Modern Women Can't HANDLE This Truth About Their CAREER
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In this episode, we discuss the importance of red flags and how to spot them in a potential partner. We talk about what we look for in a partner, how to deal with them and what to look out for.
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This, would I, would I like the example you set, say for anything, if we were to have
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children, if we were to do anything, would I think, hmm, my mum would approve of you.
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She'd say to me, oh yeah, you're so lucky to have someone that does this, or would she look
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at me a bit like, hmm. What, what red flags will you look for? Red flags? Yeah.
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Like what, is there a certain lifestyle of girls living that you're just like, hmm. So for,
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in, yeah, like for me, it'll be, if you look at the next person too much, if you see someone's
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wearing this kind of designer and you want it, and it's like you follow by example, you're not a
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leader. And that's just in terms of, I want someone that is a leader, you know what you want. And it's
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not because someone else is showing you, it's because you're like, I'm a visionary, I'm gonna
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set the example. And I feel like I always look for, are you leading by example? Are you being a
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sheep? I'm following because your friends see something and they're like, oh, I want this,
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this Balenciaga bag. So I want this and I'm going to spend it on this. And then you're like,
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you know what, rent's a bit tight this month. I can't pay it. And you're like, why? So I feel like
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I always look to the example of, would like, in my head, it's always, would my mum approve of you?
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Would my mum look at me and be like, I'm so proud of what you're doing. And the person you chose is
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your life partner. Because if it's not, then it's like, you can't stay. And obviously, I feel like
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people always change. So it's like, you never know at the start, it could start off really good. And you
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could be like, wow, like, you're so amazing. You're literally everything I imagined. But then
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obviously, everything's a facade. Sometimes when you get into relationship at the start, it's always
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people are going to present their best selves. Like we can all argue, you can get into a relationship
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and everyone's going to show they're a money man, they're a money girl, they're about their business.
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And then you can get six months, one year, three years into a relationship. And then they'll turn
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around and be like, you'll see the real them. It's not even them showing you, it will be, it all begins
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to fade naturally. And then I feel like it's always, you kind of see everything for yourself.
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And I feel that it's always important to, if you see a red flag, you need to leave. Even if it's,
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I'm not saying straight away, you're like, oh, red flag, let me jump out and run away now. It's like,
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if it can, if it happens continuously, you either bring it up or you leave. And I feel that a lot of
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people in our generation, they might decide to stay. And they will look at that red flag,
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ignore it. And then you're always just going to be in a cycle. And I feel that that's what past
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generations have done. You've seen a cycle, you've been brought up in an atmosphere where
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it's always been, well, if you see a red flag, it's fine, because you always look at, oh,
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they bring money to the table. And I feel that we always need to, in this generation, ignore
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red flags, like not ignore red flags. We need to address them. I feel that it's always important
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to address something that is bothering us. Because in past generations, they'll tell you,
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yeah, we've been married for 65 years. And then you're like, okay, so what red flags were brought
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up and you chose to ignore? Because I feel that that's always an important question to, like,
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I feel that's always an important question to address. And I feel like, oh, it's more among the,
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like, the younger kind of generation is like, we will, the younger generation will start jobs,
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quit them and be like, it's not what I want. And I feel like the older generation are always the
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ones telling you, oh, we need to stick it out. We need to, you need to be, you can work in like
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Sainsbury's and they'll be like, you need to stack them shelves. You need to be like one of the best
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and you need to stay at the job and do this and that. And then the younger generation will be like,
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nah, I will skip this. Yeah. So what about you spending habits? Have you ever
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passed over a girl for spending, because she has bad spending habits? Yeah. I mean, I mean,
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I've had experiences of that. I'm staying away from that. Never going back to that. Just because
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I think that someone that has a bad spending habit and relies on you to, to, to support that,
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it's like a sinking shit. Do you know what I mean? What, what was your experience with that?
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Well, she just wanted you to pay for everything. No, I don't mind pay for it. I've never gone on
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a date where a lady, I've split the bill before in my life. It's just not the way I was. What about
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one girl say? Um, you can't afford me. Oh God. Thanks for letting me know. I run. I run. Like,
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I literally run. Safe, let me know. Like, I really literally just run away from those kind of women.
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There is a Tik Tok I saw where it was like the girl and the guy, it was like two UPS workers. And
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the girl was like, you can't afford me. And he's like, we have the same job.
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It's funny, but sorry, go ahead. No, it's always the way they try to make you feel less than a man
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because of, of wherever you can't take them to buy them whatever fancy bag or like, you know,
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take them to a proper nightclub or something like that. And I walked in the night, nightlife for like
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10 years and I saw the sort of, the sort of facade. If a girl is really about money, then she can be
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easily bought. That's my opinion. She can be easily bought by the next person. So if
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you even spending a couple, dropping a couple of bags on her, it just,
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all it takes is a, is a bigger man to come and he'll take her. So she was never yours.
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It was just your turn to the car. Do you know what I'm saying?
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what the men in the swim, like, what would you define as a,
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you have priorities. Do you see what I'm saying? Oh, is my rent paid? Is my bills paid?
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Is everything that I need to carry on this month sorted out before I go off and buy lavish,
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uh, nights out with my girls or, uh, shoes or clothes or, do you know what I mean?
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So let's just say those priorities are in order for a particular woman,
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what are these certain things you have to specify?
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Like just to say she wants to go out to a certain restaurant and she expects you to pay for that.
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what has she done in the relationship to say that I,
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so it requires her to be at a certain status in the relationship.
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I only see you on the weekends and you bring nothing really to my life,
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except for you getting done up and wanting to go out to fancy restaurants,
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that's a no, you know, if you're somebody who, who,
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if you know what I'm doing and you know what I'm about,
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because you spend that sort of time with me and I tell you about my business and you go,
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I might know somebody or how can I help or whatever, whatever.
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um, they like won't date girls if they feel like their lifestyle is too expensive.
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My brothers, they all make six figures and they can,
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they can afford, like they could afford a lot for a woman,
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but like if a girl comes in expecting of them to pay for all their shit and like,
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I don't know, they just won't, it's just too much of a headache for them.
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Potential holes as a man, potential holes in this in your,
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If you're a man and the ship represents you, those are,
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what you have to look at is in long term about how that woman is.
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You know how, like if she's like that and she's moved, especially through social media.
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She's really like, you know, socially conditioned to move by what was going on in social media.
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She's going to put, put, put holes in your shit.
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I feel like it's harder to maintain financial kind of like expectation than like emotional and like,
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So if you go into relationship, the kind of emotional expectation you expect, you,
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you know, it's coming, you know, sometimes women will expect a certain thing,
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but if you're making a certain amount of money and women are like,
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ah, we need to go on dates and you need to pay for everything.
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And then you're going to look at it like it's a bit much.
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No, I'm just like hearing these scenarios and I would never go in to a relationship with
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So I, maybe it's an, I mean, so I'm, I mean, I'm just as like a genuine quick,
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Like, I actually never really think to ask my guy friends these things.
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So this is interesting to hear a guy's perspective.
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But you know, everything that we've said has been generalized.
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And this is, and I think that this is the thing.
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It's, it's a huge, it's a huge, um, character trait of, of women in America, especially.
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I mean, this is where it's all popularized from the music, the, the hip hop lifestyle,
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So a lot, most of the times when I ask girls how much they want a guy to make that they would
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take seriously, it, it's typically more than what they make.
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Well, I would prefer to date someone that made at least what I make, preferably more.
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But like, I would probably fit into that category.
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But the problem is like, um, like what do you make over 75,000?
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In the U S I made over a hundred and that was like six months ago.
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It's kind of like if a guy tells us he has a shoe collection, it's kind of cool,
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I mean, I understand your perspective and I'm not saying that you're wrong, but like
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Kyra, what he was saying earlier about this generation, like we were being cognizant of
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Like the conversations I'm having with my friends, like my peers, my friends who make
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over six figures, like my male and female friends, like we are thinking about like all
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That's the, those are types of conversations we're having.
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We're talking about who we're, what we're investing in, what stocks.
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That's like what's happening within my social circles.
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So like the problem is women, women talk about it, but like the data doesn't stack up.
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Women's how much more you think a woman spends in a lifetime than a man, even though we make less.
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I'm sure we like, I'm not arguing with like whether or not we spend, like, that's not
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But what I am saying is that you said that men don't care about what women, how much you make.
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And I'm saying, at least within my social circles, I haven't found that to be the case.
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Because men that I have communicated with, men that I've chatted to, you guys have dated,
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especially black men, like we want to build generational wealth.
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Like we've seen, we've experienced what happens when that is not the forefront of the, of like
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So we talk about goals, like financial goals that we have, like together.
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Like I, so I, at least that's what I've converse.
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So like when I have those, those types of standards or wants, I should say,
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but I would like for a guy to make at least what I make.
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Um, so I'm, I'm curious, um, the guys that you're talking to, are they your friends?
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I mean, not again, I took a pay cut to come to the UK.
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They're, they're probably trying to sleep with you.
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I mean, I don't think all my friends are trying to sleep with you now.
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Your, your, your platonic guy, no, no, no, no, no, no, wait, wait, wait, wait,
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You ain't gonna, you ain't gonna tell her, right?
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If they'd say no, cause what if I'm, I'm not interested in them either.
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Wait, wait, wait, you can, you can tell them later.
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You can tell them, no, you can tell them it was a joke.
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I don't, I don't feel comfortable with that, dude.
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I don't even want to know the answer to that question.
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The point, the point, the point I'm making though is like, okay,
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if a guy's a CEO of a company, that's like sexy to women.
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And then this isn't to be political, but like Melinda or Melania, Melania and Donald Trump.
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Like she, she's obviously better looking than him.
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Why is she like clearly, clearly, but why is she attracted him?
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I understand where your line of thought is going.
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Right, but, but there's no men that are lined up to date Oprah.
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No, no, even if she was single, like there's men, Margot Robbie is married,
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Like Zendaya is dating the Tom Holland dude, but she, she's beautiful.
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There's men that want to date her, but it's nothing to do with their money.
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If she's, if she's hot and she has money, they're like, okay, cool.
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But, but it's not like they're attracted to you for your money.
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Like, I mean, I'm obviously like there's, it's multidimensional.
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Like there are a lot of things that go into attraction.
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Like, but again, I'm used to have this conversation of women expect or want men to make a certain
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And then you said the percentile of like what the, those owners would be.
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And I maintain what I said earlier in that there is a specific demographic of young professionals
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who are taking what each, their partner brings to the table into account outside of sexual attraction.
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So, but the, the issue, wait, the issue is that when the, the more a woman makes,
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and I'm in this category too, like the more a woman makes, the more likely we are to be single.
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I know that's, I know that's like, that's true.
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Like, I, I didn't think about that like myself, like, uh, how far do I want to go in my career?
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Because the further I go in my firm, the least, the less, which is sad.
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Like, I mean, that's like the less likely a man will want to be with me.
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Because like, because I like, that's just like, I'm literally like pricing myself out
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Because, because our, our pool gets smaller and smaller and those men.
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And those, and those men want younger, hotter, tighter.
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No, I mean, like that's, I mean, I'm not going to argue with you.
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Like, I, I, I, I wish like they cared, but they don't.
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So some, this isn't, in my mind, isn't stacking up, right?
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You're having conversations with your peers, guys, friends, all in the same sort of social circle,
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Um, you guys are talking about how to come together.
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Um, I'm, I'm, I'm making an assumption heterosexually.
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Um, but at the same time, in the very beginning, we said, what would it take for you to move in with a man?
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And you, and you were pretty much like, I would rather run away.
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But on the other hand, you're talking in your social circles about how to come together.
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So when we talked about what, what are the two, the two extreme options?
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Would I be rather be financially dependent on someone and move in with a man or what I live
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And I chose living with a roommate because I wouldn't want that type of strain to be in my relationship.
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Would you depend on a man like once you have kids?
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So you'd be okay with depending on a man after you're married?
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And I would hope that he would also depend, like that's, you depend on each other.
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Um, the, you ever dumped a girl because of financial, like just bad spending habits?
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Um, so I'm going to say this in a Christian perspective,
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Uh, uh, so this girl is the first time that I'm going into a relationship and I'm still a
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virgin and I'm a virgin because yes, I'm a virgin because I have to be a virgin.
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Because in this day and age, I'm telling in this day and age, I can't be near any woman who
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like, I'm not saying this is, this is like the general of women who are like this, but, um,
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um, they have their expectations too high and I, I just don't want to mess with, with, with that.
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And, uh, the other, the other thing I would say is, um, uh, what I was about to say.
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So in terms of like spending habits, um, I never had really to worry about that.
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But if, if I let's in a hypothetical, um, uh, scenario,
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uh, if she had this spending habits of like going to designers shops and buying jewelry here and then,
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or like, you know, like not, not having, uh, um, a goal in life in like, I wouldn't invest in this,
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this and such instead of she, she's going to invest in something that it's like, like you said,
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So I prefer to be a version and wait to, to be with a woman that actually respects my decision.
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It respects, um, that, um, being financially responsible.
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Um, just to clarify, you were asking about if females have like a bad spending habit.
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If you've ever dated a girl with bad spending habits and that was a red flag.
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And, um, there was this one girl I was with and sorry, I remember this one day where she
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really wanted to buy, uh, she wanted me to buy her Timberlands in it.
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And I, I was working a normal job when I was making like 500 a month or whatever in it.
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And from that moment on, I realized there's a major red flag.
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Why are you expecting me to buy your Timberlands?
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And ladies, I don't think many women these days understand, right?
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If you are a submissive, sorry, submissive, feminine woman who is friendly, right?
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And I think that is the only time as a woman, you can kind of ask a man to be fully like,
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you know, provide for you and all of that, because the power of being feminine and being
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Like, if I'm with a girl and she wants to go out with her friends and she's telling me,
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I know it shows my boobies and all of that, but I just feel confident in it.
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It's happened to me in the past, but I can tell you right now,
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It might trigger some people, but she asked me if it's okay for her to wear ripped jeans.
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Like, and it's a whole different type of relationship.
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And I'm telling you, mandem, all you simps out there, because I've got to tell you,
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And I think it's because mandem are so desperate right now.
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Like, don't let yourself do the maddest for these hoes, because at the end of the day,
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there are some good women out there who are going to respect you.
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Go to the gym, make some money, and all of that, innit?
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But there are some women out there, but these Western countries, America, London,
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and all that, social media messed up, all of that, you feel me?
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Like, there's a lot of entitled women out there.
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I'm not trying to get cancelled with anything, but I'm going to leave it at that.
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I just think, you know, when going into a relationship, it's a partnership.
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There has to be give and take, reciprocated energy, reciprocated ways of thinking.
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Now, sometimes your relationship, you could be 80.
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You know, in reality, social media, I agree, has messed up a lot of things for you guys.
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There's a lot of pressure on men to be financially, basically invincible.
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As I say, Optimus Prime, when it comes to money.
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And, you know, ladies, we do have to look at the men that try for us.
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The men that really fight for us and push for us.
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You know, there's a lot of simps in the comments section.
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We have to look at the cure for these problems.
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We have to create those things to change the environment that we live in.
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Sorry to be all philosophical about it, but in reality, nothing's perfect.
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So, you know, everybody has their own experience.
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Women live in possibilities, while men live in probabilities.
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We live in, like, this la-la land, where it's like...
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I mean, like, a guy prays for less than five bodies.
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How many bitches got five bodies by the time they're 31?
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Which is the average age of first marriage in the UK.
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and she's kind of putting a little bit of weight,
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and you dare to try to put it in public or whatever,
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oh, you're fat phobic because you said to your girl,
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If my man tells me I'm putting a bit of weight,
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I'm sorry that you don't know that there are women like this out here.
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Like, they're calling a man walking nine to five broke.
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I mean, I'm doing my best to be empathetic and just hear the other perspective.
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Like, I, again, I'm going to push back on all of this.
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I, if there are women, the most recent comment, if anyone's coming at you for having a job
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or saying that you're broke because you work a nine to five, that person is quite literally delusional.
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The woman who, like, that doesn't, that doesn't even make logical sense.
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The girl who's saying, you need to spend, what, how much are Timberlands?
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Like, on half your income at what, 16 years old to buy me Timberlands.
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Like, even me, I'm thinking back to my 16-year-old self.
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I would quite literally, if, like, my 16-year-old boyfriend, if he, like, I couldn't imagine,
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like, I just don't understand where these women are, and you can't make those generalizations across.
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I'll give you, I'll give you some data, and then I'll give you something from this conversation.
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What, what percent of the time do you think women swipe right on dating apps?
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What percent of the time do you think men swipe right on dating apps?
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Well, they swipe, I mean, this is what they've told me.
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They literally just swipe right on everyone, and then they just make their decision afterwards.
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Because women's standards are ridiculously high.
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Women swipe right, or men swipe right, 45% of the time.
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Second of all, and, and, and I know you're saying like, where are these women?
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But, but you're that woman because you want to know.
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And, and wait, wait, and Rispah, you seem very nice.
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But again, you're asking for a guy that makes more than you, which is 80 to, wait, wait.
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So, so, and then the question is, are you top 10, 15% girl?
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Not money wise, but by the things that men value.
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And so even you, you might not ask them to spend that money on you,
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but you still want someone that's in the top 10, 15%.
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And so women, we have these crazy high standards that men can't meet.
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Like we do have extremely high, like high expectations, values.
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So yeah, we do have these, we do have high expectations.
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And I, and I understand that I am that woman as well.
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Like I want someone who can make, I, I would just,
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prefer to make, to have a, to be dating someone that makes at least as much money as I make.
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Because if I want to have a child, if I want to take some time off work, I don't want the child.
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I just, I would feel more comfortable if both parties were bringing in around the same amount
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That's just what I would prefer, but we'll see what happens.
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I understand the argument that you're making that, okay, we do have high standards.
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However, this is like, I kind of going back to Kevin Samuels, which I,
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literally like rest, make that man rest in peace.
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But like, I could not, could not, could never, could do not.
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Like maybe he rest in peace, but like, not a fan, not a fan.
00:28:10.000
Me and my girlfriends like would drag this man.
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Like he, like a lot of the things that Kevin, like Samuels, like this whole narrative is like,
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women have unrealistic standards and they're not willing to like make themselves or like,
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not make themselves, but better themselves to like, so that they're attracted to those types of guys.
00:28:28.000
So a woman who doesn't go to the gym that often, a woman that doesn't have, you know, specific
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attributes that the typical man would like, isn't even trying to even more, maybe more of herself,
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but like highlight those things that she has, like talking about like being more feminine and things
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like that. I understand that line of logic. And that's probably the only thing from Kevin
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Samuels whole thing that I will get in line with, because I do think that's true.
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You need to stay fit. You need to make sure that you're doing your job to like make yourself.
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But it sounds like you can kind of see where I'm coming from when I say that women, we have too high
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of standards. I mean, again, I'm not arguing with you, but I do.
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Yeah. And I, I mean, that, that is sad. Like when you really think about it and like,
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when you're talking about these, these statistics, like I think you take my taking myself out of it,
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like thinking about like the 50 auroras, hundreds of, there's hundreds of like thousands of auroras
00:29:25.200
out there that are kind of my demographic. Right. And I, you know, when you think about the numbers,
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that is kind of, you know, it is scary and sad.
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And I just, I think Kevin's point is like, we can want what we want. That's fine. It's, it's, it's okay.
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But like, if, if a, a guy that wasn't making any money wanted Beyonce, we would kind of laugh.
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But like, as women, we can come forward and say, I want a top 10% guy and nobody's gonna,
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nobody's gonna look at you twice. And it's, you know, I think like, would I prefer a guy that makes
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more than me? Yeah. But do I think I'm going to get one? Probably not.
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Well, I mean, I mean, it's also not, again, like, I don't remember who was saying it,
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I apologize. But like, there's so much more that goes into like having a partner than like,
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like uniquely the money. And I know what Kevin said is like, what men value is like,
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femininity, if they're submissive, like sexual attractiveness, beauty, that type of stuff.
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Women, we value money, being a provider, strength, like these heteronormative,
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like, like, very clear gender lines. Can I ask you another question? How tall does he have to be?
00:30:29.520
So, you're, you seem like you're tall, what are you? I'm five, I'm five, six. Okay, I was like,
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you seem a little tall. Yeah, I'm five, six. I, so this is my thing. My dad is six, eight. Okay.
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So I have, I have, my mom is five, two. My mom is five, two. Yeah, my mom is five, two. I'm five,
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six. I have two, my sister, my other sister's six feet. I have like, tall jeans. So I can afford,
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like, my kids will be like, again, the whole natural selection thing. That's fine. Yeah,
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so I, give me a height, give me a height. A minimum? A minimum. The thing is, no, no, no,
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please, please. I don't have a minimum. I literally, I really don't. Like, I, I, I'll be honest,
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like, like, objectively, I would prefer, like, my ideal man is six, two. So ideally,
00:31:12.320
ideal man is six, two. Okay. But I've liked guys that were my height before. Okay. So,
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so your minimum, your minimum is five, six. Like, or let's just be honest, five, five, seven,
00:31:22.560
five, eight. Okay. So five, eight is acceptable, but you're not going to be super excited until,
00:31:28.960
unless he's six, two. Like excited about what? Like super attracted to him. Super,
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like you really want six, two. I mean, ideally. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. So that,
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that's, I want to feel small. No, that's, I'm not, I'm not, that's okay. I'm tall too. I want a tall man.
00:31:45.040
Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Do you want to be attracted to him? I would hope so. Okay. So, so let's take
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10% of men make more than you. Yes. Now, half of them are below five, eight. So that's, that's 5% of
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men. Okay. Now, now you're at 5%. Now you want to be attracted to him. Let's say half of them are ugly.
00:32:03.520
That's 2% of guys. And, and you have to compete and you might have to share because, because think
00:32:11.440
about it. If you, if you find him attractive and he has all the things you want, that means other
00:32:15.760
women want him. That means every girl in this room probably wants him. That doesn't mean you have to
00:32:19.680
share. It means you might, but this is, but this is, it still doesn't mean that you have. Okay. Okay.
00:32:25.520
Okay. Okay. And I'll, and I'll give you an example. I'll give you. So my dad is a top 1% earner,
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half a percent. I grew up in these families or in, in that family, my dad didn't cheat, but my mom
00:32:36.240
got him when he was broke. So if you want to get him on that level, he's, he's, he's probably going
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to cheat. You didn't help build it. Like you didn't help him get there. It's not that I want to think,
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I don't, okay. I don't just say something like that. It's just because, okay. But like people,
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like whether or not someone's going to cheat on their partner has nothing to do with the amount of
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money that they think of their character. So, so, so, but okay. If, if someone, I just think
00:33:01.440
men are men and it's easy to say, like, let's take tiger woods. It's easy to say like, why,
00:33:06.800
you know, why did tiger woods cheat? But most men don't have a bus full of models waiting for them.
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And I think most men, even, even good, great men with character, if they are in a position where women
00:33:17.840
are standing at the finish line, begging to have sex with them, they might do it. And that's where a lot of
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the top 2% of men might be. This is what I always say. If you date an NBA player, basketball player,
00:33:29.360
I don't, I don't really feel bad. You get cheated on. Like, I don't, I don't. I mean,
00:33:33.120
again, cheating, but like, I will always go back to this when it comes to cheating, regardless,
00:33:36.720
like there's someone, there's a five, six man that'll cheat on someone who's unattractive.
00:33:40.080
There's a six, four, like beautiful man, like true. It has nothing to do with like how many women
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that I'm in my opinion, everyone, someone's unfaithful in their relationship has everything to do
00:33:49.440
with their character and has everything to do with their choices. It has nothing to do with,
00:33:53.920
I, there's some men that like, so I can't get behind that.
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But some men are more likely to do it. So if it meant, so this is, but this is, this is my point.
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So now you want a top 2% guy that also won't cheat on you. This is a unicorn.
00:34:09.840
So even you, you're a nice woman, right? You're, you're pleasant, right? And I don't think you're
00:34:14.560
asking these men to be spend crazy amounts of money on you, but you're still a normal girl.
00:34:18.880
That's, that has, that's asking for a top 1% man. And this is, this is kind of like encompassing the
00:34:24.400
problem. Okay. And again, I understand when you break it down in that way. Yes. Like I can understand
00:34:30.480
like your line of logic, but again, I'm going to push back on say like all the same thing is inverse,
00:34:36.080
like for my partner, wherever he is in this world, like all those things, like I'm going to fit all those,
00:34:41.760
all those like boxes like that are against him as well. Like there's someone like I, and again,
00:34:47.520
like maybe I am being delusional, like, and that's fine because like, I'm happy to be delusional.
00:34:51.600
Most women are. Yeah. I'm happy to be delusional, but like I have, there's no doubt in my mind that
00:34:55.440
I'm going to be married and there's no doubt in my mind that my partner won't, you know, like I believe
00:34:59.440
and I pray that like, I'll have it like healthy with marriage. So here, here's the problem. Like what,
00:35:03.840
what do men want? So, so if they looked at, okay, Cupid, like what, when do men swipe right the most?
00:35:09.600
I don't know what that is. Like, okay, Cupid, it's a dating app. It's a dating app. Men swipe right
00:35:15.120
the most on women that are 18. I know that's, I know that ain't fun. And it slowly goes, so men like
00:35:21.920
youth, they like purity. And it's like. It gives control. It gives that they want someone they can
00:35:28.000
control. No, it doesn't mean that. But see, okay, okay, wait, wait, wait, but see, this is an example.
00:35:33.600
We remember we said, who are these women that are shaming these men? When men say they don't want a girl
00:35:38.160
that's slept around, you say, oh, it's because they want to control them. But that's, that's not
00:35:41.920
true. No, that's not what I'm saying. But like,
00:35:43.120
there are 40 year olds who are swiping on 18 year olds. Yeah. I didn't say, I didn't say how old.
00:35:47.280
I didn't say. Or it's like, like aggressive, like, I mean, like if you're saying, okay,
00:35:50.960
most men, so like men that are on dating apps, let's say they're between like, what, 25 and 45,
00:35:55.440
or like in their mid thirties, like swiping on 18 year olds, that girl doesn't have,
00:36:00.640
she has no life experience. Wait, wait, wait, I think, I think, okay, okay. But, but the point,
00:36:06.640
that's not the point I'm making. The point is that men are attracted to youth and purity. And the
00:36:10.800
problem is, and, and beauty, right. And like thin, thinner women are curvy, you know, you know,
00:36:15.520
slim, you know, and so the, like, the point is there's a million women that are pretty
00:36:22.560
and youthful. There's a new girl turning. It doesn't have to be 18. Let's give 22 every day.
00:36:26.480
Okay. And so we're comfortable. Yeah, we can, we can, there's some studies that have said 21,
00:36:31.040
22. I'm just giving you one that, that kind of shows the extreme. And so the, the point I'm making
00:36:36.560
is there's a lot of women that want the top 1% of men. And like, that's why most women are going to
00:36:43.120
be single and childless is because we all want the same guys. We want, we want a guy that makes money.
00:36:48.880
We also want to be attracted to him. We also don't want him to cheat on us. And it's like,
00:36:52.960
I mean, I understand that, but I think another part of that is just like,
00:36:55.680
women are like, are, which, I mean, the other side to that coin is like, why are women's standards
00:37:01.040
so high? It's because we've seen what happens again, like being children of divorce, like we've
00:37:05.200
seen how bad it can be when you don't have high standards. Like we've seen, so like, again, I,
00:37:11.040
I understand, like when we talk about like quality of life. What about the men?
00:37:14.640
Well, I mean, all these men, I mean, you're also like, that's the thing that's in the back of my mind.
00:37:18.560
You're like, oh, all these women are childless and dah, dah, dah. Well then also there's a large
00:37:22.560
percentage of men that are also growing. So like there's, who are these women potentially going
00:37:26.800
to marry? Like there's like not, so I mean, that's also another side to that. And I don't,
00:37:31.360
I can't like, I don't have the statistics or the computer in front of you. I don't,
00:37:34.160
but I remember like having conversation with someone about this actually on a date.
00:37:38.640
And he told me that like men between the ages of like single men, between the ages of like 32 and like
00:37:45.920
45 who are single or more are like, there's a specific demographic of men that are most,
00:37:50.880
most likely unfortunately to like unalive themselves. Whereas women are not like as likely.
00:37:56.800
You're, you're actually, you're correct. Like most of, throughout most of history,
00:38:01.120
men have not reproduced. Only 40% of men have reproduced historically. That's, that's always
00:38:06.240
been the way where 80% of women have reproduced historically or 90, 80 to 90% depends on who you
00:38:11.200
look at. So it's odd now that 50% of women will not reproduce. And, and now, and you said,
00:38:17.840
what will that mean for relationships moving forward as women raise and raise their standards?
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It just means we're sharing guys. How do, how do relationships, no, think about it. I mean,
00:38:25.520
you, you probably been a side chick at some point. Do, do, how do, how do you really, no, no,
00:38:29.360
no. And I know this is good. This is crazy, but I'm going to explain it. Okay. How do relationships
00:38:33.840
start sex or, or a relationship? What usually comes as many of you know, I was just banned on
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