Modern Women Biggest Frustration in Dating Market
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the dating market and how to deal with it. We talk about our biggest frustrations with dating and what we would like to see men do to improve their dating game. We also talk about why men don't seem to be chasing as much as they used to and why women don't chase as much anymore.
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what do you think is your biggest frustration with the dating market
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oh that is a really good question they don't like to chase anymore so i feel like men don't
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like to chase as much as they used to you're engaged do you think do you think yeah but i
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still have girlfriends female do you think are your are your friends worth chasing
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yeah some then why aren't they being chased i just it's the same common thing that comes up
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around my friendship group and my girls when i'm talking to my girls it's the same constant
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oh they're not chasing they're not they're not doing enough if a man's not getting laid
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would you would you say it's the girls or is there something wrong with him
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what if all the girls are rejecting a guy yeah is it is it the girls or is it him him him so so if
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the girls aren't getting chased isn't it their fault isn't it probably something wrong with them
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i just felt like i feel like nowadays maybe the guys in well the guys that i know about in the
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society or the guys that my friends date they're just more they would want the girls to rather chase
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them than them do the chasing well maybe it's because women don't respond well when we chase
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or when we when they chase us like they were saying earlier how when they reject us we want them more
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yeah that's true so isn't it kind of our fault because they respond to the market yeah yeah
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anything else any other frustrations that you see with your friends
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no a lot of my friends prefer guys that spend money more so they would more gravitate towards the
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guy that wants to maybe show them a nice time or is more like oh instead of going on a normal date
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like let's go on holiday and stuff like that they just wait they'll take them on a trip instead of
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a date oh boy where do they are they in relationships with these guys or like they're just dating who are
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they are they celebrities are they bankers like what are these high value men yeah no i'm asking like
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what type of guys they date um pimps ballers you can say it you could say it yeah high quality men
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what high quality men okay no but like what what industries are they dating
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what i'm just trying to get an archetype okay so i have i have it's it's a different so i have like
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my friends that date guys that work in finance like business guys or have their own businesses or and
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then i have guys girls that would date guys that are footballers rappers and just hire really
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okay yeah who's the biggest rapper or footballer that slid into your friends dms i don't know no no one
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you know guys like if you're watching this man like if your fiance or wife has friends like that like run
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away run and like don't look back just run just like run like and don't even look just go just as
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fast as you can that's insane why because if that's your friend group like dude like no like i mean you
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can really really tell about a lot about a person from their friend group and their values and everything
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else like remember my well we they're young so they're ranging my girl why you're you have a kid you
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have a kid man you got a kid and and like you're engaged and you're engaging like with these women
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even as friends so my friendship group that i've grown up with from college or uni because of their
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type of men that they attract who they go for right i shouldn't be i shouldn't speak to them because i am
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no you can speak to whoever you want but your fiancee should run for his life why is my fiancee running for
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his life when well well i'm not doing i'm not dating i'm not i'm not going with them on double
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days hey listen i think his point is you become who you surround yourself with listen if my friends
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if a guy hangs out with four losers he's gonna become the fifth yeah if i'm not a gangster but
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like all my friends are like in gangs are getting popped off and like you know doing drive-by
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shootings and everything those are my friends it's like it's like that's a pretty serious flag so that's
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saying that i yes i'm willing to cheat but yes it's exactly that's that's exactly what it's saying
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there's numbers that back this stuff up like one of the one of the number one indicators that a woman
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will get divorced is if her friends start getting divorced women women are very susceptible to what
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the group does so we are very influenced by propaganda it's why we all are with the latest
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fashion trends that the men don't even like it's why we got like cakes caked on makeup like all the
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like like the bow top you know what i mean like that look that every girl goes for like the men
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don't even like it but it's because we are very influenced by what other women do well i've i'm the
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only female in my friendship group and my friends and my surroundings that is engaged well and has a baby
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yeah my i would say that my well my friends they have good jobs some working banks some working like
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they have good jobs they're they're wholesome people they've been to uni they've studied they've
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got their career like some have businesses but but it says something about their values if they're
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getting flown out by the top 10 of men every every other weekend or even if it's once a month whatever
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it is like they're taking trips with these rappers ballers like this is what you said so and i'm not
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saying like you do it but i'm saying like if you surround yourself by people that do it like you're
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in general you're more likely to do it and so but i wouldn't know so i know i'm not talking about you
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though okay yeah i'm saying in general well yeah but women of course they're gonna say i it's like
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asking a survey would you ever cheat on your spouse no of course not it's like that no doesn't work that
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way like everybody's gonna virtue signal positively the issue is that women market right and if you're
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putting yourself in positions where you're still marketing and your friends are actively marketing
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like there's a certain correlation there but i mean this i think it's very obvious to men it's
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like guys i mean i'm sure this has been said a million times like you're never ever gonna please
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a woman like who has been flown out to like dubai on dates like what experience are you going to
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provide for her that's going to make you her leader like it's like yeah hey you want to go down like
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and have a quick coffee it's like yeah sure but in her mind she's like i just got flown to dubai
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it's like you lose you can't win well and guys will even say that with like lifestyle too like
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if a one woman starts getting a certain lifestyle from a guy another girl will wonder why she's not
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getting that lifestyle and then start like complaining like ring size like whatever it is
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women we're just very and it's actually really sad when you look at the at the data of like how
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influenced we are by the group but you see the reality is this is this one of the serious problems
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of society because this is really why a lot of men like to protect the women that they hold
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close to them because one you have to protect your women from physical danger you have to protect your
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women from other women and you also have to protect your woman from herself because a lot of women think
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that they they know how to make these decisions they're the boss babe but at the end of the day if you
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look at the results it's the results that matter why is everyone's why are all the women in the west
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all tending towards the same direction why are you all having the same results even though
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you are all special and all different it's because when a woman decides that she wants to
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lead her relationship and she wants to lead like you said you still go and ask um for advice from
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your male friends it really only just takes one time for you to really really hate your partner
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it really just takes one time for him to do something and then you're like nah and you're out there
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and then before you know it there's alcohol and then you're going to come back and you're going
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to start having these excuses that's that's how it happens they never intended to go out to do
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whatever so king on that i want to i want to riff off you for a second that's actually a conversation
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i had with my wife because you know when you're married you have to like discuss certain expectations
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i actually told her like what my definition of cheating is because i want to be i want to know
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exactly what is going on in our relationship like that's really again this is going back some time
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right my exact definition was the moment you complain to another man about anything to do
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with our relationship it's it's the moment that's that's the line for me if you complain to another
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man about me as a husband me as a father anything the moment you complain about another man and that
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right there that is the line that i define cheating right there that's the line and what you're saying
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is true and actually to your point as well can kind of interesting you're like women do what's popular
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it's like something like one in three uh one in three high school girls now identify in some form
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of lgbtq it's like you wonder right like so many women are identifying with the most popular and the
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most brave uh and stunning group it's like hmm i wonder what they're really identifying right yeah you
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could convince us a damn near anything honestly like the more i look at like numbers i'm like you could
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literally convince us that the moon is made of cheese and like we would believe it if the propaganda
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was good enough and we said you're hip cool and brave for believing that the moon is made of cheese
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i swear to god i look at this stuff and i'm just like i don't know how we got here one in five
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women identify as that like that's crazy it's more than that for women it's like 20 of all
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youth but it's higher for women right this is nuts but it's popular going back to what dimitri was
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getting i think he was saying in terms of the friends stuff that if you're on such a different
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chapter than your friends that's kind of why you would assume that your values and kind of your
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lifestyle would be so drastically different that you have less in common to where you're not going
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to be spending too much time with them even yeah you know they might be the people you grew up with
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you have some level of contact with them but it's just night and day difference in your lives right
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they're single they're going here and you're raising a kid that you know there would be some
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differences in lifestyle to where you guys wouldn't be on the same page a lot of the time have you guys
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ever cut a friend off yeah because they like they didn't represent you or you didn't like the way
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yeah yeah yeah what were they doing naughty naughty stuff very bad stuff like why what very tempting
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naughty stuff um just not i don't know can i say it on here yeah go ahead just doing drugs basically
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yes yeah like ton of that and not just that like other stuff that goes along with it that that sort of
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way of life brings and it does whether you're you say that you sell or you use or whatever it is
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whatever it brings so and once you step out of stuff like that like once you change your life
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around once you step out of like situations like that you can look back on it and you think what
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the hell was i doing with you or was i only friends with you because of this situation or we were both
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at this point in our lives together like is that why we're friends or we actually friends because
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yeah why so sometimes it is best to cut people off for not it's not nice in any way shape or form to
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do so i don't think i think it's wise actually it is like i mean there's there's been times where
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girls are doing some like crazy i'm like i cannot be around because then people are going to think i'm
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doing it exactly that that's the thing exactly if you're like if you're associated with it then they
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think you're doing it exactly that and yeah if you are associated with certain people it's like they say
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you can put a nice apple in in a bowl or you can put a rotten bit fruit in a life
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let me start the sentence again a rotten piece of fruit in like a nice ripe fruit bowl
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buy give it a wee everything the mold spreads and it's all going to be rotten yeah do you know what
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i mean and it's like they say like you are what you eat what you what you do who you surround yourself
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with is it shapes you as an individual completely and utterly like it shapes you in every single way
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whether that be your home life whether that be your work life your family environment your
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just just anything that you do anything that you do in any way that you act in any way you live it
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does shape you as an individual and sometimes yeah in order for you to grow you need to set boundaries
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and if people aren't willing to respect the boundaries that you set then are they are they
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really your friend or are they just someone that is around because it's one an acquaintance or around
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because it's beneficial to them whether that be mentally physically or financially so yeah i would say
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it's it's not nice cutting friends off because when you share like parts of your life with
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someone or whether it be platonic or relationship wise whatever you give yourself a part of that
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person and that part is something that you'll never get back yeah also what are your morals and your
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values or i think something to quote andrew tate he says what do you stand for how like firm do you stand
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on that right if you have such different values then you're not that firm on your values or your morals
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right so enforcing that to an extent on yourself and your life and the people you share that with
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it shows how serious you are kind of something dimitri said was the gray area and black and white i
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think so that's something that's black and white because it shows how firm you are for yourself on
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those things are you loose are you okay with whatever or do you have a strong set of expectations