JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Are DELUSIONAL

00:00:00.000 20, 21, 23 is not a top G, like a 30, 40 year old man.

00:00:04.240 Your age actually dictates your sort of maturity

00:00:06.980 to a large extent.

00:00:08.220 Well, I'm arguing the point.

00:00:09.460 The point I'm trying to make is that

00:00:10.640 what I actually think happens,

00:00:12.100 especially in the modern world, 0.99

00:00:13.940 because the modern world's all fucked up 0.98

00:00:15.360 and nothing's the way it's supposed to be. 0.98

00:00:16.980 The traditional life path of a female is she's 17, 1.00

00:00:21.100 she's 18, she's 19,

00:00:22.280 and her value is massively inflated.

00:00:24.320 And I don't blame her.

00:00:25.400 Of course it's massively inflated.

00:00:26.540 Imagine being 19 years old, 0.98

00:00:27.840 have achieved exactly fucking zero in your life. 0.98

00:00:31.240 Knowing nothing, you put makeup on, 0.99

00:00:33.680 and sports stars, billionaires, actors,

00:00:36.980 the most important famous people on the planet,

00:00:39.200 the richest men on the planet,

00:00:40.300 are begging for your attention.

00:00:41.960 The ego you're gonna develop,

00:00:43.820 let us all be honest, right?

00:00:44.800 The ego you're gonna develop

00:00:45.440 is gonna be monumental.

00:00:46.900 I'm special, I'm so gorgeous, 0.99

00:00:48.440 all this bullshit, right? 0.99

00:00:49.520 And then what happens as they grow older, 0.99

00:00:51.660 as new generations come along,

00:00:53.340 because the truth is most women 1.00

00:00:54.960 are at their peak attraction,

00:00:56.820 let's say in their early 20s,

00:00:58.080 as they grow older,

00:00:59.660 what women become 1.00

00:01:00.820 is far more fearful of competition.

00:01:02.820 This is why you'll see a woman 1.00

00:01:03.820 who's a bit older go,

00:01:04.680 oh, you know, I really want monogamy there. 0.91

00:01:06.020 What she's scared of

00:01:06.940 is her dude getting a 21-year-old. 1.00

00:01:08.340 That's what she's fucking scared of. 0.99

00:01:09.400 She may not know it, 0.99

00:01:10.460 she may not say it,

00:01:11.720 but basically that's what the truth is,

00:01:13.340 because she knows a 21-year-old

00:01:14.500 is gonna be more desirable,

00:01:15.500 higher status, more fertile.

00:01:17.360 That's what she's scared of.

00:01:18.480 Cheating is bad when you're 30 or 27.

00:01:20.720 So, no, it's not about that.

00:01:22.360 I'm telling you the shift

00:01:24.200 in the female mentality, 1.00

00:01:25.500 because when a female's 20, 1.00

00:01:27.100 she doesn't give a fuck 1.00

00:01:27.920 about any of this. 0.99

00:01:29.040 She doesn't want to find a nice man.

00:01:30.480 Now she's trying to,

00:01:31.160 like you're saying,

00:01:31.680 chasing a lifestyle,

00:01:32.540 chasing Mr. Promiscuous,

00:01:33.740 chasing Mr. Famous.

00:01:34.840 Doesn't give a shit 1.00

00:01:35.520 until she starts getting scared. 1.00

00:01:37.480 Oh, shit. 1.00

00:01:38.000 My age begins with three now. 1.00

00:01:40.600 And then they change,

00:01:41.580 their mentality changes.

00:01:42.580 It's a fear element.

00:01:43.660 That's the reality.

00:01:44.260 And it's a biological fear element.

00:01:45.940 I'll give you an example of it.

00:01:47.340 You know what's amazing about humans?

00:01:48.960 We are still very primal.

00:01:51.320 When men like these two and me,

00:01:53.300 when we walk through the mall,

00:01:54.820 people just move.

00:01:56.340 It's like you can sense when,

00:01:58.080 you can sense when the big animals turn up, right?

00:02:00.600 It's something amazing about humans.

00:02:02.220 If you have a very attractive 45-year-old woman, 0.54

00:02:04.600 she's gorgeous,

00:02:05.140 but a gorgeous 19-year-old walks in,

00:02:07.960 look at that 45-year-old woman's face. 1.00

00:02:09.760 She's furious. 1.00

00:02:10.760 She fucking hates her. 1.00

00:02:12.200 She just doesn't like her for no reason. 1.00

00:02:13.920 Because women understand, 0.95

00:02:15.340 unfortunately,

00:02:16.020 it's unfortunate,

00:02:16.640 but you're innately,

00:02:17.580 your age is a massive indicator in your value.

00:02:20.140 In an inverse way to men,

00:02:21.560 men are more valuable as we get older.

00:02:23.520 Every man,

00:02:24.100 every woman knows that. 1.00

00:02:25.020 Every woman will sit here and go, 1.00

00:02:25.960 yeah, I want a man who's older than me.

00:02:27.180 Of course.

00:02:27.900 But if I sit the other way around,

00:02:29.000 I'm misogynistic.

00:02:29.720 It's just the reality of the world.

00:02:30.980 So then we have to go into the other point.

00:02:32.780 The point is this.

00:02:33.440 When you were at your peak value,

00:02:35.960 you had zero interest in monogamy.

00:02:38.520 But then you find a man who's 35 at his peak value.

00:02:42.100 He's finally struggled and worked.

00:02:43.860 Because when he was 19,

00:02:44.820 no girl spoke to him.

00:02:45.820 When he was 23,

00:02:46.740 he was broke.

00:02:47.500 When he was 24,

00:02:48.380 he had no life experience.

00:02:49.640 When he was 25, 1.00

00:02:50.480 he couldn't fuck. 0.99

00:02:51.340 When he was 26, 0.99

00:02:51.840 whatever.

00:02:52.460 He finally gets to the point where he's now at his peak value.

00:02:55.220 He at 35 is you when you were 19.

00:02:58.200 And then you're sitting there saying to him,

00:02:59.940 no,

00:03:00.300 you should be a monogamist.

00:03:01.320 It's like,

00:03:01.840 well, 0.99

00:03:01.980 you fucking weren't. 0.99

00:03:03.100 You did whatever you wanted in your peak. 1.00

00:03:05.640 Now I'm finally got there. 1.00

00:03:06.780 And I had to work for my shit. 1.00

00:03:08.460 God gave you, 1.00

00:03:09.180 God and L'Oreal gave you you. 0.99

00:03:11.100 I had to fucking struggle. 0.99

00:03:12.580 I had to go through hell to get on this yacht. 0.99

00:03:14.460 You got on the yacht with an Instagram DM.

00:03:16.020 I had to buy it.

00:03:17.260 And now you're telling me, 0.99

00:03:18.120 I need to fucking settle down and behave and grow up. 1.00

00:03:21.000 Fuck you. 1.00

00:03:21.600 It's bullshit. 1.00

00:03:22.220 You're assuming that the journey is a man that starts with nothing to something. 0.99

00:03:26.000 Because there's a lot of men.

00:03:27.040 That is exactly the journey of every man on earth.

00:03:29.280 We are born without value.

00:03:31.700 So there's specificity in that.

00:03:34.180 Because that's not how it should be for everybody.

00:03:36.300 And that's not how it is for everybody.

00:03:37.560 And not for every woman either,

00:03:39.320 as well,

00:03:39.520 may I just say.

00:03:40.200 Can I ask Brittany something,

00:03:41.240 please?

00:03:42.340 You know,

00:03:42.980 like,

00:03:43.920 then you've learned in the past.

00:03:45.900 And now you want to find someone to settle down.

00:03:48.620 With hindsight now,

00:03:50.520 would you have reversed it?

00:03:51.720 And like started young,

00:03:52.740 looking for someone to settle down with,

00:03:54.220 looking for those values that now you know.

00:03:56.100 I'm talking about with hindsight.

00:03:58.060 Okay.

00:03:58.400 Well,

00:03:58.640 I've,

00:03:58.960 I actually from 18 to 22,

00:04:01.100 I was in a relationship.

00:04:02.380 I've always actually been a lover girl,

00:04:04.220 despite what I put out online for,

00:04:06.160 you know,

00:04:06.480 I've never seen you online.

00:04:07.380 Yeah,

00:04:07.600 that's fine.

00:04:08.240 That's even better.

00:04:10.020 I have always wanted one person.

00:04:12.760 And I feel like I was so delusional in thinking that,

00:04:16.460 oh,

00:04:16.740 I'm,

00:04:17.080 I'm like you said,

00:04:17.800 like I have value.

00:04:18.560 I'm beautiful.

00:04:18.940 I'm this.

00:04:19.460 I'm at my peak.

00:04:19.940 Like,

00:04:20.100 why wouldn't you want to be with me?

00:04:21.280 So going into these relationships or just like P I'm sorry,

00:04:24.540 just people.

00:04:25.200 My goal was always to get commitment.

00:04:27.860 Like I'm giving you my time.

00:04:29.180 I'm pouring into you because I want commitment.

00:04:31.280 And the reality is I'd never had,

00:04:33.460 I'd never really understood my value.

00:04:35.500 So I was going through guys,

00:04:36.960 giving up sex,

00:04:37.760 doing this,

00:04:38.340 and it didn't make sense.

00:04:39.400 So I believe in like,

00:04:40.820 I stay on everything I do.

00:04:42.060 Like I don't,

00:04:43.180 I don't do apology tours.

00:04:44.480 It is what it is.

00:04:45.220 And I think that's where I feel like when it,

00:04:47.540 when I talk about women being delusional and all these other things, 0.99

00:04:49.520 it is true because what you have to understand is that there are

00:04:52.020 repercussions to your decisions,

00:04:53.320 which is fine.

00:04:53.980 So then you're talking about,

00:04:55.200 okay,

00:04:55.380 well I want this type of guy.

00:04:56.500 I want this,

00:04:56.820 that and that you're talking about maybe monogamy.

00:04:58.460 That's three to 5% of animals are monogamous.

00:05:00.260 I think that's what it is.

00:05:01.260 Right?

00:05:01.540 So the,

00:05:02.980 your window is really,

00:05:04.260 really small for what you're looking for.

00:05:05.700 And even to go onto the point where you said,

00:05:07.180 where you were talking about,

00:05:07.720 it's like a subconscious fear.

00:05:09.360 I think it's like,

00:05:10.360 for me,

00:05:11.040 I feel like if,

00:05:11.560 if it was more of a fear,

00:05:12.340 I would have just stayed in my situation.

00:05:13.400 Like it wouldn't have made sense.

00:05:14.820 Like,

00:05:15.020 I mean,

00:05:15.200 that was my first kid.

00:05:15.920 I thought I waited and did it right.

00:05:17.340 I left because I believe it.

00:05:19.400 There's something else on my heart when it comes to love.

00:05:21.600 And I'm just going to have to trust that.

00:05:23.160 And if that means being alone,

00:05:24.720 having a dog,

00:05:25.340 I have to take that chance because the Bentley,

00:05:27.700 the ring,

00:05:28.260 the house and still getting again,

00:05:31.080 deceived,

00:05:32.100 right?

00:05:32.820 Disrespected because deceit is disrespect.

00:05:35.160 Right?

00:05:35.740 So I just,

00:05:37.300 I cannot settle for that. 1.00

00:05:38.340 I can't suck a dick and shut up. 1.00

00:05:40.240 And that is where a lot of people don't like my views and what I represent 1.00

00:05:44.020 because it is something new. 0.98

00:05:45.900 I don't know how it's going to fucking end. 0.97

00:05:47.700 I don't know what's going to happen. 0.98

00:05:48.800 What would you tell your 17 if you had to like,

00:05:51.380 what would you tell your 17 year old self knowing what you know now?

00:05:55.300 Looking back and you had to meet yourself at 17.

00:05:57.680 What would you tell your,

00:05:59.520 what would you tell yourself?

00:06:00.740 Like lock it down and wait for the right man. 0.97

00:06:02.760 Don't have sex. 0.60

00:06:03.400 What would you tell your 17 year old self?

00:06:08.680 That the answers aren't outside of you because I feel like I'd always look for

00:06:12.460 men to answer all of my questions that I've ever had.

00:06:15.340 I thought when I had a man,

00:06:16.320 it would complete me,

00:06:17.040 complete me.

00:06:17.560 And I feel like too,

00:06:18.960 especially with like my dad not being in my life,

00:06:21.420 you look for somebody to guide me.

00:06:23.100 Like,

00:06:23.460 so that's where for me,

00:06:24.620 I put too much value in someone else having the answers for me.

00:06:29.460 So that's why I'm really big on accountability.

00:06:31.420 So I would just tell myself like to be patient,

00:06:34.540 to take your time.

00:06:35.320 Cause I was always quick.

00:06:36.280 Oh,

00:06:36.600 let's try to get in a relationship.

00:06:37.560 Right.

00:06:37.620 Like we weren't even compatible.

00:06:39.420 There's a lot of just not compatible factors.

00:06:41.980 So I feel like for me,

00:06:43.300 it would be to slow down and to really get to know people instead of just blindly banking

00:06:48.780 on potential that most likely will never be tapped into or selling myself short because

00:06:52.700 there's a fear of,

00:06:53.560 well,

00:06:53.680 I don't know.

00:06:54.020 This could be the best that I could get. 0.98

00:06:55.100 I might as well just shut up, 1.00

00:06:56.540 shut up and suck a dick. 1.00

00:06:57.260 And that's what I meant about women nowadays because exactly what you'd be telling your 1.00

00:07:03.040 17 year old self is what happened back in the day.

00:07:06.500 So when I'm repeating these things,

00:07:07.960 I'm going to,

00:07:08.440 Oh,

00:07:08.960 you're old fashioned.

00:07:09.960 But it seems like women do what they like and then they hit a certain age and say, 1.00

00:07:14.240 Oh,

00:07:14.420 well,

00:07:14.540 I've got to settle.

00:07:15.540 But it's not settling.

00:07:16.420 You're just getting whatever you can or whatever you deserve.

00:07:20.080 You know what?

00:07:20.560 Because if you think back now,

00:07:21.680 you'd be telling people now,

00:07:23.180 rather than say that auntie's old fashioned or auntie don't know what she's talking about,

00:07:26.980 look what she'd be telling her 17 year old self,

00:07:29.340 which ain't nothing that I already said.

00:07:31.140 Yeah.

00:07:31.440 Because really and truly,

00:07:32.840 really and truly,

00:07:33.400 let me finish.

00:07:34.020 Let me finish.

00:07:34.780 Because what I've always said,

00:07:36.040 and you can check,

00:07:37.020 I'm an older version of you.

00:07:38.920 So where you've been,

00:07:40.780 I've already been an upper comeback.

00:07:43.120 So that's why I asked you,

00:07:44.380 what would you tell your 17 year old self?

00:07:46.360 Because me telling you is I'm telling my 30 year old self.

00:07:50.520 Do you understand where I'm coming from?

00:07:51.800 So it's not that I'm old fashioned.

00:07:53.320 It's just that women hit a certain age and then realize, 1.00

00:07:56.460 oh my God,

00:07:57.320 it wasn't that old fashioned.

00:07:58.980 You know,

00:07:59.440 it works because it does,

00:08:01.760 but there's no point in waiting until you're a certain age to start thinking about it.

00:08:07.360 You know,

00:08:07.740 even if you're like,

00:08:08.580 you hold your own accountability.

00:08:10.020 So it's like if you meet somebody and they were like 17,

00:08:12.600 18,

00:08:12.980 and you saw the match in a certain way,

00:08:14.120 they asked you for advice.

00:08:15.100 You won't say do as I do.

00:08:16.360 You say,

00:08:16.680 this is what happened to me.

00:08:18.080 And this is what I thought.

00:08:19.060 And what I recommend you do is blah,

00:08:20.460 blah,

00:08:20.580 blah.

00:08:21.300 Am I right?

00:08:21.720 Or am I wrong?

00:08:22.360 If they ask you for your advice.

00:08:23.440 No,

00:08:23.780 I totally get what you're saying.

00:08:25.060 I totally agree with that.

00:08:26.420 I think that no matter what you decide to do,

00:08:28.340 you have to accept whatever repercussions come behind that.

00:08:30.460 So any advice that I give to anybody is do what you want,

00:08:33.180 but just know there are repercussions,

00:08:34.460 good,

00:08:34.640 bad,

00:08:34.760 or indifferent that are going to come behind it.

00:08:36.500 So,

00:08:36.980 I mean,

00:08:37.340 and I think that's just where I'm at.

00:08:38.380 I don't even think it's like an age thing.

00:08:39.820 I think it's like,

00:08:41.060 in reality,

00:08:41.640 I have,

00:08:41.860 I have a son and you really start asking yourself questions.

00:08:45.280 And again,

00:08:45.720 I hate that it took having a child to really look into my life and call 1.00

00:08:50.500 myself out on my bullshit. 0.99

00:08:52.220 So if you got pregnant earlier, 1.00

00:08:53.800 if you got pregnant at 18,

00:08:55.040 19,

00:08:55.600 would it?

00:08:56.380 I was always on birth control.

00:08:57.880 I was on birth control for a decade.

00:08:59.180 I got off birth control because of the person I was with when I had a baby.

00:09:01.520 So,

00:09:02.140 so again,

00:09:02.760 I thought I did it right.

00:09:03.720 Clearly not because I wasn't married,

00:09:05.400 but it still didn't work out because it just wasn't my guy.

00:09:08.460 So that's where I just think like,

00:09:09.660 even if I still would have taken it slow,

00:09:11.760 there just were a lot of people that just were genuinely not my person.

00:09:14.140 And that's okay.

00:09:16.860 As many of you know,

00:09:18.060 I was just banned on Tik TOK and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this

00:09:23.900 platform.

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JustPearlyThings - December 26, 2022

Modern Women Are DELUSIONAL

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