JustPearlyThings - Modern Women and STD's： Syphilis and Hepatitis (Call-in Show)

00:00:00.280 STD Friday! Oh my god! Where we go over the STDs that are out there right now. I know

00:00:07.680 it's an uncomfortable part of dating, but we do have to talk about how to avoid STDs

00:00:12.520 and what STDs are out there because this is a part of dating today. If you think that

00:00:16.840 you are too good to get an STD, it can really happen to anyone. Half of the people I interview

00:00:22.300 are married. But before we get to today's topic, I thought we'd kind of start with a

00:00:26.720 little fun segment. So one of the guys that works with with us here, his name's

00:00:34.520 Aaron, and he's had some dating issues that he wanted to talk about with me and

00:00:40.280 Doug MPA. So we're gonna bring him on the line and maybe as a class we can go

00:00:45.220 through his problems. I don't know why my if I look here today, guys, the my

00:00:53.360 mouse like won't charge for some reason. So I'm having to put the chat on my

00:00:57.440 phone. So bear with me. Okay, but hi, Aaron. Welcome to the show.

00:01:04.280 Uh, what's kicking chicken? How's it gone? Good. So tell me about your problems. Tell

00:01:10.820 me what you're telling me before before the show. You want to stalk somebody or no

00:01:15.260 no no no. I didn't say that. I was listing out a hypothetical. Let's just say

00:01:19.740 hypothetically, you suspect that someone you know, is dating somebody and you know,

00:01:25.740 you want to find out like if it's true or if like there's something going on, if

00:01:29.400 they're hiding something, would it be crazy if you knew that person was going to

00:01:33.540 be at a certain bar restaurant or something to like go in disguise to that

00:01:38.680 place to find out what they're up to? Cause like maybe they're not actually

00:01:41.240 dating somebody. Maybe you're just paranoid and you go there and you just see

00:01:44.580 them alone and then your conscience is clear. But like, what if you, I don't know, see

00:01:49.440 them with like a woman or a man or something, if you're in disguise and you

00:01:54.120 don't just confront them up front, you can like hear like their conversation.

00:01:57.720 Like if they're talking about like, you know, doing it or something, then, you

00:02:01.440 know, yeah, they're dating someone or something. Or, you know, if they're talking

00:02:04.020 about like their grandparents, it's probably just family or friends and you

00:02:06.660 know, you're just in your head or something. Who is this person?

00:02:10.440 I won't say, I won't say it's okay. Okay. I'm gonna ask the easy question.

00:02:16.120 Are you dating this person?

00:02:18.480 No, no. Uh, well, there is no one person I'm talking about. It's just like a

00:02:22.000 hypothetical, just like for anyone. Like, let's say you suspect your friend has a

00:02:25.400 girlfriend and he's not telling you, or if like there was a girl you just

00:02:28.260 recently broke up with or something and you suspect she might've been cheating on

00:02:31.700 you. And so, you know, you think there, or if you suspect, like maybe, I don't know,

00:02:34.800 maybe your dad is like having an affair or something. Okay. My first question is,

00:02:39.340 do you have any hobbies?

00:02:42.320 I am a graphic designer by trade and I'm also a ventriloquist.

00:02:45.820 Okay. So what would be like, what do you think that you have something better to

00:02:49.440 do than stalking?

00:02:52.280 Well, I mean, it's not really stalking if you're just trying to get down to the

00:02:54.820 truth, you know, like what if I, what if my buddy, I won't say his name, but like,

00:02:58.440 what if my buddy who does not get a lot of women, cause he's a bigger guy, you know,

00:03:01.820 and stuff. What if I suspect that like he's dating someone and he's not telling

00:03:05.680 me about it and I want to know about it. And I like go down to like this bar and

00:03:10.520 that's where I know he's going to be.

00:03:13.000 Well, why do you need to know if he's dating someone?

00:03:16.680 Like get down to it or something. Why? You know? Well, because like then whatever

00:03:22.180 excuses he's giving me, like these ridiculous other reasons why he has to leave

00:03:25.420 work earlier, why he has to go to his apartment. Suddenly they all fall through and

00:03:28.660 it's like, okay, buddy, like, don't lie to me.

00:03:30.280 But here's the thing. What, cause here's the thing. If you were approachable for him

00:03:35.900 to tell you about it, he'd tell you. And second off, if it's affecting, if it's

00:03:40.680 affecting his work performance, you don't need to know what he's doing for, for you

00:03:45.080 to, to confront him on him leaving work early or, or him not be a good friend

00:03:49.640 anymore. You can address that without knowing why he's doing it. You can say, Hey man,

00:03:53.360 what the heck is going, you need to confront him directly about that. Whether you find

00:03:57.080 out he's dating someone or not. Would you, would you finding out he's dating someone

00:04:02.700 excuse his behavior? No. Well, but it would also, well, it doesn't

00:04:07.320 also have to be that, you know, like his work is, you know, slacking off. Maybe he's just

00:04:10.360 like acting odd and I need to know like why he's acting odd or something. And by the way,

00:04:13.700 the first part is not true. Like it doesn't make me any less approachable. Like you can

00:04:17.260 probably tell by the way I'm speaking that I'm autistic and autistic people are approachable.

00:04:20.480 So first of all, that's the first thing, um, you know, that's, I mean, I know that's like

00:04:25.520 a little ridiculous to say, like, I know how I sound, but like, still, like, I just want,

00:04:29.200 I just want to throw that out there for further context or something. Right.

00:04:31.800 I recommend getting like three hoes. Yeah. Because I just think you need somewhere else

00:04:39.340 to put your mind, you know, like if you had three women bothering you, you wouldn't really

00:04:44.460 be too worried about if he was dating someone. Right.

00:04:46.980 Well, and believe me, I would love to have three hoes, you know, you don't need to tell

00:04:51.320 me that or something. I mean, you know, I being, you know, 20 and living on my own, I'm doing

00:04:55.660 my best here. Um, even though I just recently got, even though I just recently got my own

00:04:59.600 apartment, but I was close to being able to secure two more recently until I got dumped

00:05:04.340 last night. Oh yeah. Um, I was close. Okay. Okay. So tell us, I'm taking your, tell us about

00:05:10.240 the dumping. How'd it go? What happened? So, so I had met this girl on Snapchat, right?

00:05:16.960 Um, how do you call it on Snapchat? Just like, you like, just, you just like start like quick

00:05:22.560 adding people. You go to the quick ad tab, quick ad, quick ad, just like randomly add

00:05:25.720 people. Snapchat is like within all your quick ads are within like location proximity of

00:05:30.780 people that are like close to you around there. So you're automatically being matched with like

00:05:34.560 women that are close or something. Then once you ask the basic questions, like, Hey, where

00:05:38.040 are you from? How old are you? Stuff like that. You know, what do you look like? That's

00:05:41.260 when, you know, you start to reel them in a little bit. And that's, and that's what I did

00:05:45.280 with this girl. You know, I added her randomly. Hey, how old are you? Where are you from? What

00:05:49.080 do you look like? Once I realized, you know, she was my age or she was 21. She was one year

00:05:52.980 older, close to me and also looked pretty hot. I asked her like, Hey, do you want to get

00:05:57.020 together? Um, and we did a couple of days later. Um, and then we went back to my apartment.

00:06:03.460 Um, and you know, okay. Read the Bible, read the Bible. Um, good job. But, um, then she

00:06:13.800 had to go to Florida for a week and, you know, we talked for a while. I was trying to keep

00:06:17.820 it on the down low that I was dating this girl because I have like former roommates who

00:06:22.200 I also like work with and stuff who I didn't really want knowing about it. But I told this

00:06:27.280 girl that works downstairs to where we work about it and she spilled to them. So it's kind

00:06:32.040 of out in the open now or something. And I kind of just had to bite the bullet and realize

00:06:35.620 like, okay, I need to be like a little more private about my stuff if I don't want stuff

00:06:39.560 getting around to them. So finally, um, she comes back from Florida about a week later.

00:06:45.120 She shows up at my place. We like order a pizza and we're talking. Um, obviously since she was

00:06:50.280 coming to my place, I was under the assumption that something else was going to happen. But then

00:06:54.980 she, uh, basically starts asking me like, what is this? Like, what are we doing? And I'm

00:07:00.140 like, and you'd known her a week at that point, a week and a couple of days, maybe 10 days.

00:07:06.340 Okay. So now she, it's the, what are we conversation? Basically. I'm like, what do you mean? She's

00:07:12.060 like, you know, we're too old to be playing these games. You know, I can't keep doing this without

00:07:17.540 like a commitment or something. And I'm telling her like, Hey, first of all, take a chill pill.

00:07:23.080 Like we've seen each other one other time or something. How about we just sit back, you know,

00:07:27.280 enjoy our evening or something. And she just keeps standing on her ground. Like, no, I need

00:07:32.500 a commitment. And just basically as she's saying like, okay, well, that's going to be the case.

00:07:36.160 Have a good night. She's grabbing her stuff, walk out. Um, I did try and make one last move

00:07:41.320 basically because as she's like walking out, I told her like, Hey, well, real quick, you know, if

00:07:46.620 where'd he go, Oh, you there. Hello. Oh, I don't hear him. Are you still there? I'm here. Can

00:08:04.040 you hear me? Okay. I'm letting him back in. What do you think of a girl asking for commitment

00:08:11.220 after 10 days? Yeah, no. Sorry, my internet. So, I mean, was this girl the same age as you,

00:08:20.600 like 19, 20? He says he was, she was 21. Wait, okay. So finish the, finish the story. So what

00:08:29.180 happened when she was, she said she was walking out and then what happened?

00:08:33.140 And now he's on mute. I asked her like, yeah, yeah. I'm sorry about this. Basically. Um,

00:08:45.360 as like, she's on her way out. I asked her, I was like, well, Hey, if us are going to be a thing of

00:08:49.240 the past, how about just for old time sake? Then I started pointing at my bedroom and then she just

00:08:54.400 turned around and walked out. Um, and that was the last I saw for basically. And then she unadded me

00:08:59.900 on snap and stuff. So that's, uh, that's where I'm at. What do you think, Doug MPA?

00:09:09.200 Um, one of the journeys of a man is taking L's and moving forward. Cause that's one of the biggest

00:09:16.360 differences between men and women. Like you, you gotta learn how to, uh, how to take L's. And here's

00:09:22.100 the thing. If a woman breaks up with the, okay. If a woman tells you something, believe it the first

00:09:26.120 time, move on. She kind of, she kind of took the L though. Cause he like hit and then didn't want to

00:09:34.980 commit. Well, yeah, but, um, you know, just move on. If you're still, you're not still occupied with

00:09:42.720 this girl. Are you like, are you glad she's gone or what? I mean, it was good. Like this time that

00:09:48.640 we spent together. So I can't really say that, you know, I'm thrilled that like nothing will

00:09:54.220 happen. Any chance of anything will happen again or something. But you know, if, uh, she's going to

00:10:01.020 walk out that easy, um, over like a stupid, like, Oh, we're too old for these games. Then I can

00:10:06.300 understand how maybe I like matrix level dodged a bullet or something. But, you know, at the same

00:10:12.400 time, you know, like, you know, with me finally, like having my own apartment and stuff, I do want to

00:10:17.660 get to the point where like, I can regularly like bring a lot of these women over and like, not

00:10:21.900 have to worry about, you know, competing with some of the people I work with and stuff who are bringing

00:10:26.440 in women left and right or something, you know, like I got like these older coworkers who are like

00:10:31.160 in their thirties or something. And they're have like a new woman over every night. And meanwhile,

00:10:34.680 I'm just stuck to like the Snapchat screen or something, you know? So like,

00:10:38.880 here's the thing though, uh, when you're 20, you really don't bring up a lot of value to the table.

00:10:45.280 Cause you know, look, when you're a man, you turn 18, it's a scary feeling. Cause you're not worth

00:10:51.860 anything. You, you, you should, you have to build your value. 30 year old guys, especially 30 year old

00:10:58.840 guys who are established and have money and have 10 years on you that they're going to get more women

00:11:03.100 than you. And there's nothing you can do about it. Cause they have 10 years on you. So, so you,

00:11:09.220 you have to accept that. Well, but at the same time, and I understand, I understand what you're

00:11:16.300 saying, but at the same time, I'm not going to reveal too much about my personal life, but it's

00:11:19.900 like, look, yeah, these guys are older. You know, I'm a business owner, man. You know, like I've got,

00:11:24.060 I've met some and worked with some pretty powerful people that these people that these guys like

00:11:27.780 haven't been around. Like, I don't understand why that's not being viewed as like, you know,

00:11:31.780 me being the Jordan Belford. And then all my 30 year old coworkers are like my Jonah Hill and

00:11:36.220 whatever the fuck his name is, you know, stuff like that. So like, I just, I said, I said,

00:11:43.600 I said he should have made her work for it and given her like, Oh, I'll, I'll maybe commit after X,

00:11:49.520 Y, and Z. And then, you know, then you could still not in three months.

00:11:54.920 Yeah. Cause here's the thing. We had a show about situationships. Women, here's the thing you,

00:12:02.400 you, if a woman says, what are we? And she wants a commitment. There's, there's a way to keep her

00:12:08.700 around without saying there's no commitment. We don't really say yes. You don't really say no.

00:12:14.000 This was a situation where you should have been able to do that. And here's the thing, like

00:12:17.740 women always want an explanation and always want a why. Just don't give them one.

00:12:25.320 Okay. If you don't give them a story that can't find holes in it. If you don't give them just next

00:12:33.680 time this happens and a woman asks you for, for, for commitment, you say, look, I'm giving you all

00:12:37.960 I can right now. But you know, see us guys, we, especially when you're young, you care about a

00:12:50.200 woman's emotional wellbeing to a fault. You need to stop doing that. And here's the thing. If you're,

00:12:57.260 if you're a good, a quote unquote, good guy, you hate lying to women. You, you hate to be a scumbag.

00:13:03.940 It's against your nature. So just shut up, dude. Don't say anything. If it makes you feel bad to say,

00:13:10.780 to lie to women and say horrible things to women, you'll get there when you get older.

00:13:15.740 But, but right now stop talking, dude. I mean, like I've seen, like, I've seen like your show,

00:13:21.860 like I've, I've listened to like the Collins where like you guys, you and a few other guys have said

00:13:25.620 before, like, you know, trust me, dude, when you turn 30, like it's raining vaginas and stuff like

00:13:29.420 that. Like, that's what happens. That's like what happens when you turn like 35 or something, but

00:13:34.560 it's like, I want to be able to work with what I have, you know, now that I have my own place and,

00:13:38.440 you know, my own little bit of clout, like, Hey, look at me, I'm a big shot or something like that.

00:13:42.160 I just want to be able to work with something that I have. So, you know, do you think I'm

00:13:46.080 making a mistake? Just like sticking to like the Snapchat strategy? Should I like try to

00:13:49.860 move up a little bit or something? So here's the thing. You have an established strategy.

00:13:56.560 You get steady in that where you have a steady amount of women coming in there,

00:14:01.140 get yourself a nicer rotation where you're never really alone. It's like the best time to apply

00:14:08.300 for a job is when you already have a job. The best time to try to upgrade your game is when you

00:14:13.920 already have women coming in. So don't knock your strategy. But I like the fact that you feel the

00:14:21.060 need to upgrade and you have the means to be able to do it. But look, but you haven't, there are a lot

00:14:26.060 of guys, especially when they're 20, have no strategy at all, man. Like none. A lot of guys out there

00:14:31.540 aren't getting any, you're trashing your, your Snapchat strategy. Are you crazy?

00:14:38.020 Well, my, my coworker told me today after like all this, that I should like delete Snapchat and

00:14:44.060 like actually go to like a serious dating app or something. Cause I like the bots and the scammers

00:14:47.560 that are on snap. And it's like, yeah, that's true. But there's also just as much of that on like

00:14:51.280 dating apps or something. You know what I mean? Why not both? Do you have good pictures? Like,

00:14:56.400 did you get a photographer? Uh, some of them are professionally done. Yeah. That's good. Okay.

00:15:02.520 Um, yeah. Um, give yourself credit for even, it sounds like you have more access than the average

00:15:08.940 20 year old man. So give me some credit for that. A lot of guys are out here starving, especially at 20

00:15:14.820 starving. So give yourself credit, dude. You know? Well, I won't lie. A lot of, a lot of the women

00:15:23.340 that I've brought around really aren't something to like brag about. Like I have a couple of,

00:15:27.240 Hey, you gotta, you gotta start somewhere. Yeah. We've all smashed whales. We've all smashed

00:15:34.920 threes and fours, man. That's what we call practice for your wife.

00:15:44.260 Yeah. So what is your strategy for, for upgrading?

00:15:48.480 It's another reason I'm calling in, like trying to figure that out basically. Um, you know,

00:15:55.360 it's like, cause like, I'll go out with like some of the guys I work with, you know, are older and

00:15:59.280 are bringing in like new women left and right or something or like, uh, they, I have no clue.

00:16:06.580 They do the same thing that I do. And somehow they're landing, you know, the women that work

00:16:10.580 downstairs or something like that. And it's like, what I was, I'm doing the same thing. Like,

00:16:15.440 am I just ugly? Like what's happening? Well, you're also 20, man. I can't tell you how much

00:16:20.860 age, cause the most desirable ages for a man to women is like, what? Isn't it like 40 to 45 Pearl?

00:16:30.640 Um, in my opinion, it depends what age the women are, but I think it's like 35.

00:16:37.680 Yeah. Something like that. Yeah. But I think a 50 year old will get more matches though,

00:16:41.520 because there's like the leftover women too. Like I'm guessing if it's in numbers,

00:16:45.680 but yeah, you're gonna, I always say the nineties were the best decade, but I didn't get to enjoy

00:16:54.800 the nineties cause I wanted to grow up so bad. Like you're 20 years old, man. Enjoy the fact that you're

00:17:03.040 20, you're building yourself into something like do don't rush to try to like jump ahead. I understand

00:17:12.640 what I'm saying. It's got, if you, what's your, what you want is a time-based problem. If you stay

00:17:18.720 consistent, you don't get married. You don't have any kids. You don't get one of these STDs that'll

00:17:24.000 permanently be there. It will come. Stop trying to rush it, man. Put that effort into your business and

00:17:30.320 stuff. But when it comes to women, don't, don't try to rush it, man. Just don't.

00:17:34.960 I understand what you're saying. And I agree obviously, but you know, just the position that

00:17:40.480 I'm in and maybe I'm just saying this wrong, or maybe there's something else I could be doing here

00:17:44.320 that, you know, you could lay me out, but it's like, I guess the easiest way to put it is like,

00:17:48.320 you know, all my friends, you know, spent their new years, you know, getting laid or, you know,

00:17:52.560 hanging out with all these women, like in the casino and stuff. I spent my, um,

00:17:57.200 new years getting yelled at by a 30 year old man because I didn't want to do something for work.

00:18:01.520 You know what I mean? Like, you know, and I know that's the position that I've chosen,

00:18:04.880 you know, for me as like a business owner and stuff like that. But it's like at the same time,

00:18:09.520 you know, if there's a chance that when I turn 40 or 45, I can't get anything just because,

00:18:13.920 you know, I don't know, maybe I turned out to be a messed up 45 or 40 year old.

00:18:18.320 I don't want to miss like the best open window that I had.

00:18:20.960 You know what I mean right now? Are you going to, um, have you been on like dating apps? Have

00:18:26.320 those been doing well or no? Uh, yeah, they do pretty well. I've noticed something I'll say at

00:18:31.920 least for me is that dating app women are more likely to ghost you than Snapchat women. Cause like

00:18:36.480 every girl I've hooked up with every girl I've ever been like on a date or something,

00:18:39.440 I basically met through Snapchat to like my little quick ad strategy. Um, a lot of these dating app

00:18:44.400 women, like from hinge or Tinder, it's like, they'll like respond to me. But as soon as I get down,

00:18:49.200 like, Hey, let's get together. That's when like the texts stop coming. Basically. I don't know what

00:18:53.680 it is, but like for some reason, Snapchat, you're, you're competing with all of like the events and

00:18:59.920 stuff and a million. It's not even just like, you know, um, do you like, what are the messages

00:19:06.400 usually? Like, do you guys talk a lot or is it just, uh, because I've heard a lot of the PUA guys say

00:19:12.720 that you shouldn't talk much except for logistics because women will just waste your time for years,

00:19:18.400 days? Well, I mean, like, you know, I've, you know, I'm, I'm a couple line collector. So,

00:19:26.160 you know, sometimes that's what I'll use on like a dating app or something. Whereas on Snapchat,

00:19:30.880 you know, I can be a little more up for a collector, a pickup line collector. Okay.

00:19:36.640 So, you know, cause I know that's what people like expect on dating apps. Like I know that's like

00:19:40.320 status quo on dating apps or something where I was on Snapchat, it's just like, Hey, I added you,

00:19:43.760 Hey, you're cute. Like let's get together or something. You know what I mean?

00:19:50.240 Well, thanks for share. I thought I liked your last line to her. Would you have taken that girl

00:19:55.360 seriously or no? Like down the line, if she didn't do that? Well, first of all, it would depend how she

00:20:01.200 responded to some of my other lines. Um, but maybe, I don't know. Uh, cause like I gave her,

00:20:10.320 um, I, you know, I told her like this other line when we first met, um, like on the first date and

00:20:14.640 she liked it. So that told me that she at least, you know, had like the same kind of mindset that

00:20:18.960 I was in of like, Hey, this is how this is going to go. So, and somewhere down the line, she like

00:20:22.800 changed her mind on the second date or something. Um, so I don't know. We didn't get that far.

00:20:28.560 Okay. Okay. Well, cool. Thanks for calling in. They, I appreciate it.

00:20:33.760 Well, can we, uh, you think we can do this again in like a, you think we can do this again in like a week?

00:20:37.680 Yeah. I'll get it. I'll get it. I'll get a dating coach on the line. Go ahead.

00:20:41.360 Yeah. I just want to go back to the thing where your beginning issue, like you,

00:20:49.120 this whole needing to know people's business thing, man, like, especially when it comes to,

00:20:53.680 to your friend, dude, who cares, man? Honestly, like if he's being flaky, you're gonna, as you get

00:21:01.120 older, your guys are going to get girlfriends and just disappear, man. You're not going to see it for a

00:21:06.400 year, maybe two. And then when they break up, all of a sudden they're going to want to get on the

00:21:11.120 Xbox again, man. It's how it is with, with some guys, like some guys, they get pussy whipped and

00:21:18.240 then all of a sudden, you know, yo bro, I can't come out, man. My girl doesn't want me to, they're

00:21:23.040 going to disappear. So just let them, let them disappear. Well, but I also don't want to do about

00:21:28.720 it. Well, but I also don't like, you know, cause like my work, the people that I work with

00:21:32.640 whilst having to be my roommates, you know, they definitely don't see it that way. Like they

00:21:36.400 found out by just completely just interrogating this girl who I told that I was even seeing someone

00:21:41.920 in the first place. So since they don't see it that way, you know, I kind of have to like adapt

00:21:45.840 to that a little bit and like camouflage, like, okay. So if all of our business is going to be out

00:21:50.320 there, let's just, let's cooperate with that and let's, you know, get to the middle of like what's

00:21:54.640 happening with everyone or something. Cause I don't want to be the odd man out. Okay. So you want to

00:21:58.480 stalk them back? It's like a retaliation. Well, not that I just want to know the truth

00:22:03.920 on two. Like, you know, I understand like their whole mentality that says like, we need to know,

00:22:08.640 cause like we care about Aaron since he's the youngest and we're like 10 years older than him.

00:22:11.680 I get that. But at the same time, you know, if, if the truth is going to be like, so important to

00:22:18.080 like everyone, I don't want it to like, not be important to me. Yeah. The best thing you can do is

00:22:23.520 apathy, dude. Just don't, I I've had to learn a lesson in apathy, man. Like I've, I've, I've had

00:22:29.760 people come in out of my life. This whole true thing, man. Just do, just don't let it, you have

00:22:35.040 a business to run. Like just this is, you only have a hundred percent of time and effort to give

00:22:41.280 at any given time. And this has taken up too much of that a hundred percent, man. You have a business to

00:22:47.600 run. You got to build yourself up in this world, man. What other people are doing, man. Just,

00:22:52.640 just apathy is your best friend in this situation. Cool. Well, thanks for calling in,

00:23:00.400 calling anytime. Okay. Uh, Pearl, I, uh, have your contact. I promise when I have an update,

00:23:06.640 maybe like a week or two, we will, uh, do this again. I really want to do this again because

00:23:10.560 I'm either going to be better off in a week or worse off in a week. All right. No, no stalking.

00:23:14.640 Okay. Yeah. All right. Now we're going to talk about some STDs. Make sure you avoid them. All

00:23:21.920 right. Wrap it up. All right, buddy. All right, guys. So welcome to another episode of Pearl daily.

00:23:31.280 Um, so the dating market is a dumpster fire and men are just fed up. If a man wants to date,

00:23:36.480 he has to worry about women. Not only women's bad attitudes are unreasonable expectations,

00:23:41.280 toxic friends, and the risk of being blasted all over the internet on the T app, or one of those,

00:23:45.680 are we dating the same guy? Facebook groups, but worst of all, they have to worry about STDs. I've

00:23:51.120 been covering various STDs the last few Fridays because one, because the conversation needs to be

00:23:57.760 had. We are going to continue that trend by covering syphilis and hepatitis. Syphilis is an STD that is

00:24:04.720 caused by a bacterial infection contracted through sexual contact. It can be cured by a single shot of

00:24:10.480 penicillin. There were 200,700 reported cases of syphilis in 2022. That is the highest since the

00:24:17.600 1950s. The primary stage of syphilis is a painless sore that appears at the site of infection, typically

00:24:24.720 within 10 to 90 days after exposure. The secondary stage, which is a rash, a fever, swollen lymphnoids,

00:24:32.160 sore throat, and other flu-like symptoms that develop six to 12 weeks after the infection.

00:24:37.360 The latent stage, the infection becomes dormant and may not cause symptoms for years. And the

00:24:43.280 territory stage, which is untreated syphilis that causes blindness, heart damage, brain damage,

00:24:51.440 blindness, and sometimes death. All right. So now we're going to have this STI awareness. Now we're

00:24:57.680 going to have this nice, this also nice white lady talking to us about STDs.

00:25:02.400 This week and every day this week, I'm making a video on a different STI. Today's topic is syphilis.

00:25:09.040 Now syphilis cases are up 80% across the U.S. since 2015, and congenital syphilis, so babies being born

00:25:18.080 with syphilis, is up 300% over the past five years. So syphilis is quickly becoming a serious public health

00:25:25.760 concern for us here in the U.S. Let's talk about it. Syphilis is this spiral shaped bacteria under a

00:25:31.920 microscope. And in medicine, we call it the great pretender because it can present in a host of

00:25:38.240 different ways and sometimes be tricky to diagnose. Syphilis is spread through direct contact with a

00:25:44.000 syphilitic ulcer or a syphilitic sore. So syphilis in its primary stage causes an ulcer or a sore. Now

00:25:51.280 that sore is typically painless and a lot of times it's located internally. So it can be, you know,

00:25:57.040 in the mouth, in the vagina, or in the rectum. And therefore people are unaware that they have this sore

00:26:02.800 and a lot of times sexual partners will not ever see the sore, notice the sore, or have any indication

00:26:08.480 that that person may have syphilis. I have even seen a syphilitic ulcer on someone's arm before. So

00:26:14.560 any direct contact with a syphilitic sore can transmit the infection. Regarding symptoms of

00:26:23.600 syphilis, again, there can be many, but we classically think about syphilis in four stages.

00:26:28.960 So primary syphilis, the first stage is the appearance of the sore or the syphilitic ulcer.

00:26:34.400 And remember this sore may be located internally somewhere where you can't see it and it classically

00:26:39.680 does not hurt. It's a painless ulcer. And so even if you do notice something on the body,

00:26:45.200 a lot of people will, you know, notice something, but it doesn't hurt and it goes away on its own

00:26:49.680 without treatment. And so people really don't think anything of it. The next stage of syphilis,

00:26:54.960 secondary syphilis is classically associated with a rash. And that rash is typically a full body rash,

00:27:01.680 including the palms of the hands. And it might be a little bit itchy, but nothing too crazy.

00:27:07.440 This stage can also be associated with flu-like symptoms, lymph node swelling and all sorts of

00:27:13.200 things, you know, patchy hair loss, headaches, sore throat, fatigue. But again, this stage will

00:27:19.360 also clear on its own. The rash will go away. The symptoms will go away without treatment,

00:27:24.560 but that patient still has syphilis. So untreated secondary syphilis then leads to latent phase of

00:27:30.320 syphilis, which is where you still have syphilis because you've not been treated, but there's

00:27:35.280 absolutely no signs or symptoms at all. And this phase can actually persist for years. So people

00:27:41.760 can have syphilis for years and years without ever knowing it. Latent syphilis can eventually,

00:27:47.040 over years and years, progress to tertiary syphilis. And this is a very serious condition in which...

00:27:52.480 I would just say get tested every three months. I know it's a bitch because it's expensive. It's

00:27:58.880 probably going to cost you. I was looking at Quest prices the other day and I'm like,

00:28:03.360 it's probably going to cost you like a grand a year. But if you're sexually active, yeah.

00:28:08.320 The bacteria has now started to affect the organs. It can affect the eyes, the brain,

00:28:13.520 the ears, the heart, the muscles, basically all of our organs. And you can experience symptoms like

00:28:20.800 vision loss, hearing loss, ears ringing, confusion. Sometimes it's confused with dementia,

00:28:27.120 muscle weakness, damage to the heart, and eventually, in some cases, death. Syphilis,

00:28:32.800 if caught at really any stage, can be treatable, 100% fully curable with antibiotics. And the drug of

00:28:40.880 choice for syphilis is penicillin. If the syphilis is caught in the primary, secondary, or latent phase,

00:28:47.280 you often just need one shot, one to three, depending on the circumstances of penicillin.

00:28:52.640 And in the tertiary phase, it's recommended to have IV penicillin over several days. The damage

00:28:58.320 that has occurred to the organs in tertiary syphilis may not be reversible, but in my personal

00:29:03.760 experience, I've seen people make 100% recoveries once the syphilis was treated. The thing to note

00:29:09.040 about syphilis is that it can take quite a while to show up on a blood test. And that's the way we test

00:29:14.080 for syphilis through the blood. Or if you do have an ulcer, it can be cultured, but typically syphilis

00:29:19.440 is diagnosed through the blood test. But it can take anywhere between 30, sometimes up to 90 days

00:29:25.600 for that test to turn positive in the blood. And so I recommend people who are sexually active be

00:29:31.520 screened about every three months or so for these types of infections so you can make sure that nothing

00:29:36.320 ever goes missed. This little guy has been plaguing humanity since 3000 BC, and it's not showing any

00:29:43.600 signs of slowing down. So we have to be aware of these things, get your STI testing, get treated

00:29:50.000 when necessary, and just be aware of the risks. What questions do you have about syphilis?

00:29:56.480 All right, what a nice, you know, she's always so cheery. I like her.

00:30:03.600 Now she's also going to let us know three things we should know about syphilis.

00:30:07.360 A syphilis outbreak occurring in Houston, Texas, and the health department is reporting

00:30:11.840 a 128% increase in women since 2019. So these are the top three things I want you to know about

00:30:19.280 syphilis. The first thing I want you to know about syphilis is that oftentimes it is asymptomatic and

00:30:24.720 people do not even know they have it. The classic symptoms of syphilis, such as an ulcer or a rash,

00:30:31.440 will go away on their own without treatment. So they're often either missed or confused for other

00:30:36.560 conditions. The second thing I want you to know about syphilis is that it can be transmitted through

00:30:40.960 pretty much all forms of sex, vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex, and even skin to skin contact.

00:30:47.120 If you come into contact with a syphilitic ulcer, these ulcers are usually painless and they can be

00:30:52.720 located inside the mouth, inside the vagina, or inside the anus. So people may not know they have

00:30:58.080 them and you may not be able to see them. The third thing I want you to know about syphilis is that it

00:31:02.560 can take quite a while to show up on a test after you've been exposed to the bacteria. It can take up

00:31:08.080 to 30 days after you are exposed for the syphilis blood test to turn positive, and in some cases,

00:31:13.760 even 60 or 90 days after exposure. So what I recommend is being tested 30, 60, and 90 days out

00:31:21.520 from a potential exposure. And if you're regularly sexually active, I recommend simply being tested

00:31:26.880 every three months. Now there's a lot more to be said about syphilis.

00:31:31.600 All right. What do we got next?

00:31:37.840 Hey, guess what guys?

00:31:40.400 He already knew she was his daughter. All right, let's see.

00:31:43.840 What? I have syphilis. I'm sorry. It's okay. I got a shot. I'm cured. Then why are you even

00:31:50.480 telling us? Because it's really contagious. Maybe you guys should get tested. But what are

00:31:54.480 the symptoms? These sores in your mouth. No. I don't have any sores. Yeah, me either.

00:32:01.200 Not yet, but maybe you will. People like us don't get syphilis. I did. Yeah, well you did some

00:32:06.080 really nasty guys. I did the same guys you did. And like half the basketball team. Look, I'm just trying to be

00:32:12.240 responsible, okay? You don't need to be such a bitch. I'm sorry, but Nick and Brad are coming

00:32:16.080 over and I'd really appreciate it if you didn't tell them. You should know. Fine, tell them later

00:32:20.000 if it'll make you feel so responsible. I'm going to have fun tonight. Okay. I'm not going to have fun

00:32:24.240 anymore. You coming? She's going to hang for Nick. Girls in love. I'm sorry. Were you going to tell us

00:32:31.760 that Dawn has syphilis? Dad, she told me that in confidence. Not that I can go down broadcasting,

00:32:36.880 stuff like that. How about that the school's asking kids to get tested? Well, they didn't ask me. Did they

00:32:42.000 anything happen between you and Nick? No. Good. All right. You know pretending something didn't

00:32:47.520 happen, Hannah, it's not going to make it go away. Nothing happened. Sweetie, if something's going

00:32:52.560 on, don't shut us out. We want to help you, not judge you. There's nothing. Okay?

00:32:58.960 Yep. Yep. Yeah. That's how she got syphilis. Okay. I guess there's a syphilis outbreak in Charlotte.

00:33:07.600 Good evening and thanks for staying with us here at 730. Former health department

00:33:11.360 employees are warning about what they call a syphilis tsunami hitting Charlotte.

00:33:17.120 They say local and state health leaders aren't doing enough to protect the public.

00:33:21.680 At six o'clock tonight, investigative reporter David Hodges spoke with a former Mecklenburg County

00:33:26.080 health employee who says in some cases it is taking months for health employees to track down new

00:33:32.400 syphilis patients because of a staffing shortage and a backlog of cases. The records show the Charlotte

00:33:39.440 region far worse at tracking down these certain cases than many other areas of the state. In 2022,

00:33:45.760 just 75% of new syphilis patients assigned to county disease specialists were interviewed compared

00:33:52.960 to more than 95% from the rest of the state. Former Mecklenburg health employee Emmanuel Stanley says he

00:34:00.400 warned his supervisors about the problems, but he was ultimately fired. County records indicate it was a

00:34:06.640 personnel issue. But Stanley says he believes he was terminated for sounding the alarm on syphilis and

00:34:12.320 other safety issues at the department involving employee who was arrested. Dave is digging deeper

00:34:18.800 into issues he's investigating at the county health and human resources departments. WBTV has interviewed

00:34:26.160 two former Mecklenburg County health employees who have been blowing the whistle on what they call

00:34:31.280 a syphilis tsunami. We had a great operation going on, but now that all of that which we have built

00:34:37.760 up me and Christy over that one year to clean up a governmentally induced outbreak, to me,

00:34:45.360 it's no different than Tuskegee syphilis experiments. Emmanuel Stanley was fired in January.

00:34:50.720 Christy McCray resigned in February. I just saw my hands were tied. Nobody,

00:34:57.120 I felt like we're really listening. The public needs to know they have to protect themselves from

00:35:01.360 this deadly disease that's running rampant in our community. According to Stanley's personnel

00:35:06.160 records, which WBTV obtained through a public records request, his termination from the county

00:35:11.760 had nothing to do with his warnings about the syphilis outbreak. The reasons listed in this dismissal

00:35:16.960 letter include disorderly conduct and workplace violence. To me, they were trumped up and concocted.

00:35:22.400 So this is a confidential HR matter. WBTV obtained a recording of Stanley's termination appeals hearing.

00:35:29.200 Mecklenburg public health director Raina Washington argued the case for why Stanley

00:35:35.600 should be fired. He didn't present evidence of any violence, but instead focused on an incident in

00:35:41.440 which Stanley was accused of screaming at a human resources employee. The reason why we're here

00:35:46.320 ultimately is because of your actions, specifically the yelling, the cursing that's been described.

00:35:50.720 Okay. All right. So we got a syphilis outbreak. Not good.

00:35:57.040 Um, now I guess there's one in Houston too.

00:36:00.640 We have a health alert tonight, a sharp and shocking increase in the number of infectious

00:36:04.800 syphilis cases in the Houston area. The health department says the number rose 59% in just

00:36:09.840 the first half of certain ethnic groups are at a higher risk.

00:36:13.360 Okay. Stop raw dogging for God's sake. Yeah, I know. It's like,

00:36:20.400 I know. 2018 or any syphilis is back. I mean, it didn't leave.

00:36:24.880 Rhoda is live tonight with who's most at risk, Andy.

00:36:27.840 We know the answer to that question. Come on.

00:36:33.360 Hi, Keith. In the early 2000s, syphilis was close to being eliminated. But since then,

00:36:38.320 health officials say every few years they've seen a spike in cases. Now syphilis symptoms

00:36:44.160 aren't always noticeable. So a person may have it and not even know they're infected.

00:36:48.800 Most at risk, anyone who's had multiple sex partners. Health officials say they're particularly

00:36:55.840 concerned about gay and bisexual men who engage in anonymous sex. They've also seen an increase

00:37:02.880 in syphilis cases among women. Last year, there were. It's the bi guys. They bring stuff back to the

00:37:08.560 women. 30. So far this year, they're at 47. We want to make sure women get tested because with syphilis,

00:37:16.320 they do run the risk of the baby being dying. So far, there have been 263 reported cases in the

00:37:24.880 first six months of 2018 compared to 165 during the same period last year. Health officials also

00:37:32.320 warned that if you've already been diagnosed with an STD, you're at a much higher risk of getting

00:37:37.520 infected. One way to reduce your risk, make sure your partner wears a condom every time you have sex.

00:37:44.160 Syphilis may start with a painless sore that usually goes away in three to six weeks.

00:37:49.280 Other symptoms include swollen glands, patchy hair loss, and a non-itchy rash on your hands or the

00:37:56.080 soles of your feet. You may have syphilis and later on, a few years, you may discover that

00:38:02.320 you have damage to your organs. Yeah, that's one we don't want. Okay, so there are multiple kinds of

00:38:10.960 hepatitis, but hepatitis B is considered an STD and is the most likely to spread by sexual activity.

00:38:18.240 Hepatitis B can be spread through infected blood, semen, and other bodily fluids. The symptoms of

00:38:24.800 hepatitis B include fatigue, loss of appetite, fever, nausea, dark colored urine, joint pain,

00:38:31.120 and yellowing of the skin and the eyes. Hepatitis B is incurable and there are medications that can

00:38:36.720 suppress the virus to prevent further damage to the liver and other organs. There's also vaccines

00:38:42.320 that can prevent a hepatitis B infection. In 2022, there were 2,126 cases of hepatitis B in 47 states

00:38:50.400 and the DC area, with an estimated 13,800 actual cases for adjusting those that are unreported.

00:38:58.320 Most of those cases were reported between people ages 40 to 59 years old.

00:39:10.560 Hi, it's Dr. Joshi and I'm a liver specialist. Let's talk about hepatitis B.

00:39:14.480 This virus is transmitted from person to person through infected body fluids,

00:39:18.720 and it affects 4% of the global population and also- Wow, that's higher than I thought, 4%.

00:39:24.560 The cause of the majority of the world's cases of liver cancer, most commonly found in people

00:39:30.160 who were born or living in China, India, the Philippines, and Nigeria, and other African

00:39:36.080 countries as well. You will only know you have this virus if you get tested because most people

00:39:41.200 have no symptoms. People who need treatment are often the ones who have an elevated viral load,

00:39:46.400 elevated liver enzymes, or any indication of liver damage. And being on treatment, if you're a

00:39:51.600 candidate, can reduce the risk of liver fibrosis and injury and reduce the risk of liver cancer.

00:39:58.000 So if you think you're at risk of having hepatitis B, see your doctor and get screened for the

00:40:03.440 important proteins that indicate whether or not you have active infection or not.

00:40:09.680 Okay, I got that. Next we got...

00:40:21.600 Hello, so I found out that I have hepatitis B after my initial lab test results. So my OBGYN called me

00:40:37.760 to inform me that I did test positive for hepatitis B. She did reassure me that there was nothing to worry

00:40:46.400 about and that it is a common finding for women who were born in Asian countries.

00:40:54.640 She further explained that my mother may have passed it on to me during birth.

00:41:01.360 She then referred me to a perinatologist to help with further testing.

00:41:06.560 I did additional blood tests every trimester to check my viral load and luckily they were less than zero.

00:41:17.360 All right, so she's finding out her mother gave her hepatitis B.

00:41:22.080 Oh my God, can you imagine being that mad at your mom for being a whore? Oh my God.

00:41:26.080 Means it's undetectable. Both doctors did inform me that our baby will be getting an additional vaccine called the

00:41:37.120 hepatitis B IVIG, which is an extra protection for the baby from the virus.

00:41:48.640 My perinatologist also recommended that I do see a GI specialist to check if my liver is doing okay.

00:41:57.840 And so far my baby has had the IVIG and two hep B vaccine shots. Our pediatrician informed us that

00:42:07.920 we will be checking my baby's viral load to make sure that everything is going well.

00:42:15.360 Yeah. How does the doctor know she got it from her mom? Um, I think it's because of like in a lot

00:42:21.920 of those countries it's common, but they probably don't, you know, even doctors will lie to women to

00:42:26.320 make us feel better. I do know one person that has that STD. I don't know which hepatitis, I didn't ask,

00:42:36.000 but this person was older and they lived to be pretty old. Like she's, uh, this person's in their

00:42:42.560 like seventies. So I don't think it doesn't seem to have affected this person's life.

00:42:48.400 What's up Tiktok back with another video today. And the video, that's what we're going to talk about

00:42:54.800 in this video is hepatitis B. Now, if you, if you think you got hepatitis B, these symptoms,

00:43:03.680 it's just normal, regular day symptoms, fatigue, tiredness, fever, joint pain, stomach pain, nausea,

00:43:15.200 vomiting, loss of appetite, yellow, swellness of eyes. Um, you know, your pee might be like a light color

00:43:24.000 or you might have stool or dark stuff in your, um, urine and, uh, hepatitis B,

00:43:30.960 you can't get rid of it. Can't get rid of hepatitis B. Now it, it could go away on its own,

00:43:36.960 but you, you can't get rid of hepatitis B. Matter of fact, hepatitis B be up some

00:43:41.760 shit. It can cause other problems if you don't get tested and make sure you don't have it. It can cause

00:43:46.720 other problems. Hepatitis B, HPV, HIV, and, um, what's, what's the other one? Hepatitis, HPV, hepatitis B,

00:44:04.240 and one more you can't get rid of. More. All right.

00:44:11.200 Yeah. Um, then we got this one and then you guys can call in. Oh, just real fast. What? Uh,

00:44:23.760 you gonna hear some, some celebrities who, who have hepatitis? Sure. Are you ready for this? How do you

00:44:29.920 know they have it? It's on, it's on healthline.com. So how would they, how could they like know the

00:44:38.720 medical records? Like that's HIPAA. You can't. These celebrities have, have all disclosed that

00:44:45.680 they have hepatitis. Okay. Go ahead. Yeah. So Anthony Kiedis from the Red Hot Chili Peppers,

00:44:50.880 lead singer. Pamela Anderson has hepatitis C. No way. Yeah. Yep. Uh huh. So I, I hope Liam Neeson knows.

00:45:01.120 You know what? Yep. And I, I think there's some way that it doesn't spread. I don't,

00:45:07.280 I know someone that has it and I know the person that has it, the person married doesn't. I don't know

00:45:13.040 how I don't, I didn't ask, but yeah, sorry. Go ahead. Uh, once I lost my, hold on. Okay. Um,

00:45:24.000 Natasha Lyonne has it. Okay. Uh, Steven Tyler from Aerosmith. He had it. Ken Watanabe. He's a actor.

00:45:33.760 He had it. Uh, who else would you know? Naomi Judd. She had it. David Crosby had it.

00:45:43.520 Billy Graham, the wrestler had it. Lou Reed, the singer. He had it. And Natalie Cole, you know,

00:45:49.200 Nat King Cole's daughter had hepatitis C. Greg Allman from the Allman brothers. He had hepatitis C.

00:45:54.800 Evil Knievel, the stuntman. He had, um, he had to get a, uh, a liver transplant because he had hepatitis C.

00:46:02.000 Um, and those are everyone that, you know, everyone else is too old for you to know.

00:46:08.400 Yeah. It seems like the person I know that has it is older.

00:46:11.040 Uh, it seems to be an older person thing. Something known as-

00:46:15.920 Yes. So ladies, if you go for a grandpa, just know he might.

00:46:20.800 If you guys are banging these old broads, they might give you something.

00:46:23.680 It's very natal spread. I'll just simplify it down. It's very interesting.

00:46:28.160 So if, uh, somebody's parents, father or mother has hepatitis B, but they don't know about it because

00:46:34.880 all hepatitis B viral infections does not become a disease. The virus just stays in your body. It

00:46:40.960 doesn't do anything. In some cases, it might promote liver damage, cause cirrhosis, liver cancer, whatever.

00:46:46.320 But in many patients, many people, they are just inside. We don't know about it. So in such people,

00:46:51.200 they transmit this virus to their children. So the mothers can transmit the virus to their children

00:46:56.080 during childbirth and fathers can transmit the virus to the children during the early years of life,

00:47:02.800 due to excessive, uh, what do you call that, uh, handling and kissing and all. So usually only the,

00:47:10.240 yeah, usually only the eldest son or daughter gets it. What is very important in India and very

00:47:16.880 importantly, what I see something known as perinatal spread. I'll just simplify it down. It's very

00:47:22.160 interesting. So if, uh, somebody's parents, father or mother has hepatitis B, but they don't know about

00:47:30.080 it because all hepatitis B viral. Okay. Yeah. Now we got moms giving it and dads. All right. So we got

00:47:38.480 questions for the callers. If you have contracted hepatitis or syphilis, can you please call in

00:47:46.080 and tell us your story, how you got it, who you got it from? Um, or if you know somebody that has it,

00:47:53.200 call in and tell the story is a woman with a history of hepatitis or syphilis, a deal breaker.

00:48:00.400 And what if she got it from her parents? We're going to put a zoom link in the chat and I would

00:48:06.240 love to have you guys call in. Let me check the chat. Um, again, my, my computer is being weird

00:48:11.760 today. It's just, it's just been a week with technology. Um, we can maybe start with a poll

00:48:21.440 and see is, is a woman with hepatitis from her parents, a deal breaker? Yes or no, no fault of

00:48:28.400 her own. Now, while we're waiting, we are going to show my divorce documentary trailer. Um, while we're

00:48:35.680 going to wait for people to get on the line, by the way, guys, you can this, um, this was a compilation

00:48:41.520 of all the interviews I did when I was in England for the divorce documentary. Unfortunately, um,

00:48:46.000 they demonetized me. Uh, I basically had to put my life on hold the last two years. Um, because

00:48:52.800 these ladies just take me to court, like, it's just a whole thing. And anyways, long, long story short,

00:49:00.160 um, we're trying to raise a hundred thousand dollars. The link to it is in the description.

00:49:04.720 If you can donate, if not, it's no big deal. Um, I also want to say thank you, but my computer won't

00:49:10.080 turn on, but there are three people that donated last time and two of them sent a hundred dollars.

00:49:15.120 So I really appreciate that. We're going to read your names next show. So there's this clip going

00:49:19.920 viral online of a dozen women being asked the following question. Do we need men?

00:49:26.720 Most answered very quickly. No, because men are useless.

00:49:32.640 This headline from the hill, it caught my eye. Most young men are single. Most young women are not.

00:49:38.160 Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.

00:49:42.800 It's a different world now. Like we don't need men the way that they used to.

00:49:45.920 Nobody needs men. The future is female.

00:49:50.320 Men and women are drifting further apart and society is crumbling because of it.

00:49:57.200 A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of merit.

00:50:00.080 You've kind of got the trad con versus red pill thing.

00:50:02.640 This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.

00:50:06.160 You need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.

00:50:10.400 Marriage is a bond and it's a sacred bond.

00:50:12.960 It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.

00:50:16.000 Now many of the red-pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married.

00:50:21.040 Hannah Pearl Davis or just pearly things.

00:50:24.640 One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.

00:50:28.240 She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.

00:50:31.040 Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.

00:50:36.080 Gee, what could go wrong there?

00:50:38.480 74% or something of divorces are initiated by women.

00:50:42.000 Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children.

00:50:45.040 Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws.

00:50:47.600 I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.

00:50:52.400 Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse. You need no evidence.

00:50:56.800 When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for.

00:51:00.640 And you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.

00:51:03.920 I interviewed them on the other side.

00:51:06.400 I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.

00:51:08.960 How much did you spend trying to get him back?

00:51:10.880 The legal fees alone was about $200,000.

00:51:13.200 Before you know it, you're homeless. You're literally just thrown out onto the street.

00:51:16.560 We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women.

00:51:19.120 Wives are taught to leave their husbands and then daughters grow up without their fathers.

00:51:23.120 Family is the foundation of society.

00:51:25.040 Every problem in society comes from single mother homes.

00:51:28.240 A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness, endless happiness.

00:51:32.400 Feminism's biggest failure is it lies to women.

00:51:34.480 We tell women to date as many guys as possible.

00:51:36.240 We tell them to put off family into marriage.

00:51:38.080 You are allowed to leave your perfect husband.

00:51:40.720 You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.

00:51:45.120 Oh freeze your ex, have an abortion.

00:51:47.120 What? You're evil.

00:51:48.320 I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.

00:51:52.000 Right.

00:51:52.400 Like if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic,

00:51:56.400 naturally the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.

00:51:58.880 It's self-sabotage.

00:51:59.840 And that's the thing, like women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy.

00:52:03.680 This is not about happiness.

00:52:05.440 The most important thing is the children.

00:52:07.760 And the problem is we have a modern society where it's me, me, me, my feelings,

00:52:12.240 leave when I feel like it instead of doing what's best for the kids.

00:52:15.360 This myth that we live in an age of male privilege, where's my male privilege?

00:52:20.160 They think, well, men have all the rights, they have all the power.

00:52:22.720 Privileged patriarchal system that we have.

00:52:25.280 Why doesn't our society care about men's rights?

00:52:27.600 I have no friends.

00:52:29.200 No white and no social life.

00:52:31.200 Men are alone in this situation.

00:52:33.040 Men are homeless.

00:52:33.920 Men are thinking about eating guns.

00:52:35.680 I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide and they didn't do anything wrong.

00:52:40.000 How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?

00:52:45.520 The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.

00:52:49.520 Women are helplessly dependent upon men.

00:52:52.000 The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose to alcohol,

00:52:56.240 three times higher among men than among women.

00:52:59.200 Culture is telling men you are no good.

00:53:01.040 You've got to get your act together.

00:53:02.240 I think men have failed themselves.

00:53:03.840 What kind of a man are you?

00:53:05.120 What kind of a woman are you going to attract?

00:53:07.040 If men are in trouble, so are women.

00:53:09.680 Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.

00:53:13.440 Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man-

00:53:15.680 500k, 300k, 200k.

00:53:18.160 Am I crazy?

00:53:18.960 Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.

00:53:21.120 If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them.

00:53:24.720 So you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?

00:53:28.720 Women.

00:53:30.320 I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.

00:53:32.240 I don't want to be a strong independent woman.

00:53:34.480 I'm over it.

00:53:35.680 When is it going to be my turn?

00:53:36.960 Where are we meeting the men that don't stop?

00:53:38.720 I can't keep having these same conversations.

00:53:41.520 The only simp here is you, Pearl.

00:53:42.800 You simp for men.

00:53:43.280 No, I think you simp for women.

00:53:44.800 She's a provocateur.

00:53:45.760 She says stupid stuff, but Pearl is right about this.

00:53:48.080 It's already happening.

00:53:49.360 It's just not out in the open yet.

00:53:50.880 Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairytale ending because men don't want a wife

00:53:55.040 and women can't find a husband.

00:53:56.480 The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.

00:54:00.640 We're going into population decline and our economy goes into decline.

00:54:04.240 Civilization will crumble.

00:54:06.320 The American story does not end well.

00:54:08.960 This is an existential crisis failing young men.

00:54:16.160 All right, guys.

00:54:16.800 So if you want to donate to that, feel free.

00:54:19.040 Otherwise, please do call in if you know anybody that's had syphilis, hepatitis.

00:54:25.440 Someone wants to know the global elderly STD stat.

00:54:31.600 Okay.

00:54:32.160 Let's look into it.

00:54:35.200 Doug MPA, are you there?

00:54:37.680 I am here.

00:54:39.120 All right.

00:54:39.440 Let's see.

00:54:41.680 While the global elderly.

00:54:46.640 Hold on.

00:54:47.040 Let's see.

00:54:48.000 Okay.

00:54:48.240 Let me do what percent of people.

00:54:50.400 What percent of people over 60 have an STD?

00:54:58.080 Let's see.

00:54:58.640 I heard that old folks' homes are just havens for STDs.

00:55:04.320 Old people get it in, man.

00:55:05.760 Yeah.

00:55:06.080 Yeah.

00:55:06.240 They don't care anymore at that point.

00:55:08.080 It's like, I mean, like, do you really care if you catch anything and you're 80?

00:55:15.280 It's like, you're going to die anyway.

00:55:18.640 I guess.

00:55:20.560 That's why I said he's not going to care about hepatitis.

00:55:22.800 I guess he's 70, like, you know, whatever.

00:55:34.880 Okay.

00:55:35.280 Is there anyone on the line?

00:55:37.360 No, there isn't.

00:55:39.040 I was wondering if anyone would call in about this one, because there's one woman.

00:55:43.360 I told her to call in.

00:55:44.400 Let me see if she will come on.

00:55:46.640 Well, it says the exact origin of syphilis remains debated among scientists.

00:55:52.880 However, the most widely accepted theory is that it originated in the Americas and was introduced

00:55:58.160 to Europe by Christopher Columbus's crew in the late 15th century.

00:56:02.400 Syphilis was first documented in Europe in 1493, shortly after Columbus's returned from the Americas.

00:56:08.400 Archaeological evidence suggests that a similar disease existed in the Americas before European contact.

00:56:13.520 Genetic analysis of the bacteria that causes syphilis indicates it originated in the Americas.

00:56:21.760 Yikes.

00:56:24.880 At least they have cures and stuff now and vaccines.

00:56:27.760 It says the origin of syphilis is still debated, but it is believed that it originated from an animal,

00:56:37.440 possibly sheep or cattle, and then crossed over to humans.

00:56:41.520 Gee, I wonder how.

00:56:42.640 Ew.

00:56:45.760 What percent of people over 60, I'm going to say have herpes, because that's...

00:56:53.360 45% of people over 60.

00:57:06.480 Come on, you guys. Call in.

00:57:08.880 You don't have to have your camera on.

00:57:10.880 Oh, yeah. You don't have to have your camera on, people.

00:57:13.120 Yep. You could even use a fake name.

00:57:15.760 And I've never met someone who's had hepatitis or syphilis.

00:57:24.560 I knew one person.

00:57:25.600 This was...

00:57:26.000 Knowingly.

00:57:26.640 This was someone older that I'd known for a while, but I found out this person had it when I was older.

00:57:35.440 But this person, I don't know what hepatitis that this person had, but they seem to live a normal life.

00:57:43.600 I didn't see anything outwardly.

00:57:46.880 This person's in pretty good shape for their age.

00:57:50.320 So...

00:57:50.560 It says, uh, historical figures who, who were affected by syphilis.

00:57:56.160 So, Christopher Columbus.

00:57:57.440 Oh, no!

00:57:59.120 Columbus!

00:58:00.720 Did those, that, did that American Indian Poonani getcha?

00:58:05.200 Yeah, well, they were sailors.

00:58:07.360 So, they're probably banging animals and all sorts of stuff.

00:58:10.720 I mean, if you're out to sea, you get to Al Capone perish from advanced stages of syphilis,

00:58:16.960 likely contracted in one of his, of his whorehouses.

00:58:20.480 So, Al Capone, they said he likely died of syphilis.

00:58:24.960 They said that, you know,

00:58:27.280 the leader of the Germans during World War II had many symptoms of syphilis.

00:58:34.560 I bet.

00:58:35.920 Yeah, you, you know who I'm talking about?

00:58:38.000 Yeah, I know who you're talking.

00:58:38.720 Yeah.

00:58:39.360 Yeah, we're not saying that name on here, but yeah.

00:58:42.960 Yeah.

00:58:43.280 I just said we're not saying that name on here, but yeah.

00:58:45.920 Yeah, of course not.

00:58:47.920 Abraham Lincoln may have passed syphilis on to his wife.

00:58:54.000 Abraham Lincoln did not marry until age 33.

00:58:56.240 After the president's passing, his former law partner claimed that Lincoln had admitted to

00:59:00.240 contracting syphilis around 1835.

00:59:03.280 Lincoln spent time on the Mississippi River in New Orleans, and it's rumored to have patronized

00:59:09.520 cat houses, equal whorehouses, while in the city.

00:59:13.360 Yeah.

00:59:15.920 Frederick Nietzsche, they said that he, he may have died of syphilis.

00:59:21.680 Um, Lenin, you know, the guy that led the Soviet revolution, they say he, he may have died of

00:59:28.160 syphilis.

00:59:29.840 Uh, who else is on this list?

00:59:32.640 Oh, Henry VIII, they said that he may have had symptoms of syphilis.

00:59:38.320 Uh, Oscar Wilde, the author.

00:59:42.000 Okay.

00:59:43.360 Uh, isn't Beethoven may have had syphilis with related symptoms?

00:59:48.800 Shakespeare?

00:59:50.080 God, man, syphilis is a mother, dude.

00:59:53.600 I think they kind of eradicated it mostly at this.

00:59:57.040 Okay.

00:59:57.360 There's a woman who worked at a clinic.

00:59:59.040 Who's my, I think I'm going to get her to call in.

01:00:01.520 Um, cause I don't think younger people really have it.

01:00:05.360 Uh, Scott Joplin, the, the, um, the ragtime, uh, composer, he had it.

01:00:15.120 Uh, who else is on here?

01:00:16.640 And that's pretty much everybody.

01:00:19.040 So that is suspected of having syphilis related, uh, symptoms.

01:00:26.960 No, one's going to call in about syphilis or hepatitis.

01:00:29.680 I'm buying a new laptop.

01:00:31.120 I can't take this anymore.

01:00:36.480 Uh, well, you know, how long did you have that one?

01:00:39.120 A couple of years, right?

01:00:40.960 Like two, maybe not long enough, but.

01:00:45.920 Uh, no callers.

01:00:47.840 Uh, we're about to get one.

01:00:49.360 I think this girl is going to call in.

01:00:51.920 If you guys have any other STD stories, I mean, if it's not hepatitis or syphilis,

01:00:57.440 I mean, feel free if you haven't called in and told the story before.

01:01:01.920 Oh, see if this girl's going to call in.

01:01:06.480 Oh, let me put it in the.

01:01:08.320 Uh, you know, it's funny.

01:01:09.360 I have, um, I've heard that even when women like learn about STDs, we still don't care

01:01:16.640 because my, my friend told me he dated like female doctors.

01:01:20.160 Like he dated a few and none of them cared about using protection.

01:01:24.480 Yeah.

01:01:25.680 I told you plenty of times, um, in the South, particularly in Atlanta, if you whip out a condom,

01:01:32.960 B-dubs get pissed.

01:01:34.480 They're like, oh, you think I'm dirty and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

01:01:38.240 First off, the answer is yes.

01:01:40.160 Second off.

01:01:42.720 Yeah, that's a new thing.

01:01:44.800 Women will insist.

01:01:46.640 There's some pride about her or something like that.

01:01:48.880 Yep.

01:01:50.160 Let's see.

01:01:51.040 Are you calling in?

01:01:53.920 All right.

01:01:54.560 Tell me if she gets on the line.

01:02:01.840 Yeah, I, uh, but yeah, guys, you got to wrap it up, man.

01:02:06.400 Oh, yeah.

01:02:07.760 My name is Kat.

01:02:08.560 Yeah, Kat.

01:02:09.200 She's on.

01:02:13.440 She's on.

01:02:14.080 Hey, Kat.

01:02:14.560 How you doing?

01:02:14.960 Kat.

01:02:16.880 Hey.

01:02:17.360 How are you?

01:02:19.040 Good.

01:02:19.360 How are you?

01:02:20.320 Good.

01:02:20.800 Can you tell the people, um, a little bit about your background?

01:02:24.080 Um, I said, you worked at a clinic, right?

01:02:28.800 For STDs?

01:02:30.720 Yes.

01:02:31.120 So I worked at AIDS clinic and we did testing for a lot of stuff and worked there for about

01:02:38.000 five years and was, you know, certified to give people results and stuff like that.

01:02:44.880 Cool.

01:02:45.520 So a lot of stories.

01:02:47.680 We also did counseling.

01:02:48.720 So we got like a lot of the behind the scenes type of, you know, stories tea, if you will.

01:02:56.400 Well, we'd love to have you on on Fridays.

01:02:58.720 We do STD Fridays here.

01:03:01.200 So yeah, if you ever free seven to nine, call in.

01:03:04.560 Um, so today we're talking about syphilis and hepatitis.

01:03:08.880 Did you ever test for those or was it mostly just HIV?

01:03:12.080 Mostly just HIV, but the people that I saw had HIV AIDS and they would almost all of them

01:03:21.200 have co-infections of other STDs when they came in.

01:03:24.400 So a lot of my clients had both of those, unfortunately.

01:03:28.160 Oh, okay.

01:03:29.520 So it was kind of like a co-infection with hepatitis and, um, HIV usually.

01:03:34.880 Yes.

01:03:35.040 Yeah.

01:03:35.520 And what percent of people that get HIV, would you say it's like gay people?

01:03:41.120 Like, is that do straight people in my, and this could be completely ignorant.

01:03:45.840 You're going to know more than me.

01:03:46.800 You're doing the testing.

01:03:47.760 But I thought it was just like a gay disease, like just gay people usually get it.

01:03:52.560 So go ahead.

01:03:53.200 Yeah.

01:03:54.160 Well, back in the day, it was more prevalent with gay people.

01:03:58.640 But since more people are doing more experimental things.

01:04:03.040 Oh God.

01:04:03.680 Okay.

01:04:04.400 Yeah.

01:04:04.880 You know what I mean?

01:04:06.800 Yeah.

01:04:07.120 These are things that normally straight people didn't do if you catch my drift.

01:04:11.600 Yeah.

01:04:11.840 Okay.

01:04:12.080 So that has opened the door to it becoming more widespread with both genders.

01:04:17.600 Like the destinies of the world, huh?

01:04:19.920 They're, they're giving it to the girls too, huh?

01:04:22.880 Well, well, yeah, but like the girls are getting it from a specific, you know what I'm saying?

01:04:27.360 Yeah.

01:04:27.840 A specific act that they didn't do before.

01:04:31.200 Okay.

01:04:31.520 Because you're saying you're more likely to get it from like backdoor stuff.

01:04:35.120 Yes.

01:04:35.760 Yes.

01:04:36.800 But since that's more common now, it's starting to level out a little bit.

01:04:42.400 I'd love to hear, I know we spoke the one time briefly about prevention.

01:04:47.680 Do you have any like tips for people to prevent STDs?

01:04:51.040 Like if someone wants to be sexually active, and I always use the example,

01:04:55.200 if a guy or a girl comes to you and they say, look, I'm about to be a hoe.

01:04:58.960 We are about to hoe.

01:05:00.160 We're going to hoe so hard.

01:05:02.000 What are your tips for people that want to be sexually active, but they don't want to catch an STD?

01:05:07.040 Okay.

01:05:07.520 There is no way to be sexually active and assure that you will not catch something.

01:05:14.160 It doesn't exist.

01:05:15.280 There is safer, but there is no such thing as safe.

01:05:18.320 Anyone who tells you that you can completely guarantee something is lying to you.

01:05:23.040 They're selling you a dream.

01:05:24.560 We love dreams, but they're not real.

01:05:28.400 Okay.

01:05:28.880 Yeah.

01:05:29.280 But like, what would you say to prevent it the best?

01:05:32.720 I just remember last time we talked, you had some really good tips.

01:05:35.680 So if you wanted to go through that.

01:05:36.880 What are some best practices they're called?

01:05:39.360 Okay.

01:05:39.600 So I did make a list.

01:05:42.400 I ranked from least risky to the most risky things you can do.

01:05:48.080 I don't know if I should say a lot of these things, but like I'll allude to some of them.

01:05:54.080 That's fine.

01:05:54.400 Okay.

01:05:54.720 So like the least risk risky stuff would be mutual.

01:05:59.280 You know, like you're not really, I can't even say this stuff on the internet.

01:06:04.480 Oh, like Kansky's and stuff?

01:06:05.920 Yeah.

01:06:06.240 But like you each touched yourselves, but next to each other.

01:06:09.600 Okay.

01:06:10.080 Yeah.

01:06:10.720 Okay.

01:06:11.120 So like, that would be like, like, I don't know, a sweet, innocent thing that you can't get anything with.

01:06:16.800 Isn't that how Mormons do it before?

01:06:19.120 I don't know.

01:06:21.440 Okay.

01:06:22.000 No idea.

01:06:23.680 The next one, you could do closed mouth kissing with no saliva exchange, because unfortunately,

01:06:30.800 there's many things you can get from saliva, like Epstein-Barr virus, stuff like that, cold sore.

01:06:36.480 But if you just avoid fluids, you're going to be much safer.

01:06:42.480 So there's that.

01:06:43.840 The next least safe is going to be like French kissing, because there's saliva involved.

01:06:48.720 So that's going to give you some risk of EBV, a whole bunch of other things.

01:06:56.160 So not anything serious unless, and I have to, there are some cases where people had really bad

01:07:03.760 dental health, like bleeding gums, really bad.

01:07:07.040 And you could get it that way if you also especially have bad dental health.

01:07:11.040 So two people with bad dental health, there's going to be more risk.

01:07:14.800 And then we have, uh, things like, you know, you can hug and handhold, but remember there's

01:07:22.160 certain things you can get from each other's hands.

01:07:24.160 So like nothing is 100% if you have cuts on your body.

01:07:28.080 Okay.

01:07:30.000 The next is maybe, let's see.

01:07:35.360 Okay.

01:07:35.920 If you're going to do anything orally, I would say dental dams are mandatory for the women and

01:07:44.000 condoms for the men.

01:07:46.080 I mean, that's what I would just say.

01:07:48.640 Uh, unfortunately you got to have a barrier or you're at risk.

01:07:54.960 And, and people think also with condoms that they're safe, but there's the area around,

01:08:00.000 there's things you can still get passed on through that.

01:08:03.840 And then maybe like now we're now after this point, you're in a high risk situation.

01:08:09.360 Vaginal is less risk than backdoor by far, but it's still a very high risk.

01:08:17.200 And that's because of the blood, right?

01:08:19.120 There's blood.

01:08:19.680 Yeah.

01:08:19.760 Okay.

01:08:20.320 Now I know a lot of people do not like hearing this because like, it's kind of like a Debbie

01:08:26.320 Downer thing to say you, you want, you, oh, well it doesn't count.

01:08:29.920 No, but it totally does count.

01:08:31.520 There's going to be a micro tears.

01:08:33.360 You have to look at a diagram of the thickness of the walls of the vagina compared to that of

01:08:40.800 your colon.

01:08:42.000 This is a huge difference.

01:08:43.600 And then you have natural lubrication and then none.

01:08:47.280 So you can use a lot of artificial lubrication, water-based lubrication, and it's going to help,

01:08:53.520 but it's never going to be coming internally.

01:08:56.640 So it's going to wear off very quickly, need to be constantly reapplied.

01:09:00.640 This is just not, it's not a safe route for someone who's with someone that they don't know or trust.

01:09:09.600 And is, are you more likely to get something from oral sex or vaginal sex?

01:09:16.720 I would say it's probably a near, near, like if no dental dance is probably equal.

01:09:27.520 Okay.

01:09:30.640 Vaginal sex has a little more risk with different STDs than you would because the external ones

01:09:37.840 you're going to get with both, but like there's maybe a few, like maybe, no, I think it's probably,

01:09:44.400 I would say those are actually kind of equal.

01:09:47.200 Yeah.

01:09:49.040 And what STDs would you say are the most like common and undiagnosed maybe?

01:09:53.840 Like, are there some that are going around that people aren't really talking about?

01:09:58.960 Well, lots of people have, um, well, the problem that we have in this country is you have to ask

01:10:06.560 to be tested and you have to ask to be tested for specific ones. They do not offer it. They,

01:10:13.440 like, it's totally up to the individual person. And unfortunately, most people don't like to ask

01:10:19.280 because they don't like to know because there's like a psychological barrier. If I don't know,

01:10:23.680 then I'm not knowingly giving it to somebody else. And people like to gaslight themselves,

01:10:30.080 unfortunately, to think I can tell by looking at someone that they're going to be safe when there's

01:10:34.480 really no way you can tell. As you know, like there's some things that you can be born with from

01:10:39.280 your parents and they didn't know that they had it. So like, nobody knows unless you test.

01:10:46.560 And what would you say the chances of like, from each sexual encounter,

01:10:51.920 how likely is someone to catch something? And this is just your experience.

01:10:59.360 You got to go like, you got to go by, uh, how easy is it? This is just purely my thoughts on it.

01:11:07.520 So like, this is not scientific or anything. This is just like my thought based on what I've seen.

01:11:12.480 I would say if somebody is quick to sleep with you, they're quick to sleep with other people.

01:11:16.960 And there, there's a higher likelihood that doesn't mean now you have to like,

01:11:22.240 I have to like preface this. Like some people are quick to sleep with certain people and not other

01:11:26.640 people. So you have to know like where you stand on that scale and assess after that.

01:11:31.920 Do you know what I found the, um, there's two types of people that get STDs.

01:11:36.640 It seems like either the whores and the naive. So like half of the ones that like,

01:11:41.360 we've had call in, they were like married guys that got it from their wife.

01:11:46.720 Yeah. Have you found that too? Or was that, is that just something I've seen?

01:11:50.240 Lots, lots of married people give it to each other. Unfortunately.

01:11:53.520 Yeah. Cheating is, is a big, is a big problem.

01:11:56.640 I'm looking at these tests on quest right now. This is expensive. Uh,

01:12:04.320 the basic. So you're saying the, the STD screening test panel expanded,

01:12:09.200 it's screened for seven sexually trans transmitted infections. So that's,

01:12:14.400 I think the one that people, they recommend. So that's going to have hepatitis, chlamydia,

01:12:20.160 gonorrhea, trick, syphilis, HIV one, and two. It doesn't even test for herpes. Look at that.

01:12:25.920 That's crazy. Wow. Yeah. And that's going to be another barriers people. I'm just looking at quest

01:12:33.040 because that's a common one. Like people aren't going to want to pay this.

01:12:36.720 Have you ever had to go to a scenario where someone, where a couple came in,

01:12:41.200 what that someone gave someone, something to somebody and they found out through the test.

01:12:49.440 And then something happened at the clinic. I mean, as far, nothing, nothing violent or

01:12:55.120 anything like that has happened, but people get upset. There was a few times where we got false

01:13:00.720 positives. So that wasn't fun because there was a lot of fighting and possible divorces. And then it

01:13:05.760 turns out, Oh, it was a false positive. So that happens unfortunately too. But yeah,

01:13:10.960 there's been cases where like somebody marries someone who has no experience or whatever,

01:13:19.600 but then they find out that that person with no experience later had experience during the marriage

01:13:25.120 they should not have had. And then they get something. I mean, there's lots of cases on both

01:13:30.400 sides. I would say like, I've seen equally males do that and females. I don't think this is a,

01:13:38.800 this is like uncommon, unfortunately, for both genders when they have the opportunity to do

01:13:44.400 something. Was there, was it a particular race of women that had more STDs in your clinic than any

01:13:50.720 other race? I'm not saying that. You can look that up. I just want to know if it was

01:14:00.400 actually true at your clinic. I'm sure whatever the stats are, are true.

01:14:05.440 Oh, come on. Come on. I will say this. They are changing. The stats are changing. It is becoming

01:14:15.440 very common with all peoples now. As culture shifts, it is no longer stigmatized for any group.

01:14:24.880 You have to be politically correct over here. Yes, I do.

01:14:27.760 All right. For the people, I found an STD test that was an at-home one. Chlamydia,

01:14:35.200 gonorrhea, hepatitis C, HIV 1 and 2, syphilis, TRIC, microplasma, genitalium, HPV,

01:14:42.720 herpes simplex 2. Is there anything they're missing in this?

01:14:48.480 Um, you know that bacteria vaginitis is a sexually transmitted infection now. They're considering it

01:14:55.680 that. So like, there's a lot of people who are getting it from that too. And they think it's

01:15:00.960 just like, I don't know, they're like, maybe they're sick or something. I don't know. But there's

01:15:08.320 HPV. Is that like on there too? Yeah, that was on there. I'm just, I'm just looking at basic boxes

01:15:14.240 because you said a lot of them aren't tested for. So I'm just, I'm kind of asking the question if like,

01:15:19.280 yeah, if the, well, when you go into tests, they usually only test for the ones you mentioned,

01:15:25.920 except HIV. They will not test for that unless you go to a specific clinic that tests for HIV.

01:15:34.800 I mean, they can ask for blood tests, but doctors don't like to do it because I don't think that

01:15:39.280 they're legally allowed to give you the results. I'm not sure about that. I know that clinics,

01:15:44.640 you have to do a specific test just to be allowed to give someone results for HIV,

01:15:49.680 not for the other ones. Were you surprised by the types of people that had STDs? Like,

01:15:57.280 would there be certain ones that you just would never? How accurate are the at-home STI tests?

01:16:02.640 Are those accurate? I would say,

01:16:09.280 well, even the ones in clinic, we've had false positives. So I don't know like the percentage

01:16:13.760 of accuracy. I would say none are completely accurate. Even if you get a positive or a

01:16:18.880 negative, I would still retest every like three months or so just to be sure. That's what I said.

01:16:24.640 I would say three months, like, cause based on the shows I've been doing, it seems like if you get

01:16:29.680 chlamydia untreated for three months, that could be pretty bad. That's, you know, do you agree with

01:16:39.040 that? I'm just asking like best practices here. A lot of these things cause long-term infertility.

01:16:43.600 And I just asking, you know, like months ago when I talked to you, I asked just regular girlfriends,

01:16:50.240 like, have you ever been tested for anything like for real? And a hundred percent have not been tested

01:16:55.840 for anything. That is so crazy for me. I think I'm neurotic though. So I think I know too much,

01:17:03.120 but I'm like, that is crazy. It's just not very common because people are still under the stigma

01:17:10.320 that only a certain type of people get things and it's everybody now.

01:17:16.400 Is there anything that you think is really, um, like a lot of women have or men have and they don't

01:17:22.320 know? Definitely. A lot of men have pretty much all the STDs and don't know it cause it's really,

01:17:30.800 really difficult for them to start showing symptoms. And there's even a lot of women that

01:17:35.120 have lots of STDs and zero symptoms, but they're carriers of things. So I would say,

01:17:42.080 I don't know. I think it's like both of them, they're just walking around untested.

01:17:45.520 Yeah. They're carriers of things. What do you mean?

01:17:48.400 Yeah. There's a lot of people like if you have, let's say a really good immune system and you get

01:17:52.160 something, you can still be a carrier, but you're not going to express symptoms.

01:17:55.920 Yeah. If you're in like a sicker person, someone who's under more stress, doesn't sleep well, has

01:18:05.840 other conditions going on, their body's going to be overwhelmed. Whereas somebody who's relatively

01:18:11.040 healthy, sleeps pretty well, doesn't have as much stress. They're not going to show symptoms and

01:18:15.040 they're going to be more likely to just have it and maybe be a carrier, but not express the symptoms

01:18:20.000 themselves. Yeah. That makes sense. And I would go to lots of patients homes with

01:18:28.240 AIDS, HIV, lots of comorbidities. And just by the lifestyle of the person, you could see whether they

01:18:34.480 were going to like live a long time, even with it or not. And it's down to diet. It's down to mindset.

01:18:40.320 It's down to like how happy you are. Like at some of the happiest people I know

01:18:44.080 have all the STDs in the world, but they're very happy and they live just as long as everybody else

01:18:51.520 for some reason. And then there'll be people who they just have like a party lifestyle. They're not

01:18:56.880 sleeping well. They're up all night. They're, you know, stressed out about stuff. And then when they

01:19:01.840 get something like this, it pushes them over the edge and then they get all these bad symptoms.

01:19:06.320 Yeah, that makes sense. Um, do you have any, like, would any, do you have any crazy stories

01:19:14.960 from your time at the clinic that you want to share that are like interesting?

01:19:18.800 Ah, there's one that comes to mind, but I know like, you're like a more like women are the problem,

01:19:24.400 but there's this one that like, I always think about. Cause it's kind of like the, you know, like

01:19:29.840 the, the passport bro thing that has always been a thing. Passport bros, dawn of time. I don't know

01:19:35.840 why it got like a name recently, but I'm talking about 20 something years ago.

01:19:40.480 So we had this guy, he made his money. So he's very, very wealthy, has yachts, everything like,

01:19:45.840 and he, you know, passed through lots and lots of women, but then he finally got something.

01:19:51.440 And after he got something, he went down South, picked himself a nice young virgin bride, Latin bride,

01:19:59.680 brought her over to the States, got, got her pregnant, had the baby. After the baby was like

01:20:05.440 a year or something said, Hey, let's go get tested. And of course she ended up having HIV.

01:20:10.880 And so did the baby. Now I know like terrible story, but like the, the problem with that was

01:20:17.280 if he had at least told her after he gave it to her, we could have prevented the baby from getting it.

01:20:25.360 Which upsets me. Oh my gosh. So he didn't tell her and he knew he had it.

01:20:29.840 Yeah. Yeah. He knew like he was, he was specifically going there for that situation. So,

01:20:35.200 cause he wanted to have a family, but I mean, stuff like that happens on the other side too. It's just,

01:20:41.120 you know, the thing is, I don't consider like men are the problem or women are the problem. I just think

01:20:46.960 people who are narcissists are just growing in numbers. So people need to be careful.

01:20:53.120 What's the difference between HIV one and two? One is like earlier, two is like later in the disease, right?

01:21:00.480 Or am I wrong? I don't know if they, I don't know if I've never heard HIV one. No, there's HSV one and HSV.

01:21:07.280 Oh yeah. No, I'm just looking at testing sites and it says HIV one and two. I was just looking at,

01:21:12.400 cause you said it's not in like the general panel. So I was just kind of curious and it said HIV one and

01:21:18.480 two testing. So I was like, I don't know what that means. If you're curious why it's called passport

01:21:23.280 bros and people have a problem with it is because it's because a lot of black men are passport bros

01:21:30.720 now and like our women have a problem with it. So like white guys have been doing it forever,

01:21:36.000 but now that a lot of black guys are doing it, they're passport bros and there's a problem with it

01:21:39.760 because black women feel like they own black men and we're supposed to stay here

01:21:43.600 and deal with their garbage and we're choosing not to. Well, I mean, this has been going on forever.

01:21:51.520 It's just maybe like they just figured out this was an option. You can't get mad. You got to do what

01:21:57.680 you got to do. That's true. I feel like your testing should be like, it should be regardless of who

01:22:04.640 you're dating. Like, cause it should be mandatory. I think it should be mandatory for like every checkup.

01:22:10.240 Yeah, I agree. I don't understand. Why don't the doctors? Cause I, that's happened to me before

01:22:18.160 where you go in for your yearly and I'm like, yeah, I want everything. And they're like everything. I'm

01:22:21.840 like everything, give everything. Why did they try to talk you out of it? It's like, don't, shouldn't I

01:22:28.960 have a feeling that like, they need to have a specific code to bill insurance. So you have to say

01:22:35.280 specific things for them to justify the test. So like, maybe they lose out something if they

01:22:42.400 have to, or they don't want to make stuff up or whatever.

01:22:47.760 But like, they're definitely like discouraged from putting anything, unless you say I am like

01:22:53.760 a very promiscuous person, please test me for everything. If you don't say that,

01:22:59.120 then they always push back. Yeah. I'm just neurotic. It's not going to be me. What a microplasma

01:23:06.880 genitalium. Is it UTI or some UTIs? Yes. STDs. Yes. And I know you did something on birth control

01:23:18.960 before, but a lot of women do not know that chronic UTIs or BV can be from just being on birth control.

01:23:28.400 Oh, really? That's interesting. Yeah. Just the act of being on birth control ruins the microbiome

01:23:34.400 in the, I think the vaginal canal and maybe the throat and stuff like that. So just like how you

01:23:42.000 can ruin your microbiome and your gut, you can ruin it everywhere else. Oh. Okay. You did counseling

01:23:50.400 services at your, at your clinic too? Yes. So when someone found out, would you ever have to counsel

01:23:56.560 someone that had something permanent like HIV or something on how to like disclose it to people

01:24:02.080 or how to live a normal life and stuff? I believe back when we were doing it, like

01:24:08.080 you had to disclose, but I don't believe you have to disclose anymore. So you, you don't ever have

01:24:14.800 to tell people. And here's the thing. Yeah. Can you, well, just finish that thought, but this whole

01:24:21.200 undetectable thing, can you, after you finished the thought about the disclosure thing, can you talk

01:24:27.600 about this whole undetectable HIV thing? Like what is that about? Yeah. That is when you're on medication.

01:24:34.560 So the viral load is like low. So it's past the detectable threshold that it needs for the test

01:24:42.240 to be positive. You still have it, but it's in a low number, but you can still spread it to people.

01:24:49.760 I mean, it's, uh, it's less likely, but possible.

01:24:57.520 So like, uh, cause I just hope it's not a thing where like people that are undetectable are just like

01:25:03.600 walking around. Like they don't have it at all. Doug MPA. We've talked about this. I've interviewed

01:25:08.320 people that have these STDs. They don't care. They spread them. Exactly. Like there's no,

01:25:14.640 your only choice, even if you're a responsible person, if you're sexually active every three,

01:25:19.520 I would say three months, maybe six, if you're in a relationship and you're semi-confident and don't

01:25:24.640 feel like blowing. Some of these are expensive. My God. Like for me, I could pay it, but like for a normal

01:25:31.280 person paying, like, I mean, this is going to be over a grand a year in testing, you know?

01:25:38.400 Yeah. And that's, that's the other problem that a lot of people see, especially if you're like a

01:25:43.760 poor college student, you see how much it costs. You're going to lie and say, yeah, I've been tested.

01:25:51.040 Yeah. Like this is even for BV yeast infection and trick it's $269. That's expensive.

01:25:59.120 So like, I mean, there's definitely some cheaper places you can go get it, but like,

01:26:05.040 it's still expensive. It's like, I think the lowest, maybe like $50 per thing. You can get it.

01:26:11.680 Some of them I saw as low as 25, but like specific things like 25 for chlamydia, 25 for gonorrhea,

01:26:18.400 25. So it's like, it adds up pretty quickly.

01:26:23.680 Ah, ah, ah, ah, can either be, yeah, I got nothing.

01:26:33.760 Man. Wait.

01:26:37.760 We did have, um, I did want to say there was, it's very difficult for lesbian couples to give any STD to

01:26:45.280 each other for like, you know, the blood ones. Right. But we did have one lesbian that she was

01:26:51.520 able to give her partner's HIV somehow. She was the only one. We never figured out how she did it, but

01:27:01.920 she was definitely quite capable.

01:27:04.320 I'll tell the story. So I lived in Texas for a while and, um, this, this woman that worked with my

01:27:14.560 mother, her sister, uh, she go on work trips and she, she'd meet guys and she sleep with them and she,

01:27:23.600 she got HIV. And, um, you know, the San Antonio airport's really, really big and has a couple of

01:27:30.240 nice bars. So she would dress up on a Friday night, Saturday night, and just sit at the bar

01:27:36.800 and just wait for some guy to pick her up and have sex with them unprotected and who was giving people

01:27:42.480 HIV. And she said, yes, someone gave it to me. So I'm gonna give it to people. And she got arrested

01:27:47.520 multiple times for giving people HIV, but she just, she's like, yeah, they gave it to me. I'm gonna give

01:27:53.520 it to them. So if you see a girl in a, uh, a little red dress at the bar, at one of the bars in San

01:28:00.240 Antonio, you better watch out. Um, unfortunately that's pretty common. Once people get it and they

01:28:08.640 realize people will give it to them, they just become like a villain. Yeah. That's, that's what,

01:28:14.320 I mean, your choices are going to be your dating life is ruined or, um, like, and you could sleep

01:28:24.080 at night or you're going to lie. And a lot of people are going to pay. I've interviewed people

01:28:27.680 with herpes and I mean, they're, they're just going to spread it. They don't care.

01:28:34.560 Unfortunately, I don't know if you've, I'm guessing you've seen similar things. Yeah.

01:28:38.480 Oh, of course. Of course. Um, most of my clients back in the day were gay men and it was just

01:28:46.640 understood in the community that everybody was going to get it if they didn't already have it.

01:28:50.720 So they just kind of accepted it. If you will. One of my, one of my friends, uh, he, he was like,

01:28:59.760 yeah, man, you know, he's gay. He's just like, yeah, we're trying to destigmatize STDs in the gay

01:29:06.560 community. So we were kind of more of a tolerant atmosphere. I'm like, what? He's like, yeah, man.

01:29:13.040 Yeah. And I'm just like, okay there, but keep that all the way over there. No, thanks.

01:29:20.240 Yeah. I mean, it doesn't matter how gross it is. You know, it's just, that's what they're going to do.

01:29:25.200 So you gotta, you gotta have a plan for yourself and that's, that's all you can really do.

01:29:30.880 So you'd say, you'd say if you're going to be sexually active, condoms, dental dams,

01:29:35.760 and testing every three months, that's your recommendation.

01:29:39.520 I mean, yeah. And remember, like when I started working at this clinic, I was very, very young,

01:29:45.680 very naive. I didn't know anything about anything. And then as soon as I found all this stuff,

01:29:50.480 if I even went on a date, I'm like, the first thing we're going to do is we're going to go to

01:29:53.600 this clinic. And of course, most people don't want to do that for a first date, but you know what?

01:30:00.320 That's fine. Then there won't be one. That's okay.

01:30:03.200 Really? What was your success rate? Like how many guys were like, okay,

01:30:07.040 because you're, you're like a hot 18 year old guys will do a lot for that.

01:30:13.360 I mean, there was definitely people who, who said yes. Like my husband, he was like, okay. Yeah.

01:30:18.480 But from, I will say this when I asked him, were you tested? He was like, yeah, of course. And I'm

01:30:23.120 like, okay, then you'll have no problem going with me to this clinic. And then he's like, okay. And then I

01:30:28.160 found out later, like, no, he wasn't. He was just trying to see if to speed this along.

01:30:33.760 That's how it is. People, young people are broke. They're not going to pay for that stuff unless you

01:30:40.000 force them.

01:30:42.480 Yeah, totally. Doug MPA, you got anything else for?

01:30:46.640 Um, it's always good to hear from people that were actually there in these clinics. Um,

01:30:53.520 just one more thing. So they said, um, I've watched a couple of women on social media talk about,

01:31:02.560 in Miami, it's some of the most beautiful women you're ever going to see are like in and out of the

01:31:07.440 HIV clinic and are in and out of the clinic getting HIV medication. Is there, is there like a, is it true

01:31:17.360 that you can't tell by looking, looking at someone if they have like HIV or some kind of STD? Would you

01:31:23.680 assume that a certain, like, how can I put this here? Like they say that if a girl is like a little

01:31:31.840 too pretty, she probably has something in Miami. Like, is there, have you seen, is it true that how much,

01:31:43.280 how much trying to ask this question here? Um, I don't know how to, how to ask.

01:31:53.040 Okay. So if you're asking, if you can tell by looking at someone, like if they're very pretty,

01:31:58.160 assuming like that they will have, no, I haven't noticed that with very attractive women. Now,

01:32:03.680 the OnlyFans thing happened after I quit. So I don't know if that jumped like the attractive women

01:32:13.200 getting that. So I, my, my suspect should, I suspect, yes, I, yes. If they've done OnlyFans or that type

01:32:22.160 of work, I suspect they probably have a higher chance. Now, before the OnlyFans happened, I didn't see very

01:32:30.480 many beautiful women. I'm just going to be honest, but I did see very many beautiful men.

01:32:38.560 Yes. We very, very like top tier looking men. And then very, very, very wealthy men,

01:32:47.520 extremely wealthy men and extremely beautiful men. For the women, I would say average looking to me.

01:32:54.320 Yeah, I'd guess mids because beautiful women don't have to put out as much.

01:33:00.000 Yeah. Yeah. But mids have to put out to, to try to get the results that the beautiful women get.

01:33:06.400 I know, but that's the point. The middle put out, you know, more. So what you're saying about powerful

01:33:12.880 men and beautiful men is why you see, you know, one, one basketball player's wife goes to like a, like

01:33:22.080 another, another celebrity. Cause odds are she has something and they both have something.

01:33:28.480 I understand what I'm saying. Like it's like a circle, because if you like ushers given two

01:33:33.360 women herpes and they've sued him for like, like $1.5 million. So you can avoid that by just like

01:33:40.160 sticking with women that are in the circle, but you know, have something.

01:33:43.600 Wait, I had a thought. You can see if someone has herpes by telling them you have herpes and watching

01:33:49.680 their face and then being like, okay, just kidding. I don't. I mean, that's mean, but yeah,

01:33:56.480 that'll work. And then just being like, cause if they have it, they'll be like, oh, I have it too.

01:34:04.320 I had it. And that's cause a guy that, a guy that, um, had it, I interviewed,

01:34:08.720 he said that like that happened to him once where the girl told him and I was, and then he was like,

01:34:13.600 oh, that's okay. I have it too. And I'm like, that's a great way to go about it. Yeah. Gotcha.

01:34:20.320 I had a woman one time and she's like, yeah, uh, I just want to tell you, I may have herpes and I'm

01:34:26.320 like, you may have herpes. What does that mean? She's I took a test and, and it was inconclusive.

01:34:32.240 I said, is that a such thing? It is a such thing. That means she needs to retest.

01:34:42.560 Yeah. I said goodbye.

01:34:47.920 Yeah. No, no, thanks. So. Okay. Cool. Well, thanks so much. Um, we'd loved if you ever free Friday,

01:34:55.680 seven to nine, we usually do Collins on STDs. So if you ever see a topic and it's relevant,

01:35:01.440 we'll definitely let you up. So thanks so much for calling in. I appreciate it.

01:35:06.240 Alrighty. Have a great night. Have a good one.

01:35:09.920 Anyone else on the line or no? Nope. I guess no one wants to talk about

01:35:14.080 syphilis and hepatitis. Yeah. We might get a gynecologist on, on, um, in a couple of weeks,

01:35:19.840 guys, we had one, um, email me. And if, if you guys worked in the healthcare and you can prove to me

01:35:27.040 privately, you worked, I'd love to interview some healthcare professionals. Cause

01:35:31.120 you guys are the only ones with the real answers in my opinion. So. Um, okay. Well,

01:35:37.520 I think that's really it that we got for the show today. I'm Doug MPA. You got any final thoughts?

01:35:43.040 Um, talking to healthcare providers, it makes you want to live in a bubble, you know, like the

01:35:49.440 little medical bubbles. There's so much stuff out there, man. You gotta be careful. And you just,

01:35:57.200 you gotta avoid getting one of those gifts that keep on giving, man. Like you have to guys protect

01:36:03.040 yourselves and just assume that the, the, a lot of these women have something and just wrap it up,

01:36:08.640 guys. Come on. You gotta do it. Tom Micah used to say it back in the 2000s, wrap it up. And here's

01:36:14.480 the thing. If you start wrapping it up and you wrap it up all the time, you, you'll get used to it.

01:36:18.960 Just wrap it up guys. Yeah. But guys, don't worry. You could still get an STD. So you might as well

01:36:26.160 just go rocks. You can get one anyway. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. Don't do that guys.

01:36:32.960 Yeah. It's like, yeah. Um, anyways, uh, my final thoughts are that's disgusting. Um,

01:36:45.440 but you can't have sex without the risk of STDs in 2025 because there's no virgin brides. So

01:36:51.680 I would just assume that everyone has something and that's the best way to protect yourself.

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Modern Women and STD's： Syphilis and Hepatitis (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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