JustPearlyThings - November 24, 2023


Modern Women Can't HANDLE This Truth About Their CAREER


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In this episode, we discuss the importance of red flags and how to spot them in a potential partner. We talk about what we look for in a partner, how to deal with them and what to look out for.

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00:00:00.000 This, would I, would I like the example you set, say for anything, if we were to have
00:00:07.280 children, if we were to do anything, would I think, hmm, my mum would approve of you.
00:00:12.320 She'd say to me, oh yeah, you're so lucky to have someone that does this, or would she look 0.52
00:00:16.880 at me a bit like, hmm. What, what red flags will you look for? Red flags? Yeah.
00:00:23.040 Like what, is there a certain lifestyle of girls living that you're just like, hmm. So for, 1.00
00:00:27.680 in, yeah, like for me, it'll be, if you look at the next person too much, if you see someone's
00:00:33.440 wearing this kind of designer and you want it, and it's like you follow by example, you're not a
00:00:40.480 leader. And that's just in terms of, I want someone that is a leader, you know what you want. And it's
00:00:46.720 not because someone else is showing you, it's because you're like, I'm a visionary, I'm gonna
00:00:51.200 set the example. And I feel like I always look for, are you leading by example? Are you being a
00:00:58.400 sheep? I'm following because your friends see something and they're like, oh, I want this,
00:01:02.080 this Balenciaga bag. So I want this and I'm going to spend it on this. And then you're like,
00:01:07.040 you know what, rent's a bit tight this month. I can't pay it. And you're like, why? So I feel like
00:01:12.800 I always look to the example of, would like, in my head, it's always, would my mum approve of you?
00:01:19.200 Would my mum look at me and be like, I'm so proud of what you're doing. And the person you chose is
00:01:25.840 your life partner. Because if it's not, then it's like, you can't stay. And obviously, I feel like
00:01:31.760 people always change. So it's like, you never know at the start, it could start off really good. And you
00:01:36.400 could be like, wow, like, you're so amazing. You're literally everything I imagined. But then
00:01:41.760 obviously, everything's a facade. Sometimes when you get into relationship at the start, it's always
00:01:45.600 people are going to present their best selves. Like we can all argue, you can get into a relationship
00:01:49.760 and everyone's going to show they're a money man, they're a money girl, they're about their business.
00:01:53.840 And then you can get six months, one year, three years into a relationship. And then they'll turn
00:01:58.720 around and be like, you'll see the real them. It's not even them showing you, it will be, it all begins
00:02:03.200 to fade naturally. And then I feel like it's always, you kind of see everything for yourself.
00:02:09.840 And I feel that it's always important to, if you see a red flag, you need to leave. Even if it's,
00:02:15.440 I'm not saying straight away, you're like, oh, red flag, let me jump out and run away now. It's like,
00:02:20.160 if it can, if it happens continuously, you either bring it up or you leave. And I feel that a lot of
00:02:26.720 people in our generation, they might decide to stay. And they will look at that red flag,
00:02:32.640 ignore it. And then you're always just going to be in a cycle. And I feel that that's what past
00:02:36.560 generations have done. You've seen a cycle, you've been brought up in an atmosphere where
00:02:41.520 it's always been, well, if you see a red flag, it's fine, because you always look at, oh,
00:02:46.720 they bring money to the table. And I feel that we always need to, in this generation, ignore
00:02:50.880 red flags, like not ignore red flags. We need to address them. I feel that it's always important
00:02:56.560 to address something that is bothering us. Because in past generations, they'll tell you,
00:03:00.000 yeah, we've been married for 65 years. And then you're like, okay, so what red flags were brought
00:03:05.840 up and you chose to ignore? Because I feel that that's always an important question to, like,
00:03:15.200 I feel that's always an important question to address. And I feel like, oh, it's more among the,
00:03:19.920 like, the younger kind of generation is like, we will, the younger generation will start jobs,
00:03:27.280 quit them and be like, it's not what I want. And I feel like the older generation are always the
00:03:32.160 ones telling you, oh, we need to stick it out. We need to, you need to be, you can work in like
00:03:37.680 Sainsbury's and they'll be like, you need to stack them shelves. You need to be like one of the best
00:03:41.840 and you need to stay at the job and do this and that. And then the younger generation will be like,
00:03:45.120 nah, I will skip this. Yeah. So what about you spending habits? Have you ever
00:03:49.920 passed over a girl for spending, because she has bad spending habits? Yeah. I mean, I mean, 0.99
00:03:55.920 I've had experiences of that. I'm staying away from that. Never going back to that. Just because
00:04:01.840 I think that someone that has a bad spending habit and relies on you to, to, to support that, 1.00
00:04:10.400 it's like a sinking shit. Do you know what I mean? What, what was your experience with that? 1.00
00:04:17.280 Well, she just wanted you to pay for everything. No, I don't mind pay for it. I've never gone on
00:04:22.320 a date where a lady, I've split the bill before in my life. It's just not the way I was. What about 0.99
00:04:26.640 one girl say? Um, you can't afford me. Oh God. Thanks for letting me know. I run. I run. Like, 0.83
00:04:33.120 I literally run. Safe, let me know. Like, I really literally just run away from those kind of women. 1.00
00:04:38.560 There is a Tik Tok I saw where it was like the girl and the guy, it was like two UPS workers. And
00:04:43.680 the girl was like, you can't afford me. And he's like, we have the same job.
00:04:46.640 It's funny, but sorry, go ahead. No, it's always the way they try to make you feel less than a man
00:04:54.960 because of, of wherever you can't take them to buy them whatever fancy bag or like, you know,
00:05:00.160 take them to a proper nightclub or something like that. And I walked in the night, nightlife for like
00:05:04.400 10 years and I saw the sort of, the sort of facade. If a girl is really about money, then she can be 1.00
00:05:11.520 easily bought. That's my opinion. She can be easily bought by the next person. So if 0.98
00:05:16.560 you even spending a couple, dropping a couple of bags on her, it just,
00:05:19.760 all it takes is a, is a bigger man to come and he'll take her. So she was never yours.
00:05:24.160 It was just your turn to the car. Do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:26.560 I'll tell you.
00:05:27.920 Do you want to, bro? Like,
00:05:30.640 what the men in the swim, like, what would you define as a,
00:05:34.000 a bad spending habit in your opinion?
00:05:35.920 Uh, someone who doesn't have,
00:05:39.920 you have priorities. Do you see what I'm saying? Oh, is my rent paid? Is my bills paid?
00:05:44.080 Is everything that I need to carry on this month sorted out before I go off and buy lavish,
00:05:50.560 uh, nights out with my girls or, uh, shoes or clothes or, do you know what I mean?
00:05:55.280 Yes.
00:05:55.680 Like having your priorities in order first.
00:05:58.480 Yeah.
00:05:58.800 Opposed to having it the other way around.
00:06:00.240 So let's just say those priorities are in order for a particular woman, 0.98
00:06:04.160 but she still expects certain things from you.
00:06:06.320 Mm-hmm.
00:06:08.000 Are you now,
00:06:08.560 what are these certain things you have to specify?
00:06:10.160 I don't know.
00:06:10.560 Like just to say she wants to go out to a certain restaurant and she expects you to pay for that.
00:06:15.200 Okay.
00:06:15.520 Well, what has,
00:06:16.400 what has she done in the relationship to say that I,
00:06:20.160 so it requires her to be at a certain status in the relationship.
00:06:22.880 Absolutely.
00:06:23.440 So you're down for it.
00:06:24.400 It just depends on.
00:06:25.280 Well, if,
00:06:25.840 if for example,
00:06:26.960 I only see you on the weekends and you bring nothing really to my life,
00:06:30.720 except for you getting done up and wanting to go out to fancy restaurants,
00:06:33.520 that's a no, you know, if you're somebody who, who,
00:06:36.800 if you know what I'm doing and you know what I'm about,
00:06:38.960 because you spend that sort of time with me and I tell you about my business and you go,
00:06:42.640 oh, you know what?
00:06:43.200 I might know somebody or how can I help or whatever, whatever.
00:06:46.240 You deserve those nights.
00:06:47.200 Yeah. 0.99
00:06:47.760 Not just, oh, I got my shit down, girl. 0.99
00:06:49.280 I'm going to take him. 0.99
00:06:49.920 You're going to make him take me out.
00:06:51.280 That's a no.
00:06:53.760 I hate what you're saying.
00:06:54.640 Yeah.
00:06:55.280 My, my brothers,
00:06:56.400 um, they like won't date girls if they feel like their lifestyle is too expensive.
00:07:00.240 My brothers, they all make six figures and they can,
00:07:02.160 they can afford, like they could afford a lot for a woman, 1.00
00:07:06.640 but like if a girl comes in expecting of them to pay for all their shit and like, 1.00
00:07:10.800 I don't know, they just won't, it's just too much of a headache for them. 0.99
00:07:13.760 I can't afford you.
00:07:16.480 Potential holes as a man, potential holes in this in your,
00:07:19.760 in your boat.
00:07:20.320 If you're a man and the ship represents you, those are,
00:07:23.520 those are holes because what you think,
00:07:24.960 what you have to look at is in long term about how that woman is. 0.99
00:07:28.560 Exactly.
00:07:29.120 You know how, like if she's like that and she's moved, especially through social media.
00:07:33.440 Yeah.
00:07:34.000 She's really like, you know, socially conditioned to move by what was going on in social media. 1.00
00:07:40.160 She's going to put, put, put holes in your shit. 1.00
00:07:42.080 Or imagine, imagine. 1.00
00:07:43.040 I would say, yeah.
00:07:44.160 Go on.
00:07:44.480 That was good.
00:07:45.200 Yeah.
00:07:45.760 I feel like it's harder to maintain financial kind of like expectation than like emotional and like,
00:07:53.840 everything.
00:07:54.400 So if you go into relationship, the kind of emotional expectation you expect, you,
00:08:00.480 you know, it's coming, you know, sometimes women will expect a certain thing, 0.97
00:08:04.560 but if you're making a certain amount of money and women are like, 1.00
00:08:07.120 ah, we need to go on dates and you need to pay for everything. 0.99
00:08:09.440 I want this bag.
00:08:10.320 I want this, like, I want this heel.
00:08:12.320 I want this.
00:08:12.800 And then you're going to look at it like it's a bit much.
00:08:14.880 Are women actually telling you guys this?
00:08:17.360 Yes.
00:08:17.840 Wait, sorry.
00:08:18.960 Can I say something?
00:08:19.520 Wait, wait, no.
00:08:20.400 Go ahead.
00:08:20.720 What'd you say?
00:08:21.200 Me?
00:08:21.840 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:22.400 No, I'm just like hearing these scenarios and I would never go in to a relationship with
00:08:28.160 these types of expectations.
00:08:29.600 So I, maybe it's an, I mean, so I'm, I mean, I'm just as like a genuine quick,
00:08:33.680 I'm, I'm in receiving mode.
00:08:35.040 Like I'm taking it all in.
00:08:36.000 Like, I actually never really think to ask my guy friends these things.
00:08:38.960 So this is interesting to hear a guy's perspective.
00:08:41.440 But are women saying these things to y'all? 0.99
00:08:44.640 A certain type of women. 1.00
00:08:45.440 Yes.
00:08:46.000 A certain type of women. 1.00
00:08:46.880 Yes.
00:08:47.200 But you know, everything that we've said has been generalized.
00:08:49.680 Yeah.
00:08:50.080 Yeah.
00:08:50.880 And this is, and I think that this is the thing.
00:08:52.560 It's, it's a huge, it's a huge, um, character trait of, of women in America, especially.
00:08:57.200 I mean, this is where it's all popularized from the music, the, the hip hop lifestyle,
00:09:01.280 all the sort of, all the sort of, uh, icons.
00:09:04.960 I'll give you an example.
00:09:06.240 So a lot, most of the times when I ask girls how much they want a guy to make that they would 0.96
00:09:10.880 take seriously, it, it's typically more than what they make.
00:09:14.720 Well, I would prefer to date someone that made at least what I make, preferably more.
00:09:20.880 But like, I would probably fit into that category.
00:09:23.040 But I don't speak to men that way.
00:09:25.120 I don't have those types of expectations.
00:09:26.400 Yeah.
00:09:26.800 But the problem is like, um, like what do you make over 75,000?
00:09:31.360 Yes.
00:09:31.840 Over a hundred?
00:09:32.480 Not, not anymore.
00:09:34.320 Okay.
00:09:34.960 I had to take a pay cut to come to the UK.
00:09:36.800 Roughly a hundred?
00:09:37.920 Like maybe?
00:09:39.120 In the U S I made over a hundred and that was like six months ago.
00:09:41.920 So a hundred that's top 10% guy.
00:09:44.880 But that's what I'm making.
00:09:46.080 No.
00:09:46.320 And that's, and that's fine.
00:09:47.120 But men don't care about your money. 1.00
00:09:48.880 So that it's like nothing.
00:09:49.920 It's kind of like if a guy tells us he has a shoe collection, it's kind of cool,
00:09:53.600 but we're not like attracted to it.
00:09:55.040 We're like, ah, it's okay.
00:09:56.560 I mean, I, I mean, I don't know.
00:09:58.240 I mean, I understand your perspective and I'm not saying that you're wrong, but like
00:10:02.800 kind of going back, I'm sorry.
00:10:04.160 I don't remember your name, but.
00:10:05.760 Kyra.
00:10:06.400 Kyra.
00:10:06.800 Kyra, what he was saying earlier about this generation, like we were being cognizant of
00:10:11.520 building generational wealth.
00:10:12.880 Like the conversations I'm having with my friends, like my peers, my friends who make
00:10:17.360 over six figures, like my male and female friends, like we are thinking about like all
00:10:22.880 the things that he talked about.
00:10:23.920 That's the, those are types of conversations we're having.
00:10:26.480 We're talking about who we're, what we're investing in, what stocks.
00:10:31.120 That's like what's happening within my social circles.
00:10:33.520 So like the problem is women, women talk about it, but like the data doesn't stack up. 1.00
00:10:37.840 Women's how much more you think a woman spends in a lifetime than a man, even though we make less. 1.00
00:10:42.240 Yeah.
00:10:42.480 I'm sure we like, I'm not arguing with like whether or not we spend, like, that's not
00:10:46.480 what I'm talking about.
00:10:47.360 But what I am saying is that you said that men don't care about what women, how much you make.
00:10:51.760 And I'm saying, at least within my social circles, I haven't found that to be the case.
00:10:55.920 Because men that I have communicated with, men that I've chatted to, you guys have dated,
00:11:00.960 especially black men, like we want to build generational wealth.
00:11:04.240 Like we've seen, we've experienced what happens when that is not the forefront of the, of like
00:11:09.360 the relationship.
00:11:10.160 So we talk about goals, like financial goals that we have, like together.
00:11:15.040 Like I, so I, at least that's what I've converse.
00:11:17.600 So like when I have those, those types of standards or wants, I should say,
00:11:22.000 but I would like for a guy to make at least what I make.
00:11:24.880 Um, so I'm, I'm curious, um, the guys that you're talking to, are they your friends?
00:11:29.840 Yeah.
00:11:30.880 Yeah.
00:11:31.200 And, and you make a good amount of money?
00:11:33.680 Yeah.
00:11:34.000 I mean, not again, I took a pay cut to come to the UK.
00:11:36.240 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:11:36.960 They're, they're probably trying to sleep with you.
00:11:38.160 I mean, I don't think all my friends are trying to sleep with you now.
00:11:44.560 I have platonic male friendships.
00:11:45.680 So I have a question.
00:11:47.200 Okay.
00:11:48.560 You call them right now and say,
00:11:52.000 I'm in, I'm in, I'm in.
00:11:53.840 What are you from New York, right?
00:11:55.120 I'm from Virginia. 0.88
00:11:55.760 Shoot.
00:11:56.000 You said Virginia. 1.00
00:11:57.120 You're from New York.
00:11:57.760 Okay.
00:11:58.240 Sorry.
00:11:59.120 I'm in Virginia. 0.74
00:12:00.560 I'm horny.
00:12:01.600 Can I come over? 0.60
00:12:02.320 Yeah, sure.
00:12:03.440 What are they, what are they, what are they?
00:12:04.400 Your, your, your platonic guy, no, no, no, no, no, no, wait, wait, wait, wait,
00:12:07.440 your platonic.
00:12:07.840 All my platonic guy friends in a relationship.
00:12:09.360 So that would definitely happen.
00:12:10.320 Yeah, try it, try it.
00:12:12.720 I would, I would never do such a thing.
00:12:15.600 You ain't gonna, you ain't gonna tell her, right?
00:12:16.960 Why not?
00:12:17.680 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:12:18.720 So what, why not?
00:12:19.680 If they'd say no, cause what if I'm, I'm not interested in them either.
00:12:23.360 You can just go just joking.
00:12:24.320 Wait, wait, wait, you can, you can tell them later.
00:12:26.640 You can tell them, no, you can tell them it was a joke.
00:12:28.160 It was on the podcast.
00:12:29.600 There's video evidence.
00:12:30.480 I don't, I don't feel comfortable with that, dude.
00:12:34.480 Like, what?
00:12:35.520 So, so.
00:12:36.960 I don't even want to know the answer to that question.
00:12:38.720 The point, the point, the point I'm making though is like, okay,
00:12:41.840 if a guy's a CEO of a company, that's like sexy to women. 1.00
00:12:45.440 It's attractive to see a guy in leadership.
00:12:47.440 I mean, I'll give you an example.
00:12:49.520 And then this isn't to be political, but like Melinda or Melania, Melania and Donald Trump.
00:12:55.680 Like she, she's obviously better looking than him.
00:12:57.680 Why is she like clearly, clearly, but why is she attracted him?
00:13:01.120 He's the president.
00:13:02.000 That's an argument.
00:13:02.880 I will.
00:13:03.280 No, okay.
00:13:04.960 But you see what I'm saying?
00:13:06.400 I understand where your line of thought is going.
00:13:09.520 Right, but, but there's no men that are lined up to date Oprah.
00:13:13.920 Oh, because Oprah has a man. 1.00
00:13:15.760 No, no, even if she was single, like there's men, Margot Robbie is married, 0.93
00:13:19.840 but she's heavily desired.
00:13:21.280 Dave Chappelle.
00:13:22.160 Like Zendaya is dating the Tom Holland dude, but she, she's beautiful. 0.86
00:13:25.840 There's men that want to date her, but it's nothing to do with their money. 0.98
00:13:28.960 It's everything to do with the way they look.
00:13:30.480 If she's, if she's hot and she has money, they're like, okay, cool.
00:13:34.480 But, but it's not like they're attracted to you for your money.
00:13:37.520 Well, no, I'm not.
00:13:38.400 That wasn't what I was saying either.
00:13:40.000 Like, I mean, I'm obviously like there's, it's multidimensional.
00:13:42.960 Like there are a lot of things that go into attraction.
00:13:44.560 Like, but again, I'm used to have this conversation of women expect or want men to make a certain 0.94
00:13:50.400 amount of money.
00:13:51.040 And then you said the percentile of like what the, those owners would be.
00:13:54.400 And I maintain what I said earlier in that there is a specific demographic of young professionals
00:14:02.720 who are taking what each, their partner brings to the table into account outside of sexual attraction.
00:14:09.440 So, but the, the issue, wait, the issue is that when the, the more a woman makes, 1.00
00:14:16.720 and I'm in this category too, like the more a woman makes, the more likely we are to be single.
00:14:20.880 No, and that's true.
00:14:21.600 Like I, I'm not arguing with that either.
00:14:23.200 I know that's, I know that's like, that's true.
00:14:25.360 Like, I, I didn't think about that like myself, like, uh, how far do I want to go in my career?
00:14:29.920 Because the further I go in my firm, the least, the less, which is sad.
00:14:34.800 Like, I mean, that's like the less likely a man will want to be with me.
00:14:38.640 Yeah.
00:14:38.880 Because like, because I like, that's just like, I'm literally like pricing myself out
00:14:43.760 as I continue to grow up.
00:14:44.880 Yeah.
00:14:44.960 Because, because our, our pool gets smaller and smaller and those men.
00:14:48.800 I think about that.
00:14:49.600 Yeah.
00:14:50.160 I do.
00:14:50.720 And those, and those men want younger, hotter, tighter. 0.96
00:14:54.160 No, I mean, like that's, I mean, I'm not going to argue with you.
00:14:56.320 Yeah.
00:14:56.800 I mean, it's, it's true.
00:14:58.080 It's not fun.
00:14:58.880 Like, I, I, I, I wish like they cared, but they don't.
00:15:02.640 No.
00:15:02.800 Yeah.
00:15:03.040 I mean, that's just an unfortunate scenario.
00:15:04.880 Okay.
00:15:05.280 Go ahead.
00:15:05.600 I'm sorry.
00:15:06.400 So some, this isn't, in my mind, isn't stacking up, right?
00:15:09.120 You're having conversations with your peers, guys, friends, all in the same sort of social circle,
00:15:13.920 same financial bracket.
00:15:14.960 Yeah.
00:15:15.520 Um, you guys are talking about how to come together.
00:15:18.800 Um, I'm, I'm, I'm making an assumption heterosexually.
00:15:21.920 Yeah.
00:15:22.480 Um, but at the same time, in the very beginning, we said, what would it take for you to move in with a man?
00:15:27.760 And you, and you were pretty much like, I would rather run away.
00:15:31.600 So on one hand, you'd rather be over here.
00:15:33.920 But on the other hand, you're talking in your social circles about how to come together.
00:15:37.840 No, that's not what I said.
00:15:40.320 So when we talked about what, what are the two, the two extreme options?
00:15:44.000 Would I rather move in?
00:15:46.000 Would I be rather be financially dependent on someone and move in with a man or what I live
00:15:51.440 with a roommate?
00:15:52.000 And I chose living with a roommate because I wouldn't want that type of strain to be in my relationship.
00:15:57.680 However, I am a heterosexual.
00:16:00.000 I want my, I want to get married.
00:16:01.840 I want to have children.
00:16:02.640 Like that doesn't, those two things.
00:16:04.080 Would you depend on a man like once you have kids?
00:16:06.400 A hundred percent.
00:16:07.600 And I would hope he would depend on me.
00:16:09.040 That's what a marriage is.
00:16:10.160 You're depending on each other.
00:16:11.440 I know.
00:16:11.760 I mean like financially.
00:16:12.880 Yes.
00:16:13.440 Okay.
00:16:13.680 So you'd be okay with depending on a man after you're married?
00:16:16.160 After he's my husband.
00:16:17.040 After he's your husband.
00:16:17.760 And I would hope that he would also depend, like that's, you depend on each other.
00:16:21.280 I agree.
00:16:21.840 I agree.
00:16:22.320 Yeah.
00:16:22.880 Okay.
00:16:23.280 Yeah, that was clear.
00:16:24.080 Thank you.
00:16:24.960 Um, I don't think you guys answered.
00:16:28.240 Um, the, you ever dumped a girl because of financial, like just bad spending habits?
00:16:34.320 Um, so I'm going to say this in a Christian perspective,
00:16:37.440 because I'm, I was raised as a Christian.
00:16:40.960 So, um, I never actually dated.
00:16:45.600 Uh, uh, so this girl is the first time that I'm going into a relationship and I'm still a
00:16:52.560 virgin and I'm a virgin because yes, I'm a virgin because I have to be a virgin.
00:16:58.560 Because in this day and age, I'm telling in this day and age, I can't be near any woman who 1.00
00:17:05.520 like, I'm not saying this is, this is like the general of women who are like this, but, um,
00:17:12.560 um, they have their expectations too high and I, I just don't want to mess with, with, with that.
00:17:20.960 And, uh, the other, the other thing I would say is, um, uh, what I was about to say.
00:17:29.760 Yeah.
00:17:30.640 Yeah.
00:17:30.960 So in terms of like spending habits, um, I never had really to worry about that.
00:17:38.160 But if, if I let's in a hypothetical, um, uh, scenario,
00:17:45.680 uh, if she had this spending habits of like going to designers shops and buying jewelry here and then,
00:17:55.440 or like, you know, like not, not having, uh, um, a goal in life in like, I wouldn't invest in this,
00:18:04.320 this and such instead of she, she's going to invest in something that it's like, like you said,
00:18:09.200 it's not going to last that long.
00:18:10.880 So why would I go through that hassle?
00:18:14.320 So I prefer to be a version and wait to, to be with a woman that actually respects my decision.
00:18:20.560 It respects, um, that, um, being financially responsible.
00:18:28.480 It's, it's a duty for, for both.
00:18:31.280 Yeah.
00:18:31.680 That's it.
00:18:33.440 All right.
00:18:33.840 Um, just to clarify, you were asking about if females have like a bad spending habit. 1.00
00:18:38.000 If you've ever dated a girl with bad spending habits and that was a red flag.
00:18:41.280 Oh yeah, a hundred percent.
00:18:42.800 And, um, there was this one girl I was with and sorry, I remember this one day where she
00:18:48.640 really wanted to buy, uh, she wanted me to buy her Timberlands in it. 0.99
00:18:52.800 And I, I was working a normal job when I was making like 500 a month or whatever in it.
00:18:56.480 So I couldn't really afford it.
00:18:57.680 You feel me?
00:18:58.640 But she made such a big deal out of it.
00:19:01.360 And from that moment on, I realized there's a major red flag.
00:19:05.200 You feel me?
00:19:05.600 I was like 16 or whatever.
00:19:07.040 It's like the entitlement.
00:19:08.320 Yeah.
00:19:08.720 It's like, why are you expecting that?
00:19:10.880 We're both broke.
00:19:13.280 Why are you expecting me to buy your Timberlands?
00:19:15.360 Do you know how expensive Timberlands are?
00:19:18.160 It's like, we have the same job.
00:19:20.880 Yeah.
00:19:21.440 Here's the thing.
00:19:22.240 And ladies, I don't think many women these days understand, right?
00:19:26.240 If you are a submissive, sorry, submissive, feminine woman who is friendly, right? 0.99
00:19:33.440 And pure, you have so much power.
00:19:36.800 And I think that is the only time as a woman, you can kind of ask a man to be fully like, 0.86
00:19:44.480 you know, provide for you and all of that, because the power of being feminine and being 1.00
00:19:49.920 submissive is a whole different level.
00:19:52.080 You feel me?
00:19:52.560 Like, if I'm with a girl and she wants to go out with her friends and she's telling me,
00:19:57.280 oh, yeah, I want to wear this dress.
00:19:59.120 I know it shows my boobies and all of that, but I just feel confident in it.
00:20:03.200 That's a red flag for me.
00:20:04.320 You feel me?
00:20:04.880 Like, you are my girl.
00:20:06.560 Why are you showing your boobies?
00:20:08.320 Has that happened to you?
00:20:10.320 It's happened to me in the past, but I can tell you right now,
00:20:12.640 my girl right now, it's not been a problem.
00:20:15.840 It might trigger some people, but she asked me if it's okay for her to wear ripped jeans.
00:20:20.320 You feel me?
00:20:20.960 Like, and it's a whole different type of relationship.
00:20:23.600 And I'm telling you, mandem, all you simps out there, because I've got to tell you,
00:20:27.360 there's a simp epidemic right now.
00:20:29.120 And I think it's because mandem are so desperate right now.
00:20:31.600 Mandem, stop selling yourselves, innit?
00:20:34.080 Like, don't let yourself do the maddest for these hoes, because at the end of the day, 1.00
00:20:39.440 there are some good women out there who are going to respect you. 1.00
00:20:42.720 Actually, let me not even lie to you.
00:20:44.320 You've got to fix on yourself, innit?
00:20:46.080 Go to the gym, make some money, and all of that, innit?
00:20:48.960 But there are some women out there, but these Western countries, America, London, 1.00
00:20:54.000 and all that, social media messed up, all of that, you feel me?
00:20:57.520 Like, there's a lot of entitled women out there. 1.00
00:21:00.080 I'm not trying to get cancelled with anything, but I'm going to leave it at that.
00:21:04.560 Can I just add to your point?
00:21:06.080 I just think, you know, when going into a relationship, it's a partnership.
00:21:10.560 There has to be give and take, reciprocated energy, reciprocated ways of thinking.
00:21:15.600 If your mind has vision.
00:21:16.800 I don't want a partnership.
00:21:18.400 Okay, you don't want a partnership.
00:21:20.640 Equal partnership?
00:21:21.520 It's not equal.
00:21:24.240 I didn't say equal.
00:21:25.120 I said partnership.
00:21:26.080 And, you know, sometimes...
00:21:27.440 That's what a partnership is.
00:21:28.560 It's 50.
00:21:29.200 Partners are 50-50.
00:21:30.480 Now, sometimes your relationship, you could be 80.
00:21:33.360 Your partner could be 20.
00:21:34.960 You know, sometimes it's 50-50.
00:21:37.840 Sometimes it's 45.
00:21:39.760 You know, in reality, social media, I agree, has messed up a lot of things for you guys.
00:21:45.120 There's a lot of pressure on men to be financially, basically invincible.
00:21:51.200 As I say, Optimus Prime, when it comes to money.
00:21:53.760 Yeah.
00:21:54.160 Transformer and that.
00:21:55.840 Yeah.
00:21:56.320 And, you know, ladies, we do have to look at the men that try for us. 0.99
00:22:01.360 The men that really fight for us and push for us.
00:22:03.920 Mm-hmm.
00:22:04.480 You know, the simps are there.
00:22:06.000 You know, there's a lot of simps in the comments section.
00:22:08.000 And what can I say?
00:22:09.120 They're everywhere, but...
00:22:10.640 It's an epidemic.
00:22:11.840 It's an epidemic.
00:22:12.800 And with an epidemic, there's always a cure.
00:22:15.600 We have to look at the cure for these problems.
00:22:17.520 We have to represent the cure for the issues.
00:22:21.440 So we have to have good relationships.
00:22:23.440 We have to create those things to change the environment that we live in.
00:22:27.680 And just to...
00:22:28.480 Sorry to be all philosophical about it, but in reality, nothing's perfect.
00:22:32.800 So, you know, everybody has their own experience.
00:22:35.680 And we should, you know, enjoy our experience.
00:22:39.040 Wait, sorry.
00:22:39.520 May I ask you?
00:22:40.240 Which is nice what she's saying.
00:22:41.760 It's very nice.
00:22:42.480 The reality is very different.
00:22:43.760 Yeah, but...
00:22:44.480 Like, I'm serious.
00:22:45.280 In a real way.
00:22:46.240 Women live in possibilities, while men live in probabilities. 1.00
00:22:49.760 So, like, women... 1.00
00:22:50.960 We live in, like, this la-la land, where it's like... 1.00
00:22:52.960 Yeah, but...
00:22:53.520 No offense.
00:22:54.240 That sounds nice.
00:22:55.120 But, like, women get more and more delusional. 1.00
00:22:56.800 We get fatter.
00:22:57.520 We get less pure.
00:22:58.240 We get less of all the things that men value.
00:23:00.880 Men value purity.
00:23:03.200 They value youth.
00:23:04.240 And it's us.
00:23:05.040 It's not them.
00:23:05.760 Because women are older than ever before. 0.99
00:23:10.480 We're less pure.
00:23:11.200 I mean, like, a guy prays for less than five bodies. 0.98
00:23:13.600 How many bitches got five bodies by the time they're 31? 1.00
00:23:16.240 Which is the average age of first marriage in the UK. 0.99
00:23:18.160 Of course, of course.
00:23:19.040 But the reality is, yeah, less...
00:23:21.920 We can be pessimistic.
00:23:23.120 We can be negative.
00:23:24.400 You are in control of your life, right?
00:23:26.800 It's not negative looking at...
00:23:28.560 It's not negative looking at facts.
00:23:30.480 This is just facts.
00:23:31.600 But it is brutal for men out here.
00:23:34.080 I'm trying to...
00:23:34.880 Yeah, but it's always been brutal.
00:23:36.000 No, no, no, no.
00:23:36.720 Not like this.
00:23:37.520 Not like this.
00:23:38.320 I'm telling you.
00:23:39.040 No, no.
00:23:39.520 You know what the difference is?
00:23:40.480 I promise you.
00:23:41.440 He's brutal out here.
00:23:43.360 Take the sin, right?
00:23:44.000 I'm taking it in.
00:23:44.640 Like, these days, in 2022, right?
00:23:47.120 Yeah.
00:23:47.680 You, as a man,
00:23:48.880 if you look at your guilt,
00:23:50.000 and she's kind of putting a little bit of weight, 1.00
00:23:51.600 she's got a bit chubby and all that. 1.00
00:23:52.960 Yeah.
00:23:53.600 If you even dare to try and say anything,
00:23:57.840 and you dare to try to put it in public or whatever,
00:24:01.440 it's game over for me.
00:24:02.560 Even in society in which we live,
00:24:04.320 we have social media,
00:24:06.160 and I agree with you,
00:24:07.120 that validates things like,
00:24:08.800 oh, you're fat phobic because you said to your girl, 0.99
00:24:11.120 are you putting a bit of weight?
00:24:12.400 You know what?
00:24:12.880 If my man tells me I'm putting a bit of weight,
00:24:14.560 you know what I'm going to say?
00:24:15.440 Thank you for letting me know.
00:24:16.640 Because it's about so-
00:24:17.840 Yeah, like-
00:24:18.320 But I feel like-
00:24:19.520 But how many of them are that are out there?
00:24:20.080 Social media is not real.
00:24:21.520 Yeah.
00:24:22.080 Yeah.
00:24:22.720 Social media is not real.
00:24:24.400 I'm sorry that you don't know that there are women like this out here. 1.00
00:24:26.720 No, I don't-
00:24:27.200 It is brutal.
00:24:28.000 Like, they're calling a man walking nine to five broke.
00:24:31.040 But even, even, even-
00:24:32.240 I feel like-
00:24:33.040 I feel like-
00:24:33.680 Okay, okay, okay, guys, stop.
00:24:35.040 Guys, guys, stop.
00:24:36.160 One at a time.
00:24:36.800 One at a time.
00:24:37.600 One at a time.
00:24:38.720 Okay, we can only-
00:24:40.080 What's your-
00:24:40.640 What's your-
00:24:41.120 I just feel like the-
00:24:43.280 I understand-
00:24:43.840 I mean, I'm doing my best to be empathetic and just hear the other perspective.
00:24:48.240 Like, I, again, I'm going to push back on all of this.
00:24:52.080 I, if there are women, the most recent comment, if anyone's coming at you for having a job 1.00
00:24:57.680 or saying that you're broke because you work a nine to five, that person is quite literally delusional.
00:25:02.080 The woman who, like, that doesn't, that doesn't even make logical sense. 0.81
00:25:06.480 The girl who's saying, you need to spend, what, how much are Timberlands?
00:25:10.000 Like, 250?
00:25:10.960 Like, on half your income at what, 16 years old to buy me Timberlands.
00:25:16.240 Like, delusional.
00:25:17.200 Like, I cannot imagine.
00:25:19.280 Like, even me, I'm thinking back to my 16-year-old self.
00:25:21.520 I would quite literally, if, like, my 16-year-old boyfriend, if he, like, I couldn't imagine,
00:25:26.720 like, I just don't understand where these women are, and you can't make those generalizations across. 1.00
00:25:32.160 I'll give you, I'll give you some data, and then I'll give you something from this conversation.
00:25:35.760 Okay.
00:25:36.240 What, what percent of the time do you think women swipe right on dating apps? 1.00
00:25:39.760 50, 75.
00:25:41.360 Women swipe right? 1.00
00:25:42.160 Yeah, right.
00:25:42.720 So, yes.
00:25:43.440 Oh, like, I, like, 1 in 25, 1 in 50.
00:25:47.680 So, what is it?
00:25:50.480 Not often.
00:25:52.240 5 to 15% of the time.
00:25:54.160 Yeah.
00:25:54.480 15 is, like, the high end.
00:25:55.680 It's, it's typically closer to 5.
00:25:57.360 Yeah.
00:25:57.600 Because there's different apps.
00:25:59.120 What percent of the time do you think men swipe right on dating apps? 1.00
00:26:02.080 Well, they swipe, I mean, this is what they've told me.
00:26:03.760 They literally just swipe right on everyone, and then they just make their decision afterwards.
00:26:07.040 Right.
00:26:07.760 But, okay, okay, okay.
00:26:08.720 But think, think about this.
00:26:10.400 Why, why do they do that?
00:26:11.360 So they can see their options.
00:26:13.920 Okay, right.
00:26:15.040 Because women's standards are ridiculously high. 1.00
00:26:18.800 Right.
00:26:19.120 Yeah.
00:26:19.440 That's why they have to do that.
00:26:20.960 Women swipe right, or men swipe right, 45% of the time. 1.00
00:26:24.320 Oh.
00:26:25.360 So, so, so that's on top of that.
00:26:27.280 Okay.
00:26:27.520 Second of all, and, and, and I know you're saying like, where are these women?
00:26:31.520 But, but you're that woman because you want to know. 0.77
00:26:33.760 And, and wait, wait, and Rispah, you seem very nice.
00:26:37.600 But again, you're asking for a guy that makes more than you, which is 80 to, wait, wait.
00:26:44.160 80 to a hundred thousand dollars a year.
00:26:46.560 That's a top 10, 15% guy.
00:26:49.200 So, so, and then the question is, are you top 10, 15% girl?
00:26:52.800 Not money wise, but by the things that men value.
00:26:55.680 And so even you, you might not ask them to spend that money on you,
00:26:58.960 but you still want someone that's in the top 10, 15%.
00:27:01.520 And so women, we have these crazy high standards that men can't meet.
00:27:07.280 Uh, okay.
00:27:08.560 Can I respond?
00:27:09.120 Yeah, go ahead, go ahead.
00:27:09.680 Okay.
00:27:09.920 So I understand what you're saying.
00:27:11.920 Like we do have extremely high, like high expectations, values.
00:27:16.320 Oh, so sorry.
00:27:17.440 We do.
00:27:18.400 Okay.
00:27:18.800 Sorry.
00:27:19.200 This is good.
00:27:20.480 Hello.
00:27:21.120 Okay.
00:27:21.760 So yeah, we do have these, we do have high expectations.
00:27:24.960 And I, and I understand that I am that woman as well.
00:27:27.680 Like I want someone who can make, I, I would just,
00:27:32.320 prefer to make, to have a, to be dating someone that makes at least as much money as I make.
00:27:36.320 Because if I want to have a child, if I want to take some time off work, I don't want the child.
00:27:42.400 I just, I would feel more comfortable if both parties were bringing in around the same amount
00:27:46.560 of resources into the, into the family.
00:27:48.480 That's just what I would prefer, but we'll see what happens.
00:27:52.000 I understand the argument that you're making that, okay, we do have high standards.
00:27:56.240 However, this is like, I kind of going back to Kevin Samuels, which I,
00:28:01.600 literally like rest, make that man rest in peace.
00:28:03.600 But like, I could not, could not, could never, could do not.
00:28:06.880 Like maybe he rest in peace, but like, not a fan, not a fan.
00:28:10.000 Me and my girlfriends like would drag this man.
00:28:12.640 He did bring up some good points.
00:28:14.480 He did bring up some good points.
00:28:15.680 Like he, like a lot of the things that Kevin, like Samuels, like this whole narrative is like,
00:28:19.600 women have unrealistic standards and they're not willing to like make themselves or like, 1.00
00:28:24.000 not make themselves, but better themselves to like, so that they're attracted to those types of guys.
00:28:28.000 So a woman who doesn't go to the gym that often, a woman that doesn't have, you know, specific 0.99
00:28:32.880 attributes that the typical man would like, isn't even trying to even more, maybe more of herself,
00:28:39.840 but like highlight those things that she has, like talking about like being more feminine and things
00:28:43.120 like that. I understand that line of logic. And that's probably the only thing from Kevin
00:28:47.280 Samuels whole thing that I will get in line with, because I do think that's true.
00:28:51.760 You need to stay fit. You need to make sure that you're doing your job to like make yourself.
00:28:56.880 So it sounds like you agree with him.
00:28:58.640 That one point, that one point I agree with.
00:29:01.200 But it sounds like you can kind of see where I'm coming from when I say that women, we have too high 1.00
00:29:05.360 of standards. I mean, again, I'm not arguing with you, but I do.
00:29:08.080 It's like average women too. 1.00
00:29:10.560 Yeah. And I, I mean, that, that is sad. Like when you really think about it and like,
00:29:14.720 when you're talking about these, these statistics, like I think you take my taking myself out of it,
00:29:20.080 like thinking about like the 50 auroras, hundreds of, there's hundreds of like thousands of auroras
00:29:25.200 out there that are kind of my demographic. Right. And I, you know, when you think about the numbers,
00:29:31.040 that is kind of, you know, it is scary and sad.
00:29:33.360 And I just, I think Kevin's point is like, we can want what we want. That's fine. It's, it's, it's okay.
00:29:38.800 But like, if, if a, a guy that wasn't making any money wanted Beyonce, we would kind of laugh.
00:29:45.200 But like, as women, we can come forward and say, I want a top 10% guy and nobody's gonna, 0.94
00:29:50.480 nobody's gonna look at you twice. And it's, you know, I think like, would I prefer a guy that makes
00:29:55.520 more than me? Yeah. But do I think I'm going to get one? Probably not.
00:29:58.800 Well, I mean, I mean, it's also not, again, like, I don't remember who was saying it,
00:30:05.040 I apologize. But like, there's so much more that goes into like having a partner than like,
00:30:10.160 like uniquely the money. And I know what Kevin said is like, what men value is like,
00:30:14.000 femininity, if they're submissive, like sexual attractiveness, beauty, that type of stuff. 1.00
00:30:18.960 Women, we value money, being a provider, strength, like these heteronormative, 1.00
00:30:23.280 like, like, very clear gender lines. Can I ask you another question? How tall does he have to be?
00:30:29.520 So, you're, you seem like you're tall, what are you? I'm five, I'm five, six. Okay, I was like,
00:30:34.400 you seem a little tall. Yeah, I'm five, six. I, so this is my thing. My dad is six, eight. Okay.
00:30:39.920 So I have, I have, my mom is five, two. My mom is five, two. Yeah, my mom is five, two. I'm five,
00:30:47.680 six. I have two, my sister, my other sister's six feet. I have like, tall jeans. So I can afford,
00:30:54.800 like, my kids will be like, again, the whole natural selection thing. That's fine. Yeah,
00:30:58.080 so I, give me a height, give me a height. A minimum? A minimum. The thing is, no, no, no,
00:31:02.400 please, please. I don't have a minimum. I literally, I really don't. Like, I, I, I'll be honest,
00:31:07.840 like, like, objectively, I would prefer, like, my ideal man is six, two. So ideally,
00:31:12.320 ideal man is six, two. Okay. But I've liked guys that were my height before. Okay. So,
00:31:16.400 so your minimum, your minimum is five, six. Like, or let's just be honest, five, five, seven,
00:31:22.560 five, eight. Okay. So five, eight is acceptable, but you're not going to be super excited until,
00:31:28.960 unless he's six, two. Like excited about what? Like super attracted to him. Super,
00:31:34.080 like you really want six, two. I mean, ideally. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. So that,
00:31:40.000 that's, I want to feel small. No, that's, I'm not, I'm not, that's okay. I'm tall too. I want a tall man.
00:31:45.040 Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Do you want to be attracted to him? I would hope so. Okay. So, so let's take
00:31:52.320 10% of men make more than you. Yes. Now, half of them are below five, eight. So that's, that's 5% of
00:31:58.640 men. Okay. Now, now you're at 5%. Now you want to be attracted to him. Let's say half of them are ugly.
00:32:03.520 That's 2% of guys. And, and you have to compete and you might have to share because, because think
00:32:11.440 about it. If you, if you find him attractive and he has all the things you want, that means other
00:32:15.760 women want him. That means every girl in this room probably wants him. That doesn't mean you have to
00:32:19.680 share. It means you might, but this is, but this is, it still doesn't mean that you have. Okay. Okay.
00:32:25.520 Okay. Okay. And I'll, and I'll give you an example. I'll give you. So my dad is a top 1% earner,
00:32:29.520 half a percent. I grew up in these families or in, in that family, my dad didn't cheat, but my mom
00:32:36.240 got him when he was broke. So if you want to get him on that level, he's, he's, he's probably going
00:32:41.520 to cheat. You didn't help build it. Like you didn't help him get there. It's not that I want to think,
00:32:46.640 I don't, okay. I don't just say something like that. It's just because, okay. But like people,
00:32:51.040 like whether or not someone's going to cheat on their partner has nothing to do with the amount of
00:32:54.720 money that they think of their character. So, so, so, but okay. If, if someone, I just think
00:33:01.440 men are men and it's easy to say, like, let's take tiger woods. It's easy to say like, why,
00:33:06.800 you know, why did tiger woods cheat? But most men don't have a bus full of models waiting for them. 0.99
00:33:12.080 And I think most men, even, even good, great men with character, if they are in a position where women 1.00
00:33:17.840 are standing at the finish line, begging to have sex with them, they might do it. And that's where a lot of 0.96
00:33:22.800 the top 2% of men might be. This is what I always say. If you date an NBA player, basketball player,
00:33:29.360 I don't, I don't really feel bad. You get cheated on. Like, I don't, I don't. I mean,
00:33:33.120 again, cheating, but like, I will always go back to this when it comes to cheating, regardless,
00:33:36.720 like there's someone, there's a five, six man that'll cheat on someone who's unattractive.
00:33:40.080 There's a six, four, like beautiful man, like true. It has nothing to do with like how many women 0.73
00:33:45.120 that I'm in my opinion, everyone, someone's unfaithful in their relationship has everything to do
00:33:49.440 with their character and has everything to do with their choices. It has nothing to do with,
00:33:53.920 I, there's some men that like, so I can't get behind that.
00:33:56.800 But some men are more likely to do it. So if it meant, so this is, but this is, this is my point.
00:34:03.360 So now you want a top 2% guy that also won't cheat on you. This is a unicorn.
00:34:09.840 So even you, you're a nice woman, right? You're, you're pleasant, right? And I don't think you're 1.00
00:34:14.560 asking these men to be spend crazy amounts of money on you, but you're still a normal girl.
00:34:18.880 That's, that has, that's asking for a top 1% man. And this is, this is kind of like encompassing the
00:34:24.400 problem. Okay. And again, I understand when you break it down in that way. Yes. Like I can understand
00:34:30.480 like your line of logic, but again, I'm going to push back on say like all the same thing is inverse,
00:34:36.080 like for my partner, wherever he is in this world, like all those things, like I'm going to fit all those,
00:34:41.760 all those like boxes like that are against him as well. Like there's someone like I, and again,
00:34:47.520 like maybe I am being delusional, like, and that's fine because like, I'm happy to be delusional.
00:34:51.600 Most women are. Yeah. I'm happy to be delusional, but like I have, there's no doubt in my mind that 0.99
00:34:55.440 I'm going to be married and there's no doubt in my mind that my partner won't, you know, like I believe
00:34:59.440 and I pray that like, I'll have it like healthy with marriage. So here, here's the problem. Like what,
00:35:03.840 what do men want? So, so if they looked at, okay, Cupid, like what, when do men swipe right the most? 0.84
00:35:09.600 I don't know what that is. Like, okay, Cupid, it's a dating app. It's a dating app. Men swipe right
00:35:15.120 the most on women that are 18. I know that's, I know that ain't fun. And it slowly goes, so men like
00:35:21.920 youth, they like purity. And it's like. It gives control. It gives that they want someone they can
00:35:28.000 control. No, it doesn't mean that. But see, okay, okay, wait, wait, wait, but see, this is an example.
00:35:33.600 We remember we said, who are these women that are shaming these men? When men say they don't want a girl 0.99
00:35:38.160 that's slept around, you say, oh, it's because they want to control them. But that's, that's not
00:35:41.920 true. No, that's not what I'm saying. But like,
00:35:43.120 there are 40 year olds who are swiping on 18 year olds. Yeah. I didn't say, I didn't say how old.
00:35:47.280 I didn't say. Or it's like, like aggressive, like, I mean, like if you're saying, okay,
00:35:50.960 most men, so like men that are on dating apps, let's say they're between like, what, 25 and 45,
00:35:55.440 or like in their mid thirties, like swiping on 18 year olds, that girl doesn't have, 1.00
00:36:00.640 she has no life experience. Wait, wait, wait, I think, I think, okay, okay. But, but the point,
00:36:06.640 that's not the point I'm making. The point is that men are attracted to youth and purity. And the
00:36:10.800 problem is, and, and beauty, right. And like thin, thinner women are curvy, you know, you know, 1.00
00:36:15.520 slim, you know, and so the, like, the point is there's a million women that are pretty 1.00
00:36:22.560 and youthful. There's a new girl turning. It doesn't have to be 18. Let's give 22 every day.
00:36:26.480 Okay. And so we're comfortable. Yeah, we can, we can, there's some studies that have said 21,
00:36:31.040 22. I'm just giving you one that, that kind of shows the extreme. And so the, the point I'm making
00:36:36.560 is there's a lot of women that want the top 1% of men. And like, that's why most women are going to 1.00
00:36:43.120 be single and childless is because we all want the same guys. We want, we want a guy that makes money.
00:36:48.880 We also want to be attracted to him. We also don't want him to cheat on us. And it's like,
00:36:52.960 I mean, I understand that, but I think another part of that is just like,
00:36:55.680 women are like, are, which, I mean, the other side to that coin is like, why are women's standards 1.00
00:37:01.040 so high? It's because we've seen what happens again, like being children of divorce, like we've
00:37:05.200 seen how bad it can be when you don't have high standards. Like we've seen, so like, again, I,
00:37:11.040 I understand, like when we talk about like quality of life. What about the men?
00:37:14.640 Well, I mean, all these men, I mean, you're also like, that's the thing that's in the back of my mind.
00:37:18.560 You're like, oh, all these women are childless and dah, dah, dah. Well then also there's a large 1.00
00:37:22.560 percentage of men that are also growing. So like there's, who are these women potentially going 0.99
00:37:26.800 to marry? Like there's like not, so I mean, that's also another side to that. And I don't,
00:37:31.360 I can't like, I don't have the statistics or the computer in front of you. I don't,
00:37:34.160 but I remember like having conversation with someone about this actually on a date.
00:37:38.640 And he told me that like men between the ages of like single men, between the ages of like 32 and like
00:37:45.920 45 who are single or more are like, there's a specific demographic of men that are most,
00:37:50.880 most likely unfortunately to like unalive themselves. Whereas women are not like as likely. 0.95
00:37:56.800 You're, you're actually, you're correct. Like most of, throughout most of history,
00:38:01.120 men have not reproduced. Only 40% of men have reproduced historically. That's, that's always 0.91
00:38:06.240 been the way where 80% of women have reproduced historically or 90, 80 to 90% depends on who you
00:38:11.200 look at. So it's odd now that 50% of women will not reproduce. And, and now, and you said,
00:38:17.840 what will that mean for relationships moving forward as women raise and raise their standards? 1.00
00:38:21.840 It just means we're sharing guys. How do, how do relationships, no, think about it. I mean,
00:38:25.520 you, you probably been a side chick at some point. Do, do, how do, how do you really, no, no,
00:38:29.360 no. And I know this is good. This is crazy, but I'm going to explain it. Okay. How do relationships
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