JustPearlyThings - July 04, 2023


Modern Women Create TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

189.69

Word count

1,622

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

6

sentences flagged

Toxicity

3

sentences flagged

Hate speech

2

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Summary

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In this episode, I have a very special guest on the show who is a mother of two, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, and a daughter-in-law. She shares her experience of leaving a toxic toxic relationship and how she dealt with it. I hope this episode sheds some light on the topic of toxic relationships and how to deal with them.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
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00:00:00.480 in my opinion uh the woman coming to the relationship with many reasons either i'm
00:00:09.600 finding it really hard to keep a straight face i'm sorry i'm finding this so hilarious uh either
00:00:15.840 they want to fill the gap in their life because they feel they are not enough at themselves
00:00:23.760 or they either they want to add something to their life they think i'm good i'm in a good
00:00:29.040 point i know myself i work on myself i'm fulfilled you know i don't need someone else to give me that
00:00:36.480 positive energy you know bring something to me but i want i would love to someone come to my life
00:00:42.640 as a man and add something like when the child coming add something and a good friends coming
00:00:47.840 add something and you have a good brother and sister they add something to our life
00:00:52.560 and the same uh the the the men and women can go out of the relationship for many reasons
00:00:59.920 it can be because they are not compatible because there is first of the time you know when they
00:01:05.200 meet each other or with each other there's a lot of hormone engage and when the hormone suppressed 0.87
00:01:10.800 during the time they said oh she is not thinking like me he is not behaving the way i want you know
00:01:17.200 we are two different personalities doesn't mean if we are good or bad we are just different
00:01:22.320 or negative things they are cheating um they are you know at the really to the point that's you know
00:01:31.120 we don't want each other we don't like each other anymore yeah but i yeah i under i understand that
00:01:35.520 that happens but i just don't think it's a good reason when you have kids what do you mean because
00:01:40.000 kids are more likely to go to prison they're more likely to drop out of school they're more likely to be
00:01:43.600 abused by a step-parent because when we talk about growing apart it's like you're going to divorce
00:01:48.880 over growing apart when you have a kid because it's not supposed to be about you it's supposed to
00:01:52.880 be about the kid oh my god i'll give you my if i give you my example my son is at university at
00:01:58.880 warwick university i left my husband i'm not i'm not talking about you though like this is like a
00:02:03.600 lot of times people take this stuff personally what i'm saying is um in fact both my kids said to
00:02:10.320 me and that's a feedback given to a parent by the children is mom i cannot believe you stayed
00:02:16.480 in that relationship for so long we are so happy you did that they even try to approach their dad
00:02:22.160 but what i'm saying is um there is a perspective towards it but can i interrupt i have to interrupt
00:02:28.800 because i have two children i've i've seen witnessed everything i know the world i know everyone for a
00:02:34.080 child not having a personal dig at anyone hypothetically speaking for a child i'm a mom of
00:02:40.080 two for a child to come to a parent and say mom i can't believe you stayed with dad it's like what
00:02:47.040 have you said to that child for that child to say that to you it should not have witnessed it should
00:02:52.640 love his mom and dad equally it that's what you call narcissistic toxic abuse feeding it to the 0.93
00:02:59.520 children at its highest level it depends what the children are human beings they are observant as
00:03:05.120 well 20 and as a good mother as a good i'm sorry don't raise my voice i have a microphone but as a
00:03:10.720 good mother you tell that child it's your father have a good relation healthy relationship with that
00:03:15.840 father and even if it's toxic hang on hang on even if it's sorry i haven't finished my point let me
00:03:21.040 finish my point i tell my children whenever your father is ready go and meet him it's not personal
00:03:27.200 i was hyped i know but what are you are trying to say is i have always put positive projection
00:03:33.840 towards your dad i said he gave you birth he has done his job after that there is no responsibility
00:03:39.360 of him what do you what do you mean that's not positive projection that he no i mean like positive
00:03:45.200 projection is he's an honorable man he's a good man he gave birth to you no no i mean when they feel the
00:03:52.960 need of uh he's not financially there he's not physically he doesn't have to be why does the
00:03:58.480 kid know if he's not financially there why does a man have to be there but why does a man have to be
00:04:04.400 the financial financier why does he have to he doesn't have to but what i'm saying is did you marry
00:04:11.440 someone parents responsible no no no it's it's both parents responsibility but what i'm saying is during
00:04:17.360 covid time my son decided to approach his dad his dad was so bitter that he got he came back to me
00:04:25.440 and i said what happened like you know go and talk to him why why was the dad bitter he was just bitter
00:04:31.440 and angry but why with me why for leaving him okay so he was angry that you left him yeah isn't that a
00:04:37.760 valid reason to be angry yeah i had it absolutely it will it should be a valid reason for him to angry
00:04:43.760 but what i'm saying is staying in a relationship where you are miserable and making he is miserable
00:04:49.840 as well is not healthy for him but i think this is the problem this is such a modern this is such a
00:04:55.040 modern mindset it's like marriage isn't supposed to be about your happiness your happiness is going to
00:05:00.240 come and go like and you shouldn't rely on another person to make you happy if you don't have no
00:05:05.760 communication with somebody my marriage was an arranged marriage i never spoke to the guy on our
00:05:11.120 wedding night i i never i only met him once before i got married to him so 18 years living with
00:05:17.120 somebody who doesn't speak to you and you're just living in a house and sleeping together he never
00:05:21.680 talked to you ever no it's literally just about no i mean like you guys never had conversations like
00:05:26.800 this isn't 18 years exactly you can live with somebody for but but i think but i think a lot of
00:05:32.320 times as women like we put our expectations on men but can i say men don't communicate but men
00:05:37.520 but like wait wait but when men don't communicate the same way we do like men just want to sit like
00:05:42.160 they don't want to talk to us but he was from a different place i was born i was born around six
00:05:47.360 brothers in pakistan so my my my context about men was very different to his context of a woman a modern
00:05:57.680 woman from england right so it was but we never communicated with each other for 18 years now what i know
00:06:04.000 if i've known that 18 years ago that relationship would have stayed for life but what i'm i'm sorry
00:06:09.200 to cut you off this is just getting a bit out of control i agree uh viewers this is what happens
00:06:14.800 when it's only ladies having a conversation in a room so please every please everybody please everybody
00:06:21.600 just let's ladies let's just try to have a coherent conversation i think it's very sexist to talk like
00:06:26.800 this it's not like this it's not like that they are telling their experiences i wasn't no i was
00:06:32.000 actually going to excuse me excuse me the lady are here i know many of them you don't know their 1.00
00:06:38.720 background you will not be in this situation and you are not you don't know anything he's just observing
00:06:45.440 he's just observing he's just wait he's just no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no
00:06:57.360 can you can you mute her mike no you don't get to just no no no then build your own show and go build
00:07:02.080 your own show it's like entitlement you're not entitled like this is such entitlement no no wait wait
00:07:09.440 wait wait wait wait wait actually i forgot what i was going to say i'm sorry did you want to finish
00:07:14.800 your point i mean i mean after listening to all of this i know this might sound crazy um i saw a tweet
00:07:23.040 you did um once where you said women shouldn't be permitted to vote yes yes take it away repeal the 19th
00:07:33.040 yeah yeah so i i saw it you know and i could see how you would think that you know i could see how
00:07:41.120 you would think but i've actually spoken with some women pearl did you say that oh yeah oh yeah get rid 1.00
00:07:46.880 of it no but but really i i realize this might sound crazy but the tweet you said women it should be
00:07:52.800 illegal for them to vote and i can i can see how you would think that but i've actually had some 0.99
00:08:00.160 conversations personal ones with women and i now firmly believe that not all women are complete morons 0.97
00:08:12.720 that's actually off of king rule number 202 some women can actually be pretty smart sometimes 1.00
00:08:23.040 including yourself pearl thank you well you are married so i assume your wife is a wonderful woman
00:08:28.560 woman she's a she's she's my pride of joy exactly so there you go