JustPearlyThings - Modern Women are NEVER REASONABLE

00:00:00.000 70 and you'll be like begging people to shoot their shot i don't need it that's how guys do it

00:00:07.200 like as much as possible until like yeah lands on someone that's how they do it like they wouldn't

00:00:14.000 they wouldn't do it if it didn't work sometimes yeah i guess like how did you and your boyfriend

00:00:20.240 get together how did he approach it we met at a games night and he said hello right and we said

00:00:26.240 and we just started chatting but someone asked it was like no i don't even actually remember how

00:00:31.920 the conversation started we were in a group setting and someone said something and someone

00:00:35.520 else said something else and that's how it would like no one was like oh you look cute oh yeah

00:00:41.760 okay so if you're if your boyfriend came up to you and said you look very nice this is like i'm

00:00:46.400 whatever his name is he he wouldn't you wouldn't if he came up to me went you look very nice no no

00:00:52.560 he says it like in a nice way so you like like he gave you a compliment yeah you would be offended

00:00:57.840 i wouldn't be offended but i feel like if you're just randomly muttering things at me

00:01:01.840 as i'm walking through the streets i feel like why well he doesn't have to randomly mutter but

00:01:06.960 you know what i mean that's what that's what my situation is but i'm saying like

00:01:11.520 like this is why guys say women are confusing and they don't like nice guys

00:01:15.680 it's true but do you think it's nice to be like yes absolutely yeah if you're walking down the

00:01:21.920 street i think that's saying more about you i'll tell you my theory on this and this this is this

00:01:27.920 is a theory in progress it's kind of weak but i i think of it as emotional magnification so like

00:01:32.880 i have this idea that and i'm still this is this is a weak theory but women like to feel as emotional 1.00

00:01:37.840 about things as possible right they want to avoid logic because if you can explain something simply

00:01:41.920 then it's not it's not arousing emotionally you can't be aroused about like maths or physics

00:01:46.320 however if you get a compliment from someone that's positive then you can then choose like

00:01:50.880 whatever narrative in your head feminist narrative and say now i get to feel offended and then when 0.73

00:01:55.200 you transmit that story you can then add another dimension to it so you can add as many different

00:01:59.760 dimensions so that's that's my theory of why women tend to make very simple things as intense and 1.00

00:02:04.800 like dramatic as possible because they'd rather feel than think but to me it's uncomfortable

00:02:11.600 if some if i'm walking past someone it makes me feel uncomfortable but you're in control of your

00:02:15.280 emotions you should be anyway i am so it's something wrong but you're allowing it to feel you make you

00:02:21.040 feel uncomfortable yeah yeah but that's what i'm saying like you can just say okay and then mind like

00:02:26.320 go on with your day but you're choosing to let it get to you it's a choice but i'm like i'm allowed

00:02:31.200 to not like it you're allowed to not like it but i'm saying like you're choosing to focus on it

00:02:35.840 okay let me ask you a question if you dress up you wear you can't you got no man you put your best

00:02:40.400 dress on your best makeup and you'll go outside and for the old day not one single person give

00:02:45.120 you a compliment how you feel even the people that you know not one single person i don't know i just

00:02:50.160 wouldn't care what if it happened for about a week you have so much cap this is like need to be right

00:02:59.440 type yeah this is need to be right like in action but like i just i don't know i just wouldn't care

00:03:05.840 like how how are men supposed to know how to approach women like how are they supposed to

00:03:12.080 know what each woman likes to be approached and doesn't like to be approached i guess you can

00:03:16.800 feel it no you can tell by like energy you can feel it notice you don't tell by like energy you can

00:03:24.080 feel it okay no english man i just have a question can you can you just feel it yeah you can absolutely

00:03:30.320 not i feel nothing i thought nothing i said hello i made a compliment i gave you a compliment and i

00:03:36.640 tried to escalate it to like a meeting and that failed horribly most of the time so telling me that

00:03:41.920 there's a feeling it's it's it's no and it's like confusing to men because you're out here getting

00:03:49.360 offended i'm like i love the compliments keep them going and so it's like men it's the thing it's not

00:03:56.000 reality it's two different people but you can feel that way and that's fine there's nothing wrong

00:03:59.360 with the way you feel and there's nothing wrong with the way i feel it's just that it's just

00:04:03.680 everyone's different but i'm saying what okay this is this is the whole post post-modern thing that's

00:04:09.280 going on now that people feel that they're entitled to their own version of reality so i can feel any

00:04:14.720 way about anything and technically that's a valid point of view so i used to i used to have this opinion

00:04:20.000 in university where like you know i was quite popular in my final year of university i i figured it 0.93

00:04:24.880 out in my uni when i was like these guys are full of shit i'm just gonna i'm just gonna do this 0.87

00:04:28.800 and so i'll talk to these girls take them out on like you know semi dates and they'll be in my room 1.00

00:04:34.240 and things would escalate from there and i would just watch how each one would approach it so some

00:04:38.640 of them were cool but some of them would be in the room and they were awkward but when women are 1.00

00:04:42.640 awkward they try and make you feel awkward so that because they're they're in the strong position right

00:04:46.960 so there was this one girl in my bed under my sheets cheeks on me and then she was like just 1.00

00:04:53.200 because i'm here doesn't mean i want to have sex and i was like sorry no i literally grilled her on 1.00

00:04:57.920 this i was like she's actually a long time this is what made her my friend because i was like hold

00:05:00.880 on so so so what are we doing why are you why are you under my sheets right now she was like well maybe 1.00

00:05:05.760 you know it doesn't have to be about sex then why are you on under my sheets why is your butt on my 1.00

00:05:10.400 groin right now the point being she won bedtime story that there is no like separate version of reality 1.00

00:05:17.040 you entitled to see there is there are social norms and there are kind of things where behaviors are appropriate

00:05:21.760 behaviors expected and behaviors are incorrect so that's like do you know the privilege you have

00:05:26.800 to be able to complain when people compliment you what do you mean what what do i mean do you know the

00:05:34.080 privilege that you have to be able to complain when people compliment you it's like like being

00:05:38.640 getting complimented is a privilege you're a pretty girl not everybody gets compliments there's fat 0.66

00:05:43.680 chick there's whales every day that go unnoticed i hate that i think whales but that's what they are

00:05:48.480 no they're not that's what they are no what am i supposed to call someone that's over 300 pounds

00:05:53.360 that's just are who they are a whale

00:05:59.040 what what would you call them she's just she's a human being that's a whale she's not 1.00

00:06:06.240 i could be all my days now they'll put her on the cover of cosmo and call it beautiful 1.00

00:06:12.000 maybe she is to who she is to whoever's looking at her like i don't feel like you have to be a

00:06:20.480 certain size to be beautiful i don't feel yeah feel okay i don't think that you have to be a certain

00:06:27.280 size you should be beautiful you do not yeah you don't but i think so but there's reality and there's

00:06:32.560 okay there's because you look the way you look there's this many guys knocking on your door if you

00:06:37.600 were 300 pounds there'd be a lot less guys knocking on your door depends what guys i'm into you know

00:06:46.160 depends depends if they like a chunky girl no it's true because like i grew up i grew up fat 0.61

00:06:53.280 and then i lost weight and i was like super skinny okay and it was actually getting annoying how many

00:06:59.440 guys were coming up to me now that i've gained weight again i'm like oh chill i like it this way

00:07:05.040 you know because i i personally don't like people bothering me bothering you but i'm not gonna blame

00:07:12.160 them for trying i'm just like okay you tried chill just don't touch me and don't like hurt me that's

00:07:19.600 it it's fine i'm coming for some asian woman absolutely if they don't harass you i just do not 1.00

00:07:25.600 see the problem but a lot of them do harass you and this is why i have an issue harassment everything

00:07:30.800 like women call women are like the biggest softies when it comes to harassment i'm like none of y'all 0.52

00:07:35.360 have been really harassed okay i'll give you a couple compliments and maybe maybe he'll keep going

00:07:41.040 with it and they'll be like oh my god harassment i'm like he just complimented you a couple times

00:07:45.680 let me give you an example okay okay so one that i live the tube is here so i've got two tube stations

00:07:53.040 where i live right so there's one here literally next to the apartments i live by and there's one over

00:07:57.840 there right i i'm literally running again to work running to the to the tube and this guy starts

00:08:07.280 running besides me and he's like he's like he's like miss miss miss miss miss and he's trying to

00:08:12.640 talk to me and i said to him like excuse me like i'm i'm literally i'm running late i've got no time

00:08:16.960 to talk to you he said i just want to tell you look nice i said okay thank you cool um i've still got

00:08:21.840 to go to work right bye left the next day he sees me again it's the same thing obviously i'm not

00:08:28.160 running to this train station this day and i say to him that i've got a boyfriend i'm not interested

00:08:32.720 he's like your boyfriend doesn't have to know you can come to you can come to my place i'm like no

00:08:37.360 i'm not interested the next day again he sees me and he sees me he's here and he he's it and again it's

00:08:44.080 the same thing daily daily for a week like do you not think that's harassment until that's just one

00:08:51.280 guy right no but the p point did you not think he was also going to work though maybe that's why he's

00:08:55.360 bumping onto you into you daily at the same time he lives like he lives across from me okay i just would

00:09:01.200 not care like i just okay just don't reply yeah then just keep is that harassment you don't think

00:09:07.120 that's harassment if you've repeatedly told a guy i'm not interested i don't want anything to do with

00:09:11.920 you someone call it someone call that persistence i grew up in nigeria and if i come to you and

00:09:18.800 approach and you said no and i'll ask you a simple question what percentage of chance have i got if

00:09:23.920 you said two percent that's good enough i've got something to work with

JustPearlyThings - April 17, 2023

Modern Women are NEVER REASONABLE

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