JustPearlyThings - March 24, 2023


Modern Women Are Waking up to This Grim Reality


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17 minutes

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3,413

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365

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In this episode we discuss the difference between men and women when it comes to love and what it means to be in a relationship. We also discuss how to be a better man and how to show love in the best way possible.

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00:00:00.000 If women don't use love, how do they transact? 1.00
00:00:03.100 How do they get the relationship?
00:00:05.420 If we don't use love, sex.
00:00:08.060 You would use sex. 0.85
00:00:08.920 Yeah.
00:00:09.240 Okay.
00:00:10.080 Or, you know, they used to have, like, finishing schools.
00:00:13.660 Finishing schools.
00:00:14.260 So she could be the best woman she could be to provide something in excess, right? 0.99
00:00:18.300 Now it's just sex, I would say, for most women. 1.00
00:00:22.360 Which is dumb.
00:00:23.340 But, you know, there's cooking, cleaning, you know.
00:00:27.120 Yeah, I mean, those things are...
00:00:29.100 You can be outsourced.
00:00:30.260 Those are outsourced now because women want careers. 1.00
00:00:33.300 I tell you, man, I tell you.
00:00:35.040 Women typically have fumbled the best opportunity in the history of life. 1.00
00:00:39.800 And I think young women are figuring it out.
00:00:41.720 And that opportunity is they had a better situation.
00:00:44.460 They were convinced that they could get a better situation.
00:00:46.460 Many of them are finding out they're not as happy as they thought they would be pursuing careers and jobs.
00:00:51.260 They end up going, why am I at work?
00:00:52.840 I could have laid on my back for my husband and did these other things to fill in the void,
00:00:58.520 cooking, cleaning, and child raising, and all these things, which, you know, women don't cook very well. 1.00
00:01:04.060 But that's neither here nor there.
00:01:06.160 They're not the best cooks, neither the best cleaners.
00:01:08.480 But that's what they had to use to transact the relationship.
00:01:12.300 This is all transactional.
00:01:13.960 Yeah, I agree.
00:01:14.840 People think there's some feeling involved with it.
00:01:16.720 But the feeling, yes, there is feeling, but that's not going to last long.
00:01:20.380 Like two years.
00:01:21.400 It's going to last two years, and then you're going to say loyalty, time, commitment.
00:01:26.740 Like those are the things that make a relationship.
00:01:29.240 So when people say, well, what about love?
00:01:31.320 Go have some love.
00:01:32.460 I mean, but it's not going to lie.
00:01:33.700 As a man that's known, that part is if you base your relationship purely on that, you're going to mess yourself up.
00:01:40.640 Do you think men and women love differently?
00:01:42.800 Absolutely, yeah.
00:01:43.740 How so?
00:01:44.580 Well, here's the thing.
00:01:45.760 Women want to be loved a certain way. 0.72
00:01:47.900 And men just want to be loved, right?
00:01:52.100 So women want to dictate how they're loved, and men just want to be loved. 0.99
00:01:56.960 So women are the receivers of love. 1.00
00:01:59.060 That's what I, this is what I believe.
00:02:00.960 And in turn, the woman gives respect back to the man.
00:02:05.720 However, that's not what we're doing today.
00:02:07.700 That's what's messing up the marketplace.
00:02:09.580 So women want to dictate how they want to be loved. 1.00
00:02:11.480 Let me explain that.
00:02:12.500 So I can provide love to you by displaying it, by demonstrating it.
00:02:16.960 I can support you.
00:02:19.060 I can come home to you every night.
00:02:21.000 I can make sure I only have children with you.
00:02:23.520 I can make sure I don't embarrass you and have other women out here in their neighborhood. 1.00
00:02:27.520 I'm not screwing the whole neighborhood of women and embarrassing you, right? 1.00
00:02:31.180 I provide for you.
00:02:33.100 I bring everything that I do out in society, I do for you.
00:02:38.320 That's love.
00:02:39.600 That would be in the long-term frame, a more survivable form of relationship and love.
00:02:44.740 That guy's displaying it.
00:02:46.000 He doesn't have to express it in words.
00:02:49.120 You don't have to write poetry.
00:02:51.020 He's not going to come home every night.
00:02:52.620 I love you, darling.
00:02:54.620 But women want guys to do that. 1.00
00:02:57.980 They don't care about the display.
00:02:59.760 They actually say that the displays of love, they're entitled to that.
00:03:04.360 You're supposed to work for me.
00:03:05.440 You're supposed to do.
00:03:06.600 They call it the bare minimum.
00:03:08.240 That's the bare minimum.
00:03:09.220 What are you talking about?
00:03:10.220 That's everything.
00:03:11.880 That's how men do.
00:03:13.000 We're not expressive.
00:03:13.760 We actually do.
00:03:15.080 I want to show you.
00:03:16.620 When we want to be endearing to a woman, we will gift you something. 0.99
00:03:21.540 We'll bring you a rock.
00:03:22.580 We'll shine a rock.
00:03:23.640 Here we go.
00:03:24.560 It's the best I can do.
00:03:25.880 But these people are like, spoil me.
00:03:28.620 Give me a date here.
00:03:29.820 And do this.
00:03:30.520 Please.
00:03:30.760 So women want to dictate how they want to be loved. 1.00
00:03:33.440 And then they find out that their list is what we call 5011 things long.
00:03:41.440 He has to do this, this, this, this, this, this, this.
00:03:44.120 Please, man.
00:03:44.700 Nobody's going to do that.
00:03:46.020 Not when you out here fornicating with everybody you could possibly do it.
00:03:49.380 Man, shit, man.
00:03:49.960 We ain't doing all that.
00:03:50.960 But what happens is on the vice versa, women love on the conditions that you do everything 1.00
00:03:56.580 she has on this list.
00:03:58.340 Otherwise, you get no respect back.
00:04:00.420 Both people are wrong, just so you know.
00:04:03.380 Both people in today's world got it all wrong.
00:04:06.240 Why?
00:04:07.260 Well, first of all, women are out of their freaking mind with this, right? 1.00
00:04:10.220 They've been influenced by romance.
00:04:12.360 You see what he's saying?
00:04:13.180 Women have been influenced by romance like men have been influenced by pornography. 0.72
00:04:18.440 So women believe romance is something they're entitled to when it's simply a myth. 1.00
00:04:22.880 Men want, want their woman to be a freak in the bedroom and experience, but then also 0.99
00:04:30.180 don't want her to be experienced.
00:04:32.820 So when she's super experienced, he gets intimidated.
00:04:35.740 He'd be like, you're a hoe. 1.00
00:04:38.140 And she could be a great cook. 0.99
00:04:39.660 He could cook for him and clean for him.
00:04:41.100 She could do everything he wants.
00:04:42.300 And then, and then he's like, well, but you're a hoe. 1.00
00:04:44.480 So, so it's, we live in a hoe culture. 1.00
00:04:47.400 So the idea that he's going to eliminate all the women down to the no hoes is slim the 1.00
00:04:53.160 none.
00:04:53.960 Well, it's like rolling the dice.
00:04:56.360 Yeah.
00:04:56.560 That's what you say.
00:04:57.300 It's like rolling the dice.
00:04:58.080 It's like rolling the dice.
00:04:58.840 For a guy on over 25 to find a woman that hasn't been defiled to the point of, um, she 0.71
00:05:06.420 can't pair bond like that.
00:05:07.860 That's slim the none.
00:05:08.840 He's not finding that woman.
00:05:09.940 So maybe you need a new criteria.
00:05:13.280 Can you tell me about the term alpha widows? 1.00
00:05:15.960 That was something I learned.
00:05:16.940 That was something I learned in the manosphere.
00:05:19.320 Alpha widow.
00:05:20.840 Yeah.
00:05:21.320 That's a, the idea that a woman has chased the top tier men. 1.00
00:05:25.220 She takes a chase, the top tier men.
00:05:27.520 She's had the top dogs. 0.98
00:05:29.380 And then once she comes out of that and she's been spit out because that guy has access 1.00
00:05:33.760 to whoever he wants.
00:05:35.060 Right.
00:05:35.460 Right.
00:05:35.920 And then she's been spit out.
00:05:37.620 She gave her a chance.
00:05:38.440 She hoped to get the NBA player.
00:05:39.720 I dated an NFL player once and I thought it was going to work, but he had 18 girlfriends
00:05:43.740 in 18 cities.
00:05:44.540 Right.
00:05:44.760 And so then she got spit out.
00:05:46.860 Now when what she's going to do is say, you have to be that guy, you have to live up to
00:05:51.020 that guy's expectations and I'll take no less.
00:05:54.020 So I have, I have a theory that I've been developing.
00:05:57.520 So I feel like I've kind of turned into a guy on my show because I just, I kind of, I
00:06:04.340 see firsthand what the men go through because I recruit for my show.
00:06:07.960 And the women are so flaky. 1.00
00:06:10.480 It's like, God only knows if they're going to show up.
00:06:12.620 It's like 50, 50.
00:06:14.140 Right.
00:06:14.500 It's like, I can text them the day of.
00:06:16.880 Are you coming?
00:06:17.620 Yeah, I'm coming.
00:06:18.380 They won't show up.
00:06:19.220 Well, no, no warning.
00:06:20.980 No nothing.
00:06:21.680 Yeah.
00:06:22.200 So you know what it's like to date women, right?
00:06:24.320 Yeah.
00:06:24.760 So you're a bisexual. 0.98
00:06:26.800 What?
00:06:27.180 No, no.
00:06:27.980 Oh, you don't want to say all that?
00:06:29.460 I wouldn't say all that.
00:06:31.220 I don't swing that way.
00:06:32.720 Well, you don't have to be in the bedroom, but by, by what I said, what I mean is, but
00:06:36.160 I know a lot of bisexual women. 1.00
00:06:37.580 They have the same complaint.
00:06:38.920 They have the same complaint.
00:06:39.980 They're like, I like women and I like men, but it's tough date women. 1.00
00:06:44.120 It's tough dating women. 0.79
00:06:45.180 If they're the ones that are reaching out, they're flaky.
00:06:47.360 So now you have experienced that, but on this level.
00:06:51.800 Yes.
00:06:52.220 And I'm like, I'm offering you guys free drinks, free podcast.
00:06:56.580 And yeah.
00:06:57.900 And so through this show, I've developed some theories.
00:07:02.180 Okay.
00:07:03.420 The first being that women like being cheated on. 1.00
00:07:07.580 And I'm telling you, I don't know why I've developed this.
00:07:09.700 I'll tell you why I've developed this.
00:07:11.140 I know what you, I don't disagree with you.
00:07:13.600 Go ahead.
00:07:14.040 Because I'll interview women after woman, right? 0.91
00:07:18.040 Woman apps.
00:07:18.700 And it's like, I just noticed the same pattern.
00:07:21.460 Right.
00:07:22.140 It's like, they, you're going to be well on your way.
00:07:25.040 Once you can learn it, learn patterns of human behavior.
00:07:27.540 Yeah.
00:07:27.900 Yeah.
00:07:28.080 So it's like, you guys hate being cheated on.
00:07:30.480 Right.
00:07:30.880 Right.
00:07:31.520 But you, all you want to do is talk about your ex that cheated.
00:07:34.560 Correct.
00:07:35.480 And every time.
00:07:37.520 So every time when he's cheating, I say, did you leave?
00:07:40.640 No.
00:07:41.060 Of course not.
00:07:41.480 And so I'm like, okay, that's weird.
00:07:43.200 Like, you would think, you know, you would think most men would think this too.
00:07:47.520 Yeah.
00:07:47.820 And so then I'm like, well, so when, when did you leave?
00:07:50.980 Right.
00:07:51.560 He wasn't cheating.
00:07:52.720 Correct.
00:07:53.160 And so I was like, if he wasn't cheating, then isn't that what you wanted?
00:07:58.180 Right.
00:07:59.080 And I was like, do we like being cheated on?
00:08:01.960 It's not, it's not that you don't, it's not that you like being cheated on.
00:08:05.360 What, what's happening is you realize that your man has value outside of you.
00:08:10.260 Right.
00:08:10.660 So what typically happens is if this is going to be the opposite, if, if you find out no
00:08:18.200 women like me and we're together, no woman looks the other way. 0.99
00:08:22.940 Nobody inquires.
00:08:23.860 I'm a straight loser and you're with me.
00:08:26.480 You're going to question why you're with me, but there's no question when you're getting
00:08:30.700 cheated on that you have a man with value.
00:08:32.680 So for women, that guy's a top, top guy. 0.98
00:08:36.800 So she looks at it as that guy's valuable, at least to other women.
00:08:40.720 So that makes, that makes her in a sense, want him more.
00:08:44.340 That's also the same as abuse victims, right?
00:08:46.720 They typically don't leave either.
00:08:48.200 That was going to be my next, that's my next, my next.
00:08:50.760 Women claim abuse. 0.56
00:08:51.920 This is, that's my next theory that I've developed.
00:08:55.360 Right.
00:08:55.600 Okay.
00:08:56.340 Because I used to, like when girls would say they were abused or, or graped.
00:09:01.040 Right.
00:09:01.620 Yeah.
00:09:02.060 I would just believe them.
00:09:04.140 Exactly.
00:09:04.500 Because like, you know, you got that like empathy and I think it's gone now for me.
00:09:09.000 It's gone.
00:09:09.660 Right.
00:09:09.860 So you've been red peeled in a sense.
00:09:11.360 Yeah.
00:09:11.500 Yeah.
00:09:11.800 Because I'll ask, cause at first I wouldn't really ask questions cause it's kind of awkward,
00:09:16.540 right?
00:09:16.780 So they're like, I was this, this, but then I started to think about it and I'm like,
00:09:21.000 did you press charges?
00:09:23.000 Exactly.
00:09:23.640 You're asking the right questions.
00:09:24.860 And then they'll say no.
00:09:26.640 And I'll be like, why?
00:09:27.560 Well, I was too scared.
00:09:29.400 And so I'm like, but what are you doing on my podcast?
00:09:32.440 Right.
00:09:32.700 You're not scared to be out here talking about it.
00:09:34.900 Yeah.
00:09:35.240 And that's what I was like, are these hosts lying?
00:09:39.900 Well, the first, the first thing is you got to find out, I mean, this is in our society,
00:09:44.560 we've gotten to the point where we're afraid to question women.
00:09:47.980 Right.
00:09:48.300 So that's called victim blaming.
00:09:49.620 Because somehow if you wanted the details of the situation that she's, you know, she's
00:09:54.320 saying there's a very vicious crime.
00:09:56.600 If you want the details, she knows you're going to blame her.
00:10:00.120 So she's like, I, I don't, it's, it's inappropriate to question a woman.
00:10:04.500 So now at that point, she's got you in a situation where you just got to believe it.
00:10:09.320 Hashtag believe all women. 0.95
00:10:10.760 So now you got to believe, believe it and let everything carry out.
00:10:14.420 But like anything, any relationship is going to have some things that are weird.
00:10:17.440 Like, first of all, we thought of grape as someone, some man jumping out the bushes
00:10:21.900 in the ski mask.
00:10:22.980 Then it developed into some dating encounter.
00:10:25.500 Then it's now marital situations that can be interpreted.
00:10:28.460 And then they went away from the word.
00:10:30.320 Now it's sexual assault.
00:10:31.640 That's essentially what, what, but sexual assault opens it up to anything.
00:10:35.200 That could be any damn thing.
00:10:36.660 That's oh my gosh.
00:10:37.880 Okay.
00:10:38.480 I was on this podcast the other day and this girl said she was coerced. 1.00
00:10:42.860 Right.
00:10:43.320 Right.
00:10:43.760 And I, and I was like, okay.
00:10:45.260 So then I was like, that's weird.
00:10:46.420 Did you sleep with him again?
00:10:48.280 Yes.
00:10:48.900 Yeah.
00:10:49.700 Yeah.
00:10:49.860 Why would you sleep with him again? 0.96
00:10:52.240 I wasn't trying to make too, too much sense.
00:10:55.600 But, but here's the thing.
00:10:57.360 And there's people that can claim that their husbands assaulted them eight years ago in
00:11:02.040 their marriage, but they continue to sleep with him, live with him and so forth.
00:11:05.880 And then she can come out.
00:11:06.920 Well, you know, he did this at this particular point.
00:11:09.820 So the problem is we have a lot of propaganda out here that's telling men that we need to
00:11:15.440 take women's word at face value.
00:11:17.380 When historically, that's one of the worst things you can ever do.
00:11:20.340 I would never take any, particularly women. 1.00
00:11:22.820 I would never take their word at face value because historically they've, they've, they've
00:11:27.440 accused people of doing things and people have lost their lives.
00:11:30.440 And later to find out that that wasn't true.
00:11:33.000 I, I swear, I used to believe them.
00:11:36.180 I would never, yeah.
00:11:37.520 See.
00:11:37.680 I mean, just like they, they would seem so sad and then, but then it's like, then you
00:11:44.460 think about it even further.
00:11:45.600 Right.
00:11:45.920 Cause, cause I just keep, I keep thinking I'm a thinker.
00:11:48.360 Right.
00:11:50.100 Outside of the normal.
00:11:50.980 So, yeah.
00:11:51.920 So I was thinking, I'm like, okay, if he hit you, the average guy, like I'm, I'm strong.
00:11:58.360 I don't know if you, I'm built like an athlete.
00:12:01.360 I play semi-pro volleyball in London.
00:12:03.920 Oh, there you go.
00:12:04.320 Yeah.
00:12:04.580 So you're not frail.
00:12:05.340 I deadlift 300 pounds.
00:12:07.140 Okay.
00:12:07.520 Yeah.
00:12:07.880 I, I kill it.
00:12:08.900 You know, when it comes to lifting.
00:12:10.220 So nobody's going to beat you up.
00:12:11.340 No, no, no.
00:12:11.920 Average guy could still beat me up.
00:12:13.660 Oh, I say, yeah.
00:12:14.360 So you're still getting, you're still getting with it.
00:12:16.200 If someone, if someone punched me, that's a dude, like my face would be.
00:12:20.080 Well, that's the problem with, with women. 1.00
00:12:22.320 They might be able to dish out a couple of hits, which aren't going to be very significant,
00:12:26.000 but getting hit is always different.
00:12:27.500 So I'm like, if he abused you, why is your face intact?
00:12:30.740 That doesn't make sense to me.
00:12:32.100 And so then I'm like, then the other thing I was wondering is I, and then I'd say, did
00:12:37.520 you hit him?
00:12:38.680 Of course.
00:12:41.180 And she may have hit, she may have hit him first and still claims abuse, but here's a,
00:12:46.140 you know, we, we, we, we, we want to inform your audience, check this out.
00:12:49.600 Did you know that, uh, in domestic, uh, physical abuse, 70% of those cases are, are the woman
00:12:57.000 instigated.
00:12:58.420 She could have either hit or use verbal abuse or emotional abuse to get him to respond.
00:13:04.120 So when there's physical abuse where the man hits the victim, which would be the woman,
00:13:10.420 70% of the time, the woman instigated, meaning she wasn't a passive participant, meaning he
00:13:16.680 didn't walk in the door and kick her, it was instigated by something.
00:13:20.340 Sometimes it was instigated by physical abuse or by the woman. 0.96
00:13:24.260 So, but, but these are things that people can't talk about because in our society is
00:13:29.540 considered misogynist to talk about this.
00:13:31.560 And then the other thing, the other thing, this is the same umbrella of the abuse, the,
00:13:40.580 the, the, the grape, I say grape on my channel.
00:13:43.000 So, so the girls will say, tell me, they'll be like, I was great.
00:13:49.340 And I, and I'll be like, Oh, that's a lot.
00:13:54.920 People are like, that sucks.
00:13:57.000 We're going to go there now.
00:13:58.220 But I ask questions, right?
00:13:59.860 And one girl straight up tells me, well, I didn't know I was great.
00:14:02.900 Oh, no.
00:14:03.400 Yeah.
00:14:03.660 That's a, yeah.
00:14:04.480 And I'm just thinking like, okay, okay.
00:14:07.080 How do you not know?
00:14:08.160 Because if I was, if I was great, I feel like I would.
00:14:13.060 Yeah.
00:14:13.180 But you would have to, you would have to determine if you'd have to have a true definition of
00:14:19.620 what that is.
00:14:20.480 But now we've gone up, we've had multiple definitions of what it is.
00:14:24.520 So typically you can have a woman say I was assaulted, but she only discovered that after
00:14:32.320 her reputation was dragged in the mud.
00:14:35.120 Right.
00:14:35.580 So she went to school and she slept with this guy at a party. 0.99
00:14:38.880 She went back on Monday to school and everybody knew about it.
00:14:42.740 And then the girl said, did you sleep with that guy? 0.98
00:14:44.820 You a hoe. 1.00
00:14:45.880 Then another girl came. 1.00
00:14:46.920 Did you sleep with him?
00:14:47.940 Oh, well, I really didn't want to.
00:14:49.400 Oh, you were great.
00:14:50.640 See now, now, now she's great because reputations on the line. 1.00
00:14:54.360 So these things happen.
00:14:56.640 Once the reputation gets dragged, you have a person that is getting great.
00:15:00.560 Also, you do have women that do.
00:15:02.420 I don't know if people know this.
00:15:03.480 Because most of these, what you would call grapes, aren't violent.
00:15:07.700 Most people who report one, they're not normally violent.
00:15:11.240 But see, the idea of what we have in our head is that somebody jumped out the bushes and
00:15:14.940 shocked her.
00:15:15.620 And then she was there and he had to beat her up. 0.96
00:15:17.620 That's typically not what women are reporting. 1.00
00:15:20.020 They're reporting someone close to them took advantage.
00:15:23.420 Or they stayed at the person's house too long.
00:15:26.580 Or they were drinking together.
00:15:28.760 And they fell asleep in the bed.
00:15:30.880 And then he or she passed out.
00:15:33.220 And the person she trusted.
00:15:35.220 That's what that's what people are reporting.
00:15:37.220 So what we have in our mind is not what people are reporting.
00:15:40.980 But sometimes those things are misconstrued too.
00:15:46.440 Yeah, man.
00:15:46.800 I think most of the time, let me tell y'all something.
00:15:48.740 If you drink alcohol, you're probably, you know, you're partying and all that stuff.
00:15:53.980 And you're dealing with late nights.
00:15:56.120 Those are most of the time that are going to get into some sort of sexual assault. 0.87
00:15:59.380 Well, and that's, that's what I said.
00:16:02.160 I'm like, you know, I feel like as women, we have a responsibility to like, not put ourselves
00:16:06.080 in those situations.
00:16:07.720 But they look at me like I'm crazy.
00:16:11.300 Like, I'll say.
00:16:12.680 How dare you hold me accountable and responsible.
00:16:16.220 Yeah, I tell them that I'm going, um, because they'll always say like, oh, I can't walk home
00:16:21.980 alone at night in a dark alley.
00:16:23.860 And I'm just like, where are all these dark alleys?
00:16:26.160 That's my first question.
00:16:27.500 And I'm like, I'm like, nobody can walk home alone at night.
00:16:30.840 Nobody.
00:16:31.300 If you're a guy.
00:16:31.840 Nobody.
00:16:32.340 And at least if I get attacked as a girl, another dude's going to help me.
00:16:35.760 Right.
00:16:36.280 We do hear that women are unsafe out there. 0.97
00:16:38.380 We're unsafe and people can attack us.
00:16:40.320 I'm like, I can get attacked too.
00:16:41.600 What are you talking about?
00:16:42.300 Like, like I can walk through an alley and everybody be like, oh, you're good.
00:16:46.420 But, um, yeah, these are all things that we've been fed to be true.
00:16:50.200 And that's not necessarily true.
00:16:51.660 We're vulnerable.
00:16:52.280 I think men are more vulnerable, uh, in instances, you know, if I'm dressed nice, if I have jewelry,
00:16:59.160 right, I can lose my life.
00:17:00.840 And actually every day, you know, women, women want to be the purveyors of being vulnerable. 0.99
00:17:05.620 But, um, if, if I look at a man wrong, if he has a bad day, I can lose my life too.
00:17:12.240 I can get beat up too.
00:17:13.080 So we have to always, men always have to be on guard to protect ourselves.
00:17:16.620 No, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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