Modern Women Create TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS
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Summary
In this episode, I have a very special guest on the show who is a mother of two, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, and a daughter-in-law. She shares her experience of leaving a toxic toxic relationship and how she dealt with it. I hope this episode sheds some light on the topic of toxic relationships and how to deal with them.
Transcript
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in my opinion uh the woman coming to the relationship with many reasons either i'm
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finding it really hard to keep a straight face i'm sorry i'm finding this so hilarious uh either
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they want to fill the gap in their life because they feel they are not enough at themselves
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or they either they want to add something to their life they think i'm good i'm in a good
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point i know myself i work on myself i'm fulfilled you know i don't need someone else to give me that
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positive energy you know bring something to me but i want i would love to someone come to my life
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as a man and add something like when the child coming add something and a good friends coming
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add something and you have a good brother and sister they add something to our life
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and the same uh the the the men and women can go out of the relationship for many reasons
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it can be because they are not compatible because there is first of the time you know when they
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meet each other or with each other there's a lot of hormone engage and when the hormone suppressed
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during the time they said oh she is not thinking like me he is not behaving the way i want you know
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we are two different personalities doesn't mean if we are good or bad we are just different
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or negative things they are cheating um they are you know at the really to the point that's you know
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we don't want each other we don't like each other anymore yeah but i yeah i under i understand that
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that happens but i just don't think it's a good reason when you have kids what do you mean because
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kids are more likely to go to prison they're more likely to drop out of school they're more likely to be
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abused by a step-parent because when we talk about growing apart it's like you're going to divorce
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over growing apart when you have a kid because it's not supposed to be about you it's supposed to
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be about the kid oh my god i'll give you my if i give you my example my son is at university at
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warwick university i left my husband i'm not i'm not talking about you though like this is like a
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lot of times people take this stuff personally what i'm saying is um in fact both my kids said to
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me and that's a feedback given to a parent by the children is mom i cannot believe you stayed
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in that relationship for so long we are so happy you did that they even try to approach their dad
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but what i'm saying is um there is a perspective towards it but can i interrupt i have to interrupt
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because i have two children i've i've seen witnessed everything i know the world i know everyone for a
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child not having a personal dig at anyone hypothetically speaking for a child i'm a mom of
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two for a child to come to a parent and say mom i can't believe you stayed with dad it's like what
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have you said to that child for that child to say that to you it should not have witnessed it should
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love his mom and dad equally it that's what you call narcissistic toxic abuse feeding it to the
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children at its highest level it depends what the children are human beings they are observant as
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well 20 and as a good mother as a good i'm sorry don't raise my voice i have a microphone but as a
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good mother you tell that child it's your father have a good relation healthy relationship with that
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father and even if it's toxic hang on hang on even if it's sorry i haven't finished my point let me
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finish my point i tell my children whenever your father is ready go and meet him it's not personal
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i was hyped i know but what are you are trying to say is i have always put positive projection
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towards your dad i said he gave you birth he has done his job after that there is no responsibility
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of him what do you what do you mean that's not positive projection that he no i mean like positive
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projection is he's an honorable man he's a good man he gave birth to you no no i mean when they feel the
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need of uh he's not financially there he's not physically he doesn't have to be why does the
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kid know if he's not financially there why does a man have to be there but why does a man have to be
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the financial financier why does he have to he doesn't have to but what i'm saying is did you marry
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someone parents responsible no no no it's it's both parents responsibility but what i'm saying is during
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covid time my son decided to approach his dad his dad was so bitter that he got he came back to me
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and i said what happened like you know go and talk to him why why was the dad bitter he was just bitter
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and angry but why with me why for leaving him okay so he was angry that you left him yeah isn't that a
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valid reason to be angry yeah i had it absolutely it will it should be a valid reason for him to angry
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but what i'm saying is staying in a relationship where you are miserable and making he is miserable
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as well is not healthy for him but i think this is the problem this is such a modern this is such a
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modern mindset it's like marriage isn't supposed to be about your happiness your happiness is going to
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come and go like and you shouldn't rely on another person to make you happy if you don't have no
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communication with somebody my marriage was an arranged marriage i never spoke to the guy on our
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wedding night i i never i only met him once before i got married to him so 18 years living with
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somebody who doesn't speak to you and you're just living in a house and sleeping together he never
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talked to you ever no it's literally just about no i mean like you guys never had conversations like
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this isn't 18 years exactly you can live with somebody for but but i think but i think a lot of
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times as women like we put our expectations on men but can i say men don't communicate but men
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but like wait wait but when men don't communicate the same way we do like men just want to sit like
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they don't want to talk to us but he was from a different place i was born i was born around six
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brothers in pakistan so my my my context about men was very different to his context of a woman a modern
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woman from england right so it was but we never communicated with each other for 18 years now what i know
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if i've known that 18 years ago that relationship would have stayed for life but what i'm i'm sorry
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to cut you off this is just getting a bit out of control i agree uh viewers this is what happens
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when it's only ladies having a conversation in a room so please every please everybody please everybody
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just let's ladies let's just try to have a coherent conversation i think it's very sexist to talk like
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this it's not like this it's not like that they are telling their experiences i wasn't no i was
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actually going to excuse me excuse me the lady are here i know many of them you don't know their
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background you will not be in this situation and you are not you don't know anything he's just observing
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he's just observing he's just wait he's just no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no no
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can you can you mute her mike no you don't get to just no no no then build your own show and go build
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your own show it's like entitlement you're not entitled like this is such entitlement no no wait wait
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wait wait wait wait wait actually i forgot what i was going to say i'm sorry did you want to finish
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your point i mean i mean after listening to all of this i know this might sound crazy um i saw a tweet
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you did um once where you said women shouldn't be permitted to vote yes yes take it away repeal the 19th
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yeah yeah so i i saw it you know and i could see how you would think that you know i could see how
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you would think but i've actually spoken with some women pearl did you say that oh yeah oh yeah get rid
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of it no but but really i i realize this might sound crazy but the tweet you said women it should be
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illegal for them to vote and i can i can see how you would think that but i've actually had some
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conversations personal ones with women and i now firmly believe that not all women are complete morons
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that's actually off of king rule number 202 some women can actually be pretty smart sometimes
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including yourself pearl thank you well you are married so i assume your wife is a wonderful woman
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woman she's a she's she's my pride of joy exactly so there you go