JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Biggest Frustration in Dating Market

00:00:00.000 what do you think is your biggest frustration with the dating market

00:00:07.760 it's quite a good question um

00:00:13.200 oh that is a really good question they don't like to chase anymore so i feel like men don't

00:00:19.920 like to chase as much as they used to you're engaged do you think do you think yeah but i

00:00:25.600 still have girlfriends female do you think are your are your friends worth chasing 0.99

00:00:32.000 yeah some then why aren't they being chased i just it's the same common thing that comes up

00:00:40.240 around my friendship group and my girls when i'm talking to my girls it's the same constant

00:00:44.560 oh they're not chasing they're not they're not doing enough if a man's not getting laid

00:00:48.720 would you would you say it's the girls or is there something wrong with him

00:00:51.840 what if all the girls are rejecting a guy yeah is it is it the girls or is it him him him so so if

00:01:02.000 the girls aren't getting chased isn't it their fault isn't it probably something wrong with them 0.99

00:01:08.880 i just felt like i feel like nowadays maybe the guys in well the guys that i know about in the

00:01:17.120 society or the guys that my friends date they're just more they would want the girls to rather chase

00:01:23.040 them than them do the chasing well maybe it's because women don't respond well when we chase 1.00

00:01:29.840 or when we when they chase us like they were saying earlier how when they reject us we want them more

00:01:35.440 yeah that's true so isn't it kind of our fault because they respond to the market yeah yeah

00:01:41.360 anything else any other frustrations that you see with your friends

00:01:52.320 no a lot of my friends prefer guys that spend money more so they would more gravitate towards the

00:02:02.880 guy that wants to maybe show them a nice time or is more like oh instead of going on a normal date

00:02:09.200 like let's go on holiday and stuff like that they just wait they'll take them on a trip instead of

00:02:13.840 a date oh boy where do they are they in relationships with these guys or like they're just dating who are

00:02:21.680 they are they celebrities are they bankers like what are these high value men yeah no i'm asking like

00:02:28.320 what type of guys they date um pimps ballers you can say it you could say it yeah high quality men

00:02:36.480 what high quality men okay no but like what what industries are they dating

00:02:41.680 what i'm just trying to get an archetype okay so i have i have it's it's a different so i have like

00:02:47.840 my friends that date guys that work in finance like business guys or have their own businesses or and

00:02:55.040 then i have guys girls that would date guys that are footballers rappers and just hire really

00:03:01.120 okay yeah who's the biggest rapper or footballer that slid into your friends dms i don't know no no one

00:03:10.800 she knows

00:03:14.880 you know guys like if you're watching this man like if your fiance or wife has friends like that like run

00:03:19.360 away run and like don't look back just run just like run like and don't even look just go just as

00:03:25.840 fast as you can that's insane why because if that's your friend group like dude like no like i mean you

00:03:32.400 can really really tell about a lot about a person from their friend group and their values and everything

00:03:37.040 else like remember my well we they're young so they're ranging my girl why you're you have a kid you

00:03:44.400 have a kid man you got a kid and and like you're engaged and you're engaging like with these women

00:03:49.920 even as friends so my friendship group that i've grown up with from college or uni because of their

00:03:57.040 type of men that they attract who they go for right i shouldn't be i shouldn't speak to them because i am

00:04:03.920 no you can speak to whoever you want but your fiancee should run for his life why is my fiancee running for 1.00

00:04:08.960 his life when well well i'm not doing i'm not dating i'm not i'm not going with them on double

00:04:14.160 days hey listen i think his point is you become who you surround yourself with listen if my friends

00:04:19.840 if a guy hangs out with four losers he's gonna become the fifth yeah if i'm not a gangster but

00:04:24.800 like all my friends are like in gangs are getting popped off and like you know doing drive-by

00:04:28.640 shootings and everything those are my friends it's like it's like that's a pretty serious flag so that's

00:04:33.360 saying that i yes i'm willing to cheat but yes it's exactly that's that's exactly what it's saying

00:04:40.160 there's numbers that back this stuff up like one of the one of the number one indicators that a woman 1.00

00:04:44.800 will get divorced is if her friends start getting divorced women women are very susceptible to what 1.00

00:04:50.800 the group does so we are very influenced by propaganda it's why we all are with the latest

00:04:56.480 fashion trends that the men don't even like it's why we got like cakes caked on makeup like all the

00:05:02.480 like like the bow top you know what i mean like that look that every girl goes for like the men 0.99

00:05:06.960 don't even like it but it's because we are very influenced by what other women do well i've i'm the

00:05:13.520 only female in my friendship group and my friends and my surroundings that is engaged well and has a baby 0.81

00:05:21.920 yeah my i would say that my well my friends they have good jobs some working banks some working like

00:05:28.960 they have good jobs they're they're wholesome people they've been to uni they've studied they've

00:05:33.280 got their career like some have businesses but but it says something about their values if they're

00:05:39.600 getting flown out by the top 10 of men every every other weekend or even if it's once a month whatever

00:05:46.080 it is like they're taking trips with these rappers ballers like this is what you said so and i'm not

00:05:52.240 saying like you do it but i'm saying like if you surround yourself by people that do it like you're

00:05:58.160 in general you're more likely to do it and so but i wouldn't know so i know i'm not talking about you

00:06:04.240 though okay yeah i'm saying in general well yeah but women of course they're gonna say i it's like 1.00

00:06:10.960 asking a survey would you ever cheat on your spouse no of course not it's like that no doesn't work that

00:06:14.480 way like everybody's gonna virtue signal positively the issue is that women market right and if you're 0.99

00:06:18.640 putting yourself in positions where you're still marketing and your friends are actively marketing

00:06:22.320 like there's a certain correlation there but i mean this i think it's very obvious to men it's

00:06:25.920 like guys i mean i'm sure this has been said a million times like you're never ever gonna please

00:06:30.320 a woman like who has been flown out to like dubai on dates like what experience are you going to

00:06:34.880 provide for her that's going to make you her leader like it's like yeah hey you want to go down like

00:06:39.280 and have a quick coffee it's like yeah sure but in her mind she's like i just got flown to dubai

00:06:44.240 it's like you lose you can't win well and guys will even say that with like lifestyle too like

00:06:50.320 if a one woman starts getting a certain lifestyle from a guy another girl will wonder why she's not 0.99

00:06:55.200 getting that lifestyle and then start like complaining like ring size like whatever it is

00:07:00.240 women we're just very and it's actually really sad when you look at the at the data of like how

00:07:04.880 influenced we are by the group but you see the reality is this is this one of the serious problems

00:07:10.000 of society because this is really why a lot of men like to protect the women that they hold

00:07:15.680 close to them because one you have to protect your women from physical danger you have to protect your

00:07:21.840 women from other women and you also have to protect your woman from herself because a lot of women think 1.00

00:07:26.800 that they they know how to make these decisions they're the boss babe but at the end of the day if you

00:07:30.720 look at the results it's the results that matter why is everyone's why are all the women in the west 1.00

00:07:36.320 all tending towards the same direction why are you all having the same results even though

00:07:41.520 you are all special and all different it's because when a woman decides that she wants to 1.00

00:07:47.920 lead her relationship and she wants to lead like you said you still go and ask um for advice from

00:07:54.480 your male friends it really only just takes one time for you to really really hate your partner

00:08:00.320 it really just takes one time for him to do something and then you're like nah and you're out there

00:08:04.720 and then before you know it there's alcohol and then you're going to come back and you're going

00:08:07.840 to start having these excuses that's that's how it happens they never intended to go out to do

00:08:14.080 whatever so king on that i want to i want to riff off you for a second that's actually a conversation

00:08:18.080 i had with my wife because you know when you're married you have to like discuss certain expectations

00:08:21.920 i actually told her like what my definition of cheating is because i want to be i want to know

00:08:26.800 exactly what is going on in our relationship like that's really again this is going back some time

00:08:31.360 right my exact definition was the moment you complain to another man about anything to do

00:08:36.400 with our relationship it's it's the moment that's that's the line for me if you complain to another

00:08:41.760 man about me as a husband me as a father anything the moment you complain about another man and that

00:08:47.280 right there that is the line that i define cheating right there that's the line and what you're saying

00:08:52.320 is true and actually to your point as well can kind of interesting you're like women do what's popular 1.00

00:08:55.920 it's like something like one in three uh one in three high school girls now identify in some form

00:09:01.360 of lgbtq it's like you wonder right like so many women are identifying with the most popular and the

00:09:08.240 most brave uh and stunning group it's like hmm i wonder what they're really identifying right yeah you

00:09:14.000 could convince us a damn near anything honestly like the more i look at like numbers i'm like you could

00:09:20.000 literally convince us that the moon is made of cheese and like we would believe it if the propaganda

00:09:26.240 was good enough and we said you're hip cool and brave for believing that the moon is made of cheese

00:09:31.200 i swear to god i look at this stuff and i'm just like i don't know how we got here one in five

00:09:37.040 women identify as that like that's crazy it's more than that for women it's like 20 of all 1.00

00:09:41.200 youth but it's higher for women right this is nuts but it's popular going back to what dimitri was

00:09:47.520 getting i think he was saying in terms of the friends stuff that if you're on such a different

00:09:53.360 chapter than your friends that's kind of why you would assume that your values and kind of your

00:09:59.600 lifestyle would be so drastically different that you have less in common to where you're not going

00:10:05.120 to be spending too much time with them even yeah you know they might be the people you grew up with

00:10:09.120 you have some level of contact with them but it's just night and day difference in your lives right

00:10:14.000 they're single they're going here and you're raising a kid that you know there would be some

00:10:18.880 differences in lifestyle to where you guys wouldn't be on the same page a lot of the time have you guys

00:10:24.480 ever cut a friend off yeah because they like they didn't represent you or you didn't like the way

00:10:30.240 yeah yeah yeah what were they doing naughty naughty stuff very bad stuff like why what very tempting

00:10:39.760 naughty stuff um just not i don't know can i say it on here yeah go ahead just doing drugs basically

00:10:48.640 yes yeah like ton of that and not just that like other stuff that goes along with it that that sort of

00:10:57.040 way of life brings and it does whether you're you say that you sell or you use or whatever it is

00:11:02.480 whatever it brings so and once you step out of stuff like that like once you change your life

00:11:07.600 around once you step out of like situations like that you can look back on it and you think what

00:11:11.120 the hell was i doing with you or was i only friends with you because of this situation or we were both 0.50

00:11:15.680 at this point in our lives together like is that why we're friends or we actually friends because

00:11:20.640 yeah why so sometimes it is best to cut people off for not it's not nice in any way shape or form to

00:11:28.880 do so i don't think i think it's wise actually it is like i mean there's there's been times where

00:11:33.920 girls are doing some like crazy i'm like i cannot be around because then people are going to think i'm 0.96

00:11:38.080 doing it exactly that that's the thing exactly if you're like if you're associated with it then they

00:11:42.160 think you're doing it exactly that and yeah if you are associated with certain people it's like they say

00:11:47.760 you can put a nice apple in in a bowl or you can put a rotten bit fruit in a life

00:11:52.400 let me start the sentence again a rotten piece of fruit in like a nice ripe fruit bowl

00:11:56.240 buy give it a wee everything the mold spreads and it's all going to be rotten yeah do you know what

00:12:01.840 i mean and it's like they say like you are what you eat what you what you do who you surround yourself

00:12:06.720 with is it shapes you as an individual completely and utterly like it shapes you in every single way

00:12:12.480 whether that be your home life whether that be your work life your family environment your

00:12:17.760 just just anything that you do anything that you do in any way that you act in any way you live it

00:12:21.680 does shape you as an individual and sometimes yeah in order for you to grow you need to set boundaries

00:12:26.240 and if people aren't willing to respect the boundaries that you set then are they are they

00:12:30.080 really your friend or are they just someone that is around because it's one an acquaintance or around

00:12:37.200 because it's beneficial to them whether that be mentally physically or financially so yeah i would say

00:12:42.960 it's it's not nice cutting friends off because when you share like parts of your life with

00:12:49.040 someone or whether it be platonic or relationship wise whatever you give yourself a part of that

00:12:53.440 person and that part is something that you'll never get back yeah also what are your morals and your

00:12:59.200 values or i think something to quote andrew tate he says what do you stand for how like firm do you stand

00:13:04.720 on that right if you have such different values then you're not that firm on your values or your morals

00:13:10.720 right so enforcing that to an extent on yourself and your life and the people you share that with

00:13:17.040 it shows how serious you are kind of something dimitri said was the gray area and black and white i

00:13:22.080 think so that's something that's black and white because it shows how firm you are for yourself on

00:13:26.640 those things are you loose are you okay with whatever or do you have a strong set of expectations

00:13:31.680 strong set of values strong yeah exactly

JustPearlyThings - July 20, 2023

Modern Women Biggest Frustration in Dating Market

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