JustPearlyThings - October 25, 2023


Modern Women ALWAYS Give Excuses


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10 minutes

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180.24628

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1,859

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00:00:00.000 What up guys? Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel and welcome to Pearl Daily where
00:00:05.580 I cover this week's treachery, debauchery, and craziness. Before I start, don't forget to
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00:00:30.580 Okay, so our first story today. I talk a lot about on this show how a lot of times men will
00:00:36.940 meet what they think is a good woman. And I've covered the story of Tyrese Gibson getting divorced
00:00:42.720 and he has spoken about how he met his ex-wife in a $15 sundress. She signed the prenup. She was okay
00:00:49.840 with everything. And now she is taking him to the cleaners in divorce court. And for months,
00:00:55.420 I've seen Tyrese really asking on different shows where he went wrong. He wasn't unfaithful. He loved
00:01:01.340 his wife. He really has no idea why the marriage dissolved. And this is how a lot of men in their
00:01:07.340 40s and 50s hit the red pill. They really think that they have their life figured out. They have
00:01:13.080 the woman that they love. They're good with it for the rest of their life. And then one day their woman
00:01:17.100 comes home and wants a divorce and they don't know why. And recently, Samantha Lee is actually
00:01:22.860 giving some insight as to why the couple did divorce. Let's pull it up.
00:01:26.800 Child's father. I have a lot of respect for him. I'll always, there will always be a part of me
00:01:32.300 that will love him because of like what we share together. Um, and the child that I look at every
00:01:38.200 day and like, she looks like him, you know, she looks like us. Like, you know, it's wow. Yeah. Yeah.
00:01:44.500 That is something. Are you now in the spirit of potentially even being able to rekindle a
00:01:49.860 relationship? It's loaded because of the fact that there's been so much that's happened, you know,
00:02:04.260 like there's been so much that's occurred. Um, okay.
00:02:09.160 My daughter's father. So I would, I would say this, I would say that if we were both going to show up
00:02:24.180 and we were both going to fight for it equally and sacrifice equally, like, you know, things that I
00:02:31.940 needed and, you know, things that, you know, he needed, I wasn't perfect. Yeah. Um, the girl.
00:02:38.400 Um, so I w I would, I would say that if, if, if we were both willing to fight and we were both
00:02:45.120 willing to do certain things and yes, something about that actually makes me very happy. No,
00:02:52.020 I don't know.
00:02:54.420 No, I'm just saying like, if it's, if it's, it's my child, like, you know, no one wants a broken
00:02:59.020 family. No, that's exactly, that's what it is for me. Yeah. Like if it was something that it was
00:03:04.180 like, it was, if it was a situation, you have to hear me, sir, excuse me. You have to hear me all
00:03:10.320 the way. You have to hear me all the way. Okay. Okay. I'm listening. I want to point out that all
00:03:18.300 of the world's evil comes to egalitarianism. Whenever you have a woman that says we need to
00:03:24.240 fight for this relationship equally. Um, there's two places she went wrong. Number one, once a guy
00:03:30.980 is to the point that women select him, meaning he has his fitness in check. He has his money in
00:03:36.700 check. He has his game in check. You know, it takes men a lot of work to get to the point to be a guy
00:03:43.400 that we want to marry. And really, I would argue that women should put more effort into the relationship
00:03:49.200 than men. I think it works better that way. Men have to focus on God, on their purpose, and women are
00:03:55.280 supposed to submit to the authority of the man in their life. Meaning a lot of times it seems to
00:04:00.960 women that they are doing more for the men than the men are doing for them. And it's because
00:04:05.640 they don't count the amount of effort it has taken men to get to the point where we want
00:04:10.060 to select them. And a lot of times what you'll see in wives is they'll, they'll think they're
00:04:16.120 doing more because maybe they're cooking for their husband three days a week. Maybe they're
00:04:20.320 cleaning the house. Maybe they're watching the kids, but they don't count the effort it
00:04:24.260 took him to build the life that you're in. And my question to her is what more effort could
00:04:29.780 he put in equally? I mean, he's handsome. He's successful. He's wealthy. The grass is not
00:04:36.440 going to be greener on the other side. I don't know what this woman thinks is on the other
00:04:40.020 side as a 40 something year old single mother. And the problem is we have romanticized divorce.
00:04:47.980 We have told women that you are going to be happier on the other side of divorce. And it
00:04:53.020 is just not the case. It's not true. Occasionally there are women that do fare better after divorce,
00:04:59.000 but overwhelmingly women are not more likely to remarry. They're not more likely to be more
00:05:04.520 financially stable. They do not do better unless they're stealing money from the men.
00:05:10.460 And I think this is an important lesson. I think there's something we can learn from this
00:05:14.500 that a lot of times as women, we, we, we count favors. And I always say, whenever you have a girl
00:05:21.340 that says we both need to invest in the, into the relationship, I just did so much for him.
00:05:26.500 I would argue that is actually the biggest red flag because you are keeping score and keeping score
00:05:32.580 does not work in relationships because true femininity is actually selflessness. It has
00:05:38.100 nothing to do with nails. It has nothing to do with fashion. It has nothing to do with any of that.
00:05:43.500 It's actually submitting and serving the men in your life. And that's where a lot of these femininity
00:05:48.820 coaches get it wrong. They focus on looking feminine instead of being feminine. And the problem is you
00:05:54.660 have a lot of wives and mothers that might look the part, but they are not the part. And it's really
00:06:00.360 a phenomenon in society, which I call the pretend wives. You know, when we think of our, our mothers,
00:06:06.460 our grandmothers, our great grandmothers, the last generation of real feminine, submissive women,
00:06:12.300 they weren't counting all the stuff they did for you. They weren't saying, I did this. You need to do
00:06:17.020 that because true love is selfless. But this is my point is we have a lot of women that are really
00:06:22.760 fake wives. They're not actual submissive women, but you know, they wear the sundress, they have
00:06:29.520 their nails done, they get the Botox, they look pretty. But in all actuality, if you look at the
00:06:35.520 women 150 years ago, they were not concerned with looks, but they were a hundred times more feminine
00:06:41.760 than the women today. I don't think the women weaving baskets, working on farms, or any of the
00:06:47.820 other jobs that they did 150 years ago, were really concerned with the way that they looked.
00:06:52.980 It came second. Their first needs were the needs of their men. And the problem is the women today
00:06:58.360 keep score. So they'll say, oh, I did this for him. I did this for him. I did this for him. And we don't
00:07:02.640 keep track of the things that they do for us because we're just naturally kind of self-centered.
00:07:07.240 And we think about everything from our point of view instead of the view of the family. And as I've said,
00:07:12.540 really, we have a bunch of bronze and below standard wives.
00:07:19.360 If we can go back and if I were able somehow to insulate you with a pro-marriage,
00:07:25.680 pro-relationship community, do you think you still would have actually gone through a divorce?
00:07:30.060 Not that time.
00:07:31.660 Okay.
00:07:32.360 I don't know what would have happened. I've never said this publicly.
00:07:36.360 No, this is what we do.
00:07:38.640 This is a Harley-initiated exclusive, baby.
00:07:41.460 Blah, blah, blah. Make sure you zoom in on this one, okay?
00:07:44.040 It gets deep.
00:07:45.520 Actually, no.
00:07:48.320 I want to deny myself. I want to deny ability.
00:07:52.520 Yeah, no.
00:07:53.140 The truth about the matter is that if I had different people in my ear at that time,
00:08:04.320 I would not have made that decision. No.
00:08:06.360 And it's interesting to see her dodge accountability like the plague.
00:08:13.740 You know what I mean?
00:08:14.720 Her first response is, my friends made me do it.
00:08:18.040 And I do appreciate her being honest.
00:08:20.680 I really do.
00:08:21.980 But I also wanted to point out how women,
00:08:24.740 it's like our first response is to blame somebody else and not ourselves.
00:08:29.500 But I also wanted to point out that women are very influenced by the culture.
00:08:33.900 Women are very influenced by their friends.
00:08:36.780 Women are very influenced by their family.
00:08:38.680 Women are influenced by everybody around them.
00:08:41.780 And that is what I see a lot of, like, trad cons, I guess.
00:08:45.560 They'll basically act like their women are inept to the culture and it can never happen to them.
00:08:50.460 And then time and time again, we see that it does.
00:08:53.800 For example, Dennis Prager has been married three times.
00:08:56.700 Many public media conservative Christian personalities have been married multiple times.
00:09:02.280 For example, Tom Brady.
00:09:04.020 You know, when you ask yourself, were those men not alpha enough?
00:09:06.960 Were they not?
00:09:07.500 Did they not lead well enough?
00:09:09.060 And that's why I point out that men have a very real reason to fear marriage.
00:09:14.920 I think it's a valid concern.
00:09:16.660 And for some men, it's just not going to make sense.
00:09:19.560 So I'm going to look in the comments section here.
00:09:21.680 They said, fight, fight equally for something that she ruined by herself.
00:09:27.440 Yes, exactly.
00:09:29.940 Exactly.
00:09:30.940 Again, it's the lack of accountability.
00:09:33.440 Well, I had to divorce him.
00:09:35.120 We didn't fight equally.
00:09:36.640 And you see the simps co-signing this behavior.
00:09:40.240 And this is the problem, ladies.
00:09:42.000 These guys never tell you the truth.
00:09:44.580 They are so deceptive.
00:09:46.140 They are dishonest.
00:09:48.080 And men hear the things we say.
00:09:50.500 They process it.
00:09:51.500 And they come to a conclusion if that makes sense or it doesn't make sense.
00:09:55.940 But most men will not tell you when it doesn't make sense.
00:10:00.060 And you see her on this podcast and they're kind of coddling her.
00:10:03.200 They're saying, oh, this makes me happy.
00:10:05.260 Instead of saying, well, why did you ruin it?
00:10:08.280 It's always everybody else and not themselves.
00:10:10.680 And that's why I argue that really a lot of these red pill channels, Kevin Samuels, Fresh and Fit,
00:10:16.380 they're actually heroes because they tell women the truth.