Modern Women are NEVER REASONABLE
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Summary
In this episode, I'm joined by my best friend, to talk about how to approach women in the modern world, how to be nice to them, and how to get them to like you. We also talk about why women are confusing to men and why they don't like nice guys.
Transcript
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70 and you'll be like begging people to shoot their shot i don't need it that's how guys do it
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like as much as possible until like yeah lands on someone that's how they do it like they wouldn't
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they wouldn't do it if it didn't work sometimes yeah i guess like how did you and your boyfriend
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get together how did he approach it we met at a games night and he said hello right and we said
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and we just started chatting but someone asked it was like no i don't even actually remember how
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the conversation started we were in a group setting and someone said something and someone
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else said something else and that's how it would like no one was like oh you look cute oh yeah
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okay so if you're if your boyfriend came up to you and said you look very nice this is like i'm
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whatever his name is he he wouldn't you wouldn't if he came up to me went you look very nice no no
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he says it like in a nice way so you like like he gave you a compliment yeah you would be offended
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i wouldn't be offended but i feel like if you're just randomly muttering things at me
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as i'm walking through the streets i feel like why well he doesn't have to randomly mutter but
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you know what i mean that's what that's what my situation is but i'm saying like
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like this is why guys say women are confusing and they don't like nice guys
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it's true but do you think it's nice to be like yes absolutely yeah if you're walking down the
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street i think that's saying more about you i'll tell you my theory on this and this this is this
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is a theory in progress it's kind of weak but i i think of it as emotional magnification so like
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i have this idea that and i'm still this is this is a weak theory but women like to feel as emotional
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about things as possible right they want to avoid logic because if you can explain something simply
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then it's not it's not arousing emotionally you can't be aroused about like maths or physics
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however if you get a compliment from someone that's positive then you can then choose like
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whatever narrative in your head feminist narrative and say now i get to feel offended and then when
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you transmit that story you can then add another dimension to it so you can add as many different
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dimensions so that's that's my theory of why women tend to make very simple things as intense and
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like dramatic as possible because they'd rather feel than think but to me it's uncomfortable
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if some if i'm walking past someone it makes me feel uncomfortable but you're in control of your
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emotions you should be anyway i am so it's something wrong but you're allowing it to feel you make you
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feel uncomfortable yeah yeah but that's what i'm saying like you can just say okay and then mind like
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go on with your day but you're choosing to let it get to you it's a choice but i'm like i'm allowed
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to not like it you're allowed to not like it but i'm saying like you're choosing to focus on it
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okay let me ask you a question if you dress up you wear you can't you got no man you put your best
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dress on your best makeup and you'll go outside and for the old day not one single person give
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you a compliment how you feel even the people that you know not one single person i don't know i just
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wouldn't care what if it happened for about a week you have so much cap this is like need to be right
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type yeah this is need to be right like in action but like i just i don't know i just wouldn't care
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like how how are men supposed to know how to approach women like how are they supposed to
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know what each woman likes to be approached and doesn't like to be approached i guess you can
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feel it no you can tell by like energy you can feel it notice you don't tell by like energy you can
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feel it okay no english man i just have a question can you can you just feel it yeah you can absolutely
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not i feel nothing i thought nothing i said hello i made a compliment i gave you a compliment and i
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tried to escalate it to like a meeting and that failed horribly most of the time so telling me that
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there's a feeling it's it's it's no and it's like confusing to men because you're out here getting
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offended i'm like i love the compliments keep them going and so it's like men it's the thing it's not
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reality it's two different people but you can feel that way and that's fine there's nothing wrong
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with the way you feel and there's nothing wrong with the way i feel it's just that it's just
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everyone's different but i'm saying what okay this is this is the whole post post-modern thing that's
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going on now that people feel that they're entitled to their own version of reality so i can feel any
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way about anything and technically that's a valid point of view so i used to i used to have this opinion
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in university where like you know i was quite popular in my final year of university i i figured it
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out in my uni when i was like these guys are full of shit i'm just gonna i'm just gonna do this
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and so i'll talk to these girls take them out on like you know semi dates and they'll be in my room
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and things would escalate from there and i would just watch how each one would approach it so some
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of them were cool but some of them would be in the room and they were awkward but when women are
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awkward they try and make you feel awkward so that because they're they're in the strong position right
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so there was this one girl in my bed under my sheets cheeks on me and then she was like just
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because i'm here doesn't mean i want to have sex and i was like sorry no i literally grilled her on
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this i was like she's actually a long time this is what made her my friend because i was like hold
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on so so so what are we doing why are you why are you under my sheets right now she was like well maybe
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you know it doesn't have to be about sex then why are you on under my sheets why is your butt on my
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groin right now the point being she won bedtime story that there is no like separate version of reality
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you entitled to see there is there are social norms and there are kind of things where behaviors are appropriate
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behaviors expected and behaviors are incorrect so that's like do you know the privilege you have
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to be able to complain when people compliment you what do you mean what what do i mean do you know the
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privilege that you have to be able to complain when people compliment you it's like like being
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getting complimented is a privilege you're a pretty girl not everybody gets compliments there's fat
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chick there's whales every day that go unnoticed i hate that i think whales but that's what they are
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no they're not that's what they are no what am i supposed to call someone that's over 300 pounds
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what what would you call them she's just she's a human being that's a whale she's not
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i could be all my days now they'll put her on the cover of cosmo and call it beautiful
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maybe she is to who she is to whoever's looking at her like i don't feel like you have to be a
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certain size to be beautiful i don't feel yeah feel okay i don't think that you have to be a certain
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size you should be beautiful you do not yeah you don't but i think so but there's reality and there's
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okay there's because you look the way you look there's this many guys knocking on your door if you
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were 300 pounds there'd be a lot less guys knocking on your door depends what guys i'm into you know
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depends depends if they like a chunky girl no it's true because like i grew up i grew up fat
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and then i lost weight and i was like super skinny okay and it was actually getting annoying how many
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guys were coming up to me now that i've gained weight again i'm like oh chill i like it this way
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you know because i i personally don't like people bothering me bothering you but i'm not gonna blame
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them for trying i'm just like okay you tried chill just don't touch me and don't like hurt me that's
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it it's fine i'm coming for some asian woman absolutely if they don't harass you i just do not
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see the problem but a lot of them do harass you and this is why i have an issue harassment everything
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like women call women are like the biggest softies when it comes to harassment i'm like none of y'all
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have been really harassed okay i'll give you a couple compliments and maybe maybe he'll keep going
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with it and they'll be like oh my god harassment i'm like he just complimented you a couple times
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let me give you an example okay okay so one that i live the tube is here so i've got two tube stations
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where i live right so there's one here literally next to the apartments i live by and there's one over
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there right i i'm literally running again to work running to the to the tube and this guy starts
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running besides me and he's like he's like he's like miss miss miss miss miss and he's trying to
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talk to me and i said to him like excuse me like i'm i'm literally i'm running late i've got no time
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to talk to you he said i just want to tell you look nice i said okay thank you cool um i've still got
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to go to work right bye left the next day he sees me again it's the same thing obviously i'm not
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running to this train station this day and i say to him that i've got a boyfriend i'm not interested
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he's like your boyfriend doesn't have to know you can come to you can come to my place i'm like no
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i'm not interested the next day again he sees me and he sees me he's here and he he's it and again it's
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the same thing daily daily for a week like do you not think that's harassment until that's just one
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guy right no but the p point did you not think he was also going to work though maybe that's why he's
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bumping onto you into you daily at the same time he lives like he lives across from me okay i just would
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not care like i just okay just don't reply yeah then just keep is that harassment you don't think
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that's harassment if you've repeatedly told a guy i'm not interested i don't want anything to do with
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you someone call it someone call that persistence i grew up in nigeria and if i come to you and
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approach and you said no and i'll ask you a simple question what percentage of chance have i got if
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you said two percent that's good enough i've got something to work with