Modern Women Are too Negative
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the importance of a good nanny for your kids and the modern woman s perspective on it. We also talk about the benefits of nannies and whether or not they should be employed.
Transcript
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I would say on the world stage, it absolutely does.
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I think they're accomplishing a beautiful little family life, to be honest.
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I know, but it's not successful when you talk about the world stage.
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I mean, now you're just kind of moving the goalpost.
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Yeah, but I do think everything inevitably is about happiness.
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But that's entirely about happiness and family.
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I'm saying what you said is the modern mindset.
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And that is a modern mindset because it's about happiness and not the family, not legacy, not your country.
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I think that you can have a family and be happy.
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I think that you can also be happy and have a family.
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But the whole point is that there are times when you're not going to be happy, but you choose the family first.
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It's not to say you can't be happy and have a family.
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But the whole point is the modern mindset is that it's always about happiness.
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I think what's beautiful is when you put your family first and therefore, you know, like put your own happiness down.
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That's also a happiness in itself because you're getting to be altruistic, which is happy, right?
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I think you're kind of switching it a little bit.
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So what do you guys think it's selfish for a woman to have a nanny?
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I think it's the same thing we were just talking about, really.
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Someone else raising your child at the end of the day.
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I feel like, you know, everyone's going to have different perspective of this particular topic.
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Personally, for me, if I had to choose between not choosing someone to raise my child, I'd do that anyways.
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Even if it means I don't get my lashes on, nails done.
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But I'd rather that because that's ultimately, that's just the most important thing.
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Like when you choose to have a child, that's 100% your responsibility.
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But I see women these days letting their boyfriends kill their children.
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And when you have a child, you kill for them, you know.
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But a lot of people don't really have that maternal.
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Would you guys be comfortable having a nanny for your kids then?
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And it is selfish because what in a child's life, that's the most important thing going on in their life.
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If you're like one or two years old, that's the most important time for them.
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And for a woman to say, I'm going to go and do something else other than like cut the crust off their sandwich or take them to the park.
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Women defer this to go to work, to make spreadsheets, to go and work on an assembly line or whatever.
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Make their boss a schedule, their male boss a schedule or make, you know, PowerPoint, things like that.
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But nothing could be as important as what they're contributing to their child's life.
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So, yeah, I think that it's basically, it's mutually exclusive.
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I would want to pick the woman to be my wife, to be the mother of my kids, to raise them, specifically to teach them to be virtuous.
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So, no, I wouldn't do any daycare and no working women either.
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But just make sure you're able to provide as well as a man and do your part.
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I'm not flipping sides, but we can't all sit here and say women should do this traditionally.
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You know how we're talking about women need to be submissive, stay at home and do this and do that for men.
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For the man that also knows his part, don't tell me traditionally as a woman, you should be like this.
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When you don't even know what is required of you as a traditional man, there's no way about that.
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It's one thing to say, oh, I've got my wife and my mom, whoever at home, but I'm just going to go and do my thing and treat her like shit.
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Oh, but that's also like, really, what that lifestyle does look like.
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This is where women's like mind always goes, oh, it's the worst.
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It's not the worst thing that could possibly happen.
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But if I submit, he's going to treat me like shit.
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But I'm saying that's the first thing that you guys say.
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Please, like, show, like, commonly, all the time, a relationship where a man is absolutely honoring his woman.
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And he's out at work and he comes home to a woman that does absolutely nothing other than provide for their child.
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I don't, I, maybe that is also my view on the world and why I've lacked attracting that to me.
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A happy marriage where it is literally just the examples that we're saying.
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My mom quit her job to raise me when I was a kid.
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And again, maybe it is down to, like, geography or where we're raised and who, like, because my family couldn't do that.
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He couldn't just say, oh, you know, you don't provide a tool.
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I'm still feeling the, and we have conversations about this all the time.
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There's parts of me that did feel abandoned at times.
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But I think the problem is a lot of women weren't raised to get traditional outcomes because we don't have traditional skills.
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We also didn't have the modern world or traditional skills.
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No, I'm saying there are traditional men that are willing to protect and provide and will take care of all the bills.
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But wait, but they're looking, like, as I think they would all be willing to pay the bills, right?
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Like, I don't think the majority of men are traditional men.
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If you look at it like the actual populace, right, we're not going to have that many men that didn't also come from a broken home because a lot of marriages ended in divorce, right?
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So as much as women are also being raised in a certain type of way, so were the guys.
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So we're just we're just kind of fucking struggling along, man.
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I agree that not all men were raised to be traditional men, too.
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But I'm saying if we are going to demand traditional outcomes, you should have the skills to have a traditional outcome.
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Can I ask if any of us want just solely traditional men and for us to have the outcome of just being a mum and a wife?
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I would prefer that if my man obviously can provide for us.
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I don't want somebody to just throw money at me.
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Because of the current situation that we're in.
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Me being an African woman, living in a Western world, of course, I'm not being a traditional woman.
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But I'd love to be because my son's dad, he's an African man, too.
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And I'm happy I chose an African man because he knows his traditional ways.
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So that's what would make me be naturally more submissive.
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And it's just, I've just been dumped in the Western world where I'm in the middle.
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When you guys are talking, I'm seeing it from my point of view and you guys' point of view, too.
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So that's why, even when I'm talking, it might look like I'm swinging here.
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Put myself in and outside the box at the same time.
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To answer your original question, like would I let a nanny, would I want a nanny to help
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out my, you know, my baby mama or whatever with the kids?
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And I think if we look back on like our parents' generation, it wasn't just our mothers raising
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It was a mother with help from her sister or help from her mother or like your aunties and
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But like, if so, the babysitter should be like the nanny should be a family and part of the
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So in that context, it's totally fine to have a nanny because you've got your family to help
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But right now we're so disconnected from family now in the Western world, especially that
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But I really feel like we're failing to understand that in modern day society, not every woman
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has, I'm sure majority of women would prefer if they have children to be at home and raise
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I don't think we all have that automatic privilege.
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But why do you, but why do you, I'm going to go back to the point.
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Why do you think that the cost of living has gone up?
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I will tell you, here's one possible reason why the cost of living has gone up.
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Women coming into the workforce, driving up wages.
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It's the cause of the problem that you're mentioning.
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I'm just telling you that's one of the causes of it.
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So if you want to, if you want to, if you want to undo that, then women, women, women
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going back into the home would cause the correction in the cost of living.
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Then it leaves a large proportion of the workforce.
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I personally, I have a genetics master's degree and I'm going to go and do a PhD in
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So my, like, I'm just, I'm just, I'm just providing you with a solution to the problem
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The solution is that doesn't make any sense that I don't think that, why would you now
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remove individuals that are contributing to society to further ahead?
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Because I, because I, because I really contribute.
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Can we just, as many of you know, I was just banned on Tik Tok and we are demonetized on
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