones that hurt you and they're looking at you like
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you almost insulted that you come up to them that happened to me like two days ago with the girl
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okay i i just was complimenting her outfit i was like oh my gosh that's so cute she just looked at
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me no and i know she's i know she heard me and then she just like kept like because i was sitting at
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like a table bar you know what i mean and she just kept she just like looked the other way okay then
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then i go to this other place right and she's there and then she starts talking to me and she's like can
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you take my instagram picture i'm like i just said hello before yeah so i feel you that that was
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hard but that was when i was young now i'm like it's it becomes almost like funny though like in
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the beginning like if a girl would ignore i'd be like oh my god like i'm horrible yeah but now like
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if i go out to a bar and i'm like hey i want to meet you real quick and the girl's just like
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pretend she isn't here i'll be like i know you're hearing me can i just talk to her a second if they're
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still not responsive then i'll just walk away you know i just walk away right away but it doesn't
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even register you get to the point i mean if i was single as well it's like you just don't care yeah
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but it's almost like it's almost like funny too you're like look at this okay the chat is saying
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tell me you didn't take your picture i did i'm not even gonna tell me you social pressure wow
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i was just like what because i was so confused because she just handed me her phone and then
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she starts like doing these poses was it a half of us it was a full instagram like it was like it was
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in a restaurant so it was just like she's in the restaurant the servers are walking by and she's just
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like doing these full out like and you were taking pictures and she was approving them or not yeah
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again no no it was just because i was kind of confused did you ask her why she ignored before or no
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no that's even worse i was just kind of taken aback to be honest i was just like is this what men
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go through like when they go on a date that is what men go through yeah i was like i feel like i'm a part
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you had one minute of a lifetime for so many men yeah yeah i was like i don't like this
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look at that woman that became a man for a bit wasn't it the story where she became a man for a
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bit she committed suicide she unalived herself as they say yeah she was only a man for a short time
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well i don't think most women like i don't think we really noticed the privilege we're given
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in society just from being young women where we're like treated better by people and the first time
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this happened to me i um i worked in a sales job and i was the only girl in the office and people
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would always help me with whatever i wanted you know what i mean yeah and all the guys around me would be
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like oh it's because you're a girl it's because you're a girl and i was like no it's because i'm
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so bubbly and i work hard yeah okay yeah and then i found out it was in fact because i was a girl
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because i feel like you're not even in like a romantic way but i think that men just have more
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of an inclination to like help yeah yeah they're more fun than helping a guy what it's more fun than
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helping a guy yeah even if it's not like it also goes the other way though because then there's also
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the sense of not taking women as seriously as well so it flips doesn't it i've never like i've never
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felt that was an issue to be honest and i've worked in like predominantly male dominated fields i think
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it's an advantage not a disadvantage yeah but i think you've probably learned how to you know your
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powerful woman so you've learned how to i'm the same i will always circumnavigate whatever you know
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limitations to site based on me based as a black man for instance i don't care yeah some people don't
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learn that skill so they actually internalize no i'm not enough i think it's an excuse i think
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there's zero limitations as a woman like zero none unless it's like a strength i agree i'm gonna lie
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yeah i i feel like the girls that whine about going to corporate and having a hard time like i just
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think it's an excuse they're just big whiners i don't think so pearl i have to say there is there is
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listen there's women do get treated by compassion people help them out but there's also the view of like
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oh woman is a weaker than a man and there's nothing wrong with that logic like physically
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woman is weaker than a man but if a woman's trying to get some level of finances or authority she will
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definitely get a backlash of like you're a woman i disagree i think there's quote there's quotas for
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women i think women get put in positions they shouldn't be in all the time as many of you know
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