JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Blame Birth Control Instead of Consequences of Being a 304 (Call-in Show)

00:00:00.000 A dozen women being asked the following question, do we need men?

00:00:05.460 Most answered very quickly, no.

00:00:08.360 Because men are useless.

00:00:11.300 This headline from The Hill, it caught my eye.

00:00:14.200 Most young men are single, most young women are not.

00:00:17.220 Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America for the last 40 years.

00:00:21.880 It's a different world now, like we don't need men the way that they used to.

00:00:24.920 Nobody needs men!

00:00:26.160 The future is female.

00:00:27.760 Men and women are drifting further apart, and society is crumbling because of it.

00:00:35.800 A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.

00:00:39.060 You've kind of got the trad con versus red pill thing.

00:00:41.760 This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.

00:00:45.320 You need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.

00:00:49.400 Marriage is a bond, and it's a sacred bond.

00:00:51.860 It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.

00:00:54.980 Now many of the red-pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married.

00:00:59.880 It's Hannah Pearl Davis, or just pearly things.

00:01:03.580 One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.

00:01:07.240 She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.

00:01:10.080 Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.

00:01:15.020 Gee, what could go wrong there?

00:01:17.380 74% or something of divorces are initiated by women.

00:01:21.000 Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children.

00:01:23.880 Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws.

00:01:26.560 I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.

00:01:31.500 Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.

00:01:34.720 You need no evidence.

00:01:35.820 When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for,

00:01:39.520 and you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.

00:01:42.400 I interviewed them on the other side.

00:01:45.100 I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.

00:01:47.880 How much did you spend trying to get him back?

00:01:49.940 The legal fees alone was about $200,000.

00:01:52.300 Before you know it, you're homeless.

00:01:53.740 You're literally just thrown out onto the street.

00:01:55.640 We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women.

00:01:58.020 Wives are taught to leave their husbands, and then daughters grow up without their fathers.

00:02:02.300 Family is the foundation of society.

00:02:04.020 Every problem in society comes from single mother homes.

00:02:07.160 A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness, endless happiness.

00:02:11.220 Feminism's biggest failure is it lies to women.

00:02:13.460 We tell women to date as many guys as possible.

00:02:15.260 We tell them to put off family into marriage.

00:02:17.040 You are allowed to leave your perfect husband.

00:02:19.780 You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.

00:02:24.220 Oh, freeze your ex.

00:02:25.000 Have an abortion.

00:02:26.020 What?

00:02:26.440 You're evil.

00:02:27.260 I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.

00:02:31.120 Right.

00:02:31.240 Like, if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic, naturally,

00:02:35.800 the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.

00:02:37.960 It's self-sabotage.

00:02:38.880 And that's the thing.

00:02:39.420 Like, women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy.

00:02:42.640 This is not about happiness.

00:02:44.320 The most important thing is the children.

00:02:46.720 And the problem is we have a modern society where it's me, me, me, my feelings, leave when

00:02:51.580 I feel like it, instead of doing what's best for the kids.

00:02:54.340 This myth that we live in an age of male privilege, where's my male privilege?

00:02:59.220 They think, well, men have all the rights.

00:03:00.700 They have all the power.

00:03:02.000 Privileged patriarchal system that we have.

00:03:04.280 Why doesn't our society care about men's rights?

00:03:06.900 I have no friends, no wife, and no social life.

00:03:10.120 Men are alone in this situation.

00:03:12.040 Men are homeless.

00:03:13.000 Men are thinking about eating guns.

00:03:14.740 I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide, and they didn't do anything wrong.

00:03:18.980 How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?

00:03:24.560 The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.

00:03:28.420 Women are helplessly dependent upon men.

00:03:31.080 The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose, or alcohol, three times higher among

00:03:36.920 men than among women.

00:03:38.200 Culture is telling men, you are no good.

00:03:40.020 You've got to get your act together.

00:03:41.240 I think men have failed themselves.

00:03:42.880 What kind of a man are you?

00:03:44.120 What kind of a woman are you going to attract?

00:03:46.060 If men are in trouble, so are women.

00:03:48.500 Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.

00:03:52.460 Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man to get 500k, 300k, 200k, 200k.

00:03:57.220 Am I crazy?

00:03:57.880 Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.

00:04:00.160 If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them.

00:04:03.720 So you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?

00:04:07.580 Women.

00:04:09.060 I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.

00:04:11.220 I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.

00:04:13.480 I'm over it.

00:04:14.580 When is it going to be my turn?

00:04:15.940 Where are we meeting the men that don't stop?

00:04:17.660 I can't keep having these same conversations.

00:04:20.520 The only simp here is you, Pearl.

00:04:21.780 You simp for men.

00:04:22.180 No, I think you simp for women.

00:04:23.800 She's a provocateur.

00:04:24.780 She says stupid stuff.

00:04:25.960 But Pearl is right about this.

00:04:27.220 It's already happening.

00:04:28.360 It's just not out in the open yet.

00:04:29.820 Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale ending because men don't want

00:04:33.460 a wife and women can't find a husband.

00:04:35.260 The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.

00:04:39.780 We're going to population decline and our economy goes into decline.

00:04:43.740 Civilization will crumble.

00:04:45.460 The American story does not end well.

00:04:48.000 This is an existential crisis failing young men.

00:04:50.940 What's up, guys?

00:04:58.580 Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily here on the Audacity Network.

00:05:02.040 I first want to start by thanking each and every one of you for supporting my channel.

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00:05:38.340 There's all of these craziness in the world today.

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00:06:39.000 So today we're going to be talking about birth control.

00:06:44.180 So I want to first start off by saying welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily.

00:06:50.460 So the sexual revolution is most commonly referred to as the time in the 1960s and 70s

00:06:56.480 where in Western culture, American culture in particular, changed its attitude towards

00:07:01.060 sex, physical intimacy between men and women.

00:07:03.680 One of the major contributions to this is the introduction of oral birth control pill.

00:07:09.600 Women for the first time could have sex with men with a minimized risk of pregnancy.

00:07:14.900 The first oral contraceptive pill was approved by the FDA in 1960 and within two years with

00:07:20.120 over 1.2 million women using it by 1965, one in four married women under the age of 45

00:07:27.160 were using or had tried the pill by 1984, 50 to 80 million women were using the pill.

00:07:33.720 And by 2013, over a hundred million women were using the birth control pill.

00:07:37.700 You're hearing these numbers and thinking, wow, this is a great solution.

00:07:40.840 It's like magic.

00:07:41.740 It solved all of women's problems.

00:07:43.920 But what these women did not consider were the side effects of hormonal birth control.

00:07:47.860 The most common side effects include nausea, headaches, increased blood, increased blood

00:07:52.900 pressure, mood swings, weight changes.

00:07:54.900 The more serious side effects include blood clots, anxiety, stroke, stroke, and deep vein

00:08:00.700 thrombosis.

00:08:02.160 Birth control has become accepted as part of American culture that many mothers put their

00:08:06.720 daughters on it at the age of 16 in their teenage years.

00:08:10.440 And this has led to many women being on birth control for decades without thinking because

00:08:15.420 they're too dumb to think about the long-term side effects.

00:08:18.680 And by the way, the way I phrased that is that mothers put their daughters on birth control.

00:08:24.080 But to be honest, these daughters are sleeping with Pookie and Ray Ray.

00:08:28.540 These mothers don't know what to do.

00:08:30.240 They're like, F, I can't stop or she's crawling through the window to sleep with Pookie and Ray Ray.

00:08:34.920 And so whenever women give these sob stories about getting put on birth control by their parents,

00:08:39.260 I want you to ask yourself, why would the parents put them on birth control?

00:08:44.120 It's probably because she was doing some hoe shit.

00:08:46.420 You know what I mean?

00:08:48.060 Now, the long-term effects of hormonal birth control is what we're going to talk about on today's show.

00:08:53.700 This will be a call-in show.

00:08:55.000 So when you do call in, tell me your opinion on the pill.

00:08:57.880 Do you think it was a good or a bad thing for society?

00:09:00.420 And what has your experience been with birth control?

00:09:03.020 And if you have a daughter, did she put herself on birth control?

00:09:07.220 Or did you put her on birth control?

00:09:09.200 Would you?

00:09:09.940 Now, I do want to give a little preface.

00:09:12.180 I want to tell you my experience with birth control.

00:09:15.800 So when I was 16, I was pretty innocent, to be honest.

00:09:21.920 Like, I was very innocent.

00:09:25.420 I know, obviously, you probably aren't going to believe me.

00:09:28.220 I guess I'm a woman.

00:09:29.180 I've got a signal purity, right?

00:09:30.660 But I'll tell you what, when I was in high school, I just, I didn't do much.

00:09:36.360 I was very into volleyball.

00:09:38.440 I'm kind of the same as I am now.

00:09:40.160 I'm pretty into my channel.

00:09:42.200 So I was pretty busy, right?

00:09:45.060 And there were, like, I always remember going to football games and being bored.

00:09:52.140 Like, I just, there's something wrong with me, I think,

00:09:55.200 because I don't think I get social gratification from just sitting and hanging out all day.

00:10:00.820 I just don't.

00:10:01.640 I don't, I don't really want to sit and play.

00:10:04.360 I want to go learn something.

00:10:05.940 That's just kind of how I go do something.

00:10:08.180 It's just how I've always been, you know?

00:10:09.880 I always got most improved on the team because other girls had lives.

00:10:13.340 Not me.

00:10:14.000 So, uh, we got a $5 super chat.

00:10:19.860 Thank you so much.

00:10:21.020 Documentary got five on it.

00:10:22.400 Thank you.

00:10:22.980 Thank you very much for the donation.

00:10:26.360 So, uh, you know, I've always just been kind of weird.

00:10:28.760 I've been a little strange, you know, a little odd, I'll say.

00:10:33.400 So when I was 16, I remember women on my team were going on birth control.

00:10:38.580 And at this time, um, I don't want to say when I became sexually active, you know, I'm 20, I'm 28 now,

00:10:46.360 but I'll just say this at that time, I wasn't right.

00:10:50.880 And the girls on my team were starting to get on birth control.

00:10:59.100 And I remember telling the women on my team at the time,

00:11:04.660 Hey, um, I think this could have side effects.

00:11:09.060 I don't know.

00:11:10.080 Like I'm not, I'm not a doctor.

00:11:12.060 I don't know, but I'm just logically thinking about it.

00:11:16.220 And I'm thinking this can't be good for you.

00:11:18.820 It just can't like, you cannot shut off your fertility.

00:11:27.520 You can't shut off your fertility and not have any consequences.

00:11:34.020 I have a hard time believing that.

00:11:38.580 Um, so I'll hear women like this.

00:11:41.520 And I just thought of this when I was talking like Alex Clark and these women take no accountability

00:11:48.920 because when I, at the time said this to my fellow teammates, um, they all laughed at me.

00:11:55.560 They all, they all kind of looked at me like I was stupid.

00:11:58.000 And I thought, okay, have fun.

00:12:01.660 Now I'm not going to, you know, purity signal here and act like I never tried the pill or anything,

00:12:06.680 but I'll say this.

00:12:07.980 And I barely did.

00:12:09.660 I was on it like one, maybe two years.

00:12:12.420 And my personal experience was I had no side effects.

00:12:17.440 I felt fine.

00:12:18.740 Um, but I still just had this voice in the back of my head that said, I don't think I can be on this

00:12:28.420 and not have a consequence.

00:12:30.040 So I, you know, against, I went to the doctor and I told them this and, uh, they all said,

00:12:36.060 no, are you sure?

00:12:37.460 And I'm like, yeah, I'm pretty sure I'm gonna, I'm gonna get off it.

00:12:42.140 And, uh, and you know, cause I, I always felt like my health was in my hands.

00:12:46.800 I always felt like my health was my responsibility.

00:12:50.000 Um, it wasn't the doctor's responsibility or what society tells me.

00:12:54.880 And what all these women are going through is they hit 30.

00:12:58.020 They've gotten chlamydia too many times.

00:13:00.120 They're infertile, uh, which if a woman tells you she has fertility issues,

00:13:03.580 it very well may be chlamydia, gonorrhea, or, um,

00:13:09.560 or birth control.

00:13:13.540 So a choice, right?

00:13:14.960 So here, this is Alex Clark.

00:13:17.420 I think it was this one.

00:13:19.080 Pediatricians wasted no time telling us that there was a magic pill that could solve all

00:13:23.320 of our problems in a 10 minute wellness checkup with like, how stupid can you be?

00:13:28.700 You deserve it, Alex.

00:13:30.120 If you have issues because of being on birth control for a decade, that's your own fault.

00:13:34.560 You deserve it.

00:13:35.740 And I mean that you really do deserve that.

00:13:39.180 And it's kind of like, you know, the other day I got locked out of my Twitter account.

00:13:43.220 You know, um, some guy from India called me and I fell, I fell for a stupid scammer email.

00:13:50.240 Um, it was so stupid.

00:13:52.340 I got locked out of my account and they started pushing Bitcoin.

00:13:54.580 I have it back now, but I did get locked out for like a week.

00:13:57.340 And I didn't even feel bad for myself because it was so stupid.

00:14:00.520 I was like, I deserve that.

00:14:02.660 And Alex Clark is trying to blame the doctors when it's like, bitch, Google's existed.

00:14:08.260 And you could Google the side effects.

00:14:11.960 Then I remember, uh, cause I remember, I remember Googling this stuff.

00:14:18.280 So I'm getting pretty sick and tired.

00:14:22.260 I'm getting pretty sick and tired of women blaming everybody else.

00:14:26.660 For the birth control side effects.

00:14:34.500 Can we change the title to modern women blame birth control for the consequences of being a hoe?

00:14:40.180 I just think that's better.

00:14:42.420 No informed consent about the risks or side effects.

00:14:47.160 What problems were we solving exactly?

00:14:49.360 A couple pimples.

00:14:51.480 We were advised to not.

00:14:52.760 Now this is the, oh my God, can you imagine this at home?

00:14:56.780 Oh my God, the nagging.

00:14:59.600 So now she's going to blame it.

00:15:01.300 She's going to blame it on the, you know, cause they did give you birth control for acne.

00:15:06.760 But remember women love plausible deniability.

00:15:09.440 So, you know, the moms might be like, Hey honey, get on this birth control for, for the acne.

00:15:15.260 But really, you know, she's noticed that you've snuck out five times this week.

00:15:18.880 And it's like, we gotta, we can't have her get pregnant by Gavin, the starving musician, Tyrone, Gloctavia.

00:15:24.920 Like we can't do that.

00:15:26.560 So don't worry about learning to track our cycle or understand our hormones.

00:15:30.780 No conversation about how our likelihood to experience anxiety or depression.

00:15:35.340 I looked it up myself.

00:15:36.460 And that's why, that's why I get so pissed because, okay, I didn't have, I went to Catholic school.

00:15:42.900 I got worse than you guys.

00:15:45.180 I got a chastity talk at Catholic school from a run through hoe and a simp.

00:15:53.180 I went to Catholic school and they had Jason Everett and Christiana Everett and Chris, you can Google them.

00:15:59.840 Christiana, you can Google their speeches.

00:16:01.340 Christiana Everett, you know, she came in and basically talked about how she was a hoe and now she hoes no mo and then she married Jason.

00:16:10.880 That's like the gist of it.

00:16:12.340 And we had that every year.

00:16:13.680 No sex ed, no nothing.

00:16:15.540 But again, I wasn't retarded.

00:16:19.120 And I'm just so tired of women acting like, look, everything in life is a calculated risk.

00:16:24.960 You can't do anything in life without taking risk.

00:16:27.760 So if you want to go get banged out or whatever and not get pregnant, then wear a condom.

00:16:35.440 And if you can't do that, it's just, it's just so irritating.

00:16:40.440 It would increase by 80% on the pill.

00:16:43.700 We stayed on the pill because no one advised us it was only ever supposed to be taken temporarily.

00:16:52.380 You're so stupid.

00:16:54.740 Oh my God.

00:16:57.760 Oh my God.

00:16:59.140 She's so dumb.

00:17:02.200 Like, you know what I mean?

00:17:03.660 I have no medical background, none.

00:17:06.400 And I could have figured that out.

00:17:08.880 I did figure that out.

00:17:11.060 And I like I did.

00:17:12.580 I was on it, but I was on it for a very short period of time.

00:17:16.100 And I got my fertility tested.

00:17:18.360 Look at, I got flying colors.

00:17:21.580 I, I got it tested last year.

00:17:24.020 They're like fly, your hormones, flying colors.

00:17:27.460 It's called not being retarded ladies.

00:17:33.840 Then we wanted to have children.

00:17:40.160 We got off birth control for the first time in our adult lives.

00:17:43.380 It's only to discover that we had major fertility issues that the hormonal birth control hit suddenly.

00:17:50.640 Bro.

00:17:51.120 You have fertility issues because you're like 32.

00:17:56.280 And I'm not knocking it.

00:17:57.780 Like I'm 28, you know, it's like, I'm, I'm old too, but it's like, come on.

00:18:08.220 Starting a family means spending tens of thousands of dollars on IVF and other fertility treatments because even more medical interventions are always the first solution rather than addressing the root causes of the problem.

00:18:21.240 Pediatricians wait.

00:18:27.660 All right, let's go to the next tick tock.

00:18:29.860 I just, I just can't.

00:18:32.200 I can't.

00:18:32.700 And do you know what?

00:18:33.560 10 years later, some of my friends did have hormone issues.

00:18:36.380 And do you know what I didn't feel bad for them at all birth control at all?

00:18:41.560 I didn't feel bad because it's like, they're like, Oh, nobody told me the truth.

00:18:45.560 You didn't want to hear the truth.

00:18:46.760 You wanted to go get banged out at college.

00:18:48.920 Like, can we just call this what it is?

00:18:50.960 Well, is one of the most damaging things you can put in your body specifically for your body's biological stress response.

00:18:58.580 This is because birth control is linked to increased prefrontal brain activity when you're

00:19:03.680 experiencing negative feelings or emotions.

00:19:06.740 So on birth control, your brain spends more time capturing memories of stress, fear, worry,

00:19:13.640 and trauma than it does on memories of happiness, joy, and contentment.

00:19:18.260 And over time that will disrupt your processing of those negative emotions, which is impacting the way you respond to both minor and major stressors.

00:19:26.720 Not only does birth control mess with the way that you handle stress, there's also evidence for increased fatigue.

00:19:32.100 So look, my, my short time on it, I didn't really feel that different.

00:19:37.760 I also don't think it really makes you gain weight.

00:19:41.620 I think it's the environment because most women get on birth control in college.

00:19:46.240 So you're drinking way more.

00:19:47.700 Like, I did gain weight, but I think it was because of what I was eating.

00:19:53.320 You know, we, our school cafeteria had some pretty bad food.

00:19:57.220 So I get a little irritated when the women are like, oh, the birth control made me fat.

00:20:02.480 Really?

00:20:02.760 It's not what you put in your mouth?

00:20:05.980 I don't know.

00:20:06.780 Like, I think at 1,200 calories, you'll still lose weight.

00:20:09.940 I just, I'm so tired of this.

00:20:11.800 Potential for nutrient deficiencies, weight gain, persistent low mood, and also a higher risk of experiencing a stroke, blood clot, and even a heart attack.

00:20:22.920 So if you've been taking birth control for longer than a year, this might be why you're experiencing low mood, irritability, and you're also a compulsive warrior.

00:20:33.920 Yep.

00:20:34.660 All right.

00:20:35.240 Let's see what's next.

00:20:37.480 I don't know.

00:20:38.160 Sometimes I think, like, the side effects are just things that happen to women anyway.

00:20:44.800 And I'm not saying, I bet the hormone imbalance, but, like, I've never met a woman whose hormones are so balanced that she's not crazy and doesn't have mood swings or doesn't get fat.

00:20:57.100 You know what I mean?

00:20:58.180 I know women on birth control that didn't get fat.

00:21:00.700 Say that the birth control pill makes the doctor's lives easier and the patient's lives worse.

00:21:09.200 So many women will go to their gynecologist or their primary care.

00:21:12.940 Maybe they have irregular periods or maybe they have symptoms of PCOS or acne or some other hormonal symptom.

00:21:18.980 And it's like a reflex.

00:21:20.120 The doctor just writes a prescription for the birth control.

00:21:22.160 There's no discussion about lifestyle.

00:21:24.000 There's no discussion about risks.

00:21:25.260 I've seen patients prescribe birth control who were smokers, who should never be given birth control.

00:21:30.180 I've seen patients who had clotting conditions in their medical history.

00:21:33.700 There's good evidence birth control pills can disrupt some of the absorption of other vitamins, key vitamins and minerals, as well as other side effects from it.

00:21:40.900 Rarely do I ever prescribe it.

00:21:42.220 I always try to encourage my patients to look at other options.

00:21:45.740 When you take a hormone, it will suppress your own body from making it.

00:21:49.020 So when we take birth control...

00:21:50.160 Okay, so this is how it goes.

00:21:51.660 Women, we have a tendency to want to do a stupid thing.

00:21:56.440 And so then the men are like, all right, we'll help you do the stupid thing.

00:21:59.200 You want to leave your husband and go, you know, my grandma, she passed away.

00:22:02.840 But before she died, I asked her, because she really lived through all the divorces.

00:22:07.800 And I asked her, I'm like, what do you think caused all these like divorces?

00:22:12.640 Like, what do you think?

00:22:14.000 And my grandma told me birth control.

00:22:15.840 Well, the other funny thing about my grandma before she died, she died like a year or two ago.

00:22:23.420 I asked her if she had any regrets in life.

00:22:25.460 My grandma had nine kids.

00:22:27.240 And she said she wished she had more kids.

00:22:29.300 I'm like, grandma, how many kids did you want?

00:22:32.420 She's like, I went on the pill for three years.

00:22:34.820 I would have wanted 12.

00:22:36.380 I'm like, grandma.

00:22:37.340 You know, why don't these women get Pearl Reed?

00:22:44.020 Why don't these 304s know that birth control makes them infertile?

00:22:47.560 I've met women who are put on it by their doctors to give them more regular periods or reduced PMS.

00:22:52.000 I only heard this recently.

00:22:54.240 They don't want to know.

00:22:56.140 That's that's the thing.

00:22:57.440 Women want to do an irresponsible thing and they don't want to know.

00:23:00.640 Like, okay, women, when we want to know if a guy's cheating, there's apps that like completely let women air out dates and all this stuff.

00:23:10.300 Like, are we dating the same guy?

00:23:11.780 We go to the ends of the earth to find out tea on men.

00:23:17.040 But we don't go to the ends of the earth to find out what the side effects are of birth control.

00:23:23.900 Do you know what I mean?

00:23:24.540 It's like we have the ability to do it.

00:23:27.100 We choose not to.

00:23:28.140 And I'm telling you, when I was 16, I had this thought that I'm like, this can't be good for you.

00:23:37.400 And I'm not acting like I'm some super moral person.

00:23:40.700 I went on it for a little bit.

00:23:43.340 And I had zero side effects.

00:23:45.380 And I just couldn't get rid of this sunken feeling that there's going to be problems later.

00:23:51.640 And I went off and the doctors told me not to go off.

00:23:54.940 And I just thought, you know what, I can figure out how not to get pregnant.

00:23:58.800 I can.

00:24:02.220 So when I get tired, I really get tired of, I just get so exhausted of women, you know, just always blaming the men.

00:24:14.700 Because really, the men adapt to the market.

00:24:17.260 The women are like, we want to bang without getting pregnant.

00:24:20.040 The men say, here you go.

00:24:21.040 And they're like, well, we don't want to catch STDs.

00:24:23.100 They're like, here's a condom.

00:24:24.080 There you go.

00:24:25.360 And now the women made a mistake.

00:24:29.540 And now there's going to be all these industries based off of women's mistakes, like tattoo removals, et cetera.

00:24:37.040 The pituitary sees that and it shuts down.

00:24:39.900 Sometimes patients will come to me saying, I want you to test my hormones.

00:24:42.860 But they're on birth control.

00:24:43.880 And I said, well, the only hormone I'm going to be measuring is what's in your pill.

00:24:46.600 I try to just reassure people it's going to take a while for things to rebalance.

00:24:50.520 There's nothing else we can do by time.

00:24:52.320 There's no way to sort of.

00:24:53.440 I don't know.

00:24:54.160 I felt fine on it.

00:24:55.400 I felt fine after.

00:24:56.580 Like, I literally can't think of a single.

00:25:01.000 I did gain weight, but I just can't blame it on the pill.

00:25:04.520 I really can't.

00:25:05.640 I blame it on my decisions, you know.

00:25:09.980 All right.

00:25:10.460 What do we got next?

00:25:11.500 I see you guys in the comment and some are saying I look old because I'm not wearing makeup today.

00:25:18.140 And some are some are saying they like the look.

00:25:21.880 But I just I'm going to wear it less, guys.

00:25:24.460 I got a lot better in the last year of makeup, but I just I don't like the feeling of paint on my face.

00:25:32.120 I'll still wear it sometimes, but I'm like probably the older I get, I'll wear more.

00:25:37.760 But I just can't do it every day.

00:25:39.460 Most people who agree to a birth control pill don't receive full informed consent.

00:25:44.520 They're not told that it'll raise the inflammation in your body by two to threefold.

00:25:49.260 It increases your risk of autoimmune disease, especially Crohn's disease.

00:25:53.860 It makes your.

00:25:55.020 OK, I just want to show them informed consent.

00:25:57.440 All right, let's Google.

00:25:59.540 Birth control side effects.

00:26:04.620 Wow.

00:26:05.360 Right on the top of Google.

00:26:07.080 And, you know, they'll always say, well, you're just a kid.

00:26:09.360 When that happens, not really.

00:26:15.780 Not really.

00:26:16.720 I mean.

00:26:21.720 You know, I mean, 15, 16.

00:26:24.840 They know how to do the tick tock dances.

00:26:28.600 You can't figure out how to Google the side effects.

00:26:31.680 Control system for your hormones, less flexible.

00:26:35.440 It can rob you of testosterone.

00:26:37.460 It can lower your free testosterone.

00:26:40.140 It can shrink your clitoris by up to 20 percent.

00:26:43.020 I feel like if that was part of the informed consent, very few people would sign up for it.

00:26:46.120 And I went on the birth control pill when I was 16.

00:26:47.900 But I feel like there are some costs to it that a lot of teenagers and women in their 20s and 30s aren't aware of.

00:26:57.900 And for me, I feel like that awareness is really critical.

00:27:01.400 So who's it for?

00:27:02.120 I would say it's a simple entree into contraception.

00:27:06.060 But I would much rather people use things like an IUD or condoms or some other barrier method that doesn't mess with their hormonal intelligence.

00:27:15.780 I don't know.

00:27:17.040 They don't care.

00:27:21.920 So I'm just I'm.

00:27:24.900 Is she crazy or is it the birth control?

00:27:28.440 Because if she's just crazy, it'll be easy to blame it on the birth control, right?

00:27:32.880 But the long term effects of hormonal birth control on women's body.

00:27:36.540 And if you give women an out, like, obviously, they're going to take it.

00:27:39.860 So they're going to be like, no, it wasn't me.

00:27:41.420 It was my birth control.

00:27:42.620 Hormonal birth control suppresses our natural ovulation, which is why we don't get pregnant while we are on hormonal birth control.

00:27:51.420 So ovulation is actually really important for our overall long term health.

00:27:56.620 And ovulation actually helps us avoid diseases like osteoporosis, heart disease, heart attacks, and even breast cancer.

00:28:03.660 The other thing they don't tell you when women have heavy periods.

00:28:09.420 I don't know if this is TMI.

00:28:10.800 I'll say I've had that issue.

00:28:13.440 And it's always related to diet.

00:28:15.400 Like, that's the thing.

00:28:17.180 Your health is so much more in your control than you think.

00:28:22.300 It's so much more in control.

00:28:24.500 Like, if you're eating like crap, of course you're going to have issues.

00:28:29.180 So all hormonal birth control suppresses our natural ovulation, except sometimes the hormonal IU.

00:28:36.860 Pearl, no makeup needed.

00:28:39.400 Longer hair adds a lot.

00:28:42.240 My hair doesn't grow.

00:28:43.540 I haven't had a haircut in almost a year.

00:28:46.100 And this is how long it gets.

00:28:47.620 I used to have extensions.

00:28:56.920 Those are great, but they're so uncomfortable.

00:28:59.040 I just can't do it.

00:29:00.400 And suppressing our ovulation for years, even decades in some cases, really does have long-term effects, even if our ovulation begins right after coming off of hormonal birth control.

00:29:13.980 So exposing our bodies to these synthetic hormones instead of our own natural hormones really can be a root cause for a lot of diseases.

00:29:23.300 So ovulation is important in so many ways and not just for conceiving.

00:29:28.840 Hormonal birth control, especially the hormonal birth control pill, destroys our gut microbiome.

00:29:34.780 So it's kind of acting like an antibiotic, destroying the balance of our gut microbiome.

00:29:40.360 If your doctor prescribes...

00:29:42.040 I don't know.

00:29:42.560 I hear the gut microbiome stuff.

00:29:45.280 What the heck?

00:29:47.320 Oh my gosh.

00:29:48.420 Why is it doing that?

00:29:49.220 Okay.

00:29:49.820 I hear the gut microbiome.

00:29:51.920 I hear the gut microbiome.

00:29:54.800 And I always just think it's women being fat.

00:29:57.600 You know what I mean?

00:29:59.180 It's just...

00:29:59.800 Destroying the balance of our gut microbiome.

00:30:02.720 If your doctor prescribes you a hormonal birth control pill, especially for PCOS,

00:30:08.980 so that it can actually make your symptoms worse with weight gain and insulin sensitivity

00:30:14.740 because of the impact on your gut microbiome.

00:30:18.300 There's also a new research study showing that the hormonal birth control pill can actually trigger Crohn's disease,

00:30:25.320 which is a disease of the gut microbiome.

00:30:28.100 Gut microbiome is something that is very new in the research field.

00:30:31.440 More and more studies are coming out how important a good healthy gut microbiome balance is for our overall health.

00:30:39.880 Maybe you've heard that it affects our moods, it affects our skin, it affects our hair, it affects our hormones.

00:30:47.100 It really does affect everything.

00:30:49.420 A healthy gut microbiome is essential for good physical and mental health.

00:30:54.200 And now it is possible to obviously fix your gut microbiome, but it does take a long time.

00:31:00.580 I am now two years after quitting hormonal birth control pill and I'm still figuring out the balance and still trying to heal my gut.

00:31:09.340 Hormonal birth control also increases inflammation in the body.

00:31:13.140 So if you are prescribed hormonal birth control pills, like I was for PMS, like cramps,

00:31:19.260 those issues are a symptom of hormonal imbalance and inflammation.

00:31:25.060 And so it does not solve and heal you.

00:31:27.780 What the? Oh my gosh.

00:31:33.780 My laptop.

00:31:34.180 Destroys our gut microbiome.

00:31:35.880 So it's kind of.

00:31:36.580 All right.

00:31:37.120 I don't.

00:31:38.080 Okay.

00:31:38.440 I'm just going to exit out of this one.

00:31:40.180 Uh, my laptop does this sometimes crashes out.

00:31:46.000 Hopefully it doesn't do in the next one.

00:31:47.600 All right.

00:31:50.080 Emily, if you're watching, like turn this off and girl talk.

00:31:53.740 But when I went off my birth control, my sex drive went through the roof because, you know,

00:31:57.400 sometimes like birth control can affect that.

00:31:59.580 My Alexa pro definitely affects that at times.

00:32:01.640 So I was feeling great.

00:32:03.640 Basically, I started to get really, really bad acne.

00:32:06.600 And this is when I like going into my senior year of college.

00:32:09.840 But everything happens for a reason because I started posting about my acne online and

00:32:14.500 that's how I got started on here.

00:32:16.000 But basically, I started to get the worst acne I've ever had in my entire life, like

00:32:20.180 blistering cystic acne on my face, down my neck, everything.

00:32:24.520 And I was basically told from a doctor that like my testosterone levels were high and they

00:32:29.400 were like, you need to get back on birth control.

00:32:31.220 Like you could maybe have PCOS.

00:32:32.920 So I went back on birth control.

00:32:34.440 So my senior year of college, back on my birth control, whatever.

00:32:36.960 So that was for like two more years.

00:32:38.960 So last year, I went off of the birth control.

00:32:41.460 So six months after in the fall of this year, I guess, started to break out really, really

00:32:45.920 bad again.

00:32:46.540 And I went on spironolactone for my acne and I started a really, really good skincare

00:32:51.240 regimen.

00:32:51.920 And my skin ultimately ended up like balancing out and figuring itself out.

00:32:55.800 But I personally feel a lot better not being on birth control.

00:32:59.200 But obviously, that's also something you have to be very careful about, especially in a

00:33:03.420 relationship.

00:33:06.660 All right.

00:33:07.440 So that's her experience on birth control.

00:33:10.040 Let's see who's next.

00:33:12.480 What do you wish you were told on that day when you were first given that little packet

00:33:15.540 of pills?

00:33:16.040 If they were being completely honest with you and they...

00:33:18.700 Google it!

00:33:19.780 I can't take it!

00:33:22.000 I just can't take it!

00:33:25.180 You know, like the one person I know that went crazy on birth control, she was already

00:33:30.320 nuts.

00:33:32.380 So yeah, like it doesn't shock me.

00:33:34.440 She went more nuts because she was nuts.

00:33:36.740 She knew what you know now.

00:33:38.680 What is the sort of the list of things you would have said to a young Sarah about this

00:33:43.000 decision?

00:33:43.540 The thing that would have really made a difference to me is that your hormones make you who you

00:33:49.680 are, and when you change your hormones, you change who you are, right?

00:33:54.240 So the birth control pill is going to change you.

00:33:56.600 It changes the version of yourself that your brain creates.

00:34:00.280 And so if you're going to be going on this, you need to understand what that does.

00:34:04.060 So this, of course, begs the question...

00:34:05.580 Hi, Doug.

00:34:06.080 Thanks for going live and keeping doing great things.

00:34:09.960 Oh, yeah, you should check it out.

00:34:11.200 Doug MPA does do shows when I'm not here.

00:34:14.460 And I was checking out...

00:34:16.380 By the way, guys, the more...

00:34:17.680 I'm debating how nice of a place to get in the place that we're moving.

00:34:23.620 So I've been going back and forth looking at places.

00:34:30.420 Anyways, the more support we get, the more cool things we can get.

00:34:35.060 So I always try to reinvest into the studio.

00:34:38.880 Question, what does it do?

00:34:40.880 And there's at least five different things that the birth control does to change who we

00:34:45.800 are, right?

00:34:46.740 It changes our sexual desire and who we're attracted to.

00:34:50.420 It changes our emotional states, right?

00:34:53.120 It can affect our moods.

00:34:54.800 It can affect our ability to regulate...

00:34:57.260 Yeah, so it turns off ovulation.

00:35:00.120 So, yeah, I mean, it's going to decrease your sex drive because your highest sex drive is

00:35:05.600 during ovulation.

00:35:06.460 To regulate and to manage stress, it influences sexual desire and sexual function.

00:35:14.080 It influences our ability to be able to put on muscle mass and affects our nutrition and

00:35:21.040 fitness goals, right?

00:35:22.400 It affects all of us.

00:35:23.960 And not knowing all of that and not knowing the potential risks of having side effects

00:35:30.180 related to mental health and libido, all the way to everything, you know, to like who a

00:35:36.100 person is attracted to.

00:35:37.680 I wish I would have known that.

00:35:39.260 That probably would have, you know, impacted again decisions that I would have made about

00:35:45.000 staying on it when I didn't need to because there was...

00:35:48.520 Well, you should have Googled it.

00:35:49.900 You should have Googled it.

00:35:51.260 You should have Googled it.

00:35:52.100 You should have had some common sense.

00:35:53.540 I just can't take it anymore.

00:35:55.280 So we're going to put the Zoom in the chat if you guys do want to send a super.

00:35:59.200 You know, we're in here day in and day out trying to make amazing, entertaining, funny

00:36:03.740 and informative content for you.

00:36:05.560 So feel free, right?

00:36:06.920 Send a super.

00:36:10.260 Please no simping in the chat.

00:36:12.160 You know, I am a normal woman.

00:36:14.260 I am a mid.

00:36:15.940 Keep it at that level.

00:36:17.480 All right.

00:36:18.120 I love you guys, but we got to be real here.

00:36:20.500 And then we're going to, we're going to bring up Doug MPA first and talk about, I think,

00:36:28.300 I think I actually, before we do, I got to think about, I've really said my piece.

00:36:35.080 I mean, the women didn't listen then.

00:36:36.940 I went on it for two years.

00:36:41.800 In that two years, I felt little to no side effects.

00:36:46.100 I did gain weight, but I think it was my poor choices.

00:36:49.340 Um, and I got off of it because I just felt like there would probably, if there weren't

00:36:58.400 side effects now, there may be later.

00:37:00.940 And that was my gut feeling about it.

00:37:02.900 So, oh my gosh, now you guys are calling me an eight.

00:37:08.680 Oh my God.

00:37:09.800 It's just embarrassing.

00:37:10.640 It's just embarrassing for you.

00:37:14.840 What's up, Doug MPA?

00:37:17.060 Yeah, there's a lot of simping in the chat.

00:37:19.000 Guys, calm it down a little bit, please.

00:37:21.400 You know, I was saying, um, on one of the recap shows, because you said that you were a five.

00:37:26.640 And that's why Pearl's bulletproof when people try to sue, what do you rate yourself?

00:37:32.740 Five.

00:37:33.440 You know, the whole time I've known you, you said a five the whole time.

00:37:37.740 So I don't know what people expect.

00:37:40.720 Um, and.

00:37:42.100 Could have been a six if I wasn't chubby when I was 20.

00:37:48.980 You should give yourself credit for your height though.

00:37:51.640 You know, I, you know, you're in like the top 8% or, uh, no.

00:37:55.900 Aren't you like in the top 1% of women for height or something like that?

00:37:58.820 Yeah, but guys don't usually like height.

00:38:00.640 They're kind of indifferent.

00:38:01.520 I know you're into that, but I feel like most people are indifferent.

00:38:05.340 Yeah.

00:38:05.700 And that whole tall men liking short women thing is not a myth.

00:38:09.560 Almost every tall guy I know is married to some woman that's like 5'2 or 5'3 or something.

00:38:14.180 I've noticed that 6'3, 6'4 go for 5'5 to 5'7.

00:38:18.360 That's what I've seen.

00:38:19.800 Yeah.

00:38:20.240 I don't know what that is.

00:38:21.480 My brothers are into tall girls though.

00:38:23.160 My brother dumped a girl because she was too short.

00:38:25.900 I went out with a girl one time that was because I'm almost 6'3.

00:38:31.820 I'm supposed to be 6'3 and I went out with a girl that was 6'2 and she was pretty too,

00:38:36.860 but she wore these like platform looking boot type shoes that made her taller than me.

00:38:44.420 Okay.

00:38:44.900 Yeah.

00:38:45.160 So she was like 6'5 with her like shoes on on the date.

00:38:50.060 And I was like, yeah, I'm not going to lie.

00:38:52.080 It made me uncomfortable.

00:38:54.360 Oh, really?

00:38:54.860 I didn't call her back after that.

00:38:55.940 I was like, no, I'm good.

00:38:57.320 Wait, really?

00:38:59.020 Yeah.

00:38:59.660 She was like 6'5 or maybe 6'6 with her whatever kind of platform she was on.

00:39:06.040 It was uncomfortable.

00:39:07.120 I was like, no, thanks.

00:39:08.120 You know what's funny?

00:39:09.000 Most of the time, guys will bring up height before the girl does.

00:39:12.100 Like from my experience, I've never brought up height because I feel like if I'm taller,

00:39:16.180 it's kind of rude too, but like the guys will bring it up first.

00:39:20.600 Well, but you're, the only thing I have to counter that with is you'll date a guy where

00:39:28.960 he's of a height that isn't your preference.

00:39:31.780 You at least go on a date with him or be in a position to talk with him about it.

00:39:36.080 Most women, if you're not tall enough, won't even let you in a position to be able to have

00:39:40.460 a conversation about it.

00:39:41.760 Oh, I'm not different in that regard.

00:39:44.000 Most of the, like, like under a certain height, I, I probably wouldn't, but like, if they're

00:39:50.400 like the same height, it's fine.

00:39:52.700 I don't know.

00:39:53.760 That's, that's how, I mean, I just feel like I'm too tall to be that picky.

00:39:58.400 Like, you know, that's like when it comes to height anyways, you know, go ahead.

00:40:05.220 What were you saying?

00:40:06.080 I said when it comes to height anyways, I feel like I'm too tall to be like.

00:40:10.460 Yeah.

00:40:10.980 I just have a rule.

00:40:11.880 I don't think if the tall women, they just have to be extra feminine and try to be extra

00:40:17.640 attractive and just put the attitude.

00:40:19.280 Cause I think tall women are kind of like dark skinned black women where they want to

00:40:27.260 get you before you get them.

00:40:29.880 They feel like the world just doesn't like them because they're tall.

00:40:32.960 So they, they kind of want to get the world before the world gets them.

00:40:37.320 Yeah.

00:40:37.720 That makes sense.

00:40:38.900 I found that like, it's usually two to three inches shorter, super tall girls go than their

00:40:44.140 height.

00:40:44.520 Like just cause I played volleyball for 10 years.

00:40:46.720 So I've seen a lot of couples, obviously like the women, their first choice is going

00:40:50.740 to be taller, but like they'll do like tall women will do a strong face card, uh, two to

00:40:56.920 three inches shorter.

00:40:57.800 Like my, uh, friend was six, three, uh, and actually, you know, who she was dating.

00:41:03.300 You'd see it about the show, but her boyfriend was six one.

00:41:06.600 So.

00:41:07.320 Oh, oh, she was taller than him.

00:41:09.740 Yeah.

00:41:09.900 She was six, three.

00:41:10.800 He was six one.

00:41:11.900 Oh, wow.

00:41:12.680 Okay.

00:41:13.060 Yeah.

00:41:13.360 Yeah.

00:41:13.640 He was all heartbroken when they broke up.

00:41:17.580 Ha ha ha.

00:41:18.260 That was hilarious.

00:41:19.640 Stop it.

00:41:21.560 All right.

00:41:21.820 What's your, what's your opinion on birth control?

00:41:24.760 That's so, so honestly, I have to say, um, anything to stop fours from having less children.

00:41:35.800 Um, I just don't like that.

00:41:38.560 Hey, I'm serious, man.

00:41:40.020 You know, I always say we judge fathers harshly, but we don't judge mothers as harshly as fathers

00:41:46.700 when mothers inflict infinitely more damage on their children than fathers ever do.

00:41:51.620 So anything to stop women that should never have kids from having kids, if they want to

00:41:57.200 sit on birth control, more power to them.

00:41:58.620 My biggest problem is the whole culture of, of putting a woman on birth control, right?

00:42:03.540 When she's like 15 or 16 or 17, I don't like that at all.

00:42:06.920 Yeah.

00:42:07.360 I'd like to see the birth rate keep going down because these women can't be moms.

00:42:12.740 You want to read that super chat?

00:42:14.420 Yeah.

00:42:14.640 Pearl, you're not a 10, but you're not mid either.

00:42:16.500 Not being a feminist grants you a couple points.

00:42:19.760 No, it doesn't.

00:42:20.540 That doesn't get you invited on the yacht or put in playboy.

00:42:24.580 But I appreciate the sentiment, guys.

00:42:28.360 Um, yeah, but I would say, um, so that's my biggest thing with birth control.

00:42:33.780 And then I don't like that when you talk about birth control, women automatically save the pill.

00:42:40.040 There's so many different forms of birth control, you know, you know, IUDs and stuff like that,

00:42:44.860 that don't involve, that don't involve hormones.

00:42:47.800 And then I guess I'll say one more thing about birth control.

00:42:51.220 So, you know me, guys, I've, there's, they haven't been a, they haven't effectively made a male birth control yet.

00:43:00.900 But women know not what they ask for if a male birth control pill comes on the market.

00:43:07.220 They'll never let that happen.

00:43:09.260 Yeah.

00:43:09.480 Why, and why is that?

00:43:11.680 Because that would be giving up way too much power.

00:43:14.120 They won't do it.

00:43:15.520 A hundred percent true.

00:43:16.500 A hundred percent.

00:43:17.340 Because men control access to relationships and marriage.

00:43:21.320 Can you imagine if they controlled access to having children too?

00:43:25.200 Could you imagine?

00:43:29.700 There'd be no more buzzer beaters.

00:43:31.220 You know, these women that they wake up when they're 35 and they realize, oh man, I'm going to be alone.

00:43:36.620 So I got to have a kid.

00:43:37.700 And then they sleep with some loser and get pregnant.

00:43:41.380 And then they have the magical out the rest of their lives saying, well, he was irresponsible.

00:43:46.580 And I thought that he would step up.

00:43:48.800 That would all be gone.

00:43:50.340 And guys, don't get it twisted.

00:43:52.180 Most men that had something to lose, they'd be like, I'm not taking that.

00:43:57.140 But they'd be taking it.

00:43:57.980 I guarantee it.

00:43:58.680 Hey, you know, I still think some guy would sign up, unfortunately.

00:44:06.500 The buzzer beater.

00:44:07.740 I just don't see that.

00:44:08.920 I've seen too much Doug MPA.

00:44:12.880 But yeah, in general, you know, if a woman wants to go on birth control, I mean, I would recommend another form of birth control besides hormonal.

00:44:23.020 But, you know, we need less horrible mothers and less hoes having kids.

00:44:27.520 It's just don't put your daughters on birth control when she's 15, 16 automatically.

00:44:34.240 Come on now.

00:44:36.000 So that's my take.

00:44:37.160 Well, but that's the thing that they don't talk about what the daughters were doing to get put on birth control.

00:44:42.000 Every girl I know that was put on birth control that young, she was doing some crazy stuff.

00:44:47.980 Like one of them, the one girl I'm thinking of, well, she was 16.

00:44:52.960 Her parents worked a lot.

00:44:54.500 They couldn't micromanage her.

00:44:56.240 And she kept sneaking out of the house and they just they didn't think they could stop her.

00:45:00.040 So what are they supposed to do?

00:45:01.180 They don't want her to get pregnant by Pookie or Ray, right?

00:45:04.160 Yeah.

00:45:04.580 You know, Gavin, the starving.

00:45:05.620 Yeah, that's what the women, they always leave out whenever they say my mom put me on it, they leave out what the F they were doing to be put on it.

00:45:13.800 Because some, you know, especially being part of a big family, you see how different like personalities are and like different parenting is for different kids because, you know, kids are different.

00:45:23.400 And I'm like, well, some of these women, they were just crazy teenagers.

00:45:29.020 Midwomen get flown out and invited into the yacht all the time.

00:45:32.180 Stop it.

00:45:33.200 All right.

00:45:33.400 Well, I missed the I missed the invite.

00:45:36.840 I missed it.

00:45:38.340 Like they didn't they never invited me.

00:45:41.440 All right.

00:45:43.220 Could you imagine if you had a daughter and you see you see her with her behavior on a one way trip to Hortum and there's nothing you can do?

00:45:53.400 That's why you said it multiple times.

00:45:55.440 Oh, my daughter wouldn't do that.

00:45:56.940 OK, there, bud.

00:45:59.100 You don't know.

00:46:00.680 I would just.

00:46:01.100 T.G. Jakes daughter was a teenage single mom.

00:46:04.740 T.G. Jakes.

00:46:05.740 Who's that?

00:46:06.960 T.G. Jakes.

00:46:08.460 The pastor.

00:46:10.540 Yeah.

00:46:12.000 Yeah.

00:46:12.560 Do you know what?

00:46:13.240 I would just let her do it.

00:46:15.080 I'd say, look, wear a condom, get tested once a month, once every three months, as much as you can.

00:46:22.060 And these are going to be the consequences.

00:46:25.220 And if you're willing to accept those, it's not my problem.

00:46:29.140 Sounds good.

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00:46:58.080 First up, we have Brad.

00:47:00.280 Oh, my gosh.

00:47:01.060 Doug and Pia, what if your friends started banging your daughter?

00:47:04.860 Oh, that would be brutal.

00:47:06.420 Like one of my one of my friends, my age.

00:47:10.840 Yeah.

00:47:11.940 You know, here's the thing.

00:47:13.740 First off, guys, I don't have any kids.

00:47:15.620 Number one.

00:47:16.200 But number two.

00:47:19.260 There.

00:47:21.020 There's a lack of fathers in almost every community now.

00:47:25.000 And so if you're a single guy who has a very paternal nature.

00:47:29.200 Like you, you get hit on by younger women all the time.

00:47:33.880 A lot of these women, they have daddy issues.

00:47:37.180 Especially guys working in a restaurant and watch all the older guys banging the younger host girls in service.

00:47:46.420 I'm telling you, dude, it's awful.

00:47:49.360 Don't let your daughter work.

00:47:53.220 Doug and Pia knows.

00:47:54.940 All right.

00:47:55.140 Sorry.

00:47:55.340 Who's on the line?

00:47:57.640 Oh, Brad, are you there?

00:48:00.060 Yes, sir.

00:48:00.700 How's it going?

00:48:01.720 Hey, Brad.

00:48:02.360 How are you?

00:48:04.360 I'm doing good.

00:48:05.420 I'm a huge fan.

00:48:06.400 I want to say thank you for all the work you do.

00:48:08.960 Thank you.

00:48:09.540 So what are your thoughts on the topic?

00:48:11.940 Do you know anybody that's had side effects from birth control?

00:48:15.220 And if you had a daughter, would you suggest she goes on it?

00:48:19.760 Oh, man.

00:48:20.560 If I had a daughter, I don't even want to think like that.

00:48:22.980 Don't even put those thoughts in my head.

00:48:24.360 Hey, I got to.

00:48:26.200 I got to.

00:48:27.240 I got to put the thoughts.

00:48:28.400 It's the question of the day.

00:48:30.740 Mental, mental torture.

00:48:32.560 Yeah.

00:48:33.480 What you doing?

00:48:34.140 No, I don't know about that.

00:48:37.020 I know obviously it's very bad for them.

00:48:40.900 Man, I tried calling in like last show, but my phone was having difficulties.

00:48:44.960 But last show was like women cheating.

00:48:48.100 Oh, man.

00:48:48.460 I would have so much to say about that.

00:48:50.460 But birth control.

00:48:52.340 I don't know.

00:48:53.000 I don't really talk to women about their birth control or whatever, but it's very bad.

00:48:56.840 I mean, they shouldn't be on it.

00:48:58.400 Or they, you know, bad for their health.

00:49:02.560 Is that the main topic of the show?

00:49:04.100 Just like our experience with women being on birth control?

00:49:06.560 Well, what's your opinion?

00:49:08.900 Okay.

00:49:09.280 So how about this?

00:49:09.900 The advent of the birth control pill?

00:49:13.240 Has it been good for society or bad?

00:49:15.220 What do you think?

00:49:19.220 Overall, probably bad.

00:49:20.720 I think it's been great for like, it's probably helped some guys avoid knocking up some crazy

00:49:25.540 women.

00:49:25.880 So it's been good on that.

00:49:27.600 It's been a double-edged sword, I would say.

00:49:30.840 But probably overall bad.

00:49:32.560 But I would say, I always tell every guy, what I personally do and what I tell every

00:49:36.640 guy is like, it's 100% your responsibility not to get her pregnant.

00:49:42.340 Because if you get some random chick pregnant, especially a girl like you don't want to be

00:49:46.740 with, that's a crazy chick or whatever.

00:49:49.960 Like at the end of the day, she's pregnant and that's it.

00:49:54.320 So it doesn't, you could point the finger at her like, oh, she lied to me.

00:49:57.680 She told me this.

00:49:58.740 But bro, at the end of the day, she's still pregnant.

00:50:01.100 You're still fucked.

00:50:02.040 So just put 100% of the responsibility on yourself not to get her pregnant in the first

00:50:06.620 place.

00:50:07.100 You know what I mean?

00:50:07.700 Cool.

00:50:09.040 Yeah.

00:50:09.500 Yeah.

00:50:09.800 Uncle Tiger says one more and I'll stop the bomb, bro.

00:50:12.900 Matt, would you have ever dated a short king?

00:50:16.680 How short?

00:50:18.600 Probably.

00:50:20.480 What's the lowest you'd go, bro?

00:50:22.360 Probably 5'8", 5'9".

00:50:24.320 I mean, okay.

00:50:27.520 But I mean, who knows that when I'm, when I'm 42, I'd probably go, you know what I mean?

00:50:35.080 So, Brad, you said that you had, you know what?

00:50:40.040 Just what I'm going to say of you calling in.

00:50:41.820 So you have a good cheating story?

00:50:43.600 Oh, yeah, man.

00:50:45.620 I got a few.

00:50:46.580 Dude, I ain't going to lie.

00:50:47.540 I love, like, if you pick up a girl and she's, like, if it's one of your boys, obviously don't

00:50:53.740 do it.

00:50:54.120 But if it's like, if she's got a boyfriend or a husband, you don't even know the guy,

00:50:58.560 it just makes it like the icing on the cake.

00:51:00.700 Oh, what?

00:51:04.800 Yes, sir.

00:51:05.420 And the thing is, like, you like to be the guy she cheats with.

00:51:12.660 100%.

00:51:13.100 It's just like the icing on the cake.

00:51:14.980 And the thing is, like, most guys are completely naive to this stuff.

00:51:19.900 Like, you know, the, the, what guys got to understand is, like, the girl that looks innocent

00:51:26.560 and wholesome in the library on a Wednesday is most of the time the same girl that would

00:51:32.560 look like a hoe in the nightclub on a Saturday.

00:51:38.080 Yeah, it's a strategy.

00:51:39.340 So have you ever done a thing where you, you, a girl will go out with a guy for dinner

00:51:46.140 and then, like, show up to your house afterwards and give you the leftovers or something like

00:51:52.160 that?

00:51:53.800 No, not yet.

00:51:54.880 Not that I know of.

00:51:55.920 But I can tell you, I can run you guys through.

00:51:58.440 I can run you guys through a story.

00:52:00.420 I'll take, like, maybe one minute.

00:52:02.500 Oh, yeah, go for it.

00:52:04.040 Okay.

00:52:05.000 So I've done a lot of jobs, you know, I've bounced around jobs.

00:52:08.020 There was a time I was a bouncer, and that was cool because you get to watch everybody

00:52:13.300 in the club.

00:52:14.120 You get to watch the dynamics of, like, you know, some guys try to get at girls, whatever.

00:52:20.180 And sometimes you get opportunities with girls.

00:52:23.520 Now, I was a little more proactive about it.

00:52:26.060 You got to be a little low-key about it.

00:52:27.860 But I was more, like, trying to kill two birds with one stone.

00:52:31.560 Like, I was trying to holler at some girls.

00:52:33.860 And there was a MILF.

00:52:36.140 I was doing the front door.

00:52:37.180 There was a MILF that came up.

00:52:39.220 Bro, she had tattoos, big titties hanging out, big ass, white chick, all that.

00:52:44.720 So I'm like, hey, you look like you know how to party.

00:52:48.340 Immediately receptive.

00:52:49.840 So I'm like, okay, green light, let's go.

00:52:52.800 So started talking to her, flirting by me and get her number, all that.

00:52:57.560 And then the thing about being a bouncer, though, it can give you opportunities, but it

00:53:01.980 can also cock block you because you got to stay until the club's closed.

00:53:05.040 You got to help clean up and all that.

00:53:06.520 And by that time, a lot of the girls would have took, it's a whole thing.

00:53:09.940 But anyway, basically, I got off a little early that night because the club was kind

00:53:15.280 of dead.

00:53:16.920 And this was around the same time she was about to leave.

00:53:20.060 So we're coordinating to go to her place.

00:53:23.120 And she had with her, I'm going to just skip details for the sake of time.

00:53:26.500 But she had with her, her, her adult niece and her best friend.

00:53:31.700 Okay.

00:53:31.940 When, when, when they saw what was going on, the adult niece was cool with it.

00:53:35.300 She was actually on my side.

00:53:36.920 The best friend was like, started slut shaming the hell out of her and was like, you fucking

00:53:41.880 whore.

00:53:42.600 You have a boyfriend of three years.

00:53:45.040 This is wrong.

00:53:46.160 What you're doing, blah, blah, blah.

00:53:47.920 And the girl, she had, the, the Milton never mentioned a boyfriend to me, but the friends

00:53:52.060 like trying to do all this.

00:53:53.140 Right.

00:53:53.660 So anyway, I overcome the cock block, go to the mill's house.

00:53:58.200 She had a big house, a home bar and everything.

00:54:01.540 So we get, we get drunk and whatever, or, or, I mean, we don't get drunk.

00:54:07.020 So I don't know, whatever, but you know, basically we smashed like three times that night, dude,

00:54:12.520 I busted that on her face twice, uh, bust in her once.

00:54:16.860 I had a vasectomy.

00:54:18.440 So I just do that.

00:54:20.200 Um, and then I barely, and so I, we bang on and off all night and in the morning I take

00:54:27.160 an Uber back home.

00:54:28.400 I barely missed the boyfriend by like 10 minutes.

00:54:30.820 I'm pretty sure because in the morning, the boyfriend called, right?

00:54:35.660 Me and the chick are laying naked in the bed and the boyfriend called, she answers the

00:54:42.120 phone and I can only hear her side of it, but she answered the phone.

00:54:46.020 Oh, Hey baby.

00:54:46.760 I love you so much.

00:54:48.160 I'm so happy to see you today.

00:54:49.820 Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

00:54:50.780 Oh, okay.

00:54:51.260 Cool.

00:54:52.080 Hangs up the phone.

00:54:53.320 Oh, my boyfriend's coming over.

00:54:55.260 You know, you got to get out of here.

00:54:56.740 I said, okay, I want to fuck you one last time.

00:54:59.260 She said, okay.

00:55:00.200 So fuck her one last time, bust on her face.

00:55:03.320 And then she's like, Oh, I got to hop in the shower.

00:55:06.040 And then, cause the boyfriend was like, I guess the time was getting close for him to

00:55:10.040 be there.

00:55:10.600 And then I take an Uber home and it's like, you know, that, that shit happens all the

00:55:17.320 time.

00:55:17.600 Like, and the thing is like the guy, how is he supposed to even know?

00:55:22.900 I mean, sure.

00:55:23.520 There could be red flags.

00:55:24.640 Like, obviously if your girl's going out, you know, without you dressed like a, and all

00:55:29.100 that, I was just about to say that, man, like you're going to let a girl with, with a bunch

00:55:34.280 of tattoos and big titties go to a club by herself.

00:55:37.120 What do you think is going to happen, dude?

00:55:39.360 Yeah.

00:55:39.700 I, so I, I agree with that.

00:55:41.740 Obviously if your girl's going out, you know, without you dressed like a hoe to bars and

00:55:46.500 clubs at late at night.

00:55:48.020 Yeah.

00:55:48.460 Obviously you're naive if you, you know, that's a different thing, but let's say hypothetically

00:55:54.200 that she didn't even do that, but like these guys really have, sometimes there's really

00:56:01.580 no way to know because women are really good liars.

00:56:04.140 Like she could be putting off an image to the guy.

00:56:06.840 So, so Pearl is one of the key, um, figures in the movement of just assume a woman's a

00:56:14.680 whore until proven otherwise.

00:56:16.240 I agree.

00:56:18.100 Like if you're, if you're a man worth a dang, just assume that your girl's going to cheat

00:56:24.500 sooner rather than later.

00:56:26.500 Seriously.

00:56:27.500 Why not?

00:56:28.720 Yeah.

00:56:29.160 It's a rental.

00:56:29.940 It's a rental.

00:56:30.800 Why do you buy it?

00:56:31.880 Like this is a, this is a renter's market, you know, no one owns homes at homes anymore.

00:56:38.240 No one owns women, you know?

00:56:40.280 Yeah.

00:56:40.720 Cause here's the thing, you know, ultimately look guys, society is, it's always going to be,

00:56:45.560 it's always going to be the man's fault.

00:56:48.260 If the, if the relationship ends and the man did something wrong, it's his fault.

00:56:52.420 If the relationship ends and the woman did something wrong, it's his fault.

00:56:55.920 So honestly, guys, if you got got, it's your fault.

00:56:59.360 You might as well cheat too, King.

00:57:01.760 Yeah.

00:57:02.260 Why not?

00:57:03.800 Yeah.

00:57:04.300 All right, Brad, we're going to move on to the next one, buddy.

00:57:07.340 Thanks for calling in.

00:57:08.000 Can I, can I say one, if I like 30 seconds, can I say one thing for a hop off?

00:57:12.380 Sure.

00:57:12.700 Go ahead.

00:57:13.520 Okay.

00:57:14.460 Like I said, Pearl, your work is very appreciated.

00:57:16.860 I know it comes with like a huge sacrifice that like so many people come at you attacking

00:57:21.300 you with bullshit, but you're really paving the road for the red pill for the new breed

00:57:26.820 of conservatism.

00:57:28.000 You're one of the realest people on YouTube.

00:57:30.040 I just want to say thank you.

00:57:31.620 Cause you're helping a lot of men.

00:57:32.860 Like you're really saving lives.

00:57:34.900 So thank you so much.

00:57:36.760 And one piece of like constructive criticism I would give you real quick is you're doing

00:57:42.220 everything super good, but I see on these debates, the one thing, the conservatives, the

00:57:47.300 trad cons press you on is they say, are you telling men not to get married?

00:57:51.340 Are you telling men not to get married?

00:57:52.700 And then you say, I'm not telling men to do anything.

00:57:55.180 I would just advise, just own it.

00:57:58.700 Just say, yeah, I'm telling them not to get married.

00:58:00.340 Cause me personally, I tell guys not to get married.

00:58:02.860 If you're going to ask me, I'm going to tell you, don't get married.

00:58:05.200 It's a fucking bullshit deal.

00:58:07.000 The contract's fucking bullshit.

00:58:08.900 It's setting you up to potentially get destroyed.

00:58:11.500 Don't fucking do it.

00:58:12.840 So that's all I'll say.

00:58:14.140 So thank you very much, Pearl.

00:58:15.640 Thanks for calling in.

00:58:17.440 So Freya says boyfriend probably knows and lets her hoe.

00:58:24.720 Yeah.

00:58:25.120 Probably.

00:58:27.280 Let's bring in guys.

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00:58:58.500 Next up, we have nevermarrieddating.com is coming up.

00:59:02.820 Hey guys, if you have any opinion on birth control, if you're a woman and you had a bad experience

00:59:09.280 with birth control, who would call in?

00:59:11.220 If you're a man and you were dating a woman who was on birth control and would always complain

00:59:16.560 about his side effects or something like that, or did you have a woman that said that

00:59:21.700 she was on birth control and she really wasn't?

00:59:24.100 How about that?

00:59:25.620 Call in.

00:59:26.260 We'd love to hear from you.

00:59:28.200 Nevermarrieddating.com.

00:59:29.580 You're on mute.

00:59:31.280 Is that better?

00:59:32.660 Hey.

00:59:33.180 Hey, how's it going?

00:59:34.600 Hi, Pearl.

00:59:35.360 I just wanted to call in and let you know, people are saying you're five today on the

00:59:39.480 podcast shows, that we're not wearing much makeup, but I just wanted to call in.

00:59:44.180 My statement was, I think you're 10 today.

00:59:47.880 I think it takes a lot of gumption to go on there and not use a lot of makeup.

00:59:55.760 People always are into this makeup thing.

00:59:57.980 And it's so nice or refreshing to see a person that doesn't wear makeup.

01:00:02.340 You know, that's all I really had to say.

01:00:04.000 Thanks.

01:00:04.360 Do you have any opinions on the topic?

01:00:06.760 Birth control?

01:00:08.800 The birth control.

01:00:09.440 Is it good for society, bad for society?

01:00:11.280 What do you think?

01:00:12.560 Well, society, well, birth control is used so they, you know, most people know this,

01:00:16.700 so they don't get pregnant.

01:00:17.720 But our problem in America is, you know, people aren't, people over 40 not having kids.

01:00:25.720 And it's a germinal drain on the system, not having kids after 40, if you're going to,

01:00:32.640 you know, especially if, if you want to have a legacy, people want about their legacy.

01:00:39.280 I have a friend that has a legacy.

01:00:41.440 He has five kids.

01:00:42.660 And I was like, yeah, he, he was the only child.

01:00:45.620 So, but people over 40 aren't having kids and it's like a phenomenon and we're being taken

01:00:52.000 over by other countries that are overpopulating us.

01:00:55.040 So, you know, that's a problem.

01:00:56.300 You know what's crazy is, um, I'm old enough for when I was in elementary school and maybe

01:01:02.220 middle school was when they were still talking about, oh, this gave me too many people overpopulation.

01:01:07.820 Now we don't have enough children to replace the population.

01:01:13.020 It's crazy to think about.

01:01:14.320 Oh, great.

01:01:15.920 Now, now these women.

01:01:17.740 Yeah, there's 25% of 40 year olds haven't been married.

01:01:20.820 So, and, uh, this is a question or fact.

01:01:24.340 I know the answer to it, but do you know what the state with the most highest rate of never

01:01:28.240 married people is good.

01:01:29.880 Interesting fact.

01:01:30.540 If you, if you don't know, your listeners might, I don't, what is it?

01:01:34.320 What is it?

01:01:35.860 Oh, the state with the highest rate of most never married people is Pennsylvania.

01:01:39.700 Oh, I was going to guess New York.

01:01:41.380 Okay.

01:01:41.760 Why do you think that is?

01:01:43.760 Well, I can guess, theorize it's because maybe the cold climate, um, that Pennsylvania is mostly

01:01:51.440 blue, uh, blue collar, a lot of, uh, industrial workers and, uh, Pittsburgh and Philadelphia,

01:01:57.560 but, uh, it's right next to New York.

01:02:00.300 So I can't figure out why it would be New York or California, but most never married people

01:02:05.400 are in Pennsylvania and the president, there was only one president in history.

01:02:09.700 United States that was never married.

01:02:11.440 And he was from the state of Pennsylvania.

01:02:15.040 I'll fight you naked.

01:02:16.380 It says my girl went off the pill.

01:02:17.940 Then she hated me.

01:02:18.920 She moved out within six months after three years.

01:02:21.320 My article on medium is called the family killer.

01:02:25.740 Okay.

01:02:26.480 Um, do you have anything else?

01:02:27.920 That's interesting though.

01:02:29.260 The Pennsylvania, I wouldn't have guessed that.

01:02:31.640 You know, that Oregon and Maine have the highest rates of women on, on birth control.

01:02:37.220 No way.

01:02:38.060 Utah has the, has the most marriages.

01:02:41.020 If you figure Utah has the most marriages anywhere, did you know that?

01:02:45.720 You know that Salt Lake city has the worst, uh, a prescription pill problem of any major

01:02:50.600 city.

01:02:55.800 Yeah.

01:02:56.640 Oh, yeah.

01:02:57.880 Yeah.

01:02:58.520 Perl, I was going to give you a super chat tonight.

01:03:00.800 I got a new gift card and I was going to do a rumble super chat.

01:03:04.640 I don't know what the issue is.

01:03:05.760 Rumble had, does anybody have a problem using gift cards or, uh, donations or super chats?

01:03:10.780 I just, I'm just trying to try to do it tonight.

01:03:13.660 Do you know anybody having that problem?

01:03:15.640 I don't know, but I'll ask, I'll ask the, I'll have our team, make a note of it and see

01:03:20.100 if they can look and do it.

01:03:22.680 Yeah.

01:03:22.840 That, that would be nice.

01:03:23.860 Cause I was going to do a super chat and I got a gift card.

01:03:25.920 I was like, I'm going to do that for Perl.

01:03:27.300 So it didn't work.

01:03:28.300 So I have a wonderful rest of the week and I appreciate your show so much.

01:03:31.980 You're the best podcaster around.

01:03:33.420 So I appreciate it.

01:03:34.200 Thank you so much.

01:03:35.460 I appreciate it.

01:03:36.420 Um, my wife took under the skin and wouldn't stop bleeding.

01:03:40.320 What is, oh, like the, the thing in your arm.

01:03:45.060 Yeah.

01:03:46.080 Um, I had a friend that was on birth control and then she married her husband and, uh,

01:03:56.100 she stopped birth control so, so they can have a kid, but she had for months, it was

01:04:01.960 just like a nonstop period for like months.

01:04:04.260 And she would, uh, the doctor was like, what's going on?

01:04:07.200 I'm talking, imagine it for three months, Perl straight.

01:04:11.220 She's like, what the, but she had been on it since she was 16 and she stopped it at 28.

01:04:17.920 Wow.

01:04:18.360 Yeah.

01:04:19.160 I mean, it's just common sense.

01:04:20.940 Like, I remember being on it for the little bit and even before I got on it,

01:04:25.860 just thinking like, I can't be on this too long because there's just going to be

01:04:30.900 problems.

01:04:32.160 So.

01:04:33.420 Yeah.

01:04:34.300 Anyone, there's no one else on the lines.

01:04:36.780 Anyone else want to call in and talk about birth control?

01:04:42.380 Cause yeah, there's no one else.

01:04:44.100 I guess, I guess everyone's happy that birth control is a thing.

01:04:47.580 The guys are like, yeah, we get to nut in these hoes.

01:04:52.740 Yeah.

01:04:53.220 I'm not saying you should.

01:04:54.480 I'm not saying I, that is not a recommendation.

01:04:56.940 I'm just saying there are men that take advantage of that.

01:05:00.960 I think about it is there's no way to know if a woman's on birth control.

01:05:04.800 If she says she's on birth control, there's no way to know.

01:05:07.740 Never assume guys, can guys feel, can guys feel IUDs?

01:05:14.940 Uh, I mean, wait, can we pull the chat?

01:05:18.480 Can you feel IUDs?

01:05:21.300 Yes.

01:05:21.840 No, I don't know.

01:05:25.680 Make that the poll.

01:05:27.460 Go ahead.

01:05:27.720 Yeah, I just think once again, like I said before, it's funny how women always say,

01:05:31.620 well, you know, birth control didn't agree with me is like, what kind of birth control

01:05:35.840 are we talking about?

01:05:37.860 Well, I guess.

01:05:39.400 Go ahead.

01:05:40.920 I mean, I've never been on it.

01:05:42.300 I've never had a pregnancy scare.

01:05:43.820 It's really not hard.

01:05:45.620 Like, come on.

01:05:47.940 Yeah, it's not hard.

01:05:49.260 Never had a pregnancy scare.

01:05:50.580 Never had an abortion.

01:05:51.720 Nothing.

01:05:52.660 And even look guys, I'm just going to say it.

01:05:56.380 The pullout method, it works.

01:05:59.140 The only time.

01:05:59.840 How do you know, dog MPA?

01:06:02.400 Don't ask me how I know.

01:06:03.900 But yeah, so because the biggest problem with the pullout method is that guys will be in

01:06:10.160 there having a good time.

01:06:11.460 Like, oh, yeah, I'm going to pull out.

01:06:12.940 But then they don't pull out.

01:06:15.060 So it's like this thing where they're like, okay, I'm going to do it.

01:06:19.100 I'm going to go for it.

01:06:20.360 I'm going to pull out.

01:06:20.900 And then they just don't pull.

01:06:22.580 They just take the risk and just go for it.

01:06:25.140 And that's how guys get caught up.

01:06:28.420 Like, you know, I'm sorry.

01:06:30.580 Like, they try to say it doesn't work.

01:06:32.420 It doesn't work because guys are so dumb in the moment that they don't pull out.

01:06:37.160 That's the only reason why they pull out method doesn't work.

01:06:39.700 I just am so I get so pissed off when I see women crying about the side of like, do you

01:06:47.860 know what I mean?

01:06:48.060 Like, if you took steroids, Doug MPA, and you went to the doctor and they said, hey, here

01:06:53.420 are some steroids, there's no side effects.

01:06:57.160 Wouldn't you just logically think, oh, there might be some side effects.

01:07:01.460 And like, this is a calculated risk, like any procedure.

01:07:05.940 Yeah.

01:07:06.500 Or like any medication.

01:07:08.080 I take Advil.

01:07:09.860 That's a calculated risk.

01:07:11.240 There are people that die from Advil.

01:07:12.980 There are.

01:07:13.420 I mean, it's not that common, but I'm just saying.

01:07:18.780 And here's the thing that you see these actors, right?

01:07:24.340 Like Hugh Jackman and Chris Hensworth.

01:07:27.100 Look, you have to get on steroids to have the body type.

01:07:30.140 But they're maintained by a doctor and they only do it for a limited, they do it for the

01:07:35.240 movie role and then they stop.

01:07:37.460 So it's like birth control.

01:07:38.900 I mean, what if a woman just wanted to whore around for like nine months, get on birth control

01:07:44.620 for nine months and then stop whoring and get off birth control?

01:07:48.720 Be smarter than being on it for a decade.

01:07:51.860 Do you know what I think?

01:07:53.300 I was with a woman in my early 20s who had IUD activities knocked out of place.

01:07:57.960 She experienced all sorts of menstrual problems, eventually leading to her infertility.

01:08:02.780 It's not worth it, boys and girls.

01:08:04.280 Look, most women I know that got off birth control were fine.

01:08:08.860 And I'm just being honest.

01:08:09.960 Or maybe they didn't tell me, right?

01:08:11.340 But the ones I know, they did have some hormonal side effects, but they all were able to have

01:08:15.920 kids later.

01:08:17.320 That's what I've seen.

01:08:20.000 But.

01:08:20.560 You know, but like to act like nothing's going to happen, it's just it's a calculated risk

01:08:31.220 and you might take the L and I'm just really tired of women like life doesn't.

01:08:37.080 Every procedure is a risk, you know, every medication is a risk.

01:08:42.560 And if you're going to take something that's not natural, it might affect you.

01:08:46.960 Yep.

01:08:48.380 RJ Isaac, are you there?

01:08:51.820 RJ.

01:08:53.300 Hey.

01:08:54.280 RJ, how's it going?

01:08:56.300 Hey, it's going well.

01:08:57.820 So tell me, RJ, what's your opinion on birth control?

01:09:01.480 Do you know any women that were on it and did they have any side effects?

01:09:04.460 Um, I really couldn't speak to whether, no, I don't know any women that were on it or

01:09:10.560 having side effects.

01:09:11.460 I mean, I've heard of stories about it happening, but I haven't had any personal experience with

01:09:17.400 it.

01:09:17.860 Okay.

01:09:18.120 Um, my wife, um, she wasn't on, on birth control.

01:09:22.640 So I, which was good because again, I do hear all these situations where women will go

01:09:28.460 and marry a guy and she takes birth control beforehand.

01:09:32.100 And after they get married, then they don't like him anymore.

01:09:34.960 So I guess I dodged that bullet.

01:09:37.040 Um, but I wanted to more address the idea of whether or not birth control is a good thing

01:09:44.100 or a bad thing.

01:09:44.780 And I think that the big problem here, I don't think birth control overall was, it was a good

01:09:51.480 thing I, I, I think the problem is that all of the, um, all the promiscuity that we see

01:10:00.060 right now is a direct result of the, of the pill being introduced and for it has basically

01:10:09.420 given women permission to go out and be promiscuous.

01:10:14.160 And this really seems to be one of the bigger problems that we are, are facing in the country.

01:10:20.400 Um, as again, as was previously mentioned about the, uh, the problem where we're not having

01:10:26.600 enough children, uh, this is a big issue.

01:10:29.340 And one of the things that particularly for, for, for my sake, I have three kids and my

01:10:35.560 brother, he has made a decision not to have any kids.

01:10:39.100 And I, as many people else have, and one of the things I started to realize is that particularly

01:10:46.020 with the way that the social security system is set up in the United States, that what's

01:10:50.360 going to end up happening is that my brother, he makes good money.

01:10:53.520 So he's not the best example, but him and his wife, they both work, they're both able to

01:10:59.960 contribute to 401ks.

01:11:01.760 They're not having expensive, having kids, but when it comes to actually getting the social

01:11:06.640 security benefits, it's my children that are going to be paying for their social security

01:11:11.740 benefits as well as my benefits that are coming to me.

01:11:16.280 And whereas my wife and I, we've had to make sacrifices to be able to, you know, live on

01:11:21.280 income, to be able to look for ways to, to cut plus, you know, pay for all the expenses

01:11:26.740 of having kids.

01:11:28.400 And as a result, we're going to have a lower, um, social security benefits if, if it's still

01:11:34.680 around, of course, when we get to that age.

01:11:37.200 And we are the ones that our, our kids are going to be supporting all the current generation

01:11:42.520 all that are, you know, currently contributing to social security right now.

01:11:48.120 And this is a, I see this as a really, again, this really, I think highlights the issue where

01:11:55.260 if we aren't having people, if people aren't having kids now, then all these benefits, all

01:12:01.520 the comfort that we have seen in the United States is going to really start collapsing

01:12:05.660 very quickly.

01:12:06.980 And I've mentioned in, in when I've talked with you before, I've lived outside the United

01:12:10.560 States for some time.

01:12:12.320 And my, my assessment right now is that the United States is basically, it's like life,

01:12:19.040 you know, you don't have bowling, you have those bumpers on the side where you don't get gutter

01:12:22.880 balls.

01:12:23.880 Yeah.

01:12:24.880 Life in America is like bowling with the, with the bumpers up and you start living in other

01:12:31.020 countries around the world and they don't have the bumpers down.

01:12:35.560 And the problem is they end up learning better skills about how to actually just live and

01:12:40.420 get through things and handle challenges.

01:12:43.320 Yeah.

01:12:43.860 Whereas people in the United States don't have that.

01:12:46.600 I'd agree.

01:12:47.080 Cause you know, if you, have you ever been to the African continent?

01:12:50.300 I have not.

01:12:51.660 Bro, let me tell you, like Pete, that's why it always makes me laugh when, you know, people

01:12:59.380 of color in America, they complain about racism and poverty.

01:13:03.320 You've never, first off, racism, go to South America, Latin America.

01:13:08.000 You'll see some racism there.

01:13:09.540 Then poverty, go to the African continent, man.

01:13:11.740 Nothing will make you more patriotic to be an American than spending some, now, and I'm

01:13:17.020 not saying that, you know, the places in Africa I've been to were nice, but I'm glad I was

01:13:22.620 only there for a limited amount of time.

01:13:24.820 Sure.

01:13:25.320 I can understand that.

01:13:26.180 I couldn't do like, you can deal with anything when there's a finish line, but I couldn't

01:13:31.960 imagine having to live.

01:13:33.820 You know, I'm not going to say where, where I've been, but I've been to three different

01:13:37.300 countries, man.

01:13:38.040 And each time I was glad to get back on that plane to the good old USA.

01:13:41.520 Well, and a good example of this is, I'll talk to people like, oh, I'm having a hard

01:13:48.840 time, like, I was trying to find a kettlebell for some workouts, and I could only find a 16-kilogram

01:13:54.780 kettlebell and I wanted something heavier.

01:13:56.660 And it's like, oh, just order off Amazon.

01:13:58.700 I'm like, oh, I don't really have access to Amazon.

01:14:00.840 And this was, and this was actually one of the things I wanted to get away from.

01:14:04.740 Like when I was living in the US, I saw how comfortable and how easy it was just to get

01:14:08.780 things almost instantly from Amazon and having to get away from that, go and actually shop

01:14:14.140 at local stores and do all this stuff.

01:14:15.480 I think it was one of the things I wanted to do, but I think that this, this level of comfort

01:14:20.760 is not sustainable unless we're able to go and have more kids.

01:14:24.800 And this is a big problem where the birth control pill has resulted in this.

01:14:30.600 And I don't think this is even, again, if I was supreme emperor ruler and I did have

01:14:37.720 the choice, I would actually get rid of it.

01:14:40.780 There are some things I don't think once the genie's out of the bottle, you can't get it

01:14:45.660 back in, so to speak.

01:14:46.660 I don't think this is one of them.

01:14:48.360 I think, again, pragmatically right now, of course, like in reality, we're not going to

01:14:54.920 be able to.

01:14:55.920 But if there was a way for us to, or more people were aware at least of what the downsides

01:15:00.400 of birth control were and had, you know, there may be perhaps more education on that, maybe

01:15:07.120 we can go and see some, some more babies happening.

01:15:10.400 Because again, even I'm 35 and people my age don't have kids.

01:15:15.760 I'm like the only one has kids and my oldest is 10 years old.

01:15:18.880 And it's, it just, it's very alarming to me at this point.

01:15:25.600 How do you feel about the population decline and the fact that women were the next 10, 15

01:15:30.880 years, women are going to have like 1.5 kids?

01:15:33.880 I think it's good because they'd be terrible mothers.

01:15:37.720 Most women.

01:15:38.600 I'm sure there's bad effects for society.

01:15:42.440 I'm like, he was talking about with social security, but I just, when I interviewed the

01:15:48.120 1,000 women, I just maybe 10, 20%, I could see being good moms.

01:15:54.920 Yeah, I think so too, because what you and I have both said, mothers do infinitely more damage to

01:16:02.840 their children than fathers do.

01:16:04.920 Because guys, I've said it on here before, who's the person that called you, who's the first person

01:16:11.960 to say that you're too tall, you're too short, you're too fat, you're too thin, your nose is too big,

01:16:18.120 your eyes are crossed, your eyes are too big, they're too small.

01:16:21.480 Who's the first person you've ever called, you've ever heard call a woman a whore?

01:16:27.000 It was your mom.

01:16:29.800 And I had the same experience too.

01:16:32.280 And I honestly, I don't think that matters.

01:16:36.200 I think there's a problem that we've had, we've had bad moms throughout all of human history.

01:16:39.960 This isn't anything new.

01:16:41.880 And I think there's plenty of men who will make great dads.

01:16:46.200 Obviously there's challenges with the legal system and everything.

01:16:48.600 But if, again, regardless of the fact that there's going to be bad moms out there,

01:16:55.160 we still need people.

01:16:56.200 And, you know, even hardships that people go through, set them up to be able to have future

01:17:03.560 successes in different ways.

01:17:05.640 And just being saying that, well, a lot of people are going to be bad parents.

01:17:10.040 Most people, like most, again, half of parents are below average.

01:17:14.120 Like, that's just a reality.

01:17:16.680 And we just, we need the people.

01:17:19.560 Wow.

01:17:19.880 Okay.

01:17:20.520 Cool.

01:17:21.000 Good luck convincing women to have them.

01:17:22.840 Coach.

01:17:23.640 Yeah.

01:17:24.040 Sorry.

01:17:24.360 All you, RJ.

01:17:26.440 Sir Avia said, between birth control and two abortions, my ex was infertile,

01:17:30.760 dumped her for a younger, fertile one.

01:17:32.280 I got five kids.

01:17:33.640 Stay away from the pills and pull out.

01:17:36.440 All right.

01:17:36.920 All right, RJ.

01:17:37.560 And I'm sorry, sorry.

01:17:38.280 One 30 second thing.

01:17:39.960 One of my big points I want to make also about the difference between being in the U.S. and

01:17:43.720 outside the U.S.

01:17:45.160 In the U.S., anytime I'd go around with three boys, people would look at me and say,

01:17:49.800 oh, I'm so, three boys, you must be so tired.

01:17:53.000 It must be so hard.

01:17:54.600 Outside the U.S.

01:17:55.400 No, that's the dream.

01:17:57.240 Sorry.

01:17:57.560 Go ahead.

01:17:58.360 For me, anyway.

01:17:59.080 Any time men see me with three boys, like, they're all yours.

01:18:02.920 You are so lucky.

01:18:04.840 So it's, it's very, the attitude outside the U.S. is different.

01:18:08.440 Again, at least for the places I've been, I'm not going to say it's everywhere,

01:18:10.600 but it's a big difference too.

01:18:11.880 But that's all I have.

01:18:12.520 Cool.

01:18:13.240 Thank you.

01:18:14.360 Always good talking to you, buddy.

01:18:16.360 I mean, that sounds awesome.

01:18:18.920 Yeah.

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01:18:42.120 You know, the best housewife I've ever met told me that she cried the day she found out she only

01:18:48.680 had boys, like tears of joy.

01:18:53.320 One of my friends, he's an absolute savage when he came to women in college and stuff like that.

01:18:59.400 And him and his wife just had a daughter.

01:19:02.680 He's like, dang it.

01:19:05.560 Well, at least if she asks what kind of man not to date, you could tell her how you used to be

01:19:12.040 when you were young.

01:19:13.080 Dude, don't date you when you were young.

01:19:16.600 Wait, what's the name of the person on the line?

01:19:21.000 Jaina?

01:19:21.560 Jaina?

01:19:22.120 Jaina?

01:19:23.000 Jaina?

01:19:25.080 Hi, can you hear me?

01:19:26.680 Yeah.

01:19:26.920 How are you?

01:19:28.600 Good.

01:19:29.000 Yeah.

01:19:29.400 I just thought I'd call in and help you get your show back on track for birth control.

01:19:33.640 Sure.

01:19:35.240 So did you go on birth control or do you know someone that did?

01:19:39.000 I was on it very briefly, probably in my 20s.

01:19:43.480 I was on the, I don't know if you remember, it was called the NuvaRing.

01:19:47.800 That sounds familiar.

01:19:48.840 Yeah, if you Google it, you'll see.

01:19:52.200 It's actually like a ring that you would actually insert up.

01:19:55.800 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:19:57.080 I remember that.

01:19:57.880 Okay.

01:19:58.600 Yeah, I was on it for four months.

01:20:00.440 It was awful.

01:20:01.720 And one day I woke up with horrible migraines.

01:20:05.320 And so I immediately just went to the bathroom and took that sucker out and flushed it.

01:20:09.480 So that was the last time I was on birth control.

01:20:10.680 And did your symptoms completely go away?

01:20:14.920 Yeah, after the migraine.

01:20:16.120 Yeah, that's what really freaked me out the most was the migraine.

01:20:19.720 And did you ever go on?

01:20:20.680 After that, I talked to my mother and she's like,

01:20:22.520 yeah, I can never be on birth control myself.

01:20:24.280 I'm like, thanks, mom.

01:20:25.000 Why couldn't you tell me that before?

01:20:26.760 So did you ever go on any other types of birth controls or no?

01:20:30.680 No, no.

01:20:31.640 That was it.

01:20:32.280 What about like your friends around you at the time?

01:20:34.600 Did you see them have consequences or side effects?

01:20:38.200 Well, it's funny.

01:20:38.760 Like all my friends have been on it since they were 16.

01:20:43.160 But one thing I have noticed is like some of my older friends,

01:20:47.080 like in their 40s, they've gone into menopause way early.

01:20:51.080 No way.

01:20:52.600 Yeah.

01:20:53.160 And I think we're going to see a lot of that.

01:20:55.000 And I can't say it's directly because of birth control, but I think it is.

01:20:59.960 Because every single one of them were on birth control from the age of 16 or 18 or whatever.

01:21:05.240 Yeah.

01:21:06.200 Because you know what?

01:21:07.160 I just think it's common sense, like that there might be side effects from something

01:21:12.120 you're putting into your body.

01:21:13.320 Do you know what I mean?

01:21:14.120 I'm just like, I don't know how nobody thought, like, I don't know if you had this conversation,

01:21:19.080 but I had, I remember having the conversation with people my age at the time and they all looked

01:21:24.920 to me like I was nuts.

01:21:26.040 They're like, no, the doctor said it was fine.

01:21:27.960 And I'm like, you don't think there might be okay.

01:21:30.840 You know, yeah, it's like when you talk to, when I talked to my girlfriends about not being

01:21:37.000 on birth control, at least, you know, back when I was younger, they were, they were looking like

01:21:41.400 I was horrified, like I was, you know, playing Russian roulette or something.

01:21:45.480 Yeah.

01:21:45.800 And they didn't, and they didn't care about their health or their safety at the time.

01:21:49.560 So all these women that are like bitching in their thirties, it's like, they'll blame the doctors,

01:21:54.120 but like, come on, they just wanted to have sex raw.

01:21:57.000 Like, come on, like, get the fuck out of here.

01:22:02.040 Exactly.

01:22:03.320 Yeah.

01:22:03.560 And it's not like it's always effective.

01:22:05.240 If I called him before and told you about my friend who had abortions.

01:22:08.040 Yeah.

01:22:09.000 And she, she was on birth control at the time.

01:22:11.960 She still got pregnant.

01:22:13.080 So, well, it's cause you have to take the pill at the same time every day.

01:22:16.840 I'm assuming she was on the pill.

01:22:19.240 No, she had the, um, the shot in her arm.

01:22:21.800 I forgot.

01:22:22.120 What's that called?

01:22:22.840 What's that called?

01:22:24.280 Well, okay.

01:22:25.880 I guess, you know, you know, the one they place in your arm.

01:22:29.800 Yeah.

01:22:30.200 I know what you're talking about.

01:22:32.120 I, I don't know.

01:22:32.840 Did you see any women gain weight?

01:22:35.160 She's on the Depo-Provera shot.

01:22:38.120 Depo.

01:22:38.760 Yeah.

01:22:39.080 Yeah.

01:22:40.200 The women that I saw gained that said they gained weight from birth control.

01:22:44.200 And my experience, they just seemed like they were eating too much because a lot of the time

01:22:49.640 you get on birth.

01:22:50.840 No, because all right, a lot of the time when you get on birth control, it's a time when you're

01:22:55.640 in college, right?

01:22:56.520 That's when most women, like some started in high school and then some started in college,

01:23:00.600 both.

01:23:01.400 That's when you're starting to drink and you can't drink heavy.

01:23:05.240 You get that freshman 15, right?

01:23:06.760 Yeah.

01:23:07.160 Everybody does.

01:23:08.200 So like, I didn't get on it till halfway through school.

01:23:11.640 So I'm like, I gained the weight before, you know what I mean?

01:23:16.120 And after.

01:23:16.840 Well, I mean, like you think about birth control kind of mimics, you know, or pauses your cycle

01:23:23.000 and all that.

01:23:23.800 So like there are certain times in the month when we're hungrier than others.

01:23:27.880 I mean, at least I wound up.

01:23:29.480 Oh, I didn't think about that.

01:23:30.040 Oh, do you know what?

01:23:32.760 That actually makes a little sense that you probably keep on water weight, but I just,

01:23:36.600 I have a hard time believing it makes you like gain fat.

01:23:40.840 Let me see.

01:23:41.400 No, it's probably a lot of bloating too.

01:23:43.400 Yeah.

01:23:43.800 You're probably right.

01:23:44.440 Like I just like, cause I guess that would make sense because before your period for two

01:23:50.040 weeks, you're heavier, but it's not like you look that different.

01:23:53.800 It's just like, I don't know.

01:23:55.400 That's, that's my guess.

01:23:56.200 I'm not a medical professional.

01:23:57.720 That's just what I mean.

01:24:00.200 You're heavier and hungrier.

01:24:02.040 Yeah, maybe, but it's like everyone's drinking.

01:24:05.320 So maybe you're hungrier cause you're hungover.

01:24:09.480 I ate a lot, you know, after, after a night, I would eat like a whole

01:24:14.360 pee, you know, I ate a lot after a night out.

01:24:17.880 And also the wrong crap too.

01:24:19.400 Yeah.

01:24:22.280 Yeah.

01:24:22.680 So you're right.

01:24:23.640 Thanks for calling in.

01:24:25.000 Call it any time.

01:24:26.120 Thank you.

01:24:27.080 Yeah.

01:24:27.400 Thank you both.

01:24:28.360 Bye.

01:24:28.840 Bye.

01:24:29.160 Hey, that is everyone.

01:24:35.320 And I'm not saying like, maybe birth control.

01:24:39.400 Okay.

01:24:39.640 Wait, let me ask.

01:24:41.160 Why does birth control?

01:24:42.440 I'm gonna ask Grok right now.

01:24:44.120 Why does birth control make women gain weight?

01:24:48.840 I want to know the reasoning behind it.

01:24:51.880 You know what?

01:24:52.440 I'll ask chat to EBT at the same time.

01:24:54.440 We'll see if they come up with the same.

01:24:55.880 Estrogen and progesterone.

01:24:59.480 So it contains synthetic versions of estrogen or progesterone.

01:25:02.760 These hormones can influence appetite, metabolism and fat storage.

01:25:06.840 Estrogen may increase retention and alter.

01:25:10.120 Do you know what it is?

01:25:12.280 It probably is that your body thinks you're pregnant.

01:25:16.200 Yeah.

01:25:16.520 Cause you're not ovulating.

01:25:18.440 This is fat distribution.

01:25:20.200 Hormones like progesterone may change how your body stores fat, especially in areas like hips,

01:25:24.920 thighs and breasts.

01:25:26.200 These changes can make it seem like you gain weight even if your overall weight has increased.

01:25:31.640 Muscle versus fat confusion.

01:25:33.800 Some women report a change in body composition, feeling softly, which can be more noticeable

01:25:38.200 than changed on the scale.

01:25:40.680 Um.

01:25:43.240 Yeah.

01:25:43.480 And it says not all women gain weight on birth control, genetic factors, lifestyle.

01:25:47.720 Yeah.

01:25:48.280 Bullshit.

01:25:49.000 Okay.

01:25:50.360 I bet it makes you hungrier, but it's still a choice what you put in your mouth.

01:25:54.200 That's what I think.

01:25:55.720 There were women that were on it that didn't gain weight.

01:25:57.960 Um, some perceived weight gain may be due to lifestyle changes, aging or unrelated factors.

01:26:03.000 Studies show that weight gain on hormonal contraceptives is often minimal one to two pounds

01:26:09.720 and not significantly different from the placebo effect in many cases.

01:26:14.200 That's what I would expect one to two pounds because after your cycle, you lose one to two pounds.

01:26:19.240 You lose one to three pounds, but like 10 pounds.

01:26:21.000 Like, do you know how many calories 10 pounds of fat is, uh, how many?

01:26:26.360 I can't remember calories.

01:26:27.640 I know because I'm trying to lose it.

01:26:29.080 You know what I mean?

01:26:29.640 It didn't take forever.

01:26:30.680 So, according to ChatBT, ChatBT, I put, has the birth control pill been good for society?

01:26:37.080 She said, has it positive impacts?

01:26:39.560 The pill gave women unprecedented control over reproduction, allowing them to plan if and when

01:26:44.920 to have children.

01:26:46.200 This has been fundamental to women's rights and autonomy, giving them more freedom to pursue

01:26:50.440 education, careers, and personal growth, personal goals.

01:26:53.720 Yeah.

01:26:53.960 How's that going?

01:26:55.240 Right?

01:26:56.280 Studies consistently show that access to the pill has increased college graduation rates for women,

01:27:00.680 led to higher labor force participation and income levels.

01:27:03.400 Yeah.

01:27:03.640 How's that going?

01:27:04.760 Help close the gender wage gap, although disparities still exist.

01:27:11.000 And then the health benefits are that they regulate menstrual cycles and reduce acne,

01:27:15.400 lower the risk of ovarian and endometrial cancers, and treats conditions like PCOS and endometriosis.

01:27:23.400 Oh, the endometriosis would make sense because when you're pregnant, like, I think that's the one

01:27:30.520 that you remember the guy called in and said, when you're pregnant, it stops.

01:27:34.840 Yeah.

01:27:35.240 So that would kind of make sense.

01:27:36.840 But it says 10 pounds, guys, 35,000 calories.

01:27:40.680 That's what you have to burn or eat extra if you gain 10 pounds.

01:27:45.880 That's a lot of it.

01:27:46.840 Like people, you, people don't realize how long it takes to lose 10 pounds.

01:27:52.840 Like, it's not, it's not easy.

01:27:58.120 It was, um, 35,000 calories.

01:28:02.680 How many calories a day is that for a month?

01:28:05.560 It was either Patti LaBelle or the, or the, or Loretta Frank, or Aretha Franklin, one of the two.

01:28:10.360 And she would blow up between tours, like, you know, get really big.

01:28:14.200 And then she, but she'd always start a tour.

01:28:16.120 This is when she was in her thirties and her forties, you know, after that, she didn't give a dang.

01:28:21.080 But, um, uh, she'd be walking around doing interviews before a tour, just big as a house.

01:28:27.000 And then she started the tour, like the tour, like 50, 60 pounds lighter.

01:28:31.880 And they said, how, how do you lose the weight?

01:28:34.360 She just, you know, she said, I just stop eating.

01:28:36.360 Yeah.

01:28:37.960 Really?

01:28:38.200 She's like, yeah, I just, I just, I just stop eating.

01:28:40.360 She said, I, I've always been able to do it.

01:28:42.440 I just stop eating.

01:28:43.560 And, you know, she should drink coffee and, you know, maybe some pancakes in the morning.

01:28:47.880 And that's it.

01:28:48.760 She's like, I've always been able to do it.

01:28:50.520 Vichy hit her forties and she wasn't able to do it.

01:28:52.760 Yeah.

01:28:53.080 Because like, it's just so much, I feel like now that I'm almost to the end of this,

01:29:01.720 like of losing the weight I gained in my early twenties, I'm almost to the end of it.

01:29:07.000 I'm like, it's so much work to learn everything you're eating, but there's just no other way to do it.

01:29:13.480 You have to know what you're eating.

01:29:15.960 That's my opinion.

01:29:17.640 Like all these like diets and stuff, like people will just quit fasting.

01:29:24.120 Fuck that.

01:29:24.680 Like, no.

01:29:25.720 Well, and I've said this many times.

01:29:27.800 That's why I don't mind if you hear these women, it's not fair that models have to be a size zero.

01:29:36.520 I hate plus size models.

01:29:37.880 I hate them because they're doing no work and making money.

01:29:40.280 Guys, you know, I have a job during the day I have to get up and go to.

01:29:46.280 And I have to do what my boss says.

01:29:48.520 I have to do everything there.

01:29:49.400 I have to, you know, I have to work for my money.

01:29:53.800 Plus size models, they don't have to work for anything.

01:29:56.120 That's why I don't mind that a woman has to.

01:29:58.680 This one girl I knew in undergrad, she spent from 16 to 19 as an international model.

01:30:04.920 And she said that she was 5'10 and she had to be 116 pounds, 117 pounds.

01:30:13.560 Right.

01:30:13.800 But she's 5'9 had to be 116 pounds.

01:30:17.240 And she said that how she stayed skinny.

01:30:19.800 She smoked like a chimney.

01:30:21.640 She smoked Marlboro Reds.

01:30:24.280 And then she ate apples, bananas and drank black coffee.

01:30:27.720 Yeah, she's like, I've been all around the world, you know, Milan, Australia, all these places.

01:30:36.280 But I had to make that sacrifice to get those privileges.

01:30:39.560 And then when she hit 19, she didn't want to do it anymore.

01:30:42.920 And I don't have a problem with that.

01:30:46.200 People that try to make money and not do any work.

01:30:49.480 I hate it.

01:30:49.960 I hate that whole concept.

01:30:51.800 Yeah.

01:30:52.120 Yeah, I agree.

01:30:57.560 I just came with 35,000 calories.

01:31:03.400 I forgot what I was going to say.

01:31:04.520 I'm spacing out a little bit.

01:31:06.440 I think that's all I got today.

01:31:08.040 You got anything else, Doug MPA?

01:31:10.920 Yeah, you know, I'm all for the birth control.

01:31:13.880 You know, I think that less hoes need to have kids and less horrible mothers need to have kids.

01:31:18.360 I wish that there was a way that we could encourage good families to have more.

01:31:23.320 I'd rather see, you know, one married mother and father with five kids than a bunch of single moms running around.

01:31:35.000 But yeah, I'm all for the birth control, man.

01:31:37.320 I just don't just try to have, you know, try to have, you know, a little bit of don't put a young girl on birth control when she's 15, 16, 17 years old.

01:31:51.000 Don't do that.

01:31:51.560 Unless she's really a hoe.

01:31:54.280 That's my opinion.

01:31:55.320 If she's really hoeing, like, aren't some of these high schoolers like banging criminals?

01:32:00.840 Yeah.

01:32:02.360 Yeah.

01:32:02.760 If my daughter was banging criminals, I would put that IUD right up there.

01:32:08.520 We actually have one more caller.

01:32:10.520 Sure, we could do one more.

01:32:12.280 Okay.

01:32:13.320 Flow state.

01:32:17.000 It's coming on up.

01:32:19.480 He's been on before, right?

01:32:21.240 Yep.

01:32:21.560 I'm in your flow state.

01:32:22.760 And now everyone keeps saying I'm sunburned.

01:32:24.760 Yes, guys.

01:32:25.480 I'm very, very sunburned.

01:32:26.680 Maybe I'll tan.

01:32:28.280 Your audio is connecting.

01:32:29.320 There he is.

01:32:33.800 Flow state, are you there?

01:32:34.680 What's up, flow state?

01:32:40.360 Uh-oh, flow state.

01:32:42.440 There he is.

01:32:46.520 We can see you, flow state.

01:32:47.640 Are you there?

01:32:52.600 Uh, what about now?

01:32:54.760 I can hear you.

01:32:55.400 There you are.

01:32:55.960 How's it going?

01:32:57.640 Hey, good.

01:32:58.200 You?

01:32:59.320 I'm good.

01:33:00.360 So what's your opinion on birth control?

01:33:02.600 Did you know somebody that was on it?

01:33:05.800 I've known lots of women who are on it.

01:33:07.960 I cannot tell you specifically who has or hasn't had health effects from it.

01:33:12.040 Um, I, I mean, it makes sense to me that, that if you, you can't just turn off a key biological

01:33:20.440 function and not have, have, uh, negative outcomes.

01:33:27.240 Do you think it's been bad or good for society?

01:33:29.480 I was about to add.

01:33:30.600 Do I think it's been good or bad for society?

01:33:32.680 Yep.

01:33:33.240 Um, um, um, for society, probably bad overall, but, um, for me personally, probably good overall.

01:33:41.720 Yeah.

01:33:46.040 But I've, I've got a 15 year old daughter and I, I am not having her anywhere near that.

01:33:51.240 Yeah.

01:33:52.360 What if you had a daughter that was going crazy?

01:33:54.680 Would you put her on it?

01:33:58.360 I'd probably just put an ankle bracelet on her.

01:34:02.120 I don't, I don't know.

01:34:03.240 Luckily, knock on wood.

01:34:04.520 We're not there.

01:34:05.160 Uh, she's a good kid, but, um, it just seems like the, I, I haven't done a lot of research into it, but

01:34:13.320 from what I'm aware of just, it doesn't seem like it's a, it's worth the risk.

01:34:17.400 I don't think so.

01:34:18.120 I don't think it's necessary.

01:34:19.720 Like, I think it's pretty easy to not get pregnant, even without birth control.

01:34:26.440 Yeah.

01:34:26.680 You can, you can count days or whatever.

01:34:28.840 The pullout method worked for me until it didn't.

01:34:33.880 Okay.

01:34:34.120 Now, was it a case?

01:34:35.000 Cause I've always make the argument where the pullout method doesn't work.

01:34:39.240 Cause guys don't actually pull out.

01:34:41.000 Is that your experience?

01:34:45.560 Yeah.

01:34:45.880 Um, it worked for me for two years, uh, solidly.

01:34:50.040 And then, uh, you know, the, the issue is that like, you don't, you have no margin of error.

01:34:58.600 So if you pull mostly out, if you get like 90% out, uh, you still could, uh, could be in trouble.

01:35:06.440 Is that, is that what happened?

01:35:07.880 It was like a 90% type of thing.

01:35:09.800 It was, yeah, it was, it was like a one stroke too, too long sort of thing.

01:35:14.360 And I knew I messed up when it happened, but, uh, you didn't have plan B back then.

01:35:20.120 Um, we were together.

01:35:22.600 I'd been with my daughter's mom for about two years at that point.

01:35:25.480 And, uh, so now also I figured, what are the odds, you know, what are the odds you have in two years?

01:35:33.080 I have one kind of misfire.

01:35:36.440 It'll be fine.

01:35:38.440 Um, luckily, luckily it, it wasn't.

01:35:41.640 Yeah.

01:35:41.960 Luckily.

01:35:42.440 Cause even though I wouldn't have chosen at the time, it was one of those, uh, blessings in disguises.

01:35:48.200 So cool.

01:35:51.240 Cool.

01:35:51.560 Well, thanks for calling in Doug MPA.

01:35:53.160 You got any other questions for him?

01:35:55.400 So what we guys, there's a thing.

01:36:00.920 Okay.

01:36:02.280 Your daughter's a good daughter.

01:36:04.440 So you've raised her well, um, what, what kind of parenting did you have to do to raise a daughter

01:36:12.200 that's not headed down the path where you would have to put her on birth control?

01:36:16.280 Because I can tell by the way that you said that your daughter's a good kid, that she actually is.

01:36:21.240 But we see some guys are like, oh, my daughter would never do that.

01:36:25.080 And it's just like, bro, you never know.

01:36:26.360 So what would you, what kind of parenting would you recommend to a man that has a daughter

01:36:31.160 to, to have a good daughter like yours who, who is headed down the wrong path?

01:36:36.680 So I think that, um, a couple of things that I did differently from a lot of parents is one,

01:36:41.560 um, I tried to be honest with my daughter and with myself.

01:36:45.320 Right.

01:36:45.480 So that whole, my daughter would never do that mindset.

01:36:48.200 That's, that's the opposite of what I think.

01:36:51.000 I think that, you know, I I'm raising, I'm not sheltering my daughter from the world.

01:36:56.360 I'm raising her to be able to operate in it herself.

01:36:59.240 Um, so, uh, that's one thing I'm honest with her and I don't, and I don't believe in sheltering

01:37:05.800 or hiding kids from things really, um, that they're going to experience in adulthood.

01:37:10.920 Um, the other thing is, uh, I raised her, so her mom and I got divorced when she was two

01:37:16.920 and I got custody and I raised her as a single dad, most of her life.

01:37:19.800 Good job, man.

01:37:21.560 Awesome.

01:37:21.960 And so I remember when I was in high school and middle school,

01:37:28.120 the girls who had low self-esteem got taken advantage of.

01:37:31.480 And so it was very much in the front of my mind to raise her in a way

01:37:35.960 where she had confidence and, uh, I've created a monster.

01:37:40.520 Is she, is she a little you?

01:37:47.640 In, in many ways, in many ways.

01:37:48.680 That's a compliment, man.

01:37:50.040 I recognize it and I appreciate it.

01:37:52.840 You know, everyone's their own person.

01:37:54.440 She does have a lot of my traits, but she's also, uh, you know, got some,

01:37:58.440 some that are uniquely hers.

01:38:00.440 That's awesome, man.

01:38:01.400 Awesome.

01:38:02.360 I agree with the sheltering things.

01:38:04.120 The women that crash out the hardest are like pastor's kids.

01:38:08.040 And like, I mean, Nala was a pastor's daughter.

01:38:11.320 So I didn't, you know, and you, you see kids where they get upset at their parents

01:38:18.840 for not giving them the tools to face the real world.

01:38:21.800 Do you know what I'm saying?

01:38:22.680 Or even worse, you have kids.

01:38:25.720 So parents, I mean, I'm not a parent, but my mother was absolutely terrible.

01:38:30.760 Right.

01:38:31.080 So, um, parents are supposed to do the emotional maintenance to foster their

01:38:36.440 children and to be confident, successful people like you did with your daughter.

01:38:41.320 But horrible parents, they require the children to do emotional maintenance on them.

01:38:47.160 It's like the other way around.

01:38:48.360 You know what I'm saying?

01:38:49.560 And so we have too many parents that the kids are forced to have to do the emotional

01:38:53.800 maintenance on their parents or pick their parents up.

01:38:56.840 And it's just, but I, I have a lot of friends who get mad at their parents for not doing what

01:39:01.320 you're doing with your daughter and giving them the tools necessary to face the world.

01:39:04.840 It's rough out there, man.

01:39:06.040 Are you going to put her in like, like, do you have any plan for, are you going to try

01:39:12.040 to assist her in finding a boyfriend or a husband when the time comes?

01:39:15.880 Are you going to put her in like environments you think she'd meet somebody?

01:39:19.720 Like, are you, um, I was, I was thinking that I'll, I'll just auction her off for,

01:39:24.440 you know, whoever can give you the most goats.

01:39:28.120 No, I was just curious.

01:39:29.480 Are you going to help her set up a dating app?

01:39:31.160 Like, do you have a plan with that or?

01:39:33.240 No, she's, she's got a boyfriend.

01:39:35.160 He's a nice guy.

01:39:35.880 Okay.

01:39:36.280 Um, okay.

01:39:37.000 Uh, I don't plan to meddle in that unless like, there's an issue.

01:39:41.400 Okay.

01:39:43.000 Yeah.

01:39:43.880 And again, so far there's a thing where she, she brought him home and you were, uh,

01:39:49.560 you were cleaning the handguns when he came.

01:39:52.120 I was actually doing something, uh, with my truck.

01:39:55.000 And he, the first thing that he said was, uh, that I had a cool truck.

01:39:58.920 So that was a good way to, you know, release that, that, uh, relationship.

01:40:04.600 Awesome.

01:40:06.520 Cool.

01:40:07.480 All right.

01:40:07.720 Well, thanks so much for calling in Doug MPA.

01:40:09.800 You got anything else for him?

01:40:11.800 Nope.

01:40:12.120 Always good talking to you.

01:40:13.080 Flow sick.

01:40:13.480 Yeah.

01:40:13.800 Thanks for calling in.

01:40:15.560 Take it easy.

01:40:18.360 Cool.

01:40:18.600 That's everybody.

01:40:20.040 Cool.

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01:41:39.800 Cool.

01:41:41.320 All right.

01:41:41.640 Well, thanks so much for, um,

01:41:44.920 for helping me out today.

01:41:46.360 My opinion is I don't really care if people get on birth control.

01:41:50.200 It's not my problem.

01:41:51.400 My experience, it's not really necessary.

01:41:53.640 I don't think it's the hardest thing to not get pregnant.

01:41:56.040 Um, uh, yeah, I don't think it's that difficult.

01:42:00.440 So anyways, guys, let me know what you think in the comments,

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01:42:05.720 Thanks so much for watching and I'll see you next time.

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JustPearlyThings - July 23, 2025

Modern Women Blame Birth Control Instead of Consequences of Being a 304 (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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