Modern women are Allergic to this...
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the dangers of sex without a condom and how to deal with it. We also discuss the role of men in this and how they need to stop playing Russian roulette with their own bodies.
Transcript
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I feel like most people, let's be honest, like to sleep without condoms, right?
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But at the end of the day, let's say you meet a guy on a party and you choose to sleep without a condom, yeah?
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He might have been in London, Birmingham, Rio de Janeiro, Paris, Amsterdam.
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That's not only about you let him maybe getting pregnant.
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That's about you being irresponsible with your body.
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And I feel like a lot of people need to come to terms with themselves and think, you know what?
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Because at the end of the day, women, for example, with chlamydia, a lot of women don't know that they have it.
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That's on you because you chose to let someone enter your body without a condom.
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How many of you have a guy in your friend zone that you know would date you and would be a good guy and would be there long-term?
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A good guy that you know would date you, take you.
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Can I just touch on what you said about the Russian roulette with the pill?
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See, like, I will only sleep with someone without a condom unless, like, I'm kind of with them and that's a thing.
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But if I forget my pill, like, say, a one-day, two-day, I don't play Russian roulette.
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I'll openly say to them, look, I forgot my pill.
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Yeah, because I've also heard these stories where girls, I'm sorry, but nothing against women, but this to me sounds so fucking fucked.
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Do any of you guys know a guy that's happened to?
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Raise your hand if you know someone that's happened to.
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Which goes back to, we have more power because, look at, all of these guys know somebody where
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the women lied and said she was on birth control.
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He has to really take the consequence regardless.
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So what I'll say in that scenario, obviously I'm not going to take onus of the man because
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I'm not going to trust the woman straight away.
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Because this is the easiest way to get trapped.
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And if you've got something about you and if you're worth anything, then you're not going
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But once again, what you're doing is you're not placing any blame on the women.
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You're saying the men is everything when we don't have the choice.
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So if the choice is taken away from most men, then you can't really put the blame firmly
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So my thing is this, like, so you meet women that are single mothers.
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And for us men, we look at single mothers in two scenarios, baby mothers and single mothers.
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If you were married and then you were divorced or you're widowed, we look at you as a single
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If you was just had a baby by some guy, situationship, whatever it was, we look at you as a baby
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So when we're out now, we meet a lot of baby mums outside.
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And then we look at you like, where's your baby father?
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And a lot of times you can't get typically higher than your baby father.
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So what tends to happen is you guys have gone and bred by some guy and you might not speak
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But then we think about, oh my gosh, that's the guy you chose to give the highest honour
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So when you're outside now and you're trying to think you can level up your level and
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What you actually don't want to do is you don't want to realise what your actual realistic
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And this is the problem for a lot of baby mothers.
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Would you judge a woman based on their previous partner?
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I have a question for the men and this is just something I've heard and tell me if this
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Would you, if a girl has an ex that you, you think is like trash, like absolute, like waste,
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There's a lot of men, there's a lot of, there's a lot of men or women lining up to date Drake,
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I don't think you say, but it depends on the person, but I feel like if you look at
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yourself, yeah, and the person you date is a kind of a, what you said is, is a reflection
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So if, if someone that you know has dated someone, um, and you don't really like that
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person, I'm thinking to myself, why are you associating yourself with that person?
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And that's why your point about the whole leak thing that we spoke about before, I did semi-agree,
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but there are liars in this world and there are people that are manipulators and they can,
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I'm not saying they don't, but I'm just saying that.
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I'll give you one liar that just bamboozled you.
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Cause I'll, but I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
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Like two, three, it's you, it's you, you're, then, then you're toxic.
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But when it becomes a pattern, it's like, you didn't get bamboozled every single time.
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I feel like before where I wasn't happy within myself.
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And I feel like you attract a certain kind of person.
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And now when I look back and I now am in a more comfortable position with myself, with
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my career, the people I'm around, I look at people completely differently.
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So I feel like in the past I've allowed situation.
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And it's a, it's a hard one to take because you're like, I was the person that did that,
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but I've allowed certain people in my life and I ignored my gut feeling.
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But the first time they treated you badly, you went back and you let them do it again.
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You need to sometimes just be like, you know what?
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Like women always want to talk about, Oh, my lying, cheating ex.
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Most men aren't going to, most men, I'm serious.
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Listen, I'll give you, again, again, I'll give you one.
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You've got to kiss a couple of frogs before you get to your.
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No, no, you don't, you don't, you don't, you don't.
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I'm just speaking about myself personally, because I get what you're saying.
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Sometimes there are some friends in my life where I'm just like, time after time after
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again, you're in the same situation with another guy.
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He's just a different guy, same person, treating you the same way.
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It's like, didn't you learn from the last time?
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But in life, we have to experience, life is biggest lesson is experience.
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Yeah, but you can't go through the same situation multiple times.
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Because that kind of, because if you, let's say, because you're saying you have to, if
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every person you've dated, let's say, has a different toxic trait, then it's different.
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But most of the time, when I look at my own, the reason why I wasn't working out before,
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Now that I've worked on that, and I'm actively working on that, that won't happen to me again.
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But I have to take responsibility in my past to be like, you know what?
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And I feel like a lot of people nowadays, because of this cancel culture and everything,
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they're always like, it's other people, other people, other people.
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At the end of the day, you came on this earth, and you need to take, yeah, you need to make
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But I'm just saying it can take one toxic ex to end up pregnant, and then you've got
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someone on the date that's judging you for the one bad person.
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Yeah, but you had 40, like then you had 10 choices that you didn't make that went into
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You can only get pregnant like three days a month.
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And then back to the cheating thing, like it goes back to there's two different types
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You either pick a top 20% guy where that girls are thrown at him all the time, and that's
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Like it kind of goes back to, I always say, if you date an NBA player or, you know, even
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I'll even give you a basketball player out here.
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If you date one of them and you get cheated on, I don't really feel bad for you.
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Or number two, you're not doing something at home.
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So like if you're not sleeping with your man, I don't feel bad if you get cheated on.
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But Pearl, you know what this sounds like to us?
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Like this just sounds like to us, like you spent your 20s chasing bad boys, getting run
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through Chad and Tyrone, and then in your 30s or whenever it is, you decide that actually
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And now you start looking at guys you didn't look.
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So for us now, it doesn't sound like, you know, what does it sound like we're getting?
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I know, but I was just saying, based on what you said before, about sometimes if a woman's
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got a toxic ex or someone who's just trashed, basically, you would look at them and say,
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you just basically not, you're not interested in them.
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So I was just saying for some people, in some cases, they have, they go, they make that one
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But I go back to that point of can we not, can we, can we not forget there are people that
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really do, they're good at manipulating and acting like they are one person up until whilst
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you're pregnant, like the lady we had on the platform before.
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I know, but she, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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Yeah, and there may be, but then you have to take into account her age.
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Let's go, let's go, let's go, let's go, okay, okay, okay, let's go, let's go.
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Yeah, yeah, you're 21, so I don't really think that's young.
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Okay, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, okay.
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So, so on top of that, she had the choice to have a kid before you got married or after
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you got married, and she could have said, she could have said, I'm going to have an
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She could have made the choice to track her cycle.
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She could have made the choice to go on birth control.
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She could have made the choice to get an abortion.
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She could have made the choice to pick a guy that didn't have all these red flags, but it's
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I'm sure she'll, like, find someone else, but it's going to be a lot harder now, and I understand
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Have you ever been a victim of fraud, like online fraud?
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And I would say, when I got my Venmo hacked, it was my own damn fault.
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And now someone on the date is looking at me, saying you've got a baby, and you made the wrong
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choice, and you had several choices to do that and do this.
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And if someone said that you're an idiot for doing that, and I look at you different now,
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Yeah, yeah, I would say, I would say, yeah, they probably could steal from me.
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Can I, let me quickly just say something here, because I feel like I'm probably the youngest
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And I understand my value enough to understand that my partner reflects my value and vice
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So I would never really commit to anybody that I know is not going to match that to an extent,
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Also, I think, within understanding my value, I understand that for men, for a man to commit
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to a woman, yeah, and, like, have that, it's a big thing.
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It takes a lot for a man to really, like, knuckle down and be like, I'm going to commit
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to this person, as well as commit to having a child and being in the picture.
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It's a lot, because men spread their seed, and we bear the kids, do you know what I'm
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So I think the fact that stuff like that, to me, I've always naturally understood that,
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and it's being discussed where people don't get it, is really interesting to me.
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Like, I don't understand where the discourse is of that.
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